What Happens in Vegas...

Summary

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DaBaddest Radio: "What Happens in Vegas..."

Host: Bretman Rock
Guests: Ms. K, Nikki B, Ozzy
Release Date: June 18, 2026

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Episode Overview

This hilarious and candid episode finds Bretman Rock with co-hosts Ms. K, Nikki B, and Ozzy diving into wild Vegas stories, navigating uncomfortable nightlife experiences, discussing family drama, and giving their unfiltered takes on juicy Reddit "Am I the Asshole?" scenarios. Expect signature confidence, a lot of laugh-out-loud moments, and genuine conversations about boundaries, relationships, and living unapologetically.

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Main Topics and Key Discussions

1. Catching Up and Drink of the Day (00:31–04:30)

• Catching Up: The crew greets each other, talks about their week, and pokes fun at colorblindness and matching outfits.
• Ms. K’s DIY Drink: Ms. K reveals her concoction of Red Bull, Clemensy, syrups, and honey—eliciting skepticism and laughs.
  • Quote (Bretman Rock, 04:24): "When Ms. KB tinkering with the ingredients, I think it's always a hit or miss for me or I missing hit because it's a lot of miss you can miss."

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2. Tea of the Week: Love Island Gossip (05:33–09:15)

• The group passionately dissects the latest Love Island episodes, stanning Melanie and debating the appeal of this year’s islanders.
• Notable opinions:
  • Boys this season: "The boys this year are just not giving for me." (Bretman Rock, 06:53)
  • Bombshell strategies & TikTok rumors about contestants’ bisexuality (reminder to say "allegedly").
  • Lighthearted FOMO as not all have kept up with the latest episodes.

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3. Michael Jackson Documentary & Conspiracy Talk (09:16–10:27)

• Brief, serious side discussion about the recent Michael Jackson trial documentary and conspiracy theories.
  • Ms. K expresses skepticism about the extent of MJ’s guilt, referencing Epstein.
  • Bretman resolves to watch and rejoin the convo next week.

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4. Vegas Storytime: Ms. K’s Nightmare Night Out (10:28–16:45)

• The main event: Ms. K recounts a harrowing Vegas gay bar experience where an older, unknown man performed explicit acts, tried to look under her skirt, and continued to follow/hassle her and her friends.
  • Quote (Ms. K, 13:06): "Full on, like, grabbing it. Oh, you, like, see it? Yes... And then he goes like this and tries to look under my skirt."
  • They quickly leave and club-hop; security guards gatekeep attractive girls up the stairs.
  • Ms. K’s "trail of vomit" becomes a group punchline: "Made my mark everywhere, period." (16:40)
  • Conversation shifts to broader issues with harassment in queer nightlife spaces and WeHo.

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5. Nikki B’s First Friday Fling & Clubbing Chronicles (20:40–25:40)

• Nikki B shares her own going-out escapades—visiting Manifest in Chinatown, running into a DL man she used to talk to, and heading to Zippy’s for late-night eats.
  • Quote (Nikki B, 22:22): "No matter how cute you are, I will never waste my time on a DL man."
  • Humorous debates over best Zippy’s orders, with Bretman standing by Korean fried chicken ("If it's not what I think it is, like, don't talk to me.", 24:10).

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6. Family Drama: Mistaken Texts and Sibling Group Chat Shade (26:43–32:09)

• Bretman hilariously tells being accidentally (but not so accidentally) talked about by his mom in Ilocano, who per his suspicion, meant to complain to his sister about him.
  • Quote (Bretman Rock, 28:28): "My mom texted me back and she's like this gay one in Ilocano. He's telling me to go home because he’s working."
  • Panel shares similar family miscommunication stories and the particular drama of islander family group chats.

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7. Being a Morning Person and Routine Updates (32:09–33:00)

• Bretman celebrates getting back to a 6:30 AM routine, noting how vital mornings are to his energy.
  • Quote (32:41): "Like, 11 is midnight for me... If I’m still up at 12, I really feel like death."

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8. AITA (Am I the Asshole?) Reddit Segment (33:00–47:53)

a. Not Mentioning a Situationship to a New Boyfriend (34:15–39:38)

• Scenario: Should you tell your partner about a prior casual relationship with a coworker?
• Consensus: She should have told him since they work together. Boyfriend’s feelings are valid, though don’t villainize her—just an honest misstep.

b. Open Relationship Backfires (40:31–45:29)

• Scenario: Boyfriend opens relationship to pursue another woman, then resents girlfriend when it works better for her.
• All agree boyfriend is the real "asshole." Panel roasts his ego and celebrates the girlfriend moving on and embracing single life.
  • Quote (Nikki B, 45:32): "You keep getting your 500 likes, babes. Keep getting that cookie ate."

c. Remarrying Ex-Husband While Terminally Ill (47:01–53:36)

• Terminally ill woman considers remarrying her ex for love & legal/financial reasons. Her sister objects harshly.
• Group universally supports the woman, dragging the "hatin’" sister. Touching side chat about genuine versus “pity” love, but consensus is her choice shouldn’t be up for debate.
  • Quote (Bretman Rock, 49:47): "Who the fuck is the sister? Girl, drop her pin."

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9. Product of the Day (53:41–56:57)

• Bretman: One Size oil-control spray, Uni Free flushable wipes.
• Ms. K: Skin to Fic foundation (gifted by Bretman)—great shade match, non-oxidizing.
• Nikki B: "Trans Pacific" hat (from Bretman)—summer essential, high quality, and local flair.
• Ozzy: Signature ukulele, ending segment with some live strumming.

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10. Closing & Socials (58:09–End)

• The group sign off with ukulele background, sharing their handles and inviting listeners to subscribe, rate, and interact.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• "Just because I'm a doll does not mean you can treat me like a doll. Period." —Ms. K, 17:43
• "If a white man would date it, I would have been like, that checks out. But you're a man of color. Stop." —Bretman Rock, 17:34
• "Hi, guys. If I see something I like, I like it and I will get it." —Nikki B, 23:13
• "If you can't dish it out, don't take it." —Group, 46:09
• "There's only one pillow princess here, and it's...well, it's us three." —Bretman Rock, 44:11

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Top Timestamps for Quick Navigation

• Ms. K’s Vegas Storytime: 10:28–16:45
• Love Island Tea: 05:33–09:15
• Reddit AITA Segment: 33:00–47:53
  • Casual coworker situationship: 34:15–39:38
  • Open relationship drama: 40:31–45:29
  • Remarrying ex-husband: 47:01–53:36
• Product of the Day: 53:41–56:57
• Family drama texts: 26:43–32:09

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Tone & Style

Conversational, no-holds-barred, and effervescently queer. The chemistry and candor of the group keep even serious subjects buoyant, while vulnerability is met with affirmation and upbeat support. Life advice is doled out with humor and heart.

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In Summary

This episode is a quintessential DaBaddest Radio ride: group therapy, pop culture gossip, wild nightlife chronicles, and real talk about boundaries—all wrapped in infectious laughter and Bretman Rock’s signature “baddie” pep talk.

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Transcript

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[Bretman Rock]

The following podcast is a Dear Media

[Ms. K]

Production The Baddest Radio Season 2 Episode 44 Take one action.

[Bretman Rock]

Hello.

[Nikki B]

Hello.

[Bretman Rock]

Aloha everyone. Salutations. Earth to Bretman. Bretman to Earth. It is Thursday yet again, everyone, what is salutation like? Salutations, like greetings. Greetings.

[Nikki B]

Yeah. You never heard that before?

[Ms. K]

No.

[Bretman Rock]

You never heard that salutation? Yeah, like remember Charlie and Chocolate Factory? Salutations.

[Nikki B]

Isn't it like Charlotte's Web?

[Bretman Rock]

I don't know, but we can talk about this after this intro. Earth to Breadman. Girl, you already know who it is. And we are back. It is your host, Bretman Rock and

[Ms. K]

your hostess, Ms. K and Nikki B.

[Bretman Rock]

And today we got ozzylicious. Obviously Ms. K didn't get the blue memo today, so that's why it's another shade of blue. She is front and center.

