Podcast Summary:

Podcast: Earn the Right to Live Your Dreams
Host: Dr. Coyte Cooper
Episode 07: Become a REALLY Remarkable Person
Date: December 1, 2015

Main Theme Overview

In this motivational solo episode, Dr. Coyte Cooper explores what it truly means to become a remarkable person, emphasizing that achieving lasting impact and realizing your dreams isn’t just about success, but about transforming yourself internally. Drawing on wisdom from thought leaders like John C. Maxwell, Gandhi, and Stephen Covey, Coyte breaks down five actionable steps listeners can take right now to earn the right to live incredibly fulfilling and influential lives.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Why Remarkability Matters

• Success Starts Within:
  Dr. Cooper implores listeners to pursue dreams but emphasizes,

  "Success is an inside job. It starts with you." (03:51)
  He stresses that memorable accomplishments flow from being remarkable as a person, not just from achieving goals.

• Society's Focus on Outcomes:
  We often obsess over rapid achievement and instant gratification, overlooking the foundational need to become someone worthy of those dreams.

• Legacy & Impact:
  Dr. Cooper encourages listeners to think long-term, suggesting that the most meaningful impact is left by those who focus on uplifting others through personal excellence.

The Five Steps to Becoming a Remarkable Person

1. Ask Who You Want to Become (09:45)

• Intentional Living:
  Remarkable people become who they are on purpose. Dr. Cooper challenges:

  "Start to ask yourself, who do you want to become as a person?...The person you want to become is more important than the aspiration part." (10:50)

• Practical Exercises:

  • Funeral Exercise: Visualize your own funeral. What do you hope people will say about you?
    “As people are talking, you're going to realize things about yourself...where you're falling short, who you really want to become.” (13:05)
  • Impact Makers Activity: List people who’ve impacted you and identify their unique qualities to reveal the values you most admire.

2. Define Your Core Values (16:55)

• Personal Values as Guiding Principles:
  Dr. Cooper advises,

  "Create a list of desirable core values...the things that you want to model on a daily basis to become the type of person you want to become." (17:10)

• Personal Example:

  • His own #1 value is adding value to people. Others include energy, caring, positivity, and integrity.

• Customization Matters:
  Don’t pick values for others’ sake—choose what resonates with you.

3. Make Values Visible (19:43)

• Visibility Breeds Consistency:

  “Place your values in a place that's visible...see that every single morning, get up 15 minutes early and look at it.” (20:25)

• Suggestions for Placement:

  • Artistically list your values.
  • Put them beside your bed, on your phone’s screensaver, or another frequently-seen spot.
  • The cue is crucial—life is busy, and reminders are necessary to stay aligned.

4. Model Values One at a Time (23:10)

• Don’t Overwhelm Yourself:
  Trying to master all your values at once leads to burnout.

  "Pick your top value and start with that. Every single day, go into your day after you revisit your values in the morning and say, this is the one I'm going to do." (24:19)

• Build Habits Gradually:
  Repetition and tracking—perhaps with reminders—can transform chosen values into automatic behaviors in about 30 days.

5. Cultivate an Inner Desire to Be 'Crazy Different' (26:35)

• Reject Average:

  "Your job is not to be average. Your job is not to go and go out and be like everybody else. You are not created to be that way." (27:00)

• Develop Passion for Your Own Uniqueness:
  He encourages embracing personal quirks and aspirations, no matter what others have told you to settle for in the past.

• Motivational Push:

  "You have to cultivate that strong inner desire...be different. Don't settle for being average. You weren't created that way." (28:50)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Success and Authenticity:

  "Set a standard of excellence that makes it inevitable that you will become the type of person that can make a lasting impression on the world." (32:06)

• The Power of Influence:

  "Live your life at such a high level every single day that you inspire people around you to be better." (31:45)

• Summing up the Mission:

  “Your values should become so strong that they allow you to earn the right to live all your dreams.” (29:35)

• Constructive Self-Reflection:

  "Picture yourself at your funeral...picture your son and your daughters...talking about you someday, and picture them saying those things. It's a powerful, powerful thing." (21:10)

Timestamps for Major Segments

• Intro & Purpose: 00:00 – 03:04
• Why Remarkability Is Essential: 03:04 – 09:40
• Step 1 – Ask Who You Want to Become: 09:45 – 16:55
• Step 2 – Define Core Values: 16:55 – 19:43
• Step 3 – Make Values Visible: 19:43 – 23:10
• Step 4 – Model Values One at a Time: 23:10 – 26:35
• Step 5 – Cultivate the Desire to Be Different: 26:35 – 31:45
• Closing Inspiration: 31:45 – 33:01

Final Takeaways

• Be Remarkable by Design:
  You earn the right to your dreams with intentional personal growth, guided by clear values and daily self-honesty.
• Focus Inward for Outward Success:
  Internal transformation always precedes genuine, lasting achievement.
• Reject Average, Embrace Uniqueness:
  Set your own standards, model your own values, and inspire others through example.

Next Episode Preview: Coyte hints at an exciting upcoming conversation with Daniel Cormier, UFC champion, who exemplifies living at a remarkable level.

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