Ep. 397 - Why Your Nervous System Is Blocking Your Manifestation with Sarah Baldwin

Summary

Podcast Summary: Ep. 397 – Why Your Nervous System Is Blocking Your Manifestation with Sarah Baldwin

Podcast: EXPANDED by To Be Magnetic™
Air Date: March 6, 2026
Host: TBM Chief Content Officer Jessica Gill & Team
Guest: Sarah Baldwin, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner

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Episode Overview

This episode dives deep into the intersection of nervous system regulation and manifestation, exploring why many people’s subconscious nervous system responses become the very blocks preventing their desired manifestations from coming to fruition. Guest expert Sarah Baldwin, a seasoned somatic experiencing practitioner versed in trauma therapy and internal family systems (IFS), explains how befriending and regulating the nervous system—not bypassing it—is the real groundwork for sustainable change and true manifestation.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Nervous System as the Root of Manifestation Blocks

(00:00-11:28)

• Sarah Baldwin: “The nervous system is the foundation of everything. It’s the vehicle to unlock the life that we’re wanting. How do you step towards the things that you want? Regulate and befriend your nervous system. Show it, not tell it, that the life you want is safe.” (00:00)
• The nervous system is a self-protective system scanning every millisecond for safety, danger, or life threat. It uses past experiences (stored somatically) as its filter for all new possibilities, even (and especially) desired ones.
• Manifestation struggles or self-sabotage are not due to lack of will but because the nervous system has learned (rightly or wrongly) that “having it all” might not be safe.

2. How the Threat Detector Works

(04:00-11:28)

• The “threat detector” in the brain stem constantly assesses both external and internal cues for threat, referencing an internal database of every lived experience (even if you don’t consciously remember them).
• The nervous system doesn't require exact matches—just enough similarity for “danger” or “unsafe” to be triggered.
• Example from Sarah: Her own safety as a child was in the woods of New Hampshire; her system associates trees with safety, which brings calm even as an adult.

3. States of Dysregulation and Manifestation

(13:25-16:34)

• Sarah Baldwin: “There are three states of regulation... sympathetic nervous system (mobilization), dorsal vagal (shutdown/hibernation), and freeze (stuck between the two)... These are all self-protective.” (14:05)
• When the system perceives a threat in your expansion (e.g., being seen, making mistakes), it blocks you with one of these states.
• Manifestation feels impossible (the “invisible wall”)—classic symptoms include procrastination, overwhelm, anxiety, shutdown, or feeling blank.

4. The Importance of Regulation & “Building Capacity for Good”

(16:34-19:33)

• Even positive manifestations can feel uncomfortable or overwhelming until the nervous system’s capacity to receive and “hold the good” is expanded.
• Sarah Baldwin: “We are all holding the amount of good currently that our nervous system has the capacity for.” (17:43)
• The first time you experience safe love or purpose, it may feel terrifying—this is normal and part of expansion.

5. Parts Work: Inner Child, Protectors, and the Adult Self

(22:27-34:31)

• The nervous system works closely with “parts” of the psyche—the adult self, vulnerable child parts, and protector parts.
• Sarah Baldwin: “So as adult you says, ‘I’m going to step towards that,’ your nervous system says, ‘What does this remind me of?’ Being 14 and being bullied in school, because you want to start a personal brand means being seen. In that moment, the 14 year old is inhabiting your body.” (28:06)
• When you try to expand, it often triggers much younger, vulnerable parts—which immediately get protected by perfectionism, procrastination, people-pleasing, etc.
• The goal is not to force or bypass these parts but to “fall in love with them”—befriending, apologizing for pushing, and becoming the competent internal parent.

