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This is a way that I thought would be really fun to give a special re highlight to some of the guests that I've had join me in interviews since I relaunched the podcast on video in May. There are new viewers here, new listeners here, and I believe that the best lessons bear repeating. I have joked in episodes and also in journal and in life that there seems to be a handful of lessons that I am playing basically peekaboo with life in the universe where I forget everything that I know about, processing my feelings, making space for my feelings, and then I remember, then I forget and then I remember and then I forget. And this episode is going to be the first of a series that's gonna be continuing through the rest of December where you're gonn little bites. I'll be taking some chunks from the solo cast that I've recorded every other week since we relaunched in May, as well as highlighting some of my favorite parts of interviews we've had re highlighting guests. There'll be a free gift for listeners as well with these episodes because we all just need a little bit more tenderness, a little bit more peace and joy during the holiday season, whatever we choose to celebrate wherever we are. And if you're listening to this episode and it's not the holidays, don't worry, you still get the free gift. There's no end cap on it, at least not yet. So this is going to be a fun way for us to get little nuggets of insight, little nuggets of validation, connection, community and learning. But also, this is a busy time of year. We need a little bit more help, a little bit more support and less on our plates. So that's the intention here Every week, here's what you can expect. Top insights from my solo cast, highlights from my most impactful interviews, and threads of wisdom that tie it all together. Consider this a cozy end of the year reflection with a giant podcast bow. Now let's jump in. If you've ever wanted to start journaling but didn't know where to begin, the Treasure Journal was made just for you. It is a guided reflection tool built around seven key areas of your life with prompts and stories pulled straight from my therapy practice to help you go deeper with kindness and clarity as we head into the holidays. These make for beautiful gifts for a friend or for yourself, because sometimes the best present is giving yourself the space to breathe and reflect. You can grab your copy through the link in the show notes. Now back to the episode. Welcome to Best of Week one, When Frustration Speaks and Magic Answers. This week I'm starting with two powerful themes that shaped most of the conversations I've had since then. For the rest of the year, frustration and magic. First, you're gonna hear some clips from a solo cast. What is your frustration telling you? Where I explore frustration not just as a problem, but as information, as a whisperer, as guidance, it's something that is informing, something we really need to pay attention to. Then we shift into some remarkable moments. From my interview with coach, speaker and magician John Kippen, his story of healing, resilience and literal magic became one of the most unforgettable convers. And before we begin, a gentle heads up. This is my first time creating a best of compilation episode of any kind using various clips. So if the transitions feel a little jumpy or if it seems like some thoughts may leap a little bit from one to the other, that's probably because that is exactly what's happening. These moments, they weren't originally recorded to be side by side, but I chose the clips because they felt the most meaningful and impactful to me. It felt like, how could I pack in the most punch in this type of episode? But the great thing is in the show notes there are links to the full episode. So if you listen to this clip or this highlight and you're hearing a part of an idea and you're like, oh man, I want more context on that. I got you covered. And you can. Okay, think of this a little like flipping through a scrapbook. It's not exactly a straight line, but a beautiful collection of moments that are worth remembering. Let's get started with the solo cast using emotions and interpreting them like information because they are our emotions, are our internal compass, our internal guidance system and the way we emotionally respond to life is information that is a roadmap guiding us through the next right step. Your frustration is valid. Your frustration is real. It is being experienced by you. Therefore, the resolve, the action, the places you go, the conversations you have, or just the new informed way that you have of moving forward, it's uniquely yours. How can I become more in tune with the experience I'm having so that it doesn't have to get as uncomfortable as it got before? As soon as I get up in arms about what I can and cannot accept from somebody else? It almost seems like within the week, karma knocks me upside the head and I end up making the same big mistake that I was so indignant about somebody else doing. If that little whisper is persistently coming up that, hey, something smells a little fishy or something feels a little off, I don't have to maybe know in the fullest extent of the word what that means. But also don't ignore it. And that is what I did. Scratch the itch, feel it, but then go back. Don't ignore it. Don't bulldoze past it, revisit it, and ask it, what is it? Wanting you to know what happened when things didn't work out? What did you do when you faced out? What happened when you maybe failed 10 times before you got your first success? What helps me is not just having a North Star of what's possible, but also a path to get there, funneling through the process of understanding your frustration and what it could be informing for you. The thing that I like to say to myself in a journal or out loud is some version of this, make it your own. Knowing that I can never change other people and that I am the one who is responsible for me. I can, I want, I need, I will. And I use those sentence stems. But in some version of this process, after letting myself name the frustration exactly in the way I feel it, in many cases, if I really sit with that and open and access curiosity, there were many times where people were asking me, what do you need? Do you want to go do blank? Do you want to go do blank? And I was so caught up in my own narrative at the time that I felt trapped and I felt like I couldn't say yes. And so who's responsible for that? Me. Big feelings are hard to hold, especially for little ones. And that's why I wrote Wrestling a Walrus for Little People with Big Feelings. It is a sweet, beautifully illustrated story about a small penguin, a big obstacle, and what happens when we meet our feelings with curiosity instead of fear? It's the perfect holiday gift for kids, parents, teachers or anyone who could use a gentle reminder that big feelings don't have to be scary. Find wrestling a walrus on Amazon.com, barnesandnoble.com or the link in the show notes. That was a look at some of the biggest takeaways from from the solo cast. What is your frustration telling you? And now we are going to shift gears into something completely different, a different kind of magic, the kind that happens when somebody turns their deepest challenge into their greatest superpower. You're about to hear highlights from my conversation with coach, speaker and magician John Kippen. He has a TED Talk that has received over a million views and the heartbeat of this TED Talk is how he triumphs over tragedy with a diagnosis of a tumor the size of a golf ball that is separating his brainstem. And the procedure he needed to save his life changed his life forever. Doing the work of healing does not come easily to anyone. But as John so beautifully puts in this episode, if John can do it, you can do it. He's using his story, his vulnerable and raw experiences and talking about not only what happened to him, but how he moved through the impossible. He actually coins a phrase that I love and I'm going to keep, which is that impossible really means I'm possible. So the ultimate magic trick, the ultimate illusion, is what your limiting beliefs are about yourself and how do you use facing those fears and those limiting beliefs to transform your life. And in John's case, he takes that healing and offers it as a gift to us as listeners, to his clients and his coaching practice to the readers of his book. He has authored a book, the foreword by none other than the Jamie Lee Curtis from all of the places you know her, most recently the Bear, where she won an Emmy. But everything, everywhere, all at once. She and John are buds and she believes in him and believes in this work. And as a champion of that work, it just adds a little extra sparkle and fairy dust to the beautiful work that he's already doing. To say that he's been vetted by someone who is so sparkly and magnetic and also deeply entrenched in holding space for the truth and honoring the truth.