[Nikki B]

She's a little colorblind.

[Ms. K]

It's another shade of blue.

[Bretman Rock]

She is.

[Ms. K]

If you mix red and blue, what

[Bretman Rock]

do you get Exactly. There's blue in there that's not even also purple. That's like pink.

[Ms. K]

Oh yeah. More blue than.

[Bretman Rock]

Right.

[Nikki B]

It's okay.

[Bretman Rock]

It has a blue hue for sure. Which I feel like is the best blue for us. Like brown skinned girls with pink. I mean, it's the best pink for us brown skinned girls is the ones with blue in it.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, a little. Cool.

[Ms. K]

You ate with that, right?

[Bretman Rock]

Wait, so you dressed the elephant in the room?

[Ms. K]

I was like, I looked down and all I seen was this bag. It's so cute.

[Bretman Rock]

I literally had to fight for. Well, not me. My essay had to fight for it because obviously I think everyone kind of

[Ms. K]

like wants it right now.

[Bretman Rock]

Was asking for this one and my essay is like, stop, don't talk to me. Yeah. Loser.

[Ms. K]

Lamer wannabe.

[Bretman Rock]

Thank you so much, John. If you guys are in Waikiki, ever go to Chanel and ask for John.

[Ms. K]

Oh, hi, John. I haven't seen you in so long.

[Bretman Rock]

No, he literally said hi. He was like, can you Say hi to Ms. K for me? I'm like, oh, period.

[Ms. K]

Hi, Ms. John. Mr. John.

[Bretman Rock]

Have you guys been doing anything fun this week?

[Ms. K]

I did. I just came back from a trip actually.

[Nikki B]

Oh yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

We can talk about that later.

[Ms. K]

Oh my God. I have to tell you a lot of questions. Yes. All the time. This is why I don't going out in like the mainland.

[Dear Media Announcer]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Just because I always get harassed.

[Nikki B]

Harassed.

[Bretman Rock]

That's crazy.

[Ms. K]

Teaser.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. Nikkiu, how was your week?

[Nikki B]

I feel like I've been so busy. Everyone's birthdays and parties, visiting, moving.

[Bretman Rock]

I had a pretty silent last week too. I had a very chill one. You two were like. You were moving. You were going.

[Ms. K]

I was done.

[Nikki B]

Yes.

[Bretman Rock]

And I was chilling also. You guys, I just wanted to say if there is a little buzzing noise in the background, I do have gardeners gardening today and I didn't want to ask them stop. Because one, I have been needing this banana tree cut down for ages because it's been kind of taking over my backyard because you guys know she's a little invasive.

[Ms. K]

She's a traveler.

[Bretman Rock]

Yes. And she has a lot of roots. So they're doing a lot of bumping and grinding in the back, so don't mind that. And my new gardeners are amazing. I know we talked about that last week.

[Ms. K]

Oh, you did. Hey, you went in that last week.

[Bretman Rock]

We did.

[Ms. K]

Okay, period. Ms. K. Should we do the drink of the day?

[Bretman Rock]

Ms.

[Ms. K]

Tea? This tea of the day today is gonna be a little confusing because it's kind of just like a mixed drink of any kind.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Ms. K]

I didn't know what to do. It was more of like just me looking for ingredients downstairs. And I found this. Nikki brought Clemensy and I was like, I base it on that. I saw Red Bull underneath your cabinet. And I was like, okay, this is the base. I saw some.

[Bretman Rock]

It's giving some miscay bullshit.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Some syrups downstairs concoction and honey. And so I made this.

[Bretman Rock]

I'm scared. It's actually because when Ms. KB tinkering with the ingredients, I think it's always a hit or miss for me or I missing hit because it's a lot

[Nikki B]

of miss you can miss.

[Ms. K]

Okay. Here you go.

[Nikki B]

Thank you.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, I smell the Red Bull. Oh, you know I love a Red Bull. Shout out. Red Bull.

[Nikki B]

Shout out.

[Ms. K]

Red Bull. Thank you for being the base of my drink this week.

[Bretman Rock]

Literally. Also remember our Red Bull experience. Experience at Coachella.

[Ms. K]

Oh my God. With the Nobu. Thanks again, please.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, okay.

[Ms. K]

Period. Is she eating?

[Bretman Rock]

No, the red. You know, me and my carbonation. It tastes like the LGBT Red Bull flavors they had once upon a time.

[Nikki B]

Really?

[Bretman Rock]

They had different Red Bull bottles in different flavors and different colors. I did put this one tastes kind of like the purple one.

[Nikki B]

Oh, Try mixing With the purple.

[Ms. K]

Because when I mix blue and red, it makes the purple. And the. The syrup was blue and red.

[Bretman Rock]

And you're wearing that. Yes, period. Do you have any tea this week?

[Ms. K]

The tea of this week is just like. I don't know if you guys had talk about this, but the Love island summer has started. Summer has started some.

[Bretman Rock]

Nikki, have you started it?

[Nikki B]

I have. I saw small clips, but I watched the first episode.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay. Do you care if we talk about it?

[Nikki B]

Oh, I love. Yeah, please talk about it.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay. Also, if you guys are still watching and as of this current filming, they are on episode six and seven comes out today. I think last time we talked about it, we only had two. We watched two episodes.

[Ms. K]

Two episodes.

[Bretman Rock]

I was, like, really big fan of Melanie, which I still am. I'm gonna stand behind my.

[Ms. K]

Wait. I was. I was about to ask about you about. She's getting a lot of hate.

[Bretman Rock]

She's doing them all. She's doing a lot right now. She's doing a lot. But I'm gonna let my sister Melanie cook.

[Ms. K]

I think it's just the excitement because everything is happening and like, it's always is on the first week.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

So I think she's having, like. Like the excitement.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

She don't know where to go.

[Jessica Capshaw]

Yeah.

[Progressive Insurance Announcer]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

I also feel like. Did you see the new bombshells that came in? Soul. Soul, I really think is sold.

[Ms. K]

The one with the country boy with the. The deep, deep accent.

[Bretman Rock]

No, Soul is the pixie cut.

[Ms. K]

Oh, the girl.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, my God, the two girls. I want such a girl crush on Soul.

[Ms. K]

I love a diverse.

[Nikki B]

Their bodies are team.

[Bretman Rock]

Very cute. Also, I will say the boys this year are just not giving for me.

[Nikki B]

Really?

[Ms. K]

Really.

[Nikki B]

The boys are cute this year.

[Bretman Rock]

You know, Sean went home.

[Ms. K]

I know it's for Nikki.

[Jessica Capshaw]

That's why.

[Kiana]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Please pull Nikki for a chat. No, go push on for you for a chat.

[Ms. K]

So. But if you were a bombshell, who would you go for from the. The episodes that you watch and you think, like. Okay, because you know how, like, the Bombshells get to watch, like, previous episodes.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Of, like, what's been happening from, like, the guys right now and the girls before.

[Bretman Rock]

Before speaking.

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

I would have said Gabriel.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, Gabriel's so cute.

[Bretman Rock]

But I just really feel like Gabriel doesn't give me too much. And I understand. It's like the language barrier. And I too, struggle with expressing myself with language barrier. But I also.

[Ms. K]

That should become your power.

[Bretman Rock]

I just feel like I'm watching soft porn every time he's on tv?

[Ms. K]

Why?

[Bretman Rock]

Girl, it's too much. It's. I get it's kissing, but like it. He barely gets to make any connection because that's all he want to be doing is like he's just kissing and

[Nikki B]

kiss me all the time.

[Ms. K]

I heard from a little blue moon that he is bisexual. And also is Zach.

[Bretman Rock]

Zach too.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay, that's no wonder. Him and Bryce have been having like

[Ms. K]

their little fling from a little like, from tick tock. I heard that they were bisexual.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay, well, let's not spread lies. Let's say allegedly.

[Ms. K]

But remember when you were like, I wish someone comes out as gay and

[Bretman Rock]

they're like, yeah, period.

[Ms. K]

Maybe, maybe.

[Bretman Rock]

I was gonna say my favorite right now is Keda. Who's your favorite? Who's your current clients?