6. How to Begin the Healing Process

(38:18-44:58)

• The process must be gradual and gentle. Forcing younger parts to “revisit” trauma only retraumatizes.
• Befriend these parts through true curiosity, empathy, and attunement—just as you’d slowly befriend a scared foster child.
• Memorable Quote: “Your freedom and your aliveness is more important to me than anything else in the world... And it takes, everybody, what I'm talking about, that level of falling in love with these versions of you that have experienced pain. When you do that...you get every last thing you could ever want.” (42:53)
• True integration is the foundation of not only personal peace but powerful, authentic manifestation.

7. Selfhood, Intuition, and Living Authentically

(48:23-54:10)

• You discover intuition and magnetism not by following trends or external approval but by deepened connection to your self and renewed love for all your parts.
• The strongest manifestors and “expanders” in life are those who trust and follow their inner voice. External validation is a byproduct, not the goal.
• Sarah Baldwin: “If I tried to be somebody else...I would never be able to give the gifts that I’m supposed to give. And so...trust that you feel into adult you—this is who I am in the world. That’s how we are this beautiful tapestry. That’s how it all works.” (51:30)

8. The New Paradigm of Ambition and Purpose

(61:49-62:49)

• Rather than striving with desperation or lack, Sarah recommends tuning into your “why”—service, love, contribution—and letting that guide your actions and creations.
• Businesses and communities that operate from this “integrity of loving purpose” are the new model for growth and change.

9. A Radical Act: Allowing Yourself to Shine Fully

(62:49-64:27)

• Many highly sensitive or empathic people feel they shouldn’t be ‘big’ for fear of making others feel small. Sarah reframes this as a radical act of activism: “How dare you not shine big, because it’s through your bigness and your light that people find it inside themselves.” (62:49)
• Loving all your parts and allowing yourself to shine is necessary not only for you but for the healing of the world.

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Notable Quotes & Moments

• Sarah Baldwin: “Your nervous system has never let you down for one millisecond in your life. It has never hurt you. It’s the only thing in the world that loves you unconditionally and works night and day to keep you safe.” (04:13)
• On Regulation: “Regulation is the thing that every person on the planet wants and they don’t know it.” (08:07)
• On Befriending Parts: “The key is to be soft and attuned and loving—but also fiercely protective, like a lioness. That’s how your younger parts can finally feel safe to be themselves.” (28:06)
• On Manifesting: "When you do that, the life you want is right there on the other side." (34:31)
• On Purpose: "The strongest thing is when the collaborator is your truest self, your soul, and the universe." (51:30)
• On Business: "Lack is I have to control the experience. Abundance is, what is my heart beaming to share? When your parts come first, then your purpose, then magic happens." (61:49)
• On Shining: "It’s a radical act of activism to say, I am going to shine big so that people can find the light inside of them." (62:49)

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Actionable Tools & Practices

(Throughout and at 65:33)

• Use TBM’s Deep Imaginings (DI): Regulate before expanding—special DI sets for fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
• Practice “befriending” your younger parts gently; don’t force revisiting trauma.
• Apologize to protective parts, honor their intentions, and promise to protect your younger selves moving forward.
• Practice “showing” (not just telling) your nervous system that new experiences are safe by gradual exposure and praise.
• Trust your inner voice—let curiosity, love, and service drive you rather than lack or force.

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• 00:00-05:11 — Sarah frames the nervous system as a love poem to yourself; how it always aims to protect.
• 13:25-16:34 — The nervous system's three self-protective states and how they block manifestation.
• 22:27-34:31 — Introduction to “parts” (IFS, inner child) and why unblocking means integrating, not bypassing, younger selves.
• 38:18-44:58 — How to gently begin parts work and befriending difficult internal experiences.
• 51:30-54:10 — On intuition, authenticity, and trusting your inner voice as your guide.
• 62:49-64:27 — The necessity and radical nature of fully receiving and shining your light.

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Conclusion & Where to Learn More

• Connect with Sarah Baldwin:
  • Instagram: @sarahbcoaching
  • Website: sarahbaldwincoaching.com
  • Podcast & program: "You Make Sense"
• TBM Tools: Use the Deep Imaginings, especially the “Regulate DI” or “Inner Child DI,” as starting points for nervous system regulation and parts work.

