Ask, Tell, Confess: Red Flags & Glory Holes

Summary

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Dumb Blonde Podcast – Episode Summary

Episode Overview

Podcast: Dumb Blonde
Episode Title: Ask, Tell, Confess: Red Flags & Glory Holes
Air Date: August 22, 2025
Host: Bunnie XO
Summary:
This episode dives unapologetically into the world of wild dating stories, relationship red flags, sex, glory holes, Craigslist shenanigans, and the unfiltered realities behind modern romance. Bunnie XO and her co-hosts (Jay, Jaime, Jason, and guests) deliver their signature blend of humor, honesty, and bold storytelling while riffing about badge-worthy dating disasters, sex taboos, the culture behind transactional relationships, and why you should always watch where you step on the beach.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Craigslist Ad Storytime

• Hilarious Craigslist Ad Reading ([06:04])

  • Jay reads out a bizarre, poetic Craigslist ad - someone seeking "fun to chase" partners.
  • The ad’s requirements (from not allowing bikes to high-fiving post-capture) elicit laughter and serial killer jokes.
  • Speaker reactions range from bewilderment to amusement.
  • Quote: "I am seeking somebody who will let me chase them. Age and gender doesn't matter... You have to be fun to chase..."
    — Jay ([06:04])

• Craigslist Nostalgia ([07:47])

  • Jaime and Jay reminisce about Craigslist's anything-goes vibe, where you could pick up anything from furniture to, well, people.
  • The group jokes about Craigslist’s infamous “roses as payment” for escorts and “glory hole” meetup posts.

2. Glory Hole Origins: History & Dark Humor

• How Did Glory Holes Start? ([09:21])

  • The gang debates the origins of glory holes, with wild speculation (“maybe a pyramid!”) leading to calling in an “expert.”
  • The expert shares that glory holes originated in early 20th-century bathhouses, with notoriety growing in urban underground cultures ([13:21]).
  • Quote: "They're one of those things that kind of originated underground in various subcultures and then just became more known over time."
    — Expert/Researcher ([13:21])

• Practical, Not-So-Practical Jokes ([08:49–09:15])

  • Humor takes a darker turn as the crew jokes about what could go wrong sticking a body part through a glory hole.
  • Quote: "What if he just bit it? And you would never know who bit your dick off?"
    — Jay ([08:57])

3. Craigslist: Real Life Tales

• Jason’s “Uncle” Story ([14:57])
  • Jaime shares how Jason’s “uncle” (an honorary uncle, really) used to meet truckers via Craigslist for hook-ups.
  • The group discusses how Craigslist was a lively (and risky) scene for on-the-road sex work, especially among truckers.

4. Dating Disaster Stories & Red Flags

• Final Destination Date ([16:19])

  • Jason recounts a date where everything went wrong: a beach walk led to a needle injury, resulting in hospital visits and a blown tire—ending, hilariously, in lasting friendship.
  • Quote: "We didn’t go on another date, but became pretty good friends and still laugh about it almost 30 years later."
    — Jason ([16:48])

• Crying Over the Ex ([18:36])

  • A listener’s story: Her date literally cries when his ex enters the restaurant; they’re both asked to leave.
  • Group jumps on this as a universal red flag—someone not over their ex.
  • Quote: "If you go on a date with a man and the first thing he says to you is, ‘my ex is crazy,’ he’s not over her."
    — Jay ([21:17])

• Herpes Confession… Post-Climax ([22:15])

  • A “Sicily, 20-something” date ends in a sex confession: “Oh, by the way, I have herpes, but wore a condom.” The group discusses sexual health and legality.
  • Quote: "If you have an incurable STD, you need to share that with your partner, though."
    — Jay ([23:28])

5. Strip Club Red Flags & Dating “Tricks”

• “Flavor of the Day” at the Strip Club ([29:15])

  • Another listener’s date: taken to a strip club where all the dancers know her date by name (and dub her “flavor of the day”). The hosts riff on why this is a massive red flag.
  • Bunnie and Jay, both former insiders, discuss why dating regular strip club patrons (“tricks”) never ends well.
  • Quote: "If you're trying to be in a relationship with a man who just wants nothing but validation from strippers and going to strip clubs, that man ain't..."
    — Jay ([30:10])
  • Jay’s “superpower” is “sniffing out tricks,” much to the group’s amusement.

