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Everything’s Perfect…Except Adulting | Q&A Edition
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In this candid and laugh-filled episode, Donald and Autumn answer your juiciest listener questions—from parenting and nutrition to dating, divorce, and the daily chaos of adult life. Think of it as one big Instagram Q&A, but with fewer filters and...
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Hey, this is Sarah. Look, I'm standing out front of a.m. p.m. Right now and, well, you're sweet and all, but I found something more fulfilling, even kind of cheesy. But I like it. Sure, you met some of my dietary needs, but they've just got it all, so farewell, oatmeal. So long, you strange soggy.
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A
Take 400.
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B
Exactly. We had technical issues, and we're not.
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A
Technical people, but our audio wasn't recording.
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B
Yeah. And this is after, just for context, we already did a full episode that we have to re record. But we think we figured out the.
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A
Issue if we have it. This podcast is quickly coming to an end.
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B
How you doing?
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A
I'm good. What's today? Today's Friday.
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B
I know we usually like. We usually record on Wednesdays, so I'm good.
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A
It's been a good week. My birthday. Although we already recorded one on Wednesday, so we talked about that. But it's in the same week, so. Yeah, it's good.
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B
Good.
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A
I'm excited for the weekend. I've got some events, some things. Me too.
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B
We're gonna go to Katrina's dance class.
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A
We're gonna dance tomorrow.
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B
That'll be a lot of fun. I'm excited, too. I'm feeling good.
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A
Are you coming to the ESPN event with me?
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B
I don't know if I can swing. Okay. All right, fine. I guess I just need a little push and I'll do anything.
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A
Let me decide that for you real quick. Okay. So we're doing. We're taking the audience's questions today.
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B
Yeah. We asked. If you don't follow us on Instagram, I encourage you to do so because something that we did and we're going to start doing more often is we put up the question box in our stories and just thought it'd be fun to go down the list and tackle some of the questions that a lot of you are asking. And maybe in the future we'll do a some kind of forum and see who's asking a lot of the same questions. But we're literally just like first time seeing them.
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A
We're flying blind here, guys.
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B
Yes.
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A
And by the way, if you want to follow us on Instagram, it's Everything's perfect official.
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B
That's right. Everything's perfect official. I, we, I. If you have a hard time finding it, it's tagged at the top of my Instagram, which is Donald Stamper. And we're always both of or posting about the podcast. So should we dive in?
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A
Take her away.
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B
The first question I actually think is one that a lot of people and I'm interested to hear what you have to say and I'll share an opinion on anything, even when it's. I don't really have room. Helping kids stay active and find nutritional balance, which I do think is a really interesting subject.
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A
Yeah, I love that question.
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B
You don't want to, like when I was a kid, the help to for me to stay balanced was like, you don't want to get fat, do you? I mean, I'm just keeping it real. Like that's how my family talked. And I think, I think it's times were different then. I'm not saying that that was the right way. I'm also not mad at them because it's way better than the things their parents said to them, you know?
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A
Yeah. We were so active as kids, it wasn't even a conversation and everything was homemade. So like, even when we were, I mean, I grew up eating pizza pasta and subscribed but one, I mean, they kicked us out of the house the second the sun was up and they didn't let us back in until the sun went down. So we were like nonstop on the go. But I, and I do think obviously it's a different time. So kids are sitting a lot in front of computers, in front of video games and things like that. So I think maybe putting some boundaries around those types of activities where like the tv, the video games, doing things as families, like whether you take a walk at night, like, I love taking walks with Dom because it's a great time for he and I to just talk and bond and how was the day? It doesn't even have to be very long, you know, encouraging your kids to participate in a sport, be it at school or like. Yeah. Or with friends or something like that, to just make sure that they're getting movement in depending on the Age. I don't necessarily think, like, workout videos for kids is something that kids like.
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B
I think it depends.
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A
Like, younger kids. I mean, that's why I said based on the age when I was.
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B
Well, so we were homeschooled.
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A
Right.
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B
So I. I'm like a extreme example of this. But a lot of the way that I live my life now is because of what I saw when I was growing up. So I might say to someone, do active things with your kids. It doesn't have to be all the time. And it doesn't have to be like, we got to get our workout in today. But just like my family oftentimes, especially when the weather nice. Would go on walks.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And that's something that I really love to do. We got out of the house and we did. I got really excited because we had a longer walk through our neighborhood that we do, which wasn't a, quote, long walk, but for a little kid, you're excited. And there were hills. My mom called it the butt burner because we went up a lot of hills and stuff. And I also remember my mom doing. She did Richard Simmons sweating to the oldies.
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A
First of all, everybody loves sweating to the oldies.
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B
Yeah. And we literally would grab soup cans or just whatever things. And I might not have been doing it. Right. I might not. But I thought it was so fun. And my mom made it fun.
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A
Right.
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B
Like, she'd add sound effects and stuff, which a lot of the reason I'm crazy during workouts might be because of her. But so I think that that's something that really stuck for me. And. And I think just doing that kind of stuff and having fun with it.
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A
Yeah. Like, yeah. Riding bikes, like, taking the walks, going outside and picking an adventure. Pickleball. All those things. And then when it comes to the nutrition. Yes. They said different things to us when we were little. But I like, for me, I could speak to how I do it with Dom because I'm very careful, since I am in that world and I speak about it so much already. And he's always listening to make sure that I'm really speaking about balance at home. So we have treats together. I don't necessarily keep ice cream in the house, but I love when it's a weekend and it's like, do you want to get ice cream? Or sometimes we'll know we're going to the movies and we're going to get treat there. Or when he was a little bit young because Obviously he's almost 17 now, so he gets it. But like, when he was Younger. If he was asking for dessert every day, I would just explain to him, like, that's a treat. We don't have that every day. There's nothing wrong with having it sometimes, but we don't want to have it every day. It's not healthy for us. You know, getting. The younger you get them started on eating healthier foods, the easier it's going to be for you. So I introduced him to, like, veggies and chicken and just fruit, like, when he. When he was really little. So he. Those were the things he learned to love. I didn't introduce all of the, like, snacky, more processed things to him when he was younger, like a baby and, like, all that. Like, I kind of tried to keep that minimal just because I knew he was gonna get that eventually.
