Everything’s Perfect…Except You Have to Trust the Timing

Summary

Podcast Summary: Everything’s Perfect…Except You Have to Trust the Timing

Podcast: Everything’s Perfect
Hosts: Autumn Calabrese & Donald Stamper
Date: March 24, 2026

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Episode Overview

This episode delves into the power of trust, timing, and manifestation in shaping one’s path. Autumn and Donald share candid stories about career pivots, personal setbacks, and unexpected wins—emphasizing that “everything’s perfect…kind of,” because perfection isn’t the point: showing up, embracing change, and trusting the process is. The discussion centers on how our thoughts, intentions, actions, and the willingness to course-correct all play key roles in creating a fulfilling and purpose-driven life.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Everyday Manifestation: More Common Than You Think

• Opening Conversation: Light-hearted stories about pillow problems and neck pain set a relatable, humorous tone (01:56–06:00).
• Manifestation in Language (06:09):
  • Donald explains: “I actually have a theory that everyone is a good manifestor. But it’s like whether you can control your manifesting ability, your power." (06:31)
  • The hosts riff on how the word ‘manifest’ itself starts to sound silly after so much repetition, highlighting how pop-spirituality has evolved into everyday language.
• The Power of Suggestion (10:39):
  • Autumn brings up the “red Prius” effect—when you focus your attention on something, you start to see it everywhere, evidence of both the power of the mind and of suggestion.

2. Manifestation ≠ Magic—Action Is Required

• On Action (12:31):
  • Autumn: “Guys, this ain’t like throw a wish in a well and just hope for the best. You still have to take action.”
  • Donald recounts a story of a friend who mistook passively waiting for provision as manifestation, not recognizing opportunity when it came:

    “He turned it down and said, ‘I really just believe that God is going to provide this for me.’ And I’m like, this opportunity is called provision.” (14:41)

  • Both agree that acting on opportunities is as vital as positive thinking and intention setting.

3. Modes of Manifestation: Perception, Microhabits, and Energy

• Three Ways People Experience Manifestation (16:44):
  • Noticing things because you’re looking for them.
  • Changing microhabits unintentionally that create results.
  • A spiritual or energetic force that actually “calls in” experiences.
  • Autumn: “I believe all three.” (17:29)

4. “Being in the Flow” & Recognizing Alignment

• Recognizing the Current (17:33):
  • Autumn compares being “in the flow” to riding the current in Finding Nemo, where opportunity seems to come easily.
  • Donald shares the story of his family’s company “Frownies,” and how an unexpected press mention led to an explosion in business—underscoring that unforeseen synchronicities often follow readiness and vision.

5. Visual vs. Emotional Manifestation Styles

• Specifics vs. Feelings (21:30–23:47):
  • Donald: “Some people manifest by seeing specifically... others by finding the emotional state of how they want to feel. So I have a car I love because I imagined being in a car that I loved.”
  • He shares how visualizing the feeling of being behind the scenes at Beachbody ultimately led him to that very experience, through unexpected but aligned steps.

6. Trusting the Timing and Path of Life

• The Brick-by-Brick Journey (38:24–40:16):
  • Autumn details her own journey from training clients in LA to her breakthrough with Beachbody. The process wasn’t linear: “There was a million things I did right and a million things I did wrong. The wrong things led me here just as much as the right things.”
  • Donald points out how his unrelated jobs and skills unexpectedly lined up to get him where he is now.
  • Both emphasize: “You have to trust that your journey is your journey, and it’s your journey for a reason.” (39:40)

7. Course Correction Is Not Failure

• Permission to Change Paths (46:24–49:37):
  • Autumn recounts moving to Texas and quickly realizing it was the wrong fit, ultimately returning to California despite the hardships of reversing a big transition.
  • “If you make the choice and think it’s right and it’s not, you can change. Yes, it might be hard, it might cost more, and people might question you. If it doesn’t feel like your path, get the fuck off of it and get back on your path.” (49:09)

8. When “The Flow” Ebbs: Hard Seasons & Perspective

• On the Inevitable Ebb and Flow (30:18):
  • Both acknowledge that periods of struggle and stuck-ness are normal—and often, patience and a return to positive focus are the lifelines.
  • Donald: “There’s hard seasons, there’s good seasons. What can I do to help navigate myself out of the hard or back into the good?... This too shall pass.” (30:56-31:29)
• Looking for the Good (32:05):
  • Autumn shares small reminders of impact and encouragement from strangers as proof that flow and support are always available if you notice them.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Manifestation & Language:

  • Autumn: “Do you ever say a word so many times it loses all meaning? We’ve said ‘manifest’ so many times, I’m like, what a dumb word.” (06:55)

• Regarding Action:

  • Autumn: “You still have to take action. Are you an entrepreneur? Are you starting a business? Maybe business opportunities will come to you... but you have to take action.” (12:31)

• On Trusting Unseen Paths:

  • Autumn: “Every door closed that didn’t work out for me was a step in the direction to where I ended up.” (39:40)

• Letting Go of the Need for Perfect Plans:

  • Donald: “There’s all these things that are not connected at the time, but they make sense in the future.” (41:02)

• About Course Correcting:

  • Autumn: “If you say you’re gonna do something and you realize it’s not leading you where you want to go—fucking jump ship.” (46:24)

• On Expansion and Non-Finality of Life’s Phases:

  • Donald: “When you start to see something as final is when you sort of start to cut off the ability for it to lead to other things.” (54:12)

• On the Universe’s Abundance:

  • Autumn: “The universe does not work on limitations, so ask for more. The universe isn’t on a budget.” (56:23)

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Important Timestamps

| Timestamp | Segment / Topic | |--------------|--------------------------------------------------| | 01:56–06:00 | Lighthearted chat: pillows, sleep, aging | | 06:09–10:12 | What is manifesting? Does everyone do it? | | 12:31–16:00 | Action & manifestation; “provision” story | | 16:44–17:33 | Three types of manifesting | | 17:33–20:50 | Being “in the flow”, Frownies family business | | 21:30–23:47 | Vision vs. feeling-based manifestation | | 38:24–40:16 | Autumn’s Beachbody journey; trusting the process | | 46:24–49:37 | Permission to change paths & undo big choices | | 54:12 | Non-finality, openness to new phases | | 56:23 | Universe and abundance, ask for more | | 58:52–65:37 | “Phone a Friend” advice: dealing with team slackers|

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“Phone a Friend” Segment (58:52–65:37)

Listener asks: How do you deal with a team member who repeatedly drops the ball, especially when firing them isn’t an option?
Hosts’ advice:

• Document and escalate the issue to higher management.
• Clearly communicate expectations and boundaries—don’t pick up their slack.
• Consider redistributing tasks, but don’t enable poor performance.
• Recognize when to let someone fail so higher-ups see the issue.
• If someone truly cannot do the job (for any reason), they shouldn’t remain in the role.

Notable line:

• Autumn: “If you are ever on a path that you just don’t feel is your path, you can change it... The universe does not work on limitations, so ask for more.” (56:23)

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Takeaways and Tone

The episode balances humor, vulnerability, and real-world wisdom. Autumn and Donald maintain their signature warmth and candor, inviting listeners to embrace life’s uncertainties, trust the process, and honor the pull of intuition—while never forgetting to take action and give themselves full permission to pivot. Perfect doesn’t exist, but openness and self-trust can bring you closer to a life that feels deeply aligned, “kind of perfect.”