• Name Game: Popular “Trick” Names ([32:22])

  • Hilarious exchange about whether common “John” names are actually trick indicators; Jay references actual contacts with classic names like Brad and David.

6. Relationship Longevity & Trauma Bonding

• Long-Term Love & Anniversaries ([25:47]–[27:35])

  • Jay and Jaime reflect on marriage, trauma bonding after messy breakups, and balancing independence with relationship stability.
  • Jay jokes about asking her husband every year if they’re “really doing this,” underscoring a relationship dynamic full of playful banter and real talk.

• Parenthood and the Future ([27:11])

  • The group opens up about how marriage and kids reshape everything—including career priorities and personal evolution.

7. Wild, Wholesome, and Everything In-Between

• Sandworms, Needles & New Fears ([17:29])

  • Jason freaks the group out with tales of beach sandworms and hidden needles, proving that the best dating stories are never just about the date.

• Surprise Happy Endings ([28:35])

  • A “worst date ever” submission turns out sweet: an eight-month-persistent suitor takes a pregnant woman on a date, her water breaks during a bumpy drive, and decades later they’re happily married.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Craigslist Ad Absurdity:
  "I am seeking somebody who will let me chase them...I want to be sweaty. But I have to catch you in the end. If I don't catch you, then you won't get paid." — Jay ([06:04])
• Glory Hole Cautionary Tale:
  "What if he just bit it? And you would never know who bit your dick off?" — Jay ([08:57])
• Red Flags 101:
  "If your dude cries at the sight of seeing his ex, like, leave, run." — Jay ([21:02])
• Sexual Health Boundaries:
  "If you have an incurable STD, you need to share that with your partner, though." — Jay ([23:28])
• Strip Club Insight:
  "I love strip clubs, but I don’t love dating men who are always in strip clubs because I’ve done it a few times and it just never works out. They're just big old tricks." — Jay ([30:47])
• Relationship Realness:
  “Every anniversary, I ask my husband, though, I'm like, are we really doing this again? And he's always like, yes, you fucking weird bitch.” — Jay ([26:25])

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [06:04] — Jay reads the infamous Craigslist “chase” ad
• [07:47] — Craigslist nostalgia & meetup culture
• [08:49] — Glory hole cautionary jokes
• [13:21] — Expert explains the history of glory holes
• [14:57] — Jaime’s “Craigslist truckers” story
• [16:19] — Jason reads the “Final Destination date” disaster
• [18:36] — “Ex walked in, date cries” story
• [22:15] — Herpes confession after sex
• [25:47] — Jay jokes about long marriages
• [28:35] — "Worst date" leads to lasting marriage (“her water broke!”)
• [29:15] — “Strip club flavor of the day” story
• [32:22] — Name game: Most common “trick” names

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Tone & Style

• Bold, funny, and candid—honest but never mean-spirited.
• Hosts balance raunchy anecdotes with surprisingly wholesome moments and sage relationship advice.
• No-topic-too-taboo: The cast toggles effortlessly between sex comedy, personal confession, and heartfelt advice.

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For New Listeners

This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about real-life dating fails, why “red flags” matter, and the cultural lore behind American hookup culture. The hosts’ chemistry and willingness to “go there” keep everything entertaining and relatable—even if you come for the laughs and stay for the surprising moments of insight.

Transcript

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[Jay]

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[Jay]

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[Jay]

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[Jaime]

Bye.

[Bunny]

Ask, Tell, Confess.

[Jay]

Hello, friend.

[Bunny]

Welcome to Ask Tell Confirm.

[Jay]

How was it?

[Jaime]

It was nice.

[Jay]

I'm going. Give it.

[Jaime]

It's been a while.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jason]

We got longer.

[Jay]

Yeah, I could have.

