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Dildo Whisperer
Hosted by Romaine Patterson · EN
The Dildo Whisperer is where people go to get the sex education that their schools refused to give them and their parents were too embarrassed to discuss. This is sex education that is inclusive, inspiring and transformative! Listeners have the opportunity to ask questions, hear sex toy reviews and get insight from some of the top sexperts in the country. Hosted by Romaine Patterson and produced by DNR Studios.
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Beauty, Confidence, and Owning Your Power: A Conversation with Blake Lovely Part 2
6d ago00:59:36Tap to summarizeThis week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're joined by musician, author, award-nominated adult performer, and trans icon Blake Lovely for a candid conversation about confidence, sexuality, self-expression, and living authentically. This is part 2 of our conversation. From growing up in rural Virginia knowing she was destined to become the woman she is today, to building a successful music career, transitioning, and becoming one of the most recognized trans performers in adult entertainment, Blake shares her remarkable journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We discuss body image, attraction, dating, intimacy, the realities of working in the adult industry, and the lessons she's learned about confidence, communication, and embracing your desires without shame. Blake also opens up about her passion for music, her upcoming projects, and why authenticity is the sexiest quality anyone can possess. Whether you're curious about trans experiences, interested in the intersection of sexuality and self-expression, or simply looking for inspiration to live more boldly, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Join us for an honest, sex-positive conversation about identity, pleasure, confidence, and finding your power. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Transcribe →Beauty, Confidence, and Owning Your Power: A Conversation with Blake Lovely Part 1
2w ago00:51:17Tap to summarizeThis week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're joined by musician, author, award-nominated adult performer, and trans icon Blake Lovely for a candid conversation about confidence, sexuality, self-expression, and living authentically. This is part 1 of our conversation. From growing up in rural Virginia knowing she was destined to become the woman she is today, to building a successful music career, transitioning, and becoming one of the most recognized trans performers in adult entertainment, Blake shares her remarkable journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We discuss body image, attraction, dating, intimacy, the realities of working in the adult industry, and the lessons she's learned about confidence, communication, and embracing your desires without shame. Blake also opens up about her passion for music, her upcoming projects, and why authenticity is the sexiest quality anyone can possess. Whether you're curious about trans experiences, interested in the intersection of sexuality and self-expression, or simply looking for inspiration to live more boldly, this is an episode you won't want to miss. Join us for an honest, sex-positive conversation about identity, pleasure, confidence, and finding your power. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Transcribe →Use Your Words: How to Ask for What You Want in Bed
3w ago00:50:59Tap to summarizeHave you ever wished your partner could read your mind in the bedroom? You're not alone. One of the biggest obstacles to a satisfying sex life isn't technique—it's communication. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're talking about how to ask for what you want in bed without feeling awkward, selfish, or embarrassed. From overcoming shame and fear of rejection to learning how to give constructive feedback and discuss fantasies, desires, and boundaries, we'll explore practical ways to improve communication and strengthen intimacy. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, dating someone new, or simply trying to better understand your own needs, this episode will help you find the words to advocate for your pleasure and create more satisfying sexual experiences. Because great sex doesn't come from mind reading—it comes from honest conversations. Tune in and discover why using your words may be the sexiest thing you can do. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
Transcribe →Signals, Smirks, and Seduction
4w ago01:14:17Tap to summarizeWhat separates a charming flirt from a cringeworthy pickup artist? Is flirting something you're born knowing how to do, or is it a skill anyone can learn? This week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're exploring the art of flirting—the subtle dance of attraction, communication, confidence, and connection. From eye contact and body language to playful teasing and digital dating, we'll break down what flirting really is and why it's such an important part of human interaction. We'll discuss the psychology behind attraction, common flirting mistakes, how to recognize when someone is interested (or not interested), and why authenticity beats cheesy pickup lines every time. Whether you're single, partnered, shy, outgoing, LGBTQ+, or just looking to improve your communication skills, this episode offers practical tips to help you connect with others in a fun, respectful, and confident way. Plus, we'll answer listener questions about flirting in person, online, at bars, on apps, and everything in between. So smile, make eye contact, and join us as we uncover the secrets of successful flirting—without the games, pressure, or awkwardness. Because sometimes the sexiest thing you can say is simply, "Tell me more." Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer—helping you have smarter, healthier, and more satisfying conversations about sex. The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Transcribe →Too Fast, Too Furious: Understanding Premature Ejaculation