[Ms. K]

As of right now, Miss what's her name?

[Bretman Rock]

Trinity. Who she with?

[Ms. K]

Oh, girl, I'm not in that deep yet.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, I don't think I know the girls. Okay, well, I just, I just full

[Bretman Rock]

stop talking about it and catch up. And next time y' all aren't in here. You guys, I feel like you're in episode three, Kiefer, because last night you fell asleep halfway.

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

And Ms. Nikki is like, yeah, I watch some clips on TikTok, so I'm just having a one way conversation right now.

[Dear Media Announcer]

Really.

[Bretman Rock]

Let's move on.

[Ms. K]

But did you guys watch the new documentary of Michael Jackson trials?

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, I haven't watched it, you know,

[Ms. K]

ever since like the Epstein whole thing came out. I'm like, girl, this is like, wow, amazing. Because knowing like, what if like, you know, I'm like talking about like gibberish, but from what I know is like, they blackmailed Michael Jackson and killed him. So when they showed this trial, I was like, with the whole like. Can I say that?

[Bretman Rock]

What with the.

[Ms. K]

Their trial of like the child sexual harassment, stuff like that. Yeah, but I feel like that's all like the part of the Epstein like, lore.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, okay, let me watch it and we'll talk about it next week. Yeah, because I want to join this conversation.

[Ms. K]

Okay, you need to just because like a lot of people went into that whole thing where like, Michael Jackson is innocent. He didn't do anything. He tried to like, take them out by like coming out, but then they killed him because there was like a phone call saying, like, they're trying to kill me. They're trying to kill me. Have you heard that voice message?

[Nikki B]

That's so scary.

[Bretman Rock]

No, I haven't.

[Ms. K]

Yeah, but you guys need to go into that.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Bretman Rock]

And we can talk about it next week. Ms. K, you said you had a story about Vegas.

[Ms. K]

Oh, my God. So should we tell a story about what happened in Vegas? What happens in Vegas?

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. Okay.

[Ms. K]

Okay.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, that's it.

[Ms. K]

So I think one of my main target for Vegas for me this time around was going out. I needed to go to a gay bar because everyone always talks about their gay bar in Vegas. And we've never been. We've only been to, like, a straight club.

[Bretman Rock]

We went to a strip club, and it was a straight one.

[Ms. K]

Yes, we went to a club, but it was a straight club, but no gay. Nothing gay or anything. So I was, like, begging my friends. I was like, can we please go to a gay bar? Like, I just need to go to a gay bar. We go to the bar, and then we sat down. Cute. Cute. Whatever. Whatever. We're waiting for the drag show to start. I turn around.

[Bretman Rock]

Who did you go with?

[Nikki B]

Jordy?

[Ms. K]

Brenda. Oh, period. I turn around and I see this old man. And we kind of locked eyes, but I was like, okay. And then you know how, like, when you lock ice with people accidentally?

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

And then you just, like, turn away real quick.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

And so we did that. And I was just, like, waiting for a show.

[Bretman Rock]

Once, Twice.

[Ms. K]

Once.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Ms. K]

Okay, you guys, this is, like, gnarly. This is why I don't go out. Did you get me, man? No.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Ms. K]

Total stranger didn't even come up to me. Whatever. Whatever. And then all I see him was moving his chair towards where? Okay, let's say this is our table. This is the three of us. I was where Brett is, and then my. My two friends. And then he was where the. Where Ozzy is.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Ms. K]

Moves his chair over there, and he starts feeling himself.

[Nikki B]

Feeling himself, girl.

[Ms. K]

Like, feeling his, like, crotch area.

[Bretman Rock]

You could see it.

[Nikki B]

Oh, girl.

[Ms. K]

Full on, like, grabbing it. Oh, you, like, see it? Yes. Like, you took it out. And then he put it back in, and he started jagging it off inside his pants. And I was like, what is this guy doing? And then he goes like this and tries to look under my skirt.

[Bretman Rock]

Wait, how. Wait, you already probably said this. How far was he sitting from you where Ozzy is.

[Ozzy]

So he's not him.

[Ms. K]

Like, so I can see, but it was more like. Okay, so this is the stage. And he was, like, right here. And so I was facing him Between y'.

[Dear Media Announcer]

All.

[Ms. K]

No, so this. The stage was right here. And then we were at a table. This was the table. I was sitting right here. And then my friend. And then my friend, they. He was sitting where like, that lamp is.

[Nikki B]

Okay. Okay.

[Ms. K]

So I'm the only one that can see him. Okay. And he was, like, full on, like, feeling himself, like, oh, my God, Ms.

[Bretman Rock]

K. I'm so sorry, girl. I'm so inappropriate. I would have been fixing my titties.

[Ms. K]

No, I would have felt something, too.

[Bretman Rock]

I mean, like, I would have. I would have been like, like, full

[Nikki B]

on, like, going down.

[Ms. K]

Like, hit, like, going down.

[Bretman Rock]

I would have been.

[Ms. K]

My skirt. I felt so uncomfortable. Really, you guys, if you guys seen

[Bretman Rock]

this guy, I'm so not you.

[Ms. K]

No, but if you guys seen this guy, Is he ugly? Girl, like I said, if you guys would have seen this guy, I feel like you guys would have been more uncomfortable.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Ms. K]

Because if it was a cute guy, I'm gonna be unbuttoning myself. I'm like, oh, my God. Oh, my God.

[Nikki B]

I would have, like, spilled the whole.

[Ms. K]

Like, you know, like, you know, girl, I don't play that game. But, like, no, it was so uncomfortable. And then he disappeared.

[Bretman Rock]

Girl, that's sexual assault.

[Ms. K]

That is. And then he. And here's me and Nikki being like. And then he comes back behind me. You guys, behind you, behind you. And I didn't even know he was behind me the whole time until, like, I was like, oh, my God. I, like, tried to talk to my friend, and I hit him. That's how close he was, right behind me. And so my friend had to move our, like, drinks away because you never know. He could just. Because Vegas, they said Vegas is like, welcome to Vegas. Baby town, the house. And so I was like, what the. And then I turned, and he was just there. And he lingered around me for, like, 20 minutes. And then he was just there. And then we were like, okay, let's go. Leave. Like, it's. It's getting weird at that point.

[Bretman Rock]

Did Brenda notice?

[Ms. K]

Yeah, she felt uncomfortable, too, because she was.

[Nikki B]

He.

[Ms. K]

She was. I was right next to her. Oh, my God. He was right behind us. And so the sister had to go behind us for him to, like, leave.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

And so he left. And then we were like, okay, let's go. Let's go. Let's go to another club.

[Nikki B]

That's gross.

[Ms. K]

And so we went. And he goes. And I was the last one that leaves. And he goes, where are you going? And I just.

[Nikki B]

Oh, he wanted.

[Ms. K]

Yeah, I was like, I didn't mind him at all. And he tried to follow us outside, but we ran inside the car.

[Nikki B]

Oh, friend, I want to beat him up.

[Ms. K]

It's okay.

[Bretman Rock]

Or he would have.

[Ms. K]

The time is had.

[Bretman Rock]

Beat you up too, bitch.

[Ms. K]

And then we went to Paris. Watch out, piranhas. It's a must.

[Nikki B]

Oh, I love piranhas.

[Ms. K]

No, we went to another. We. We went to another club. And then we went to Paras. It's like, oh, my God, it's so fun. Is it so fun?

[Bretman Rock]

Is there a lot of people?

[Ms. K]

A lot of people, but the place is big.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Ms. K]

And then we were on. We got let. Girl, I felt so hot because the security guard was only letting hot girls up the stairs. And then my friend was like, can we go up the stairs? And then he goes, is it just the three hot girls you're with? Oh, this me. I'm the three.

[Nikki B]

I'm a part of the three.

[Ms. K]

I love, but had fun, got drunk, you guys. No one noticed.

[Bretman Rock]

But I did.

[Ms. K]

Threw up everywhere in Vegas. By everywhere, I mean I started in the club, the first club. In the carpet. Threw up in the carpet. I turned around, no one saw me. I went outside, threw up, no one saw me. And then I was like, girl, we have to go.

