When couples argue about money, chores, or who said what, it’s almost never just about the surface issue. Underneath, there are attachment needs, fears, and money stories bumping into each other—usually without either partner having the language for what’s really going on.

In this episode, Shari Rash sits down with Dr. Jessica Higgins, host of the Empowered Relationship podcast, to unpack how couples can transform defensiveness, criticism, and shutdown into deeper connection.

They talk about why “you always” and “you never” conversations backfire, how resentment builds when we keep “letting things go,” and why vulnerability is the missing ingredient in most money talks.

They also dig into how money personalities clash inside relationships, how life events like buying a home or raising kids magnify unspoken fears, and what to do if every money conversation feels like a landmine. Instead of perfection, Jessica offers a realistic, step-by-step way to tiptoe into safer conversations and build new communication habits over time.

You’ll walk away with:

How to recognize when you’re operating from protection instead of vulnerability

Why your partner’s criticism or control might actually be a sign of fear and insecurity

A simple way to start lower-stakes money conversations and build trust before tackling the big stuff

Tools to shift from “who’s right” to “how do we both feel safe, seen, and on the same team”

If you’re ready for personalized, judgment-free financial guidance, learn more about working with Shari. Shari Rash is the founder of GWA Wealth and the Host of Everyone’s Talkin’ Money. GWA Wealth is a virtual advisory firm helping women make confident, values-aligned decisions with their money. Visit GWA Wealth to explore your next step.

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Love, Money, and Communication: Why Couples Fight About Money with Dr. Jessica Higgins