What if the soft life isn't about luxury at all? What if it's about survival?

In this episode I explore the soft life as a practice of safety, resistance, and self-preservation for Black women — and why choosing ease is one of the most radical acts we can make.

I'm unpacking why softness feels so dangerous for Black women, exploring the cultural conditioning that taught us to perform strength at all costs, and breaking down what it actually looks like to choose ease in a world that profits from our exhaustion.

Plus, I'm discussing Where the Wildflowers Grow by Terah Shelton Harris—a stunning novel about a woman who stumbles into sanctuary and discovers she's not too broken to heal.

Books Mentioned

Where the Wildflowers Grow by Terah Shelton Harris

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Resources & Themes

The myth of the “Strong Black Woman”
Nervous system regulation
Rest as resistance
Soft life as sustainability

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