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Transcript

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[Autumn]

I was at Erewhon two days ago. Walked up to the hot bar. I was like, buffalo cauliflower. And I'm standing there and this guy walks up to me and he's like, kind of stand next to me. And he goes, I'm sorry to interrupt you. Are you Autumn? And I was like, yeah. He's like, oh, my gosh, my wife loves you so much. And he's like, do you mind if I take a photo? She's gonna just die. And I was like, of course. And his teen daughter comes walking up and she's like, about to say something to her dad. And she looks and she's like, oh, my God, no.

[Friend/Co-host]

Speaking of dying, I slept on my neck again.

[Autumn]

You in this neck situation. It's been like two months.

[Friend/Co-host]

I don't know what I need. I like a really squishy. Like, my pillow is too. It's like, I don't like a pillow where my head's propped up.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

But I don't know, my neck.

[Autumn]

I just had a company reach out to me, a pillow company that is sending me their pillow that's supposed to be really good for, like, whether you're a side sleeper, back sleeper, or stomach sleeper. And it puts your head in the right position.

[Friend/Co-host]

You have to let me know.

[Autumn]

I'll let you know what I think. Because I'm same. Like, I definitely don't like a super firm propped up pillow because that's, like, uncomfortable. But I don't like it too squishy.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right. And mine is.

[Autumn]

But I use like the king size pillows, like the long ones, because I. I'm a side sleeper, so I want to, like, tuck. So I'll have to see about this pillow because it's not. It looks almost like a butterfly, like the shape of it. So that there's a place like, for your shoulder or your arm or whatever. But I don't know. We'll see. We'll let you know if my neck is better.

[Friend/Co-host]

I also want one that's for sleeping, like, on your stomach or almost because my. My body can't handle that anymore either. I wake up and I've lost feeling in half of my body. I'm like, I either slept wrong or had a stroke while I was sleeping. And I'm like, oh, God, my bed's going to look like Dylan's because he has that crazy.

[Autumn]

The, like, pillow. The body.

[Friend/Co-host]

Exactly.

[Autumn]

Seriously. I know. I'm a side sleeper and my shoulder. I'm so annoyed. I don't even know what I did because it's the same shoulder like that I had all the stem cells done on and it was doing so well and it felt so good. And I don't know if I slept on it wrong because I don't. I didn't do anything in a workout or anything like that. That was like, oh, that hurt.

[Friend/Co-host]

I wondered if, like the classes we went to.

[Autumn]

But no, I was really careful. Like, I'm always. I know what my limits are with my shoulder and things like that. And it was before that that I actually. But yeah, I'm a side sleeper on my shoulder. And so, yeah, same thing. I wake up and I'm like, this

[Friend/Co-host]

ain is not it, honey.

[Autumn]

But I don't like sleeping on my stomach as. Because I feel like it pushes my face.

[Friend/Co-host]

I know.

[Autumn]

And then I'm like, well, well, these wrinkles aren't getting any better.

[Friend/Co-host]

When I initially lay out my stomach, I position it in a way that I feel that it pulls my face.

[Autumn]

Do you ever wake up in the morning and have a pillow line on your face?

[Friend/Co-host]

48 hours to go away.

[Autumn]

What is that?

[Friend/Co-host]

The other day I looked at my face and I was like, I haven't been asleep for six hours. Why is this line? I look like Scarface. I'm just coming right down.

[Autumn]

Seriously. I'm like, I've plunged my face in the cold plunge. I've put every moisturizer on it. At what point does it plump back up? Come on.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

I'm like, what are we doing here?

[Friend/Co-host]

Oh, my God. I remember I was like 16 and I just splash water on my face and go about my day. Oh, no.

[Autumn]

Now it's like an 18 step routine. And by the way, I finished and I'm like, is it any better? Might be. Also might not be hard to say. I'm gonna manifest that. My skin just tightens.

[Friend/Co-host]

Me too. Talk about, oh, we could unlock that manifest level. I mean, I'm a pretty strong manifestor.

[Autumn]

Same.

[Friend/Co-host]

And so you never know. Might be.

[Autumn]

Might be next. All of a sudden, everybody's like, wow, they look so great. Power manifestation.

[Friend/Co-host]

That's right.

[Autumn]

I do think being happy helps your skin a little bit.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah. And you know, young. Yeah. Youthfulness, the lack of the stress. But the thing is, you also have to find that happy non stress place to manifest the things you want.

[Autumn]

That's true. Talk to me. So tell me, tell me more. You're a manifester. I'm a manifester.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah. I feel like. The thing is, I feel like when people have experiences that they have manifested things that they want in their life, they say, oh, I'm a good manifester. But I have a theory that actually everyone is a good manifestor. But it's like whether you can control your manifesting ability, your power. Because a lot of. Why are you smiling like that?

[Autumn]

Do you ever say a word so many times that it just loses all meaning? And you're like, what are you saying? Oh God. We've said the word manifest so many times now that I'm like, what a dumb word.

[Friend/Co-host]

But it's a slippery slope because then I don't know if it's my brain condition. But then all of a sudden no word makes sense. I'm like, why is brown brown?

[Autumn]

We can't.

[Friend/Co-host]

They're just sounds.

[Autumn]

Yes, but okay, so everybody's a good manifester in your opinion.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah, it's just about like manifesting, tapping

[Autumn]

into the power of it.

[Friend/Co-host]

Want versus what you don't want. Because they say like. And I think people are into this kind of conversation. The first I think big book that everyone read was the Secret. There's a lot about manifesting and it said, I think. And I actually never read it, but some. But I'm a quoted like, I do the Bible, honey. Somebody said

[Autumn]

we love to talk about books we've never read.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Love language.

[Friend/Co-host]

Exactly. Never read it. But I bet this is what it says that the, the universe doesn't hear. No. And so like I, I actually and have talked about this in terms of how people pray a lot because a lot of times how I grew up, people, people would pray like, I pray against you, pray for what you don't want. I pray that I will no longer be afraid of driving in on the freeway, whatever your thing is. But actually what you're. What, what you're building more of an emotion of is that fear?

[Autumn]

Right?

[Friend/Co-host]

Or.

[Autumn]

And so yeah, you're praying for what you don't want or you're trying, or you're, you're telling the universe, God, creator, whoever, what you don't want.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

Instead of leaning into, I want courage to be able to drive, or I want to feel like my most, most vibrant, healthy self. Exactly. I don't want disease, I don't want. Da da da. So you're still saying all the things you don't want instead of what do you. Well, great. We know what you don't want. What do you want?

[Friend/Co-host]

Exactly. And I think like finding ways to live in that space. I even to be a little bit churchy for a minute. And when like God presented himself to Moses in a burning bush, whether you believe in the Bible or not, just go with the story and ask like God's name. And God was like, I am. And it's like, that's why if we are, if we have this energy flowing through us, and that's how I believe that that is like God source energy. Then we should be making I am statements not constant I am not statements. God didn't say I not. And then go down the big list of all the things that God is.

[Autumn]

Right. He just said I am.

[Friend/Co-host]

And so it's like, I am. If that is our creation power, then speak on what you are, speak on what you want and think about those things.

[Autumn]

I am youthful. I'm snatched as I am rich beyond imagination.