[Bretman Rock]

She's just marking her spot.

[Ms. K]

Yes.

[Bretman Rock]

She's like, I want to remember this place.

[Ms. K]

No, I did. And no, I was like, they want

[Nikki B]

the place to remember you.

[Ms. K]

I'm so glad no one saw me because, girl, that was like a gnarly.

[Nikki B]

Are you sure no one saw you?

[Ms. K]

No one saw me. I made sure no one saw me.

[Bretman Rock]

It was gnarly.

[Ms. K]

And then we went to another bar, threw up outside. Girl, you know me with like the

[Bretman Rock]

whole, like, she just be throwing up.

[Ms. K]

Yeah, okay.

[Bretman Rock]

Period.

[Ms. K]

Made my mark everywhere, period.

[Bretman Rock]

Is that your story of the week?

[Ms. K]

That is my story of the week.

[Bretman Rock]

That was a really good story.

[Ms. K]

But yeah, this is why I don't go out and like stuff because last time I went to LA in weho, girl, a full on, full on grown ass man was like putting his head inside my shorts.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, that happened to me here.

[Nikki B]

In your shorts?

[Ms. K]

Yes, like behind me. Like, he just put full on. Like, even like.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, that happened underneath his.

[Ms. K]

Under, like my underwear. He just put his pants without no consent, you guys. He just comes out behind me and goes. And he goes, kiss me right now. And I was like, who the are you?

[Bretman Rock]

Was she cute?

[Ms. K]

No.

[Nikki B]

Wow.

[Bretman Rock]

No. You know what I really want to ask is.

[Ozzy]

That's the question I've been waiting for you to ask.

[Bretman Rock]

Well, because, you know, men of color,

[Nikki B]

really, guys, come on, do better. The old do better, do better.

[Bretman Rock]

Because I feel like if a white man would date it, I would have been like, that checks out. But you're a man of color. Stop.

[Ms. K]

No.

[Nikki B]

You'll see. It's crazy.

[Ms. K]

Just because I'm a doll does not mean you can treat me like a doll. Period.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, period. Don't pull this string.

[Ms. K]

Don't be a Barbie girl.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Undress me everywhere.

[Kiana]

Foreign.

[Bretman Rock]

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[Bretman Rock]

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[Nikki B]

Hmm.

[Bretman Rock]

Water. Now, let's get back to the video.

[Jessica Capshaw]

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[Bretman Rock]

Nikki, do you want to go first or me?

[Nikki B]

Oh, my God. I could go. I had a. I had a very busy weekend.

[Ms. K]

But you partied too?

[Nikki B]

Yes. I not only Did. But I also went out this weekend, too. One of my friends from Oregon, James, he came to visit because his. I think his cousin or his niece graduated. But he was like, oh, I'm in. I'm in town. Like, what are we doing? And he's always a good time, you know Nikki. So we went out this weekend, and

[Bretman Rock]

she was down.

[Nikki B]

We went to Manifest, and it was first Friday, and I never been out on the first Friday, and it's crazy, guys, Chinatown, girl.

[Ms. K]

No one wants to go there first Friday, girl.

[Nikki B]

I mean, there is so many cute guys. So we went to Manifest in Chinatown. It was really packed, guys. We met up with all his cousins. Long story short, I didn't get too drunk. Thank God, because I forgot I don't drink as often as I used to. So a girl was a little tipsy off of two shots.

[Kiana]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

But guys, I went. There is this guy I used to talk to. I've never met him in person.

[Bretman Rock]

We finally did, and do I know this person?

[Nikki B]

No.

[Ms. K]

Have you seen this person?

[Nikki B]

You guys have never seen.

[Bretman Rock]

If she hasn't seen it, what makes us seen him?

[Nikki B]

Well, I would have showed you guys a picture.

[Ms. K]

She always.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, you met your pictures. Yeah, yeah. No, she would not.

[Nikki B]

I wouldn't. But it was the first time seeing him. And then we both locked eyes. I was like, oh, my God, you're cuter in person. But he's like a DL guy.

[Ms. K]

It's like, oh, we don't with DL.

[Nikki B]

I know. Like, he wants his Budusi.

[Ms. K]

But no matter how cute you are, I will never waste my time on a DL man.

[Nikki B]

Girl. No, I know. Can I talk to me right now.

[Ozzy]

What a deal.

[Nikki B]

Man is download down.

[Ozzy]

Oh, like, he doesn't want to know. He doesn't want other people.

[Ms. K]

He goes that way, but he doesn't want his voice or his family to know.

[Ozzy]

Thank you for confirmed.

[Ms. K]

Some pussy girl.

[Nikki B]

She be eyeing me out that whole night. And then and was like, you look good. I was like, oh, you look good talking to other girls.

[Bretman Rock]

You said that?

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

I love you. That's so kind of you. I was like, babe, that is so cunty.

[Nikki B]

And let me just say it.

[Ms. K]

How are you gonna text me when you can't even approach me in person?

[Bretman Rock]

Nikki, you ate with that. I'm afraid. I'm afraid you ate. Put her on Love island right now. Cause Nikki on Love island right now.

[Ms. K]

You know how, like, Melody was so excited that Bombshell was there? Yeah, that'd be Nikki.

[Nikki B]

Hi, guys. If I see something I like, I like it and I will get it

[Bretman Rock]

and they will like it back. They will like it

[Nikki B]

after manifest because we're over it. We went to Shay's in Aya.

[Bretman Rock]

I have never been to any of these clubs.

[Ms. K]

She's like a local.

[Nikki B]

A little raunch here, Shake.

[Bretman Rock]

I'm on the pod.

[Nikki B]

Shame on Italy. We could leave Shane in Aya.

[Ms. K]

Please.

[Nikki B]

But that's where my scene is. That's where all the USOs are.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

Okay. I had an uncle come up to me and I was like, uncle, you don't want this. I'm like, oh, no. Six feet away. You do not want territory. Yeah, I went to. It was very cutesy. And then where did we go? We went to Zippy's after. And I didn't get home till, like, three.

[Bretman Rock]

What is your Zippy's order?

[Nikki B]

I love a mini.

[Bretman Rock]

If, like, there is a right and wrong answer, and if it's not what I think it is, like, don't talk to me.

[Ms. K]

It's spaghetti with bread.

[Nikki B]

No, I order oxtail at night.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay, that's valid, I guess.

[Nikki B]

Yeah. If they're. If they're out, then I get a fried chicken.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay, that's also valid.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Because the right answer is Korean barbecue.

[Ms. K]

I don't really like Korean chicken.

[Bretman Rock]

Korean barbecue chicken.

[Nikki B]

Oh, the Korean fried chicken.

[Bretman Rock]

Fried chicken.

[Ms. K]

The Korean.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Korean barbecue salad.

[Ms. K]

That's with the black sesame.

[Bretman Rock]

Always get me together after a scarlet night.

[Ms. K]

But they discontinued that, did they? They did the black sesame salad.

[Nikki B]

Oh, black sesame.

[Ozzy]

But probably not the Korean chicken salad.

[Ms. K]

You always get it with the black sesame.

[Bretman Rock]

I'll live

[Nikki B]

as if the chicken's not

[Bretman Rock]

gone as long as the chicken. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Ms. K]

What is the difference between a Korean fried chicken and a fried chicken?

[Nikki B]

I think it's just the sauce.

[Bretman Rock]

It's how it's prepped.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

I mean, made. Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Is the Korean fried chicken, like, sweeter?

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

It has, like, sesame oil and everything. That's why.

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Is that your story, Nikki?

[Nikki B]

Yes. And I just moved, but that's pretty much it.

[Bretman Rock]

So you didn't get uncle's number?

[Nikki B]

No, no, no.

[Bretman Rock]

But you do have other.

[Nikki B]

It was a little fobish for me.

[Ozzy]

But you know what?

[Nikki B]

We love the fall.

[Ms. K]

That's your favorite.

[Nikki B]

I know it's my favorite, but I was, like, with my friends.

[Bretman Rock]

She had to be demure.

[Ms. K]

You guys, Nikki has once left me for a guy before.

