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CONSISTENT by Primal Potential
Hosted by Elizabeth Benton · EN
Why are we so stressed & overwhelmed? Why do we have clear & compelling goals but fail to reach them? How can we want to change so desperately yet make choices that keep us from that change? Because we keep focusing on the habits we want instead of building the skill of consistency that allows us to achieve them. Consistency is a skill. It's a superpower. It isn't one-size-fits all. It unlocks any door and makes every goal achievable. A more effective, realistic approach starts here.
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1418: Waiting Well (Or Not)
2d ago00:21:42Tap to summarizeYou're trying to lose weight and the scale has barely moved. You're building something and a year in, it's still not where you need it to be. You're waiting on a hard season to lift, a relationship to heal, a prayer to be answered. That's waiting. And almost all of us are doing it right now, in at least one part of our lives. Here's what I've come to believe: there's a way to wait well, and a way to wait poorly. Most of us never realized waiting was something you could be good or bad at. But how you wait may be the single biggest factor in whether you ever get to the other side. In this episode: what waiting well actually looks like, and why it has nothing to do with how far away you are or how long it's going to take. The difference between knowing you have agency and feeling it. Why "there are no good options" is almost never true — it's a poverty of options, and the cure is creativity. My "stupid idea time" practice and the decision it produced. And how waiting well still applies even to the things you can't control at all — grief, a marriage, a child, a prayer — because there is always something within your power, even when the outcome isn't. You are not stuck. You are between. And how you wait in the between shapes everything that comes after it. Want something in your inbox that actually fills your tank? Every Sunday I send a free newsletter called FUEL. No pitches, no funnels, no ask — just something to gas you up and send you into your week with more energy, clarity, and focus. Subscribe free: elizabethbenton.com
Transcribe →1417: No Room to Succeed
4d ago00:18:32Tap to summarizeMy husband once told me all the things that irritate him about how I communicate. Too long, wrong topic, bad timing, telling him something he already knows. One day I stopped and said: you've left me no room to succeed. There's no path that works. Then I realized — that's exactly what most of us do to ourselves. In this episode: how we stack the conditions for success impossibly high and the disqualifiers impossibly wide, until there's no room left to win. The difference between a circumstance that truly changes the standard and the everyday stuff we dress up as a reason to quit. And the move that actually works — not lowering the bar, but right-sizing the event. Changing the size of the thing in your head. Changing the story you tell about an ordinary hard day. Because most of the time, it's not a catastrophe. It's just a Tuesday. → PAY WHAT YOU CAN — LIMITED TIME ← The next cohort of Defense Foundations starts June 1, and for this round only, I'm offering it pay-what-you-can. It's normally $797 and worth multiples of that. But if the price has been your disqualifier — the landmine on your path — I'm removing it. You decide what you can pay. You come anyway. I'd rather have you in the room than have the number be the reason you stay stuck for another year. This offer closes before we start on June 1. Enroll now: elizabethbenton.com/defense Don't let the price be the thing you use to leave yourself no room to succeed.
Transcribe →BONUS: I Might Regret This
1w ago00:14:02Tap to summarizeThis might be a bad choice. Might be a great one. Not really sure, but listen either way. elizabethbenton.com/defense/
Transcribe →1416: Why We Stay in the Struggle (1 Big Lie)
1w ago00:26:23Tap to summarizeWhat if the real enemy to your progress isn't your motivation, your plan, or how busy you are — but self-sufficiency? The belief that you should be able to handle this yourself. In this episode, I name the four disguises self-sufficiency wears in our lives, and what it's actually costing you to keep wearing them. The protection is the wound. Defense Foundations starts June 1. Apply: elizabethbenton.com/defense-app The perspective you need is one you can't get to on your own. The next honest move is to let someone else have one.
Transcribe →1415: How Smart Women Lose DECADES
2w ago00:19:39Tap to summarize_*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> A client walked into Boston with a sentence she was certain was the real story. Aside from my weight, I'm healthy. It wasn't a lie. It was the answer that made every other question stop being a question. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> In this episode, I walk you through the conversation that finally cracked that sentence open — and what she let go of to move. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> This is what working with me looks like. The next honest question, asked by someone tracking you closely enough to catch the slip. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> Defense Foundations starts June 1. Apply: elizabethbenton.com/defense-app _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> You don't need to know who you'll be on the other side. You couldn't, anyway.
