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Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace
Hosted by Becky Kolb, Estrangement and Relationship Coach · EN
Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace Podcast is hosted by me, Becky Kolb. I help Christian women find peace amid estrangement through practical teaching & biblical truth. navigate 💔estrangement.
Your heart is broken. You flip between guilt, shame and feelings of unworthiness.
You feel distant from God and wonder if He even hears your prayers anymore. I’ve been there and felt all of this.
You are a beautiful child of God, loved and accepted. You aren’t who your child or others may say you are. Guilt and shame keep you locked in a mental prison. There’s help!
Start the process toward healing now. 📲DOWNLOAD my FREE guide - 4 Steps to Discover Lasting Peace Amid Estrangement at: 📲www.beckykolb.com/guide
My estrangement story began with a divorce and remarriage and some decisions around that. The guilt and shame was overwhelming as most of my family didn't speak to me for several years. You can read my journey with estrangement and the peace I found at https://www.beckykolb.com/meet-becky
I discovered the #1 step toward healing broken relationships and the barrier that kept me from it. You don’t have to make that same mistake.
My relationship with God was almost non-existent and I wondered if He had rejected me too. But what I discovered was Him standing with arms wide open waiting for me to turn around.
I learned that you can't force reconciliation. Any attempt to change another person is fruitless. The only control you and I have is ourselves and my podcast and coaching focus is on WHOLENESS in your heart.
I offer free no pressure, no obligation discovery calls to see if coaching is right for you. It's not a sales pitch. If that's something you seek, navigate to www.beckykolb.com/work-with-becky and let's have a conversation.
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71: Can I Find Peace Even Amid Estrangement?
2w ago00:09:46Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementPeace even in estrangement is attainable although women believe otherwise. What about you? Do you feel that your estranged relationship must be reconciled before you can have peace? I did. Obsessing over words spoken, actions taken and how a loved one could choose rejection was nonstop. You wonder if you’ll ever be normal again. I laugh about this now because what really is normal? You see, women believe they are the only one going through this painfully emotional time and we compare our abnormal to the perceived normal in others. Wherever you are, sit with me a few minutes and I’ll share how you can build a meaningful life and discover peace – even before the relationship heals. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/71.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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70: The Heaviness of Why in Estrangement
3w ago00:09:55Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThe heaviness of why in an estranged relationship with a loved one is unbearable at times. As I continue with the theme of changing your thoughts and changing your life, let’s explore how to lessen the weight of why. Why is the cry of the heart of a mother who is estranged from a son or daughter that often results in loss of a relationship with grandkids. I know a woman who has been estranged from her daughter and grandkids for years. She is a Christian, but that doesn’t exempt her from the pain she carries in her heart. The heaviness of why lingers day after day. But she has learned to let go of why and turn her heart in another direction. Settle in with me today and I’ll share the story. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/70.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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69: What God Thinks Toward You
4w ago00:09:02Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementContinuing with the estrangement theme - Change your thoughts and change your life.Do you wonder what God thinks of you? That very thought can bring immense peace or terrorizing fear. At the height of my chaotic sinful life, I was certain God was waiting for an opportune time to strike me down. Estrangement compounded the feeling that He couldn’t love me. You may be wondering what God thinks toward you in an estranged relationship with a son, daughter, or close family member. When the child you love, nursed, and cared for no longer wants a relationship, you wonder about those things they say to you and others. Are you such a terrible person? If they think so, does God? If you’re in need of some encouragement today, settle in and listen to some great news! Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/69.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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68: Change Your Thoughts - Change Your Life
May 1400:15:46Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementChange your thoughts and your life will change. How it changes depends on how you think. Now, this is not the power of positive thinking message. But there is truth to how our thoughts affect our life – either positively or negatively. Admittedly, I am a skeptic when people start talking about an attitude of gratitude. Those Pollyanna women who are always in a good mood, see the best in others and refuse to get in the dirt when they are down. In fact, with these women, you almost never know that they are struggling. Estranged relationships create a breeding ground for negative thinking as we’ve discussed before. I’ll share with you today how if you want to change your life, then you’ll need to change your thoughts. Let’s roll. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/68.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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67: Mother's Day and Estrangement
