Everything’s Perfect…Except Bestie Questions Get Messy

Summary

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Everything’s Perfect…Except Bestie Questions Get Messy

Podcast: Everything’s Perfect
Hosts: Autumn Calabrese & Donald Stamper
Date: January 13, 2026

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Episode Overview

Autumn Calabrese and Donald Stamper, best friends and hosts of "Everything’s Perfect," let listeners in on a candid, hilarious, and occasionally messy session filled with “Bestie Questions” from viral social media lists. The duo explores friendship dynamics, personal growth, embarrassing stories, and the importance of embracing the messiness of life. Through funny anecdotes, honest confessions, and sincere heart-to-hearts, they demonstrate why it’s okay—essential, even—to own your flaws and not take life (or yourself) too seriously.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Reconnecting, New Year Vibes, and Life in Progress

• Autumn and Donald reflect on time apart and the new year’s real meaning, referencing Chinese astrology and the sense that transitions aren’t always tied to the calendar (03:08 - 03:50).
• Both express mixed feelings about Valentine's Day:
  • Autumn dislikes it as a reminder of singlehood.
  • Donald, while in a relationship, finds it just “another fucking thing.”

  "Most of my life, most Valentine's Days haven't meant shit to me. And I've loved that." – Donald (03:57)

2. Friendship Matches & Being Set Up

• Donald jokes about being Autumn’s matchmaker, humorously hinting that his network is mostly “a bunch of gay passing men,” and laughs about the improbability of a successful match-up (04:56).

3. Viral Bestie Questions Game Begins (05:10)

The central part of the episode is a playful round of personal/funny Q&A that stirs up laughter and real talk:

● Where Would You Look for Me If I Disappeared? (06:02)

• Donald would look for Autumn at a Pilates seminar or a hair appointment, but jokes about checking her ex’s house.

  "If I had to find you, I wouldn't rule looking [at your ex’s house] out." – Donald (06:28)

• Autumn would hunt for Donald wherever there’s nachos post-gummy.

  "More than likely you’re somewhere eating nachos, having a good time." – Autumn (08:13)

● What Would I Get Arrested For? (08:31)

• Public indecency is Donald’s “crime,” based on funny, youthful stories.
• Autumn would be “disturbing the peace,” likely after standing up for someone or herself. (13:06)
• Stories of childhood fights, getting accidentally jumped, and standing up to harassment at clubs. They recall being kicked out of clubs after Autumn punched a groper.

  "Don’t put your hands on me. That was problematic." – Autumn (16:37) "If you don’t have a friend to trauma bond with, what are you even doing?" – Donald (18:39)

4. Cartoon Character Alter-Egos When Angry (19:00)

• Autumn is compared to the Hulk and Yosemite Sam (“the fire shooting out of the ears”).

  "Don’t piss her off is all I’m saying." – Donald (19:19)

• Donald, rarely seen angry, is likened to “Daisy Duck—passive aggressive, but she’ll cut you on the sly.” (23:48)

5. Swapping Lives: Struggles and Perks (25:24)

• Autumn would “struggle” with Donald’s deposition (legal) work.
• Donald would “struggle” with Autumn’s dad and “losing all [her] friends” (running joke).

  "You’d probably, though, if we trade back the next day, you also might be like, where did a huge chunk of my money go?" – Donald (27:44)

• Autumn would sing nonstop if she had Donald’s talent. Donald jokes she should rap at karaoke (29:20 - 30:18).

6. Main Character Energy & Owning Your Story (31:59)

• Both agree on the value of embracing “main character energy”—taking ownership of your life and its narrative.

  "For someone to, like, live fully, they need to stop being apologetic for who they are... we are all the main character in our story." – Donald (31:59)

• They discuss not letting others’ opinions dim your spark and feeling comfortable commanding a room.
• References the movie "The Holiday" and the lesson: Stop acting like the best friend in your narrative.

  "You should be the main character of your own life." – Sharia (41:03)

7. Zombie Apocalypse Roles (42:35)

• Donald: Comic relief (and likely to scream first).
• Autumn: The group leader, with a control freak twist.

  "I might scream too, but I’d also tell the people screaming to shut the fuck up." – Autumn (45:04)

8. Five Spicy Bestie Questions (45:29)

Includes:

• What do I need most right now? “Dick.” (45:55)
• What would you miss most if I disappeared for a week? "Everything, obviously... I just have such a good time with you." (47:28 - 47:32)
• Banter about pool guys and zombie themes.

9. Group Challenge Updates & Podcast Community (49:42)

• Autumn and Donald plug their Hustle Hard workouts and the “Strength in Motion” group, a two-month fitness and coaching challenge (49:42 - 50:19).
• The “Phone a Friend” segment is returning:

  “We want to hear the juicier the better... sometimes give the best advice, sometimes give toxic as fuck advice...” – Donald (51:20)

• Listeners are encouraged to send questions or dilemmas for advice—reminder: it’s friendly, not professional, advice!

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Notable Quotes & Moments (With Timestamps)

• "Most of my life, most Valentine's Days haven't meant shit to me. And I've loved that." – Donald (03:57)
• "If I had to find you, I wouldn’t rule looking [at your ex’s house] out." – Donald (06:28)
• “More than likely you’re somewhere eating nachos, having a good time.” – Autumn (08:13)
• "Public indecency." – Autumn, teasing Donald’s hypothetical crime (08:48)
• "If you don’t have a friend to trauma bond with, what are you even doing?" – Donald (18:39)
• "Don’t piss her off is all I’m saying." – Donald, comparing Autumn to the Hulk (19:19)
• "Daisy Duck—she’ll cut you on the sly." – Autumn describing Donald’s anger style (23:48)
• "You have my life where you just lost all your friends!" – Autumn (27:10)
• "For someone to, like, live fully, they need to stop being apologetic for who they are... we are all the main character in our story." – Donald (31:59)
• "You should be the main character of your own life." – Sharia (41:03)
• "I might scream too, but I’d also tell the people screaming to shut the fuck up." – Autumn (45:04)
• "Dick." – Donald, when asked what Autumn needs most right now (45:55)
• “We want to hear the juicier the better... sometimes give the best advice, sometimes give toxic as fuck advice...” – Donald on revisiting ‘Phone a Friend’ (51:20)

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Memorable Stories & Laugh-Out-Loud Exchanges

• Autumn’s club altercation: when a man grabbed her crotch, she turned and punched him, only to be thrown out for fighting despite being the victim (16:35 - 17:30).
• Donald’s brother’s pranks and family hijinks, including running around in a sock as a “calling card” (09:40 - 10:19).
• Childhood discipline stories—hair pulling, TV tables, and "escaping" tough situations (20:06 - 22:28).
• Banter about being leaders/comic relief in a zombie apocalypse, both owning their roles (43:33).
• Running joke about Autumn “losing all her friends,” which they both milk for laughs (27:10, 47:50).

