DaBaddest Radio – "The Big Bang Was GAY?"

Host: Bretman Rock (with guests Ms. K and Ozzy)
Date: November 13, 2025
Network: Dear Media

Episode Overview

This episode of DaBaddest Radio is a vibrant, laughter-packed exploration of queerness, cultural identity, friendship, and self-care. Host Bretman Rock returns energized from a trip to Korea, sharing tales of personal growth, skincare hauls, and emotional connections. The crew dives into playful (and poignant) discussions about labels, lavender marriages, queer history, color analysis, body positivity, and their ever-evolving beauty routines. True to form, the conversation flows with humor, sincerity, and unapologetic self-love.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Back from Korea: Skincare, Friends, and Brand Trips

• Trip Recap:

  • Bretman shares highlights from his recent Korea trip with Laneige (27:11), emphasizing the joy of friendships made (27:33), and how brand trips can foster genuine connection rather than competition (28:45).
  • Tips for listeners visiting Korea: “When you go to Korea, you guys, please get all the skincare that you can get, because I am literally not even wearing makeup today.” (28:54)

• Korean Skincare Faves:

  • Discussion of products gifted to friends (29:03, 29:56), with Ms. K raving about the toner and pore-minimizing products (29:12, 29:24).
  • Advice on finding and using the best local brands via friendly staff at Olive Young (51:52).

2. Owning Labels: Relationships, Queerness, and “Lavender Marriage”

• Dating & Single Pride:

  • Discussion sparked by UK Vogue’s “having a boyfriend is not cute” headline.
  • Bretman and Ms. K riff on the growing feeling that heterosexual relationships (especially with men) can be “embarrassing” or unnecessarily complicated (04:04).
  • Pact jokes about marrying each other or themselves at 28 or 38 if still single (05:02).
  • Ms. K: “I want to have, like, a birthday where I marry myself. Like, me walking down the aisle by myself.” (05:49)
  • Bretman quips about solo marriage, Dennis Rodman style.

• Lavender Marriage and Color Symbolism:

  • Ms. K describes learning about lavender marriages via documentary (06:44)—the historical arrangement where queer people entered heterosexual unions to avoid persecution.
  • Playful tangent on colors and their queer-coded meanings (lavender = LGBT+, turquoise/teal = drag queens, red/brown = lesbian, green/yellow = bi, purple = pansexual) (07:26–08:47).
  • Noted: Lavender’s queer roots date to Ancient Greece and poet Sappho (14:03).

3. Queer History 101: Sappho, Lesbos, and the Big Bang Theory

• History Deep Dive:

  • Ozzy clarifies the connection between Sappho, the island of Lesbos, and the etymology of “lesbian” and “sapphic” (15:16–15:52).
  • Read-aloud and analysis of Sappho’s poem to Aphrodite (23:04–24:46).

• "The Big Bang Was GAY?"

  • After pondering queer history’s antiquity, Bretman and Ms. K joke about LGBTQ+ presence through time:
    • “Honestly, we’ve been here since pyramid time. I would even say we’ve been here since dinosaurs.” (14:22–14:26)
    • In a burst of comic genius, they recast the Big Bang as a metaphor for queer creation:
    • Ms. K: “That was a queer—two balls hitting each other with rainbow colors.” (14:40)
    • Bretman: “The big bang was gay sex!” (14:44)

4. Intimacies & Body Positivity

• Adventures in Anal Bleaching:

  • Both hosts candidly and comically discuss their attempts at anal bleaching (20:40–22:14), debating positions and necessity.
  • Ms. K: “It’s a two-person job.”
  • They advocate body acceptance:
    • Bretman: “Justice for brown holes. Not every hole has to be pink.” (22:07–22:14)

• Beauty Preferences:

  • Bretman and Ms. K speak about preference for darker nipples (“purplish” over “pink”) in men (22:18–22:34).

5. Poetry, Crushes & Vulnerability

• Personal Narratives Around Poems:
  • Discussion of poetic forms (haiku, slap poetry) and confessions of past crushes (16:08–19:59).
  • Bretman tells the bittersweet story of a boy who read poems intended for others—“That should be me holding your hand…”—and how formative it was to be treated with genuine kindness (18:41).

6. Pride, Nightlife, and Self-Discovery

• Honolulu Pride:

  • Ms. K recounts a bigger, livelier Pride event with memorable drag performances (Queen Kong, Joe Sparkle) and the joy of nighttime festivities (37:27–38:28).