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Final Takeaway:
To unlock your manifestations, you must gently, fiercely, and lovingly befriend your own nervous system and integrate the younger, protective parts that learned (for good reason) what felt safe and unsafe. The pathway to expansion isn’t force—but radical compassion and self-parenting, until your whole system feels safe enough to receive and step into the life you truly want.

Transcript

[Sarah Baldwin]

The nervous system is the foundation of everything. It's the vehicle to unlock the life that we're wanting. How do you step towards the things that you want? Regulate and befriend your nervous system. Show it, not tell it that the life you want is safe. We do those things. The life you want is right there on the other side.

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

You have likely heard about nervous system regulation. Maybe you are familiar with the importance of it, how it may be blocking your manifestations. But in this episode we're going to really go into depth of how our nervous system is impacting our blocks, our manifestations, and why it is creating self sabotage in the things that we truly want. Nervous system regulation is something that we've been talking about at TBM for years. There is a reason that we have nervous system regulating tools at the top of all of our deep imaginings. It is why we started working with Janelle Nelson, a somatic practitioner, to bring a lot of these tools into it. Because if our body is not online with our goals, then we're not going to reach our manifestations. And in this episode today, I am so excited for guest Sarah Baldwin. She's a somatic experiencing practitioner who is versed in internal family systems, nervous system work, healing modalities, trauma therapy. And she breaks down exactly what is happening in our manifestation blocks so clearly when it comes to our nervous system and how to start clear, loving on the parts of us, how to be gentle with those parts that are blocking us with those narratives, with those stories. In the episode, she touches on a segment around how to converse with those parts. If you're looking for a tool to do this within the TBM work, stick around to the end of the episode and I'll give you some tips. And I also just want to flag that we were so excited to record this episode that the first 10 minutes or so a computer fan got in the way of a little bit of the audio and we eventually got it to resolve. But typically we'd cut that out of an episode.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

We felt like it was so good

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

and so spot on, especially to the manifestation work. So bear with us for the audio in the first 10 minutes. But what Sarah's saying is just so potent, you will be quoting this episode, you will be returning to it. It is the medicine, it is the nervous system bomb for everyone right now. Especially with so much going on in the world and thinking, how do I even have space for goodness in my life? This episode is going to be it.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

Sarah Baldwin, thank you so much for joining us on Expanded. You have Been on our manifestation list for guests for quite some time. So I'm so excited that this is all aligning.

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

I'm so glad to be here. And I just think our work comes together in such a beautiful way. And a lot of times it's like a quilt, you know, patchwork, where we all need these different things to come together to bring us into wholeness and life we want. So that makes me just really excited to be here with you.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

Our audience is familiar with the term nervous system work. They've heard us talk about regulation, but I think going in today deeper a little bit and how dysregulation shows up in our lives, how it really is the thing that is that thread underneath everything of what we're really manifesting from. You know, we like to say at tbm, like you're not manifesting from your conscious thoughts, it's from your subconscious, but your subconscious is so intertwined with your nervous system, like they are one in the same of what's going on down there. And really pulling up from your expertise. What does that all look like? What is the nervous system? How can people start relating to it in a different way? So I know we're going to dive into all of that, but I just have so many questions on this topic for you.

[Sarah Baldwin]

Well, this is wildly complex work.

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

And what I try to do is

[Sarah Baldwin]

distill it down in a way that

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

we can actually understand and digest. And so our nervous system, for all intents and purposes, it's our self protective system.

[Sarah Baldwin]

In learning this work, as an expert

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

in this field, when I was reading all the literature, research and science behind

[Sarah Baldwin]

it, I really began to cry.

