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much as I do. Hi and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, I was thinking today as we are in the middle of July and I was thinking about one year ago and how much life can change in one year. It's incredible. So if you don't know if you haven't been with me for a while. A year ago my son had come out of Zoom school and had not done very well like most kids, you know, just wasn't very engaged on the computer all year and had to make up some classwork. So he ended up going to an academic camp for four weeks in July last year. Now, doesn't sound like that big a deal, but let me break it down for you again. First, world problems. I know, but my son's an athlete, and the only camps he'd ever been to are sports camps, right? To play basketball and do the things he loved. But now it was basically get on a plane, fly to Boston, drive to New Hampshire, go into this really rural camp and do homework and learn all day, and you don't get any access to your phone other than 10 minutes a day, and you live in a tent, okay? Not that appealing, right? So especially when you're used to living in south beach, right? In a condo in south beach, and, you know, can basically do whatever you want, okay? So this was not an exciting time for him. And of course, as a mother, it wasn't really for me either, right? But I knew, listen, the alternative was, you're gonna have to repeat the grade if you don't make up the work, right? So he thought long and hard about it, and he said, okay, I'm clearly not gonna repeat the grade. I need to make up the work. So it was his choice. So, you know, like, anything, somebody has to want to put in the work. Someone has to want to make the change, you know, go to the camp, whatever it may be. And he did want to do that, so that was what mattered. But as we got closer to him leaving, I could sense that he was getting a little nervous and not looking forward to it, of course. And so I'll never forget, on the day that he was leaving, he had packed all of his stuff up, and he had come out to. To see me, and he said, you know what? This just isn't gonna work. I can't fit everything I need in this bag. And it says you can only have one bag, right? There's all these criteria on what you're allowed to bring and what you have to bring, and he couldn't fit it in the suitcase. So he was saying, well, basically, this is a wash. It's not gonna work. And I said, let's focus on the solutions. He was so focused on the problem. And like anyone, when you're in a rut, you're not looking forward to something. It's easy to go down that path, right? And just focus on what's wrong. For me, I wasn't boarding the plane to go to Boston and then New Hampshire and live in a tent for a month. So I was able to focus on the solution. And that's why it's so important who we surround ourselves with, who we tap for help when we need it. So I stood next to him. I was looking at the bag, I was looking at the other things he couldn't fit in. I was thinking, I'm looking, I'm looking for solutions, I'm looking for solutions. And it hits me. There was another zipper on the bag that when you unzipped, it popped up and it gave you, like, twice as much space. But because he was so flustered and frustrated, he'd forgotten about that in the moment. Completely understandable. But for me, I had a different perspective and I was so focused on the solution that it just came to me. So we got all of his stuff in, and I just reminded him, you know, along the way, you're gonna find obstacles, you're gonna find challenges. Stay focused on the solutions, and they'll always present themselves. They do, they just. They inevitably will. So, sadly, I said goodbye. He went to camp and he got his phone for 10 minutes a day, every evening. And so he would call me, and it was awful. You know, he's saying, this is horrible. There's bugs everywhere, and I live in a tent and they make us, you know, clean. And it was not what he was accustomed to, putting it mildly. And so I would try to be super positive, like, oh, my gosh, let's count the days down. Let's cross them off together, you know, trying to make him feel more hopeful and focus on the goal, not on the daily grind and daily challenges. So. Oh, my gosh. All right. So then one night, I'm out to dinner with my girlfriend right near my house, and I get a phone call and it's from the camp, and they tell me, your son is in the emergency room. We think he's broken his arm. It's like at 8 o' clock at night on a random night, I'm like, you gotta be kidding me. So I head home. Immediately, I'm panicked. I'm losing my mind, literally crying my eyes out. So worried that he's alone in an emergency room in New Hampshire, you know, and what the heck is going on? I can't get to him. So eventually I get a phone call back from him that night. He was playing basketball, broke his arm, and he's back now at the camp. Complete disaster. So upsetting. So scary, right? But he's okay. So again, you know, he actually calmed me down that. That night because I was so worried about him. Okay, cut to. I get a flight out there. I'm like, okay, I gotta get out there to see him. He can't be out there with a broken arm. And I'm thinking in my mind, okay, I'm gonna get there, he's gonna get in the car and we're gonna come home. Because even though he's only halfway through camp, you know, how can he succeed at an academic camp with a broken arm? And it's the arm that he uses to write with, right? So this is, it's a wrap, it's over. Stick a fork in it. So I board a plane, I fly to Boston. I had to deliver a virtual keynote from my hotel room in Boston to LA that night. I remember I went to bed, woke up first thing in the morning, drove the three hour ride to New Hampshire or whatever it was. Pull up to this