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Timestamps for Major Segments

| Time | Segment | |---------|------------------------------------------------------------| | 01:00 | Opening Banter, catching up | | 03:08 | New year, Valentine’s Day, and relationship hot takes | | 05:10 | Bestie Questions Game Begins | | 06:02 | “Where would you look for me if I disappeared?” | | 08:31 | “What crime would I get arrested for?” | | 13:06 | Arguments, physical fights, and club stories | | 19:00 | “What cartoon do I act like when mad?” | | 25:24 | Swapping lives – what would you struggle with or love? | | 31:59 | Main character moments and embracing your story | | 42:35 | Zombie apocalypse roles | | 45:29 | Five spicy bestie questions | | 49:42 | Updates on Hustle Hard & Strength in Motion Challenge | | 50:30 | Phone a Friend segment returns |

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Tone, Energy, and Takeaways

The episode features Autumn and Donald at their most unfiltered and mutually supportive—half stand-up routine, half real talk among best friends. They alternate between playful roasting, deep affection, and meaningful insight, all while modeling how to show up authentically, laugh at yourself, and weather life’s imperfections together.

Listeners will walk away entertained, refreshed, and reminded that a best friend is truly the greatest sidekick for the messy middle of life.

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Community Call-to-Action

Listeners are encouraged to join the “Strength in Motion” challenge and submit questions or dilemmas for the returning “Phone a Friend” advice segment—ratchet advice included, professional disclaimers attached!

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Transcript

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[Sharia]

Well, I don't like being fully responsible for these things.

[Donald]

Welcome to the new phase of your life.

[Sharia]

Fully responsible.

[Donald]

Fully responsible.

[Sharia]

It's been the phase of my life since I was five. What are you talking about? New face.

[Donald]

And I've never liked it.

[Sharia]

I fucking hate this face.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

Still waiting for it to end.

[Donald]

God, Valentine's Day. You hate Valentine's Day because of your personal relationship life. I hate Valentine's Day because I'm in a relationship and it's just another fucking thing. When I notice, I just realign.

[Sharia]

Hi, how are you? Good to see you.

[Donald]

So good to see you. I mean, it feels like it's been.

[Sharia]

It feels like. Yeah. Like we haven't sat in these chairs in like a month. It hasn't been. It's been two weeks. I don't like it.

[Donald]

Let's not. We actually sat in these chairs two days ago. You had your whole city out. And I said, girl, I think I could. And you were like, it's fine.

[Sharia]

I was confused on which angle of my hit. You thought you were seeing the entire circumference. You never said those words. Guys, I had on a shirt. It looks like a tuxedo shirt.

[Donald]

We should. We should put in. If you're watching on YouTube, we should insert a little, like a picture of it.

[Sharia]

Yeah. Which, by the way, everybody, like, I had done a Instagram story because the front of it is not sheer. The front of it is like. Yeah, tuxedo. And so it's super cute. And then the side and back is all sheer. But I kind of thought that the front went a little more over the sides than it actually did, but I didn't realize it. So Dee kept looking at me when we were recording, and I was like, my boobs are fine. Like, I thought he was looking at the buttons, saying that the buttons. And I'm like, no, I could tell. And I had pasties on, essentially.

[Donald]

Well, it was.

[Sharia]

It was.

[Donald]

It was aggressive. Yeah. It wasn't the cleavage I was worried about. It was.

[Sharia]

It was the side boob.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

All of it. So we had to record. So. Hi.

[Donald]

Hi. Happy to be here either way.

[Sharia]

Yeah, we get to just, you know, whatever. Throw that one out and we'll just start over. So tomorrow. I know we've already done our New Year's episode.

[Donald]

Huh. But it literally, for us, it's is the day before New Year's Eve.

[Sharia]

Yes. We're right there. We're on the cusp.

[Donald]

Almost making it. Although don't count your chickens.

[Sharia]

I know. Don't count your chicken. Do you want to know why? Because we actually have until February 17th, until the snake year is over.

[Donald]

Oh.

[Sharia]

It doesn't end on the 31st. So they're like, no. Now, you're. Remember how you were joking about, like, oh, it's like you got a chemical peel and you're healing. And I'm like, I literally saw somebody do a real about. And they're like, it's like you got a chemical peel and it's all raw. And I was like. And they're like, it's not healed yet. Not till, like, February 17th. And I was like, oh, yeah, of course. It has to be right after Valentine's Day.

[Donald]

Oh, yeah.

[Sharia]

So you gotta get. I gotta get all the way through fucking Valentine's Day.

[Donald]

Mm.

[Sharia]

But whatevs. I'm good. I'm here for it.

[Donald]

God, Valentine's Day. You know you hate Valentine's Day because of your personal relationship life. I hate Valentine's Day because I'm in a relationship, and it's just another fucking thing. The thing is, most of my life, most Valentine's Days haven't meant shit to me. And I've loved that.

[Sharia]

It's just a reminder. Like, when you're a woman, it's just like a reminder if you're single of, like, you're single, I guess. But as I build this new thing that, you know, I'm building, that is going to be a day for all the fun for us single people.

[Donald]

People.

[Sharia]

Not just the Ladies for single people. And who knows, maybe some. Maybe somebody will meet somebody.

[Donald]

Yeah. Oh, she's a matchmaker. Speaking of matchmaker, that's what I want to be for you. Please. Yeah, you guys stay tuned. I've never done it before and don't listen to what I say. I don't know, but I say go for this.

[Sharia]

Well, anyway, let me know what you got.

[Donald]

I will just be a bunch of gay passing men.

[Sharia]

What am I gonna do with that?

[Donald]

I'm like, I don't know. Maybe no.

[Sharia]

Anyway, okay, so wait, I was speaking of the gram. I was scrolling it the other day and I came across this account and it has all these questions that and you could. They. They have different ones like oh, ask your significant other, blah, blah. But they have these ones extra funny questions to ask your real friends. So should we do it?

[Donald]

Let's do it.

[Sharia]

Okay. I actually did message you them so you could look too. If you want to alternate between who reads and goes first.

[Donald]

Okay. I just pulled them up.