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B
Yeah. So I think in our house, too. Another thing about nutrition. My mom was really. Well, she had the. I know not every family has the luxury to be able to, like, prepare food all the time, but when you can, she. And she was able to because she was at home. She was a homemaker and schooling us and everything. We didn't have, like, let's say we were having whatever meal. We always had a salad, and we actually ate our salad after. Yeah. And it was fun for digestion and. Yeah. And now in my mind, it was never like, you have to eat your salad. I would be asked questions like, which salad dressing do you want? Right. And, you know, like, in. In hindsight, I guess they weren't the, quote, the healthiest. Like, I loved it was called Ken's.
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A
Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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B
I loved that.
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A
Give me some ranch.
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B
Yeah. Well, I couldn't have dairy. But we also loved creamy Italian. I still love creamy Italian. Like, this pasta salad's missing. Something just does a creamy Italian on that. But anyways, the point is, a salad was just something that actually was really fun. And I. I got to. Because my brother might want one dressing, and I'd want another, and I got to have it the way I liked it. And we didn't. If I wanted more food, then she'd say, have your salad, and then you can have more food.
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Right.
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Instead of just like, if we were having, you know, spaghetti. I couldn't have tons and tons of spaghetti without eating my salad.
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Right.
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B
And every kid's different, too. I would say, if it's little kids, just do the best you can and try to get them to eat. Like. Like observing my bro. My family with little kids. Some kids are pickier and more difficult.
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Very picky. Yes. And.
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B
But most of the time, they will at some point grow out of that really picky phase. And I just think having giving options is good.
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A
Yeah. I also think just sometimes like a one bite, a one bite sort of game of like you have to try a bite. If you don't like it, you don't have to eat it, but you have to try a bite. Because sometimes they're just afraid of the way it looks. We love broccoli with cheese on it.
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B
Yeah, I didn't get that either. It's so funny because last thing I'll say about this, there was this like spiritual, like when I'm trying to think of how to say this, she was like a holy. She was a good friend of my family and I loved her.
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Okay.
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She was out there with her. The way she practiced her faith.
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Okay.
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At least how I perceived her. So I'm not trying to be judgmental, but she was like, like, if you were like, oh, I don't feel good, she'd be knocking on your door and have anointing all her in her hand, say in the name of Jesus, we come against the sickness. Like, that's the kind of she was. And she was praying for us not to be allergic to dairy. Like I break the curse of dairy allergy. And my mom was like, I'm actually not mad at it because it's not going to kill them if they get it. And it just automatically puts some boundaries around.
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Yeah.
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B
What they can eat. But I tipped everything in creamy Italian. The next question. Would love to hear your takes on beauty hacks skincare routine slash looking your best. And we did have like a little bit of a episode about this. But what would you say your, your main. Like if you had to choose one or two things in your routine?
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A
Well, first of all, I want to say this. Like I, I didn't expect that we would be on nutrition, but guys, beauty is going to start from the inside out. Like if you're dehydrated, your skin is going to look dehydrated. If you're eating a bunch of highly processed sugary foods, like, your skin is the biggest detox organ. So it's going to show through your skin. So making sure you're hydrated, making sure you're eating real whole foods, things like that, that is actually like, believe it or not, that is like my non secret beauty secret is that I eat healthy, I stay hydrated, I get my sleep. Like those are things that are really important. But I will never, never go to bed without washing my face. Like never will I leave makeup on this face and go to sleep. Like I, I would. I don't, I don't think I'd be able to fall asleep. And I've always been like that. Like, got to wash it after a workout, even if I'm not washing it. I'll go grab a washcloth, wet it, wipe it. And don't get me wrong, I've got all my serums and all my, you know, 10 step routines in the morning and at night. But before you get into all those, start with the basics of, you know, eating right, hydrating, sleeping, 100. Wash your face, moisturize.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And then from there it's, you know.
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B
I got a whole bag of tricks.
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A
Let me tell you. I was looking at this forehead and needs some Botox so bad. But because I did my stem cell facial three months ago, I don't want to put botox in because, you know, that's a toxin. I'm granola, but I'm like half granola. Half. Yeah, put it in my face.
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B
Like.
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I don't want to kill the stem cells, so I can't put the Botox in. But these.
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B
Well, you know, you know what you.
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A
Need is to teach me how to use frownies.
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B
I'll teach you. I was gonna say my. So I agree with you. Hydration. So many people are like putting so much stuff on their, topically on their skin and I. Okay, you're fighting a losing battle, baby. You need to drink some water and eat an antioxidant or two, something. Because literally, like, that really is so important. And like I even, I'm. I don't know the science behind it, but being active, like sweating a little bit from time to time, like that kind of stuff is just good for your skin. My recent thing that I've added so I. On my Instagram, I talk about frownies a lot. So I do use frownies, but. And I think it's important, whatever the brand, we both have brands we like of good, like having a good, just a good quality moisturizer and stuff. But I've been finishing my skincare with castor oil on my face and I love it. And it's gonna la. The bottle I got is gonna last forever. And I, I don't. Some people maybe it would cause them to break out, but it's actually oftentimes really good for your skin and for hair and everything. And I'm obsessed.
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A
I got this beef tallow that was like went tick tock viral. And I was like, okay, I'm not sure how I'm gonna feel about it. Same thing. I'm like, what is this?
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B
Oh, I thought about trying. Is it good?
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A
Like, you put it on, and all of a sudden your face is like, oh. And I'm like, what? Like, you know, because a lot of times you get stuff and you're like, okay, like, it works. This I put on. And I was like, yeah.
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B
Hello. Good to know. I wondered. I'm gonna out the one that you got.
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A
I'm gonna show you the one I have. Yeah, you can get on Amazon.
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B
I thought about trying that.
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A
Okay, so that's some skin care. What else? As I drink my water.
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B
So the next question is.
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And I don't know what that means.
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But I'll just jump to the next one.
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A
Oh, okay.
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B
It's not juicy, but. But. And you've touched on it. But the. It just says Autumn's divorce. So I think maybe it said, what do you guys want us to talk about? Maybe didn't say ask questions. So.
