Dating My Assistant?!

Summary

DaBaddest Radio – "Dating My Assistant?!"

Podcast: DaBaddest Radio
Host: Bretman Rock (with co-hosts Ms. K, Kat, Ozzy)
Release Date: February 5, 2026
Episode Theme: A playful, insightful date with Bretman Rock’s assistant Kat, exploring work dynamics, dating, self-worth, and relationship standards—with signature Bretman sass and candid humor.

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Episode Overview

This week, Bretman Rock turns Valentine’s season into an in-studio “date” with Kat, his long-time assistant. The episode is a blend of funny first-date questions, candid admissions about self-confidence and relationships, as well as honest talk about boundaries, communication, and ambitions. Fans wanting a dose of personality, laughs, and the Baddest wisdom will not be disappointed!

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Valentine's Day, Affirmations & Imagination (00:46 – 14:15)

• Opening Banter and V-Day Chatter:

  • Bretman kicks off with light-hearted talk about Valentine’s Day plans and self-love.
  • Kat jokes her own Valentine is herself, highlighting empowerment and self-appreciation (01:12).

• 'Tea of the Week':

  • Ms. K shares a homemade guava mocktail recipe, which the crew reviews live (“Very tropical… tastes like alcohol, but it’s a good bait!” – Kat, 04:37).

• Viral Drama:

  • The group discusses a recent Beckham family controversy involving a wedding dance and public airing of family issues.
  • “I feel like anyone’s wedding day should be theirs, and I think it should always be respectful, regardless.” – Bretman (07:00).

• Affirmations & Positive Self-talk:

  • Bretman reads an old journal entry: “I’m pretty. I’m pretty. I’m pretty.” (09:08)
  • Kat describes her gym affirmation: “I just whisper to myself like, ‘I’m a bad b*tch’... I can finish this workout.” (09:44)
  • Discussion on learning to be kinder to ourselves and recognizing negative self-talk (19:17–19:36).

• Imagination & Aphantasia:

  • A lively segment about visual imagination, different degrees people experience, and how reading as kids shapes this (10:33–15:08).
  • Memorable quote: “If you say banana, I see that banana in the wilderness!” – Bretman (11:00)
  • Ozzy breaks down the 1-5 “Aphantasia” scale, prompting everyone to self-assess (14:07–14:52).

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2. Life Updates with Kat: Confidence and Fitness (20:00–22:29)

• Kat’s Wellness Journey:
  • Kat shares she started tirzepatide in November and has lost 25 pounds, plus started group fitness classes with Bretman (20:13).
  • Lively anecdotes about the challenges and camaraderie of working out with friends: “I like it because we all hold each other accountable” – Kat (21:33).
  • The group jokes about playful trash talk as motivation (“Who’s gonna be a b*tch tonight?” – Bretman, 22:01).

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3. First Date Q&A with Kat (22:11–34:50)

• Favorite First Date Questions:

  • “When’s your birthday?” so Bretman can stealthily determine someone’s zodiac sign (22:13).
  • Kat identifies as a Taurus: “I like to eat and sleep and I’m a homebody.” (22:44)
  • Kat’s sugar daddy era: “They come and go… I like flowers, and if I need something, they’re there.” (23:44)
  • The group cycles through ideal date questions: hobbies, thrift shop finds (23:31–24:42), and favorite physical features.

• Self-Love & Features:

  • The hosts reflect on their favorite features (“Usually my boobs” – Kat; “I love my nose” – Ms. K; “My lips” – Bretman, 26:23–27:04).

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4. Values, Communication, and Red Flags (29:02–40:41)

• What Do You Value in Relationships?

  • Kat: “Somebody who has a goal for themselves for five years, period.” (30:17)
  • She values giving and wants a partner with matching effort: “I’m such a lover girl, and to be with someone who’s not a lover boy... what are we doing here?” (30:52)

• Dealing with Issues:

  • Kat: “I’ll always tell them, like, I didn’t like that... because I want them to tell me right away.” (33:29)
  • Ms. K, more avoidant: “I’m gonna give you the silent treatment, then you’re gonna be like, ‘Babe, what’s wrong?’ ‘Nothing. You just did this.’” (33:55)

• Communication Habits & Growth:

  • The group shares learning to change old patterns—like “matching energy” when texting, setting boundaries, and not tolerating disrespect.
  • Memorable admission: “I literally typed ‘read’—that’s crazy.” – Bretman, about faking read receipts (47:50).

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5. Petty Confessions, Exes, and Boundaries (46:54–52:29)

• Petty Moments:

  • Kat: “If I’m not feeling them, I’ll just ask them for an absurd amount of money... Thank God, now you’ll go away.” (48:33)
  • Ms. K: “I use the trans card... and I hate it when they say ‘I’m OK with that’... what do I say next?” (48:47)
  • Bretman recounts praying for their ex to dump them and the shame of returning to a toxic ex (“Praying for someone to leave you is actually crazy.” – 50:10).

• Deal Breakers:

  • Kat’s have matured from “no smoking” to “if we don’t align in five-year goals, or you ignore me, that’s the dealbreaker.” (51:48)
  • Kat contemplates getting a “tramp stamp” after exes protested it, wanting to remain true to herself (52:30).

• Sacrificing for Partners:

  • The group debates relationships where one gives up major life goals: “I would feel more... the selfishness would take over the love.” – Bretman, about a partner passing on dreams for him (54:52).

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6. Lightning Round: Turn-Ons, Turn-Offs, and Future Plans (57:08–59:45)

• Turn-Ons/Offs:

  • Turn-on: “A blue collar worker.” – Kat (57:15)
  • Turn-off: “Guys in super skinny jeans... I shouldn’t be able to see your cat.” – Kat (57:26)

• Most Romantic Gesture:

  • “He set up the bed of his truck to watch the stars... Even though he’s a piece of sh*t, it was a really cute gesture.” – Kat (58:00)

• Dream Life:

  • Kat wants a farm, agritourism, baking for kids, and motherhood by 35 (“It’ll be time for me to leave Bretman... I will have children, trust.” – 59:06)

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Notable Quotes

| Timestamp | Quote | Speaker | |-----------|--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------|----------------| | 09:08 | “I really just wrote ‘I’m pretty’ over and over and over.” | Bretman | | 09:44 | “When I’m in the gym and I’m struggling, I just whisper to myself like, ‘I’m a bad b*tch.’” | Kat | | 11:00 | “If you say banana, I see that banana in the wilderness!” | Bretman | | 19:36 | “More kinder words. She’s not stupid. She’s stupid!” | Bretman | | 22:44 | “I like to eat and sleep and I’m a homebody.” | Kat | | 23:44 | “They come and go... If I need something, they’re there and I know they’re there.” | Kat | | 26:23 | “Usually my boobs.” | Kat | | 30:17 | “Somebody who has a goal for themselves for five years, period.” | Kat | | 33:29 | “I’ll always tell them, like, I didn’t like that.” | Kat | | 47:50 | “I literally typed ‘read’—that’s crazy.” | Bretman | | 51:48 | “If our five years don’t match up or align, I’m not willing to push things around.” | Kat | | 54:52 | “I would feel more... the selfishness would take over the love.” | Bretman | | 57:15 | “A blue collar worker.” | Kat | | 57:26 | “I shouldn’t be able to see your cat.” | Kat | | 58:00 | “Honestly, it was the last person I talked to and he set up... his truck to watch the stars.” | Kat | | 59:06 | “It’ll be time for me to leave Bretman... I will have children, trust.” | Kat |

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:46 — Opening banter, Valentine's chat, Kat returns
• 03:23 — Tea of the Week: Guava mocktail review
• 05:12 — Viral wedding drama discussion
• 09:08 — Affirmations and positive self-talk
• 10:33 — Imagination and aphantasia conversation
• 20:13 — Kat’s fitness & weight loss journey
• 22:13 — First date Q&A kicks off
• 26:23 — Favorite features & self-love
• 29:02 — Values in relationships
• 33:29 — Addressing issues in relationships
• 47:50 — Petty confessions, fake read receipts
• 51:48 — Deal breakers and non-negotiables
• 54:52 — Debating chasing dreams vs. relationships
• 57:08 — Rapid-fire questions
• 59:06 — Kat’s five-year plan
• 60:32 — Product of the Day: Casetify and Pacifica sprays

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Memorable Moments & Tone

• Bretman’s Playful Host Energy: The episode is packed with irreverent humor, sly self-roasts, and deadpan admissions—trademark “Bretman to Earth, Earth to Bretman” moments.
• Candid, Relatable Relationship Talk: No topic is too silly or too profound—from silent treatments to setting serious boundaries and loving yourself first.
• Kat’s Glow-Up: Kat’s journey, both physical and emotional, is celebrated—punctuated by authentic laughs and the group’s supportive energy.
• Lightning-Fast Banter: The group pivots rapidly from jokes (“I am the table” – 32:52) to serious reflection, making for a dynamic, digestible listen.