[Sharia]

Okay, so question.

[Donald]

Oh, yeah, sorry.

[Sharia]

I was like, I thought somebody was knocking at the door. Also, why is my dog laying at your feet and not mine?

[Donald]

I know he fought buddy.

[Sharia]

He follows me everywhere. But right now he's at Dinosaur. Okay, if I disappeared for 24 hours, where's the first place you'd look for me?

[Donald]

Okay, if you disappeared for 24 hours, it's one of two things. One, you're being a good girl and you're at some kind of pilates thing that you run off to and do seminar, or you're addressing your never ending hair saga of having to seek out.

[Sharia]

The perfect like I had to.

[Donald]

Like, who knows, where's Autumn getting her hair done now? Or you're being a bad girl and how do I say? Oh, no, it's not that you've back slid. You're at your ex's house or something like that, but I'm just saying, girls got needs. If I had to find you, I wouldn't rule looking there out.

[Sharia]

Oh my God, I'm dead. I'm dead. Okay. Wow. He just threw me right under the bus.

[Donald]

Odds are the hair color, honestly. But you found your. You found. You found. You've got a good.

[Sharia]

I have a good streak going right now. Although I was doing my hair this morning. I was like, she needs a some highlights in. We're getting a little solid here.

[Donald]

Start twitching.

[Sharia]

Dom and I do that all the time. If he gets stumbled on a word, he goes. He's like, I glitch.

[Donald]

Yes, it's A glit. It's my mom. I tell my mom because she's always doing something at the house. I'm like, you just need a hobby. Because you just sit around and you see, you'll, like, start fixating on a corner and be like, I need to change it. And I think that's how maybe you. Oh, okay. Might be with your hair. Where would I be if I just.

[Sharia]

Okay.

[Donald]

I was gonna say.

[Sharia]

Don't you dare skip past me.

[Donald]

Where would I be? Where would you look for me?

[Sharia]

If I knew that you had taken a gummy recently. You're somewhere eating nachos.

[Donald]

If you knew if I took a gummy recently, you know I took a gummy recently. If you can make a bet, honey, let me tell you. Take the bet. Life's tough. It's a little bit easier with a gumm.

[Sharia]

More than likely you're somewhere eating nachos, having a good time.

[Donald]

Oh, yeah, that's it.

[Sharia]

Yeah. If you disappeared, you're on. Yeah, that's what it is. You're having fun somewhere.

[Donald]

That's the truth.

[Sharia]

Lost a little track of time.

[Donald]

Which, honestly, there's worse. There's worse things to happen. Okay, I'll start. If I got arrested, what crime would you assume I committed? What, a sinister laugh?

[Sharia]

Public indecency.

[Donald]

Fair. Yeah.

[Sharia]

Or I was gonna say it might have been something with, like, taking some weed at a weed shop or something. But you're not really a thief, so.

[Donald]

No, Yeah, I would not.

[Sharia]

Right. I said you're not really a thief. You're not a thief, so it wouldn't be that.

[Donald]

Huh?

[Sharia]

It's entirely possible it could be the public indecency publican.

[Donald]

Decency. Could. Could be Especially. Especially younger Donald back in the. You know, I used to show out. I used to just. Really? My friend and I.

[Sharia]

Were you just swinging it?

[Donald]

No, but we would. Well, we. It wasn't like that, but we would just cause scenes.

[Sharia]

Yes.

[Donald]

A little bit more modest. My. But, you know, public indecency. My brother and his friend, when they were young, they would prank people.

[Sharia]

Who. This is Kenny. Kenny.

[Donald]

Which is my middle brother. Yes, brothers. But we're all in our. Almost said we're all in our 30s, bitch. I'm 40. I like to think we're all in our 30s now. But Kenny and his friend took, like, these homoerotic pictures and superhero underwear, and they go prank people and leave a little Polaroid of them.

[Sharia]

My.

[Donald]

Go as a calling card. Yeah, he's totally straight. He's just crazy. He. Or like, on my 17th birthday, because I was actually a really good kid.

[Sharia]

Kenny's a menace.

[Donald]

Oh, he is. On my 17th birthday. Because the thing is, at the time, I don't know if this is still how the law is, but you could see rated R movies when you turned 17. So they check.

[Sharia]

And these 12 year olds look like they're 25.

[Donald]

I know, I'm like, but. So I had all these people over and I was homeschooled and went to church. I had all these church friends over and we watched Silence of the lambs. Was 17. We could watch an R rated movie. Well, the point where he's like dancing and he tucks his wiener and he's like doing his thing. My brother runs down this stairs into the living room where me and all my friends are, and it's mixed like guys and girls. And he has nothing but a sock on his dick and sunglasses on and he starts shaking it. I was like, oh, my God, mom, get Kenny. But he's always been like that.

[Sharia]

And he's younger than you, right?

[Donald]

He's like two years younger than me.

[Sharia]

So he's 15 years old.

[Donald]

Yeah. Shaking his wiener. And when he was young, and I was like, very modest when I started going through puberty and stuff in my family, just so you know, your workout.

[Sharia]

Shorts suggest otherwise these days.

[Donald]

Well, I don't know what those shorts are doing, but they're like, my shorts are shrinking. But he yelled for my mom one day, mom, Mom, I have a tumor. Oh, my gosh. My mom was like, what? And she ran. And he was like, look. And he had pinched one of his testicles between his underwear band against his leg and was like showing her. And she thought it was like, oh, my God. He was like, it's my ball.

[Sharia]

Oh, my God.

[Donald]

He's always been like that. I'm way more modest, actually. Okay, if.

[Sharia]

If Kenny needs to be our first.

[Donald]

Guest on the podcast to be the first for real, he's got stories. If you got arrested.

[Sharia]

Yeah, if I got arrested, what'd I do?

[Donald]

You definitely disturbed the peace someplace. There's no question that police were called and you were disturbing some peace.

[Sharia]

Was I. Was I disturbing it because I threw you a birthday party, or was I disturbing it because somebody pissed me off?

[Donald]

Well.

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[Donald]

Since you said that I want. Yeah, both. And it's all of the above. Option C. That was. That was exciting. When the cops came from my birthday party and also like the people came to because everyone had to move their cars. I was like, we're causing a real scene in this neighborhood.

[Sharia]

Real 40th.

[Donald]

But no, somebody pissed you off and you're letting them have it. Your Italian roots are coming out.

[Sharia]

You know, I will say in 45 years, for as many times as people have pissed me off.

