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Dear Mind, You Matter
Hosted by Dr. Angela Phillips, Matt Cardone · EN
Dear Mind, You Matter is an ongoing conversation with mental health experts and other specialists to demystify mental health conditions, treatment options, and what you can do to take better care of your mental health. Hosted by therapist and content creator, Dr. Angela Phillips, and meditation expert, Matt Cardone for Advanced Recovery Systems, the podcast aims to put mental health + recovery tools and resources into the hands of as many people as possible so that everyone is empowered to take good care of their mental and emotional wellbeing.
Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by Advanced Recovery Systems, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play.
This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Ashley Tate, and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
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Identity, Relationships, Moral Trauma and Recovery with the Millennial Therapist (Sara Kuburic)
Mar 15, 202300:37:44Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/humorist.therapist and https://www.instagram.com/mattcard.oneFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Sara Kuburic is an existential psychotherapist, consultant, writer, and columnist for USA Today. She specializes in identity, relationships and moral trauma. Social Media Handle: Instagram: @millennial.therapist Twitter (new): @sarakuburic Website: www.sara-kuburic.comPublications: https://www.sara-kuburic.com This podcast is hosted by Dr. Angela Phillips (IG: @humorist.therapist) and Matt Cardone (IG: @mattcard.one). It is produced by Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please contact anphillips@advancedrecoverysystems.com.
Transcribe →Farewells and New Beginnings for Allison Walsh
Dec 27, 202200:20:42Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Memorable Moments: 2:58 - I'm a constant learner, and just obsessed with that. That personal development mission that is just at my core of continuing to evolve into that complete person you're intended to be. And as a result, I've had the chance to build an incredible team. My team is my heart. I have enjoyed not only working alongside them, but also watching their evolution and pushing them to grow.7:45 - One perfect example is we launched an educational program called Real Talk back in 2016. And I got to really marry my two worlds. For those that don't know, I'm a former Miss Florida. I have absolutely loved being involved with the Miss America organization. And I saw an opportunity to have Miss Florida and potentially Miss America service spokesperson for Real Talk and the prevention of teen drug abuse and misuse. And so we were able to do something in tandem with the Miss America organization. We have Miss Florida who has been an ambassador for us for six years.10:14 - Our team is rooted in strengths-based coaching. We use Gallup's StrengthsFinder to help clients identify their strengths, because people will naturally gravitate towards “I need to fix my weaknesses”, or “I’m not good at this”. Your strengths are where you should stay in play.11:32 - A huge part of what's made me successful is the level of self-awareness and being able to articulate when I see a potential in something and having a plan to execute it. 13:21 - Don't be afraid to be amazing. Putting one foot in front of the next incremental growth on a daily basis is going to add up over time, and you'll be blown away by your results. But it requires you to actually take the step forward. And it doesn't mean you have to climb Mount Everest, it's literally one foot in front of the next like that's it. So don't overwhelm yourself in the process. Commit to growing, commit to learning.15:27 - I've been on this show and just throughout my entire life, really over the last 20 years, I struggled significantly when I was in high school. I had terrible eating disorders. I struggled with anxiety and depression—my own battle. I always utilized my voice to create change and try to create a safe place for other people to recognize that they were struggling with that themselves. And so I am now going to be working primarily with adolescent mental health, which is very exciting to me.17:15 - Happiness means being happy with how I'm showing up for others and with where I'm at. 15:22 - I struggled significantly when I was in high school. I had terrible eating disorders. I struggled with anxiety and depression—my own battle. I always utilized my voice to create change and try to create a safe place for other people to recognize that they were struggling with that themselves.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →Getting Over Addiction with Matt Morgan
Dec 20, 202200:24:31Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @bpmattmorganMemorable Moments: 01:18 - I learned at a very early age that I had to work incredibly hard for something, and the more work I'm willing to put into something, the better results I'm going to see.02:02 - I've gotten into 16 years of sobriety now under my belt from opioid addiction to doing what I feel the Lord has put me here to do. And that is to help as many people struggling with addiction as I did every single day.02:34 - I do believe the Lord made me a wrestler, made me seven feet tall, and made me all these different things to use one day to get people's attention… My job is to use it as a platform to put a spotlight on important issues that I'm very passionate about. Drug addiction is at the top of them.06:23 - The face of addiction is every color of the rainbow. It's every race, every creed, or every religion, short, tall, fat, skinny, funny, unfunny. It's an equal-opportunity butt kicker. And I think it's my job to get that message out there to show everybody that no, it's not the