rural academic camp in Wolfborough, New Hampshire. I can't make this stuff up. There's like no road lights out there. It's so crazy. And my son walks out without a bag. And I said, what are you doing? And he said, mom, let's go to the hotel and have dinner and we'll talk. And so he presented himself so differently. It was so interesting. It was one of those moments when you're shocked, but you're so proud when you see, you know, that potential within someone materializing. And it just reminded me, you know what? Sometimes getting out of your routine is so important to help you grow. So whatever routine you're in right now, maybe pump the brakes for a minute and try something different. Because here this crazy situation was for him to go to academic camp for a month and I hadn't seen him in a couple of weeks. And just in that couple of weeks of him being on his own, of him breaking his arm and finding a way to figure it out in the emergency room on his own and finding, you know, doing all these things on his own, he was so much more powerful and so much more confident, even though he had a broken arm, right? It's so crazy. So we go to the hotel and I'm a nervous wreck. Cause I'm like, oh my gosh, I think he's gonna stay. And I'm so proud of him, but hopefully he's okay. You know, all these mom worries that I have about my child, but he really had stepped into being such a young man and having grown so much. And just in the 24 hours I got to spend with him, I just saw like version 2.0 of my kid. You know, he really had gone to the next level and was just, was so confident and just such A rock. And I was so proud of him. And he was so peaceful and just. You know, when you see your people, like, just thriving, that was that moment. So I said, all right, talk to me about, how are you doing this when you can't use your arm? He said, oh, I taught myself to write with the other hand. Mic drop moment. I said, you gotta be kidding me. He said, no. I taught myself how to shower with one arm. I taught myself how to carry things with the wrong arm. I taught myself how to dress with one arm. I taught myself how. And the list went on and on and on. He stayed focused on the solutions instead of focusing on the problems. And he said, mom, I didn't come this far to only come this far. I am finishing this camp. It's only two weeks left, and I can do it. And I. Oh, my gosh. I had to fight back the tears. So, as such a proud mother, I drove him back to the camp that next morning. And he turned around, gave me a kiss on the cheek and said, I'll see you in two weeks. And he took off. And I went back to the rental car, and I was in shock. And I got a text from him, and he said I had to do that. Cause I knew if I made this a big goodbye, you'd be crying the whole entire ride back to Boston. Don't worry, Mom. I'll be fine. I love you. And I just. It was such. This. Oh, my gosh, it was such a surprising trip. Not what I expected, right? I had planned in my mind. I thought I was just picking him up and bringing him home and he was gonna have to repeat the grade, but no. And then a week later, craziest thing, I get an email from camp. He won the WR of the Week award. And I'm thinking to myself, how did he do that when he can't? He's teaching himself how to write with the wrong hand. Like, how does someone do that? And it just reminded me, what is possible is always changing, evolving. And it's up to us to find it, right? Like, it became up to him to find the solutions. And when he did, and he stepped into it, he started building momentum and started building success and started building more confidence. And it really started all with him having that ability to step out of his comfort zone, that ability to step into something new, the ability to break the old routine and immerse himself in something. He had no idea of what he was about to do. So it just reminds me that looking at our lives now versus one year ago, how Much it's impacted him how much he's grown and changed. And that was really the catalyst, in my opinion. Not only did he show up as this more powerful, confident version of himself, where he was able to push himself and see what was possible for him and really expand what was possible for him in his mind, but he also decided on that trip that he wanted to start eating really healthy now as a parent and for all of you parents listening, I'm sure so many of you have been like, okay, that's enough with the cake or that's enough with the cookies, let's try to have some broccoli. And that's an ongoing battle. As a parent, I never got too crazy about that with my child, but obviously I wish he would eat a little bit healthier, but whatever, he's a young kid. I kind of chalked it up as that. But the funny thing was when he went out somewhere else and saw how unhealthy some people ate and the impact of that at this camp, and then how some people ate super healthy and the impact of that, he decided to look at that contrast and make better decisions for himself moving forward all by himself. So it wasn't about me telling him it had to be a certain way. It was about him wanting and choosing something different. And just reminded me no matter how bad we want things for other people, until they want it for themselves, it's not really gonna happen. So he now has the most incredible eating habits and it all stems from that crazy camp. That crazy what I thought was gonna be the worst situation ever. You know, four weeks ended up being this really life changing experience for him. Not easy at all. None of this was easy. I mean, he literally had to kill bugs every night before he could go to bed. Cause they'd be crawling on his head. And I'm not kidding, it was that bad. But it really ended up being just this incredible gift because he made it be meet a different guest each week.