[Jaime]

That's what she said.

[Jason]

You can go longer.

[Jay]

That's what he said. That's what she said. That's what they all said. Oh. All right. So we did another test to see some of you guys's most horrible dating stories. And you guys definitely delivered this one. But before we get into that, I had this one saved that I wanted to tell last week because I thought it was hilarious. Has nothing to do with dating, but it's really so funny.

[Jaime]

Give it to me. Ready?

[Jay]

You guys ready?

[Jaime]

I'm ready.

[Jay]

I am seeking somebody who will let me chase them. Age and gender doesn't matter. You can be real old or a lady or black. As long as you can go real fast.

[Jaime]

What?

[Jay]

It doesn't matter when it happens inside or outside. But you have to be fun to chase. You can't be on a bike because it's cheating. I want the chasing to last a long time and I want to be sweaty. But I have to catch you in the end. If I don't catch you, then you won't get paid. But you can't let me catch you and be easy about it. And if you do, you will not get paid. After the chasing, you should say something to me like, good running or you're very fast. And give me a high five. A one handed high five or both hands High five. Not because I told you to, but because you think it's afterwards. You should post a picture of me on your Facebook and make me the. And make the picture the caption. Say, he caught me. Let me know.

[Bunny]

Thanks.

[Guest Female]

That's the coolest thing I've ever heard.

[Jay]

Yeah, I thought it was inspiring.

[Jason]

The Cereal Killer.

[Jaime]

What's happening right now?

[Jason]

I'm scared.

[Jay]

I thought it was inspiring. I loved it. I thought that was over. I thought this was almost like poetry. It was so good, right?

[Jaime]

So off putting. I can't.

[Jay]

Okay. I just had to read. I've been saving that forever. But that was an actual Craigslist ad that somebody had posted on Craigslist back in the day.

[Jaime]

So much sense that it was on Craigslist. Got it.

[Jay]

All right. Can we bring Craigslist back?

[Jaime]

It gives Craigslist vibes. You remember when the. The, like the working girls would Be paid by roses.

[Jay]

Yes.

[Jaime]

So forget she said, I liked lots of room.

[Jay]

I was. I never had a crime.

[Jason]

I never got on Craigslist.

[Jay]

Okay?

[Jaime]

Craigslist was, like, the best thing in the entire world because it was a little bit of everything. You could buy a couch or a woman.

[Bunny]

Okay.

[Jay]

Or meetups. You could meet up in a car. And if you wanted to post right now, hey, I'm gonna be at Walmart at 4:45 and I want to. Somebody show up.

[Jaime]

Someone's showing up.

[Jay]

10 people are showing up. Somebody's there's happening and they don't care. Like. Or if there's someone who's like, my fantasy is to have a glory hole. Oh, somebody will be like, just raise your hand.

[Jaime]

No, I said.

[Jay]

Thought you raised your hand.

[Jaime]

I was like, green with it.

[Jay]

Okay.

[Jaime]

No, that you're gonna get a glory hole.

[Jay]

No, somebody's gonna write you back and say, there's a glory hole at the wall in this bar. Meet you there. You know what a glory hole is?

[Jaime]

Yeah.

[Jason]

Don't hold then.

[Jaime]

Yeah.

[Jason]

You don't know what's on the other side.

[Jay]

Can you imagine?

[Jaime]

I have a crazy story.

[Jay]

The restraint you would have to have to be the dick sucker on the other side.

[Jason]

I'd push it out and then, like.

[Jaime]

Look through to see him.

[Jay]

What if he just bit it? And you would never know who bit your dick off? You know what I'm saying? Like, you would never know.

[Jaime]

It's like the movie Teeth.

[Jay]

You would never know. The cops gonna be like, who bit your dick off? You're like, I don't know. I stuck it in a hole.

[Jason]

You could literally take a knife and just.

[Bunny]

Bro, you could inject.

[Jaime]

I wonder if this actually happened. Like, I wonder if, like, you know, like a revenge type thing.

[Jay]

Where did glory holes fudge originate from? Should we ask? Yeah, I. That's just crazy to me. Like, where the did they.