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A
Oh, that's. I mean, I've been divorced since Dom was 2. He's almost 17. So, like, 15 years. And nothing bad happened between Kent and I. We just grew apart in the romantic sense. And listen, my parents went through a horrible divorce and hated each other and probably still to this day really don't like each other at all. And I just always said, like, I was never gonna do that. Like, there's just no reason to hate somebody that you loved at one point, and especially if there's a child involved. And we had been struggling. Like, we were married for. We were together seven years, married for almost five, and we had been sort of struggling for a year. And it wasn't, like, bad fights. It was just. I could tell we were going apart. And we kept talking about it, and it was like, things weren't getting better. And I just said. I was like, I just could tell we've grown apart, and I think we need to separate before we hate each other, because I think people stay in it sometimes so long. And look, I'm not telling people, go get divorced the second there's a problem, but I'm just saying, like, I could tell we were not gonna make it as husband and wife. And I was like, I don't want to stay in this to the point where we resent each other, hate each other, and then we can't co parent Dominic very well. And, I mean, you know, the first year was a little rough, but after that, like, when we worked through all the emotions that come with the disappointment of feeling like, you Failed at something. Look, Kent and I are still the best of friends. He works for me. He's worked for me for seven years. I see him every single day. He's my family. And so really, you know, sometimes you can look at divorce as a failure, but I feel like. I feel like we're way more successful and I'm way more proud than if I would have stayed in a marriage that neither one of us was actually happy in.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And not show Dom that I'd rather him. See, this is the story of the 1. As a custodial supervisor at a high school, he knows that during cold and flu season, germs spread fast. It's why he partners with Granger to stay fully stocked on the products and supplies he needs, from tissues to disinfectants to floor scrubbers, all so that he can help students, staff, and teachers stay healthy and focused. Call 1-800-GRAINGER click granger.com or just stop by Granger for the ones who get it done. That we chose our happiness, but we also chose him and chose to stay friends and family and make that work. And it does work. I mean, it drives me insane. And he got us the wrong coffee mix.
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B
He tried to sabotage it, give us the bubble guts on our fucking podcast because the wrong SD cards. But other than that, Great guy.
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A
Recorded an episode twice.
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B
You kept him around. I'm just kidding.
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A
Winning.
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B
No, he is like, he. He is wonderful. And you guys are a great example of being able to succeed. You said, like, a lot of people look at divorce as a failure, but you've actually succeeded in so many relationships with him. It just. That wasn't the right one.
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Right.
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And I think it's so cool for.
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For.
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For.
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Yeah. He's still very much my family. He's like a weird cousin. I don't know what you would. Where he fits in.
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B
Okay. This one says everything's perfect except when everyone's on the, quote, weight loss shot. Oh. And so obviously talking about GLP1s and stuff like that.
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Yeah.
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B
And I don't know if we've talked about.
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I don't think we've actually talked. I mean, you and I have talked about JLPL lens, but we haven't talked about it on here.
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B
Right. Do you have any thoughts you'd like to share?
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A
Listen, I think when it comes to. There are certain people that need it. Right. Like the. It's not like it's new. GLP ones have been around for a while, so people that need it. I think that it's great that they have an option to help them. I absolutely feel it should be done under a doctor's care. You know, when you're using them properly, it should be very low dose and you should only be on it for as long as you short of a period of time as you need to, to start to get your weight under control. Like, I know, I know my doctors in Dallas. I've, I've talked to them about it. Like how do they use it with their clients? And they're very strict. It's the lowest dose possible. They do not up the dose. Like a lot of doctors will continuously up the dose until people are in these really high doses and they're like, no. We try to keep people at the lowest dose possible. They have to check in with us every single week. They have to be on an exercise routine that we prescribe. They have to be working towards eating healthier or we're not going to keep giving it to them. Because if you're not making the lifestyle changes to accompany it, we're just really perpetuating unhealthy habits in general. And I think that that is a great way to use it. Obviously there's lots of people using them that don't necessarily have a diabetic problem or even like a huge amount of weight to lose. But I have heard of doctors recommending it now for women in perimenopause because, but like micro dosing it in perimenopause, which I do think is interesting because we have so many hormonal shifts. But I would say without more research in that area, it makes me a little leery of like what might be the long term things. The only other thing I would say is I do feel like, look, if you're using them, you should say you're using like, don't. You don't have to put it out there. But if you're putting out there, like, look how great I look. And it's just my exercise and my nutrition. But you're getting help from like a GLB OP one. Yeah, I don't love that because I feel like it just makes people who are really working their asses off feel bad that they're not getting the same results as quickly.
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B
I, I feel you. I'm with you.
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A
Yeah. And we should also stop shaming people if they're using it. Like, oh yeah.
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B
I, I am totally opposite. I love the way I've seen. I have one friend come to mind who has had great success, little to no side effects. And if the side effects has been good because they've been like, if she drinks alcohol, she feels sicker, so she drinks less. And so it's like, is that a bad side effect? I know that there's different compounds and. And I don't know all of that. And obviously you should check with your doctor or do the thing. But I think that it's really great to see like there's a handful of people I know personally who they just feel better. And I, even as I'm saying it, I have a pause because it's like there's a part of society that might say, well, they shouldn't have to be in a. Like they shouldn't have to lose weight to feel better. But either way, we live in the world we live in and these girls, they're like really feeling. My friend feels so much better and herself and good for her. I actually also saw an influencer who, people who follow me. He's much large, he's much larger in terms of influence. He has a bigger following than I am and he has been a trainer and all the things. And so he's someone who, someone who is against GLP1s would say, you don't need to be on a GLP1, but he took a GLP1 and it was, he. He said it was to, you know, I'm paraphrasing a post of his that I saw, but he said that it was to see what his clients felt and he said that it was so freeing because food noise is something that he's suffered with his entire life and it finally was gone and he could finally just focus on himself and eat intentionally and work out. And so I think especially for someone who maintains a healthy lifestyle, if it's giving you that extra whatever you need. Yeah, baby. No shame here. Go after it. Like I. And honestly. But I'm with you. Especially like let's say if I wanted to micro dose of GLP1 or something, I would not feel good about selling some of the other things that I sell. If I. And keeping secrets secret. Yeah, I think that is something. It's like if you use it and you're in that position, you should be honest about it. Just like that. The influencer I was talking about. So I'm here for it. But it does not take the place of. And it should not in your mind take the place of having a balanced diet, making sure you're getting enough of your macros. You like if someone's on it, they should still say stay on their meal plan.