[Friend/Co-host]

I have an abnormally large muscly butt for someone as fit as with someone.

[Autumn]

But okay, it's like, all right.

[Friend/Co-host]

I mean, so yeah, what is your. Did you have you. Because we live in a time, people don't really talk about manifesting.

[Autumn]

At least they won't necessarily say the word manifest. They'll say things like mood boards or not mood boards, but like vision boards. I did a vision board or but

[Friend/Co-host]

in the 90s, did people talk like this? I don't think it was as prevalent.

[Autumn]

I don't think it was as, No, I don't think, I think it was very like, woo, woo. If you talked about manifesting.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

But I do think people realize the power of your thoughts, the power of your words, the power of your intentions. It's there because it's what you focus on, you feel, but also what you focus on is what you receive. Because like, if I, it's kind of like you say, like, okay, when you leave here, you're gonna see a bunch of red Priuses. I've now put it in there and you're gonna, you're gonna pay attention to it. You're gonna see them. Were you seeing red Priuses when you drove here? No, because I didn't tell you you were gonna see red Priuses. But now you're probably gonna be like, I got home accounted 10.

[Friend/Co-host]

Problem is, when I see Priuses, I see red. So. Because why are you driving like that? Go.

[Autumn]

Is there something in the manual that says you can't go over 55?

[Friend/Co-host]

I mean, I, I, I know, I know a lot of Prius drivers who I love, but in la, something about driving a Prius means slow, hold up traffic.

[Autumn]

But okay.

[Friend/Co-host]

But yeah, by the way, the reason

[Autumn]

I said Prius was because when I was driving to Pilates, I kept getting stuck behind them and I was like, oh my God, another one on the right. Go.

[Friend/Co-host]

Like DJ Khaled. Another one, another one.

[Autumn]

And then I'd get around them and the road would be wide open. I was like, okay, so you're the Problem.

[Friend/Co-host]

But bless. But okay. So.

[Autumn]

But suggest like it's almost like the power of suggestion. Like, so if you're only focusing on the negative, like, oh my gosh, I didn't want this and it happened and I didn't want this. Or I'm so scared that this is going to happen. That's what you're focusing on. So guess what? You're gonna get what you're focusing on. But if you're really focusing on like, okay, good things are gonna happen. I want this and this, then you're gonna get more of that. But what I will say, I think I see a lot of people do is guys, this ain't like throw a wish in a well and just hope for the best.

[Vrbo Advertiser]

It's.

[Autumn]

You still have to take action.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

With the things that you're wanting to bring. So if you're wanting to bring in more money, it's not like a I manifesting more money and you sit on your couch and do nothing.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Are you an entrepreneur? Are you starting a business? Because then maybe business opportunities will come to you or maybe a new promotion will come to you if that's. But like you have to take action.

[Friend/Co-host]

I have. I had a friend who I was trying to help a lot. I met him because we work together and he. He was very into manifesting and we connected a lot on like in spiritual conversations. And I like, I'm a lot I now in my life opposed to before like living in the question and what if. What if when it comes to spirituality? Because I think the fact is no matter what, we'll always like not know.

[Autumn]

Right.

[Friend/Co-host]

More than we know.

[Autumn]

Right.

[Friend/Co-host]

And so it feels like a more truthful place to think what if like this could be. Or this could be one of the best saying. I'm 100 sure that this is how things work like with religion and stuff. So we would have those conversations. But he was so he believed and manifesting to a point where I had done a lot to. To help him with different things and in some ways, some people would say even irresponsibly on my part.

[Autumn]

Is this who.

[Friend/Co-host]

Financially. Yeah.

[Autumn]

Oh yeah. Yes.

[Friend/Co-host]

And. And at one point he was like really needed money, wasn't going to be able to forward rent like all these things. And I had a friend who had a catering gig and it was going to provide a lot of money. And so I called him and was like, we'll hire him like sight unseen. Just let him know when it is. Make sure he can do it. Literally didn't have anything else Going on.

[Autumn]

Because he worked one day a week, right?

[Friend/Co-host]

So I. Yeah, because he needed the other six to recharge. I'm like, you read the Bible backwards. You just have one day of respite

[Autumn]

to recharge for what? All your mental manifesting.

[Friend/Co-host]

So. And I really didn't bring this story up to throw shade at him, but when I called and said, you, hey, I have this opportunity, he turned it down and said, I really just believe that God is going to provide this for me. And I'm like, this is called. This opportunity is called provision.

[Autumn]

Yes. It's like the story of the guy that falls overboard into the ocean and he's praying to God, save me, save me, save me. And a boat comes by and it's like, do you need help? And he's like, no, God will save me. And another boat comes by, God will save me. And he drowns and he gets to heaven and he says, God, why didn't you save me? And he's like, I sent you three boats, you idiot. Yeah, like, God will provide. What? That guy was looking for a sugar daddy. That's what he wanted. He wanted somebody to provide him the money without the work, not the opportunity.

[Friend/Co-host]

Well, he. Well, he believed that he would like that a strange. That a stranger would come up or he would like, turn over a rock and see a money miracle or something like that. Crazy, you know? Well, I'm just saying. But to your point, but that's what I'm saying. You can't just mana. You can't be like, I want this to fall in my lap.

[Autumn]

Nobody's walking up to you and just giving you a million dollars and being like, now you don't have to work. Like, that's not happening.

[Friend/Co-host]

And you definitely can't manifest it. Because if you could, girl, then I would.

[Autumn]

Because I'd be like, exactly, I'm busy. I'm manifesting my money. But now you get to work for these things.

[Friend/Co-host]

But I actually did some, like, light research because it's the only kind of research I do do. Very light and people like a large. It actually gave me percentages. I just don't remember. But a huge percentage of society, but a big old amount of people believe in manifestation. People don't listen to the. To this podcast for our data. Jesus Christ, I hope not. Yeah, definitely don't listen to my nap advice if you do.

[Autumn]

Oh, my God.

[Friend/Co-host]

That I gave another episode. But it said people believe it in three different ways.

[Autumn]

Okay.

[Friend/Co-host]

Mainly one is like you said, because you're looking for something you'll start to see it even though it was already there. Two is some people believe you if you. You start to change microhabits without realizing it that produce results of what you're looking for, but they don't. But neither of those people really believe in a spiritual effect of it.

[Autumn]

Okay.

[Friend/Co-host]

And then there's a third group that believe in manifesting. It is like an energetic spiritual thing that happens. It starts to call and bring those things, experiences, whatever, into your life.

[Autumn]

I believe all three.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah, I think I do too.

[Autumn]

Like, I definitely think that there is an energy you put out and that is an energy you get back. And I say it like all the time. I'm like, oh, shoot. When it happens, I'm like, oh, I'm in the flow. I feel it like, like, what's Finding Nemo when the turtles are like in the current.

[Friend/Co-host]

I never watched it.

[Vrbo Advertiser]

Okay.

[Friend/Co-host]

Me and movies.