[Jaime]

I think this was, like, a long time ago, though. Like, I truly feel like glory holes have been around a significant amount of time.

[Jay]

Hey. I would be in a pyramid.

[Expert/Researcher]

Hey there, Bunny. Always good to hear from you.

[Jaime]

When did she get an accent?

[Jay]

We're going to Europe, so I have a question for you, Sonny.

[Expert/Researcher]

Ears and ready to help with whatever European adventure planning or curiosity you've got.

[Jay]

Can you tell me where glory holes originated from?

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[Expert/Researcher]

Well, that's definitely a bit of a colorful history question. So the concept of blurry holes actually goes back quite a long time in history, and they seem to have appeared in places like public bath houses as early as, you know, the early 20th century or even before. They're one of those things that kind of originated underground in various subcultures and then just became more known over time. So it's a bit of a quirky piece of history.

[Jay]

Would you ever stick your wiener in a glory hole?

[Expert/Researcher]

Well, that's definitely a pretty personal question. Can I help you with something else?

[Jay]

No, it's all right. We just wanted to know where glory who was. Was there ever a famous glory hole?

[Expert/Researcher]

Yeah, no worries at all. It's always okay to be curious. As for a famous glory hole, well, they're not exactly the kind of thing that gets official fame, but some places have a bit of an underground reputation. For example, some adult venues or certain nightclubs in big cities have had kind of a notorious reputation over the decades, but it's more like urban legends than any officially famous spot. So it's definitely a quirky bit of subcultural trivia.

[Jason]

Dodge that question.

[Jaime]

Yeah, yeah, PR trained. I get it.

[Jay]

Yeah, I love it.

[Jaime]

I have a Craigslist story. Let's go, Jason. Hay. Jason, cut this if you don't want me talking about it.

[Jay]

Jason's Jason, do not cut this. Your history is to be exploited always.

[Jaime]

So Jason had, like, what was like, an uncle, Like a gay uncle. And it was an actual uncle, but like a close enough friend that he called uncle. And when he would come visit, they would, like, stay at a hotel. And Jason was like, oh, he's gonna go work Craigslist. And I was like, what do you mean he's gonna work Craigslist? He was really into meeting truckers on the road, and he found he would find them on Craigslist and go get.

[Jay]

Yeah, lots of truckers find sex on the road.

[Jaime]

A lot of gay truckers.

[Jay]

Huh?

[Jaime]

A lot of gay truckers.

[Bunny]

Oh, for sure.

[Jay]

Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. A lot of them.

[Jaime]

Yeah. That was, like, the place to be Craigslist.

[Jay]

Sorry, I just burped in your ear, Jaime. Okay, good. I'm going through it over here, guys. Well, I didn't mean to get the whole Craigslist thing going, but I just had to tell you guys. I just.

[Jaime]

It was beautiful.

[Jason]

Well, I don't have a Craigslist story.

[Jay]

Okay. All right, go ahead. So you've got. We've got dates, right?

[Jaime]

Yeah, after. After you read yours. I feel like we need to read the text that Tosh got about.

[Jay]

Oh, I gotta call her and ask for permission.

[Jason]

What happened to exploiting?

[Jay]

Listen, Jason knows how we operate, but I gotta ask her.

[Jaime]

Please.

[Jay]

Oh, yeah, yeah. No, I'll get it. She just sent them to me the other day, too, because I didn't get a chance to read them to Jay. All right, go ahead.

[Jason]

All right. This lady went on a walk on the beach of Lake Michigan for their first date. Stepped on a used needle buried in the sand. Brought it and her to the hospital. Walking into the hospital, her date was hit in the head by a swinging IV pole. He got six stitches in his head. I got a whole panel of labs to test for everything. On the way home, he ran over a nail and the tire blew. We didn't go on another date, but became pretty good friends and still laugh about it almost 30 years later.

[Jaime]

What?

[Bunny]

Okay, New Fear Unlocked.

[Jason]

That's also, like, Final Destination.