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A
And I really think you need to be Doing it. Like, find a doctor. Like, you just. You don't want to accidentally overdose yourself on it. You don't know what. Like, if you're on another medication, if there's. Like, you don't. Like, if you're just, I don't know, ordering it off the web. Like, you just don't know exactly what you're necessarily getting. But I want to say one other thing really quick, and then we'll go to another question about something you said where, like, people might be like, oh, you shouldn't have to lose weight to feel better. First of all, that's not your place to tell anybody what they. And how do you know they feel like they should lose weight? They might just want to lose weight because that, to them, makes them feel better. Like, when you're carrying extra weight. And it's not just like a judgment on yourself necessarily of the way you look, you're carrying weight. Like, put a backpack on with ten pounds in it and walk around for the day and see how tired you are and see if your back hurts and see if it's harder to go up and down stairs. And if your heart rate jumps, it does. So if somebody's struggling. And by the way, like, ten pounds does not necessarily mean a GLP one. But again, if you're in perimenopause, sometimes people struggle. But my whole point is, is I just wish people would stop thinking it's their right to put their judgment on somebody. Other people's choices in general, it doesn't affect you. I get it. If somebody's out there, like you said, lying about using it and being like, I'm just doing this, that's frustrating. But still, just stay in your lane. And do you.
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B
Yeah. You know what I love about it? It gives peop. Because I really do think that a weight loss journey is different for different people.
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A
Yeah. Everybody has different biological.
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B
Yeah. There's so many things that play from hormones and, like, all kinds of things. And I just. Genetics. And I. I am happy that this support is there for people. And I do think that's a yes. And, you know, there it. If someone becomes obsessive over it, losing weight. If you find yourself celebrating the fact that you just don't eat those, I would. If I was working with a client, I'd be like, these are some flags that we might need to look at deeper.
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A
Right.
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B
Because this. That's not what this is.
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A
Right.
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B
This isn't a way for you to just not eat. Exactly.
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A
Yeah.
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B
So, but if you like it, I love it. Baby, let's see. I've had a couple of this. Okay, I'm gonna read two questions.
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A
Just.
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B
Okay, so if they posted or comments. One said, people complaining just because they can and constantly being negative. I'm so over it. Another person said, dealing with an exhausting friend. Great, but she is such a negative person. It's like exhausting emoji. That is an interesting. I don't think I have a lot of negative friends.
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As I raise my hand, let me speak from both sides of it, because we talk about this a little bit in the brain episode where I talked about my brain scans, that I am very. Like, the way my brain works works. Like, literally looking at the brain scan. I expect the worst out of the world. They can see certain parts of my brain that are overstimulated or get more blood flow, that they're like, oh, you're on high alert all the time. And I ruminate. They can see that too. So, like, I'm sort of expecting the other shoe to drop. And when something happens, man, I fixate on it. So being that I am the person that can sometimes get stuck in a negative head space, I understand that, like, I have. I'm at least aware of it where I'm like, I'm probably being annoying to my friends right now. So, like, let me take this somewhere else, like, internally and go work on myself. But you could put boundaries up around it a little bit.
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B
It's really so great. I just want to acknowledge that because so many people, like, what you just did is acknowledge the fact that you can pause in a moment, even in the feeling, and realize, I'm seeing this through a negative lens. I'm feeding into the negativity, and this is something that maybe I'm predisposed to doing. But it. It. Where. Where a lot of people out there are just like, no, this is it. Everything's like, they. They are com. They are fully immersed in the belief of the negativity. And it is such. It's so refreshing and good. That's why I say I don't have any negative friends because, you know, taking that responsibility of.
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A
Sure to be able to do that, to catch myself in it. But I think you could probably, like, you could have conversations, and if you find that they are constantly talking about the same negative about it, like, I feel like it is okay to say to somebody, look, I know this has been stressing you a lot out a lot lately, and I want to be here for you, but it does wear me out a little bit. So, like, we're going to talk about this for 10 minutes and then we got to put it down because we've got to also find the good in life and have some fun together and things like that. Like, I think that that is one way to handle it. I would say maybe not the best way to handle it would not be like, if the person's really your friend, don't just shut them out. Don't just disappear on them. Don't just in your mind decide they're negative and so you're done without having a conversation of. You're really, you're. You're really kind of always in a bad mood or in a negative headspace. And it's bringing me down. Like, I want to be here for you and I love our friendship, but, like, I know it's an uncomfortable conversation to have, but if the person's really your friend and you really care about them, you'd rather just drop them as a friend and not have the uncomfortable conversation of, hey, this attitude is not great.
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B
Yeah.
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A
You know?
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B
Yeah.
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A
So that would. I don't know. That would be. My suggestion is sometimes you gotta have the hard conversation and just point it out because they might not realize that they're in it.
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B
Well, I was gonna say it also, remember, because I. Something I can do that I don't really do at this point in my life, but something that I've been able to do is meet literally any person where they're at. And so if someone's on a fest, baby, let's. Let's ride this ride together. Or if someone's talking about somebody, I'm like, oh, you think that's good? But, you know, and I really do try now to be so someone who. It's like, it. There's a fine line between that and then there's also another one where it's like, I don't have time for this and I'm not even in the moment. I try to say something like, you know, I know this feels really frustrating right now, but it is going to feel better.
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A
Right?
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B
You are going to get through this and we're going to be having a good time. Like, and depending on who you're talking to, like, it could be we're going to be having a good time next week for our dinner plans, whatever it is. Like, you're just feeling frustrated now, and I get it, but don't try not to stay there. Like, being that supportive friend who isn't. Doesn't feel like you're judging or better than, like, you get it. You've been there. You felt that way, too. But also holds this, the ground of reminding someone, you're gonna get through this, and there is more to celebrate than there is to be miserable over.
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A
And also, I guess it depends on what the problem is, because sometimes, like, I don't know if they're going through a divorce. Listen. Yeah, that takes a minute. Like, they might be in it for a while. Like, you're gonna have to allow them a little space. Or if they're going through a breakup or if they just lost their job and they're panicking about how they're gonna make money, you might need to give them a little space to be negative. Yeah, but that's where maybe a little boundaries come in. Like, all right, let's vent it out. Go. But in 10 or 15 minutes, we're gonna talk through this. But then if you find that within, like, then you're circling back and saying the same things over and over again. You could be like, look, we're not going to solve this today. Today it sucks, and I love you, and I know it sucks, but we're beating a dead horse. So let's put this down for today, and let's try to do A, B, or C to move on and. And focus on something else or take action to improve it instead of just. Yeah, perpetuating.
