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Peace starts where the proving stops. In this episode, we get honest about the quiet damage that happens when you keep reaching for understanding from the people who were supposed to know you best. Beneath that ache is a deeper pattern, one that can shape your identity, drain your energy, and keep you tied to roles that were never really yours.

This one is sharp, grounded, and deeply human, for anyone who has felt unseen in the place that was meant to feel like home. Press play before you confuse one more family pattern for your personality.

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Show notes:
(1:50) The need to be understood
(3:11) When family becomes the original wound
(7:24) How family shapes the false self
(10:16) Why families struggle to truly see you
(14:52) Here's what Matthew has to say about the Evolve Ventures community and how it has helped in his journey.
(15:39) They can’t meet what they haven’t met
(19:12) Why do systems protect the pattern
(24:54) Acceptance, grief, and letting go
(27:57) Outro

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(Stay tuned for this coming Monday’s episode!)

#488 | Stop Trying to Be Understood By Your Family