[Donald]

You haven't been arrested.

[Sharia]

I have not been arrested. I haven't done anything crazy. Not a crazy streak. The ideas run through my brain. Don't let me not lie to you.

[Donald]

Have you ever been in a physical fight?

[Sharia]

One time as a little kid, but because somebody was messing with my little cousin and I wasn't having it.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

Because my cousin was like three years younger than me and this little girl across the street who was way bigger than her was picking on her and I was like, not today. Yeah.

[Donald]

I've never been in one.

[Sharia]

No. Other than that. No, that was it.

[Donald]

I got jumped one time. Oh, yeah. As an adult, like right before I moved to la, in Nashville, somebody just.

[Sharia]

Well, jumped like out. Like. Like, did they rob you or they just jumped you to jump?

[Donald]

We were out and some people I knew were with this guy. Okay. And I didn't know these people very well, but I was out with other friends. And then people that I had known, I actually met them at a church, were there. And so I was like, hey, oh my gosh, blah, blah, blah. And they had a friend who I met, but he was like, kind of rude to me and I was like, okay, whatever. I just sort of let it roll off my back. At the end of the night, we're leaving. And he said some stuff and then he, like pushed me and I was like, don't push me. And I pushed him back. And I turned around, and from behind. He ran up so I didn't see it coming. And grabbed my jacket from behind and threw me into the street and started kicking me and my. Yeah. So he didn't take any. And his friends pulled him off and were like, oh, my God, we're so sorry. And I was like, I don't like none of y' all anymore.

[Sharia]

What a psycho.

[Donald]

Yeah. And literally, I was like, you're. I was. I was so. You know, when stuff like that happens, you're. It takes a while for your brain to even.

[Sharia]

Yeah.

[Donald]

Catch up with. Process what's happening on. So. So mad. Because I was like, come up from behind.

[Sharia]

I kicked your ass right back in it. Guys, actually at a club. Remember? Do you remember that club we were at? It's in Agora. Remember that one night we were out, me and Kaylee, and we were walking, like, kind of heading. I was so crowded, and people kept pushing into me. Like, well into really all of us. And as we were walking to leave, that guy grabbed my crotch. Do you remember that? And I turned around and just swung on him.

[Donald]

That. I don't remember that.

[Sharia]

Don't. I'll swing on a dude real quick. Do not put your hands on me.

[Donald]

That was problematic.

[Sharia]

That club was problematic.

[Donald]

The same night, these girls kept like, we're pushing. And they were pushing so hard, and they were bigger than you guys.

[Sharia]

And so it doesn't take much. We're pretty small.

[Donald]

So I, like, didn't touch them with the back of my hand and arm. I sort of just put it up to create a barrier so they wouldn't knock you and Kaylee over. Well, then all of a sudden, security, like, pulls me out. Remember? Remember? Oh, you're putting your hands on girls. I was like. First it was like, I can't believe this is happening right now. Like, me, I'm the guy. You're worried I'm a predator in here. Yeah. Meanwhile. Yeah.

[Sharia]

Well, well. And we. And. And remember, we got kicked out for me swinging on him.

[Donald]

Oh, I didn't realize that.

[Sharia]

Yeah. There was a bouncer there. I swung at the guy. Hit. I did hit him. Not, like, in the face, but like I said, I think I punched him in the chest. I was like, don't touch me ever again. And the bouncer was like, you're out. I was like, he just grabbed me.

[Donald]

Okay. I know that this is sort of a turn, but I can't imagine being a straight guy and thinking, I know what I'm gonna do.

[Sharia]

I'm gonna kick the girl out.

[Donald]

No. Oh.

[Sharia]

I'm gonna grab a girl's crotch.

[Donald]

Girl's crotch?

[Sharia]

Like, who?

[Donald]

A stranger?

[Sharia]

By the way, he's lucky that bouncer was right there.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

I don't care how small I am. I am scrappy. He's like, I didn't put a heel in his testicle.

[Donald]

Yeah, you are scrappy. That's exactly what I'm saying. But you're right.

[Sharia]

But again, you're in the right. But you put your hands. You grab my crotch like I was in a skirt.

[Donald]

It's crazy.

[Sharia]

I literally couldn't believe it happened. I had never had anything like that happen before. Yeah, it's so funny. I, like, didn't even remember that until just now.

[Donald]

I love going down trauma lane.

[Sharia]

Why are we friends? Because we trauma bond regularly.

[Donald]

Yeah, exactly. That's great. If you don't have a friend to trauma bond with, what are you even doing? You can't get together and laugh about all the things that fucked you up.

[Sharia]

Yeah.

[Donald]

What. Have you had a good life?

[Sharia]

So you weren't around for 20, 25? Are we recording?

[Donald]

I was like, can you imagine? Okay.

[Sharia]

Okay. Did you read last or did I. I read last. I think so. Donald's gonna have a good one for this, I'm sure. When I'm mad, what cartoon character do I act? Mostly speaking of person.

[Donald]

The. There's this cartoon. Okay. The Hulk. Don't piss her off is all I'm saying.

[Sharia]

Don't grab me by the grass.

[Donald]

There's a. I feel like there's an old cartoon vision also in my head where the car. They get really mad. Maybe it's the Yosemite.

[Sharia]

The fire.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

Perfect.

[Donald]

But they also have very calm, good sides.

[Sharia]

Okay.

[Donald]

I'm just kidding.

[Sharia]

I would just like to state, for.

[Donald]

The record, I love your fieriness.

[Sharia]

I'm Italian. I also. Y' all don't know my dad. It's amazing that I'm as calm as I am.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

Times. But I do get triggered because.

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[Sharia]

Might have had the meat out of me quite a few times as a kid.

[Donald]

Yeah. I don't know what to tell you.

[Sharia]

I don't know what to tell you. I might have been cussed out. Up and down.

[Donald]

No.

[Sharia]

I had hair brushes thrown at me. I got backhanded with braces. My hair pulled regularly. I don't just mean pulled, y'.

[Donald]

All.

[Sharia]

I mean yanks. Snatched up by the hair.

[Donald]

My dad pulled my hair so hard one time that it was like. It knocked on my head. It was like I was like, oh, my God, you're, like hitting me and pulling my hair at the same time. I was like, I need a haircut stat. I'm getting a buzz tomorrow. This is never happening again. But I. I tell people.

