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Confidence Classic: Break Free from Limiting Beliefs with Heather David, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist
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Heather David
When you are now judging your brother and sister, you are opening yourself up for that judgment and you are not coming from your powerful self. So we can't control what everyone else does, but we can control what we do. And it's not about perfection. We're human. When you realize we're all the same, we're all connected, your confidence goes up because you're like, I can be with anybody. I can be around anybody because no one is above me and I'm not above anyone.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Come on this journey with me each week when you join me. We are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow.
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Heather David
I'm ready for my close up.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Tell me, have you been enjoying these
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
much as I do. Hi and welcome back. I'm so excited for you to meet our guest today. Heather David is a clinical hypnotherapist and a certified advanced rapid transformational Therapist. Heather's office is located in Corona del Mar. Her clients benefit from her expertise in regression based hypnotherapy, which allows them to tap into childhood scenes to discover what limiting beliefs are affecting their relationships, careers and happiness. She loves working with teens and young adults since she has firsthand knowledge of the issues they are faced with in today's struggle, stressful social and educational environments. Heather, thank you so much for being here.
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Heather David
You're welcome. Thanks for having me. This is great.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Thank you. Well, I'm so excited. I want to share. A very dear friend of both of ours, Lou Parker from KTLA TV introduced us during one of her live events. And I had the pleasure of hearing you deliver a keynote at the event, which really impacted the me in such a big way and I want to get into that. But before we jump into what you did that day and how powerful it was, I wanted to ask, how in the world does someone get into the line of work that you are now in?
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Heather David
Heather? Well, I guess there are many paths. Mine was about six, seven years ago. My kids were getting older. I knew they were going to be out of the house, I would be an empty nester. And so I decided that I needed a career for myself. I had a career for 12 years in the financial planning area, stopped my career, raised my girls and then I thought I need something else for myself. And I actually was going through my own struggles of finding myself and my identity and what am I going to do in this next chapter of my life? And so I went to a hypnotherapist and somehow I was steered towards a therapist. I had done traditional therapy, but then this was something new. And when I went to see this woman, she kind of, as we were talking, said, have you thought of doing hypnotherapy yourself as a career? And I thought, no, I could look into it. She referred me to Marissa Peer from London who started RTT Rapid Transformational Therapy. So for about a year I listened to Marissa Peer's recordings and videos and I loved her message and a big belief she has and puts out there is I am enough. So it's really powerful and confidence building this concept of I am enough. And so I just decided I'd love to learn more. And she was coming to California for the first time in 2017 to teach. So I went to Malibu and I took her course, worked with her for a few weeks, long days, took a test and said, this is what I'm going to do. So then I started a practice, opened my office in Corona del Mar, started just helping people. I really didn't have a niche. It was like whoever needed to come to me. I found that I was getting a lot of referrals and a lot of people were coming for anxiety and confidence, little bit of smoking and habits, which wasn't really my favorite thing to do. I really like working with people where I'm showing them their personal power. When I meet with someone and I talk to them, and they come to me with, this is what my problem is, what I see as their power. I see all the things they can do. And so that's what I do, is I work with them in showing them how to overcome those limiting beliefs that maybe started when they were young. And what Marissa Peer taught me was age regression hypnosis. So you take the person back to a younger time in their life when some of these beliefs were imprinted. So it's like it could be, you know, it's not like the parents tried to do this to their kids or the teachers or people around them that influenced them, but the kids pick up these ideas based on personality, based on their age, what's going on in their life. And these beliefs get imprinted at different times. And so when you go in with hypnosis, you can kind of go back to those memories, those situations, and look at them and turn them around from a point of now you're a powerful adult, and you can stand up for yourself. You have a voice. You can run away from that bully. You can call the authorities. You know, I mean, showing them how, that's not me anymore. This is who I am now. So that's what I learned through Marissa Peer. And that's what I've been doing for the last several years with my practice, working with people. And I also do tapping. That's another tool. So I have different tools that I use with my clients, depending on what they need. But hypnosis is very, very powerful, really can help get to the crux of the problem, I think, a lot quicker than talk therapy. I'm not putting down talk therapy. I've gone to talk therapy. There are great talk therapists out there. And there are times in your life when you need that. I just know that when I take someone into their first appointment in an hour and a half, I can get into very deep feelings. And, I mean, I have many people with tears in their eyes, and they're not reliving, but they're reviewing what they experienced and they're getting it out. And what Marissa Pierce says is where tears flow, healing goes. So it really, I think bringing this up, these emotions, really, it's a healing experience.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Oh, I couldn't agree more. I actually. I went through hypnotherapy myself many different times in my life. And, yeah, I've had very profound experiences, not only remembering things that I hadn't remembered had occurred, which was number one. Right. Because some of us just want to forget the past, block out the past. And my mind was able to do that.