[Autumn]

But it feels like you're in the current moving with it. And it's like, oh, this feels. And it feels so good. But it's also one of those feelings where the second you realize it, you're like, don't go away, don't go away, don't go away. But like, I've had it happen so many times over the years where I'm like, oh, I'm in it. Like, I feel the actual energy and then the opportunities start happening. Like, oh my gosh, this phone call happened and oh my gosh, this came and then this. And I think it's one. The energy that I'm putting out that says, like, I'm open to receiving it, I'm ready for that. I also think it's the actions that I'm taking to bring more opportunity. And like you said. Yes. Sometimes it's just being aware of, like,

[Friend/Co-host]

oh, yeah, that's the thing it reminds me in, you know, like, I've talked about frownies. And a lot of people know what frownies is, so. Frownies. What is My cousin's company. But it was in their family when I was really little.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

And when we were all really little. So it wasn't my cousins at that time.

[Autumn]

Right.

[Friend/Co-host]

It was my, my aunt was. Well, my. Okay, so frownies was invented like over a hundred years ago and not a lot of people knew about it. And they had just like orders from people in Hollywood. It was almost like a mail in service. My cousin's grandma and one of her friends were just two ladies in an office filling orders very low key. And out of nowhere on the COVID of Good Housekeeping magazine. And I think it was 2001. Renee Russo said it was her beauty secret and at the time, like her only form of anti aging. And all of a sudden these two women start getting calls from like Nordstrom. Oh, wow. Every major department store, they want everything to be filled. And so they did, like, it was like all hands on deck. Around that time is when my aunt and uncle really took it over. Had to hire a daytime staff, a nighttime staff. They'd come in, and I'm just saying this because I could see this happening with your beverage line in a different way. They'd come in and be like, you guys, we just gotta order. We need like 30, 000 units for Japan right now. And we'd be like in there putting the boxes together. And it was like this crazy thing that out of nowhere just unlocked. And there is something to that. It's like maybe you could think that it was just luck.

[Autumn]

Luck.

[Friend/Co-host]

But also when I worked there, because at the time, I think the first day I worked there, I might have been like 17, 16, 17. So I was. It was unfortunately a very long time ago for me. And my aunt would put like yearly sales goals that even from. Because they had this big boom that seemed like outrageous for them to reach on all of the computer monitors. Oh, so people would see it and those numbers would be in their head.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

It wasn't like a quota they had to hit or anything like that. It was just that idea of seeing something bigger. And I think there's a lot of power to that.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

And. And it gets exciting too, when you start to believe in that, because it calls you to think about the good and envision the good and envision what you desire.

[Autumn]

And then when you feel that in your body instead of the fear, but you feel like the good and what could happen, it makes you feel. Want to do more, put yourself out there more, try more, experience more.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

What. What is something that you have manifested?

[Friend/Co-host]

I. You know, what's another thing that I learned about manifesting? I'm going to answer the question, but I have to give this little preface is some people are. And maybe you can be a mix of both. And again, I heard this from someone one time who read a book somewhere. Are you vision, like they manifest by seeing specifically vision board what they want.

[Autumn]

Right.

[Friend/Co-host]

And others manifest by like finding the emotional state of feeling how they want to feel. So it's like I maybe didn't manifest the car that I wanted because I specifically was seeing a specific car. But I have a car that I love because I imagined being in a car that I loved. So I'm very feeling.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

When I manifest. And I feel like, like the first big thing that comes to mind is filming with you and Beachbody.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

I know we've talked about it before, but the fact is I had no idea what Beachbody was or who you were. And my cousin invited me to try it. I said yes. And I saw the set and my mind started asking questions like, I wonder what that set looks like. And sometimes, like, Nell jokes that it's because of my ADHD that I'm like a really powerful manifester because I'll get lost in my thought about something. So I envisioned being on the other side of the cameras. I envisioned what it was like when you guys yelled cut. And what. When the cameras weren't recording what was happening, what rehearsals were like. I didn't necessarily have a specific picture, but all of this space in my mind was created of what that was like. And then in a chain of events that seem impossible. Yeah. To be coincidence, I found myself in that room and. And especially the obsession. And then when the news came about refilming the 21 day fix programs in real time, I was like, holy. I manifested myself here. I lived thousands of miles away, didn't know anyone and didn't even know the company.

[Autumn]

Right.

[Friend/Co-host]

And. And it's like, I think that that speaks because there's a lot of people who at that time would have done a lot of action to make that happen. And it's not that that's a bad thing, but. But I. That wasn't. It was just in my mind, like, what is this life?

[Autumn]

I think some. I really do think you actually have to have both.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

I think you have to have the energy, the thoughts, create the space for, like, I wonder what. What could it be? What would it feel like? And then also, like, you might not have realized you were taking actions. You weren't like, specifically, like, I'm trying to get to be in that cast,

[Friend/Co-host]

but I had a willingness.

[Autumn]

But you had a willingness.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And you were out there living your purpose. You were teaching dance. That's how my sister met you in Nashville.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And then obviously I met you because you and Kaylee became friends.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

But, like, all. You were still sort of in the entertainment performance, doing your thing, keeping your vibration high.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And I feel like that's what Me Too brought us.

[Friend/Co-host]

Me too. And that season, like, you know, you have times where you feel like it's just like, turned on. You're in the flow. Remember when I was like, okay, I'm going to move here to film. It was all happening, and I didn't even know it was happening.

[Ali Jackson]

Right.

[Friend/Co-host]

Like. Like, when you're in it and it's coming together because it wasn't this big master plan. I was putting together the puzzle pieces, and I was like, okay, if I'm gonna try to get students here. And it's so funny. I thought that would be hard. And it ended up just being a very natural, great thing that happened for me.

[Autumn]

But I think that's in the flow because I. I think for a lot of people, it would be hard.

[Friend/Co-host]

And do you remember, you were like,

[Autumn]

you should try Karina.

[Friend/Co-host]

Karina Smirnoff's dance studio.

[Autumn]

Because it was in Woodland Hills, down, like, not far from me.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right. And I called and this is in no way throwing shade at the studio. And I still talk to Karina and the family and, like, I love them, but. And Karina Smirnoff was a dancer from Dancing with the Stars. So for me, and as a ballroom dancer, I started in Ohio. Then I was. That's pretty much what I mainly did for a living in Nashville. People would, like students or people would always reference Dancing with the Stars. So it was a really big deal. Yeah. All of a sudden, I'm here. Her studio was there, and you're like, you should try it. So I called and I can't remember. Oh. And I went and met with someone and about teaching. And then the way it all happened, I came back and I was like, honestly, I said to you guys, they don't just need me to teach at that studio, they need me to manage it.

[Autumn]

You're like, they need me to run this place.

[Friend/Co-host]

And. And within a week, I got a phone call, and they were like, would you. Could you come in for a meeting and asked if I'd be open to managing it? And it was like, oh, my God. And it's like when you're in the flow, because I do believe I was always manifesting. But a lot of my life I've spent thinking about the things that aren't going to work out and trying to be okay with it.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

And that's kind of how a lot of my life was in different areas. But all of a sudden, in that flow, it's like. Like, I said that, and within a week, it was happening. And there I didn't do some amazing dance audition. It was just an energetic connection that they saw in me. Something that they thought could be very valuable.

[Autumn]

Yes.

[Friend/Co-host]

And it was. It's really? So that time in my life, it was very turned on.

[Autumn]

Yes.

[Friend/Co-host]

So it's exciting to see. And I also wonder too, not to, like, totally take a turn if the, like, astrology plays a part in our, like, seasons of us being really so funny.