[Bretman Rock]

And me.

[Ms. K]

Can I do it?

[Bretman Rock]

When?

[Ms. K]

Last year.

[Nikki B]

Halloween? Yes.

[Ms. K]

With Susanna and the boyfriend. So I was by myself.

[Kiana]

What?

[Ms. K]

Remember we were. I was wearing all White. You were wearing all black. And then we went to Moanee's. I turn around.

[Bretman Rock]

Nikki.

[Ms. K]

Nikki.

[Bretman Rock]

No, she was a ghost keeper. She was a ghost. She was there.

[Ms. K]

No, tell me why. I turned around.

[Bretman Rock]

I was like, you had to contact her through a.

[Ms. K]

The bunny has hopped and left the building.

[Bretman Rock]

Nikki, give her.

[Nikki B]

You like.

[Bretman Rock]

Nikki, if you're here,

[Ms. K]

Turn off the light. And she did. She came back. She was like, oh, there you are. Okay, I'll be back. I'm like, goodbye.

[Bretman Rock]

Never came back.

[Nikki B]

I checked in. That's all that matters.

[Bretman Rock]

I have a story for you guys this week.

[Ms. K]

Okay.

[Bretman Rock]

Hopefully you guys can relate because y' all be having. I literally feel like we have the same mom in different fonts. And Kiefer, I didn't know you know where this story is going.

[Ms. K]

I think it's so funny.

[Bretman Rock]

So this is on Monday, right? And Mondays is usually my meetings days with my. My team, with my. My two managers, specifically. Usually my. My calls is usually like, once or two. But this day, I had known I had two calls, but I didn't realize I had three. So I told my mom I was going to pick her up after these calls at 1. So I finished my two calls, and in. In the middle of my second call, my manager is like, okay, you have another call after this. And like, after the call, and that's when my mom also texted me. She's like, do you want me to finish? Do you want me to wait for you at the doctors, or do you want me to go home? And that was at 12:30. At 12:30, I text her, and I'm

[Ms. K]

like, I didn't know that part. Yeah, that you told her to go home. Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

So at 12:30, I told her to go home. I'm like, mom, I'm still working. I have my meeting. I have one more meeting left. I'm going to come after my third meeting. And my second meeting wasn't going to finish until one, so I knew it was going to bleed, so I text her that right now before I continue. Have your parents ever texted you something that they meant to text somebody else?

[Nikki B]

No, I don't think they've had. And they've. My mom accidentally told a story to one of my other sisters, and it was her, and then she was like, oh. Hung hangs up the phone.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, that literally is what.

[Ms. K]

Like that?

[Nikki B]

Yeah, but that was.

[Ms. K]

I feel like when you're taking a

[Bretman Rock]

screenshot of something and you sent it to the same person, you were gonna like, oh, I've done that before.

[Ms. K]

Oh, sorry.

[Bretman Rock]

I didn't mean to screenshot our conversation, but anyways, yeah, so my mom texted me back and she's like this gay one in Ilocano. In Ilocano. In Ilocano. She's like this gay one. He told me he was going to pick me up at one, but now he's telling me to go home because he has work. And I literally reply, mom, I think you're still texting me. And she goes, oh, I'm so sorry. And I'm literally like, girl, I am at work. So I sent her a picture of me literally with my two managers on FaceTime call. And she's like, I am so sorry, son. And I don't know why, but let me know if I'm being a little too sensitive. But like, I was literally like, not you talking shit about me,

[Nikki B]

about other

[Bretman Rock]

people behind my back. And you know what the icing on the motherfucking cake was? You know, I had to tell the story Ms. K. And Ms. K was over at her mom's that day and my mom had told Ms. K's mom, you know who, who my mom was going to take if she was to text Ms. K's mom that I would be fine.

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

But no, she was texting Miss Princess name my sister, sibling. My up. Like literally like my not my mom talking about me with my sister. He keeps telling me he's gonna pick me up at one, but now he's acting like he has work. I'm like, mom, I'm so sorry. Like, it's literally like a 30 minute car. It's like, I'll pick you up at 1:30 instead of 1. Like shit. So yeah, that was my story this week, period.

[Ms. K]

I'm so dead. That's so funny to me.

[Bretman Rock]

It is so funny because I truly thought she was talking to your mom and I was gonna get over it.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

But what really pissed me off is my mom talking about me with my siblings.

[Ms. K]

It's okay. My mom talks about.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, I know as well. I know. But it's literally like, girl, not to the ops.

[Ms. K]

I know, like talks about everybody else,

[Bretman Rock]

but not damn like, especially with my brother. Because I know if my brother and my mom was talking shit about me, but my mom will never talk shit with my other siblings. With me she'll be like, just be patient with them, just forgive them. But my mom, this gay one, I hate it. I'm like, my gosh, all to say, my mom is still getting her hair done tomorrow. We have to reschedule her hair appointment though.

[Ms. K]

I hate it. When my mom does that and then my sibling comes up to me like, oh, why did you do this? And I'm like, how do you know I did that?

[Bretman Rock]

No. Later, my mom, I'm like, no.

[Ms. K]

And they dramatize it more.

[Nikki B]

Oh, yeah, they really do.

[Ms. K]

Like, it's not that big, big of a deal, but they make it a big of a deal.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

I feel like as they grow older, they're more sensitive.

[Bretman Rock]

For sure.

[Ms. K]

Is it menopause?

[Bretman Rock]

Like, yeah.

[Ms. K]

What is the effect of a menopause?

[Bretman Rock]

Like, you no longer get periods, Right?

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

And then you have swing. Mood swings. No.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. Midlife crisis and everything of that nature.

[Ozzy]

No.

[Bretman Rock]

You guys, I don't have a journal entry this week, but last week I was talking to Kat about how my main mission is to wake back up at 6:30 again. And a body has woken up at 6:30 every day since last week week. So if anybody was wondering, I feel fine. Like, I feel like I'm finally, like, back to, like, my regime. I just feel like every time I wake up at 7:30 or worse, eight, like, I just feel like I don't feel like myself. Like, because my energy is in the morning, like, it depletes. Like, literally. I like, after we wrap, like, the podcast, girl, you know where my first stop is? In my room.

[Ms. K]

Oh, you're like the sun. You're like, energies in the morning. Go to bed at night.

[Bretman Rock]

No, I'm such a morning person. Literally, like, yesterday, Nikki came over to play games with me and 10:30 came around and we were like, we're done. We're done. Literally the second the door hit close, when Nikki left, I was already snoring.

[Ms. K]

Didn't I tell you?

[Nikki B]

I was like.

[Ms. K]

Because Nikki was like, just come over. I was like, girl, you know, by 10:30, but it's gonna be schedule, guys.

[Bretman Rock]

10. Like, no, 10:30 is late for me already.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Like, 11 is midnight for me. Like, I literally feel like crying if I'm asleep. If I'm still up at 12, I really feel like death. It's not even funny. But, yeah, that's the update. Have you guys ever watch YouTube videos where they read Reddit stories and they figure out who is the asshole in the story?

[Ms. K]

No.

[Bretman Rock]

So me and Kat did who's the asshole Episode last week where basically Ozzy will read us a story and we say, who's the asshole? Or if who's the asshole in the story? If the person writing in the story is the asshole, or if they're valid for doing what they have to do.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Ozzy]

Ozzy, I would also just like to say some of these stories that you guys just mentioned should be on Reddit. Oh, like yours one.

[Ms. K]

Really? I feel like.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay, there's a.

[Ozzy]

There's a subreddit called Am I Overreacting?

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, am I overreacting?

[Ozzy]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Okay, let me not. You messing on Reddit.

[Bretman Rock]

No, let me ask you guys first. Was I overreacting for telling my mom? Mom, I'm having a long day. I really don't think I can pick you up today. Can we just reschedule? Because after I got that text from my mom where she meant to text my sister, I literally got so mad, I was like, mom, mom, we're gonna skip lunch today and we can come back. We can regroup on Wednesday tomorrow.

[Ms. K]

That's so funny though.