dude under the overpass on a floor with a needle hanging out of his arm, homeless. That's not a drug addict. It's so much more vast than that.11:21 - My addiction specialist made the mistake of telling me he's never had somebody he's worked with who has never relapsed. It's a normal part of the process. If it happens, we just get back on the wagon. It's no big deal… But what stuck in my head because I'm weird, and I'm very competitive is that he's never had somebody that didn't relapse before. So I treat it like a sport and said I’d be this guy's first. So anytime I'd want to use after two or three days of not using, I wouldn't do it because I wanted to prove this guy wrong—that you can do it without relapsing.12:16 - Everybody's different. It was a different story. Our struggle is going to be different. But if it gets to that point where it's so myopic, where you're flipping out, like I was in that intersection, because it's too stressful, calm everything down, slow everything down and say, “All I got to do is stay sober for just five more minutes.”16:57 - I knocked on all their doors not once, not twice, but three times and talked to these residents to find out what their needs were, what they wanted to see done in the city that really wasn't too far off what I want for my own son—a safe community for him to grow up and prosper that has more special needs services in this community as well.17:55 - Most of my support came from my community who wanted to see a change and wanted to see somebody that had no ties.18:27 - Nobody could tell you what to do one way or the other. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →Debunking Myths about Hypnosis with Dr. David Spiegel
Dec 13, 202200:22:24Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Memorable Moments: 02:51 - Hypnosis is just a state of highly focused attention. It's like when you get so caught up in a good movie that you forget you're watching the movie and you enter the imagined world… It's the ability to narrow the focus of attention and put outside of conscious awareness things that would ordinarily be in consciousness.03:44 - Shifting mental states has great power. And it's something that we can learn to use better to help us live better.04:24 - You can start out dealing with stressors on the outside by dealing with the way they affect your body on the inside. That's the way you start to gain control.06:32 - This is better because [for example] you're trying to get to sleep at three in the morning. I'm not going to be there to hypnotize you back to sleep. But the app is. 07:24 - Hypnosis is the oldest Western conception of Psychotherapy. It started 250 years ago—the first time that talking interaction between the doctor and the patient was thought to have therapeutic value. 10:05 - Just by shifting your focus to how your body feels, you're changing the relationship between external stressors and our normal reaction.10:43 - Learn to approach stress by first handling the thing you can best handle, which is how your body reacts to it, and then approach the problem and figure out what to do about it.11:42 - Hypnosis is Western. It's meant to solve a problem… And it's more focused on changing a given problem. You do it not just to be open and to lose yourself but rather to deal with your pain or your stress. 16:05 - We're born with this big brain and a great imagination, but not with a user's manual. We don't use it very well. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →A Deep Dive into Evolutionary Psychology with Adam Sud
Dec 6, 202200:33:36Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @plantbasedaddictMemorable Moments: 03:35 - Evolutionary Psychology refers to the ways in which people behave, why they choose to go one way versus another, in regards to the way in which our genes have explored the environment of our evolutionary story.04:58 - All animal life is actually motivated by something called a tripartite motivational system, or a motivational triad, and those are pleasure-seeking, pain avoidance, and energy conservation.13:03 - In the modern environment, when we get a dopamine stimulus, it is what we call a supernormal stimulus that raises our dopamine circuitry way outside the bounds of normal human experience. And our brains don't really like that. And so what they're going to do is they're going to defend themselves against this intense stimulus.15:23 - When you're habituated to repetitive, consistent supernormal stimulus, the wrong decision feels incredibly right for your survival. And the right decision feels incredibly wrong. 16:01 - The reason why people find themselves in that situation isn't because they're broken. It's because that is their psychology responding exactly the way it's designed to respond to an environment that is too shifted away from our natural history and our natural behavior. 17:48 - It's not a fault of theirs, it's the fault of their environment. And if they are willing to cultivate an environment that looks more indicative of their natural history and their natural behavior—spend two to four weeks living in that environment, their dopamine receptors are going to regain sensitivity. They're going to recalibrate to an environment that makes sense. 25:02 - What you have to understand is that humans have a psychology of more. We're trying to get the most for the least every single time. But now for the first time in human history, that decision might not be the best thing to do for our long-term outcome. 25:48 - If you can organize your environment to look like what you want to do, you don't have to outcompete the environment in order to be successful. 29:10 - Everyone thinks that they've got to figure out how to be disciplined enough to do a thing. Instead of trying to become more disciplined, design a more disciplined environment. This is really valuable. Your self-control will always be a lot less necessary when your environment doesn't require you to depend on it. Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →Let’s Get Candid About Mental Health with Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips
