Emotionally Uncomfortable

1266: Your Teen Is Not Being Difficult; They're Being Honest

"If a child is being difficult, they're showing you their honest parts. They're showing you the parts of themselves that are struggling." In this episode, Heather explores the friction that comes from holding responsibility for yourself and others while learning to stop controlling what was never yours to carry in the first place. This conversation moves through grief, fear, honesty, emotional regulation, and the uncomfortable but necessary work of recognizing where your children are reflecting back the very things you avoid within yourself. She talks about what it means to truly hold space for another human being without making their experience about your own discomfort, why presence matters more than performance or fixing, and how the relationships we build with our children are shaped in the smallest moments of connection and honesty. If you've been navigating change, questioning old ways of parenting or leading, or realizing that your (and your child's) emotional reactions are asking something deeper of you, this episode is an invitation to soften control, tell yourself the truth, and become a steadier guide for both your children and yourself. What to listen for: ☑️ Pulling back the curtain and giving a tiny look into my content creation process ☑️ The reason why you carry a lot of responsibility is because that's what leaders do ☑️ If you were honest, what would you finally be willing to admit to yourself? "Your child isn't intentionally trying to be difficult. They are being honest. And here you are, not being honest and trying to push and control their behavior." ☑️ A lot of fear comes right before the breakthrough, but that doesn't mean it's wrong ☑️ Navigating the unexpected loss and grief that comes with family and life transitions ☑️ The relationship you build while your kids are home determines whether they return "As a parent, there's a time and a place where you have to just get to this neutral place around, that's not my shit to figure out. They are souls having a human experience, and I am just here to walk beside them." ☑️ Holding space for your children's journeys while also holding space for yourself ☑️ What you learn as you hold space for experiences you never expected to walk through ☑️ Your kids don't need you to find external solutions; they need you to be present "What if after a tantrum, instead of being so angry and resentful and unregulated, you gave them a kiss on the forehead, and you said, 'Thank you for being honest'?" ☑️ We don't read verbal communication because people lie verbally, not in their actions ☑️ You signed up for a lifetime of being a guide to another human, so show up for it ☑️ Your emotional discomfort is not your child's to carry; it's your work to do *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: www.heatherchauvin.com/time Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10 Follow Heather on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_

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1265: The Body Keeps Score and Sets Boundaries With Laura Wieck

3w ago00:42:36Tap to summarize

"Embodiment is the wisdom that comes through from the state you're in." In this episode, Heather and Laura Wieck explore what it really means to live embodied, not as another perfectionist performance, but as a practice of honesty, presence, and listening to the wisdom already alive inside you. Through the lens of parenting a child with autism and the unraveling of old identities, this conversation opens up a powerful dialogue around the ways our bodies hold emotion, where we disconnect from ourselves in the name of 'coping', and how healing often begins with simply noticing what's true without rushing to fix it. This episode is an invitation to soften the performance, reconnect with your internal guidance, and create a way of being that feels alive from the inside out. What to listen for: ☑️ Sitting with uncomfortable emotions and seeing them as the data they are ☑️ How an autism diagnosis taught Laura more about embodied communication "So many women, especially if you're coming from perfectionism or people-pleasing, think, 'If I can get this idea of embodiment right, everything else will just fall into place.' But physiologically speaking, it actually goes the opposite way." ☑️ Our bodies store emotions in our fascia, and how to identify stuck energy ☑️ The power of embodiment is tuning into the wisdom that's already present ☑️ Understanding the three brains in our body that determine alignment "Embodiment starts with noticing the sensations that are present in your body. And the key here is to notice it without the label." ☑️ Two questions you can ask yourself to stop internalizing other people's rules ☑️ Staying connected to your body so that you can hear its wisdom and guidance ☑️ How to get back into alignment while still honoring your children's needs "The more moments you create with yourself to go there, the more you deeply trust your journey of being human and not performing your way through motherhood and life and your career." ☑️ Navigating the difficulty and emotional toll that comes with getting what you want ☑️ What our children teach us and how the body keeps the score to hold healing boundaries **** About Laura Wieck: As the Founder of BodyMind Coaching, Laura has integrated coaching with embodiment practices to help individuals reconnect with their inner wisdom and achieve holistic well-being. Her process, which can be found in The BodyMind Method© book, gives heart-centered, holistic-based professionals the steps to provide deep transformation for their clients and greater impact and income in their business. With over two decades of experience, Laura is an author, speaker, and coach with a BA in Biology, a Licensed Massage Therapist, an ICF PCC Credentialed Coach, and an Equity-Centered Certified Leader. Through her books, workshops, and training programs, she provides tools to overcome disconnection and cultivate meaningful connections. Connect with Laura: Website: www.laurawieck.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/laurawieckthebodymindcoach/ Instagram: www.instagram.com/laurawieck/ *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: www.heatherchauvin.com/time Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10 Follow Heather on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_