[Bretman Rock]

Was I overreacting? Let me know. And if I was, I. Trust me, I won't take it very personal, but I don't think so.

[Ms. K]

I would.

[Bretman Rock]

I truly was acting out of. Yeah, honestly. All right, Ozzy, hit us.

[Ozzy]

So I'll read. So just to make sure everyone knows, there's a title to this and then there's a story that comes by. So title title is Am I the asshole? 22 year old female, for not telling my boyfriend, 24 male, about a casual relationship I had with my co worker, 31 male, before I met him.

[Ms. K]

Yes.

[Bretman Rock]

Wait.

[Ms. K]

Oh,

[Bretman Rock]

that was the title.

[Ozzy]

So Brad did the same thing. I'm going to keep this short. I've been dating my boyfriend for about five months now and we've had the whole ex's conversation. But I didn't tell him about the casual slash situationship I had with my co worker that ended just before I met him because it wasn't a boyfriend. So I didn't count it as an example or felt it was serious enough to mention. But two days ago I brought my boyfriend along to drinks with my co workers and one of his friends that we work with got pretty drunk and made a joke about me and my coworker's thing. My boyfriend was then really quiet with me and confronted me when we left. I told him we were just sleeping together for a while and I had have no feelings for him, so I didn't think it was something he needed to know about. However, my boyfriend was so upset with me and says he should know if I've had a thing with someone I currently work with, serious or not. My boyfriend is still angry with me and said because I didn't tell him, he felt I was hiding it from him. Purposefully and now he can't trust me and doesn't like us working together. I really don't think it's a big deal, but I don't want to keep fighting. Am I the asshole?

[Ms. K]

Yes.

[Nikki B]

I would say yes.

[Ms. K]

Yes. Because first of all, you guys had to talk about ex.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Even if it's not an ex. But you guys been sleeping together for like, how many long.

[Nikki B]

And if you're working together, like, you're always going to be in that same space.

[Ms. K]

Yes. And it's, I think also like just having it, like backhanded it to him, like found out from a friend of a co worker.

[Ozzy]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Girl. I would be so caught off guard and I would be so, like, uncomfortable.

[Nikki B]

That's embarrassing.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. I also definitely feel like she. I wouldn't say she's an asshole. I think she's valid for like, not feeling the need to tell him because, I mean, technically they weren't exes and they did have the ex talk. But is the boyfriend valid in this, in this case, I do think he is like to feel. To feel the way that he feels because especially if you're seeing that person day to day to day, like, as. As often as you do work. I don't know how often you work, of course. But if you see this person at work every day, I think it is probably been worth mentioning the situation. I. I do think it was worth mentioning.

[Ms. K]

I get it. If you guys slept once, but that's like you said, multiple times.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

Literally.

[Bretman Rock]

So. So, yeah, I would say she is an the ass. I don't think you should consider you are the asshole in this case because.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, sorry, boo boo.

[Ms. K]

I would have said something.

[Bretman Rock]

I would have said something. And your boyfriend is valid for feeling the way that he does. And I will say also, like, maybe I'm defending the girl because. A little bit defending the girl because my first ex truly thought everybody that I was around, I spoke to. Like, I remember him getting upset at me at the gym that one time we went because I awkwardly walked into someone and I awkwardly walked out and he got mad at me because he thought that the guy that was inside the room that I acted that way because I spoke to him and I'm like, that is the ugliest man I've ever seen in my whole entire life. Like, why would I talk to him? So I get like the boyfriend's trauma of like, giving.

[Ms. K]

Insecurity.

[Nikki B]

Yum.

[Bretman Rock]

Insecurity as in your situation. Yeah. So I guess in a sense. Well, now that I'm saying that Story. I really don't think it even relates to this. I just wanted. I just wanted to talk about my first ex. Thinking he thought he. He thought I talked to everybody, but I don't. Anyways, like.

[Ms. K]

Or especially if we. We're going out with some weird co workers, knowing they all know the situation. Yeah, but you.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, that's kind of sideblining.

[Ms. K]

Yes. That. Setting you up for failure because how are you gonna react period, when you fight, when that comes to life and

[Nikki B]

you have like, nothing to say because you don'.

[Ms. K]

Because she didn't.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, that. Well, ultimately, I will also say I don't think you are meaning to be an. But you are the asshole and your boyfriend's feelings are valid. What are your final thoughts?

[Ms. K]

She's not an. I think she just needs to own up to it.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. And I think if you.

[Ms. K]

Sorry.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, and I think if you explain it the. How she explained it in there, where. Where she was like. Well, I thought we weren't talking about our situationships. Like, did you tell me about all your situationships?

[Ms. K]

Exactly.

[Bretman Rock]

To the boy.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

I think the only part that went wrong was the whole like going out with the co workers and then the. One of the co workers getting drunk too. Yeah. Yeah.

[Nikki B]

Emotions are high, so he.

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Ozzy]

I think she's. Because she kind of dismisses his feelings

[Bretman Rock]

about it too, I think. Oh, you ate that.

[Ozzy]

Oh, sorry.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Bretman Rock]

You ate that.

[Ms. K]

We should

[Bretman Rock]

just like.

[Ozzy]

Well, I do get the. I do get the convenience of reading this before you guys hear about it, so I kind of have it simmering in my eye.

[Bretman Rock]

You thought about it?

[Ozzy]

I thought about it. Okay, next one. Am I the asshole? This is posted seven months ago. Okay, moving on. Boyfriend mad at me because he opened up relationship and got no dates. Am I the asshole for how I responded?

[Ms. K]

Wait, what?

[Bretman Rock]

So the boyfriend opened up the relationship. Is she an asshole for how she responded?

[Ms. K]

Okay, okay. Like open relationship. Okay.

[Nikki B]

Oh, okay.

[Ozzy]

Yep. Me and my boyfriend, both 37, have been dating for just about three. Just over three years. Prior to this, I was single for eight years. Overall, it's been a. It's been a healthy relationship. We are both independent with our jobs, living situations, etc. I do love spending time with him. I don't really have any complaints. However, something that startled me was back about six months ago, him saying that he wanted to open the relationship up, meaning going on dates and sleeping with other women. I've never been in a dynamic like this, so I naturally had a lot of questions. He told me that I could Also go on dates and sleep with other men. I honestly was a little skeptical at first, but after doing some research and having time to think, I agreed. He had told me that if at any point I wasn't comfortable, he could stop and close the relationship up again. One of the rules was we don't discuss with each other what we're doing or who we're going on dates with, etc. I signed up to a dating app. Within a few days I had 500 plus likes. Oh, and it's been and has been pretty steady since. So I started matching with people, texting and arranging dates. On average, I go on one or two dates a month. There are also some people in similar dynamics of open relationships that I am going on dates with, sleeping with regularly. I quite like the fact that everything is non committal. So even though I was skeptical at first, I am enjoying the open relationship.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Ozzy]

As decided from before, I hadn't told my boyfriend about any of this. I was at my boyfriend's house the other day and my phone was on the kitchen counter. He saw my notifications and then proceeded to go through my phone and read messages, including going through the dating app and whatnot. To say he was angry was an understatement. Turns out he opened the relationship up to take on a date. A younger colleague at his workplace who misread his idea of a date as just a work lunch. He then openly told me that he wanted to see if it would work with her so he could ultimately leave me for her. However, she didn't want him and it seems like no one else did either. In the last six months, he's had a few rough dates, but no one additional to sleep with. I feel somewhat embarrassed for him. He demanded we instantly close the relationship up and I told him that maybe we should just end things or at least take a break. He was outraged and called me names. But he was the one who wanted this dynamic. So what's the problem? I left and as I walked home, I contemplated fully breaking it off with him. He's been blowing up my phone and I'm not quite sure what to say. Am I the asshole?

[Ms. K]

No, no. Who the fuck do you think you are?

[Nikki B]

That's how STDs start. That's. I can't. I personally can't do that. Yeah, I can never do no open relationship.

[Ms. K]

I get too much of a jealous girly.

[Bretman Rock]

Thank you. Because I was gonna say exactly that.

[Ms. K]

No, I really am to happen to me, period.

