Detox Retox with Tom Schwarz

Episode Title: Shavings & Cravings: Taking The Edge Off Pregnancy with Kristen Doute & Luke Broderick
Release Date: April 29, 2025

Introduction

In this heartfelt episode of Detox Retox with Tom Schwarz, host Tom Schwarz sits down with his fiancé, Luke Broderick, and long-time friend, Kristen Doute, to delve into the multifaceted journey of pregnancy. Titled "Shavings & Cravings: Taking The Edge Off Pregnancy," the episode provides an intimate look into the physical, emotional, and social dynamics of expecting a child, all while maintaining the show's signature blend of mindfulness and mischief.

Personal Reflections on Parenthood

Kristen Doute opens the conversation by sharing her heartfelt desire to become a mother, expressing both joy and vulnerability:

"I think I'm going to call this episode 'Shavings and Cravings Taking the Edge off Pregnancy.' I'm not going to mince words. Probably my biggest insecurity in life right now being a 42-year-old man is not having kids." [01:04]

Tom echoes similar sentiments, revealing his own anxieties and aspirations regarding fatherhood:

"In terms of cravings, I think it's common knowledge that your hormones go a little crazy...so without further ado, here is Dr. Sterling..." [Kristen transitions the topic]

Understanding Pregnancy Cravings

To provide a scientific backdrop, Dr. Noah Sterling, a fellow of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, is brought in to explain the phenomenon of pregnancy cravings:

"Food cravings and aversions during pregnancy affect between 50 to 90% of pregnant individuals... Pica behaviors warrant medical attention to address potential deficiencies and avoid risks." [04:18]

This segment sheds light on two prevailing theories behind cravings:

1. Nutritional Deficiency Theory: Suggests that cravings address specific nutritional needs, though scientific support remains inconclusive.
2. Evolutionary Protection Theory: Proposes that cravings and aversions serve as mechanisms to prevent the consumption of potentially harmful substances during pregnancy.

Navigating Daily Life During Pregnancy

The conversation shifts to the nitty-gritty of daily routines and physical changes. Tom Schwarz candidly discusses the challenges he faces during pregnancy:

"I don't sleep anymore. Sleep like a full eight hours at night because you have to get up and pee like every five to 10 minutes." [08:29]

Kristen and Luke engage in playful banter about adjustments in their lives, highlighting the blend of humor and seriousness that accompanies pregnancy. They share anecdotes about experimenting with products like the "empathy belly" and managing ambient noises at home.

Emotional Cravings and Relationship Dynamics

The trio delves into the emotional landscape of pregnancy. Tom expresses a yearning for deeper emotional connections:

"31 weeks in, I want Luke to, like, instead of me giving him a honey-do list, I want him to do things with me and read her mind." [14:39]

Luke reassures him of his commitment, emphasizing the balance and harmony in their relationship:

"I figure out that I have to read your mind. And I do my best just because." [14:49]

Their dialogue underscores the importance of mutual support and understanding in navigating the emotional ups and downs of pregnancy.

Preparing for Parenthood

As they approach the final weeks of pregnancy, Tom and Luke discuss their preparations for welcoming their child. Topics include:

• Nursery Planning: Kristen shares her excitement about touring the nursery and finalizing the vision board, describing it as "ethereal" and "creative" ([17:16]).

• Balancing Careers and Parenthood: Luke talks about his burgeoning fame from reality TV and how it intersects with his impending fatherhood. He reflects on the challenges of maintaining privacy and sanctuary:

  "I felt like I lost my sanctuary in Colorado when someone noticed me at a bar..." [18:28]

• Financial Preparations: They touch upon setting up financial accounts like 529 plans to secure their child's future ([38:42]).

Cravings and Dietary Adjustments

Kristen and Tom openly discuss their specific food cravings, relating back to Dr. Sterling's explanations. Tom shares his intense desire for ice, leading to the acquisition of a nugget ice machine:

"My number one thing was ice. And Luke and I opened up the door to a package that contained a freaking nugget ice machine." [20:45]

They also explore the concept of Pica, where cravings extend to non-food items, emphasizing the importance of addressing underlying nutritional deficiencies.

Humor and Light-Hearted Moments

Throughout the episode, the guests infuse humor into their discussions, making light of everyday pregnancy-related challenges. Highlights include:

• Empathy Belly Fails: Kristen jokes about receiving a disappointing empathy belly from Amazon, leading to humorous suggestions of attaching melons to her body ([08:55]).

• Sleep Struggles: Tom humorously contrasts his sleepless nights with Luke's ability to nap effortlessly:

  "He's like, I'm tired. I'm going to bed. He gets in bed, closes his eyes, and he's out like a light." [26:16]

• Reality TV Antics: They reminisce about their time on Vanderpump Rules, sharing iconic moments and quotes that have become fan favorites:

  "Suck a dick is iconic." [34:04]

Reflection on Relationships and Community

The episode also touches on the evolution of friendships and community dynamics post-reality TV fame. Kristen expresses nostalgia for the tight-knit group they once had, while Tom acknowledges the drift but remains optimistic about the new connections formed through projects like The Valley.

"We used to be such a tight-knit group of people... But I feel like the Valley is bringing some of us back together." [36:31]

Final Thoughts and Gratitude

As the episode draws to a close, Kristen expresses deep gratitude for being part of such a personal and sacred moment:

"You guys seriously mean this. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for letting me into your home when your belly's about to burst." [39:35]

Tom and Luke reciprocate the sentiment, highlighting the importance of empathy, love, and support in their journey towards parenthood.

Conclusion

"Shavings & Cravings: Taking The Edge Off Pregnancy" offers a candid and comprehensive exploration of the complexities surrounding pregnancy. Through personal anecdotes, scientific insights, and heartfelt discussions, Tom, Kristen, and Luke provide listeners with a relatable and enriching narrative on preparing for parenthood. The episode beautifully balances emotional depth with humor, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating or contemplating the joys and challenges of expecting a child.

Notable Quotes with Timestamps:

• "Probably my biggest insecurity in life right now being a 42-year-old man is not having kids." — Kristen Doute [01:04]
• "Food cravings and aversions during pregnancy affect between 50 to 90% of pregnant individuals..." — Dr. Noah Sterling [04:18]
• "I don't sleep anymore. Sleep like a full eight hours at night because you have to get up and pee like every five to 10 minutes." — Tom Schwarz [08:29]
• "31 weeks in, I want Luke to, like, instead of me giving him a honey-do list, I want him to do things with me and read her mind." — Tom Schwarz [14:39]
• "Suck a dick is iconic." — Kristen Doute [34:04]
• "We used to be such a tight-knit group of people... But I feel like the Valley is bringing some of us back together." — Tom Schwarz [36:31]
• "You guys seriously mean this. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for letting me into your home when your belly's about to burst." — Kristen Doute [39:35]

This episode serves as a testament to the power of friendship, love, and perseverance in the face of life's most profound changes. Whether you're expecting, supporting someone who is, or simply curious about the journey, "Shavings & Cravings" provides valuable insights and relatable moments that resonate deeply with listeners.