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Don't Cut Your Own Bangs
Hosted by Danielle Ireland · EN
Don't Cut Your Own Bangs is a cozy corner of the internet for high-functioning humans with big feelings — the capable ones who get things done but quietly wonder if something's missing.
If you're the unicorn in a power suit (or a perfectly neutral sweater), building a life that looks "right" on paper but still craving something freer and more alive — you're in the right place.
Hosted by therapist and author Danielle Ireland, this show feels like sitting on the couch with your best friend — if your best friend happened to be a therapist. Together, we untangle burnout, anxiety, pressure, and comparison, and learn how to turn emotions into allies instead of obstacles.
This is a space for comfort, community, clarity — and a few laughs along the way.
Because you deserve calm without having to earn it.
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Am I Right to Feel This Way?
3d ago00:20:06Summary readySomething feels off—but what if you're wrong about what you're feeling? Self-validation is the practice of naming what is true about your experience without dismissing it, or demanding that you immediately know what to do next. It can quiet anxious spiraling, calm self-doubt, and help your nervous system settle enough to find clarity. In this solo episode, therapist Danielle Ireland explores why we so often question our own feelings, how unanswerable "why" questions intensify anxiety, and why saying "I don't know" can be more grounding than forcing certainty you don't yet have. You don't need to prove that your feelings are reasonable before you acknowledge that they are real. Sometimes the most stabilizing thing you can say is simply: This is hard. This is what I feel. This is what I know right now. In This Episode You'll learn: What self-validation is—and what it is not Why acknowledging your feelings does not mean agreeing with every thought How anxious "why" questions create more uncertainty instead of clarity Why "I don't know" can be an emotionally grounding answer How naming the truth of your experience can calm your nervous system A simple practice for moving from spiraling to greater self-trust Three Practical Takeaways 1. Name the experience before trying to solve it You don't have to know what happens next before you can acknowledge what is happening now. Try: "I feel scared." "This is disappointing." "I don't know what to do yet." A truthful statement with a period can be more regulating than another question your mind cannot answer. 2. Replace unanswerable questions with what you know Instead of repeatedly asking: "Why did this happen?" "Why haven't they called?" "What if I made the wrong choice?" Pause and ask: What do I know right now? You may know that you made the best decision you could. You may know you are breathing. You may only know that you do not know yet. That is still somewhere solid to begin. 3. Let your experience be real without making it anyone else's responsibility Validation means recognizing that your feelings make sense within your experience. It does not mean someone else must agree with you. It does not mean you know the entire truth of the situation. And it does not mean your feelings get to make every decision. It means your experience belongs in the conversation too. The Clip Moment "The truth, no matter how hard, is the right kind of hard—and arguably more certain and more settling than any beautifully told half-truth." The Heart of This Conversation The hardest part is not always the feeling itself. Sometimes it's the fear that you are not allowed to trust it. Self-validation helps you stop fighting for permission to have your own experience. It gives you a place to stand before you know what to do next. Pull-Over-the-Car Insight Your body responds to truth. You may still have work to do after admitting what is real. But clarity often begins the moment you stop negotiating with your own experience. Reflection Question What is true about this for you—even if you do not yet know what to do with that truth? Take a breath before answering. And if the answer is: "I don't know." Try following it with: "What do I know?" A Gentle Next Step If this episode helped you put language to something you have quietly been carrying, share it with someone who may need permission to believe their own experience too. Follow or subscribe wherever you listen so you never miss a new conversation. And if the show has helped you feel more understood, leaving a rating or review is one of the most generous ways you can help another high-functioning human with big feelings find their way here. Listen, Connect, and Explore Website: https://danielleireland.com/ Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922 Before you go. If this conversation helped you feel a little clearer or a little less alone, follow Don't Cut Your Own Bangs wherever you listen. It makes sure you never miss an episode, and it helps more high-functioning humans with big feelings find these conversations too.