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1264: The Day My Calendar Stopped Working: Raising a Neurodivergent Kid When You're Used to Winning

4w ago00:24:42Tap to summarize

"No productivity hack, no energetic management tips or tricks are going to be able to solve an identity collapse." In this episode, Heather dives into the thing high-performing women are actually afraid to say out loud: the very traits that made them successful, performance, optimization, control, fixing, and achieving, are the exact traits that make them "worse" mothers to a neurodivergent child. And watching their playbook fail in real time triggers an identity collapse that no productivity hack or "energy management" tip can solve. The truth is, you can't outperform autism. You can't out-discipline ADHD or out-schedule a kid who can't transition. And when high-performing women realize this, they spiral, because they don't know who they are without their results. This episode takes an honest look at what it means to mother in a way that requires presence over performance, connection over control, and a willingness to meet yourself in the discomfort instead of trying to think your way out of it. What to listen for: ☑️ Raising neurodivergent or uniquely wired children and how it affect us as mothers ☑️ The traits that have made you successful don't work with neurodivergent children ☑️ When you are in a state of transition, you're going to be triggered on a primal level "As you're taking that action, as you're becoming the buffalo, as you're leaning in and pushing through your shit, it's so emotionally uncomfortable that you get to a point where your whole identity collapses because you've finally been able to see that you're living a lie." ☑️ What happens when your "high-performer" identity is shaken by your children ☑️ Navigating the cultural and internal expectations of who you're supposed to be ☑️ Why the primal instinct of motherhood is both a blessing and a curse "Parenting and nurturing our children is not about doing for our children. Your job, especially as a high performer, is to operate at your max capacity." ☑️ Why you can't schedule connection with your children, nor should you want to ☑️ Feeding your desires and "wouldn't it be nice if" list so you don't feel dead inside ☑️ You can't solve an energy problem from the neck up or by prioritizing logic "If you don't know how to feed your soul, how are you ever going to feel a sense of purpose and fulfillment and wholeness and joy and ease even in the midst of chaos?" ☑️ How Heather navigates reinvention and flexing new muscles in her life and work ☑️ Why it's not your job to fix or perform for your neurodivergent children, and what is ☑️ The more present you are, the more capacity you have, the more connected you feel *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: www.heatherchauvin.com/time Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10 Follow Heather on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_

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1263: [Case Study] The Discipline of Becoming Someone You Trust With Tara Morse

