Why success is lonely. It’s often not for the reasons you think. Many high-caliber leaders find themselves in periods of collapse and losing their mojo. It’s rarely talked about at the top. Yet, it’s increasingly common.

In this episode, Colette Davenport, a private metaphysician to high-caliber leaders and power players, joins Julian Hayes II for a raw, expansive conversation on what happens when the strategies, identities, and systems that once drove success suddenly stop working.

Colette describes what she calls the void: an internal collapse that can’t be solved by hustle, intellect, therapy, or even peak performance tools. Drawing on her own experience and her work with high-level leaders, she explains why these moments aren’t failures but, instead, evolutionary thresholds.

Together, they explore why ambition eventually turns inward, how identity quietly shapes success and isolation, and what it really takes to rebuild from a place deeper than strategy. This episode reframes burnout, success, and power, not as problems to fix, but as invitations to transform.

This is a grounded, honest conversation about wealth, health, identity, and what leaders unknowingly pass on, unless they choose to do the work.

— Episode Chapter Big Ideas (timing may not be exact) —

0:00 – Introduction and 2025 reflections

2:45 – The quiet collapse happening inside high performers

6:30 – Why intellect, hustle, and conventional tools stop working

10:55 – When success feels empty despite external wins

15:40 – Surrender vs. effort: knowing when to stop pushing

20:10 – Do leaders need to hit rock bottom to evolve?

24:30 – Soul wounds: the invisible identity driving success and collapse

29:45 – Why patterns show up in money, relationships, or health

34:20 – “Soul surgery”: how identity actually gets rebuilt

41:10 – Emotional processing vs. intellectual understanding

47:00 – Why addictions, endurance sports, and intensity can become escapes

53:40 – Childhood moments that silently shape adult identity

58:00 – Redefining power beyond ego and status

1:01:30 – The first honest question leaders must ask themselves

1:07:15 – Riding the wave instead of fighting it

1:09:00 – Where to connect with Colette

— Key Quotes from Colette Davenport —

“The harder I worked, the further away everything became.”

“We don’t go back to who you were. We let it collapse.”

“The soul wound is not a trauma. It’s the veil that allows us to experience being human.”

“Power is knowing self as source and seeing others the same way.”

— Connect With Colette Davenport —

Website: https://colettedavenport.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/colettedavenport/

— Connect with Julian and Executive Health —

LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/julianhayesii/

Ready to take your health, leadership, and performance to the next level? Request an introduction with Julian Hayes II. Link below. https://calendly.com/julian-exechealth/chemistry

Website — https://www.executivehealth.io/

***DISCLAIMER: The information shared is not meant to treat or diagnose any condition. This is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes. The content here is not intended to replace your relationship with your doctor and/or medical practitioner.

296. Why Success Is Lonely, Even When Everything Is "Working" | Colette Davenport