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Summary

If you missed Episode "Dating My Assistant?!", you missed out on a hilariously vulnerable “date” with Kat, packed with wisdom on friendship, self-love, and the real talk behind modern dating—all filtered through the fearless wit of Bretman Rock and friends. From favorite features to five-year plans, listeners get honesty, heart, and a hefty dose of Baddest energy.

Transcript

[A]

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. Ayo, it is Thursday yet again.

[B]

I thought you were gonna be like Ayo. You already know.

[C]

Hey.

[B]

Oh, you already know.

[A]

Oh, my God. Your friend send you this? I mean, is that the one?

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

Ayo, if your friend sent me this video.

[B]

Oh, my gosh.

[A]

Tick tock day. Hey, everyone, it is Thursday. Not only that, it is also February area. Make your speakers blow your mind. Whoa.

[B]

I did not give you in a segue to that. Right, right, right.

[A]

Girl, you know me. I'm like the queen of sanctuary.

[B]

Yo, yo.

[A]

And this is what you did. Yeah, you know me, girl. I am musically inclined. This is our first February episode.

[B]

Yes. Happy February.

[A]

Happy February, everyone. I really don't want to get into the Valentine's day question, but Ms. K, do you have Valentine's this year?

[B]

Yes, I do, actually.

[A]

I know you do, but you're not gonna tell us about it.

[B]

It's me, period. I'm gonna take myself out that day.

[A]

I don't have a February Valentine's Day.

[B]

February 14th Valentine's. But you're going to have a February 28th Valentine.

[A]

What is that?

[B]

Aren't you going somewhere?

[A]

No, that's supposed to be this month. Right, right, right, right. We'll get into that. We'll get into that. Well, cue the intro. The Bretman to Earth. Earth to Bratman. Girl, you already know who it is. And we are back. I don't know if you guys were paying attention in a couple episodes ago, but I was saying how we need to go on dates with people.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And I feel like it's only right we go on a date with someone the audience is already familiar with. And she's in the studio audience with us today. I hear you giggling.

[B]

I would never go out with a cat.

[C]

I know.

[B]

Like, ew.

[A]

We're not that desperate, but we have Kat in the studio today.

[B]

Hey, cat.

[A]

Come join us. Come join us.

[B]

See, you are joining us, Literally.

[A]

And she. Yeah. Today we are going on a date with Ms. Kat A. Hi, everyone. Hey, everyone. Ms. Kat is in town today. Not really, but she always. She stayed in town. So many speculations were happening with Kat because she hasn't been in a lot of episodes. People thought I fired her. People thought she disappeared, but really, she just been clocked in doing the dogs when we're filming these. Or she's honestly been cooking my meal preps a lot as well when we're filming these. So, no, Ms. Kat is not fired. She's just been not in her producer era because. Yeah, Because Kat is one. Not a producer. She is a professional celebrity assistant and Professional celebrity assistant. Exactly. That's what we. That's what we call her.

[B]

Right.

[A]

Period. But we go. But before we get in more deeper and get to know Ms. Kat more, Ms. K, would you like to tell us the tea of the week?

[B]

This tea of the week is kind of very spontaneous, but I saw you.

[A]

Were doing a TikTok video on it.

[B]

I was like, what's a quiet one? Because I'm gonna do a voiceover.

[A]

Right, Right.

[B]

But anyways, I made what I was like looking up like, what can I make with a guava? Because I was like, I saw your guava on this stuff and I saw this guava margarita. This doesn't have any alcohol. Don't worry. But I added. So it's basically guava with coconut water, soy vanilla milk with lime.

[A]

Okay, let's taste her.

[B]

Oh, my gosh.

[A]

She looks interesting.

[B]

Oh, and then I added some salt rim.

[A]

Okay. Margarita.

[B]

Because the picture had one.

[A]

And this cups I got from Japan when I went. I like collecting hello Kitty, but only the tan hello Kitty. I know nobody asked, but if you guys were gonna get me a hello Kitty, give me a tan one. All right, let's taste this.

[B]

Try it. Cheers. Cat hair.

[C]

You want to try it first?

[A]

Okay. That's very tropical.

[B]

Oh, I feel like I didn't put alcohol in that.

[C]

It tastes like alcohol.

[B]

Yeah. Oh, I like it though.

[A]

The salt rim does something to me.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

It's very tropical. Yeah. Very coconutty.

[A]

That's good.

[B]

Wow.

[A]

It does taste like something that would have alcohol in it though. It's really good. It's a good bait.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

It's like a pina colada.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

It's similar to that Virginia period.

[A]

Okay.

[D]

Wow.

[B]

I was so scared of that.

[C]

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

[A]

Did you have any tea of the week? Yes.

[B]

Have you guys been going around social media lately?

[A]

Well, always.

[B]

Duh.

[A]

Stays clocked in.

[B]

So a certain person got married recently and they've been getting backlash about it. And I want to know you guys opinion because I don't really know what happened, so.

[A]

But you just wanna.

[B]

No, it's like, I know what happened. I just want to know your insights about it because I'm very confused because for me I'm like, I don't see anything wrong with like a mom dancing. Very provocative at a their. It's a family party people does that no matter who you.

[A]

I don't. I actually don't know what you're talking about.

[B]

Oh. So the The Backham family.

[A]

The Back family had.

[B]

Their oldest son got married. Oldest, right?

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Their eldest son got married to this lady. But blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then I guess things started. Like, the story's coming out.

[C]

He made, like, a really big post.

[B]

I think, about, like.

[C]

About, like, how he's mad at his family or something like that.

[B]

Yes. Because the mom was dancing provocative at his family wedding, and, like, they were being rude to the wife and stuff like that.

[A]

Can you play with that thing?

[B]

Oh, yeah. Sorry, sorry.

[A]

I didn't see that.

[B]

It's all over the Internet right now, and, like. Like, celebrities are getting involved.

[C]

Really?

[B]

It was just like, a bunch of, like, clips of, like, people at the wedding.

[A]

How provocative was she dancing? Like, was she stripping? No.

[B]

Like, basically, like, was she giving her dancing?

[A]

Was she giving her.

[B]

Oh, my God, no, no, no. I don't think, like, that.

[C]

No. Someone said that it was supposed to be him and his wife first dance, but the singer called up the mom instead of the wife, and, like, that's what, like, started the whole thing.

[B]

So what was that?

[C]

That's what I saw.

[A]

I have no idea. But I really feel like if someone's having their way, like, my. This is just me. From what I learned just now, I feel like anyone's wedding day should be theirs, and I think it should always be respectful, regardless. I don't know how provocative this dance was or if it was really just the incident of, like, yeah, the singer calling up the mom. But I think, regardless, I think anyone's wedding should always be respected and reserved for the wedding people.

[C]

What do you guys feel about him posting online like that, though? Like, putting all their business out there. I don't know how much he put. I just, like. I just remember seeing, like, is it that necessary?