Nov 29, 202200:23:40Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @allisonwalsh @humorist.therapistMemorable Moments: 2:15 - So many of the individuals that we work with on a daily basis have also battled their own challenges throughout the course of their lives. We wear that as a badge of honor, not something that we're shameful about, which is just a beautiful place to be able to work and come from and to be able to share our lived experiences with others.3:09 - We've had a lot of open, candid conversations, really asking very straightforward questions of how are you feeling? What's going on? How can I support you do you need time?3:18 - Being compassionate and empathetic to people first, and the employer second was the most important thing and allowed us to create this safe space to have open conversations.3:55 - Mental health is health.4:09 - Having these conversations on a more regular basis allows people to feel very safe and be able to be very open about what they're dealing with so that we can get them what they need. 4:18 - Give people the space and resources they need. Or just purely checking in with each other to let them know that we care on a deeper level and that you're not just another person that's on the team. You're a very special person that we care about.5:07 - One thing that a lot of us struggle with is the difficulty to decipher or determine what's appropriate for us to share and what are we really going to feel comfortable with.11:42 - We don't have cookie-cutter approaches. We were very focused on what are the needs of all the people that were taken care of in our centers or online with Telehealth.15:16 I've seen so much movement around big, small and medium-sized groups and companies wanting to provide their people with what they need. And they're really looking for a solution that's really going to meet all of those needs, which is why we love Nobu, why we love Advanced Recovery Systems, who we work with and for because we're able to really provide a lot of that.18:26 - When it comes to setting boundaries around work-life balance, it’s really about being intentional about that transition from one environment or role to another, and then being consistent with that, and really respecting that time.20:03 - Boundaries are the greatest act of self-respect.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →Mental Health Literacy for the Youth with Ross Szabo
Nov 22, 202200:20:40Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Ross Szabo is a social innovator who pioneered the youth mental health movement. He is the Wellness Director and founding faculty member at Geffen Academy at UCLA, where he has created a program for students to learn about mental health once a week throughout their education from grade 6-12. Ross is also an award winning speaker, author and the CEO of Human Power Project, a company that designs mental health curriculum.Social Media Handle: @rossszaboPublications: A Kids Book About Anxiety, Behind Happy Faces; Taking Charge of Your Mental HealthMemorable Moments: 2:50 We're really kind of in just the beginning stages of mental health literacy. And what we're trying to do is tie that past history of physical literacy and mental literacy as a way to actually normalize conversations around mental health. 4:26 We need to start actually teaching that there are different categories for mental health challenges. One would be everyday challenges: stress, lack of sleep, body image issues, things like that. Those are things everyone experiences. Another category would be environmental factors. The next category would be significant events, so experiences with loss change, and rejection, and how that affects your lives. This is really critical in terms of normalizing mental health. Because most people are confusing these issues. But those aren't the same things. This is just one tool. Let's actually separate what you're experiencing so that you have a better vocabulary for it.6:20 - One of the most important things there is teaching kinds of sensitivity around what is a mental health disorder and what isn't. 6:25 - The conversations that are getting normalized now aren't actually beneficial. They're dismissive of people's experiences.8:06 - Mental health literacy and mental health education are different from social-emotional learning. 8:36 - Mental health literacy is important because the definition of mental health isn't having a problem. It's how you address challenges in your life.8:56 - Mental health should be taught the same way as physical health. What schools are mainly afraid of is becoming therapeutic centers. But there is a way to take a public health approach to mental health. 12:12 In the professional setting, put up boundaries and only share things you’ve processed. Give yourself the outlet so that you're not stuck to take things back or wish you didn't share some.13:27 - One of the most important things you can do as a parent is to model the behavior you want to see in your kids. The largest form of education will always be through example. It'll never be words.16:40 - It's natural for kids to have different things they like and have those things shift throughout adolescence. There's nothing wrong with that. But when it gets deeper than that, when you see that they're not able to do the things they used to do for a longer duration of time, that's when it's time to call someone in.18:05 - As you go through the early decades of your life, you spend so much time building and trying to find what works for you that it takes a while to get to a place where you can be more present and be in a place where you're connecting.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →Changing What’s on your Fork to Change your Life with Adam Sud