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Heather David
Right.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
For whatever reason, but I was able to uncover things that were there that I wasn't aware of. And once, like you said, once we uncovered it, we could review it and then we could, I don't want to say redesign it, but we could see it in a different light where, like you said, now I'm separate from that memory. That memory isn't, you know, stuck inside of me, hidden somewhere. That is a separate time in my life and I am no longer in that position. And, and that was incredibly empowering. So I'm sure you've had some amazing experiences with your clients.
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Heather David
Yes. It teaches them that that experience doesn't have to have a hold on them any longer. And there's a lot of inner child work that's done in a session. So you're uncovering the hurts, you're uncovering the limiting beliefs. And then you're taking that inner child and you're, you're nurturing it from who you are today because you have the availability, all the skills, all the, the know how to nurture that inner child in you. And you realize, wow, I don't need anybody to do this for me. I don't need my parents around me 247 anymore. I just need myself. I can do this for myself. That's why it's just so helpful. It can be life changing and it really depends on the person and the path they're on. So I don't feel like I'm the vessel to bring this information and to help them. Sometimes people walk away and I don't hear from them again, and I don't really know what their journey is after that. And then other people come back, other people refer more people. So everybody's on their journey. And I don't know if this is going to unlock things for them in that moment or if they're going to remember it six months from now and say, now I'm ready. I don't know. I just, I'm with them during that hour and a half. And then whatever happens after that, they may come in again or again. And, you know, I just work with them for. I meet them where they are because everybody's different. And it's not an ego thing for me. It's not a victory or a loss. It's. I'm there to help these people in whatever way I can.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Like you said, one of the things That I really like about it is it's an alternative to traditional talk therapy which can be very. That's a long journey. And I've done traditional talk therapy. I studied psychology in college. It's fantastic. But that's not something where you're going to have a light bulb moment in an hour and a half session. We all know that. And again, it's not something to discourage people to do it. I'm all for it, but this is a very different, a shorter window to get some timely results if you're open minded enough to do it. Now, I would imagine you do run into people who are not open minded to the idea of hypnotherapy.