[B]

Like, he could text the group chat family and be like.

[A]

If you're asking me personally, I'm not reading all that.

[C]

Right?

[A]

Yeah, but I'm not reading all that. I don't care enough about the Beckhams to be reading all that, to be honest with you.

[B]

I actually seen one before with you.

[A]

What?

[B]

At Kenzo.

[A]

What is that?

[B]

Kenzo?

[A]

When we went to Paris, the after.

[B]

Party we went to, he was there.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

The oldest one that got married. That's the one that we were talking. He was there with the girl, and then they were walking in. I don't know. I don't know. I don't think Brett is paying attention to people, but I like to pay attention to. I'm a very observant person, so I Saw him and then whatever. Whatever. And then.

[A]

Yeah, period. What do you think about it?

[B]

Girl?

[A]

You'll be asking me.

[B]

I just think.

[A]

No.

[B]

Yeah. From what you said, I think that's what I think as well.

[A]

Yeah. I feel like anyone's opinion don't really matter.

[B]

I wouldn't be.

[A]

If they felt disrespected and they wanted to put it out in the public, then I think on them, I wouldn't do it personally.

[B]

Yeah, I would just text my mom.

[C]

Yeah, I would just, like. If I felt disrespected, I would just distance myself.

[A]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

Keep it cute.

[A]

Keep it cute. Anyways, let's do my tea of the week. I found a O. Since we're celebrating February, I want to read my February 1, 2020.

[B]

That's what you're gonna read?

[A]

This is what I read, bro. February 1, 2025. So this was exactly. Well, not exactly, but like, a year ago. I really just wrote I'm pretty over and over and over.

[B]

I'm pretty.

[A]

It just says, I'm pretty. I'm pretty. I'm pretty. I'm pretty. I'm pretty. I'm pretty. I'm pretty.

[B]

Did you read the. Did you write the Cat's Eye song?

[A]

Yeah, I'm pretty. Oh, my God. I might have. I go through it. Yeah. No, you did.

[B]

They saw your diary, and I was like, inspo.

[C]

Inspo.

[A]

Wow. Okay. Well, that was that. Yeah, I'm pretty.

[B]

What?

[A]

Do you guys have any words of affirmations that you'd like to tell yourselves? How do you guys give yourself words of affirmation?

[C]

When I'm in the gym and I'm struggling, I just whisper to myself like, I'm a Babch. I'm a Babbage. And in my head, I'm just like, I can finish this workout.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But that's about it. I don't know.

[A]

Mine says, you've gone through worse. You've gone through worse. Really?

[C]

Are you, like, in the gym doing your playing cops saying, you've got.

[A]

Yeah, you've got through worse. You've got through worse.

[B]

I feel like M is like, you're not a quitter.

[A]

You're not a quitter, or you're not a period? I'm like, you're not a beach ozzy. As a straight person, do you talk to yourself? What do you tell yourself? Okay, lock the in.

[B]

But I do be having conversations with myself, too.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, yeah, I'd just be asking myself, like, oh, how are you?

[A]

I mean, yeah, I feel like I talk to myself. All the time. Yes.

[B]

Or like, pep talks, you know?

[A]

You know what? I always. This is literally a whole different conversation. But there's a lot of people out there who can't imagine things.

[B]

That's so sad.

[A]

Like, they can't picture things in their brain. And I always wonder. Yes.

[B]

What should we try an exercise where you give us a fruit and we try to picture in our head, and then you gotta see if you can see it vividly or, like, not really, or, like. Yeah, you see it.

[A]

Oh, I'm super imaginative.

[B]

Oh, really?

[A]

If you say banana, I see that banana in the wilderness. Like, you know how, like, when people think banana, it's like a black screen and a banana?

[B]

No, but are you, like, thinking about, like, because you know what it looks like, or are you, like, thinking of the image and you're, like, seeing it? Do you know what I mean?

[A]

Bitch, what the fuck did you just say?

[B]

No, because there's two different things. Like, okay, so the one that you're talking about is, like, you can see an actual image in your head. But the ones that, like, sometimes people are, like, saying, like, oh, just because I know what a banana looks like. I'm like, I know what a banana. So I already know what it looks like.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, a lot of people think like that, you know.

[A]

So what are you asking me?

[B]

So can you see it vividly, like, with an image? Or are you just thinking it because, like, you're saying banana image.

[A]

I think it's also because, like, I. Well, not anymore, obviously, but, like, I read a lot of books when I was a little kid, so I think imagining it was all, like. I mean, literally, that's all you could do when you read a book. Like, I read the Hunger Games before the Hunger Games movie came out. And I will tell you, none of that. None of that shit.

[B]

Look.

[A]

Was what it looked like in my head. But seeing it on video is like, oh, my God, that's crazy. Like, that people interpreted the world of Hunger Games. Yes. This way. In this. In this director's vision. Because that's not what I saw in. When I was reading it in my head. Does that make sense?

[B]

Yes, it does. Because, like, an example is, like, I like to watch people's reaction. And, like, for the movie Wicked, for all the people that saw it in Broadway and, like, they've seen it on, like, the movie theaters. You could literally see them crying because it's like, wow, this is what Oz would look like.

[A]

Yeah, that's true.

[B]

Yeah. Without, like, being, like, in the Broadway.

[C]

Instead of, you Know, do you guys ever, like, imagine so much, like, about certain, like, things that could happen and you start, like, to cry? Well, yeah, just reimagination.

[B]

My drive home.

[C]

Oh, yeah, same. On my drives, I'm always like, a single mother. Like, a single mom.

[A]

Two jobs. Two jobs.

[C]

I'm like, thinking, like, conversations with my kids, like, you better have that chicken thawed out, girl.

[B]

I'm not that in.

[A]

I'm not that locked in.

[B]

She's like, having an imagination imaginary phone call, like.

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Hey, Billy, did you take out the trash yet?

[A]

No, for sure. I do have, like, things like that, but obviously not in that retrospect. Like, I imagine a lot about my future and how I would be frolicking around in my 70 acres in the Philippines with a. With a. With a horse. And I'm, like, whacking that horse vibes, like, And I see myself with long, like, salt and pepper hair, like. Yeah, I see that far in.

[B]

Would you say, like, how, like, we. You know, how, like, we would, like, fake interview ourselves like that kind of all the time.

[A]

Oh, girl. Yeah.

[B]

So it's like that.

[A]

Yeah, yeah.

[C]

Even when I was younger and, like, I feel like YouTube wasn't that big. Like, it was still pretty big. I was still, like, you know, do my own. Like, this is. Okay, guys, this is the product. Like, pretend. I'm, like, recording myself.

[D]

That condition is called Aphantasia, by the way.

[C]

Yeah, I heard somebody said it's actually, like, it's not disease, but, like, it's a thing.

[D]

No, I mean, and there's, like, five degrees to it.

[A]

Oh, tell us all the degrees.

[D]

So five degrees on a scale one to five. Five is, like. You can imagine it, like, lifelike. Like, it's there.

[A]

Okay. Okay.

[B]

I feel like delusional, schizophrenic, probably.

[D]

And then four. Four is, like, clear and vivid. So you can kind of picture it without, like, the highlights and stuff.

[B]

Okay, that's me.

[A]

I feel like I'm at a four.

[D]

And then three is moderately clear and vivid. Two is dim and vague, and then one is like.

[A]

You can't picture anything interesting.

[D]

So it looks like this.

[B]

The 1, 2, 3. I feel like I'm a number two.

[C]

Oh, I'm a five.

[A]

I'm a five.

[B]

Actually.

[C]

I be seeing it all.

[B]

Yeah, I'm a three.

[D]

Two is crazy three.

[A]

Okay, that's good.

[B]

Every time I read a book, girl just reads nothing. Yes. Every time you tell me a story, I can't imagine it. I just. It just goes through, like, an information.