May 700:10:23Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementEstrangement and Mother’s Day are two attributes that are at odds with one another. And when you are estranged from a son or daughter, it’s a trigger that can send you spiraling into a dark place. As I’ve talked with some mom’s they’ve expressed that they just want the day to end so they can get on with life. Women work themselves into a tizzy (that’s an expression I heard often growing up) creating anxiety and stress. Although reconnected with my kids now, I remember several Mother’s Day blues where sadness overwhelmed me. Estranged not only from my kids, but also my mother. My value as a person was at question in my mind. Consequently, it’s a day that I too wanted to pass quickly. Today I’ll share how you can turn this day into a celebration rather than mourning. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/67.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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66: The Secret to Peace
Apr 2900:10:27Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThe secret to peace is elusive to many women. Everyone wants it and often knows how to get it but are unwilling. Those that embrace this secret discover a deep and lasting peace even amid estrangement before relationships reconcile. In fact, knowing the relationship may never reconcile doesn’t disturb their peace. This peace is available to all who are open – even if you rejected it previously. It’s always there waiting for you. And the fruit of this secret is what will set your heart free from the emotional pain of an estranged relationship. Sit with me today for a few minutes and I’ll tell you the secret. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/66. Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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65: Reconciliation
Apr 2400:11:51Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementReconciliation is defined as the process of restoring friendly relations. It involves resolving disputes and balancing accounts. You’re thinking about your estranged loved one and that’s what this is about. However, it also is a principle in balance. Think of your bank statement. Do you cringe when it arrives as I do? Because of my husband’s health, I have the sole responsibility of managing finances and balancing accounts. As detailed as I try to be, invariably I will miss a withdrawal. How do debits and credits and balancing a bank statement relate to an estranged relationship? Stay tuned to today’s podcast episode and I’ll tell you. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/65.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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64: Letting Go of Grudges
Apr 900:09:47Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementLetting go of grudges is rarely easy and certainly nothing happens quickly for most people. Estranged relationships create a hotbed for growing grudges, and you nourish them when you replay and rehearse responses. Coaching women who have been hurt by a loved one who has chosen to walk away will frequently begin with something like “how could they?” Or I’ll never be able to forgive them for what they’ve done.” And those words are the foundation for building resentment and deep-seated grudges that bring harm to your soul. Furthermore, you’ll never heal when you are holding a grudge. Today’s episode will provide some tips for letting go of the resentment so that your heart can begin to heal Let’s settle in for a short message today on getting rid of grudges.Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/64.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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63: The Bridge that Connects
Apr 800:11:33Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThere is a bridge that connects an unsaved heart and that’s the subject of today’s podcast episode. Women have asked me how to handle their unsaved kids especially when estranged. That’s a worthy question and one that resonates with every Christian mom around the world. I've sometimes overstepped, but always with good intentions. However, your kids will not see it that way. They see it as intrusion into their adult life. A Mom shared with me that she wrote a lengthy letter to her unsaved kids in hopes that they might be more open once she was gone. Certainly, we desire that our kids find a relationship with Christ but pushing or threatening will only drive them further away. Listen in today as I share some of the mistakes I made along with some practical tips that can keep you engaged in the spiritual life of your kids. Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/63.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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62: The Sting of Rejection
Apr 100:11:45Tap to summarizeSend me a text…what do struggle with most in estrangementThe sting of rejection has been on my mind this week. For Christians, it’s Holy Week and I’ve been thinking about conversations I’ve had with women about estrangement. Moreover, the rejection these women discuss is typically a child who has walked away. Rarely do I speak with anyone where the parent has chosen rejection. Siblings, In-Laws, and other estrangement also sting, but the emotional pain of your child choosing to end a relationship with you is deeply personal and hurtful. Holy week creates an opportunity for you to draw closer to the heart of Jesus. Mocking, false accusations, rejection, loneliness and ultimately a sacrificial death. The good news is Sunday is coming and we know He lives. Today’s episode relates the sting of an estranged relationship you face with the love and understanding of your heavenly father. Let’s dive in.Find the full transcript for this episode plus resources for women at Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace at beckykolb.com/62.Becky Kolb helps women with estranged relationships find lasting peace and the ability to move forward from guilt & shame, learn the process of forgiveness, rediscover God and what he says about you, develop boundaries and non-negotiables for healthy relationships. And the result is living your passion and purpose with peace and losing the weight of anger and bitterness! Contact Becky at www.beckykolb.com/contactDownload the free guide to work through Finding Peace Amid Estrangement at www.beckykolb.com/guide
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