[Autumn]

Because I was like, scrolling Instagram yesterday and you know, sometimes it serves you up, people you don't follow. And it served me up, this girl, and she was doing a Libra tarot card type reading. She's like, okay. So I clicked on it, you know, like, ah, Libra. Like, let me just hear. But everything she was saying was so freaking spot on for what's going on right now. And then so I clicked over to the YouTube to watch, like, the longer version of it, and I was like, I mean, it's a little freaky how accurate it was. And she was like. She was saying, like, abundance, money. Oh my God, there's some big opportunity. It's all coming together. Like, she said something about, you have a product you're selling or something. Yes, I see it. It's going to be huge. And I'm like, this wasn't directed at me. This was just a random Libra reading. But everything she was saying was so spot on that I was like, yeah, because I'm here for all of it.

[Friend/Co-host]

I am a full believer in that. I think I talked about the, my. The guy I talked to who's like an astrology psychic before on the podcast. It's been a long time.

[Autumn]

Like way back in one of our first episodes.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah, but when, when we were having all the ghost stuff, he said, he was like. He said, you know, it's sort of like knowing the forecast. You can't control if it's gonna rain, but you can have an umbrella. And I think also, you know, when it's gonna be sunny, you know when to dress for it. And I think sometimes that also can be like. It's not even the people who say that they're like master manifestors have phases in life where things feel amiss and disjointed and they have to work through that. And that's just a part of life. But knowing that it's a part of life, you can have an umbrella for those moments and still lean into what you know about the energy you want to put out and what you believe.

[Autumn]

I also think in those moments, because that's just life. Like, life's gonna have its moments where it's challenging. Right? Like, that's just what happens. But I think being able to remember when I changed da da Da. This got better when I changed my energy, when I stopped focusing on the bad. I'm not saying, like, be oblivious to when things are hard, but I'm saying understanding your energy, understanding, like, okay, what is in my control? What can I focus on? What do I want to work towards? This is a hard season. So what do I want to manifest to. What do I want to bring to me to be better? Like, to make something feel better, to make life better.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And because we're all gonna ebb and flow. So just being able to be aware, I mean, there's plenty. There's been plenty of times where I feel like the exact opposite. So out of the flow, I feel like I'm, you know, swimming against the current. I'm like, damn, when is this? Like, I'm about to drown out here. Like, can somebody throw me a lifeline? But the lifeline I have is knowing that this, too, shall pass. It always does. There's hard seasons. There's good seasons. What can I do to try to help navigate myself out of the hard or back into the good? And really, it just takes a little bit of time of focusing on it and going, okay, well.

[Friend/Co-host]

And I think that is actually the really powerful thing about what you said about the red Priuses. Like, if you. You know, I struggle in life right now with the heaviness that's happening. Yeah. And as much as I want to be aware of it and call it out, I also don't want to perpetuate constant fear and negative energy. But it. I. So it's this. I'm working out in my own personal way in life, like, everyone, how to respond to things that we're experiencing in life. But. But I do think deciding, okay, I've looked at the bad, and I'm not saying don't look, but it's time to look for the good, look for the joy, look for, like, people being kind to each other. Look for the. Like I said before in another episode about giving the compliment, like, these little signs of life, these little moments of light really start to illuminate it so much more. You just forget to look.

[Autumn]

Yeah, exactly. Like, okay, so today I was taking Pilates, and my teacher had said to me, she's like, hey. Cause she also trains other instructors. And she's like, I have a instructor that's gonna log on via Zoom and just, like, watch your session. I'm like, great. It's fine. So we're doing our whole thing, and we get to the end, and she's saying goodbye to the girl. That's on the zoom. And the girl, the woman says, like, she's like, I don't know if it's unprofessional or not, but I just have to say, like, I'm fangirling a little bit. Like, I love your programs. I've done 80 Day Obsession and Nine Week Control Freak. And I was like, that's amazing. And, you know, she's like, my girlfriend and her now husband did 21 day fix for their wedding, and they were like, in the best shape and they felt so good and they kept going and they've been able to keep the weight. And I have been like. Because I've been in such big transitions with everything with like, just work and everything, that sometimes you feel like, do people still want stuff from me? Does it still matter? And so it's just like these. I just feel like it's been God, the universe, because that's happened. I was at Erewhon two days ago, walked up to the hot bar, was like, buffalo cauliflower. And I'm standing there, and this guy walks up to me and he's like, kind of standing next to me, and he goes, I'm sorry to interrupt you. Are you Autumn? And I was like, yeah. He's like, oh, my gosh, my wife loves you so much. And he's like, do you mind if I take a photo? She's gonna just die. And I was like, of course. And his teen daughter comes walking up, and she's like, about to say something to her dad, and she looks and she's like, oh, my God, no way. And so the dad tells her. He's like, you guys take a photo. I was like, yeah, come here. And I was like, tell your wife hi for me. You know, whatever.

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[Autumn]

It's just like, these little nuggets that, as you know, yesterday was a big day for me. New app launch, new beverage line. Obviously, no, I have not left Bodi. I just get to do something in addition to. So I'm very excited about it. But in starting your own app, fitness app, nutrition app, it's like, are people going to want it? And so those little. That, to me, is being in the flow. That is the universe giving me little reminders that I'm going in the right direction.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah. And it's like, allow for it and

[Autumn]

allow it to come in.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah. Someone came up to me because they announced that we were moving at church. And she said, I haven't told you this, but I just want you to know what you do is really, really important. And it's funny because sometimes, like, I feel like I. Sometimes I think my strengths are things like bringing humor and sarcasm to serious situations or lightning moments. You know what I mean? But it's. And sometimes that can feel unimportant, and I know it's not, but it just meant so much, like, to your point, for someone to. It means a lot for someone to see you. And I think it's important then for us to see that in the world. Like, see, okay, there are good things, There are good people, There are good moments. And the more you see it, the more it will be revealed to you. There's like, someone told a story about how the college they went to was next to this. Like, it was up on a hill and the. Like, with a cliff. And there was the ocean. It was this amazing, breathtaking view. And by the end of the semester, they never even looked. And she was like, I just forgot to look. But the view was that beauty never went away. It was always there. And I think sometimes we just forget to fucking look.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

Like. But if we open our eyes and allow ourselves to, like, really lean into the excitement of what's real and good, instead of the fear or sadness about. Yeah, what? And usually it's not even a fact. A lot of times we're upset about what could happen.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

Bad.

[Autumn]

Oh, you spend so much time in it. Well, it's like there's two sides to every coin. I always say this so like, there's that beautiful ocean view to the right and maybe to the left, there's like a dump.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

They're both right there for you to look at.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

But you're probably busy being like, oh my God, that dump is so gross. Like, why don't they do something about it? That's bringing down the data. And instead you could just turn to the right. It's not even there. There's that beautiful view. There's the magic. But it is easier to get stuck in the negative. And I think that's why you have to be aware of that and pull yourself out of it. But I think I manifested quite literally working with Beachbody.

[Friend/Co-host]

I think you did too.

[Autumn]

I mean, I was obviously taking a lot of steps in my business as a trainer, but as a trainer, I knew I wanted to help people on a mass scale. I did not have a clue how I was gonna do it. In fact, when I first started, I was doing in home training and I was working with a small little company here in la. And when I interviewed for that, she's like, where do you see yourself in five years? And I explained to her how I saw myself at these live events with hundreds or thousands of people, families, kids, teaching workouts, talking about nutrition, maybe providing different, like snacks that are good for you and things like that. I didn't even know what Beachbody was like. I knew P90X, but I didn't know that there was like this whole other side.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Of the company, like up.