[A]

Oh, period. We should do that exercise that you're talking about.

[B]

And I have to, like. And I have to like, if, let's say, like, let's say you were talking to me about, like, a. Another person. Like, I have to know the name for me to create a character in my head.

[C]

Oh, really?

[A]

Yeah. Period.

[D]

The conditions need to be met before.

[B]

You because if you're just telling me, like, a story without, like, context, it would just be like, just your point of view and like, you saying stuff.

[A]

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[A]

What were we talking about? Before I even.

[B]

Imagination.

[A]

No, before I brought that up because I literally like, changed the subject completely. I forgot. Oh, talking to yourself. Words of affirmation. Oh, yeah. I'm like, how did we throw get so thrown off.

[B]

I also say to myself, like, oh, my God, I'm so pretty today. Like, people wants to look like me all the time.

[C]

I used to be really bad, but I still am working on it. But I'm always like, if I mess up, I'd be like, oh, you freaking idiot. Like, I call myself, like, stupid.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But then you know what, Ms. Courtney Cook, she says instead of that, she'd be like, ah, you silly girl. So I've been trying to, like, do that.

[A]

I'm like, you're such a silly sister.

[C]

Yeah, I've been trying to be nicer to myself.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Period. More kinder words. She's not stupid. She's stupid.

[B]

Something to build you up, not to burn you down because there's other people for you to do, for them to do that, you know.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay, well, should we start our date with Cat? We're going on a date with. We're just going to be asking her date dates questions. Yeah, it's just in the realms of Valentine's Day, period.

[C]

Oh, my God.

[B]

Hi, Cat. Nice to meet you.

[A]

Hi, Cassie. Period.

[B]

You look like your pictures.

[A]

No, actually, you look skinnier than your picture. You look so much smaller.

[B]

Tell me, what do you do?

[A]

What have you been doing?

[C]

Oh, So I started Tri Zepatide. I think I'm saying that right in November. And I've lost a little over £25. And then I've been going to the gym a lot lately. Started a new classes with Brett into my.

[A]

Exactly. I'm so glad I invited.

[B]

Was talking about that last.

[A]

Yes. I'm just. I keep saying this to the. The group, but I'm like, I'm so glad you guys are doing it with me because I was literally going to do it on my own.

[C]

Yeah, he was.

[A]

And it is scary. Like, literally, I get scared every day to drive and then I get there and I'm like, oh, we could do this. And she always like, our coach, Kaheya, like, modifies it based on, like, what your abilities are. Like, we all have the same workout, but not all the same movement. Yes. Like, if you can't jump rope, then you do toe touches with the. The thing.

[C]

Like, yesterday my bra was not supportive. So now I was trying to do the burpees. My boobs kept like. And then she was like, you can just do squats and then jump and, like, hold your boobs. And I was like, period.

[B]

Thank you.

[A]

Exactly. But we all die the same amount.

[B]

And I feel like working out with friends also brings out your competitiveness together. You're like, you make it into a competition.

[A]

And you know me, I do that with Jeanette. Yes. Yeah. But with. With the other girlies, I'm literally more just like, I'm just glad you guys are here to die with me.

[C]

I like it because we all hold each other accountable and, like, we're all.

[A]

Like each other every day. Like, who's coming?

[C]

Yeah, I feel like we, like, we talk shit. But that's like our. Our motivational.

[B]

Yeah, motivational speech. Oh, you're not coming, you fat.

[A]

Well.

[B]

Precisely.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

We're like, well, we thought you kind of needed it today.

[B]

Like, have you didn't not fit that outfit?

[A]

Just say you're a.

[C]

That's my favorite. He's like, who's gonna be a tonight?

[A]

Period? Wait, Ozzy, you should look up questions to ask on the first date.

[D]

Gotcha.

[C]

Period.

[B]

What do you always ask on the first date?

[A]

Some. A question that I always ask on the first date is, oh, this is so bad. But like, I really. I'm always like, when's your birthday? So I can know their sign. I never want to start with, what's your sign? Yeah, I just. I'm like, wait, what's your birthday, cat? What is your birthday for other people?

[B]

You know, like, what's your sign?

[A]

Oh, good.

[C]

Mine's May 15th period.

[A]

She's a Gemini. No, I'm just kidding. She's a Taurus. I always say she's anyone that's born in May. I'm like Gemini, even though she's a Taurus. What is the most tourist thing about you?

[C]

That I like to eat and sleep and I'm a homebody.

[A]

How is that a tourist? Oh, that is a tourist.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Like a boy. Is that really?

[C]

Yeah, that's a trait.

[A]

Oh, wow.

[C]

And very like. Like home. Like Earth.

[B]

You're very grounded too.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Headstrong, driven.

[C]

Love. Very prideful.

[A]

What are your most compatible signs?

[C]

I'm sorry?

[A]

What is a Taurus's most compatible sign? Do you know?

[C]

I believe Cancer and Capricorn.

[B]

Why?

[A]

What?

[C]

Cancer? I think they balance each other and then Capricorn around the same thing, I think. But I'm always like. I've. I've lately been really leaning towards Aquarius, which is not usually compatible.

[B]

Yeah, but water and Earth, they're. They are very good together.

[C]

That's true.

[A]

Wait, Katty, since it. Since we talked about it last time you were here about like a little bit of your sugar daddy era.

[B]

What do you do now?

[A]

So do you have a current one? You retired her? I feel like.

[C]

Yeah. Like they come and go. Like this guy sent me two flowers the other day, but it's not like he saved me money. But it's okay. I like flowers.

[A]

Right.

[B]

It's giving you. You receive it when you receive it, but at the same time you're not really.

[C]

Yeah, I'm not. Not really trying. But like if they're. If I need something, they're there and I know they're there.

[A]

Yeah. So it's like what kind of questions do you ask on your first date, Kefer?

[B]

On my first dates, I like to ask, what are your hobbies?

[A]

Ooh, that's a good one.

[B]

I need to know if I can do them right. You know, what if someone's hobby was jumping off a plane and you're already five months in and they're like, let's go on a plane.

[A]

And then that's. That turns them off and then I'm single again.

[B]

Exactly. Yes. Cuz you didn't ask that question right, Cat.

[A]

So what is your hobbies?

[C]

I love to cook and bake.

[A]

Right. We're going to get.

[C]

Yeah. And I like to go thrifting. I like to go the beach. And that's about it.

[A]

What is your most favorite thing you found in the thrift Store.

[C]

It's all of my Christmas decorations.

[A]

Like, all the globes, all the cups.

[C]

Yeah, I love them. I don't know if you guys heard of whatnot, but it's the app where.

[A]

You can, like, sound off.

[C]

Well, you can, like, bet on or not bet. Yeah, it's called Bet on Things and auctions. Oh, yeah. Bid on things and then. But they have vintage store ones and thrift store ones, so. My things just got in today, actually, and they're so cute.

[B]

You should try storage units.

[C]

Oh, yeah, Yeah.

[A]

I always wanted to do that.

[B]

The storage was where I. I know.

[A]

They do the Storage Wars.

[B]

Yes. Remember the show and, like, I've been looking for. Sometimes they go for, like, $10, and sometimes there's, like, wooden, like, furniture is in there and stuff like that. Like, abandoned like stuff. But.

[A]

Yeah. That's so neat. Ozzy, what do you ask on the first date? What does a straight person even ask?

[D]

Like, I feel like I can't really answer that question.

[C]

Because you're not single.

[A]

No, she don't go on dates.

[D]

I. I don't. I don't think I've ever gone on, like, date dates.

[A]

You guys just would see next week's episode. We're going on a date with Aussie.

[B]

I better see flowers right here.

[A]

I need flower. You need to bring flowers next week.

[B]

I couldn't even cook us anything.

[D]

Am I supposed to know what flowers to bring her?

[A]

No.

[D]

Surprise. God damn it.