[Sharia]

Bobby and I were fighting. No, we weren't fighting. Bobby and I were playing, by the way. We were like teenagers. Like, I was probably like 13, so Bobby was like 14 and a half, maybe 15. We were messing around and my dad was always crabby. He worked. Listen, he worked a ton. And he was raising three kids completely on his own, financially responsible for us. So I'm not making excuses, but yeah, anyways, Bobby and I were messing around. He probably told us to stop several times. We didn't. And my dad is a lunatic.

[Donald]

Respectfully.

[Sharia]

He comes around the corner with a TV table, okay? I swear to God, he's chasing us with a full size wooden TV table. And I feel like I took a gummy. I don't even know why, but I didn't. I'm laughing so hard. My makeup is gonna be such a mess. And we're running and I'm in front of Bobby. But I will say Bobby took the brunt of it, so. Always took the brunt of it. So I'm in front of him. Bobby catches me because there's, like, steps to run up and grabs me and pulls me down so he can get in front of me.

[Donald]

Smart.

[Sharia]

And he does. He gets in front of him. He locks himself in the bedroom, and guess who got her hair pulled and backhanded. Yeah, he felt bad for that, though. Bobby was. I can laugh about it now.

[Donald]

It's like they say, you don't have to be the fastest. You just have to be. Don't be the slowest.

[Sharia]

I was the fastest until he yanked me down the stairs.

[Donald]

No, I'm with you. I. Oh. People will be like, you yelled at me. And I'll be like, oh. Oh, honey. You think that was yelling? Where are you from? Like, what, Planetary? That wasn't yelling. Honestly, that was my soft voice when.

[Sharia]

They'Re like, don't raise your voice. I'm like, I'm excited.

[Donald]

I know.

[Sharia]

Do you just talk calmly all the time?

[Donald]

No, this is what I say. And I actually have a belief about this, but I'm neither qualified.

[Sharia]

He doesn't know anything and don't trust him.

[Donald]

Yeah, I don't know anything. Don't trust me. But I say, like, someone would be like, why are you yelling? And I'll be like, oh, so you can cry and have an emotional Response. But I can't raise my voice. I'm. Because my theory is I'm not calling names.

[Sharia]

Yeah.

[Donald]

I'm not being verbally abusive. I'm not being physically abusive. I just gotta get a little loud sometimes.

[Sharia]

It's gotta get out one way or another.

[Donald]

Yeah. I'm just seeing my vocal cords. There's worse things. That's all I'm saying. Seriously, what cartoon am I.

[Sharia]

If you were a cartoon. Okay. Because I've never really seen you yell, believe it or not, in all these years. So I've seen your, like, sarcastic side.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

So I say you're like, daisy Duck. Because she's, like, passive aggressive.

[Donald]

Oh, my God.

[Sharia]

She'll cut you, like, but she'll cut you, like, on the sly.

[Donald]

I love that. And I love that because I've always been compared to Donald Duck because of my name. And I'm like. We just aren't.

[Sharia]

No, it's.

[Donald]

The name is the only thing we have in common. But Daisy.

[Sharia]

Daisy, actually.

[Donald]

Yeah, That's. I'll take it. I'm gonna. You. I'm gonna get a Daisy Duck T shirt.

[Sharia]

I love it. You know who I would have thought you would have said? Because I've sort of compared myself to this cartoon character for years. Tinkerbell. Because Tinkerbell's.

[Donald]

She is.

[Sharia]

Don't catch her when she's. She got. She got an attitude. Sure.

[Donald]

To. She tried to kill Wendy and Peter Pan.

[Sharia]

Don't get in the way of her man.

[Donald]

Right. She's wild.

[Sharia]

Also, she's loyal as.

[Donald]

Also read the room fairy. Look how everyone else is dressing. This is why you wore your tits out the other day.

[Sharia]

You gotta wrap your style.

[Donald]

It was like the 40s, and she was. Had her ass cheeks out strapped with little.

[Sharia]

You work hard for your money.

[Donald]

That's right. That's so funny.

[Sharia]

Okay.

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[Sharia]

Oh, okay.

[Donald]

Okay.

[Sharia]

Do you need a dance break?

[Donald]

I must. What is this? Ellen?

[Sharia]

Okay, you're up. Read first.

[Donald]

Let's see.

[Sharia]

Oh, my God, my makeup.

[Donald]

If we swapped lives for a day, what's the very first thing you'd struggle with?

[Sharia]

Well, I don't have to give up the D, so that's fine.

[Donald]

That's right.

[Sharia]

I don't have to worry about that. Because if it was.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

Being with another woman, I'd be like. I'm gonna. I'm gonna struggle with that for a second.

[Donald]

I got you, boo. No. No worries.

[Sharia]

So thank you for that. Well, right now, your deposition work would really irritate the shit out of me.

[Donald]

Girl, that's ain't that the truth?

[Sharia]

But other than that, I think you live a pretty fabulous life.

[Donald]

I actually do.

[Sharia]

I don't think there'd be a whole lot stop.

[Donald]

Like, I don't. Didn't stop taking depositions, but I used to take them every day, and now, like, I take maybe one a week.

[Sharia]

Oh, wow.

[Donald]

So. Well, because I'm working so much more with clients.

[Sharia]

I'm so proud of you. You didn't even tell me that.

[Donald]

Because it's something I'm like, it's. It's fluid, like, as I get more clients. But, yeah, it's like, it. You know, it serves a good purpose, but it is exhausting to hear these cases and. Oh, my God. So I feel like I'm coming out of it. And then I got summoned for jury duty, and I'm like, jesus Christ, that's just rude.

[Sharia]

I was like.

[Donald]

I thought I was moving on from this. So anyway, I'm thinking of how I'm gonna get out of that.

[Sharia]

Just. Just be.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

All the things.

[Donald]

All the things that I'm not.

[Sharia]

Yes.

[Donald]

So. So if I woke up, if I. Yeah.

[Sharia]

If we swap your life, what are you gonna struggle with?

[Donald]

Yeah, struggle.

[Sharia]

I could say something really funny.

[Donald]

What?

[Sharia]

You have my life where you just lost all your friends. Oh, my God.

[Donald]

Autumn. I don't know. At least you're laughing. Jesus. Yeah, there. There it is. Because I was sitting here, like, what's the struggle? I mean, I know you have struggles, but, like. Like, me, I'm like, you know, there's way worse lives to have.

[Sharia]

Oh, well, you have my dad.

[Donald]

Well, yeah. Yeah, I would. Yeah, that would be the struggle. You'd probably. Though, if we trade back the next day, you also might be like, where did a huge chunk of my money go? Like, what the hell just happened?