[Jay]

That's needle in the beach. That's why I don't take my shoes off on the beach.

[Jaime]

You didn't know that?

[Bunny]

No.

[Jay]

How would I know that?

[Jaime]

No, I just meant, like, a lot of, like, the beaches back home. Like, my mom and dad when I was a kid, that was, like, so known. Like, you don't tromp through there because there's needles in the beach.

[Jay]

I've never heard of that in my entire life.

[Jaime]

Okay, well, Santa Cruz apparently has a lot of needles.

[Jay]

Golly, that is so scary. Oh, my God.

[Jaime]

I thought that was common knowledge. Just realized I did not know.

[Jay]

No, I didn't know that.

[Jaime]

I didn't know what a scary thing. Anything could be in the beach. Like, anything could be.

[Jay]

And the ocean, too.

[Jason]

Have you seen the sandworms?

[Bunny]

No.

[Jason]

Oh, you haven't seen sand worms?

[Jay]

No, I don't want it.

[Jaime]

No, thank you. That doesn't exist. No, not in my universe.

[Jay]

Do they go in through your feet?

[Jason]

Oh, no. They're like giant people. Pull them up. Are you kidding? I'm finding a video old.

[Jay]

Oh, son of a.

[Jaime]

Absolutely not. I feel like that was a very dramatic pull out. They're gonna be like this big and she's gonna be like. It was like a water hose. Yeah.

[Bunny]

Schwarms.

[Jaime]

Excuse me. It keeps going.

[Jay]

Yeah. Can you see that? Why? What.

[Bunny]

What's their purpose?

[Jason]

Yeah, I don't know. Beaches.

[Jaime]

Don't like that.

[Jay]

Don't like it at all, bro.

[Jaime]

No.

[Bunny]

Go ahead, Memes.

[Jay]

You're next. My Craigslist story still trumps everything it.

[Jaime]

Did because that was fantastic. This is okay.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jason]

I don't know how you eat that.

[Jaime]

This one says that this was a quick. And I'm. This was quick and easy, but this one said that there was one time she went on a date and I was asked to leave the restaurant because he was crying when his ex walked in.

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[Jay]

Oh, hell no. Are you kidding?

[Jaime]

Why were you asked to leave?

[Jay]

Because he was crying so much. So they are. They were asked to leave. Both of them.

[Jaime]

Oh, I thought she was just asked to.

[Jay]

Why are we crying?

[Jaime]

Why are we crying?

[Jay]

Because his ex walked in.

[Jason]

Okay, okay. Sorry. I'm slow.

[Jay]

I feel like one. That's a huge red flag. Like, if your dude is. Cries at the sight of seeing his.

[Jaime]

Ex, like, leave, run.

[Jay]

Yeah, let's never talk to that man again. The majority of these men aren't over their exes anyways. Like, hell no. No matter how much if a man. If you go on a date with a man and the first thing he says to you is, my ex is crazy, he's not over her.

[Jaime]

Nope.

[Bunny]

He is still in love with her.

[Jay]

Run as fast as you can, because that man, one, is probably. I hate using the term, but probably a just narcissist. And two, literally will always just. If that girl wants him back, well, she's gonna be a love triangle.

[Jaime]

Yeah, absolutely. I'm so thankful Jason and I had, like, really crazy breakups right before meeting. Like, crazy breakups that just, like, made us fall for each other even harder. I feel like it was. It was traumatic.

[Jay]

That sounds terrible.

[Jaime]

It was great.

[Jay]

You guys. Trauma bonded.

[Jaime]

Yeah, it was kind of like a trauma bond almost, but, like, in a great way. It was like we were able to compare how crazy our exes actually were. Like, but in legitimate ways. Like, both of our exes were psychotic humans, and we bonded over the fact that we were good humans that found each other over the fact our exes were so crazy.