[Bretman Rock]

Like, even a threesome. Like, I can't Even do even. Like. Even a threesome. Like. Like, I could do it if it's a hookup, but, like, with my partner. Boyfriend. Like, I don't think, like, in another country. In another country. I don't know them. They don't know me.

[Ms. K]

I would only do a threesome if it's another country where that my. My partner would never see them again.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. And it would be two, tops.

[Ms. K]

Yes.

[Nikki B]

Yes. Two guys.

[Bretman Rock]

I'm sorry.

[Nikki B]

There's only one pillow princess here, and it's.

[Bretman Rock]

Well, it's us three, but we love

[Ms. K]

the letter H, right?

[Bretman Rock]

A little Eiffel Tower number, capital H.

[Ms. K]

Or.

[Bretman Rock]

Or a W. I'm the one in the middle.

[Nikki B]

W is crazy because one is standing.

[Bretman Rock]

I'm like, face down, ass up. And then another one standing behind.

[Ms. K]

Or the N. I would never. Okay. Making out. You know, a K, maybe.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

We'll never see Alphabet's the Same ever again.

[Ms. K]

Wait, so.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, I don't think. I don't think you're an. I think your boyfriend is ugly and an asshole. And I really think you probably said everything I would have said to.

[Ms. K]

Why the. The whole, like, making it open just so he can date someone to leave you is crazy to me.

[Bretman Rock]

And then when it's not convenient for

[Ms. K]

him because it's not working out for you, girl.

[Bretman Rock]

Because girl.

[Nikki B]

Bye.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, I don't. I can't even. I don't think we need. Even need to discuss this one.

[Ms. K]

You're fine.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah, doing.

[Nikki B]

You keep getting your 500 likes, babes.

[Bretman Rock]

Keep getting that cookie ate. Keep going on those dates.

[Nikki B]

Steady, she said. She said steady.

[Bretman Rock]

And be with someone that honors you. Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Yeah. Third, it's giving one of those, like, what. What is that one saying where, like, you can't. When you speak something, you gotta dish it out. But you have to be able to, like, don't, like.

[Bretman Rock]

Don't talk about it. Be about it.

[Nikki B]

No, I think.

[Ms. K]

Oh, like, if you can't dish something, you. You're able to, like, whatever.

[Bretman Rock]

If you can't eat it, don't dish it.

[Nikki B]

I don't think.

[Bretman Rock]

I don't think it's that.

[Nikki B]

It's like, yeah, something like that.

[Ozzy]

You can dish it out, but you can't take it.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Or something like that.

[Bretman Rock]

I can always take it.

[Nikki B]

I really play that game.

[Ms. K]

A tip for attack.

[Nikki B]

I hate that.

[Bretman Rock]

I can hear everything. A tip for tat.

[Ms. K]

What can you say?

[Bretman Rock]

I'm like. I can always take it. Okay, Oz, next story.

[Ozzy]

Okay, that's gonna be our last story for today.

[Ms. K]

Okay, so this one Leaves so bad.

[Ozzy]

Like I know kind of have to go.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay, he does actually.

[Ozzy]

So this one is. This is something that didn't happen yet, but they're asking in advance just because they're thinking about doing something. Okay, this one's kind of like sad or morbid. Will I be the for remarrying my ex even though I'm going to to die?

[Ms. K]

Yes.

[Bretman Rock]

Hold on, hold on. This is heavy.

[Ozzy]

Yeah, I know this post is morbid and dark, so I apologize for that. This post is pretty popular, so wanted to read this one for you guys.

[Bretman Rock]

Okay.

[Ozzy]

I 36, female, I'm close to dying. I have terminal cancer and I only have about a year or two left. I've accepted and made my peace with it and I don't mind openly talking about it. I also have a less than common relationship. My current partner, boyfriend, 38, male, is also my ex husband. Me and him married right out of high school, stayed together through college, had three kids together, 12, 11 and 4. We divorced when our daughter was 3 because of his intense work schedule. It was a lot of heartbreak and pain, but at the time it felt right for both of us. Despite that. Two years after the divorce, I was first diagnosed with cancer and he reduced his work hours so he could take more time with the kids and it slowly shifted to him also taking care of me and we rekindled our romance but didn't get remarried. I got lucky the first time around and was declared cancer free at 31. I had my youngest child at 32 and was re diagnosed at 34. We tried treatments, but it's been recently declared terminal. Please don't feel sorry for me or throw me a pity party. I've gotten to live the life I wanted and I'm okay with the fact that I'll most likely die before 40. The only thing that causes me any emotional pain is that I won't see my kids grow up and experience life milestones like graduating, getting married and having kids. Long backstory. But here's the problem. My partner and I have discussed it and we want to remarry each other. I want him to be listed as my husband in my obituary. I want him to be able to make medical decisions in case I'm unable to. This one is big for me because of my situation and so that he can get survivor benefits when I pass. My sister, 38, female, says that it's cruel to remarry him knowing I'm going to die soon and that if I loved him, I wouldn't have divorced him in the first place. And that by remarrying him, I'm disrespecting the sanctity of marriage. And by doing it willy nilly, I

[Bretman Rock]

already know who the asshole is in the story.

[Ozzy]

She also said I probably used my diagnosis the first time around to get his pity love so he'd get back with me since it resolved the main issue from our divorce.

[Bretman Rock]

Who's this again?

[Ms. K]

The sister.

[Ozzy]

Her sister. So Reddit. I was wondering if it's really bad for me to remarry my ex. I love this man. We both regretted our divorce and are so grateful that life brought us back together. But now that I'm close to death, we want our love to be legally recognized.

[Nikki B]

Who the fuck is a sister?

[Bretman Rock]

I know. Girl, drop her pin.

[Ms. K]

She's giving like. Like she's giving like she likes the husband.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

Or she's giving. She want that benefit.

[Bretman Rock]

Yes, it's giving very much.

[Ms. K]

I don't think so.

[Bretman Rock]

It's giving very much. Hater.

[Ms. K]

Yes.

[Bretman Rock]

Because while Ozzy was reading it, obviously my first question was, why do you want to remarry your ex?

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

And then when he was explaining the reasons, I think those were very bad.

[Ms. K]

And it's not like they dated outside of their marriage. Like they kind of just stayed together

[Bretman Rock]

and they have three kids.

[Ms. K]

And if a divorce was like the reason for him to like work less, so be.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. And I feel like unmarried people break up and get back together all the time. Like, what is the stigma with doing it when you're married, divorced, and then want to get married again? Like, I don't see the problem in that at all. Do you guys?

[Nikki B]

No, No, I don't think.

[Ms. K]

Especially because they talked about it and he seems okay with getting remarried.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

And this isn't like a personal. Obviously I'm not. I don't have cancer like anything but like I personally wouldn't want to remarry someone I was already divorced with to begin with. But in your case, girl, clearly love was always around like, because like the

[Ms. K]

reason why they broke up wasn't like anything infidelity. Like, it was just like. Yeah, because they didn't have time for each other. Yeah. Like that.

[Bretman Rock]

And I just feel like your sister is jealous and I think your sister is the in this.

[Ms. K]

Yeah. It's trying a benefit.

[Bretman Rock]

Ozzy. I would love to know what the netizens thought about this.

[Ozzy]

The top comment here is if your ex is all in on this, what business is your sister?

[Ms. K]

Exactly.

[Bretman Rock]

Do we know where his ex stands on this?

[Ozzy]

No, I'm Sure.

[Bretman Rock]

She's talked about it with him.

[Ozzy]

Sure. Well, I mean, it sounds like they both talked about it.

[Bretman Rock]

Right.

[Ozzy]

I do want to kind of play devil's advocate with this, though, because the first. The first time when they were married, the reason why they got divorced was because of his work schedule.

[Ms. K]

Right.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Ozzy]

And then now that, you know, she has cancer, that he kind of was able to adjust his schedule so that he could make more time for his kids and then eventually take care of her.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Ozzy]

So I'm assuming there's. There's a little bit more than just his work schedule, because if you can do that now, then why did you do that back then kind of thing. And then there's also the thought, like, I'm not saying that this is the reason why he fell back in love, but, you know, there's always that. You know, if you've. If you've once loved someone and now it's kind of like the fear taking over of, like, you're never gonna see this person again, then maybe that. That longing is coming back, like, oh, like, you. Like you love them. Yeah, that pity. That. Like, she mentioned pity, love. So what if that was the reason? Would that change anything?