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B
Continue on beating the dead horse. Because it's a real thing, and people struggle. And it's a really good point to remember that people's like. Like, the. The makeup and their. The chemicals in their brain are not the same. And so because I'm someone who used to be very frustrated, so if someone has come to me with always a doomsday, I was not the one to come to. I've matured a lot. I'm like, what is wrong with you? Like, I literally be like, snap out of it or I don't have time. This is. I was really, really uncaring towards my friends who. Who really were just struggling. And so I try to remember that, but also just make sure that having that conversation like you said.
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A
And yeah, there's other people. Like, Nell, your boyfriend is literally rainbows and sunshine and daisies.
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B
Exactly.
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A
All the time. And I'm always like, sometimes I just need to be in a pissy mood.
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B
His best thing is he's. He. He sure does love himself. And it's such a good thing.
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A
Love it for him. I'm always like, I need. Need what he's on.
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B
And he'll be like, we have this mirror in our house, and he'll walk by and be like, oh, yes, I do look good.
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A
I love him.
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B
I'm like, you do? You ain't saying a lie.
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A
No.
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B
So this is one that you've talked about. I'm sorry, I was reading a couple questions.
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A
Okay. I was like, this is one that.
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B
You'Ve talked about before. We can just touch on briefly. Okay. Because you touch on it and your, Your like, meal, your nutrition programs and all that. But someone said, can you talk about protein? How many grams of protein do you recommend daily? Which I would say, I'm just gonna say if someone asked me that, the first thing I would say is, I. I can't give a recommendation, just a blanket recommendation because it totally depends on.
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A
The person, the person, their goals. Listen, there are blanket, you know, like, if you. 1 gram of protein per body weight. But that's actually not totally accurate. It's per kill muscle mass, right? So, like your whole body isn't lean muscle mass. Like, we have fat mass also. So people are like, I weigh this much, so I need this much 1 gram, blah, blah, blah. And it's like, no, you actually need to figure out what your lean mass is. And it's that.
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B
So my understanding is. And this is an opportunity for you to correct me or what other people might be in real time. If you eat 1 gram of protein per body weight. Weight as a. Like, like, if you or I did that, that's a high protein.
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A
Yes.
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B
Diet. And some people, I, I think oftentimes what people do one per kilogram, which would actually be like almost half, right. Maybe a little bit more than half.
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A
I think you're asking me to get into math now. And I'm like, my brain's gonna divide.
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B
That by two and times it by wanting to have big muscles. I always like, if, if you want to. If you, if you're trying to do really high protein, you should never do higher than your goal weight. If you have a lot of weight to lose. Like, you're just overeating.
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A
And there's the thing is, do you have weight to lose? Are you trying to actually build muscle mass, like size? Because there's a difference between putting size on and just having lean, defined muscles. And this is where having a nutrition program, something like portion fix or Gut protocol or Belvital. If you look at any one of my nutrition program and you guys, the container system that I teach is all comes. It all stems from everything I learned when I was a fitness competitor getting ready to take the stage. So needing to build muscle, but needing to Be sculpted and lean at the same time. It's, it's always moderate protein, about 30%. But people get so fixated on protein. And what you don't realize is you're like, when you eat like these huge amounts in a meal, there's only so much your body can use at one time. And your body can't store protein as protein. So it's going to get converted and, and stored basically as fat or it's going to get excreted. So trying to consume these crazy large amounts, first of all, you have to then use it. It's a raw material. You've got to train, you've got to lift to turn that into something or it's just going to turn into, like I said, fat. But also like, it's not just protein. Like you need a balance of your macros, you need vegetables, you need fruit, you need phytonutrients, you need fiber, you need healthy fat, you need carbohydrates for your brain to function, for your heart. Like, like we need all of these things in balance. So I could go on a tangent for hours. I get.
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B
So that's why I said we're just going to touch on this one because.
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A
I see everybody being like, protein for hormones, health, hormone health. And I'm like, actually it's high fat, moderate protein, a little bit lower carbs. If your hormones are out of balance, hence bell, if you do the program, you'll see like we have the blood work that shows that it works.
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B
Yeah.
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A
So. Yeah.
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B
Yeah. All right, that's good. I feel like. Oh, I feel like that was a good. So this one is interesting and I have something I want to say about says, how do you handle it when your 11 year old tells you they like the same sex?
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A
So I think that's definitely. You take it first.
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B
I would say, you know, there's so many different nuances, but an 11, because I do believe that if you're gay, you're also gay at 11. However, you're 11. And I, I think I'm not a parent. So I say this humbly, without any type of like, as if I'm the master at it. But I would just be open to it and I would express that's okay. And it's also okay if it changes, right? And something. I think sometimes people in society right now, I don't know if this is going to land, want to jump, get out of the box they're in so bad that sometimes, especially at a young age, they might box themselves in in another place. And I think at 11, maybe someone feels maybe like that kid has a feeling of attraction towards the same sex. And I think it just really creates opportunity for you to ask questions, for you to check in with them and remind them that right now what their life about is like back to the basics, like doing good in school, making sure that they have. Are like they have friends, that there's not something else. There could be so many things going on with a kid at that age. But I would just say, I wouldn't encourage someone to say, well, it's a phase at all because it might not be and you're going to make your kid afraid to open up and come out to you if that is it. But I would also just let them know that, that they're exactly the same to you as before they shared that information. And however it would work in your relationship with that kid, give them the sense that it's okay if they feel that, like, if a little, like, if that they don't have to be embarrassed. Like, what if they're wrong? If all of a sudden, a year later they have a crush on the opposite sex. So that's what I would say. Like A, don't freak out. B, have a conversation. If they said something to you, they obviously want to talk or be seen or be honest about it. And I, I wouldn't lean into. Well, it's because you're gay and this is how you're going to be the rest of your life at that age. I would just ask questions and really make sure that you're there for them. Don't, don't shame them, but you're there for them, for all of those changes as things happen.