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

And as I was reading it, I said, this is the most beautiful love poem ever written. What I mean by that is our nervous system, this protective system that lives subcortically in our body now connected to the cortical thinking brain. So it lives in our body. It has never let us down for one millisecond in our life. People let us down because nobody's perfect. People don't show up for us. People hurt us. Your nervous system has never hurt you. It has never let you down. You are the only person on the entire planet that it cares about. And all that it cares about is making sure that you are safe. What a beautiful thing that is that there's a system inside of you. For everyone listening. It's inside of you and it loves you. And it loves nobody else but you. And it works night and day. It actually is friends with every organ in your body. It works with every organ system, they're all working together to keep you safe.

[Sarah Baldwin]

And the nervous system is like the

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

conductor of it and says, okay, buddy, we don't think that Sarah's in safety right now, so what do we need to do to make her protective? So it's our self protective system. That's its job. It is looking out every single millisecond of our lives. That's very fast. Thousand of those in a second. This is our threat detector, which lives in our brain stem. This is its job, which is the leader of the nervous system. And it looks out and it says, is that safe, dangerous or life threatening? Is that amount of exposure safe, dangerous or life threatening? Is it safe to use your voice? Is it safe to be seen? Is it safe to be known? Is it safe to take up space? Is it safe to rest? Is it safe to have pleasure? Is it safe to receive without suffering? All things and down to the details of the way that I'm tilting my head, Is it safe, dangerous, or life threatening? The way this person is gazing at me is safe, dangerous, or life threatening. So every detail of our lives now, how does it decide? Well, the beautiful thing about every unbroken, perfectly working human that's listening to this right now, you are so exquisite that you have this internal database that lives in your brain. It has every lived experience inside of it you've ever had. Also lives in our body. You don't have memories, you don't have to remember them. They're all in there, everything. The good things, the bad things, and the traumatizing things. So when the threat detector looks out into the world, it also looks internally. That's called interoception. But when it looks out into the world to see if you're safe or not, the way it decides is by resourcing or looking to your internal database. Now, the threat detector, it doesn't look for identical matches. Those are nice. But if it doesn't need an identical match, it can have a flavoring of similarity. So enough of a similarity, it says, that's a match. So I'm going to give a very simple example of how this works. I, in my front yard, had this beautiful tree outside of my office. And when I look at that tree, I immediately smiled and I took a deeper breath and I felt more regulated. We think we want to manifest all these things, which we might want the thing, but you can have all the things in the world, and if you don't experience them from regulation, you won't be able to enjoy any of them. When I look at this tree, all of a sudden, oh, that's so nice. And I feel good. Why did that happen? Because the threat detector said, what intel do we have on nature trees? So it looks to my past, it's going to. First look to your childhood. That's where we began, of course. And for me, I grew up in a very abusive, dangerous home. No safety there. And I grew up in the middle of the woods in New Hampshire. And the woods was where I found safety. I used to make magical homes. I would go out into the woods and that was my only reprieve. And so for my nervous system, bugs are safe, spiders are safe, trees are safe, moss is safe, dirt is safe. Everything in nature is yummy and awesome because that was a safe refuge. So all it takes happens in a millisecond. I look to that and I feel great now. For a lot of us, even if you didn't have a childhood like mine, none of us go through life unscathed by overwhelming and traumatizing things. And so the threat detector has three options. Is that safe, is that dangerous, or is it life threatening? So if it says that's safe based on past, what it does is it brings us into something called our ventral vagal complex. That's what regulation is. And I say this a lot. Regulation is the thing that every person on the planet wants and they don't know it. Such an unsexy thing to think I want my ventral vagal complex. They're telling me that's what I want. The answer is yes. And the truth is it's not that we are chronically or always in this state of regulation. We actually wouldn't want that because we would be able to protect ourselves from dangerous things. But that I'm predominantly there and I know how to be there. When we're in regulation, we experience things like ease, wonder, contentment, fulfillment, curiosity, play, joy, excitement, connection. All the things we want. We're a full self. And not only that, but when we're there, it's as if our nervous system is standing at our side. Like this beautiful, brilliant, most loving guards that are standing at our side, ready to do something if they need to, but they're not actively protecting us. And that means if you think of the visual, if you're seeing this visually or just listening, think about the visual of two guards or many guards standing at your side. But I'm exposed. And that means that things can come towards me. I can manifest things, I can call things in and I can also also go out and show the world to Go towards the things I want that I'm not blocked. One of the predominant reasons why so many of us struggle to live the lives we are called to live is because our nervous system does not yet know that that life is safe for us. So this work is truly the foundation of how we embody and manifest the life we want. So it has to think, your nervous system has to believe that the things you want are safe for you. Now think about this. I call this the dangling carrot thing. So what the universe tends to do, for every single person I've worked with, the thing we want the most, those are our dangling carrots that our soul says, I want to do this thing, I want this thing. Those things are going to require our greatest healing. Wherein lies your greatest desire, Lies your greatest healing. And that's what I mean about the sense of humor for our the universe. Because why in the world would we ever step towards this hard stuff of healing if it wasn't to get towards the thing that that's hunting me. I can't put it down. And so whatever your dangling carrot is, more often than not it has flavoring of things in the past that were even dangerous or inhibit. So when it comes to manifesting the life we wanted to think about, what does it usually require? Whether it's around purpose or a partner, it's going to require stuff like being seen, being known, taking up space. The next one is important. Making a mistake, saying things wrong, being vulnerable, reaching out to someone and asking for help. See me in my fullness, support me, help me, and many other things.

