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You don't have articulation issues. You have a confidence issue. When I heard her describe her problems and she labeled it as an articulation issue, it was so clear to me. She didn't have issues with articulating. Right. She was very clear and knew what she wanted to say. Very smart, very successful. It was so clear to me she didn't have the confidence that she needed. When we're around the same people every day, when we ask the same questions, when we roll in the same circle, we become blind to what our blind spots are because we're hanging with the same people. There's no one to come in and say, whoa, hang on, I need to get your attention. You're way off base here. When she decided to invest in herself and hire me, at first it was hard for her to hear, but immediately she started showing up differently because someone had alerted her that this was a problem. She didn't know it was a problem before. She didn't have that perspective, that insight. As soon as she had it, she was able to address it. Come on this journey with me each week when you join me, we are going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. Fasten your seat. I'm ready for my closer. Yeah. Tell me, have you been enjoying these new bonus confidence classics episodes we've been dropping on you every week? We've literally hundreds of episodes for you to listen to. So these bonuses are a great way to help you find the ones you may have already missed. I hope you love this one as much as I do. Hi and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back with me this week. Okay, so I was very much caught off guard this week when one of my I do some one on one executive coaching and I do some consulting for certain companies and one of my coaching clients who's an incredible super high level executive at a major Fortune 5 company, you know, she's an impressive woman, but like so many people, she doesn't always see her attributes. Right. She's definitely looking at other people with rose colored glasses, but she typically takes those rose colored glasses off when she looks at herself. Who can identify with that? Right. Happens to a lot of us. And that's why I do believe in coaching. You know, whether it's for you have workout goals and you hire a trainer or you want your business to grow and you hire a consultant or an executive coach, or you want to be a better presenter, and you hire someone to coach on speaking. Whatever it is, right? When you invest in yourself, you're making that commitment to yourself. You're telling the universe, I'm worth it. You know, I'm worth more. And I want someone who's light years ahead of me to come in and give me the Cliff Notes. That's exactly why, when I wrote my first book, I invested in myself. I hired an editor. He had written 19 books. Once he joined my team, we were off and running, Right? It was a little bumpy before he joined me, but once I had him, he gave me the clip notes, and we knew that we could move fast and get this thing done. Same thing with when I needed a book proposal, I hired a professional book proposal writer to guide me and teach me. I had never done it before. Right? So wherever you are in your business or your career or what you're up to, what you're working on, there is no shame in your game. Hiring someone to advance you quickly, it's definitely a strategic advantage. And it says to yourself, I'm worthy. I'm worth this. Right? You, you are the most important investment you will ever make in your life. So that's just my two cents on coaching. I'm all in on it. I'm always bringing people to advance me. Trainers. Oh, my gosh. I don't know where I would be without my workout trainers that I've had in my life. You know, people that know things about areas that you're interested in, but you just don't have the expertise. You can tap somebody else. Invest in yourself and access it so quickly. Okay, so one of my clients, who's an amazing woman, put this post up, and I about fell over, because she has. While she's been incredibly successful in her career, she always has kind of held back a little bit, not being really vulnerable. How many of us can relate to this one, right? I definitely was the same way. In corporate America, you kind of wanted to keep that veil up. You didn't want people to really know who you were because you had achieved success, and you thought, you know what? Maybe I should just leave good enough alone. Right? I mean, a lot of us do this, especially when you're in that corporate game where, oh, if I push the envelope a little too much, it might upset someone. So I was super surprised when I saw this post she put up. Okay, here it goes. You don't have articulation issues. You have a confidence issue. In my first interview with my executive coach, this is what I was told. I was blown away. Okay, hang on a second. So this is. We're stopping. This is her post, but we're going to pause and I need to make a comment. So it was our first meeting, thorough meeting, going through what her issues were and after. You know, I always want people to empty their glass to me. Right. Anytime you sit with anyone, I wanna find out what the challenge is, what the problem is, how I can help, how I can add value. To do that, we have to ask really good questions in the beginning and really get that person to trust us and share with us what their thoughts, their perception is on the problem. When I heard her describe her problems and she labeled it as an articulation issue, it was so clear to me. She didn't have issues with articulating. Right. She was very clear and knew what she wanted to say. Very smart, very successful. It was so clear to me she didn't have the confidence that she needed. You know, she was doubting herself. That was what was so obvious to me. Okay, let's get back to her post. My response went something like, wait, what? I've always been told I come across very confident. I'm known as a strong female. During my time with her and reading her books, I've come to realize in certain settings I was viewing myself as less than someone else. Therefore, my confidence and voice never really showed up. Ridiculous, right? But it was a thing. Since then, I've worked hard on how I'm showing up in all settings and becoming conscious of when this begins happening. To stop it. Fast forward to this week when I was talking to a well respected leader at work about my career aspirations. His parting words to me were, you are severely undervaluing yourself. Cue that confidence demon once again. So here we go again. Back to square one, or maybe square two, as there have been a lot of progress to date. The great news is