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A
Yeah, I would say pretty much the exact same thing. As a mom. I would, you know, I think when we're younger and we could speak just as individuals too, like, sometimes kids just get confused because it's like you're just curious about the body at 11 years old. So like, like the child could be finding them themselves curious. Like if it's a boy, they could be like, in the locker room, why does his body look different than my body? And that might make them feel or think that they're attracted to it because they're staring at that person's body trying to figure out like, oh, he's got abs. Well, I like those abs. Like, I want abs, weight. Does that mean that I like, like him? You know what I'm saying? Or if it's a girl, well, she has boobs, like, and she finds herself staring at an 11 year old, another girl that has bigger breasts than her, thinking like, well I want those, they look good. Does that mean that I like her?
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B
Yeah.
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A
So they could be just curious about their bodies changing at that age, but they also could very well be attracted to the same sex.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And so very much what you said is that's a time for questions. Well, what, what about it? Well, what, tell me, how long have you felt that way? Okay. Is there somebody that you're, you like specifically? Oh, well, why do you like them? You know, like. And then just like you said, letting them know I love you and I love you for who, for who you are.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And I will, as you grow up to become an adult, I will love whoever you love as long as they're a good person. That's how I would approach it if it was Dom.
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B
I really, really do believe some that that should be normalized because the fact is that was used in reverse in a way in my life because I had crushes on girls, but I didn't really, I was fucking 11 or 12 or 13 and, and I did have crushes, but it wasn't because it of who I was. It was because of experiences, because of a lot of different things. It was because I, you know, I obviously I thought girls were pretty. I, I, I connect with girls. Like there's so many things to it. So I would just say just because a kid says that it's, it is really good that they feel open to you and sort of that's how I'd handle it.
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A
But I'd be careful about sleepovers.
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B
Well, I think parents should be careful about sleepovers anyways. If I'm being honest, I, there, there was a lot of experimenting with girls when I was a kid.
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A
Oh really?
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B
With me? Yeah. Yeah. Like a lot of touching and rubbing and a lot of things that was just we weren't allowed to have here and there. Hey, it, we really should be, I think honestly doors should not be locked. Doors should not be locked or closed. And I would, I would be careful at a certain age about kids. Like I think it's really good for. Not in a bad way, but like not to make people feel shame about their bodies. But these are private parts and these are, you know what I mean? I think like you letting your siblings or cousins like bathe together and stuff. Past a certain age, there's just so much room for curiosity to really lead to an uncomfortable scenario that I think is just better safe than sorry.
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A
Yeah. What else we got? Hit me with a good one.
- [42:29]
B
Listen, I didn't write them. I'm just kidding. Katrina said how to get that fat ass.
- [42:36]
A
Yeah, girl. Oh, whatever. She has the best booty.
- [42:41]
B
This one. This one says. The very next one, what we just talked about says, how do you manage it all? Being a working mom, being a present mom and wife, taking care of yourself.
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A
Well, I don't have to worry about the wife part, so that's a great place to start. Listen, I will say there are days where I do great job with it, and there are days that I don't do a great job with it, with being present with Dom. And it's been that way for a long time. Like, there's things that I've missed and. And, you know, unfortunately, I. Like, there's parts of me that regrets it, but also, I'm able to provide Dom with a great life. And also I was just able to provide for Dom in general. But I don't think it's selfish to put myself first in terms of my health. Because if I'm not healthy, then how can I show up for him at all? So getting my workout in eating right. Look, I gotta make food regardless of if it's healthy or unhealthy. Healthy. So I might as well make stuff that's more healthy than unhealthy. Like I said, get up. And even if it's just 30 minutes, getting that workout in, I am such a better person, and I'm in such a better mood, and I can be way more present than if I don't. And it's lingering over my head like, I'm not a great, nice person if I haven't exercised. I need that for my own sanity. So I think it's really about, look, we all get the same 24 hours in the day. There's people out there that are way busier than I am, and they get it done, too. It's what's important to you. You know, they always say, like, instead of saying it's like, instead of saying it's not important, try say, like, say it's not a priority. Or that say like, instead of say, oh, no. Instead of saying I don't have time, say it's not a priority. Or say, I, you know, it's not actually important because so many people will go, I just don't have time. And it's like, if it's important to you, you have to find the time. You'll find the time. Because I bet if you looked at your phone and saw how long you were scrolling on it because you could look at the hours that you spend on your phone. You'd be like, shit, there's some time in there.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Or if you're watching TV for two hours. I'm not saying don't watch tv, but maybe you get a walking pad or maybe you bring a set of free weights in front of it or just do some stretching. So where there's a will, there's a way. But yeah, like I said, I can't say that I'm always the best at it, but I try to have balance throughout the weeks, months and years. Like, I can't say that every day I have balance with it. But in general, like, if I've been working a lot, then I try to make sure. Okay. Over the weekend, like, Dom's got my time.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Kind of. Things like that.
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B
Yeah, you are good at that. You've always been like, oh, I've Dom this time and you. Yeah, but I think that's the thing you. Like. Like, the truth is everyone's just doing their best and some days, some days it's a show. Exactly. I was talking to my friend on the way here and she was like. She said she felt bad about something with parenting. And I was like, this is just part of being a parent. Like that you choose a journey that you're going to up. Yeah. Like, it's just how it is. And. But knowing that that's what. That's. That's a normal thing, I think is really good.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Let's take like two more. So several people said, somebody said body dysmorphia. Somebody said how to bounce back after and feel good again.
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A
Let me see this phone.
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B
What?
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A
Because I feel like you're skipping things.
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B
I'm not. I'm telling you. Some of them are like how we met.
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A
Well, okay. D. Have you ever done therapy?
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B
I kind of have.
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A
Okay. Any experiences you want to share or don't want to share?
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B
Well, when I. This. What I did was like a faith based therapy and it was very good. I was younger and it just got. I. I don't have any big experience to share other than it reminds me that it's always important. You can't just run away from or walk away from your difficult things that you're facing or things about your. That you're struggling with. You have to find the origin of why you feel that way.
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A
Right.
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B
And then you have to heal whatever the. The issue is there. So. So that was my experience and it, it was, it was really insightful.
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A
Yeah.
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B
But. But I haven't used. I'm such a proponent of therapy for someone who's very little experience with it.
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A
I think there's so many different types of therapy, and you got to find what's right for you. So for me personally, like, talk therapy, I don't know why, but it triggers me so bad.