May 600:41:09Tap to summarize

"The work is never done. You just become a different version of yourself." In this Case Study episode, Heather and Tara Morse dig into how she built her practice by following a path that didn't always make sense to others and navigating skepticism while staying anchored in what she knew was right for her. This conversation moves beyond surface-level change and into the real work: learning to shift from rumination into self-awareness, choosing how you want to feel, and taking action from that place, and developing the kind of self-trust that can only come from doing hard things on purpose. Because at the end of the day, growth shows up in the uncomfortable moments where you're asked to trust yourself before you feel ready, and you can't outsource feeling whole. What to listen for: ☑️ Why moving from rumination into self-awareness is essential for change ☑️ One of the first big hurdles in growth is having enough self-trust to get support ☑️ The importance of understanding where we are to understand where to go next "A lot of that is honestly getting to that point where you're expanding, then you're uncomfortable, and then you have this felt experience of, 'I did it.' If we don't challenge ourselves, make ourselves uncomfortable, and put ourselves in those situations, there's no self-trust." ☑️ In order to have that felt experience of self-trust, you have to challenge yourself ☑️ Why hard skills are cheap and emotional intelligence and soft skills matter most ☑️ We can't outsource feeling whole, and no technology is going to change that "It's always going to be the small actions. I had to let myself feel what I was feeling. I knew that was part of it. But then I had to make a choice that I didn't want to feel this way anymore. So part of that action was taking the step, reaching out for help." ☑️ The work isn't waiting for motivation; it's embodying discipline in necessary ways ☑️ The only thing that creates transformation is boundaries that you hold with yourself ☑️ How increasing your capacity can increase your sense of lightness at the same time *** About Tara Morse: Tara Morse is a licensed therapist, entrepreneur, and the founder of 3Rivers Therapists, a multi-location mental health practice serving children, adolescents, and adults across Pennsylvania. With more than 15 years of experience in the field, Tara has dedicated her career to helping both clients and helping professionals build resilience and create sustainable paths forward. As a business owner, leader, wife, and mother, Tara is passionate about the intersection of mental health, leadership, and entrepreneurship. She speaks about the identity shift from helper to leader, the importance of building capacity rather than constantly doing more, and how purpose-driven professionals can create businesses and workplaces where people truly work, heal, and thrive. Connect with Tara: Website: www.3riverstherapists.com Instagram: @3riverstherapists & @tcm1181 *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: www.heatherchauvin.com/time Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10 Follow Heather on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_

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1262: Feeling Good Is Your Birthright (So Why Aren't You Living Like It?)

Apr 2900:49:17Tap to summarize

"When you start to feed your soul, that's like the invisible medicine that you didn't even know you needed." The version of your life where things feel cleaner, clearer, and more aligned isn't on the other side of doing more, fixing yourself, or finally getting everything "right." It's on the other side of raising your standard for how you're willing to feel and choosing, moment by moment, to come home to yourself. In this life update, Heather shares what it actually looks like to live from that place in the way you build your systems, lead your team, invest your time and energy, and make decisions rooted in intuition instead of fear. This is a conversation about personal responsibility without self-punishment and feeding your soul instead of abandoning it. Because the truth is, feeling good comes when you decide you're no longer available to live without it. What to listen for: ☑️ Systems, processes, and having the right support by training an aligned team ☑️ Asking what your soul is craving and choosing to make those things happen ☑️ Checking in and prioritizing your standards for how you want to feel "It's really important for you to understand that feeling good is your birthright. The only thing stopping you from raising your vibration or being on the other side of fear, guilt, and overwhelm is raising your standard for how you feel."☑️ Why we develop the belief that feeling like shit is what we're worthy of ☑️ If you're not choosing to be proactive, you'll start living reactively by default ☑️ Learning to think outside the box and gain different perspectives for growth "It's your responsibility to own your intuition, to deeply listen to that voice inside of you, and to lead and make decisions from that place. You have to return home to yourself when you're making decisions."☑️ Supporting our bodies so that we can thrive inside of them for as long as possible ☑️ Where are you investing your time, your energy, and your financial resources? ☑️ The power of investing in things without the belief that it's going to fix you "Your soul is asking to be fed, and if you don't know how to read the language of your soul, you'll feel lost. You're constantly being guided to return home to yourself. You're constantly being guided to sit with the duality of fear, but also sit with the desire for what your soul craves."☑️ Unlocking the next level of receiving by no longer getting ready to get ready ☑️ Why athletes are like buffalo and what we can learn from their way of being ☑️ In order to become, you have to be willing to head into the storm *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: www.heatherchauvin.com/time Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10 Follow Heather on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_

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1261: What Happens When Women Don't Feed Their Ambition With Alexis Dean