I have a playbook for it now and as I conquer this, it will only make me stronger. Anyone else suffer from this? Maybe you don't even realize it's happening. The question becomes, how am I showing up? I promise you, if you do the work to fix the confidence issues, the impact is massive. So I love this post so much because not only was she being incredibly honest and vulnerable, but she was self reflecting right in the moment when I first started working with her, which was only, I want to say, six weeks ago. We haven't been working together very long at all. She's the progress I've seen this woman make is. Is mind blowing. There are different kinds of people in the world, right? There's really good students, people that want to suck up information, implement it, and take action fast. She's one of those people. Some people are a little bit more resistant. You know, they want to do things on a slower scale, you know, move a little bit slower. That's fine too. It's up to everybody. But this woman likes to move fast, and I like moving fast. So it's a lot of fun for me to work with her because I know that if she implements a couple of the changes that we've discussed, that she'll take off and she has. It's crazy, and it's so fun to watch. Okay, So I love that not only did she self reflect back to the beginning when we started working together, that she did not. She had a block up to this idea that she had a confidence issue. So here's one of the things that's important around perspective is that, you know, when we're around the same people every day, when we ask the same questions, when we roll in the same circle, we become blind to what our blind spots are because we're hanging with the same people. There's no one to come in and say, whoa, hang on, I need to get your attention. You're way off base here. Which was the opportunity I had to have that discussion with her. And when she decided to invest in herself and hire me, and we had that discussion, at first it was hard for her to hear, but immediately she started showing up differently because someone had alerted her that this was a problem. She didn't know it was a problem before. She didn't have that perspective, that insight. As soon as she had it, she was able to address it, right? So that's really empowering. And that's why whether you hire a coach or if you don't, if you're not going to do that, start hanging with different people. Start hanging with people who are light years ahead of you. Start getting into different discussions with different people with different perspectives so that you can start turning those questions on yourself and self reflecting, right? So it's really important not to stay in those same circles, not to just sit with your own thoughts, because we will have blind spots that we aren't aware of, and until we become aware, we can't fix them. This woman fixed her so fast it was crazy to see. I also loved that here she was out at a work conference, and not only was she stepping into Fear, yet again, stepping out of her comfort zone, going up to speak to a super high level executive and engage in conversation to advance herself. Kudos to you. And every moment we're either creating confidence or chipping away at it. And she was thrown herself into the fire. Thank goodness she did. Had this amazing discussion only to find out that she was undervaluing herself. That means this super high level executive was looking at her in the eyes and saying, you are worth more than you even see. Okay. So yet again, she was getting perspective from someone who was light years ahead of her, saying, you are more valuable than you even understand. Okay. Those are the moments you run back home and you write it down because you can't forget that. Okay? Someone who's light years ahead of me just told me this. That means I need to raise the bar on myself. Raise the bar on the expectations for me. Raise the bar on the asks for me. I need to go for more. I've been shrinking and I didn't see it right. And this is after this woman's been doing six weeks of work, very much dedicated to confidence and going bigger. And now she was just. She got that outside perspective again, you can still go for more. And she is right. So it was this. She took the feedback really well because she had, you know, had a similar experience six weeks ago and we started working together and that worked for her. She was able to process this really well and what she's about to do. I just had a meeting with her two days ago. It's incredible what's gonna happen in the next week. Incredible. And I can already see it because I can see the momentum she's building. I can see the confidence shift within herself. And now to hear. I didn't really need to hear how people valued her at work. Cause I already knew. It was so clear to me she's incred. And now for her to have that articulated to her from some of the highest level leadership at her company, I mean, it's like they just handed her the pen to say, you go ahead and write the check to yourself. You got this right? So you got to start somewhere. Start small. Start anywhere. Start by asking for help. Start by investing in yourself. Start by self reflecting. Start by reading a book, watching a TED talk. I don't care what it is. Of course I recommend overcome your villains and confidence creator to begin with. But sidebar, you know, wherever you want to start, just start. Make the commitment, write it down, get clear on it. Start self reflecting. Start taking the steps to advance yourself to that next level. I'm so proud of this woman. I literally look forward to our meeting every single week because she blows me away. You know, they say when the student's ready, the teacher will appear. That's true in my life. That's true in all of our lives. When we're ready to really do the work, self reflect and just go all in, you'll find that that teacher's gonna be available to you and you're gonna be ready to do that work. So why not today? You know, one of the things I look back on in my career is I always say I wish I had left that radio business 10 years before I did. Right? I ended up getting fired at the end of 2017. I wish I had left back in 2007. Right. I would be 10 years ahead in my business right now, killing it. If 10 years ago was the right time for you to invest in yourself, for you to launch your personal brand, for you to lean into your speaking abilities and go for more, then today is the only time. Permission granted. Go for it and go for it now. And I'm so glad my client did because this is going to be her biggest year ever. Literally. I can't wait to tell you guys more. It's so exciting. Meet a different guest each week.