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Send us Fan MailHiding in Plain Sight | Loán Lake's Story of Trichotillomania, Shame & Self-AcceptanceFor more than 30 years, Loán Lake has lived with Trichotillomania, a body-focused repetitive behavior disorder that causes compulsive hair pulling.Most people never knew.As a communications strategist, public relations professional, and community leader, Loán spent decades managing a successful public-facing career while privately carrying a struggle that few people understood. In this episode, she shares her story publicly for the first time since 2009.Together, we discuss Trichotillomania, hidden struggles, anxiety, shame, self-image, faith, and the exhausting reality of looking "fine" while carrying something difficult behind the scenes.Whether you live with Trichotillomania, ADHD, another invisible challenge, or love someone who does, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone and that healing often begins when we stop hiding.Key Topics:• What Trichotillomania really is• Living with a hidden struggle• The connection between stress, anxiety, and coping behaviors• Self-acceptance and healing• Faith, identity, and vulnerability• Why awareness reduces shameScripture Featured:"But the Lord said to Samuel, 'Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature... For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.'"— 1 Samuel 16:7 (ESV)#DistractedNotDisqualified #Trichotillomania #MentalHealthAwareness #ADHD #FaithAndMentalHealth #ChristianPodcast #BodyFocusedRepetitiveBehaviors #MentalHealthMatters #LoánLake #HiddenStrugglesSupport the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailWhy Clear Communication Matters (When Common Sense Isn’t Common)We say “it’s just common sense” like everyone received the same instructions. They didn’t.In this episode of Distracted, Not Disqualified, I sit down with Tawana Wiggins to talk about ADHD brains, executive function, and why unclear communication creates unnecessary frustration in parenting, leadership, education, and the workplace.This conversation is about ADHD processing, not excuses. It’s about why assumptions fail, how vague instructions increase anxiety, and what intentional communication actually looks like in real life.We introduce the WIN framework:• What I Need• What’s Important NowThis episode is for leaders, parents, educators, and professionals who want better outcomes without burnout or shame.James 1:19 (ESV) - “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger.”Colossians 4:6 (ESV) - “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.”Topics Covered• Why “common sense” isn’t common• ADHD and executive function. Processing vs responsibility• How vague instructions increase anxiety• The WIN framework for clear communication• Parenting ADHD brains without lowering expectations• ADHD burnout in the workplace• Why clarity reduces shame and builds trustIf this episode resonated, share it with someone who leads, parents, or works with people who think differently.Clarity is love in action. Especially for ADHD brains.Connect With Tawana WigginsLinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/tawanawigginsWebsite: bit.ly/tlcollaborativeExecutive Function at Work: It’s Not Disrespect: https://www.linkedin.com/events/executivefunctionatwork-it-snot7404589511877480448/If You’re Asking, Are You Supporting?: https://www.linkedin.com/events/ifyou-reasking-areyousupporting7416596300973932545/Support the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when you finally learn you have ADHD… and instead of just relief, you feel grief?In this episode of Distracted, Not Disqualified, I sit down with Latrice Prater, neurodivergent CEO, author, and founder of The Digital Solutions Team, to talk about late ADHD diagnosis, growing up Black where mental health wasn’t centered, and the complicated emotions that come when clarity finally arrives.This isn’t a fixing episode.It’s a naming episode.Psalm 34:18 (ESV)“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”Latrice Prater:Click here to purchase Latrice's book: https://a.co/d/0h5RywzqIG: https://www.instagram.com/thevirtualpro/?hl=enLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/latrice-prater/Website: https://thedstagency.com/PS-I record my podcasts on Riverside because I care about quality. Clean audio. Separate tracks. No tech drama. If you’re starting a podcast or recording virtual interviews, this is the platform I trust. This is my affiliate link. If you sign up through it, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawfordSupport the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailEmbracing ADHD: A Journey of Self-DiscoveryThis episode is personal. In this episode of the Distracted, Not Disqualified podcast, hosts Dari Crawford and Tiara Perry share their personal journeys with ADHD, discussing the challenges and triumphs they face. They explore the importance of support systems, the impact of ADHD on self-perception, and the role of technology in managing daily tasks. The conversation emphasizes self-acceptance, the power of community, and the need for practical strategies to navigate life with ADHD. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to embrace their differences and seek help when needed, reminding them that they are not alone in their struggles.If you’ve been carrying something you feel called to start, but fear or overwhelm keeps getting in the way, this episode is for you.You are not broken.You’re distracted. Not disqualified.Philippians 1:6 - “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”2 Timothy 1:7 - “For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.”Takeaways:ADHD is not a flaw but a different way of thinking.Support systems are crucial for managing ADHD.Self-acceptance is key to living with ADHD.Technology can help organize and manage daily tasks.It's okay to start late; there's no timeline for success.Communicating your needs to others fosters understanding.Internal criticism can be detrimental; practice self-compassion.Finding the right diagnosis can change your life.You don't have to wear a mask to fit in.Community support can alleviate feelings of isolation.If you’re interested in being part of a future episode, there’s a short podcast interest form to complete: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdcU8kN_frG-zQkmGtrdyQDrPfCWz38ZmPioA1IYBoYMYvN8w/viewformCheck out AshLee Digital for tutorial videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zV44Z8V5cBkSupport