[Friend/Co-host]

Opportunity.

[Autumn]

Opportunity. Yeah, that, that, that, that they went and did these live events and that network and all that stuff. And I bought P90X off the infomercial. And I remember I was a brand new trainer at the time. And I literally said to Kent, at the time we were living together, like, I was like, I wonder how you get to be Tony H. That's it. All I had, I put that out there. How do you get to be Tony Horton? It was 12, 13 years later that that call came.

[Friend/Co-host]

Wow.

[Autumn]

So it wasn't an overnight thing. There was years of being in my craft and getting better at my craft and putting myself out there and growing and different avenues. But. And so you're not always seeing it, right? Like you don't see the whole path. It's one little brick gets laid and then another little brick gets laid. And I've had people ask me so many times, they're like, well, how do I get to do what you did? And I'm like, I. I can't tell you because there was A million things that I did right and a million things I did wrong. And the wrong things led me here just as much as the right things led me here. Like every door closed that didn't work out for me was a step in the direction to where I ended up.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

So you have to trust that your journey is your journey, and it's your journey for a reason. So even when those bad or not. I don't even want to say bad, but those things that are hard are happening. There's lessons in there, there's redirects in there. Nope. You might think you're going the right way. That ain't it. I'm just gonna have to steer you harder because you ain't getting it. And I do think that, too.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

I think sometimes when you're not on your path, you know, they say hear the whisper so God doesn't have to scream. But if you're ignoring the whispers, the struggles are going to get harder.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And they're going to get harder. And they're going to get harder because you're not on your path. And it's like, how hard do I have to kick you?

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

To get you to turn damn directions. That's the universe. The universe is like, I'm just going to keep booting you in your ass. You don't seem to get it.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah. Also, like, I love that you said 12 years or whatever it was from like, that conversation with Kent and you getting the call to.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

To sign with beachbody. Because those 12 years, you, like you said you didn't know that was your destination. And I think about how I've come to where I am, and I'm really thankful for the way the path my life has gone. And there's all these things that are not connected at the time, but they make sense in the future. Like, we like the. My friend inviting me to become a dance, learn how to ballroom dance and become an instructor. That doesn't seem like it has anything to do with getting me to California. But if it wasn't for. And then my brother asking me to sing on tour. So that's what had me move to Nashville. And I started dancing in Nashville because I learned that skill in Ohio. And then that's how I met Kaylee. While I was in Nashville, I was introduced to Beachbody and all these things, like, fall into place so I can end up where I want to be. And I remember in Ohio, we had this coach come in. Her name is Maya Cerve, and she was a champion dancer. And she Was doing coachings. But she was really into, like, the law of attraction and manifesting and stuff. And she was like, well, where do you want to be? And I didn't even say it because I didn't have the, like, confidence to say it. But someone who was in our training, there were four of us. The guy who was training, like, the. My boss, kind of the manager of the studio was like, he wants to be in California. And she was like, well, why aren't you there? And I had all these reasons in my mind why I couldn't be there. So I do wonder if I would have allowed myself to see the potential and the possibility if it could have happened faster. But I don't have any regret because I see every single piece that brought me here as, like, a very valuable piece that is also proof to me that all things were working for my good, even though I didn't know they were all working together.

[Autumn]

Yeah. I don't think you were supposed to be here any sooner.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right. I really don't either. I can't imagine a better experience being here. And it's like, I would have had a very different experience.

[Autumn]

Yeah. If I came into completely different path in life. If you came earlier.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Because who knows if our paths would have crossed. And that's when you could get a little bit more into the spirituality of, like, soul contracts. And did we decide before we came down here, like, okay, I'm gonna find you.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

When we're ready. And we get to be friends and we get to do this. And, you know, you wonder that we've talked about this before, like, with everybody. Every. It's, you know, you think about how many people are on the planet. Just. Okay, just take the United States, like, just in one state. Like, how many people in the. The likelihood when people come into your life. I don't think any of it's by accident. Like, if you didn't get a flat tire one day, if you didn't go into the coffee shop, if you didn't put the Groupon up for.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Kaylee. To get the dance lessons. Like, it's these kind of like the butterfly effect. Like one tiny little decision. You have no idea how it's gonna impact your life way down the road. And we don't think about it like that. I do think about it like that all the time. There's somebody in my life that does not think about it like that at all. And it drives me insane because I'm like, you're not actually paying attention to the big picture. Like, like, you're just focused on this moment. And this. Decisions mean this in this moment. But what does it mean for your whole life?

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Like, life's long, so what does it mean for your whole life? Like, I don't take those decisions lightly. Like, I don't. I've. Because I've learned. Because I'm like, damn.

[Friend/Co-host]

One thing changes everything.

[Autumn]

Changes everything.

[Friend/Co-host]

And maybe that's why, like, maybe that, like, very rarely does the thing. When something presents itself, does it only serve the purpose we think it's going to.

[Autumn]

Right.

[Friend/Co-host]

It turns into something so much bigger. And the truth is, I would bet maybe someone would need someone to sit down and help coach them through their thoughts. But every single person, especially once you're in your 30s and 40s, you can look and see this chain reaction in your life, too.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

And I bet you could find a really positive one. And unfortunately, you might be able to find a negative one. But either way, it's proof that in a moment, the entire course and trajectory of your life can be changed. And that is an exciting way to look at life. And it's. It's. And it calls us to seize each moment and hold each moment with a little more value.

[Autumn]

Yeah. To not fleet it away.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

It's. That's. It's. This one's not a big deal. It's only the big decision that is a big deal. It's like, no.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

Usually the biggest ones aren't the ones like, it's the little small ones that are shaping and moving and redirecting and. And all of that comes into manifesting too, I think, and just being strong in your choices when you make that choice, leaning in. But if you recognize that it's not working. Also being able to say, I feel like people sometimes get really stuck in the, like, well, I said I was gonna da, da, da. And so if I don't, what does it mean? And it's like, if. If you say you're gonna do something and you're doing it and you realize it's leading you not at all in the direction you want to be going. Fucking jump ship.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Like, when Kent and I moved to Texas, Dom was six months old. Totally thought like, okay, yes, that's the right decision. We wanted to be able to buy a house. All the things we got there. And it was like, actually the day we were leaving, I was standing in my bedroom. House was packed. I was standing in my bedroom holding Dom, and Kent was in the living room. And my best friend at the time was over. And I was sobbing in the bedroom. And I was like, I feel like we're making the wrong decision. She's like, you're just nervous. And I'm like, no, I'm telling you, I feel it in my bones. This is wrong. U Haul was packed, car was packed. We gave up the lease. We were. We. Kent accepted the job and we got. We went. And I was really trying when we were there, like, I really was trying to be okay with being there. Like, I thought it was what we wanted. We wanted to be more affordable. All the things. And with every day that went by, everything in my body was screaming, get. This is wrong. Get out. This is not. And after five weeks, Kent came home from work and I sat him down. And I was like, I can't do this. I do not belong here if I wait any longer. Because I had built a whole business of my own here in California as a personal trainer. I had a huge client roster. I was like, if I don't go back now, all those clients are gone. The business is gone. Like, I had already passed them off, but I knew, like, they would come back. And I said, kent, you can stay or you can go or you could stay or come, but you're going back. I'm packing the car up this weekend and taking. And Dom's coming with me. And that. That's not why we got divorced at all. Like, I did. We. I packed the car up. Kent drove me back. Like, we drove back with me. And Dom took a flight back to Texas. He stayed in Texas for four months working that job until he could get transferred back to la. So we had to pay two rents. We had double, you know, two car payments. We had to hire a nanny. I got all my clients back. For the first month I was back in California, I actually went and lived in San Diego with his mom because we were trying to save on rent. And I was driving up in the mornings to see clients and she was watching Dom. And it was. I mean, I managed to do it for a month, but Dom was a baby. Like, he was, like, I said, like seven months at that point. And I was so exhausted and my clients were so early in the morning that I finally just said, I'm getting an apartment. Yeah, I'm getting a nanny. I saw all my clients. I was done with my clients by 2 o' clock in the afternoon. And then I was with Dom the rest of the day. But if I didn't come back, I would not have probably ended up who you are. Who I am now.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