[B]

Actually, I do like to. I like. I've been asking people this lately, and I feel like I should. I'm gonna start asking if I go on a date. What is one of your favorite features of yourself?

[A]

Oh, that's a good one. What do you love most about yourself.

[B]

When you stare at yourself in the mirror? What do you like? What are you obsessed with?

[C]

Usually my boobs.

[A]

No, right. I. The Pierre cat.

[C]

They're just there. They don't go anywhere. Yeah, but I like my eyes a lot.

[A]

They're cute.

[C]

Your little eyes.

[B]

I love it.

[A]

What about you?

[B]

I love my nose.

[C]

She has a cute nose.

[A]

I would say my favorite is my lips.

[C]

Yeah, Lips, hair, eyelashes, lash.

[A]

Maybe my lashes too, but I don't know. Sometimes I don't like my lashes in a lot. No, it's.

[B]

I mean, like, I'm never like, girl, of course you're gonna say that because.

[A]

No, like, dead ass.

[B]

You have the longest lashes ever.

[A]

Well, my lashes are never always curled. So if I'm looking at myself in the mirror, I don't see my lashes.

[B]

Your lashes are curled, girl. Every day I see you, they're like this. Okay.

[A]

Like. Okay, I'm thinking more like when I'm sweaty as. And I'm looking at myself in the mirror in the gym, I'm like, my God, my lips be popping like that, like. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[B]

You do have nice lips.

[C]

I would say my lips very full.

[B]

Yeah, you have a very full bottom. And. And then when you smile, it's not like folding in.

[A]

Exactly. Right, right, right, right, right, right. Ozzy, what is your most favorite thing about yours? So physically?

[D]

My calves.

[A]

Okay, that's good.

[B]

Got them tennis calves.

[A]

My calves.

[B]

See, this is why I love asking this question.

[C]

Yeah, that's good.

[D]

Wait, can I clear up what I. What I said earlier about first dates?

[B]

Oh, yeah, of course.

[A]

Tell me.

[D]

Okay, so I've been in relationships.

[A]

But wait, save it for your episode. Like, this is Cat's episode. Like, remember? Fine, fine. Clear it up, Clear it up.

[D]

Well, long story short, it's more of like, I got into relationships because I met people at, like, certain places, like at church or at school.

[A]

Okay.

[D]

So I've never been on like a. Like, I met somebody randomly and just asked them on a first date. So I don't know what to ask on a first date.

[B]

Oh, it's more of like a mutual amount.

[D]

Yeah, I already know them.

[A]

Okay, so let's read some of the questions you should be asking on the first date. Ozzy, let's have a practice so we know what to ask you next week.

[D]

Well, a lot of these questions are, like, categorized.

[B]

Okay.

[D]

Category 11 is what qualities do you value in a romantic relationship?

[B]

These are like third dates.

[C]

That's good.

[A]

No, I would ask that on the first date. Oh, you do bring to the table.

[C]

I would ask them first date. Oh, that's before I even met them.

[A]

Yeah, that's like what you were saying. Like, girl, I don't want to be five dates in. And I'm like, oh, you're a skydiver. Yeah, you gotta go.

[B]

Sorry, sorry, sorry.

[A]

So what qualities do you look for in a partner?

[C]

I definitely look for somebody who, honestly, from every person I stopped talking to, this question changes because I'm like, with that person. I was like, you know what? I really want somebody who is obsessed with me and someone who's always loving on me and romantic and whatnot. And then the next time I'll change to you. I want somebody who actually can communicate.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, so it's like, do you.

[A]

Think it's getting lower and lower each time? Or like, what do you Mean, because I feel like, I don't know, maybe just based on your example. Like the first one was like obsessed with me, loves me, it spoils me. And then your next one's like someone that just talks to me.

[C]

Oh, no, I feel like it's the opposite.

[A]

So it's a per person type of.

[B]

Thing or how you're feeling.

[C]

It's opposite in the sense of like, okay, he was able to do all this. I want somebody who can do all this but also can communicate. You know what I mean?

[A]

So you add.

[C]

Yeah. And that's where I'm like at the point now where I'm just like, I don't want anybody.

[B]

An AI. Yeah.

[C]

I'm like, I don't want nobody.

[A]

Cuz an AI is crazy.

[C]

It's just a disappointment every time. But.

[A]

But right. You're. So.

[B]

I say it's okay.

[C]

Like five different people.

[A]

So right now what are you looking.

[C]

For in a partner right now? Somebody who has a goal for themselves for five years, period.

[A]

Wait, Kat, you're like getting cut off a little bit.

[C]

Come close.

[B]

I know.

[A]

You're like shifting her body language. She's getting uncomfortable with Ms. K. Yeah. She doesn't like, you're gonna read the comments and they're gonna be like, you can tell how uncomfortable Kat was next to Ms. Kat.

[D]

We gotta start rumors, literally.

[A]

Okay, next question.

[D]

Next question is, what's something you've learned about yourself during your single years?

[A]

What is something that you learned about yourself?

[C]

I'm very nice. I'm very giving. And I really want to find a partner who has the same qualities like that as I do. I don't want to be doing all the above and then him doing nothing because I feel like I'm such a lover girl. And to be with somebody who's not a lover boy, I'd be like, yeah, what are we doing here?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

What do you learn about being single? About your. What does being single teach you about yourself?

[B]

That I can be by myself, period.

[A]

That's what I was gonna say. It's like that I love myself.

[B]

Yeah. Like I can be with someone or I can be with by myself. So I don't like those couples. Okay. I'm not gonna say like, Okay, I shouldn't be saying anything because whatever, whatever. Like, do you. But I can't stand it when a couple is like always right next to each other and they start doing everything together.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And they can't do anything else. But with together they lose their independence.

[C]

Yes.

[A]

I'm sure that works for a Lot of people. But I know for me. Oof, Girl. No. Yes.

[B]

I would, like, want my space. I would want to sleep in my own bed sometimes.

[A]

You know, we literally talked about this last episode.

[B]

Girl.

[A]

Even the title is, like, separate Home.

[B]

Oh, I do have a question for, like, the very first question that Ozzy asked. What can you offer me?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. Yes.

[C]

Oh, well, if I was on a date. Not with YouTube, it's on a different date.

[A]

Yeah. And he asked. Yeah. What do you bring to the table?

[B]

You're, like, asking that.

[A]

I know you're gonna be like, food. Touche.

[C]

No, I'd be like, girl, I'm a girl. Like, what do you mean? Like, I bring the love. I bring the home that hurts a little bit. I bring the softness to your life. You know, like, you have a house, but I'll come and make it a home.

[A]

Yes.

[C]

I just.

[B]

You're the foundation. I am the wall and the roof.

[C]

Right.

[A]

I would be so dramatic if a bitch asked me that. What do I bring?

[B]

Right, Bitch?

[A]

I am the table.

[C]

Right the fuck.

[B]

I am the four legs.

[D]

That's a code right now.

[A]

Each fucking leg at this table is me. The chair as well. The food, the server. The server.

[B]

Me.

[A]

Like, I am the fucking table. I am the relationship. The. Okay, next question.

[D]

Okay, I like this question. How do you typically respond if something is bothering you? Say something. Do you get quiet? Do you ask for space? Do you process the situation?

[A]

Okay, this is a cute way of asking what kind of like.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Are you avoidant or are you confrontational?

[C]

I'll. I'll, like, take a second, and I'll think about if it actually did bother me or if I'm being dramatic. And nine times out of 10, I'll always tell them, like, I didn't like that.

[A]

Cannot do that, because I got a little confrontation. Yeah.

[C]

Because I want them to tell me right away. Because the last thing I would want to do is, like, upset my partner when I'm. I don't even know I'm doing it.

[A]

Yes.

[C]

So I would expect them to have the same reaction.

[A]

Okay.

[C]

Yeah, I'll tell them right away.