SummaryThe Best Thing That Never Happened to Me
1w ago00:54:03Summary readyWhat happens when the life you planned disappears—and something even more meaningful begins. What if the hardest thing you've ever lived through wasn't the end of your story—but the beginning of becoming someone you never would have met otherwise? There are moments in life that divide everything into before and after. Sometimes it's a diagnosis. Sometimes it's grief. Sometimes it's becoming a parent, losing a relationship, changing careers, or waking up one morning and realizing the life you imagined isn't the life you're living. The details are different. The question is the same: Who am I now? If you've ever found yourself wondering whether you'll ever feel like yourself again, I think this conversation is for you. This week on Don't Cut Your Own Bangs, I'm revisiting one of my favorite conversations with magician, speaker, TEDx presenter, and storyteller John Kippen. John walked into the hospital expecting answers. Instead, he received a diagnosis that would change every part of his life. He had no way of knowing that saying yes to a life-saving surgery would also mean saying goodbye to the face he'd always known, the future he'd imagined, and the version of himself he thought he'd always be. He thought he was fighting to save his life. He didn't know he was about to discover it. What followed wasn't simply a story of survival. It became a story of grief, healing, identity, connection, and discovering that the most meaningful parts of ourselves sometimes emerge only after life asks us to let go of the plans we thought we needed. In many ways, the greatest magic trick John has ever performed wasn't on a stage. It was learning to love the person he became after everything changed—and sharing that hope with others. In this episode, we explore: • Why major life changes often leave us asking, "Who am I now?" • How grief and possibility can exist in the same season. • Why curiosity can become one of the kindest ways to meet change. • What it means to stop chasing the life you imagined and begin discovering the one that's unfolding. • How self-acceptance becomes possible, even after life changes in ways you never would have chosen. One sentence from this conversation has stayed with me ever since: Sometimes the greatest magic isn't becoming who you used to be. It's discovering there's still so much of you left to meet. I have a feeling I'll carry that one for a long time. Maybe you will too. Reflection Where in your life are you still measuring yourself against a version of the future that no longer exists? What might become possible if you allowed yourself to get curious about the person you're still becoming? The Heart of This Conversation Sometimes surviving isn't about finding your way back to who you used to be. It's about discovering there's still so much of you left to meet. If this conversation resonates... My hope is that every conversation leaves you feeling a little more understood, a little less alone, and a little more curious about yourself. If this episode brings someone to mind, I'd be honored if you'd share it with them. Sometimes the right conversation arrives at exactly the right time. If you're enjoying the podcast, subscribing and leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify is one of the best ways to help more high-functioning humans with big feelings discover these conversations. Connect with John Kippen Website: https://www.johnkippen.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johnkippen/ Connect with Danielle Website: https://danielleireland.com Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
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What is your frustration telling you? (Repost)
2w ago00:21:41Summary ready"If what I want is for someone else to respect my time, then maybe I'm the one who needs to respect my time first." Oof. That realization hit me right between the eyes. Have you ever noticed how quickly frustration turns into a story about someone else? The person who cancelled. The coworker who dropped the ball. The partner who isn't helping. The kids who need one more thing. And sometimes that's true. But sometimes the thing you're frustrated with isn't actually the problem. "Your frustration isn't the problem. It's the clue." Sometimes frustration is the moment your needs, boundaries, exhaustion, or truth have been trying to get your attention for a while—and you've been too busy carrying everything else to hear them. In this solo episode, I'm unpacking two frustrating experiences from my own life and walking you through the exact process I use to understand what frustration might actually be trying to tell me. Because emotions aren't the problem. They're information. And frustration is one of the most revealing emotions we have. Together we'll explore why frustration almost never stands alone, how it can point us toward unmet needs and hidden truths, and a simple framework you can use to move from irritation to clarity. In This Episode • Why frustration is always trying to tell you something • The surprising difference between being frustrated with someone else and being frustrated with yourself • How irritation can reveal needs you've been overlooking • Why emotions work like an internal compass • A simple reflection process you can use anytime frustration shows up • The powerful shift that happens when you stop asking "Why am I so frustrated?" and start asking "What is this trying to teach me?" Three Takeaways Your frustration isn't the problem. It's the clue. Frustration often points toward something important that needs your attention. Sometimes frustration is what happens when you've abandoned yourself. Not intentionally. Not dramatically. Just quietly, one small compromise at a time. Emotional clarity begins with curiosity. The goal isn't to get rid of the feeling. It's to understand what it's trying to show you. Reflection Question What would your frustration say if it trusted you enough to tell you the truth? Before you go... If this episode felt like a conversation you needed today, would you share it with someone who might need it too? Follow the podcast, leave a rating or review, and help more high-functioning humans with big feelings find a little more clarity, connection, and calm without having to earn it. Links & Resources Website: https://danielleireland.com Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