I don't think I would have started what was changed my plate. What got sold to Beachbody and became portion fix in 21 days. Like you. If you're, if you make the choice and you think it's the right one and it's not, you can change. You can change. And yes, it might be hard and it might cost more money and it might, everybody might question what you're doing and tell you you're crazy if it doesn't feel like it's your path, get the off of it and get back on your path.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

That's why I say to you all the time with Arizona. I know I joke about it.

[Friend/Co-host]

I joke manifesting this for me, for Arizona.

[Autumn]

No, but I know I joke about it, but I think I joke about it because I've had places like you

[Friend/Co-host]

want me to know.

[Autumn]

I want you to know that if it's hard and if you get there and you're there and you decide at any point that you that is not the place and California's home.

[Friend/Co-host]

Well, you know, you always have a home. Yeah.

[Autumn]

To work it out.

[Friend/Co-host]

You know, I think about the restaurant and I was, I came to. I'm very thankful for that job and thankful for the people there, but I came to a place where I was very unhappy and it just wasn't in my flow. There was no, like, on paper thing I could say that was so bad. I made great money. They were very flexible. I could pretty much have off if I ever needed, like. But I just was like, this is not it. I don't, I'm not supposed to be in this space anymore in this capacity. And it's just so funny because we stay in situations that aren't serving us because we're afraid. Let me tell you, I, I. What was I afraid of? Ain't nothing bad happened since. It's just been up and up, like, better, better. And I'm reminded and I'm, I think it's because I felt so in my flow in the beginning when I moved here. And then I found myself towards the end when, like, of that phase of my life at the restaurant being like, did I forget who the I am? Because I'm not living in the energy that I know I'm supposed to live in. And it's like that became a reminder to me, remember who you are.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

And I feel like I've woken up and I'm in that place and it feels exciting because it's like, I don't know what all of these decisions that are being made are going to lead to. But I know because of history that they're going to lead to something, and it's going to be great. You just have to keep. Keep your mind and your eyes on the good.

[Autumn]

Right. I will say, though, I'm actually so thankful that we moved to Texas and tried that, because had we not, I might have always had a little bit more, like, chip on my shoulder. Resentment about, like, how hard it was here in California and expensive it is, and we're never gonna be able to buy a house and all the things. It wasn't until I left that I was like, you spent your whole life wanting to get to California, and you got there, and you had been here for so long. I would. I still sometimes have nightmares of, like, moving away from California and, like, just regretting it and how do I get back?

[Friend/Co-host]

Wow.

[Autumn]

Like, yeah. So. But again, so I'm thankful that we went, because it was like, sometimes you have to see what isn't it, and so that you can appreciate. Okay. It does take more hard work here. It takes more money, which means I have to work more.

[Friend/Co-host]

But it's not as hard as being someplace you're not supposed to be.

[Autumn]

It's not as hard as being someplace I'm miserable. And I think when I got back, it just gave me that much more drive to be. Like, oh, I'm gonna. I'm doing this. This is. This is home. This is where I want to be. And look, maybe one day there will be a place somewhere else other than California that I want to be.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

It's not as of right now. Like, people always say, like, it's time for you to leave California. And I'm like, no, it's not.

[Friend/Co-host]

Mm.

[Autumn]

It's not. I know my friends have left. I've had lots of friends move away. I'll get on a plane.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

So it feels good to know where I want to be. And it might be the same for you. You might get to Arizona. That was the long, roundabout part of my story is you might get to Arizona, and that might be where you're supposed to be, and that might be your place.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And that's exactly where you're supposed to be. And it might not be. And it might be that you want to come back to California, or it might be that you guys end up trying somewhere else. I don't know. Maybe end up in Puerto Rico. Who knows?

[Friend/Co-host]

It might be for one random meeting, like, not that it is, but you. The thing is, we don't know.

[Autumn]

Yes.

[Friend/Co-host]

And so just holding the. That opportunity because, like, For. For everyone like me right now facing a huge life change in terms of where I live, where I. I physically am in the world. I can think about all that I'm losing and how hard it's going to be to meet people and all of the difficult. But I also have an opportunity.

[Autumn]

Focus on that.

[Friend/Co-host]

I also have an opportunity to be. To say even this. It really could be for a very limited amount of time for a very specific purpose.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

And I'm just being very open and present and. And reminding myself that when you start to see something as final is when you sort of start to cut off the ability for it to lead to other things.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

But this is just a phase of ex. Of expansion. That's been really important for me too. It's not that I'm closing my time in California. Like, I still feel California is always going to feel. I'm always going to be connected and feel a sense of home here.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

Because it's been. Been so amazing to me. I'm just expanding to have some more family time for a while. You know what I mean? And it's not like I'm cutting off any of that.

[Autumn]

Yes. So we'll see. Well, I. I do think, though, it is really important. Like, I'm just gonna have this final thought and then like, we should check for a phone, a friend. But that just having a mindset of. You're allowed to change your mind totally in all areas of life. You are allowed to change careers if you don't like the career you're in. You're allowed to change places you live if it's all doable. I know sometimes it can seem so overwhelming and so hard and finances come into play a lot of the time. But you guys, I've lived more of my life with not finances, like, with not a lot of money than I have in these last. You know, I'm 45. I've had 11 years of doing very well for myself, and all the rest have been paycheck to paycheck, struggling to get by. So I understand. And I made the majority of my moves and things like that when I was paycheck to paycheck, barely getting by. So I'm just saying that, like, whatever those choices are, as you go on the journey, if you are ever on a path that you just don't feel like is your path, you can change it. That's whether you're manifesting it or you're just saying, this ain't it. There's got to be more. The universe does not Work on limitations. So ask for more.

[Friend/Co-host]

That's right.

[Autumn]

The universe isn't on a budget.

[Friend/Co-host]

And what good does it do for people to believe that manifesting is not like you know what, maybe it's not a thing. It's still better to lean into. What if it is? Think about the positive. Think about your life expanding about being prosperous, abundant and see what happens when you and train your mind to go there more. And I think you might be surprised.

[The RealReal Advertiser]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

Okay. So we have a phone a friend let's we love the phone of friends.

[Autumn]

We love it.