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Heather David
Yes. If you don't want to be hypnotized, you won't be. It's just like anything. If your conscious mind does not want to take anything in, you're not going to. So you have to be open. So I don't take people who are referred by other people. Like if a parent wants their child to come and the child is not interested, I don't meet with those kids because nothing's going to happen. If I have a spouse referring their spouse and that spouse that comes in isn't interested. I mean, I checked these things before, but the person that is coming to me is usually at a point where sometimes they've tried all the therapy and nothing's changed, or they've had a friend that did hypnosis or they've heard about it and they're in pain, they're in a lot of pain and they want to get out of pain. And that's. Those are the people who have the best results. If you are in more pain and committed to changing, or if you're not in pain but you're committed to enhancing your life, you just want to exceed where you are today. That's another use of hypnosis too, just to empower yourself even more, to embody your greatness. So that's another way. It doesn't have to be because you're in pain, it doesn't have to be because you're anxious. You can also just like, I just want to be, you know, even bigger and bolder than I am today. So that's another thing. But I do have a lot of teenagers and adults that come to me for confidence and we do look at their past and see are there some blocks, are there some limiting beliefs that they're not worthy, they're not lovable, whatever, But I also give them a formula that's very practical. For just applying in every day with confidence. Because with confidence, you have to put yourself out there no matter what. Like me doing this podcast. I haven't met with you before, so there's a little bit of anxiety. Now. That anxiety I have to use and say, I'm going to use this anxiety and I'm going to do this podcast because I want to benefit from this. What is my benefit? Well, I want to be able to do more podcasts and I have to be able to put myself in this situation to then do the next one and the next one and the next one. I've got to build on that. So I'm going to be courageous and put myself in here instead of, you know, sitting on my couch and eating bonbons. Right. Because I could do that too. But this is how I'm going to use my time. So what I tell my clients is, when you go into a situation that is nerve wracking for the first time, apply the formula. The formula is, first you have to have hope. Let's apply it to a job interview. I want this job. So I go in, I have to have hope that I'm going to get the job. Then you add to that trust. I trust that I have the skills, I have the capability, so I know I can put myself in that position and trust that I will do a good job if I get that job. Now you divide that by humility because something could go wrong. We can't control everything and we have to be able to say, that's going to be okay. I could go in and I could have my blouse on backwards and not realize it. Right. But I'm just going to laugh through that or whatever. It's humility. Now you take all of that times courage, courage is what you're using to get yourself to this next place. I want to get this job. I'm going to put myself in this position that is not comfortable for me because I want the next level. I want where that's going to take me. So if you apply that formula to anything in your life, and I gave this to a college soon to be graduate because he was going to be out there interviewing and all that. And so it was like, okay, I have something in my back pocket. Now I have something that I can take with me and apply this concept into any situation I go into to give me that confidence. You know, it's nice to know that there are some real world formulas that you can count on and apply. And then, you know, it gives you confidence. That's where you get more confidence when you're applying the confidence formula, meet a
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
I asked you to try to find your passion. I love that the work that you do really gets to these self limiting beliefs because as you've mentioned before, it's great to take things on. But if you're struggling and really dealing with idea that you aren't enough or you know that you aren't worthy, how are you really going to be able to get to that next level? And when we first met doing that virtual seminar that we were both a part of, one of the things that you did was you shared a tapping exercise. And we did it all of us live. And I know a lot of people were extremely emotional. I luckily have done tapping before for years in my life, so I knew I wouldn't be emotional. But I wanted to do it because I hadn't done it in a while. And Heather, it was so funny. I was going to speak literally minutes later on a live in person stage in Orlando and I was running out the door. I was kind of stressed out about, oh, I hope I have enough time to get over there. And then you took us through that tapping and it completely changed how I felt. And when I got to the event it was funny. Someone backstage said to me, the opening speaker at the beginning of our conference was incredible and don't you feel a little bit nervous following up after that guy? And sometimes maybe I would have started getting a little nervous or sweaty. I had zero reaction. And I know for certain that is a result of the tapping work that we did right before I went over to the venue and it really struck me because that's a different response. Typically I would get a little nervous if someone was giving me a hard time like that, you know, I might start getting flustered or sweating a little bit. But none of that happened. And it was just, not only was it powerful for me to see how everybody else at the event responded, you know, some people with tears and a lot of emotion, but that I thought, oh, I've done this a million times, no big deal. And here it was, it triggered me in a very positive way that I was able to get rid of any self limiting beliefs that I had.