[Jay]

Jessica said so. Picture It's Sicily, 20 and something, penthouse overlooking the beach, rose petals all over the place with the sounds of 90s usher playing. Oh, it's perfect for this ending. In the background, y' all just reach climax, and boom. He says, oh, by the way, I have herpes, but I'm being treated and I wore a condom because I love you as herpes. What? So it's only fitting bleep that out, but that it's, like, a huge rumor that, like, is very vocal about how he has herpes. I don't know if it's true or not, but give it a go.

[Jaime]

Wow.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jaime]

I need to know whether that's true.

[Jay]

I'm not asking chat about I don't care loins. Okay, that is not on the top of my to do list. But, yeah. So one, glad he wore a condom. But two, very scary that he didn't tell you that before. Yeah, I understand. We live in a world where you know, happens and people have, you know, incurable STDs.

[Bunny]

If you have an incurable STD, you.

[Jay]

Need to share that with your partner, though.

[Jaime]

Isn't it illegal not to share with somebody?

[Jay]

I think so.

[Jaime]

I think it's very. Because I remember that incident that happened with you with that guy. He found out that he had an STD after, like. Like. Didn't mean you never met him, because that could have been one of those situations where the guy never told you.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jaime]

And that has to be illegal.

[Jay]

Dudes be out here dirty dicking it left and right. So you just got to be careful.

[Jaime]

Dirty dicking.

[Bunny]

Just strap up.

[Jay]

No matter what. Strap up.

[Jaime]

Yeah. It doesn't feel better without it. Don't just put it on to me.

[Jay]

I don't think condoms really make that.

[Bunny]

Much of a difference.

[Jaime]

I think that's such an excuse, Jaime. I do.

[Jay]

You don't like them.

[Jaime]

Just raw dog?

[Jason]

Not all the time. Not all the time.

[Jay]

So I have a question. Is it that it doesn't feel good.

[Bunny]

To you or that you don't feel as close to them?

[Jaime]

I mean, could be.

[Jason]

Never really thought about it.

[Jay]

I just.

[Jason]

Want to go with B.

[Jaime]

What about you, Jaime? Does it feel different?

[Guest Female]

It definitely feels different, but, yeah, I mean, wear one.

[Jay]

You know, somebody told me that wearing a condom. Somebody told me one time wearing a condom is the equivalent of taking a shower with a coat on, with a raincoat on. Wake up.

[Jaime]

Think we're in a poncho at Universal. Yeah.

[Jay]

Yeah. Literally. How do condoms feel for men? I mean, it just.

[Guest Female]

If you still feel the warmth, you just doesn't feel as slimy in there, I guess. Slimy is a bad word.

[Jaime]

Sorry.

[Guest Female]

It doesn't feel as wet. Wet and warm.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Bunny]

Inviting.

[Guest Female]

Yes, it's very inviting without it.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jaime]

Gotcha.

[Guest Female]

But I never considered what you said with the whole emotional attachment with no condom. I never, never even thought up.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jaime]

Interesting.

[Jay]

Should we cut that part?

[Jaime]

No, that's too deep. No, I like it.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jaime]

I could never imagine, like, just around in my 20s. Like, I, like, mind. I would have never had a mindset like that, ever. Ever. I mean, I was a teenager. I met him when I was a teenager. So, yeah, my whore days were, like, very young. Started later. I did not.

[Jay]

I haven't stopped. No, I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. Totally kidding. I'm married now. Going on a decade. Dude, our anniversary is this month. Like, what, nine years with that guy? Like, come on, dude.

[Jaime]

Can you believe it? Old.

[Jay]

The role locked me down, bro. Like, who would have thought if there's.

[Jaime]

Anyone to do it, it was going to be him?

[Jay]

Yeah, well, it's because I'm scared of him. He's the only man that I'm scared of. Literally, he is the only man that I'm like, okay, whatever you say. Yeah. No, I love that man, though. But I can't believe. Nine years. Long fucking time.

[Jaime]

Mm.

[Jay]

Every anniversary, I ask my husband, though, I'm like, are we really doing this again? You know, like, are we doing this? And he's always like, yes, you fucking weird bitch. Stop asking me this.

[Jaime]

Every year. We still good?

[Jay]

Every year. I'm like, me, this is your time to exit. Anytime you want to go, just let me know.