Apr 2200:54:08Tap to summarize

"When I find myself going back to that reactivity mode or older way of thinking, I have to step back and ask, 'What do I really want?'" In this episode, Heather and Alexis Dean explore what it really means to take ownership of your ambition, your emotional world, and the desires you keep pushing aside. The things that irritate or trigger you aren't random; they're signals pointing directly to where you're being asked to grow. This conversation challenges the instinct to blame, label, or control, and instead invites you into a deeper level of self-responsibility, curiosity, and intention. Because when you stop outsourcing your discomfort and start listening to it, you unlock a completely different way of leading your life, your work, and your relationships. What to listen for: ☑️ The things that piss you off are a guide around where you need to do more work ☑️ Women need to feed their ambitions so they don't end up resentful and angry ☑️ Using curiosity to uncover where you're holding yourself back "If you're the one who has the pull and the desire to move a vision forward, and that's your natural gift, it's on you to accept and to lean into it. My resentment was actually me trying to blame somebody else for my own emotional discomfort." ☑️ Discerning between "hard" and emotionally uncomfortable actions ☑️ Operating from a collaborative lens rather than controlling others ☑️ Living your life intentionally instead of following gender norms "It's fine if you want to follow gender norms. The challenge is when people don't actually press pause and examine, 'Is this serving us? Is this how we want to lead our lives and live and work and everything else?'" ☑️ Why using labels is often just a way to avoid feeling our emotions ☑️ Navigating societal norms as a new mother who also runs a business ☑️ What can you do today to create more space and time flexibility? *** About Alexis Dean: For more than two decades, Alexis Dean has helped leaders build teams rooted in trust, accountability, and emotional courage. She believes that good people don't automatically create strong cultures, intentional leadership does. As the founder of Two Roads Training & Team Building, Alexis works with executive teams to help them build high-trust environments where performance and humanity can coexist. She's known for making the conversations most people avoid feel practical, doable, and transformative. Alexis is also the founder of The Dovetail Community, a mastermind and retreat experience for women leading 7- to 9-figure companies who want growth without losing themselves in the process. Alexis's work isn't just about boardrooms, it's about what happens at home, too. She believes women are often leading their families emotionally, strategically, and logistically, whether or not anyone names it that way. In a culture that still questions women's authority, stepping fully into leadership, at work and at home, requires clarity, boundaries, and a willingness to be misunderstood. Connect with Alexis: www.tworoadsteambuilding.com Instagram: @alexis.dovetail and @tworoadsteambuilding *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: www.heatherchauvin.com/time Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10 Follow Heather on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_

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1260: The Skill Set No One Taught You That Will Determine Your Future Success

Apr 1500:33:07Tap to summarize

"The world needs soft skills. We're now living in a time where it is no longer a privilege to learn these skills; it's a requirement." In this episode, Heather unpacks why the people who will actually thrive aren't the ones with the most technical "hard" skills, but the ones who know how to think, feel, communicate, sell, and create at a higher level. Because in a world where information is cheap and execution is automated, your ability to regulate yourself, connect with others, and access or sell your creativity isn't just valuable, it's everything. Most people are completely missing where the future of work is heading. While everyone is scrambling to keep up with tools and tactics, the real differentiator is becoming something far less tangible but far more demanding. What to listen for: ☑️ Soft skills are becoming the new hard skills, and why they're the hardest to master ☑️ Human skills are not being taught to humans, which is creating tension in our lives ☑️ In a world of AI, the only people who are going to win are the ones mastering soft skills "People are losing their shit about what's going on in the world because they have no idea how to manage their energy. They don't have the skill of emotional regulation, communication, holding boundaries, or doing the work required to see success because it's emotionally uncomfortable." ☑️ Making it a high priority to bubble wrap yourself and your child with soft skills ☑️ Why Gen Z is a brilliant generation held back by parents making them too comfortable ☑️ How Heather has been helping her youngest develop greater soft skills in Mexico "I want to feed the parts of him that are his strengths and that he's good at. So when you become an adult, number one, remember those parts of yourself. Number two, feed off of them." ☑️ Why the people who master creativity will be the ones who make the most money ☑️ The reason why you must teach your child soft skills if you want them to succeed in life ☑️ It's been easy to hide behind hard skills, but that isn't the future we're moving into "Soft skills are more important now than they've ever been in your marriage, in your health, in your calendar, in your connection with your children. The reality is, if you don't learn them as your child's guide, your child's teacher, your child's literal role model, your child isn't going to learn these skills from anyone else." ☑️ The education systems that are thriving are the ones that teach soft skills ☑️ Why it's not an option to disassociate and check out of living and modeling these skills ☑️ You either pivot and survive by learning soft skills, or you don't, and you go extinct Interested in Callen's bootcamp? Learn more here: heatherchauvin.com/callan *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: www.heatherchauvin.com/time Explore the top episodes listeners come back to when they're stuck, burned out, or standing at the edge of a big shift: www.heatherchauvin.com/10 Follow Heather on Instagram: www.instagram.com/heatherchauvin_