[Sharia]

No, it's. What would you struggle with? Not what would be.

[Donald]

Well, here I struggle with saying, no.

[Sharia]

Let'S go the exact opposite way. If. If we switch lives, what's the first thing you would want to do in my life?

[Donald]

Like, I would throw, like, a. Well, thing is, I think I would throw. Throw a. Well, the thing is, you could do this, but I just feel like I'm more of a partier maybe. I think I'd throw a huge party at your house.

[Sharia]

You have to have friends.

[Donald]

Oh, yeah. Forgot there at their end was the struggle.

[Sharia]

Full circle.

[Donald]

Oh, my God. Man, I thought depositions were bad.

[Sharia]

I literally need a tissue.

[Donald]

Wait.

[Sharia]

I want to say what I would do first. If I switched into your life, I would sing until I Couldn't sing no more. I put on a concert from my.

[Donald]

Balcony so quick that honestly, sometimes I do just spend hours singing because, sorry.

[Sharia]

If you're me, you're tone deaf with no vocals. You sound like a killer, like a dying cattle. You're like, oh, no, what's happening?

[Donald]

I guess I better go write a workout. Exactly.

[Sharia]

There's a real struggle.

[Donald]

My vocal cords ain't gonna get me someplace.

[Sharia]

They'll get you there. You just talk while you exercise. We'll get you there.

[Donald]

That's right. That's. That's right.

[Sharia]

And you could rap. You just can't sing.

[Donald]

Oh, you can rest. You can rap.

[Sharia]

She can rap a little bit.

[Donald]

You gotta learn. You have to. We need to go to karaoke and you have to do a wrap. We can do one where regulators mount up.

[Sharia]

What do you want me to do?

[Donald]

I'm ready, you guys. She's like, let's do it now.

[Sharia]

I'm like, I'm ready. Press play. Pull up the track.

[Donald]

Okay.

[Sharia]

What? Besides what I just did there with regulators is the most main character moment you ever witnessed of me.

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[Sharia]

I'm Sharia and I lost 80 pounds on weight watch.

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[Donald]

So the thing is, you are such a main character person, and I think that's really good. I think that's why you're successful in a lot of ways, because for someone to, like, live fully, they need to stop being apologetic for who they are. And, like, we are all the main character in our story. And I've had people get triggered by that with me. Like, because. Because someone thinks when you're. When you are the center of your life and we all are the center of our own life, that doesn't mean we need. The problem is when you think we're the center of someone else's life.

[Sharia]

Right.

[Donald]

But when you understand that your life really is about your perspective, your experience, the good that you put into it, you know, the lessons you learn in it, it's all there. Then you're the main character. And there's some. So I'm gonna get to answer the question, but just land the foundation. There's some people who feel very like, oh, you know, you're. They get triggered by that because they have a hard time seeing themselves as the main character.

[Sharia]

I think when you're very confident in who you are and you're living authentically, you are absolutely a main character energy. And it also ends up a lot of times, because so many people aren't living like that, that you end up the center of attention when you're in a room. Like, and I'm talking about people in general, not just you, but also you. And so I do think a lot of times people have a hard time in, like, oh, well, you need to be the center of attention. And it's like, no, I'm taking over your Freaky Friday. But I think sometimes that's what happens when people are very, like, comfortable with themselves. Their energy takes the spotlight, and then people feel like it's conceited. But anyways, go ahead.

[Donald]

I was in. To your point, I was in a drama class when I was, like, 18 or something. It was at church. And this. It was youth group. So I might have been, like, 17. I was a teenager, but, like, an older teenager. And my friend and I always had so much fun in that class. And we. We were just living our best lives. And we. And as far in my world, everyone's doing that. Yeah, we're all just living our best life. And this girl did this. Like, she, like, walked around so funny to Think about now. And she put a piece of tape everybody's leg and. But she didn't. On me or my other friend.

[Sharia]

Okay.

[Donald]

And then at the end, she was like, I just have to tell you something. She was like, I went up to everyone in that class and I put a piece of tape on their leg. And I told them, I just. I just want you to know you're special. And I didn't put one on you or my friend's leg because you clearly already know you're special. And I was like, is that a.

[Sharia]

Compliment or an insult?

[Donald]

So what the. Does tape have to do with anything? Like, but it. It was. It was as if I was doing something wrong. Right.

[Sharia]

To her, like, to. Yeah.

[Donald]

And so did she need you to.

[Sharia]

Put a piece of tape on her?

[Donald]

Put it over her mouth, girl. Bring the roll of tape. Exactly. I'm gonna tape you up good.

[Sharia]

Yeah, you're special.

[Donald]

Yeah, you're very special. I don't know where this idea came from, but I'm good. You can keep me out of that exercise anytime. But I just feel like your main character moments that I've seen the most is I really think that you do such a good job on stage, and a lot of people might be like, well, yeah, when you're on stage, you're the main character, but you, you. Like, I've seen. I know a lot of people personally, and then I've seen them on platforms in front of crowds, and they don't really as naturally just step into the position. And the way you talk about things and inspire people. And I do it. And you do it in videos in every place. But I love seeing it on stage live.

[Sharia]

Oh, thank you.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

So your main character moment. Best ever. God. Same. It is hard because, like, you live your life as a main character. Yeah, for sure. And I feel like I've missed some of it. Like, some of the moments you've talked about in terms of, like, you're performing. Like, I wasn't. I didn't know you then. So I feel like those were probably huge main character moments. But I think 80 day, like, your performance in not even a performance, because it wasn't a performance. It was just you being you in 80 day was very main character. Like, you stepped in as yourself. And even in the hardest moments, like throwing up in your mouth, I mean, just kept going, talk about my character.

[Donald]

Right.

[Sharia]

I won't steal the show. So I would say, like, that stands out. And then obviously, we went on to do so much more, but that was, like, the first Time I saw it, and I think when we got to dance together, when we got to compete, like, that was a. Just you leading and being fully in it. Super fun. But again, every day for you is like, I know. Kind of want to start again.

[Donald]

We should.

[Sharia]

Can we?

[Donald]

Yeah, I'd like to, because I'm not dancing as much as I was, and I miss it. Like, I mean, I love the new things I'm doing and. Because working more, like, scheduling clients.

[Sharia]

Yeah.

[Donald]

You know, coaching clients and stuff. But I miss dancing as much as I was, so that would be fun for us.

[Sharia]

I'm just being traumatized that I can't figure out Latin dance to save my life.