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Heather David
Yeah, that's great. Well, because it calms down your nervous system and it brings you into the present moment. So when you're in the present moment and you're out of your head you're not worried about the future, and you're not thinking about the past, because they don't exist anyway. So when you're getting ready to go on stage and you're not thinking about, you're in your moment, you are breathing, you're in the present, and you're walking up on that stage. If you're in your head thinking about the future, like, how am I going to do? Well, that's future thinking. And it's not real. It's not even real. It doesn't even exist. The only thing that exists is what you're doing in that moment. Breathing, getting yourself ready to go up there to share what you have to share to connect with the people in the audience. That's real time. That's all we have, and that's all you had in that moment. And you are connected to it. So you took yourself out of that future anxious thinking, and you were in your power. And so you probably went up there and did a fantastic job because you were embodied in that moment. You were feeling who you were at that time. And when you're connected to yourself, you can be connected to your audience. If you're in your head thinking about, how am I doing? You're not connected to yourself, and you can't connect to the people out there. And it's obvious because we've all seen speakers who, you know, it's like you just don't get the same reaction when you, you know, you. You don't feel the same about them. You feel like they're just kind of not there. Maybe they're thinking about their script. And then you have other speakers who. They're in the zone. They're in the flow, like an athlete, where it's real time. That's all they have is the now. They're just. It's like a download. They're getting a spiritual download. You know, they're just. They're creating in the second as they're talking. There's a big difference. When you see people like that, there's a huge difference.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
And we all see it in business. We see it in meetings, at the office, when someone has to stand up, to speak, to lead something, and they're thinking ahead or thinking what other people are thinking of them or doubting themselves versus just speaking their truth. There is a profound difference. So I'm hoping that you'd be willing to take us through that example of how we can do. And I'll also mention the style of tapping that you taught me that day was different than the Way I had done it in the past, and it was incredibly powerful.
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Heather David
Great. Well, I taught everyone faster tapping. So I guess because everybody's in such a hurry, which is, you know, just the way the world is right now, faster tapping is just as effective as the longer version and just as powerful. And it's easier, I think, to learn and to teach. And so it's good for these, this kind of a venue. Really, all we're doing is we are tapping the meridian points, the acupuncture points in the body, and we are making verbal statements at the same time. Tapping has its roots in modern psychology and the ancient Chinese medicine of acupuncture, acupressure. Just to start everybody out, what we would do is tap on five points. The five points are in between the eyebrow, outside of the eyebrow, under the eyebrow, the soft part of the collarbone. And then we're going to keep repeating that as we say the statements. And I'll just kind of give you an idea of what statements we're going to run through. And then at the very end, you hold your wrist, either wrist, and you breathe in and out and you say, peace. That process calms down the nervous system and obviously what we talk about, too, in the verbal sentence. So you can use it for anything. Like today we could do a quick I am enough, kind of a short script just to give everybody an idea. Typically, what I do is I have people rate their anxiety at the time of how they're feeling in their body. So on a scale of 0 to 10, 0 being I'm so calm, I'm practically asleep, and 10 being I'm revved up, I'm anxious, and then somewhere in between. So you give that a number. So just think about, well, how do I feel right now? I'm about an eight. I'm feeling, you know, a little. Little nervous about something coming up. And so once you rate it, you have that idea because we're going to rate it at the end. So then what I'd like to do is have everybody hold their wrist, think of something that they love. Like, you can use a person, you can use a pet. Pets are easy because they're unconditionally loved. Close your eyes and have the thought of that person or animal in your mind for a few seconds. Let's just do that. Now close your eyes and think of the loving thoughts you have of that person or animal. Feeling like that energy is coming from your heart towards that person or animal, getting that loving feeling as it grows. And now take a deep breath in and out. And say peace. And now open your eyes. So you kind of locked in that really beautiful feeling you've connected to your heart center. So that when we finish everything, you're going to do that again. So let's start and just do the tapping. And so we're going to, as I say a sentence, you don't have to tap hard, you just lightly tap. You know, it could be five to seven taps, whatever it takes until we move on to the next one. And we'll do four sentences and keep rotating. One sentence, second, third sentence, fourth sentence, and keep rotating like that.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
And does it matter if someone uses a left or right hand?
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Heather David
It can be the right or left side. I use the right because I'm right handed. So it makes sense for me, but it doesn't matter. Let's see, why don't you say it out loud? Usually if it's a lot of people, everybody's muted. But I'll say it. I'm going to go through my script I wrote for I am enough and then I'll say it. You repeat it. We'll keep moving on to the end. Let's begin. You've rated how you feel now. And let's begin. Even though. Even though part of me believes, Part of me believes I'm not enough.