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

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[Sarah Baldwin]

The moment though, you go to mobilize towards the thing that you want, the threat detector says, ah, they're actually going towards it. The love of my life is going towards something right now. Let me look to the database. Is it safe? What are they going to do? Use their voice, be seen, take up space, take risks, make mistakes, ask for help. All the different things. Be their full self in the world. That was not safe in the past or it wasn't available for us. What are they doing? Last time we did that, we were abandoned, we were harmed, we were hurt, we were ridiculed. Love was conditional. You had to be. You can't be your full self. You have to be what other people want you to be. This is not going to be okay. Oh my gosh, this is not going to be okay. I don't know what Sarah's doing.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

She's lost it.

[Sarah Baldwin]

I need to stop her. So the threat detector talks to the rest of your nervous system. There are three states of regulation that it has to talk to something called your sympathetic nervous system. That's all about mobilizing. Think of it like a cheetah on the run. You got to do something. It goes to second state is your dorsal vagal complex. Think about a bear in hibernation. So it's the polar opposite of a cheetah running. This is all about energy conservation. This is where things like apathy, hopelessness, depression, dissociation lives. I'm in a funk. Everything feels impossible. I can't even think. I'm just shutting down. Sympathetic is the opposites. Anxiety, worry, frustration, fear, terror, rage, racing thoughts, catastrophizing, etc. And then we have this other State called freeze. Think of that like a deer in headlights. And that's two equal and opposite forces come together, rendering us stuck. It's like a finger trap. I'm stuck. I have all this sympathetic energy, but I can't do anything. So this is. I have to, but I can't. I have to, but I can't. I have to start the thing. I can't start the thing. I have to start the thing. I can't start that thing. So those are the three states that our nervous system protects us with. And it'll choose whichever one that worked in the past to keep us safe, because it worked. So anyway, you go towards dating or you go towards wanting to start that business, and your nervous system, all of a sudden, instead of standing at your side, it stands in front of you. It blocks you. Think of it, if a drawbridge came down in front of you, how the heck are you going to get that down? What are you going to do? You can't, it's blocking you. So it blocks you from stepping into the life you want. That's the self protection. The self protection. The result of it brilliantly protecting you is that you can't step towards the things that you want, but also the things you want can't come towards you. And those are the symptoms of active self protection. So if my nervous system doesn't think that the life I want is safe, and I smell, because for the majority of us, the things we want are going to replicate something in the past that wasn't entirely available or safe. It will stop you in your tracks. And I used to call this personally, the invisible wall. I am trying so hard and I'm a really strong willed person. I would sit for 8 hours, 10 hours at my computer. You're gonna do this thing. And I would go into dysregulation. I'd either go blank, shut down, I need to take a nap, or I'd have all this energy, like, oh, I'm wasting time. I have to do this thing. I have 20 tabs out. Which do you start with? Do I start with this? Do I start with this? Do I start with this? And then I would go blank. But I'd be anxious. I have to. I can't, I have to, I can't, I have to. I can't. Can't make a decision. I don't know where to start.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