• Night Out Recap:

  • The hosts share laughs remembering a recent concert outing and the loopy trek from the parking lot (39:02–39:50).
  • Emphasis on chosen family: Designated drivers, post-concert vibes, and self-care.

7. Beauty Rituals: Treatments, Fillers, Color Analysis

• Recent Aesthetic Upgrades:

  • Ms. K confesses to recent fillers, jawline enhancements, and a lip flip (41:27–42:09), debating sacrifices (can’t use a straw!) vs. beauty payoffs.
  • Both share updates on Botox and lash perms, discuss tan and undertones (36:03), and celebrate “bigger lips” as a hard-won luxury (42:13).

• Hair & Color Analysis:

  • Bretman gives a deep dive into getting his color analysis in Korea (33:54–35:57), what colors work, and the fluidity of personal style.

8. Skincare Product Recommendations

• Products of the Day:

  • Ms. K: Man Yoke Cleansing Oil (49:30) – “It gets everything out, everything done… waterproof eyeliner, waterproof mascara.” (49:42)
  • Bretman: Reguran Healer Turnover Ampoule & Sheet Mask (50:25) – Demo and tips for usage and where to buy in Korea (Olive Young), recommended mixing and layering for glow (51:07–51:38).

• Advice for Listeners:

  • When in Korea, make friends with shop attendants for the best product picks (52:15).
  • Upcoming plans: Holiday sleepover episode with the “nieces” (52:40–52:58).

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Queer History’s Depth

  • Ms. K: “See, this is why when they’re like, gay was not long ago and I’m like, babes, we’ve been. We’ve been. We’ve been here.” (14:12)
  • Bretman: “I would even say we’ve been here since dinosaurs.” (14:24)

• The Big Bang Theory, Reclaimed

  • Ms. K: “That was a queer—two balls hitting each other with rainbow colors.” (14:40)
  • Bretman: “The big bang was gay sex!” (14:44)

• On Solo Love:

  • Ms. K: “I want to have, like, a birthday where I marry myself. Me walking down the aisle by myself.” (05:49)
  • Bretman: “You can do that, you know, legally, ‘cause Dennis Rodman married himself.” (05:45)

• Body Positivity and Sexual Norms

  • Bretman: “Justice for brown holes. Honestly, not every hole has to be pink.” (22:07)

• On Color Analysis:

  • Bretman: “Ever since I got that color analysis, I started thinking more about, like, colors differently on my skin.” (35:00)
  • Ms. K: “Because, girl, like, what I got you is definitely different from what I got for Princess.” (29:59)

• On Chosen Family & Friendship:

  • “You know when you show your old friends to your new friends and you’re like, I hope they get along. Yeah. I feel like that’s what that was giving, period.” (47:47)

Important Timestamps

• 03:30 – Tea on modern dating, “embarrassing” boyfriends
• 06:44 – Lavender marriage & hidden queer lives
• 07:26–08:47 – Queer color coding: Lavender, turquoise, brown, red, yellow, purple
• 14:03–15:52 – Queer history: Sappho, Lesbos, origins of “lesbian” and “sapphic”
• 20:40–22:14 – Anal bleaching stories & “Justice for brown holes”
• 27:11–29:03 – Korea trip highlights and gifting skincare
• 33:54–35:57 – Color analysis in Korea, favorites and surprises
• 36:45 – Hair color chat and color adaptation
• 37:27–38:28 – Honolulu Pride recap
• 41:27 – Ms. K’s recent treatments and sacrifices for beauty
• 49:30–51:38 – Products of the day: Cleansing oils and K-beauty ampoules
• 52:40 – Plans for upcoming “nieces” episode (holiday sleepover)

Tone & Language

The tone throughout is lively, explicit, authentic, and full of inside-joke energy—like a late-night FaceTime with your favorite queer cousins: unfiltered, affirming, and wildly entertaining. Warm anecdotes and raw honesty are liberally mixed with camp humor, pop culture references, and intimate perspectives on self-worth, beauty, and friendship.

For New Listeners

If you’ve ever wanted a podcast that blends the camp of Ru Paul’s Drag Race, the warmth of chosen family, and the realness of everyday queerness, DaBaddest Radio delivers. This episode, in particular, is a joyful affirmation of living loudly—whether discussing ancient poets, modern skincare, or why the Big Bang might, in fact, be a Pride event. Come for the tea, stay for the glow.