You know that feeling when you're in the middle of something completely outside your comfort zone and you realize — wait, I'm actually handling this? That's exactly where I'm recording from today: a hotel room in Osaka, Japan, chaperoning my son's eighth-grade school trip with a group of middle schoolers, their parents, and approximately infinite drama.

And instead of talking about the middle school gossip (though, trust — there's plenty), I'm bringing you something better: what happens when a recovering perfectionist takes a real vacation, in a country where she doesn't speak the language, and decides to actually let go.

We come back to these themes over and over together — perfectionism, people pleasing, boundaries — because they don't just show up at work. They show up everywhere. On vacation. On a train platform in Osaka. When a kid's laundry gets left behind in a hotel two cities away.

Here's what we're unpacking in this episode:

1. Asking for Help

We were trained to be the expert in the room. Asking for help can feel like failure — like we should be able to figure it out ourselves. But what if asking is actually the smartest, most powerful thing we can do? I share what it felt like to navigate Japanese train apps, lost laundry, and a language I don't speak — and what I learned about letting other people in.

2. Being Present

Before I left, I made a bold decision: I paid a trusted colleague to run my inbox while I was away. No checking in. No "just a quick peek." I share what it took to set that up, why I almost talked myself out of it, and what it's felt like to actually be here — fully, completely present — for the first time in years of travel.

3. Knowing What You Need

We're all wired differently. I didn't plan this trip — which for a planner like me was its own practice in letting go. But I did show up as the first aid person, fully stocked and ready. Is that a little perfectionist? Maybe. But it's also knowing myself well enough to honor what helps me feel grounded — so I can actually enjoy everything else.

Sit with these this week:

Where are we refusing to ask for help — and what is that costing us?
What would it actually take for us to be truly present, not just physically there?
What do we each need to feel like ourselves — and are we giving ourselves that?

Perfectionism got us here. But presence is what makes the life we've worked so hard for actually worth living.

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Traveling With Kids — A Recovering Perfectionist Story