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. And then again, not to say this is what he's for, but, like, the survivor's benefit, like, you know what I mean? Like, what if he's like, she's not

[Ms. K]

only thinking about herself at this point. She's only think. She's also thinking about him.

[Bretman Rock]

No, what I'm saying. And, like, what if he's trying to remarry her so that he could get the benefit?

[Kiana]

Benefit.

[Ms. K]

But that's what she said. So he can get the benefit.

[Bretman Rock]

But what I am saying, like, the intention. The only reason why he's with her.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, that's like, the intention.

[Bretman Rock]

You know what I mean?

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Like, he's not really, like, loving her. He's doing it because he wants.

[Nikki B]

He wants to benefit.

[Ms. K]

Well, that's another story then.

[Nikki B]

Well, write it in your will, babes.

[Ms. K]

Yeah, imagine. Imagine if, like, the sister is saying no because they started a relationship with the husband. But, like, the husband's like, okay, well, I have to stay with her so we can get the money.

[Bretman Rock]

Well, then wouldn't that mean the Doug's sister would agree with the guy being like, yeah, we do need them.

[Ms. K]

Or what if the sister knows the guy was doing that?

[Bretman Rock]

That's why she's like, I still don't think you're the.

[Ms. K]

Yeah. I feel like you are the victim, if anything.

[Kiana]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

I would love to Know more though. I really would love to know.

[Nikki B]

We need more context.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. Come on. The pod, please. Should we do product of the day?

[Nikki B]

Yes.

[Bretman Rock]

I'll go first. I feel like I'm always making you guys go first. My product of the day.

[Ms. K]

Oh, yes. Of course.

[Bretman Rock]

Not my bag. But it's in here.

[Ms. K]

It should be for the rest of the week.

[Bretman Rock]

I actually do have two product of the day because I love them so much. The one size oil sucker, y'.

[Nikki B]

All.

[Bretman Rock]

Oh, wow.

[Ms. K]

Matt did it matte.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. Look at it after. I love that spray so much. It's better than any blotting sheets I've ever gotten. Speaking of sheets, I love these uni free, clear, flushable wipes. I have them in all my bags.

[Ms. K]

That's good for like, bathrooms.

[Bretman Rock]

Just bathrooms. Emergency shit. But also just like, I'm. I like.

[Ms. K]

Like dirty tables.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. But I like. I feel like I get a cleaner hand wash with this than like using the sanitizer. Like, if my hand was dirty, I don't think I sanitize would get rid of the. It would just like the giant.

[Nikki B]

Just like.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah. So I like this for my. Just wiping my hands before I eat or anything. But yeah, these two are my two product of the day. Ms. K, what is your product of the day?

[Ms. K]

My product of the day is this foundation called Skin to Fic. Brett gave this to me. I'm in the color beige 4. I love this. Does not oxidizes and it has like a really nice, like, clean finish.

[Bretman Rock]

You said you might like it a little bit more than the.

[Ms. K]

But I still love the turtle.

[Bretman Rock]

She. That one just oxidizes. I feel like this is very your shade right now.

[Ms. K]

It is my shade. Like, perfect shade. My sister was gonna steal this, but then I was like, girl. She was like. The first thing she said was like,

[Bretman Rock]

where did you get your skin to fit me? I found skin to fit because I have been seeing their stick mask all over on TikTok and I eventually.

[Ms. K]

I love that one too.

[Nikki B]

So good.

[Ms. K]

I love how opaque it is. Just one glide. It's like very opaque.

[Nikki B]

Oh, that's the one.

[Bretman Rock]

I talked about them last week and I gave you guys the p. Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

I found them through that and then we ended up working together and they sent me more products. And I really love that you should

[Nikki B]

send more products, period.

[Bretman Rock]

Ms. Nikki, baby.

[Nikki B]

My product is hat. This hat. This is Trans Pacific from.

[Ms. K]

Where did you get that?

[Nikki B]

I got this from Brat.

[Bretman Rock]

I got this from Brett W. I'm just providing.

[Ms. K]

Literally.

[Nikki B]

Literally. Honestly, I've been Wearing a lot of. Especially during summer. I love to wear a lot of hats because I'm always in the sun. We're always going to the beach. So it's like. It's just good to.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Ms. K]

Do people ask you if you're trans if you're wearing that? No, I love.

[Bretman Rock]

I love that it says what you are and where you're from. Oh, she's trans. From the Pacific.

[Nikki B]

Oh, yeah. Yeah, that part.

[Ms. K]

I hate you.

[Nikki B]

No, but it's really. I love it, guys. Like, the quality is really good.

[Ms. K]

You should put a flower right here. I put a flower on mines.

[Nikki B]

A little flower.

[Bretman Rock]

A pua. Like a pool.

[Nikki B]

Yeah, true.

[Ms. K]

Because it covers right here and then there's a hole. So you just stick it right there and it acts like a little flower right here.

[Nikki B]

Oh, I love a good hat. I feel like everyone should be wearing

[Bretman Rock]

hats during summer, honestly. As you should.

[Ms. K]

An spf.

[Nikki B]

Yeah.

[Bretman Rock]

Have like, dark foreheads. When we were in high school. Middle school.

[Ms. K]

No, no.

[Bretman Rock]

I had the darkest forehead ever because of just track and ever beach sun.

[Nikki B]

That part. No, it's crazy. Ever beach is so hot, guys.

[Bretman Rock]

It's so hot. Ozzy, do you have any product of the week day?

[Ozzy]

I brought my ukulele

[Nikki B]

I heard you playing earlier.

[Ms. K]

I was like, what is that noise?

[Nikki B]

Are you gonna play?

[Ozzy]

So the only ukulele I have.

[Ms. K]

Oh, he has a signature.

[Ozzy]

Who's that signature from top one is Roman.

[Nikki B]

Oh, Yep. Oh, wow.

[Ozzy]

And then this one is from Imua Garza from P Pickers.

[Nikki B]

Okay.

[Ozzy]

But I brought it because I've been. I don't know. There's like two videos I saw on TikTok where people are saying ukulele lately. And I'm like, ukulele for everybody.

[Bretman Rock]

Ukulele or a ukulele.

[Ozzy]

And I will play it for our

[Bretman Rock]

ukulele or the ending song. Oh, you should play, like. Can you play, like a little one string while we talk about our background music?

[Nikki B]

Oh, that's cute.

[Ms. K]

That's cute. Okay, guys, we have to talk like that.

[Bretman Rock]

Yeah.

[Nikki B]

Like what?

[Ms. K]

Like a very.

[Bretman Rock]

Like, go far. There is too loud.

[Ms. K]

Okay, guys.

[Bretman Rock]

All right. Nikki B. Where can the people find you?

[Nikki B]

You can find me at love, Nikki B. L U V N A C K I I B and C Breeze Collective.

[Ms. K]

And you guys can find me at M I S K A Y E on anything. And at the baddest radio.

[Bretman Rock]

And of course, I am Bretman Rock everywhere. Make sure you guys like and subscribe to the baddest radio and give it the best rating there ever is. Or was. Thank you guys so much for watching. Ozzy.

[Ms. K]

Wait, is that the song?

[Bretman Rock]

Girl, you. I was trying to have a clean transition to it.

[Nikki B]

Ozzy.

[Ms. K]

Girl.

[Ozzy]

I was gonna play another song.

[Bretman Rock]

Ozzy, sing us out, girl.

[Ms. K]

Yeah, exactly. Wait, you know what song? I'm so.

[Ozzy]

Yeah, but now I'm dodging puddles in my.

[Nikki B]

Room.

[Ozzy]

In my.

[Bretman Rock]

Bye. I'll see you next Thursday. Yeah, don't forget to follow rate and like you can follow me at bretmanrock on everything and follow the podcast at the baddest radio on all social media. Bye Beach. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.

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