[A]

Kiefer, I feel like you. I would. I wouldn't know what you are. I feel like you're a little bit of both.

[B]

I'm a little bit of, like, I'm gonna give you that silent treatment, and then you're gonna be like, babe, babe, what's wrong? Like, nothing. You just did this.

[A]

Yeah, just this. Figure it out.

[B]

And then you're like, oh, what? Can I. Yeah, just leave Me alone for now.

[A]

Like, I feel like in both of my past relationships, I've been confrontational. Mostly in my first one, I was a little bit more confrontational just because I, I. That's just how I am in person too. Like in. Not just in, like, love relationship. Like, even Cat. I'm like the, like, I'm very confident even with my siblings.

[C]

Let you know right away.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But it is scary.

[A]

My second.

[B]

Let's just say that.

[A]

Yeah. What is there to avoid?

[B]

Because he never. Yeah, exactly. He never avoids anything. He just tells you, and then you're like, caught off guard sometimes. You're like.

[A]

Yeah, I'm literally like, ozzy, why the did you send in the video the week today after the Day of stupid.

[B]

Can I tell us?

[D]

He didn't say it verbatim, but.

[A]

No, he said it did sound like that, probably in his head.

[B]

Brett did that to me once. When your whole floor flooded, I was like, oh, my God. I went to go see the K18 that you told me about, and it's so expensive. And then the response I got was, you flat. You flooded my whole floor. I'm like, what?

[A]

I'm like, sorry, dealing with the shit you did.

[B]

And I'm like, what?

[A]

So I am like that in, like, just in all of my relationships. But on my last relationship, I was definitely less confrontational. Like, I really took it, like, I really confronted myself first before I could find, like, you know, I. I really compartmentalized my emotions before I did the confrontation.

[B]

Is it because, like, you try. You try to avoid, like, fighting and everything?

[A]

Yeah, I think it's more like, is there something I can fix on my own? Or is this something that I need to, like, really bring it up to him first? So sometimes. So I do check in with myself before I do the confronting, but in my first relationship, girl, it was very much like you're thought. Yeah. I paused now. Yeah. Before it was like, right away. Set fire through the rain.

[C]

Because I can be, like, sensitive. So sometimes I'm just like, am I being sensitive? Or they do they cross a boundary?

[A]

Yeah. Period.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah, that's good.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Because I can't really say things when, like, I'm like, mad, because I tend to, like, just say shit whenever, like, whatever that comes to my head.

[A]

That's why I'm saying that I think about things first is because I. When I am, especially my first relationship, it was very much like, I didn't even think about what I'm gonna say yet. And I'm already saying it to you, so I'm saying the first thing that comes to mind instead of thinking. Yeah. About what I. How I say and. Yeah. Specifically how I. Yeah. Bring up the topic.

[B]

That's why I try to avoid. But tell you what you did wrong, and then I'm like.

[A]

Both valid. Both valid.

[D]

You know, Are there any other habits that you guys are, like, self aware of where it's like, Like Brett was talking about where, like, he's more confrontational, but there's moments where you're like, okay, let me try to do something different.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Replying back for me also.

[D]

You, like, you usually don't reply back.

[B]

I usually am the one.

[A]

Yeah. You really just are avoidant.

[B]

Yeah, I just try to avoid people. If you text me, I will text you back in three weeks. Just because I don't. Just because I don't want to. It's because I forget and like, like what you said. Like, I tried to change that. Like, right now I've been, like, trying to, like, keep up with my texts, like, especially with this boy. And I'm like, you know, trying to constantly, like, reach then. But I still have those tendencies where, like, girl, you didn't text me for, like, an hour, so I'm not gonna text you for an hour.

[A]

Oh, girl, I'm trying to change. That was so me. I was literally telling you about how, like, that was so me before.

[C]

I think I have an example. So a couple weeks ago, this guy I'm talking to, he said something that I didn't like. And normally in my old relationship, I would try to give him the silent treatment and, like, just say, like, I appreciate that. And his response to it wasn't very nice, in my opinion. So I was like, period. If you have that energy, keep it and keep it away from me. So normally I would, like, go over. No. Ignore him for, like, a couple hours and then be like, oh, babe, like, I got over. I'm fine. Whatever. I ignored him for, like, three days, and he came running back, like, apologizing so much. Like, every single day he was apologizing, and I just, like, wasn't having it. I'm like, no. Like, you cross the boundary. And I don't like that. So I've actually gotten a lot better, guys. Like, I've gotten a lot better at.

[B]

Standing your 10 toes.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Because, like. Because, like, I've learned that, like, as soon as you give into it, like, they're just gonna keep doing it, doing.

[B]

It over and over. Yeah.

[C]

And he very much was like, you know, I won't do that. I'M sorry. Like, I'll change how I do it.

[B]

But you've heard that before.

[C]

Yeah, I have heard it before.

[B]

So. Exactly.

[C]

So I'm just like, like, we'll see. I mean, he's far.

[B]

Yeah. And then look, you changed how you. You did it before and, like, you got another response.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. I will say for me, I think I know I don't like someone when I try to match the energy. I think that's something that's toxic that I woke up on with your whole, like, if you left me on red for an hour, then I will leave you on red for three hours. I literally was like that. And I. We've had this conversation and I think that's something that stopped for me because I think it's all about, like, it's okay. This is how I explain it to Ms. K. It's all about effort. Right. I'm constantly on my phone, so I literally see his text. I have no reason to not reply. If someone left me on red because they or not left me on red, but, like, they didn't reply to me for two hours, say they have a 9 to 5 job or like a regular job. Let's say he's a pilot and was fucking piloting around for five hours. I'm not gonna match his energy.

[B]

And, like, I'll try to play myself.

[A]

Yeah. Cause I think it's all about effort. I think I'm constantly on my phone, so I'm obviously going to be the one replying faster. And I can't expect someone who's not always on their phone to reply the way that I reply. And I think it was very selfish of me to match energy. Especially, like, I remember I was talking to this boy who goes at work, obviously, and he would leave me on red for a couple hours and I would literally match his energy. And I'm literally like. And then he would use that against me when it came down to it. And I was like, oh, you're right. Like, well, he would be like, well, I was at work and you were like, just on your phone. I'm like, you're right. Like, but you might have ate me a bear.

[B]

You have a break.

[A]

So, yeah, that is something that I worked on and passed through, I think. And it does depend on the person as well. Like, girl, sometimes people really don't be fucking doing shit. And just genuinely, sometimes you're right.

[B]

Sometimes they're just ignoring you and they don't exactly.

[A]

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[C]

Do you guys see the thing on Tick Tock where they're like, you have to be mean in order to get like. Not to get a guy like you, but like, they like, want you more aggressive. Yeah. Have you seen those?

[B]

No, I. I've tried it, but it doesn't work on me.

[A]

I'm like, I don't think they would like me meaner. I think that's very, like, girl, straight people thing.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

Because I don't think I could be into a gay guy and he'd be.

[B]

Like, a hot girl straight.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Only hot girls can do that.

[C]

Because that's what I saw is, like, for me, like, the more I ignore certain guys, the more they chase me, and then, like, the more, like, I'll stand on business. I'll be strict. Like, I feel like if you run a strict program, it just weeds out the ones that.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Aren't tough enough, I guess. I don't know.

[B]

But it also. It gives, like, the other way where, like. Yeah. They're either that or they're just doing it for a challenge and they just want something from you. And then once they get you, they're.

[C]

Like, oh, the ones that. The challenges are crazy.

[B]

You're like, oh, okay, I'm done. Like, I don't want to be with you anymore kind of thing, because I already got you.

[C]

Yeah. The challenge is over.

[A]

Yeah. I hate a man.

[C]

It's so stupid.

[A]

Next question.

[D]

Side sidebar. How long have you guys left someone on, like, red?

[B]

Like.

[A]

Like on purpose? Yeah.

[C]

I mean, like a month. Somebody you're talking to or just some stupid person you're having conversations with?