[Donald]

Yeah. I miss being on the competition floor and accidentally leading you in someone else's choreography. You said, what are we doing? I was like, oh, my bad. Wrong routine.

[Sharia]

Keep following cha cha cha kickball change.

[Donald]

Man. But, yeah, character energy. That is something that I think. Think, like, it's not a question. Like, I think that everyone and just in general, since we're having that conversation, should think about how can I step more into my main character energy. Yeah. Because you are the main character of your life, and it doesn't matter if you're an introvert or an extrovert or if you're someone who's really comfortable. You know, like, maybe you're throwing a dinner party and you suck at cooking. Well, your main character energy is that it doesn't need to be. I think sometimes you. We think we can't be the main character because it looks different. Differently than other people's role.

[Sharia]

Right.

[Donald]

But when you're fully or unapologetically your best self. Right. That's your main character energy.

[Sharia]

And I also think even acknowledging, like, okay, if you're throwing a dinner party and you're not the best cook, fine. But, like, what. What are you good at that's gonna make that dinner party fun? Is it just. Are you the one that just gets the group together?

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

Great. Order food. Who cares? Or make it a potluck. Whatever. Or pick the fun game that everybody's gonna play? Or is it decorated really cool, like, so that people are gonna be like, oh, my God, it looks beautiful. Like, yeah, it. It doesn't have to be that you're the best at everything.

[Donald]

Well, I think your point about me with 80 day obsession leaning into not being the best is what. My main character energy was there, and it wasn't a tactic.

[Sharia]

No, I understand.

[Donald]

Oh, this is gonna be. But just, like, fully, like, like, not laughing about in a. Making Fun of way, but just not taking life too seriously. Doing your best and having a good time. What you, your main character, even if it's not great, it can be funny that you're. You throw something together, basic and you laugh about it and you do it fully with the best of intention. And all of a sudden people talk about it.

[Sharia]

Yes.

[Donald]

You know, like in a positive way.

[Sharia]

Because I actually think sometimes that's more inspiring too. And like. Or yeah, inspiring or like it's not perfect, but they did it and it was all still fun and everybody had a good time. So then it gives other people sort of permission to not be perfect and do it anyways.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

It reminds me of the movie, though, the Holiday with Kate Winslet and she, you know, she likes the guy that she works with, but he kind of toys with her emotions and then, you know, ends up proposing to some other girl and then she goes to California and her and Cameron Diaz switch places and she meets the older guy from the movies who like writes movies and stuff and they're out to dinner and he's like, you know, he basically tells her, you're acting like the best friend and you're the main character. And she was like, in all my years of therapy, nobody's ever put it so basically, like harsh.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

But poignant too. Of like, you need to be the own character. And she's like, you should be the main character of your own life. And then she kind of starts to rise to that main character energy.

[Donald]

Good. I haven't seen that movie in so long. But that is, is such a true statement. Like you're acting like a supporting role.

[Sharia]

Yes.

[Donald]

And so what do you expect your life to feel like if you're gonna.

[Sharia]

Act like the girl who just doesn't get the person, doesn't get the job, doesn't get the guy, doesn't get what she wants. You should step into the main character because you are the main character of your life.

[Donald]

That's so hard for me. When I'm. When I'm working with people, it's a little bit better. Like if I'm working with a client and we're working on like mental and emotional well being and I. And they say something like, well, I'm just the kind of person who doesn't or can't, it's less frustrating because they have taken the step of like working with a coach and wanting to change. But when I'm talking with a friend who's just constantly is like spewing their limiting beliefs about themselves, I gotta be like, will you just shut the up? Because I. You have you. And. And that's not me being rude. That's me trying to help you.

[Sharia]

Right.

[Donald]

Because if that's the you're gonna say all the time, it's not serving you.

[Sharia]

I'm waiting for you.

[Donald]

That's the reason, people, when you, when you pay for coaching sessions, I don't cuss at you. I don't say we shut the up. That's crazy. I say, all right, let's look at that deeper. But when you're my friend, you just call me with some. I might give you a shut the up.

[Sharia]

He might be. I'm done with this conversation.

[Donald]

Because it's crazy. Because you have to see the greatness in yourself. Yeah. You know?

[Sharia]

Yeah. And sometimes it's good to have a friend. I love you. If I'm a little shook tomorrow, y' all know why. Okay, you're up.

[Donald]

Let's see. Okay. If we were in a zombie apocalypse, would I be the group leader, the comic relief or the one who screams? Or the one who screams first?

[Sharia]

Yes. And you're for sure the comic relief. Absolutely.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

You're probably also going to scream for.

[Donald]

Absolutely.

[Sharia]

But you very well, you could be for sure. Could be a leader too. But you're definitely bringing the comic relief. Well, I'm about to get my face eat off.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

Literally just spent forty dollars on this. What'd you have on this morning? Forty dollar face magnet.

[Donald]

This is. My face is gonna be great collagen for the zombies.

[Sharia]

Yeah, great. Now they've got better ligaments.

[Donald]

The good thing is for me about being like, I am a leader, but I also am really good support. Like, I'm really good at seeing where leadership needs. Not about, like, I don't need to be the leader.

[Sharia]

No, I understand exactly. You know what I mean? Like, and I think that that is the most leader of all is knowing where, like, I absolutely can lead. Whatever. But also I can see where there needs to be this added support. Support added spot filled and rise to that.

[Donald]

That. Right. Because there's. This is already being handled. I don't need that. That doesn't need to be done. I'm really. It's sort of like when I. I've started singing at church a little bit and they were. They said, how often do you want to sing? And I said, I want to help. I don't need. If there's a lot of people who really want to sing, then use them.

[Sharia]

Yeah.

[Donald]

But if you have a need, if there's space where I Can help if you. You then that I want you to. To know that I'm available and so that's how I feel. Okay. You would definitely be the leader.

[Sharia]

Control freak.

[Donald]

Well, I think it's like a lack of faith in people. Humanity, Right?

[Sharia]

Yes.

[Donald]

Like all these fuckers are going to get us killed. Everybody do what I say.

[Sharia]

I mean, sometimes you just don't trust anybody.

[Donald]

Yeah, no, you would definitely be the leader.

[Sharia]

I might scream too.

[Donald]

You would scream, but you also would tell the people screaming to shut the up because you were making them shut up and listen. We have to do this.

[Sharia]

Quit drawing attention to us dumbasses.

[Donald]

Exactly. Exactly. Yeah, you're a leader, that's for sure.

