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Well we found ourselves pretty fired up in this week's episode! Here we respond to a listener question on the type of partner change it's appropriate or helpful to ask for. We end up grappling pretty deeply with the conflict between the truth that romantic relationships are often the most profound cauldrons of change and growth in a human lifetime, and the equally visceral truth that TRYING to change a partner can very quickly tip into "uh-oh" territory of control and manipulation. We do our best to own the lived experience we both have that has given us (and this podcast) a strong tendency to steer away from controlling dynamics whenever possible, and we learn quite a bit about ourselves, and different flavors of changing-in and changing-for a relationship in the process.

Ross Greene Plan B protocol mentioned on the pod:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QTG6kQot3f8

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