Nov 15, 202200:30:57Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Social Media Handle: @plantbasedaddictPublications: Memorable Moments: 4:11 I was very accepting of myself, both physically and emotionally. But all of a sudden I was told there are now conditions that I was allowed to accept myself physically, and that was a scary thing, especially coming from my parents.7:46 One of the biggest drivers for depression is a future that doesn’t seem like a place you want to be a part of doesn’t feel safe and doesn’t seem comfortable. In fact, it feels like it’s gonna be a painful place, too, more so than where you are right now.9:18 On August 21st of 2012, life had been the most painful it has ever been. Every day was the most difficult day of my life, and I live in full confidence that the next day would be even worse. And when you do that long enough not only do not know how it got to this point, you don’t know how to get out of it. Because there’s so much shame and stigma wrapped around it, you don’t know how to say Hey I don’t know what I'm doing here but, man, things are not working out, and so I tried to end my life.11:05 I believe this to be true for the majority of people: Suicide isn’t someone wanting to end their lives; it’s someone wanting to end their pain.12:45 The things that we choose to believe have consequences on us and the people that we care about.15:42 The reason why I have survived all of those moments, those years, and that experience was because my body has never once given up on me. My body has been fighting for me since the day I was born, regardless of the way I treated it.16:18 When I switch the mindset to not what's the matter with me, but what matters to me in terms of my physical health, my social health, my emotional health, then you're very clear about which direction you want to go. Then every decision that you make isn't about what not to do. It's about what's going to enhance the opportunity for you to show up in life in a way that feels meaningful to you.19:13 The nutrition conversation is about trying to inform better decisions and patterns over time.20:28 Human research data over time shows that fiber is dose-dependent to benefit, meaning the more you consume, the better the benefit, the greater the reduction of all-cause of mortality, and the greater the increase of human health outcomes over time.28:12 What I think is so important, what I think matters most in recovery, isn't “Why don't they stop?” It's “Why does it make sense?” It's such a more valuable question to ask.28:30 If we can understand why it makes sense that someone uses drugs, we can reorganize their life, we can organize their dietary pattern, and we can reorganize their emotional patterns in a way that reconnecting seemed a lot more likely. Use may not stop entirely over the course of the rest of their life. But the intention may be different. And the frequency will be far less.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →Post-Traumatic Growth with Amy Van Slambrook
Nov 8, 202200:20:48Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Amy Van Slambrook is a licensed psychotherapist and certified leadership & relationship coach. She helps high-profile women and couple CEOs, entrepreneurs, and leaders to reclaim and elevate into the most aligned and powerful version of themselves in their business, relationship, and life by doing deep healing and transformation at the soul, mind, and body levels. With 30 years of professional experience in psychotherapy, coaching,executive leadership, genetic and psychological research, functional medicine, and entrepreneurship, as well as her own 35-year personal journey of trauma healing and personal development, Amy brings vast experience to her work in post-traumatic growth and holistic wellness and empowerment. She is a sought-after speaker, podcast guest and host, and published author. Amy builds her life and works on a strong foundation of faith.Social Media Handle: @amyvanslambrookMemorable Moments: 2:47 I think one of the hallmarks of someone who’s really of transformational wealth is that they’ve tried to separate them, they tried to exist in the mind without appreciating what’s happening in their body and trying to be in their body without appreciating what’s in their spirit and the three are so inextricably tied because they are mouthpieces for one another.4:36 It’s great to have relationships when there’s no pressure. It’s easy. It’s when there’s the pressure that we are really exposed to the reality of our lives and our relationships.6:15 I really encourage my clients to take a pause and let themselves get silence in their lives because silence is when we face the reality of things.6:33 When we are silent, we’re faced with looking in the mirror of what we’ve created not only on the front-facing image of our social media but what happens behind the scenes in the reality of who we are and the relationships that we have starting with ourselves, with God, with those we love the most in life.8:14 I really am such a champion for the fact that trauma, can be the biggest springboard for your life into a whole new level of success and triumph. It isn’t something we need to run away from.8:58 I’ve been through decades of my own trauma, I can stand here and say it is the gateway to that next level in your life because it reconnects us to the truest part of ourselves.10:20 That is how post-traumatic growth really gets to shine because suddenly you’re saying what inhibited my growth, what stunted my growth now can actually catapult it so that I can impact the world the way I'm supposed to.12:39 If you went through trauma as a child, that's kind of an imprint of how you are going to view all relationships happening. 14:18 We are usually drawn to people who not only give us the comforting feeling of home but also remind us and tend to wound us in ways we were wounded as a child.19:28 What matters most is absolutely going all in on what God has called me to go all in on. I just turned 50, and it has given me a new sense of liberation and freedom. I have never felt more motivated and vibrant and free because of all the healing work I've done.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Dr. Angela Phillips. It is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom, and Nicole LaNeve. If you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