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Audience/Participant
I'm not enough.
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Heather David
I choose to relax now.
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Audience/Participant
I choose to relax now. I've had this belief I've had this
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Heather David
belief for so long now.
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Audience/Participant
For so long now.
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Heather David
I'm open to letting it go.
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I'm open to letting it go.
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Heather David
Even though. Even though this belief is so deep.
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This belief is so deep.
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Heather David
I can't imagine letting it go.
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I can't imagine letting it go.
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Heather David
I can relax now.
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Audience/Participant
I can relax now and open to the possibility I'm open to the possibility
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Heather David
of letting this old belief go.
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Audience/Participant
Of letting this old belief go. All this pain all this pain from
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Heather David
feeling not good enough.
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Audience/Participant
From feeling not good enough.
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Heather David
Where did I learn it?
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Audience/Participant
Where did I learn it?
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Heather David
From teachers.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
From teachers.
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Heather David
Caretakers.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
From caretakers, bullies.
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Audience/Participant
Bullies.
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Heather David
It's painful to think about.
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Audience/Participant
It's painful to think about.
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Heather David
Yet right now, right here, yet right
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Audience/Participant
now, right here, I am safe. I am safe.
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Heather David
I can be vulnerable.
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Audience/Participant
I can be vulnerable.
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Heather David
It cost me a lot to believe
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that it costs me a lot to believe that I am not enough.
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Heather David
When and where did I decide it
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when and where did I decide? Drains my life it drains my life
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Heather David
to believe I'm not enough.
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Audience/Participant
To believe I'm not enough.
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Heather David
I begin to let it go.
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Audience/Participant
I begin to let it go and
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Heather David
all the memories attached to it and
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Audience/Participant
all the memories attached to it.
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Heather David
It's in the past.
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Audience/Participant
It's in the past. And right now and right now I can begin again. I can begin again to build thought by thought to build thought by thought.
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Heather David
Emotion by emotion.
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Emotion by emotion.
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Heather David
The belief that I am enough.
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Audience/Participant
The belief that I am enough.
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Heather David
I feel it in my body I
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Audience/Participant
feel it in my body and in my mind. And in my mind.
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Heather David
I am enough.
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Audience/Participant
I am enough.
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Heather David
I'm doing the best I can.
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I'm doing the best I can and that is enough. And that is enough.
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Heather David
I will still make mistakes.
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I will still make mistakes.
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Heather David
But I will still be enough.
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Audience/Participant
But I will still be enough.
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Heather David
All is well now.
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Audience/Participant
All is well now.
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Heather David
Knowing the truth Knowing the truth that I am enough.
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That I am enough.
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Heather David
Hold your wrist. Take a deep breath in and out. Peace.
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Audience/Participant
Peace.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
I asked you to try
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Heather David
to find your passion and now rate it again and see where you are on that spectrum of 0 to 10.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
I'm on a 0 right now.
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Heather David
Okay, great. That's great. And. And if a person is above a 2, I would say run it again. You just go through it again, and if you don't have a script, you can just verbally say how you're feeling. You know, letting this go, letting it go. You can kind of repeat letting it go, feeling this pain, wanting to let it go. You know, just. You can kind of make up your own script. I would go through it again and then rate it again and say, okay, am I a two or lower? Because you really want to get down to a 2 or lower. Sometimes people like you, you just got to zero. You're feeling great. It's wonderful. And then when something comes up again, you just go through it again and get yourself into the now, into the present moment. A lot of the present moment happens with your breathing. And so this is you're slowing down your breathing, you're slowing down your brain waves. You're relaxing your whole system. And when you get to that point, that's where you get the closest to the zone when you get into that. That state. And I really think this thought of I'm not enough goes into judgment, not only about yourself, but about other people. And I believe that a reason why a lot of people don't have confidence is because they're harshly judging themselves and they're judging other people. So if you don't allow judgment in and you say, I'm not going to judge anybody, therefore they cannot judge me because I don't judge them, it's like a two way street. If I think that it's not worthy of me to judge other people, why would I think it would be okay for other people to judge me? So if you can take judgment off the table, your confidence will go way up. And that's a huge part of this is just getting rid of those limiting beliefs, which is they're all self judgments. Yeah, that's.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
I love what you just said about. I've been very self aware and intentional not to judge others. I'll be in a workout class and someone's very, is very heavy next to me and immediately I think, oh gosh, you know, that person shouldn't eat so much. This is what pops into my head, people. I'm not making, you know, I don't want it to be there. And I have to stop myself and say, you know what, Heather, you could be proud of them for being here. They're trying to be healthy, cheer them on. So I've really made a concerted effort to not be the judger anymore because of what you're saying. I don't want to allow that judgment into my life or live a life concerned what other people are thinking of me. So I can challenge myself to see another more positive or neutral way to be accepting and just aware.