Transcribe →1414: It's Not Going to Work for Me Anyway
2w ago00:23:49Tap to summarize_*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> The most tragic conversations I have are with people who believe it's not possible for them. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> Too far gone. Tried too many times. Too much history of not following through. Too damaged, too old, too late. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> If that's where you are — even quietly, even just to yourself — this episode is for you. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> This week I'm walking through what's actually underneath the belief that it won't work for you. And I'm going to tell you up front: it's not what most people think it is. It's not about willpower. It's not about wanting it badly enough. It's about three things almost nobody has ever named for you — including a logic error you've been making that, if applied universally, would defy every invention that has ever existed and would mean no child ever learns to read. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> I'll also introduce a phrase I want you to walk away with: intelligent perseverance. It's the difference between someone whose 47th attempt finally works and someone whose 47th attempt is identical to their first. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> Here's what I want you to know: there is nobody who needs support and resources more than the person who's already decided nothing will work. That belief is not the verdict. It's the loudest SOS there is. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> Defense Foundations starts Monday, June 1. _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> If today's episode landed somewhere real, the next step is no-risk: fill out the initial interest form at elizabethbenton.com/defense-app _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> I read every one personally and respond personally. Please only fill it out if you're seriously considering joining the June cohort.
Transcribe →1413: The "I Already Blew It" Trap (And the One Rule That Stops the Spiral)
3w ago00:29:35Tap to summarizeYou already know all-or-nothing thinking is a problem. You've heard it called perfectionism. You've heard "progress not perfection." None of that has stopped it from walloping you year after year. That's because recognizing the pattern doesn't defend against the pattern. And all-or-nothing isn't just a thinking problem — it's a predictable, repeatable place where most people fall apart. The Mother's Day ice cream that turns into margaritas and Mexican food. The missed Monday workout that becomes a written-off week. The aspirational plan that collapses by Wednesday and gets relabeled as "I'll start fresh next month." In this episode — the third in our series on the patterns that derail us — I'm walking through why all-or-nothing keeps winning (hint: it disguises itself as good intentions), the difference between treating consistency as a switch versus a dial, and the defensive rule I've used for years: never go all the way out. If today's episode landed somewhere real — if you're tired of being walloped by the same pattern in the same places — Defense Foundations starts Monday, June 1. It's where we do this work together: identifying where you predictably fall apart, building the defensive rules that hold under pressure, and stopping the cycle of effort-and-collapse that has cost you years. By the end of June, you can be in a radically different place — not because you tried harder, but because you finally addressed what keeps undercutting you. Take the first no-risk step: fill out the interest form at elizabethbenton.com/defense-app I read and respond to every single one personally. Please only fill it out if you're seriously considering joining us.
Transcribe →1412: The Lie That Sounds Like Love
3w ago00:27:49Tap to summarize"I don't have time to take care of myself. I'm taking care of everyone else." It's the most socially acceptable excuse in the world. Nobody pushes back on it. Nobody questions it. And that's exactly why it's been running your life — and why a part of you already knows it isn't fully true. In this episode, Elizabeth surgically takes apart the excuse that's been protected by everyone in your life because it sounds like love. Drawing from her own experience as a mom of three (including twins who came home from the NICU after three and a half months on life support), she names what nobody else will say: caretakers usually do have the time, and the real question is why being told that makes them angry instead of relieved. This is the work of catching yourself in the negotiation — the redirect, the vague language, the identity built on sacrifice. It's not about being more disciplined. It's about being more honest. And it's the kind of honesty that opens up everything that's been on hold in the name of putting other people first. Episode two of a six-part May series on the patterns that derail follow-through. If you're tired of running on empty, this is the conversation that changes things. IN THIS EPISODE Why "I'm taking care of everyone" is the most protected excuse in your life — and why that's the problem Elizabeth's NICU year and the moment she would have gotten angry at someone telling her the truth The specificity test that makes the excuse fall apart in real time The redirect move — what you do when someone confronts you with the math, and why it works so well The breakthrough question every caretaker needs to sit with Why being told you have time makes you angry instead of relieved The identity built on sacrifice — and what cracks when you take ten minutes for yourself Why it's almost never me-or-them, and how the binary is what's been keeping you stuck Why June is a strategic time for this work, especially for caretakers APPLY FOR DEFENSE FOUNDATIONS — JUNE COHORT DEFENSE Foundations is the four-week program where we do the unique work of catching yourself in the negotiation — the vague language, the redirects, the patterns that have been quietly running your life for years. It's not more planning, more discipline, or better goals. It's the architecture work underneath all of that. Every member receives the DEFENSE Master Playbook (70+ pages of original methodology), four weeks of live cohort sessions with Elizabeth, and a community of people doing the work alongside you. Apply at: elizabethbenton.com/defense-app Elizabeth reads every application personally and responds with a voice memo — her honest read on where you are, what she sees, and whether DEFENSE is the right next step. It's not a sales call. It's a real conversation. KEY MOMENTS "This is the most socially acceptable permission slip in the world. Nobody questions it. Nobody pushes back on it." "They would have been right. I did have twenty minutes. I just didn't want to hear it." "The excuse only works in the broad version. The moment you get specific, it doesn't hold." "The conversation was about time. You made it about whether the other person understands your life. And the moment you made it about that, you won the argument and lost the actual point." "Why do you want people to see how much you have on your plate more than you want to make progress?" "If progress was really what you wanted, the answer that you have time would be the best news of your week." "It has never once been a real, literal me-or-them choice."