[Jaime]

Anniversary.

[Jay]

That. That's me.

[Jason]

I'm like, do you still like me.

[Jay]

Or you hate me? Yeah, yeah. Literally, like, this is. This is make or break. Which one do you want to do? And he's always like, let's fucking do it. He's like, now he just answers me and is like, yes, baby, this is forever, you know? Whereas before, he'd be like, let's do another three years. And I'd be like, let's. Let's do one and see how it goes. And he'd be like, let's do another five. And I'd be like, okay.

[Jaime]

Have you guys made a new plan? Like a new, like, five year?

[Jay]

No. We're kind of flying by the seat of our pants right now because he's Jelly Seacrest. So I think. I think we have indirectly made another five year plan, but it involves babies and settling down. And he. Fudgeing. Has decided he wants to coach fudgeing football. And I'm like, you will never be able to sit at home. He gave one pep talk. Yeah, yeah. One pep talk, and he's ready to be a coach.

[Jaime]

He's already got a whistle.

[Jay]

Yeah, literally. And I'm like, he's got a clipboard. I love my husband, but I'm like. I'm to the point where I'm just like, listen, I know we're gonna have babies, but you go, do you. And I got the kids on the home front, and I will hop on tour with the kids when I can. And, like, you know, I don't. Because he feels like when we do have a child or children, I keep saying babies, but he feels like he needs to settle down and he needs to slow down. And I'm like, why? Like, we don't need to do that. Like, keep going.

[Jaime]

And dude, experiencing this life with kids is one of the coolest things ever.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jaime]

One of the coolest things in the entire world is raising a child through this kind of lifestyle. Yeah. But I can't stress that enough.

[Jay]

Yeah, for sure. So we'll see. I think that's our next five year plan. But who knows? It could change at any time. Especially after the meeting we had today. So you never know, like, what's happening. Everything shit's getting crazy. Yeah.

[Jason]

She said, not me, but my friend. This guy kept hitting on her for eight months even though she was pregnant at the time. She eventually said, fine. Figuring she could get one final good meal before the baby's born, he took her down the bumpiest road in the city and her water broke.

[Jay]

Oh, no.

[Jason]

He called me from the hospital. I was the birth coach. I get there, he took my job. Beautiful baby girl. And they have been married for 28 years and two weeks.

[Jaime]

Oh, that's beautiful.

[Jay]

That is sweet. I love that. Wait, how was that?

[Jason]

The worst date ever?

[Jaime]

Wait.

[Jay]

Yeah, that wasn't bad. Yeah. I got one. I got one.

[Jaime]

Okay.

[Jay]

Kendra said he took me to a strip club and all the girls knew him by name and called me flavor of the day. Ladies, that is another red flag if your man hangs out in strip clubs.

[Bunny]

He ain't.

[Jay]

Yeah. Why? There's nothing wrong with going to an occasional strip club once or twice a year on the first date. My ex. It's in the book. My ex literally hung out in strip clubs all the time. And the. Our first Christmas, he wanted to go spend it at the Rhino in Vegas. And that's all I'm gonna say because that turns into a really big story in the book. But that is the biggest red flag when a man has to have validation from strippers. Like, I love strippers. I love strippers. I love you guys. This is not me talking against you. It's me talking about men. If you're trying to be in a relationship with a man who just wants nothing but validation from strippers and going to strip clubs, that man ain't. And he will never be, and he ain't gonna be. So do not ever settle down with a man who spends his entire life in a strip club.

[Jaime]

No.

[Guest Female]

Did you open presents? Did you open presents?

[Jay]

Oh, I opened a lot on that day. You guys will have to read. You guys will have to read the book.

[Jaime]

I.

[Jay]

Wait.

[Jaime]

Yeah.

[Jay]

You have to read the book to find out what happened. But it was instead of Christmas. Yeah. It was Christmas Eve. It was our first Christmas Eve together. Yeah.

[Jaime]

Wow.

[Jay]

Yep.

[Jaime]

Okay.