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B
Like, just because you need it. I'm just kidding.
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A
No, I. No, because you know what? Like, when I went to Tony Robbins and I did Date with Destiny, that was like. That to me was like everything I needed. It was like the right information to help me figure out, like, what I was doing. That was like, sort of perpetuating my own issues. But, like, when somebody just sits there and, like, just keeps. Well, why do you think you're that way? Well, why do you think? If I knew, I wouldn't be paying you $200 an hour. So, like, like, tell me what you see. You know what I'm saying? Tell me what. I'm too close to the situation. This is why we talk to our friends, because your friends will tell you what you're too close to see. Yeah, but that's just me. So for me, talk therapy wasn't great. But then I went, like I said, I went and did Tony Robbins Date with Destiny. And that was really great because I was able. Like, it was just very insightful for me of, like, this is because of this. Like, if you have two conflicting beliefs, you're not going to be happy. So, like, an example of that was like, like a toward belief and an away belief. Like, toward is like, I'm an entrepreneur and I, you know, or, you know, goal is to be successful. But then if you also have, I guess it's two goals, that's how I should word it. So if the goal is to be an entrepreneur and be successful, that's my toward goal. But my away goal is I don't want to be a failure. Those are in direct conflict. Yeah, because you're going to have failures as an entrepreneur. Like, that's just a given. So you're probably not taking all the action you need to take because you're afraid of failing, which means you're not going to be successful because you're not taking all the action and allowing that failure. So, like, somebody pointing that out to me and going, oh, shit, yeah, you're right. So guess what? I'm going to have to get over this fear of failure because it's going to happen and it's going to be a lesson learned, and I'm going to move forward from it. Great. Problem solved. Or I Could just sit there and talk for hours and be like, I don't know. It's not working. Why isn't it working? Well, I don't know. Why don't you think it's like, oh, God.
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B
Yeah. Well, I honestly do feel like I have a very exceptional way of, like, for someone who hasn't done that much therapy. I. I really have my head on straight in that way. Like, I was talking to one of my. Someone that I'm mentoring right now. Right now. I was talking to her today, and. And I was like, the thing is, if you're running, if in my analogy, you can be running towards something or away from something, but that really is about your perspective. And if I'm running in fear that I think something is going to catch me and I'm terrified, that's not the life I want to live. But I want to run after what I want to go get.
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A
Yeah.
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B
And so I think, like, being just aware of those kinds of things is where therapy can really be helpful. Like someone to put you in your place and check you. But also, not all therapists are created equal. And a lot of people have tried therapy, and they're like, did work for me. And to that, I'd say, I know people who've had to go through 10 therapists before, they find.
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A
Sometimes have to find a better.
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B
Yeah.
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A
So, yeah, that's also. Okay. This is a great question.
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B
Oh, she stole my phone, guys. I have no idea what's going.
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A
Totally stole his phone. But this is a good one. It says sex and relationships. Mine is lacking a lot. I try to flirt with him, but it doesn't work. Wtf? Oh, you want to go first or you want me?
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B
So I'm taking this as someone in a relationship who's not having. Trying to, like, flirt, put the moves on, but he's not really responding.
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A
Boyfriend or husband? Yes.
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B
I think, like, well, okay, I was about to say something, but I want to give a caveat. So I was gonna say, I think you should talk about it depending on where your relationship is after, though, because some people can talk sex to death where the last thing you want to do is have sex with somebody. Like, oh, my God, this feels. It feels like a tap task. It feels like something you've just beat your head against the wall trying to do, and then the whole thing is trying to fix something instead of just having fun. So I would. If you. If you're in the position, like, that person who you've literally tried all the things, like, they're flirting and they're not responding. Flirting, like doing the thing, being like. Then I would have a conversation and be like, this ain't gonna itself, you know, I'm just kidding. No, I, I would, I would be like, I don't know what's happening, but I want to talk about it because this is important to me.
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A
Yeah. I do think relationships go through ebbs and flows where the sex is more often and then where it's not as often. But if it's not at all, if he's not responding to you trying to be flirty and things like that at all, then I think, yes, a conversation needs to be had. Is there something going on with him? Is he really stressed out? Because we know guys, guys libidos are like when they're super stressed. So like, is he super stressed? Is there something going on with work or family or something like that? Yeah, but, yeah, that. Listen, I will say this. Hopefully this lands. Sex is an important part of an adult relationship. It really is. Like, this is why I say things that are just go the wrong way. Well, like, you know, some people will wait till marriage and I'm like, who? You are rolling the dice. Yeah.
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B
I don't recommend.
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A
10 out of 10. Do not recommend. Because you could really, like, love somebody and care for them and then that chemistry is not there.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And that person might just need to be your best friend and not be your significant other. You know what I'm saying? But like, it is intimacy and that, that can. That physical connection is a part of relationships. It needs to be there. And if it's not, you need to understand why. And you need to understand if you're going to be able to get it back or not. That's my opinion.
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B
Yeah, I agree. And I also think, especially like, if that is a woman who wrote it, a man. And I think the average man isn't even in tune with the fact that things could be happening in their body that could make them just feel less.
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A
Right.
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B
Sexual and even like taking a natural supplement of some kind. There's things that can help with that because it's something that a lot of guys deal with and it starts at a pretty young.
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A
But it has to be acknowledged that there's a quote, unquote problem. It has to be acknowledged that you're not having sex.
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B
Right. Also, for me, if I'm not having fun in my life, I don't feel as sexual.
- [53:47]
A
Right.
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B
And so that's why I say, like, if you talk about sex to death, that's the least fun thing. You don't want to be a task.
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A
Yeah.
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B
But if I'm, like, having fun winning my hair, we're doing, like, listening to music, then. Yeah, let's let out. I'm dtf.
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A
Oh, my gosh. Okay. Date. Okay, we've got three questions that sort of fall in the same general category. Dating. As a single mom, Donald's dating stories. And would love to hear more about Autumn's dating life. Let us dump on these dudes with you.
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B
Oh, well, you know, we recently. Recently, I feel like. But I guess all the episodes are blurring together. Did one on dating.
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A
We talked about past dating stories.
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B
Yeah.
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A
We didn't necessarily talk about now. I think I might have still been dating somebody. We talked about that, so.
- [54:44]
B
Well, for me, my dating is, like, not as exciting as yours. So what's it like out there?