Huh.

[Sarah Baldwin]

I'm overwhelmed. And then I go clean the bathroom for the 10th time today and I'm ordering all this stuff from Amazon, like, what am I doing? Because I'M frozen. And so what's true here is what we have to do is we have to take the hand of our loving nervous system and say, nervous system. I know that you don't think that the life that I want is safe for me, but let me show you that I am safe so that you can rest and I can be free. Let me show you that I am safe so that you can rest and I can be free. Such exquisite love story. Because when we're regulated, our nervous system is resting, meaning it doesn't have to work so hard and we want to rest. That's how you come into health and homeostasis in your body, but it's how you so manifest health in your body. How do you do that? Regulate your nervous system? How do you step towards the things that you want, regulate and befriend your nervous system? And when we do that, life opens up in the most miraculous ways. But one important caveat to that is when you come into regulation and you start to manifest the life you want, it is not going to feel good at first. A lot of the time, which is surprising to people. That is normal. And it's like the metaphor I use is this. Imagine if you were in a dark room for one year, five years, 10 years, and you had the ability to see, but it was so dark, and all you would think about is, I just want to go outside and see the sun and the trees and hear the sounds of birds and kids laughing and people that I love that I can hug. But when you got outside on a sunny day, you would look to the sun and the blue sky and you would close your eyes and you would say, it's too bright. I can't take it all in. And the thing is, everybody, it wouldn't be physiologically possible for you to keep your eyes open at first. At first is the important part of that. You have to build your capacity for your eyes to adjust to more and more light. So the same goes for bringing in the things that we desire. They aren't going to just feel good at first. We have to build our capacity to hold the good. And we are all holding the amount of good currently that our nervous system has the capacity for. And so I just like to say that because people think like, well, once I get that thing, it's just going to feel great. Oh, no. The first time you experience safe love in a romantic partnership, it's going to feel terrifying, overwhelming. Oh, my gosh, what is this? And that is a normal part of the process. So it's not just work of let me show my nervous system that the life I want to manifest is safe. That's a part of it. But it's also let me show my nervous system that the next iteration of what that looks like, the goodness of it is actually for me to receive.

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

Oh my gosh.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

This whole like segment that you're talking about is everything to the to be magnetic work and community. Like I really, I feel so seen even hearing this because I'm like, yup, yup, yup. This is so intrinsic to this process. And you know, the way that you talk about the invisible wall, we talk about them as blocks. When people are are their relationship to block so many times can be like, I want to unblock and remove this thing out of my way so I can get the manifestation. And you have to understand what you're talking about there. Like you're not trying to get rid of your nervous system. You're not trying to shut it down, disconnect from it, push it aside, ignore it, punch through it. It's to it. The softening is what is unblocking. That's allowing it to step aside. That's allowing that flow to enter. It's not a relationship of force. It's not a relationship of compartmentalizing. It's not a relationship of becoming something you're not. It's working with what you already are and attuning to it and meeting that need. And I feel like it's such a, such a missing piece that is not talked about in goal setting, in manifestation, in up leveling, in life, in all of these next stages and steps. I mean, how many times have we heard the story of someone who like manifests the greatest thing and they're like, it's not that great. Like I don't feel good here. And it's like, okay, why? This is why I want to touch in a little bit when you talk about those different states. So I can just feel the audience right now think about their manifestation, think about the thing they're calling in. Okay, what's the story they have around it? There's a lot of daydreamers in here, myself included, who's like, I love planning. I like drawing out the vision. I'm going to daydream about it. It feels so safe, secure. I feel myself stepping into it. And then when I look at my actual life and what I need to change on a day to day basis to step into it, that's where that free shutdown comes in. Like when it comes to my career and My work with TBM I feel so at ease with. But when it comes to launching, like my personal brand, that wall is like, we know safely how to show up with tbm. We figure that out. We're expanding every day. Personal brand. It feels like being back in high school and bullied by kids again. Like, that's the energy that comes up. What is one thing when we're befriending that nervous system, when we're moving out of the daydreaming, when we're like, okay, what is the one action they can start to take or way they can start to connect with their nervous system a little bit to just start that softening process?