the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailYou can be exceptional in some areas. Strategic. Bold. Visionary.And still struggle with basic follow-through, admin, or the everyday things that “should” be easy.In this episode of Distracted, Not Disqualified, I sit down with Alice Draper, Founder of Hustling Writers and host of My Rejection Story, to talk about the tension of being successful on paper but struggling in real life.We unpack high achievement, hidden deficits, the fraud voice, rejection, and the emotional weight of being brilliant in one space and inconsistent in another. We also talk about ADHD, systems, shame, and what shifts when you stop trying to be good at everything.If you’ve ever thought, “If people saw the full picture, they’d question me,” this conversation is for you.You can be brilliant and limited.Strong and still struggling.Gifted and still human.You are not disqualified.Alice Draper:IG: https://www.instagram.com/hustlingwriters/?hl=enLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-m-draper/Website: https://hustlingwriters.com/Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@UCWN9L6KslZHH2ixLNkM25vQ PS-I record my podcasts on Riverside because I care about quality. Clean audio. Separate tracks. No tech drama. If you’re starting a podcast or recording virtual interviews, this is the platform I trust. This is my affiliate link. If you sign up through it, I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawfordSupport the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailWe finally talk politics through the lens of faith and purpose. No sides. Just honest conversation about staying grounded in what matters.A Praying Life: Connecting with God in a Distracting WorldSupport the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailFaith and fitness aren’t separate. They go hand in hand. In this episode of Cutting Up With the Crawfords, Dari and Derrick share how accountability, worship, and prayer have transformed their garage workouts into something deeper than just exercise.From neighbors becoming workout partners to friends gathering for garage gym sessions, this conversation shows why God never designed us to do life or fitness alone. Together, we unpack how worship shifts your mindset, how accountability keeps you consistent, and why rest is just as spiritual as the workout itself.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why your body is a temple to honor God with (1 Corinthians 6:19–20).How accountability multiplies strength (Ecclesiastes 4:9–10).The value of discipline in fitness and faith (1 Timothy 4:7–8).Why rest and recovery matter spiritually (Exodus 20:8–10).Whether you are starting a new routine or just looking for motivation, this episode will remind you that fitness is stewardship, accountability is biblical, and community makes the journey lighter.Takeaway Challenge: Invite one person to move with you this week. Walk, stretch, or lift and bring God into the conversation.Support the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailWhat if the “strong, organized Black woman” is actually silently struggling?In this powerful episode of Cutting Up With The Crawfords, Derrick interviews Dari about her recent ADHD diagnosis and what it uncovered after years of high-achieving, over-functioning, and masking.Dari opens up about the hidden symptoms, cultural stigmas, and internal chaos she experienced before finally being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. Together, they break down the emotional toll of being “high-functioning but still struggling,” especially for Black women who are often expected to carry it all with a smile.This episode isn’t just about labels. It’s about liberation through truth, faith, and grace.✨ Key Takeaways:What ADHD actually looks like in high-achieving Black womenWhy so many women go undiagnosed for yearsThe emotional and spiritual cost of maskingThe difference between being capable and being wellHow faith reframes neurodivergence through grace, not shameSupport the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of Cutting Up With The Crawfords, Derrick and Dari share what it is like to live, love, and lead as introverts in a world that seems to always be “on.” From family gatherings to ministry events to unexpected drop-ins, they unpack the challenges of protecting your peace when everyone else’s battery runs at full speed.Dari talks about her need for quiet spaces to process, the spiritual benefits of stillness, and why silence is not a weakness but a source of strength. Derrick opens up about his shift toward introversion over the years.Together, they explore how introverts can live faithfully, love deeply, and lead well without burning out, and they share practical ways to create breathing room in loud environments.Whether you are an introvert looking for encouragement, an extrovert trying to understand someone you love, or somewhere in between, this conversation will remind you that quiet is not a problem; it is a gift.Support the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford

Send us Fan MailStraight from the podcast room and dangerously unsupervised, this episode of Cutting Up With The Crawfords is packed with hot takes, real talk, and the kind of commentary that might get us canceled.Derrick and Dari are going all in. No script, no filter, no holding back. From random rants to full on soapbox moments, this is what happens when two opinionated people sit in front of a mic and forget that the world is listening.It’s funny, it’s honest, and it’s exactly the kind of chaos you didn’t know you needed.If you’ve ever shouted “Who let them talk?!” while laughing out loud, this one’s for you.Drop your hottest take in the comments, tag a friend who needs to hear this, or send us a voice memo. You might just end up in the next episode.#CuttingUpWithTheCrawfords #HotTakesPodcast #InterracialCouple #UnfilteredConversations #FaithAndMarriage #FunnyPodcastClips #RealLoveRealTalkSupport the showCutting Up With The Crawfords YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CuttingUpWithTheCrawfordsIG: https://www.instagram.com/cuttingupwiththecrawfords/?hl=enDistracted, Not DisqualifiedYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DistractedNotDisqualifiedIG: https://www.instagram.com/distractednotdisqualified/?hl=enPodcast Website: https://crawfordmedia.buzzsprout.comPodcast Email: crawfordpodcastmedia@gmail.comRiverside Link: https://riverside.sjv.io/DariCrawford