- [54:50]
A
It's rough in these streets.
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B
La. I just want to say LA is a very hard place to date. I had to go find my man from the farthest possible, literally the furthest corner territory.
- [54:59]
A
Well, let me tell you, this dating app is trying to make me do the same thing.
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B
I don't.
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A
I don't know if I'm allowed, if I should say, what dating app? Like, does it matter, do you think? I don't know. I'm on Raya. Whatever. I don't care.
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B
Yeah.
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A
And first of all, I'm like, why do you keep serving me up these men from other countries, by the way, ladies, these men in other countries, what the is happening in the US because they keep giving me guys from France and Canada and, like, England. And I'm like, yes. I'm about double tap. And then I'm like, they're so far. You're so far. I have talked to a few, though, from France, because I'm like, I actually.
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B
Was thinking today, I was like, I want to go some vibey place, sit there with Autumn with her tits out and, like, be the wingman that I'm supposed to be. What am I doing this Friday night? Yes.
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A
But I have. I have met some people on there. I've gone on some first dates. They've. They've been good, but they haven't led to necessarily a second. So that's fine.
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B
Yeah.
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A
So really, I'm approaching it with the, like, just getting to know people. Like, just like, I'm not. I'm not trying to be like, oh, my God, I have to be in a relationship. It's just like, let me just meet nice people, like, have fun. And by the way, if it leads to funny stories for this podcast, then so be it. And I will say this. I won't name names, but there have been some people on the app that like the way it works. You, like, if you see somebody you really like, you could either you could heart them or you could just message them directly. You only get five of those. Otherwise you have to pay for more to send them a direct message to make, because you have to make sure that they see your profile. They might not. Like, there's thousands of people on there. There have been some good ones, but. And that's only been within the last, like, week or so. So I've been able to send direct messages, and I'm like, that's exciting. Fingers crossed.
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B
Come on, I'm here for it. Oh, yeah, that. That's a to be continued.
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A
That is a to be continued. But I actually have thought the one thing you can't do is you're not allowed to screenshot from the app. Because I've been, like, wanting to, like, send you photos of some of these people, and I'm like, damn, I can't screenshot. I gotta grab another phone and take this.
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B
Yeah. Come out to the podcast studio. Use the cameras. Oops. Yeah, I love it.
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A
Yeah. But, yeah. Well, Donald, we've shared your dating stories because we did it on our. Some of our funniest ones.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Like, our dating thing. All right, one more. By the way, dating as a single mom now that Donald or Dom's older. Like, I don't necessarily tell him every time I have a date. Like, I'm not trying to bring a bunch of guys home for him to meet, so when the time comes, he will. But he also knows that mom's dating, and he just always tells me he wants me to be happy, but he also wants. He tracks my phone. Phone. It's so funny.
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B
Oh, that is funny, because I have.
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A
Him on live 360. And so I share mine with him too. And he, like, questioned what's good. Yeah. Except that I came home the other night and he, like, questioned where I was. And he was like, why were you over here? And I was like, you're not the boss, you're the kid. Don't track me. I was like, that's getting turned off tomorrow. Because quite honestly, I don't know how to turn it off. I had to ask. I was gonna. And he's like, no, you can't turn it. It off, because I need to know where you are in case you need me. I got to be able to drive to you, Mom.
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B
Oh, that's oh my God, he's so cute.
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A
He cracks me up. Okay, I feel like this could be a funny question for you. Funniest fail trying to be healthy.
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B
I. Well, I've done some crazy crash diets. That could honestly be like a whole episode.
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A
All right, let's save it for an episode.
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B
Yeah.
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A
Okay. The moment you realize adulting is a scam.
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B
Oh Jesus God.
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A
That's another episode that's daily.
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B
Yeah, the moments.
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A
The second I had to start paying my own bills, right? So I was like 13.
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B
Literally. It really is like this is what I was. Because you were so excited to grow up when you were little. Yeah, because you couldn't wait to like boss of you. Stay as late as you want. Stay up the late as you want cuz you feel like the next day. Cuz you're an adult.
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A
Can't eat whatever you want.
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B
Dying a slow death. You got to hurry up and pay all the bills and taxes.
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A
Can't take with you.
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B
Taxes. Exactly. No matter where I go on this planet, I got to pay taxes.
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A
Like Jesus, don't even get me started. Cuz they just sent me an email the other day and I was like, well, time to sell some meat.
- [59:36]
B
We're at the plasma bank together.
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A
Seriously? I was like, what fluid do you want?
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B
Oh my God. That just made me think. Oh, oh yeah. I know someone who I heard. I don't want to. I feel like I could say their name, but I don't want to. But you know them too, who when they were younger, in college, sold a bunch of sperm.
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A
Oh, I know who you mean.
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B
You know who I'm talking about.
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A
And then one of the kids reached out.
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B
I guess it's been several now. Yes, that's so funny. But I'm like, hell, I don't know if they'll take a 40 year old sperm, but if they will, let's go.
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A
Let's go do it.
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B
Yeah, make some money.
- [60:12]
A
My eggs are old now. I can't even be a. I'll be.
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B
Like, can you imagine us going there? They're like, what can we help you? Like we're here to sell.
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A
Like not here, not here, not today.
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B
Wrong place, sweetie.
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A
What you mean my skin care doesn't make me look 25?
- [60:28]
B
It's castor oil.
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A
I'm having a heart palpitation. We have still some some good questions on here. So I feel like we're gonna have to do a round two.
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B
Me too. And I want to do this again with new questions. I think it's real. I like it's really fun, but there's.
- [60:48]
A
Still some really good ones on here. But yeah, I think we can wrap it up for now. So that's it, you guys. If you want to ask us questions, you can DM us on our Instagram account Everything's Perfect official. You can email us at Everything's perfect podcast gmail.com. hit us with your questions. Questions.
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B
That's right. And keep an eye when we post on our stories, we share some clips of the show and stuff like that. But also that's where we put this question box that everyone entered these questions. So maybe next time we'll answer one of yours.
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A
Yep. Make sure you like subscribe and don't forget to leave a comment. I feel like we need to start putting that at the end since it is like spooky season, Halloween season. We just needed to close out the episodes for like October.
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B
Absolutely. I agree.
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A
Yeah.
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B
All right, see you next week.