[Sarah Baldwin]

Well, I hope you don't mind that I'm going to give you a really complex answer. Perfect. Because I want everyone listening to understand this next piece. That is an integral puzzle piece. If you want this to actually work and for it to work fast, is that you brought up something really important. You said, it's like, I'm back in. Did you say middle school or high school? Being bullied?

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

Honestly, both. But high school, freshman year, I'm like vivid picture.

[Sarah Baldwin]

That's right. Okay, so I mix a lot of modalities, somatic, therapeutic modalities together. I think that they all need each other. We're complex beings and there's not one specific thing. So what I'll say is the nervous system is the foundation of everything. It's the vehicle to unlock the life that we're wanting. It also creates your whole lived experience, thoughts, perception, experience of self, others in the world around you, sensations, et cetera. Okay. It's the gatekeeper. There's another piece here though, and that is parts work. Very, very, very, very important. And I do not think that you can do this work successfully without this puzzle piece. Here's what I mean by that. So our nervous system, parts. Parts work everyone. Internal family systems is a model I use. But inner child work, they're one in the same. We all have different versions of us. So what that essentially means is we have our adult self. That is our numeric age. That's the version of us who resides here in 2026. Now, for everyone listening, that's the version of you. And you just described this. When you're at working with to be magnetic, you are. It sounds like in adult you, you feel usually everybody listening. This is the version of us when we feel like the great sequoia tree. I am anchored, I am here, I am present. I know that everyone is deserving of taking up space. Me too. I know everything's going to be okay. I am free to be me also. Nothing has to be perfect. Everything is going to be okay. I am flowing down the river of life with ease. I feel like my most adult self, highest self, soul, self, they're all intertwined together. That in internal family systems terms is called self. I think of this as our, you know, it's our adult self. Now here's what happens in life. None of us, as one of my mentors, Peter Levine says, none of us go through life unscathed by trauma. And so what happens is we're going through life. Life is beautiful and hard. And when we experience overwhelming or traumatizing things as we develop, parts of us fragment off of our whole self. So what occurs is, I'm going to use the example of you in high school. So in middle school, so this beautiful, precious, amazing, perfect little girl. Because even though teenagers think they're grown ups, they're still little kids. This beautiful little girl. And being the bright light that she was and shining brightly. Here's what kids do who aren't getting their needs met at home. They project that the only place that they can put their anger or their disappointment is not onto their parents. It wouldn't be safe, especially if they have unsafe homes. So what they do is they put it onto the bright light that is mirroring back to them their own feelings of I'm not good enough. So they found you this beautiful bright light and said, stop poking at the ways in which I don't feel good enough. And I couldn't take this anger out on my parent. So I'm going to take it out on you because I have to do something with this anger and they project it onto you. And this precious little girl learned if I shine really bright and I'm big, I'm my full self, I get hurt. So that's a vulnerable part. Everybody listening. We have two types of parts, vulnerable parts and protective parts. Now that vulnerable part, even for all of you listening, if you had loving parents or not loving, but even with loving parents, usually they didn't know how to parent. So what happens? This vulnerable, precious girl goes home. And even with loving parents, our parents might not know what to do. So they just, you know, let's make cookies or let's go shopping or you're fine, honey, you know what they're not doing, they're just doing it because they're hurting. So none of those things actually are giving you what you need. So what happens is that vulnerable part says, oh my gosh, I'm all alone with this. And so in that moment in time, we develop something called an internal protector. And the parts travel in pairs. We have vulnerable parts that were hurt and they're protectors that learn to protect them. The protector says, never again will I let you experience that, my love. And so we have tons of different types of protectors. I'll name some because I know some. Everybody here, you've got them. Protectors. Here's one. A perfectionist. If I'm just perfect and I get everything right, then that part will never get hurt again. So I am hyper vigilant. I'm frozen a lot of the time. I can't complete things because it has to be perfect. If it's not perfect, I'm not gonna be okay. Another protector, striving part. And if I strive, then I'll have some semblance of love because maybe I'm not getting love at home. So I set a bar. Once I get there, I raise the bar. I don't enjoy it for even one second. And then I set the bar and I raise the bar and I set the bar and raise the bar. It's never enough. It's never enough. That's all. Being like a workaholic, fawning part. I'm just nice all the time. I become whatever I think everyone else wants me to be in order to be safe. A part that shuts us down. I just become really small and I can't let myself be seen. Dissociative part. I can't even think about the things that I want to do. So those are all protective parts. So guess what occurs as I say, I'm going to go do like you're saying. Oh, I feel this call in my life to do this other thing too. Like a personal brand that's knocking at your soul's, knocking at you, saying there's