[Jay]

I mean, I used to live in strip clubs. In my 20s, I worked in them. You know, I love strip clubs, but I don't love dating men who are always in strip clubs because I've done it a few times and it just never works out. They're just big old tricks. Nobody wants to date a big old trick. You know what I'm saying?

[Jaime]

I feel like your special power, if you were to ever have a superpower, would be able to, like, spot tricks.

[Jay]

Sniff out the trick. 100. I saw one today.

[Jaime]

Yes, you sniff the tricks out.

[Jay]

I mean, I. I think that might be trauma. I don't know if that's a special talent.

[Jaime]

Superwoman.

[Jay]

Yeah. Well, I can just tell there. There's a certain type of man that spends money on women. And listen, shout out to all my girls who are getting that money.

[Bunny]

Get that money.

[Jay]

But I don't want to settle down with a who's out paying. And I know that sounds like a contradiction because it's like, you were a working girl. Why wouldn't you want to marry a trick? I've never understood? And I have girlfriends who are like close friends who are, with Some of them, married their tricks. I could never do that. It was just always business to me. I would always look at that person like a business transaction.

[Jaime]

I feel like once you fall into that, though, it's easy to continue to fall in.

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jaime]

So it's like you, like, you. You always kept it business.

[Jay]

Yeah, I always separated church from state. I was like, no, I wanted the felon and the drug dealer. And then the tricks were just business, you know? Not that that works out for you guys. It happened to work out for me. Okay. It was a very unfair fairy tale. But nine times out of 10, that doesn't work out either. So don't listen to me, guys. I don't even know why I have a microphone in front of my face. I got a question.

[Guest Female]

Is there, like, a common first name of, like, tricks?

[Jaime]

Oh, like Jeff. That's a great question, Bill.

[Jay]

It's normally like that. Yeah, it's normally like a mic.

[Guest Female]

A mic.

[Jay]

Mics sounds like a huge trick. Mics are for sure big. Asterix, John. And I mean, they're called Johns, so, you know, like. Yeah, but it's always like very regular names. I mean, we could look at my phone book.

[Bunny]

Hold on.

[Jay]

And that was another thing. When that clip went viral, everybody's like.

[Bunny]

Why do you still have the same phone number?

[Jay]

And I'm like, bro, I have 1. I have multiple phones. 2. I hate changing my phone number. I don't like it. And three, I have enough self control that when something calls my phone, I don't have to answer or respond. There's people who will never hear from.

[Bunny]

Me again that still text me and.

[Jay]

Continue to text me and I will never reply. You know, So I don't know, it's just weird. It's weird to me that you guys don't have enough self control. But let's take a gander here. Let's type in some money bags and see what pops up.

[Jaime]

Until she determines how many money bags is how much money. Yeah. Okay. What's the most money bags?

[Jay]

Yeah.

[Jason]

What's the Highest money back?

[Jay]

3 is the highest money bag.

[Jason]

What does that equate to?

[Jay]

That equates to this spends money. As opposed to like one bag, a dollar amount. I mean, you can't do that. There is so much more of what.

[Jaime]

They'Re willing to pay.

[Jay]

Yeah, like that means that they're gonna give me my highest rate. That's what it was. Okay, so let's see. We have, we have, we have Brad. Brad. Brad. A lot of Brads. Oh, good. Chad, David. David. David. Frank. Frank. See, it's all those names.

[Jaime]

Very stereotypical.

[Jay]

Stereotypical names because I feel like they.

[Jaime]

Maybe always felt like they like blended in.

[Jay]

Yeah. Yep.

[Jaime]

Do you think anyone ever give you fake names?

[Jay]

No, because I checked their IDs. Oh, yeah. You can't.

[Jaime]

She said background check.

[Jay]

We both went, listen, the game is gritty, but the are pretty. That's just how it goes, baby. Should be a T shirt. It was in my clothing line. It was actually Pimp C said that as a Pimp C quote. And on that note, we're out of here. I love you guys. Don't ever take any advice from us. Okay?

[Bunny]

Thank you.

[Jay]

Bye. Bye.