There’s a kind of loneliness after divorce that no one really prepares you for.

Not just emotional loneliness…
but physical loneliness.

The absence of touch.
The absence of affection.
The absence of being desired.

And in that space, something can sneak in quietly:

I just want to feel wanted again.

In this episode, we go straight into the tension most women feel but rarely say out loud—how attention from men can feel like relief… and how quickly that relief can become something you rely on.

We talk about why being desired can feel so regulating to the nervous system, especially after a relationship where you felt powerless, unseen, or not enough. And we unpack the difference between real connection and the kind of attention that only soothes the surface.

Because for many women, this isn’t actually about connection.

It’s about relief from rejection.

It’s about trying to outrun the deeper feelings: not good enough, not chosen, not worth fighting for.

We also explore how these patterns show up in real life—flirting, hookups, staying busy, avoiding stillness—and how easily they can become another form of numbing, just like overworking or drinking.

And we ask the question that sits underneath all of it:

Are you actually healing…
or are you just trying not to feel?

This episode isn’t about shaming the desire to be wanted. That desire is human.

But there’s a difference between being chosen…
and needing someone else to prove you’re worth choosing.

Because the moment you stop needing that proof—

is the moment everything starts to change.

If this episode stirred something in you, you’re not alone. This is exactly the work we do inside Crisis to Clarity, our 90-day program designed to help you stabilize your nervous system, process grief, and rebuild trust in yourself so you’re no longer reaching outside of you just to feel okay.

You can reach out via DM, email, or our website to learn more.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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