SummaryThe Best Thing That Never Happened To Me
3w ago00:57:13Summary readyHave you ever looked at your life and thought: "This isn't what I pictured." Not necessarily bad. Not necessarily wrong. Just... different. A different career. A different timeline. A different version of yourself than the one you imagined years ago. And somewhere underneath all of that, a quiet question: What if I missed my chance? This week's conversation has stayed with me long after we stopped recording. My guest, Eli Martinez, spends his days leading wildlife safaris around the world, photographing sharks, whales, crocodiles, anacondas, and some of the most breathtaking places on earth. But what struck me most wasn't the wildlife. It was a story about a fractured hip, a dream that didn't work out, and the surprising realization that not becoming a professional bull rider ended up giving him a life he never could have planned for. The more we talked, the more I realized this episode isn't really about sharks. It's about grief. It's about letting go of the future you thought you'd have. It's about curiosity. And it's about what becomes possible when you follow curiosity faster than disappointment. In this conversation, we explore the healing power of nature, why understanding creates connection, what happens when life takes an unexpected turn, and how some of the greatest gifts in our lives arrive disguised as detours. 3 Things You'll Take Away From This Episode • Sometimes the thing you're grieving is making room for something you couldn't have imagined yet. • "Something's wrong" is often where emotional awareness begins—not where failure begins. • You don't always need a new plan. Sometimes you only need enough curiosity to take the next step. Clip Moment "Not becoming a professional bull rider was the best thing that never happened to me." Shareable Quote "Sometimes 'something's wrong' is where emotional awareness begins." Pull-Over-The-Car Insight The thing that broke your plan might be the thing that gives you your life. Reflection Question What dream, timeline, or version of your future are you still grieving—and what might become possible if you loosened your grip on it just a little? If This Episode Resonated If this felt like a conversation you needed today, share it with someone who might need it too. Follow the show wherever you listen so you don't miss next week's episode, and if you've been enjoying the podcast, leaving a rating or review helps more people find these conversations. Connect with Eli Martinez Website: https://sdmdiving.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sdmdiving Connect with Danielle Website: https://danielleireland.com Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
SummaryI Can Do Hard Things. But Why Am I?
Jun 1500:55:15Summary readyWhy can't this feel easier? Maybe you've been carrying that question around for a while. Maybe you're doing all the things. Showing up. Working hard. Taking care of people. Following through. Keeping promises. Building the life you wanted. And somehow you're still exhausted. Not because you're doing it wrong. But because somewhere along the way, you started believing everything had to be hard to count. In this conversation, I'm revisiting one of my favorite interviews with cake artist, educator, and creator Asia Coffee. What starts as a conversation about creativity, business, and baking turns into something much bigger: a conversation about permission. Permission to stop proving. Permission to let things be good enough. Permission to choose ease when ease is available. Asia shares her journey from posting imperfect YouTube videos to growing a community of more than 100,000 subscribers, competing on Food Network, navigating imposter syndrome, and learning one of the most powerful lessons I've heard on this podcast: "I can do hard things. And how hard do I want to make things for myself?" If you're a high-functioning human with big feelings who is carrying a lot right now, this episode might feel like a deep exhale. Three Takeaways: • Consistency often matters more than perfection. • Just because you can do hard things doesn't mean everything has to be hard. • Sometimes growth looks less like pushing harder and more like offering yourself grace. "I don't think we're always exhausted from doing too much. Sometimes we're exhausted from believing everything has to be difficult to be worthwhile." Reflection Question: Where in your life have you been proving you can do hard things when what you really want is a little more ease? If this felt like a conversation you needed today, send it to someone who's carrying a lot right now. Share it with a friend, a coworker, a sister, or someone who keeps trying to earn rest instead of receive it. And if you haven't already, follow the podcast so you don't miss next week's episode. Connect with Asia Coffee Website: https://www.cakesbycoffee.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrs.coffeescakes/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/AsiaCoffee Connect with Danielle Website: https://danielleireland.com Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
SummaryMaybe Life Wasn't Meant To Be This Hard
Jun 800:58:37Summary readyThere are a handful of conversations that have stayed with me long after the microphone turned off. This is one of them. In fact, this may be the episode that changed how I think about effort, desire, and building a life that actually feels good to live. Because if you've ever found yourself wondering: "Why does everything feel harder than it should?" I think this conversation is going to feel like a deep exhale, and exactly why I chose to release it a secind time. It's that good. My guest today is coach, author, and speaker LaShell Wooten, and together we explore what happens when we stop treating ourselves like projects that need fixing and start listening to ourselves differently. We talk about emotional intelligence as an internal GPS, why so many high-achieving people get trapped in "efforting," and how freedom often starts by getting honest about what you actually want. If you're functioning externally while quietly feeling overwhelmed internally, this episode might offer a different way forward. Three Takeaways • Sometimes staying busy feels safer than looking at what's driving it. • The goal isn't becoming a better version of yourself. It's