[Friend/Co-host]

I'll read it quickly into the record. I'm gonna just read the jump to the phone a friend part. So the question is about work and hoping you all can help. I supervise a small team and have a few individuals that report to me. Two of them are great and they're on top of things and I don't need to micromanage. One on the other hand has dropped the ball multiple times on some very specific things. I don't want to give too much away with what I do, but it's difficult to fire someone. This person has been in their position for about three years and should have a good handle on their responsibilities at this point had some health and personal things come up so I have picked up the slack. We are working on a big project and it's apparent that is. It is apparent there is some either incompetence or just expectation I will be the one to get things done. It is even to the point they come to me for such minor questions that they should know or I have to proofread their emails. So I finally got so I finally got off and laid in to them for a big mess up. Sorry it's a little typo found out recently but actually happened months ago so really had some something tangible to explain. They are not meeting expectations. Then the following day they had a doctor's appointment and now have another health scare. Obviously I don't wish anything like that on any one and felt kind of like a with the timing however, I feel like this will just continue to be there will just continue to be more put on me because I will again need to pick up the slack. With termination not being an option. What else can I do? Have you ever had to deal with someone not pulling their weight at work? How would you handle it?

[Autumn]

That's the worst. Yes. And I understand that frustration too because it's like when somebody's not pulling their weight well first of all like we don't know what they do. So I Don't know why termination's not an option. I'm gonna be the per. I'm gonna be the negative person for a second because sometimes I think the worst of humanity because I'm like, oh, you got yelled at because you were slacking off not doing your job to the point where your boss has to read and proofread your emails, like, what the frig? And then the next day you went to the doctor and had a health scare. Because I think people know that when there's health concerns automatically now you can't be let go.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

But you also can't not do your job and expect that the boss is going to just do your job for you. That's not fair. So I don't, we don't obviously know the exact context, but she says she manages the team, so obviously it sounds like she's not the business owner. There's. She probably has a boss. I would, I would honestly say that might be something that you have to take to your boss and say, I need to know how you want me to handle this because this person is not qualified to be doing the job.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And now that we have these medical things, I still think you could sit that person down. Again, I don't know what the job is and what the legalities are, but I would say you could still sit that person down and very bluntly, matter of factly explain, these are your job requirements. You need to be able to do them. I won't be reading your emails and proofreading and I won't be picking up the slack for you. And if you're unable to fulfill your job.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Then you know, but again, I don't know because I don't know what the medical thing is and I don't know what the job is. So I know I'm a little bit harsh in that manner, but I do get frustrated because I've been in situations so many different times in many different jobs in my life where because I am the person that will get done.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah, you're around, you can't be around someone who's not pulling.

[Autumn]

And people start to realize that because you'll pick up the slack that they can just half ass it because you'll fix it. And that's unfair.

[Friend/Co-host]

I agree. You know, so I don't talk about this much because it's very boring. But for a little bit of part of my work, I do depositions and a lot of the cases are employment issues and things around this. The most practical advice I'd give to this first is, yeah, it sounds like if I was her, I would go to my supervisor and say, our team can't meet these needs because I'm having. We're having to pick up slack that isn't realistic for us to carry by carrying this person's weight. I don't know what their medical condition is. Like me, Donald, I don't know what their medical condition is, but if they have very severe limitations, that doesn't change. Change the demands of the job. And so they're the person who wrote us their supervisor should provide relief. Or I would change everyone's tasks and say, I understand if you can't do X, Y, Z, but we need you to carry, like, some significant weight in order for us to get this done. So with your current condition, maybe you can take a task away, like, from each person of your team that they can do that. You don't have to micromanage as much and redistribute for a limited period of time and see if that's a little bit more productive. But absolutely, you can't just. A team can't carry someone's weight. And the sad reality is, even if they are sick and literally can't do their job, a lot of times there's provisions and insurance provisions and things for people like that. It's not that I want anything bad then to lose everything because they're sick, but also, you can't indefinitely carry more weight. You just cannot.

[Autumn]

Yeah. And you might have to look, if that's the case, you might need to take medical leave.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

But, you know, it's interesting. And the reason I said, like, sometimes I think the worst of people is because it said it. It's a medical scare.

[Friend/Co-host]

I noticed that word, too.

[Autumn]

So it's not like, oh, my gosh, they just got diagnosed with cancer.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And they have to go through cancer treatment. Because if that was the case, I'd be like, okay, that's right. 100% understandable. But right now it sounds like it's like a. I might have. And I'm like, for that to come in the day after you get chewed out for not doing your job, that seems like a real strategic protect my ass kind of move.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah. Yeah.

[Autumn]

Or maybe I'm just.

[Friend/Co-host]

No. Well, the sad thing is you don't want people to use that kind of stuff, but they do.

[Autumn]

I've seen people use it before, and it's crazy.

[Friend/Co-host]

And it really just makes for a very unhealthy work environment.

[Autumn]

Yes. That's the other thing. You, you know, you almost Wish that the person that's not like, look, you obviously don't like the job, right. You're, or you're not, or you know, you're not qualified to do it. Really, that person should step down, resign, quit whatever it might be because it's so unfair. Like to the company you worked for. If you presented yourself that you were capable of doing the job and now you're not capable of doing the job, you can't have some expectation that they just have to carry dead weight with you not doing the job.

[Friend/Co-host]

If I. If something happened to me and I knew that I was not going to be able to show up with my team, like for my team the way that I'm expected, I would feel I would care about that. Of course, I would be communicating with them.

[Autumn]

Because you're a person.

[Friend/Co-host]

Look for what? Exactly. And so if that's not happening, then I would look at redistributing, talk to my upper management about how to handle this and, you know, do whatever I need to. Because you can't sustain that.

[Autumn]

Yeah. The. The other thing I was going to say too is I guess it depends because when you're the manage, your superiors are expecting the job to get done no matter what. But I was gonna say sometimes you gotta let somebody fall on their face.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

I always say that though. But then like a lot of times I'm like, I can't let them fall on my face, on their face because it affects me.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And that's. But if you are able to let them fall on their face a little bit, then you might just have to let them. Because then the superiors could say, like, oh, no, this was a bad, bad.

[Friend/Co-host]

Right.

[Autumn]

Mess up and know it's not on your boss to do your job.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

So I hope that, I hope it works.

[Friend/Co-host]

Helpful. Yeah. It was not enough information to really get very specific, like, this is what I do, but I feel for you, girl.

[Autumn]

I hope that the person who has the medical issue, that I hope it does turn out okay and that there's nothing seriously wrong.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

And I hope that that person maybe goes and finds a job, career that they really love and that the person that's having to do all the extra work maybe gets to hire an employee that.

[Friend/Co-host]

That is eager to do the job.

[Autumn]

Eager to do the job.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

Yeah.

[Friend/Co-host]

All right, guys.

[Autumn]

All right.

[Friend/Co-host]

Thank you for that. Phone a friend. Thank you for listening to us with our conversation about manifestation. It made me feel really good. I know having these kind of talks, like perpetuate more of that. And I think it's important.

[Autumn]

Dialed my energy right up.

[Friend/Co-host]

Yeah.

[Autumn]

All right. You know what to do. We love to hear from you. We want to hear your phone of friends. We want to hear whatever's going on in your life. Email us at Everything's Perfect podcast everything

[Friend/Co-host]

that's right and hit us up on social. Give us a follow on Instagram. It's Everything's Perfect official, and we'll see you next time.

[Autumn]

Bye.

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