Transcribe →Doing Grief Better with Sherry Walling
Nov 1, 202200:14:24Tap to summarizeSubscribe for more: www.nobu.ai/podcastFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nobuappFollow us on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3NMIEgjblqmhwT6Uy3l0NmSubscribe to Dear Mind You Matter Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Leave us a review: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-mind-you-matter/id1573642046Interested in attending our Educational Events? https://bit.ly/eventsandeducation____Dr. Sherry Walling is a clinical psychologist, speaker, podcaster, author, and mental health advocate. Her company, ZenFounder, helps entrepreneurs and leaders navigate complex human experience. She hosts the ZenFounder podcast, which has been called a “must listen” by both Forbes and Entrepreneur Magazine. She is also the host of Mind Curious, a podcast exploring innovations in mental health care via psychedelics. She is the author of two books: The Entrepreneur’s Guide to Keeping Your Shit Together and Touching Two Worlds: a guide for finding hope in the aftermath of loss. Sherry and her husband, Rob, reside in Minneapolis where they spend their time driving their children to music lessons. She has also been known to occasionally perform as a circus aerialist.Social Media Handle: Instagram: @sherrywallingPublications: Touching Two Worlds: a guide to finding hope in the landscape of lossMemorable Moments: 2:24 Any kind of human that’s under a state of stress is dysregulated. Their body is elevated trying to react to a stressor. 2:32 To help someone feel better in the midst of stress is to reregulate or bring their body and their mind down to homeostasis. Thoughts go slower, the heart beats slower, and breath is slower. If we can turn the slow-motion dial on that often helps stress feel much more manageable and accessible.3:22 When we can feel that sense of agency over our bodies and our lives, that feels so much better than feeling stuck on the tilt-a-whirl at the fair. And we're just moving so fast and we're like, ‘Yeah, I wanna get off.’4:47 Being in my own grief after the losses (of my dad and brother), one of the things that were so helpful to me was I really connected with my own body. 6:13 When we get into some kind of emotional expression, we can breathe again. It's a big exhale. It’s like putting down the heaviness of all that we are carrying and being present with a different experience.6:27 Emotional expression allows you to have a little lightness, a little levity, or really express some of those negative emotions. Feel into your anger. Feel into your fear, but not in a way that feels like it's going to be overwhelming for you.6:52 Our society is kind of set up to move quickly through grief. Like policies related to bereavement leave. You might go to your mom's funeral on Saturday and on Tuesday, you're supposed to be back at work. There's not a lot of space for grief.7:09 A lot of us feel like we gotta muscle through hard things when we're in pain or suffering. But the tendency is to just keep going, just keep moving, just be gritty. And those aren't bad messages. I just think they may be out of balance.7:30 Don’t go around pain or suffering. Don't avoid it. Don't skip over it. Talk about it. Feel it. Express it. Move toward the heart of what's difficult, knowing that that's where all the growth lies. That's where all the lessons are. 8:03 When you go in and through something - for instance, grief - there's no part of you that you don't have access to. There's no part of you that you feel like you have to hide from.8:56 Writing can be helpful for people who like to journal. Writing about your own experience can be a really powerful way to do some of that in and through work.9:13 If you feel like you want the presence of another human, it will help to be in therapy or go to a support group where you can begin to tell the stories to give life and words to the things that feel painful. 9:33 You can also try expressive movement such as a five rhythms dance practice where you pair different kinds of movement with different kinds of emotion. It can be a yoga session. There's something really can be quite healing about holding a warrior position and lingering there and letting your body do the work to breathe through and to hold that position.10:55 Doing grief better means talking about grief. It’s naming those that we've lost. Naming the hopes that we had that never came to be.11:12 Doing grief better means we're collectively comfortable moving in and out of tender spaces, knowing that we can do that with gentleness and with some graciousness and not feel like we have to, again, skip over it and just get back to work and get back to normal life. That is quite damaging to people who are in any kind of grief.Dear Mind, You Matter is brought to you by NOBU, a new mental health, and wellness app. To download NOBU, visit the app store or Google Play. This podcast is hosted by Allison Walsh and Angela Phillips. This podcast is produced by Allison Walsh, Savannah Eckstrom and Nicole LaNeve. For more information or if you’re interested in being a guest on this podcast, please visit www.therecoveryvillage.com/dearmindyoumatter.
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