Transcribe →1411: Too Tired to Follow Through? Listen to This.
4w ago00:22:27Tap to summarizeIf you're constantly saying "I'm too tired" and watching your follow-through fall apart because of it, this episode is for you. Every decision in your life is being routed through a decision tree — and for most of us, the very first checkpoint on that tree is "Am I tired?" When the answer is yes, the path is predetermined: skip, defer, abandon, indulge. It's not a discipline problem. It's an architecture problem. And that broken architecture has been quietly shaping your identity, your self-trust, your time, and your sense of what's possible. In this episode, Elizabeth breaks down why "I'm too tired" has gotten promoted to the boss of your life — even though it was never qualified for the job — and walks through what becomes available when you build a different tree. You'll hear the one question that changes what's possible on a tired day, the real cost of the old pattern, and how this work translates from a fitness moment to every area of your life. This is episode one of a six-part May series on the most common things that derail follow-through. If you're tired of starting over, this is the series to listen to in full. IN THIS EPISODE Why "I'm too tired" is showing up everywhere — in DEFENSE Foundations applications, in coaching check-ins, in listener emails The difference between tired-as-information and tired-as-authority — and why most people have confused the two The decision tree visual: how every "am I tired?" answered yes sends you down a predetermined path of skip, defer, abandon, indulge The real cost of the broken tree — to your identity, your time, your self-trust, and your sense of what's possible The one question that changes what's available on a tired day Elizabeth's real-life example from the day this episode was recorded How this work translates from workouts to dinner, to the house, to your business, to your relationships Why June is a strategic time to do this work and how it sets you up for summer and fall APPLY FOR DEFENSE FOUNDATIONS — JUNE COHORT Applications are open for the June cohort of DEFENSE Foundations — the four-week program where we rebuild your decision tree, identify the patterns that have been running your life, and build a defense that holds up when life gets real. Every member receives the DEFENSE Master Playbook (90+ pages of original methodology), four weeks of live cohort sessions with Elizabeth, the application includes a personalized voice memo response from Elizabeth herself, and a community of people doing the work alongside you. Apply at: elizabethbenton.com/defense-app Elizabeth reads every application personally and responds with a voice memo — her honest read on where you are, what she sees, and whether DEFENSE is the right fit. It's not a sales call. It's a real response.
Transcribe →1410: 6 Life Lessons From My First Month With Bees
May 400:36:56Tap to summarizeThis episode is not really about bees. Yes, Elizabeth got bees. Yes, she went to bee school. Yes, she is still very much afraid of anything that can fly and sting her. But one month into beekeeping, the lessons are already showing up everywhere — in fear, mistakes, motherhood, stress, support, and the pursuit of a life that feels more alive. In this episode, Elizabeth shares six life lessons from her first month with bees, including why scared is not a stopping point, how to stop turning mistakes into a reason to start over, what the temperament of the queen has to do with the energy in your home, and why cumulative stressors matter more than we often realize. She also talks about the power of community, the importance of not doing hard things alone, and why creating something with your hands can give you something scrolling, watching TV, and phone games never will. This is an episode for anyone who feels afraid to start, discouraged by mistakes, overloaded by life, or disconnected from the things that make them feel excited and alive. In this episode: Elizabeth talks about: Getting bees despite being genuinely afraid of them Why fear does not have to mean stop The difference between "I blew it" and "how do I optimize from here?" What bees can teach us about leadership, energy, and motherhood Why small stressors become a big deal when they stack up How support changes the experience of doing something hard Why we need more real-life excitement, creativity, and curiosity Mentioned in this episode: Want something encouraging, useful, and energizing before the week begins? Sign up for Elizabeth's Sunday Fuel newsletter at elizabethbenton.com. Sunday Fuel is not a sales email. It is a weekly note designed to pour into you, gas you up, equip you, and help you head into the week with more clarity, ownership, and possibility.
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