[Sharia]

Thank you. See, we're a good team.

[Donald]

We are.

[Sharia]

Somebody's got to bring the comic relief.

[Donald]

Someone has to scream.

[Sharia]

Somebody's gotta scream for help. Okay, well, we've come to the end of those questions. This is they. So they have. It's called Flamingo App reels is what we're on, by the way, reading those. But this one says five spicy questions, you have to ask them. Oh, that's not spicy. It says if. If someone asked what I need the most right now, what would you tell them?

[Donald]

Dick.

[Sharia]

I was gonna say an orgasm. Actually, no, it's dick. Because I can handle the orgasm part of my.

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[Sharia]

Well, now it's not suitable for work.

[Donald]

Sorry. That escalated quickly.

[Sharia]

Well, do your job, best friend. This one is. If I disappeared for a week, what would you miss most?

[Donald]

Oh, my gosh, so much. I would just miss. Okay, what would I miss the most?

[Sharia]

See, these are more for, like, signals. Oh, it's the pool guy. Wait, what's today?

[Donald]

Tuesday. There's a pool guy out there.

[Sharia]

I know, but he normally comes on Fridays.

[Donald]

I was so afraid you guys know, like, in the movies. I was. You guys know in the movies, like, when someone's talking and then all of a sudden their eyes just move right past you and look behind you and there's like, someone with a knife right behind you about to murder you. That's what just happened. All of a sudden, it's Tuesday.

[Sharia]

Nobody's supposed to be in the backyard. I'm like, no, landscapers come. Cool guy comes on Friday. What is happening? Why?

[Donald]

I wonder why he's here on a Tuesday.

[Sharia]

New Year's Day is Friday.

[Donald]

Thursday.

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[Donald]

Well, maybe the actual pool guy. This could be a home alone situation.

[Sharia]

He's cleaning the pool, he's cleaning the swamp.

[Donald]

So I'm. Okay, that guy's gonna come in your backyard and Let him clean some up.

[Sharia]

Might as well do it. This has been a roller coaster. We were talking about what you would miss about me. Everything, obviously.

[Donald]

This. I would just. I would. I just have such a good time with you. I know I would miss you.

[Sharia]

I seriously, I don't know why I just laughed so hard today. And also, it was a mixture of, I think laughing and crying, which only happens usually if I take a gummy girl. When I take.

[Donald]

When you. When you said the biggest challenge when I was. You would be losing all of your friends. Oh, my God. This is what trauma bonding looks like. You guys.

[Sharia]

I'll hit you with the hard truth. What do you want me to tell you? Like, oh, one day you got him. One day you don't.

[Donald]

It's been fun. It's been really good.

[Sharia]

Okay, we have to film workouts now.

[Donald]

Now that we've laughed, we have to go cry and work our asses off.

[Sharia]

Off. Yes. Because we are filming phase two of Hustle Hard. I think when this one goes up, they'll still be able to join the group, right?

[Donald]

Well, they could join. Let me. Hold on.

[Sharia]

Pause, pause.

[Donald]

Let me look at the. Oh, my God.

[Sharia]

Seriously? Why am I like. My tear ducts are overflowing today.

[Donald]

When you're listening to this, we will be just about a full week in.

[Sharia]

Okay. So they'll still be able to join for a few more days because this will.

[Donald]

The. This. This episode will. I mean, as long as you're listening. Right. When they come out. This episode comes out on January 13th. Our challenge officially starts on January 5th, but we are going to keep it open. So you're welcome for. For a couple weeks after the end of the challenge.

[Sharia]

Yeah.

[Donald]

So you're welcome to join if you're.

[Sharia]

In motion is what it is called. We'll put a link up in the show notes. It is a two month challenge. There's a hybrid calendar in there that you could be following for the two months. But. But ending the year December. We. I wrote the Hustle Hard workouts d and I filmed those. It was a month long workout program, strength training, and people wanted more, so I wrote a phase two for it. So that's what we're about to go film right now to make sure that they're up and ready to go. We filmed three of them already, so we're a little sore.

[Donald]

Yeah.

[Sharia]

But it's super fun. So the Hustle Hard workouts are in the strength in motion group as bonus material. I just want to say that.

[Donald]

Yes.

[Sharia]

You're not buying those workouts you're right.

[Donald]

When you make the. If you decide to join our challenge, which we'd love to have you, you'll have our support in there. You'll have a hybrid calendar for, for other workouts if you like. Or you can do the Hustle hard phase one and two. And you're just purchasing the two month.

[Sharia]

Challenge coaching from us and everything like that. But we've got some fun stuff. We're going to try to do some live zooms, cooking, questions, workout, all the things. It's going to be really fun. Way to start 2026.

[Donald]

That's right.

[Sharia]

In motion. I love that we went with strength in motion because 2026 is like momentum and motion and the horse and let's go. Yeah, I'm ready for it all. So I'm very excited for that.

[Donald]

Me too.

[Sharia]

Also, one last thing. Very important, you guys. We are bringing back a segment that we started the podcast with last year when we first started doing it. And we kind of fell off with it a little bit because we're great at follow through.

[Donald]

Well, we've been through some things with this podcast.

[Sharia]

Best things.

[Donald]

But ghosts.

[Sharia]

Yeah, I mean, no audio six times. So it was called Phone a friend, which basically Email a friend is what we should call it. Yeah, email us at everythingsperfectpodcast gmail.com we are your besties. We're here to help out. We like. So if you've got something going on and you want some advice or some feedback and you want us to weigh in, we want to do that. So you can, like I said, email us. You can also DM us at everything's perfect official on Instagram.

[Donald]

That's right. And we want to hear the juicier the better. And remember, this is like if you need to call a couple of your friends who sometimes give the best advice, sometimes give toxic as but advice. It is that type of friendly advice.

[Sharia]

Not therapists.

[Donald]

Exactly. We're not your. We're not. You're. This isn't the forum for your wellness coaching advice. This is where we're going to give you that ratchet girl, hold my shit.

[Sharia]

I'm gonna give you both. But just know, like, we can't be held accountable. Like if you follow through on the advice, like if you're asking about divorce and such, right.

[Donald]

And we tell you to bust the windows out the car, we are not at fault if you bust the windows out the car. But we definitely want to hear that from you and start that segment back up. And yeah, with that we will see.

[Sharia]

You guys next week, and we will have our first segment of Phone a Friend back again.

[Donald]

We'll see you guys.

[Sharia]

I'm excited.

[Donald]

Me too. It's gonna be so good.