becoming more aligned with who you already are. • Emotional intelligence isn't about controlling your feelings. It's about listening to what they're trying to tell you. Quote For You "I don't think most people are tired from doing too much. I think they're tired from being disconnected from themselves for too long." Reflection Question Where in your life are you currently forcing something that might be asking for a different kind of attention? CTA If this conversation felt like something you needed today, send it to someone who's been carrying a lot lately. And if you haven't already, follow the show so you don't miss future episodes. Every week we're helping high-functioning humans with big feelings feel a little calmer, a little clearer, and a little less alone. Connect with LaShell Wooten Website: https://www.liinks.co/lashell.wooten Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lashellwooten Connect with Danielle Website: https://danielleireland.com Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
SummaryWhy Your Brain Won't Shut Off
Jun 100:25:29Summary readyHave you ever noticed how quickly you reach for noise the second things get quiet? Another project. Another scroll. Another task. Another thing to organize, clean, fix, or plan. Not because you actually want to. But because sitting still feels strangely uncomfortable. In this episode of Don't Cut Your Own Bangs, I'm exploring something I think many of us quietly struggle with: the fear beneath the busyness. Because sometimes staying busy feels safer than looking at what's driving it. As a therapist, I've noticed that the people who seem the most capable on the outside are often carrying the heaviest emotional load on the inside. They're functioning externally and exhaling privately. They're exhausted, but they can't seem to stop moving. They're desperate for rest, but the moment things get quiet, they reach for more noise. If that's you, I want you to know this episode isn't about becoming more productive or finding a better routine. It's about understanding what your exhaustion might be trying to tell you. Because I don't think most people are tired from doing too much. I think they're tired from being disconnected from themselves for too long. In This Episode We Explore: • Why your brain won't shut off even when you're exhausted • How busyness can become a way of avoiding difficult emotions • The hidden fear underneath productivity, perfectionism, and constant striving A Few Things I Hope You Take With You: • Rest isn't always hard because you're busy. Sometimes it's hard because quiet creates space to feel. • Exhaustion can be a signal, not just a problem to solve. • You are not failing. Your nervous system may simply be responding to more than you've acknowledged. "Sometimes staying busy feels safer than looking at what's driving it." A Quote To Keep "I don't think most people are tired from doing too much. I think they're tired from being disconnected from themselves for too long." Key Insight The goal isn't to stop thinking. The goal is to become curious about what your mind is working so hard to keep you from feeling. Reflection Question If your busyness suddenly disappeared for a day, what feeling might finally have room to catch up with you? Before you go If this felt like a conversation you needed today, would you share it with someone who might need it too? And if you haven't already, follow the show so you don't miss next week's episode. Every week we're making big feelings feel a little less scary and a little easier to understand. I'm so glad you're here. My Links Website: https://danielleireland.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Substack: https://danielleireland.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs The Treasured Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
SummaryYou Were Never Meant to Live Like a Machine
May 2500:26:11Summary readyYou know that feeling where you're technically functioning… but internally it feels like your nervous system is running on fumes? You're answering emails. Making dinner. Showing up. Smiling. Handling responsibilities. Maybe even achieving things you once prayed for. And somehow, underneath all of it, there's this quiet fear: "What if I'm not actually capable of holding the life I worked so hard to build?" In this episode, I'm starting a brand new 3-part series called You Were Never Meant to Live Like a Machine. We're talking about burnout—but not just the productivity version of burnout. We're talking about the emotional layer underneath it: The fear that struggling means failing. The shame that shows up when the thing exhausting you is also something you deeply wanted. And why so many high-functioning people quietly override themselves in order to keep everything moving. I also share some very personal reflections about stepping back into public speaking, navigating motherhood, marriage, ambition, and the uncomfortable reality of reaching for a new version of your life while feeling terrified you won't be able to sustain it. If you've been telling yourself: "I just need to get through this week…" this episode is for you. 3 things we explore together in this episode: • Why burnout often starts long before exhaustion • How fear of disappointing others quietly fuels over-functioning • Why honesty—not rest—is often the first step toward burnout recovery The thing exhausting you may not actually be the workload—it may be the fear of what slowing down could mean about you. What part of your exhaustion have you been afraid to acknowledge because of what it might say about you? If this episode felt like a conversation you needed, send it to someone else carrying too much quietly. And if you haven't already, make sure you're following the show and leave a rating or review—it genuinely helps more people find these conversations. Mentioned in this episode: The Treasure Journal https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling a Walrus https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus The Bangs Club https://danielleireland.substack.com My Links: Website https://danielleireland.com/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs Listen on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Listen on Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
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What If Your Boundary Doesn't Fit Anymore?