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1259: [Case Study] Stepping Out of Chaos as a Comfort Zone With Melissa Apa

Apr 800:40:09Tap to summarize

"You see this dissonance between the current you and the past you or other people, and the only gap across the bridge is action and implementation." There's a moment when you realize the life you're living and the life you actually want are no longer aligned, and no amount of thinking, planning, or hoping is going to close that gap for you. In this episode, Heather and Melissa Apa explore that tension as she shares what it looks like to navigate a child's diabetes diagnosis, the weight of ongoing crisis, and the secret decisions that change everything over time. This isn't a conversation about doing it perfectly or becoming a "better" person. It's about learning how to live, lead, and even thrive inside circumstances you didn't choose, without letting them define you. What to listen for: ✨ The power of managing a disease like diabetes without making it your identity ✨ Melissa's experience getting her child's diagnosis and navigating the initial stress ✨ The trap of thinking life will finally be manageable after the crisis you're walking through "I was like, my life is clearly just going to continue to be chaos, and I need to figure out how to still be able to get to joy and thriving and loving life because we only get one life, and this is the one I have, so I would like to enjoy it." ✨ The secret, silent decisions we make internally when we're finally ready to change ✨ How Melisa's multi-year experience of dealing with crisis made the journey more easeful ✨ Managing life with a chronic disease isn't a morality issue; it's just what's happening "You're not morally a good or bad person if you're struggling to control a chronic disease. You just don't have the right information, the right tools, or the right support. It doesn't mean that you're bad." ✨ Teaching kids how to advocate for themselves, especially with health issues ✨ Learning how to thrive with your disease rather than settling for just managing it ✨ Why action and implementation are required to experience behavioral change "The biggest thing that I see in the people who don't make changes is that they don't even see it as a possibility. It's never even occurred to them that it doesn't need to be this way. They have accepted that it will always be hard. That's not what I want you to accept. We need to accept some things, and we need to challenge some others here." ✨ How Heather helped Melissa recognize that chronic overwhelm was her comfort zone ✨ Being emotionally calm is the foundational work to build stability and systems from ✨ Why your leadership and how you manage your energy directly affect your family *** About Melissa Apa: Melissa Apa is a Clinical Pharmacist and Certified Diabetes Care and Education Specialist with over 15 years of experience—turned diabetes coach. She is a runner, and mom of two boys, including one living with type 1 diabetes. Drawing on both her professional expertise and personal journey, Melissa helps people with diabetes and parents of children with diabetes move from surviving to thriving. Her mission is to empower families to develop the autonomy, calm, and confidence needed to navigate daily management and embrace life fully. Connect with Melissa:Website: www.insulininspired.com Instagram: @melissaapa_ *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Apply for the next 1:1 Coaching Cohort:https://heatherchauvin.com/apply Not ready for 1:1? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: https://heatherchauvin.com/time

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1258: Becoming the Buffalo: Moving Through Resistance Instead of Avoiding It

Apr 100:30:22Tap to summarize

"If a buffalo is willing to go into something that it knows is going to suck, the emotionally uncomfortable storm, it knows the storm will pass faster." In this episode, Heather gets honest about what it actually takes to move forward when you're standing at the edge of change, and every part of you wants to stall out. This conversation explores the invisible weight we carry, the addiction to consuming information instead of integrating it, and the subtle ways we create drama to avoid the decisions that would change everything. Through the lens of "becoming the buffalo," Heather talks about what it looks like to face discomfort head-on, close the loops you've been leaving open, and build the capacity to hold more in your life without breaking under it. If you've been circling the same patterns, avoiding the one thing you know you need to do, or feeling mentally and emotionally cluttered, this episode will meet you there and challenge you to move anyway. What to listen for: ✨ The journey of becoming a buffalo and seeing the energy ties that hold you back ✨ Why solving problems helps open up your mental, emotional, and spiritual capacity ✨ How Heather is exploring where she wants her work to fit into the industry "I've been thinking a lot about how addictive information is and how people are addicts for online information. We have podcasts. We have books. We have courses. We have all the things, and in order to have a transformation, you actually need to integrate it." ✨ The reason why, when we're about to have a transformation, we create drama ✨ We often have resistance to just doing the damn thing, but we need to move past it ✨ The ways (and reasons) people keep loops open to avoid making a decision "The quicker I started making decisions, even if I had resistance to making the decision, the quicker I could observe myself in the mental upper limit where I was adding drama to making a decision, the faster and lighter I felt." ✨ If you learn how to declutter and manage everything differently, you will feel lighter ✨ The power of using the concept of becoming a buffalo to move through discomfort faster ✨ What's the one thing you keep running away from, and how will you choose to face it? "The older you get, the more responsibility and life experiences you have, but you just don't have the skills to manage that. You have to learn how to declutter the invisible. If you learn how to manage everything differently, you will feel lighter. I guarantee it." ✨ The one thing leaders do that non-leaders don't: take the hard actions first ✨ Why rolling out the red carpet for your children keeps them from developing grit ✨ Taking on the buffalo challenge in your own life to move yourself forward *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me inside the Energetic Time Management Accelerator, a focused experience designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: https://heatherchauvin.com/time