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Heather David
And you know what? Everybody judges. That's part of being human. Part of being human is our ego. Right? Ego as in our ego mind versus our spirit and soul. Our ego mind that drives us and disconnects us and separates us from other people. So our, our judgments are separating us from other people. And that's our, our humanness, which we are always trying to overcome. We're all taught judgment from the day we're born. That's what we're taught. There's a difference between judgment and discernment. Discernment is okay because that's like, yes, I like this. No I don't. But when you're judging moralistically saying they're overweight so therefore they're lazy, that's what happens. And that separates us. So especially like these days, you know, people have really gotten into judging and criticizing each other for choices, for decisions. And it's so it's separating everybody and I think it's weakening everybody because when you are now judging your brother and sister you are opening yourself up for that judgment and you are not coming from your powerful self. So we can't control what everyone else does, but we can control what we do. And it's not about perfection. We're human. You go in a workout class and your automatic reaction is that because you have been conditioned socially and from your upbringing and all these other factors. So what you can do is say, okay, this is familiar to me, this is something I do, but this is something that I am now awakened to and aware of and I want to change it. And so you don't have to beat yourself up because again, that's judgment. All you have to do is say, okay, I'm aware of it and I am making changes. So I haven't been able to stop saying that yet, but I will because this is something, a goal of mine. I'm working towards this non judgment and I'm observing it. And that is the first step is observing your own judgments that you're, you're having. So when you get more compassionate with other people because if you know they're judging, you think, I know what that's like because I do that too and I'm really working hard not to do it.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
And then we can be more self loving when we don't have to be judging and scrutinizing ourselves, right?
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Heather David
And we can be more confident because when you take that all away and you realize, okay, we're all the same. They're not above me, I'm not below them, I'm not above them, they're not below me. We're all on this same spiritually, we're on the same level. I mean this person might be a better tennis player than me, but that doesn't mean they're above me on a spiritual level. So when you realize we're all the same, we're all connected, your confidence goes up because you're like, I can be with anybody, I can be around anybody because no one is above me and I'm not above anyone. So I'm not going to be intimidated by them. I'm going to see what can I learn from them and what can they learn from me.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Oh, it's so powerful, Heather. Everyone's going to want to find a way to communicate with you, get a hold of you. Where can people go to get more information and more of your teaching?
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Heather David
Probably my website, newporthypno.com that would, that would be the best place.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Well, Heather, thank you for the work you're doing making the world a better place. One person at a time, one teaching at a time. I know you've made my world better, so thank you so much for being here.
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Heather David
Thanks, Heather. It was great. I really enjoyed it today. And yes, I'm. I'm glad I could share all that with you.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
All right, guys, check in the show notes. I'll definitely link Heather's website and press rewind. Listen to this again. Go through that tapping with us again. I'll also put a link to make sure you get the video until next week. Keep creating your confidence. I decided to change.
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Audience/Participant
Change that dynamic.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
I couldn't be more excited for what
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Heather David
you're going to hear.
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Audience/Participant
Start learning and growing.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
Inevitably something will happen. No one succeeds alone.
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Heather David
You don't stop and look around once in a while.
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Podcast Host (Interviewer)
You could miss it. Come on this journey with me.