My dear friends, who I've been chatting with for 10 years, are back! David Thomas and Sissy Goff are seeing a growing "crisis of capability" in kids. In this conversation, we talk about their new book Capable and why the goal isn't to raise confident kids. It's to raise resilient ones.

If your child won't try out for a sport, avoids new friendships, or struggles to take initiative, you're not alone. Many kids today are hesitant to step into discomfort, and many parents feel unsure how to help without pushing too hard or stepping in too quickly.

David and Sissy share a powerful reframe: confidence isn't something kids magically gain. It's something they build through repeated, uncomfortable experiences. And instead of chasing success, we should be helping our kids become sturdy, able to handle challenges, setbacks, and real life.

We also talk about why we need to move from reactive skills to proactive strength-building, and how small, everyday opportunities (like ordering food, making appointments, or trying something new) can shape long-term resilience.

This episode is both practical and deeply encouraging, especially if you're navigating anxiety, motivation struggles, or the pressure to "get it right" as a parent.

In This Episode, We Cover:

The difference between capability and confidence
Why many kids today avoid risk and discomfort
5 key strengths: competence, flexibility, perseverance, humility, and gratitude
100 practical ways to build independence
Why habits matter more than quick fixes
How to motivate teens who won’t engage

Connect with David and Sissy:

Website: Raising Boys and Girls | Tools, Tips, and Hope for Strong Families
Instagram: Raising Boys and Girls (@raisingboysandgirls)
Facebook: Raising Boys and Girls

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