[D]

I think somebody. Someone you've been talking to?

[C]

Huh?

[D]

Someone you've been talking to?

[C]

Oh, six years.

[B]

Six years.

[A]

Six years. Okay.

[B]

Mine was a couple months, I think, and then. But it's giving.

[A]

Like, I said, sorry just now seeing this.

[B]

No, literally, that's what I do. And I'm like, oh, I thought I.

[D]

Sorry.

[A]

Just.

[B]

I was like, I'm always like, oh, I thought I sent a reply back, but. Sorry.

[C]

There'd be some times where, like, I'd be talking to someone consistently, and then I get the ick one day, and then I just don't open their message.

[B]

Oh. I. I open them just to.

[C]

Oh, really?

[B]

Yes. I open it and like. And then unread. That's how you tell people. Like, oh, I'm.

[A]

One time I had. So I was so over it with this boy, and I don't have my read receipts on, so I literally typed read. That's crazy.

[C]

Sometimes I turn it on just to. Just so they can see. I read it and didn't rep.

[A]

I literally typed red.

[B]

I'm dead.

[C]

That's funny.

[A]

This is not what you should ask on a first date. But what is the most pettiest thing you've ever done? As maybe in a talking stage or.

[B]

Someone that your ex blame them for not replying back?

[A]

Gaslighting yeah.

[C]

Oh, I love gaslighting.

[B]

I love gaslighting. In the beginning, I would be like, fuck says that.

[C]

I like, I like, if I'm not feeling them, I'll just ask them for an absurd amount of money. And they'd be like, fuck that. And I'd be like, oh, thank God, I'm gonna go away.

[B]

I use the trans card.

[C]

Oh, period.

[A]

Period.

[B]

And I hate it when they're like, I'm okay with that. And I'm like, fuck. What do I gotta say?

[A]

You don't understand. I'm a transformer. I'm actually a moped.

[B]

Like, yes. So bad. Rc.

[A]

I'm actually a vesper.

[B]

It's so bad because it would be in the middle of a conversation and like, you're killing the conversation. Like, oh, by the way, I'm trans.

[A]

I don't know if there. I can't think of something petty right out of the blue, but I think it would definitely be the red that, like, red. I read this.

[B]

That's so crazy. I would never do that.

[C]

That's so funny.

[A]

I can't think right now. Maybe I. Maybe I'll think about it later. Or it comes. It'll come up.

[C]

There'd be some people like the one I'm talking to now. I know him for so long, so I know how petty he is. So I'm like, I only try to do petty things with him. I'm just like, I don't want to. I don't want to do toe to toe with you because I just know you're going to go so much deeper than I would go.

[A]

I think for me, the pettiest. Not even literally, not even petty, but like, I was girl. My first ex. I was trying to get out of that relationship so much that I literally was praying. I don't even pray like that. But I was like, lord, please let him. Give him the strength to leave me. I think praying for someone to leave you is actually crazy.

[B]

That's funny.

[A]

And it's crazy because I know I just mentioned how confrontational I am, but there was. In my first relationship, I could not break up with him because I kept going back to him and I felt like if I broke it up with him at the end, I would look like that dumb bitch.

[B]

I was just telling Nikki about how, like. Because we passed the street that your person used to be at and I was like, nikki, that's where Brett stayed for five hours just to get turned down. And then he was like. And then. And I was like, oh, yeah. And Then, yeah. Oh, also, before.

[A]

Before. Before any of these gets quotes. This is about my first ex. Because I've seen videos of me talking about my ex, and they put a picture of my last ex. It's. That's not that one.

[B]

Yeah, it was the way, like, Brett was like. Yeah. He came outside and he was like, I don't want to talk to you. You have nothing to talk about.

[A]

Literally, I didn't even do anything.

[B]

Well, he was inside the house the whole time.

[A]

You guys, I think we got in an argument. He lives in town. My first ex. Yeah. And I drove all the way there to go talk to him. I don't even know what the fuck the argument was. And I stayed outside for five hours, and he came out and he was like, we have nothing to talk about.

[B]

You can go home.

[A]

And mind you, I still chased after me. Chasing after a like.

[B]

But your first love.

[A]

Okay. Anyways, this is our date with Kat.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

Sorry.

[B]

Trauma dumping, Cat.

[A]

Next question.

[B]

Hopefully we have a second day after.

[D]

What are your deal breakers and non negotiables for relationships?

[A]

Cat, what are your deal breakers?

[C]

I learned what a real non negotiable deal breaker is from Love island last year.

[B]

What are they?

[C]

Yeah, because before I thought they would be, like, out before, I would be like, no cigarette smoking. You know, like, little things. But honestly, deal breaker non negotiables are when people ignore me, when they can't communicate within, like, a certain time span. And, like, we've been, like, talking for a while, you know, or, like, dating or something. Honestly, like, if I. If our five years don't match up or align, I'm not willing to push things around. So I don't think you should. I'm like, if that's what you want to do in five years, you should do that.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

But I don't think it's gonna be with me, and that's okay.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

You know, and I have time. Yeah. I feel like I take them a lot more seriously. Like, if they want to have kids, I'd be like, well, I want kids, you know?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I feel like that's a big deal breaker for you.

[C]

Yeah. You know what? Lately I've been wanting to get a cute little, like, champ stamp, like, of two little butterfly tattoos.

[A]

Okay.

[C]

And all the guys have asked, like, what do you think of Champ stamps? They're like, oh, I hate that. If my girlfriend came in with that, we would break up. I was like, what the hell? Like, since when is that a bad thing?

[A]

And I'm like, you know what?

[C]

I'm gonna go get that, actually.

[A]

You can see so hard. That would make me actually want to get it more.

[C]

I'm like, I'm so excited to get my birthday in May when my bestie comes. So you can go then.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Thank you.

[C]

Right.

[A]

Do you have any.

[B]

My deal breaker. Rude.

[A]

Rudeness.

[B]

Plain rudeness to anybody. If you can't. Even if you can't say thank you, please. Just those common, like, little words. Sorry.

[A]

Especially. Yeah. Something that I want to talk about. Speaking of this, I was watching the Boyfriend the other day, which is this Netflix show about, like, queer Asian people, Asian boys living in a house for two months, and they just kind of like a social experiment, like Love island.

[B]

But gay, very bad.

[D]

Terrace House. Have you guys watched that?

[A]

I don't.

[D]

Okay, Terrace House.

[B]

Look it up.

[A]

But one of their conversations, it was this boy talking about how he was dating someone, and he had this dream of always wanting to go abroad to study and get a job and start a new life abroad. And I guess that opportunity came to the. To his partner, and instead of being excited about it, the partner goes, well, I don't want to go because I have you. I have you. And, like, so would you be like. And I. I think for me, I. I would feel like, why would you want to throw out your whole entire dream just for me? Like, I, I. How do you feel about that? If someone's goals and dreams and aspirations, I think, and they set it aside just to make you feel happy, how do you feel about that? Because I would feel selfish.

[B]

I would feel selfish as well.

[C]

Yeah. I wouldn't feel good about it because the other way around, I would do it.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Because not knowing, personally, I would be like, you don't even know if we're gonna be together in, like, the next three years.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So how are you just gonna. For me, if I'm gonna be in a relationship with someone, I'm gonna need that someone to just support me, and then we'll support each other and then go through it together.

[A]

Yeah. I think in that specific situation, I would truly ask him, like, girl, this is literally your dream. Like, why. Why am I, who's really been in your life for X amount of time? Why would you pause it for me? But also, like, I would feel. I would feel like. I don't know how I would feel. Like, I would feel like, wow, this person loves me so much.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

But I'm like, I would feel more. I feel like the selfishness would take over the love. I would say, I feel like for.

[B]

Someone, like, probably like us. Like, I'm gonna speak for everyone. I feel like we would be like, what can I do for you to do that and for me to be.

