Decoded Podcast: "Go Big and Go Home: Redefining Power, Purpose & Motherhood with Cait Scudder"

Host: Bizzie Gold
Guest: Cait Scudder
Release Date: October 9, 2025

Episode Overview

In this compelling episode of Decoded, host Bizzie Gold sits down with Cait Scudder, Forbes-featured business mentor and founder of The Millionaire Mother, to challenge entrenched narratives around motherhood and ambition. Together, they explore the nuanced realities of being a high-achieving mother, breaking down the societal codes that pit career and motherhood as mutually exclusive. Through personal stories, actionable advice, and an unfiltered look at the overlap of ambition, homemaking, marriage, and business, this conversation empowers women to pursue wholeness without compromise.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Manifestation vs. Hustle Culture (00:00, 35:56)

• Cait rejects the false binary between “manifestation” and “hustle,” underscoring the necessity of resilience and actual work in building success.

  “Anyone who's telling you to build a million dollar business without resilience and grit—just run away because they're lying.” — Cait [00:08, 40:15]

• The discussion deconstructs Instagram-fueled archetypes and calls for a more authentic view that includes both intention and hard work.

The Fear of Motherhood Derailing Ambition (02:00)

• Cait recounts the shock and anxiety upon learning she was pregnant while being the breadwinner and lacking maternal business mentors.

  “I was just so fearful that I had done the wrong thing, that what I had built would not blend with motherhood.” — Cait [02:25]

• Her breakthrough came from vulnerability and honest communication with her husband—unlocking a major business milestone during pregnancy.

Redefining Female Archetypes: “Trad Wife” vs. “Boss Babe” (08:30)

• Both Bizzie and Cait reject the notion that women must “pick a lane” between traditional homemaking and entrepreneurship.

  “I'm like, this is being a full range woman. This is being a fully expressed human.” — Cait [11:34]

• Social media stereotypes are often performative; genuine fulfillment is found in integrating all facets of womanhood.

Polarity, Marriage, and the Breadwinner Dynamic (15:28)

• Cait shares rituals for transitioning from “boss mode” to nurturing her marriage and family (e.g., spritzing rose water to reset before family time).
• Maintaining polarity and intimacy is not about relinquishing power, but about conscious transitions, small acts of love, and honoring partner dynamics.

  “Yes, I might be bossing it up up here in my office, but I am really the wife, the heart of my home...” — Cait [19:07]

Work-Life Balance vs. Integration (20:26)

• Both declare “balance” is not a static noun but a dynamic verb—true success is about integration, not compartmentalization.

  “Balance is not a noun. It's a verb. We are constantly in balance.” — Cait [20:30]

• Examples: Involving kids in work events, teaching life skills through business, and modeling integration rather than rigid separation.

Women, Wealth, and Cultural Stigma (26:31, 27:52)

• Cait unpacks the personal and societal roots of the discomfort many women have with money and visibility:

  “We don't have...mythos and examples of what does it look like to be a well resourced mother.” — Cait [29:35]

• She calls for the rise of the “Millionaire Mother”—poised, supported, and benevolent.

Supporting the Modern Matriarch (32:13, 35:56)

• It's crucial to include partners/spouses in the journey and to proactively ask for and receive support—from both family and hired help.

  “A big part of the work that I do is letting women decondition that part...that feels guilty asking for help, hiring help.” — Cait [33:32]

• True success isn't solely financial, but also reflects the health of marriage, family connection, and alignment with one's values.

The Middle Path: Working With Purpose (44:22)

• Cait advocates for using purpose, rather than comparison or money alone, as the engine for ambitious women and mothers.

  “When we are pursuing what is in deep alignment with our values...it is always going to feel sustainable in the long run.” — Cait [44:23]

• Entrepreneurship’s true rewards require resilience and a sense of calling beyond ego or external validation.

Overcoming Envy and Building Female Solidarity (61:19)

• Many women experience discomfort or envy seeing others “have it all”; Cait invites listeners to use that as inspiration and information, not division:

  “If this person is holding up a doorway and I'm feeling activated...it's actually pointing me to a deeper desire. Why wouldn't I move towards that rather than away?” — Cait [62:08]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Manifestation vs. Grit:
  “It's not all champagne and bathtubs. Manifesting is going to require you to go down to your knees and just find the depth of surrender to get out of the way.” — Cait [00:22, 40:39]

• The “Trad Wife Boss Babe” Archetype:
  “This is being a full range woman...the more women like you, like myself, express their truth...the more space we create for not having to fall strictly in one or the other category.” — Cait [11:34]

• Polarity in Marriage:
  “We are both main characters here...If I'm not checking myself, I could steamroll him...and inadvertently repel the attraction…” — Cait [16:10]

• On Integration:
  “How can we weave in a life lesson here?... Rather than quarantining and having these silos...what does it look like to build a life where we can weave them together?” — Cait [21:38]

• Building the “Millionaire Mother”:
  “The matriarch...is incredibly well supported herself...that is what enables her to be so successful.” — Cait [30:10]

• Advice to Her Past Self:
  “Honey, it was never go big or go home. It was go big and go home.” — Cait [51:53]

Timestamps for Key Segments

• Manifestation vs. Hustle – the Truth in the Middle: 00:00, 35:56-41:52
• Fear of Motherhood and Breaking Through: 02:00-08:30
• Trad Wife vs. Boss Babe Archetypes: 08:30-15:28
• Marriage, Polarity, and Honoring the Husband: 15:28-19:35
• Work-Life ‘Balance’ as Integration: 20:26-26:30
• Women, Wealth, and the Millionaire Mother: 26:31-35:56
• Entrepreneurship, Purpose, and Resilience: 44:22-47:54
• Envy, Female Community, and Healing: 61:19-63:58

Further Resources & How to Engage

• Motherhood and Ambition Summit: Free online event with actionable conversations for mothers balancing it all (Bizzie is a speaker; see show notes for link) [49:37]
• Wealthy as a Mother Bootcamp: Affordable entry into Cait’s coaching on building profitable, purpose-driven businesses [49:37]
• MME Foundry Mastermind: Comprehensive mastermind for mothers looking to scale sustainably [49:37]
• Details in show notes

Final Takeaways

• You don’t have to choose between motherhood and ambition—or between being soft and being powerful.
• Integration, support, and honest self-inquiry are the “codes” to rewrite for a sustainable, fulfilling life as a modern mother and leader.
• Feeling triggered by others’ success is a signpost to your own desires, not a reason for self-limitation.

  “If this person is holding up a doorway...why wouldn't I move towards that rather than away?” — Cait [62:08]

• The richest journeys are both “go big and go home”—embracing both outer ambition and inner family life.

Ready to break your own patterns and rewrite the code? Listen to the full episode and check out all related links in the show notes.