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1257: What Happens When You Stop Performing "Good" With Laurie Wintonick

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"I don't have to fall into the drama and the nonsense and everything else, and I can take all the amazing things I'm learning and come into a new season." For many women, being "good" means holding everything together for everyone else. But at some point, the question begins to surface: When did good enough become good enough? In this episode, Heather and Laurie Wintonick explore what it really looks like to grow into the next version of yourself without blowing up the life you've built. From letting go of guilt and redefining what it means to be a "good woman," to navigating the tension that comes when others don't support your evolution, this conversation is about choosing yourself with intention. Because when you stop abandoning your own desires and start honoring what you truly want, you don't just change your life, you become the version of yourself you were always meant to be. What to listen for: ✨ What it really means to "be a good woman" without abandoning yourself ✨ The importance of asking yourself, "When did good enough become good enough?" ✨ Figuring out what you really want and getting unstuck without blowing up your life "I wanted to be able to be professional and have a career while also being an amazing mom, and I don't feel like you have to decide one or the other. You can absolutely a thousand percent do both, but you have to be really intentional about it." ✨ Prioritizing what's important and leveling up your life in the process ✨ Navigating the tension when other peopledon't support your growth journey ✨ Are you being blocked, or are you refusing to take a stand for how you want to feel? "If I want to do something, I'm gonna go do what I want to do because at the end of the day, the only person I'm hurting by not doing it is me. And if I'm hurting myself, then in reality, I'm not the best version of myself, so everybody's gonna suffer because of that." ✨ Letting go of guilt because women are allowed to give themselves permission ✨ The more you grow, the more you realize who's actually in your corner ✨ How doing the work brings you to the person you're here to be *** About Laurie Wintonick: Laurie Wintonick is a powerhouse coach, executive leader, and speaker with over 30 years of C-suite business experience in operations, strategic planning, and leadership development. Laurie's career began as a receptionist at 21, but her drive, curiosity, and people-first approach quickly propelled her to the executive level—serving as Executive Vice President at a top financial planning firm, where she mastered every side of business from sales/operations/finance to HR and strategic growth. Currently, Laurie runs her own Coaching and Consulting Firm - Boringly Consistent, where she contracts as a Fractional COO, as well as a Business, Executive, Performance, Mindset, Wellness, and Master Life Coach. She is also the Head of Business at Beyara—a company deeply aligned with Laurie's mission—to help female entrepreneurs build and scale businesses and lifestyles that align with their deepest values—combining mindset, business mastery, and strategic growth with lives they truly enjoy. Connect with Laurie: Website: www.beyara.com Instagram: @lillg23 and @beyarawomen LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/lauriewintonick/ *** For those of you who are ready to stop feeling drained, overextended, and out of alignment… join me for a one-on-one Time & Energy Audit, a focused session designed to help high-achieving women uncover what's draining them, clarify what truly matters, and create a simple plan that fits their life. We'll pinpoint your biggest time + energy leaks, identify the top areas to focus on for quick momentum, and map out exactly what to let go of so you can reclaim your energy, your time, and your joy. Ready to make your time work for you without adding more to your plate? Apply for the next 1:1 Coaching Cohort:https://heatherchauvin.com/apply Not ready for 1:1? Join the Energetic Time Management Accelerator: https://heatherchauvin.com/time

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