[A]

There so we could meet in the middle?

[B]

You know, like, if I'm not doing anything, I can move with you. I'll find a job there, and then you do whatever you want, you know? So that way, since I'm not really doing anything. Yeah, I can just go there with you instead of you staying here.

[A]

But let's say that wasn't the case and you had your own things going for you.

[B]

Me in the middle. You do your thing, we do our thing, and then meet in the middle. Because at the end of the day, it's gonna be two people. It's not one person.

[A]

Yeah. Okay. Then it becomes a question of can you do long distance?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

Period.

[B]

Are you willing to say you. Since you say you love me, Are you willing to work this out until we get our goals, you know?

[A]

Period?

[D]

What are some goals you have for yourself for your next relationship?

[A]

Oh, that's a good one.

[C]

Goals. I noticed in my last relationship, I put a lot of my time and energy into spending time with my ex, which I. Which I don't necessarily regret, but same time, I wish I put more love and energy into my friends, myself and him. So I feel like just working out the balance of everything.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

Because, like, end of the day, like, even if you're in a really good relationship, you're still putting energy into that, which you could be putting into yourself, you know?

[A]

Period.

[C]

So I feel like that's, like, learning how to balance it better.

[A]

I would kind of say the same thing for me. Okay, next question. I don't want to. I want to ask more cat questions. I feel like I've been like, we've been hijacking your questions.

[C]

It's okay.

[D]

Do you guys have. Because I kind of ran out.

[A]

Okay, let's do hot fire flash questions with Kat.

[B]

What are your.

[A]

What is that called? What is your biggest turn on? And biggest turn off turn on would.

[C]

Be a blue collar worker.

[A]

Okay.

[C]

And turn off. The guy wears too skinny pants or jeans. Like, the really skinny jeans.

[A]

That'll do it for me.

[C]

I've been seeing it a lot.

[B]

Skinny jeans are coming back.

[A]

That'll do it to me too.

[C]

Yeah.

[A]

I shouldn't be able to see your cat.

[C]

And then, like, you see, like, the little. The little part right here, and they have, like, the little boots.

[A]

Yeah. There's just, like, a level of skinniness that, like, I don't mind like, you know when something's fitted or like even a straight pants could look a little skinny on some guys.

[B]

Like, like those flare pants, those are really cute with like the skinny one.

[A]

And it goes like, cargoes are cute, but girl, it's the skinny jeans that's like almost leggings. I'm like, babes no good. What's the most romantic thing a guy ever did for you?

[C]

Honestly, it was the last person I talked to and he set up his. The bed of his truck to watch the stars.

[A]

Oh, it was really cute.

[C]

It was really cute. Even though he's a piece of. But it was a really cute gesture. And I was like, okay, this is kind of cute.

[A]

You're like.

[C]

I was like, this is our third day and I've been so mean to him. I'm like, I guess this is pretty cute. Right before.

[A]

Do you have any questions?

[B]

Where would you want to live? In a suburb or city or like a farm?

[C]

I want to have a farm. That's my goals. When I have like settled down. I want to have a farm and have a pumpkin patch and Christmas trees and. Right. It's called agritourism, I think, where it's like, oh, period teaching people how to leak and like resourceful and like Amish.

[A]

Yeah.

[C]

No, like when, like when like classes, like school trips come to your farm and like you teach them how to do things.

[A]

Oh. Like, oh, we did something like a tourism.

[B]

Like. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

Last and last question, because you keep bringing it up. Where do you see yourself in five years? Oh, in five years, maybe there's a guy watching this.

[B]

You're going to be 35.

[C]

35. So I think it'll be time for me to leave. Bretman. I'm so sorry, Bretman, but here time for me to start having babies. And I don't know about. I don't know if there's going to be a man in that future, but I will have children. Trust I will figure out a way.

[A]

But yeah, starting a little donor, if you will.

[C]

Yeah. Honestly. And then having a cute little farm. Like, I kind of want a farm stand and like have like I said, like all my baked goods.

[A]

Not here.

[C]

She wants.

[A]

She misses the season.

[C]

I miss the season. So it be in the mainland somewhere.

[A]

You're going to just live your little like prairie wife era. I don't even know what a prairie wife is, but that was the first word that came to mind.

[C]

Yeah.

[B]

Little prairie in the river.

[A]

Is that what just in her motherhood. Yeah. The husband. Prairie. Well, Kat thank you so much for joining us today.

[B]

Would you want to go with us on a second date?

[C]

Of course. We should go, Genki.

[A]

Thank you, guys. We'll see you guys. Well, wait.

[C]

No, I'm gonna go.

[A]

Bye, Catty. I'm me saying goodbye to y'. All.

[B]

Catty, the Uber is farewell. Her Uber is here.

[C]

I'm so sore.

[A]

Ms. K, should we do product of the day?

[B]

I'm not gonna lie. My product of the day is a little surprised because I did not prepare anything, but I've been getting a lot of compliments about this product.

[A]

What is it?

[B]

It's my casetify case.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. Throw back. Oh, my gosh.

[B]

I love this casetify.

[A]

She's still available. You guys on casetify.

[B]

And I recently met the girl that did this with you. Haley.

[A]

Ms. Haley.

[B]

Hi, Ms. Haley. And yeah, that's my favorite product of the day.

[A]

Did you get compliments?

[B]

I do get compliments. They're always like, who did that? Where'd you get that? And I'm like, oh, it's my cousin.

[A]

Do you not know who the. The coconut connoisseur is?

[B]

And they always see that part. And I was like, oh, it's Brett.

[A]

I'm like, yeah. Okay. This product of the week is kind of cheating because I've only been using it for the past two days. So it's not product of the week. It's product of the days. The past couple of days. But these two Pacifica had made body sprays, and these two have been my favorite scent. I love the vanilla whip and the amber cocoa, and I think they're, like, 15 bucks, and they're just cute and easy. They really remind me of, like, high school lockers. Like, just something to spray when something smells nice. But do you want to smell them?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Maybe I'll spray just here, because it's like a light. That's the vanilla. Ooh, yeah. This one I know you're not gonna like because you don't like gourmand, but.

[B]

That smells like that lotion.

[A]

Yes. The cashmere. This one I know you're not gonna like too much, but it still smells good.

[B]

Chocolatey. Yeah.

[A]

But together I go, like, right.

[B]

Vanilla, chocolate.

[A]

Right. It smells so good.

[B]

It actually smells like vanilla and chocolate.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like, you like this one more, but.

[A]

These two together have been amazing. They have two other scents, and they just asked me. They just sent it to me. They were like, you want to try these? They smell so good. Check them out. I know some of y' all be stanking and yeah.

[B]

Wow, this was really good.

[A]

I told you.

[B]

Combination one.

[A]

And you don't even like gourmand.

[B]

I don't. It's too sweet.

[A]

Yeah, but it's not. This one's not overbearing. Yeah.

[B]

If anything, the vanilla one was sweeter.

[A]

Oh, yeah, I think so too. Ms. K. Where can they find you?

[D]

Girl?

[B]

You guys can find me anywhere. At Misky or the baddest radio.

[A]

And here I am as Bretman Rock. I'm Bretman Rock everywhere. And make sure you guys, like, subscribe and give the baddest radio the best rating there ever is. I was. We will see you guys next Thursday. Aloha Ozzy. Sing us out and sing a love song. Looks like we made it. Look how far we've come my baby But I took a long way.

[B]

Sorry.

[A]

You will get there someday they say. I bet.

[B]

What is that song?

[D]

Never make it but just look at.

[A]

Us holding on still together still going.

[B]

Strong oh, it's this song.

[A]

Still the one still the one I want. Still the one I want. Bye bye, everyone. Bye, Beach. I'll see you next Thursday. Yeah. Don't forget to follow rate and like, you can follow me at bretmanrock on everything and follow the podcast at the baddest radio on all social media. Bye, Beach. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.