May 1801:02:04Summary readyThere's a version of boundaries we don't talk about enough. Not the empowering kind. Not the "protect your peace" Instagram quote kind. I mean the kind that once genuinely protected you… but now might quietly be keeping you disconnected, guarded, lonely, or stuck. The boundary that made perfect sense after heartbreak. The emotional distance that helped you survive chaos. The "I'm fine on my own" identity that once felt safe. And now? It might fit a little like an old jacket hanging in the closet—familiar, broken in, but not quite meant for the version of you you're becoming. In this conversation with Teresa Sabatine of Love Lizzy, we talk about the complicated space between self-protection and self-abandonment, the grief of outgrowing old identities, and how sometimes the things that once kept us safe can slowly start keeping us small. This conversation is warm, honest, deeply reflective, and full of those "oh… I've never thought about it like that before" moments. A few things we explore in this episode: • Why some boundaries start as protection but slowly become fear dressed up as safety • How grief shows up when you begin changing old relationship patterns • The difference between honoring yourself and emotionally hiding "Not every protective strategy is meant to become a permanent personality trait." One thing I hope you sit with after this episode: What if the thing you call a boundary is actually an old form of protection that doesn't quite fit anymore? If this episode felt like a conversation you needed, send it to someone who might need it too. And if you haven't already, make sure you're following Don't Cut Your Own Bangs so you don't miss next week's episode. And if you've been listening for a while, rating and reviewing the show genuinely helps more people find these conversations. Reflection question: What's one form of protection in your life that once helped you survive… but might not fit who you're becoming anymore? If this felt like a conversation you needed, share it with someone who needs it too, and follow so you don't miss next week. Guest Links: Love Lizzy Website: https://lovelizzy.co/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovelizzyco Mentioned in Episode: The Treasure Journal: https://danielleireland.com/journal Wrestling A Walrus: https://danielleireland.com/wrestling-a-walrus My Links: Website: https://danielleireland.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DontCutYourOwnBangs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dontcutyourownbangs Listen to the Podcast: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0VFZulonTvaa2HIPyJa4Tq Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dont-cut-your-own-bangs/id1427579922
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Too Much and Not Enough
May 1100:10:33Summary readyHave you ever felt like you're somehow too much and not enough at the exact same time? Too emotional. Too needy. Too sensitive. And also not smart enough, interesting enough, lovable enough, together enough. In this episode, I'm talking about why those two thoughts are not actually opposites. They're often two sides of the same wound: shame. The belief that if people really saw you, they might not choose you. And oof. That one lands. This episode is about the tug-of-war between performing, disappearing, overexplaining, people-pleasing, and quietly abandoning yourself in the process. We'll talk about how to recognize where you're leaving yourself behind, how to start listening to what you actually need, and why your emotions may be the closest thing you have to an invisible care card. Because you are not too much. You are someone with needs that may not have been fully honored yet. Three things I want you to take with you: – "Too much" and "not enough" are often shame wearing two different outfits – When you don't know what you feel, it becomes harder to know what you want – Your emotions are not proof that you're a problem—they're information about what you need RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE TO "DON'T CUT YOUR OWN BANGS" Like your favorite recipe or song, the best things in life are shared. When you rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast, your engagement helps me connect with other listeners just like you. Plus, subscriptions just make life easier for everybody. It's one less thing for you to think about and you can easily keep up to date on everything that's new. So, please rate, review, and subscribe today. JOIN THE BANGS CLUB If you've ever finished an episode of Don't Cut Your Own Bangs and thought, "okay… but how do I actually do this in real life?"—The Bangs Club is for you. It's the cozy corner of the internet where we take the conversations from the podcast a little deeper through therapist-informed journal prompts, voice note meditations, emotional reframes, and gentle tools to help you understand what you're feeling and know what to do next. Think of it like the after-party version of the podcast for smart, self-aware, overwhelmed humans with big feelings. Or more specifically: the place you come before dramatically changing your entire life or cutting your own bangs. Come hang out with us here: https://danielleireland.substack.com Thank you for your support and engagement as part of the Don't Cut Your Own Bangs community. Feel free to reach out with questions, comments, or anything you'd like to share. You can connect with me at any of the links below. Website - https://danielleireland.com/ The Treasured Journal - https://danielleireland.com/journal Substack - https://danielleireland.substack.com/ Blog - https://danielleireland.com/blog/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/danielleireland_lcsw Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/danielleireland.LCSW Podcast on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@danielleireland8218/featured
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