Jul 101:03:11Tap to summarizeHow long is sex supposed to last, anyway? And what exactly counts as premature ejaculation? In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we're tackling one of the most common—and most misunderstood—sexual concerns: premature ejaculation (PE). Whether you've experienced it yourself, have a partner who has, or you're simply curious about the science behind it, we're separating fact from fiction and taking the shame out of the conversation. We'll explore what premature ejaculation actually is, why it happens, and how anxiety, stress, biology, and unrealistic expectations can all play a role. You'll learn practical techniques that may help improve control, discover treatment options, and hear why lasting longer isn't necessarily the key to better sex. Plus, we answer listener questions about masturbation habits, edging, condoms, performance anxiety, and whether PE can develop later in life. If you've ever worried about finishing too quickly, this episode is for you. Remember: great sex isn't measured with a stopwatch. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer—helping you have smarter, healthier, and more satisfying conversations about sex. The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Transcribe →Dear Dildo Whisperer- Your Questions Answered
Jun 2400:53:29Tap to summarizePack your bags — and maybe your carry-on toy cleaner — because this week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're diving into your listener questions! We're talking about the dos and don'ts of traveling with sex toys, how to navigate airport security without dying of embarrassment, and what you should know before packing chastity devices or prostate toys for your next adventure. We also explore the fascinating — and surprisingly controversial — medical history of the vibrator, including how these devices were once marketed as respectable wellness tools long before they became symbols of sexual empowerment. Along the way, we answer your questions about safety, pleasure, stigma, discretion, and why sexual curiosity has always found a way to travel through history. Whether you're a frequent flyer, a toy collector, or just love weird sex history, this episode has something buzzing for everyone. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Transcribe →Harder Better Faster Longer?
Jun 1700:47:24Tap to summarizeErectile dysfunction medications like Viagra and Cialis are more common than ever — but how much do we really know about them? This week on The Dildo Whisperer, we dive deep into the world of ED medications: how they work, why people use them recreationally, the pressures surrounding sexual performance, and the very real health risks that can come with misuse. We also tackle one of the most important harm reduction conversations in queer nightlife and hookup culture: the dangerous combination of ED drugs and poppers. Why is this mix so common, and why can it become medically dangerous so quickly? Along the way, we unpack shame, masculinity, aging, anxiety, porn culture, and the myth that erections define sexual worth. Because great sex isn't about perfection — it's about communication, pleasure, connection, and safety. Come for the hard truths. Stay for the safer sex education. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Transcribe →Is It Cheating If They're Only in Your Head?
Jun 1001:21:59Tap to summarizeThis week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're diving into one of the messiest modern relationship questions: Is it cheating if it only happens in your head? Is fantasizing about an ex during masturbation crossing a line? What about during sex with your current partner? We explore the emotional grey areas of relationships, including emotional affairs, online flirting, secret texting, social media behavior, and the complicated space between fantasy and betrayal. Cheating isn't always physical anymore — and every relationship defines boundaries differently. This episode unpacks why these topics trigger such strong reactions, how secrecy changes the equation, and why communication may matter more than the fantasy itself. Honest, uncomfortable, funny, and deeply relatable — this is a conversation almost everyone has thought about… but few people openly admit. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Transcribe →Close Encounters of the Sexy Kind: Alien Sex Fantasies
Jun 300:58:25Tap to summarizeThis week on The Dildo Whisperer, we're blasting off into the strange, sexy, and surprisingly common world of alien sex fantasies. From alien impregnation storylines and futuristic pleasure devices to tentacles, abduction roleplay, and sci-fi seduction, we explore why the unknown can be such a powerful turn-on. What do these fantasies reveal about curiosity, transformation, power, and human desire? Why do so many people find freedom in imagining sex beyond the limits of humanity? And how has pop culture shaped our fascination with extraterrestrial intimacy? Join us for a fun, open-minded conversation about one of sexuality's most imaginative frontiers. Because when it comes to fantasy… humans are definitely not staying on this planet. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios
Transcribe →Late Bloomers: Coming Out Later in Life
May 2700:45:23Tap to summarizeComing out isn't just for teenagers—it happens every day, at every age. In this episode of The Dildo Whisperer, we explore what it means to come out later in life: the fear, the freedom, the grief, and the sexual awakening that can follow. Whether you're navigating this journey yourself or supporting someone who is, this episode offers compassion, real talk, and a reminder that it's never too late to live your truth. Send the us your sex and relationship questions and maybe you will inspire the next episode of The Dildo Whisperer. We have two ways to reach the show. You can call into our show at 844-695-2766 or you can email us at Askthedw@gmail.com. Follow us on social media @dildowhisperer The Dildo Whisperer is produced by DNR Studios. To subscribe to this show and the rest of the DNR Network of shows including the Cookie Jar Podcast visit: www.dnrstudios.com
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