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

more for you, my love.

[Sarah Baldwin]

Guess what? That unfinished business of that sweet 14 year old who when she shined bright, it wasn't safe. I need to rescue her. And I'm going to give you this carrot to adult you. The carrot. You think it's about that. And yeah, it's sort of about that. Because that'll help a lot of people in the world. But you know what it's really about? I need you, this warrior woman, this lioness that you are. I need you to work hard to get your nervous system regulated and for you to hold, to build your capacity as this warrior, to hold scary stuff. Because guess what? I'm gonna need you to travel back to that 14 year old in that classroom. You'd adult you to go into that classroom with her and I'm gonna need you to meet her and become the mother, the parent. Even with loving parents, they couldn't do everything. I need you to make up for it and become the parent that part never had. And there are two qualities everybody to being a competent protector. That's what it's called. Number one, you are soft and attuned and loving. You have to feel empathy for these parts of ourselves, just like a lioness would with her cubs. Done a lot of research with animals and because the system, the nervous system is a mammalian system and they're soft and loving with their young. So soft, like they're tired from hunting but yet they don't mind the baby's biting them and they're like, that's fine, whatever, it's okay. Soft and loving. But that's not the only thing a lioness is. She is ferociously protective. And that means if anyone gets near her cubs, she will not be afraid of you and she will maul you to death happily. Because her cubs are the most important thing to her. Just like the matriarchal elephant now because of that. Yet if you look at baby elephants or baby lion cubs in the wild, they're living in one of the most dangerous places in the world. And yet those babies are free to be themselves and they are wholly and completely playful. Have you ever seen a baby elephant in the wild? They're just like playing with their trunk and they're like, I'm having the best time. This is great, life is great. Why are they so free to be them? Because their nervous system knows I have an ultimate protector here that no matter what to the death will protect me and is also my refuge for safety. And so you see, when we go to try to step towards and manifest the life we want, this is complex stuff. It's not just our nervous system. Your nervous system works with your parts. So as adult users, I'm going to go try to step towards that. Your nervous system says what does this remind me of? Looks to the database. Being 14 and being bullied in school because you want to start a personal brand that means being seen in that moment of you trying to step towards that the 14 year old, because she's the one being reminded of inhabits your body and everyone listening. Your nervous system, it's called your vagal tone will reshape to when you were 14 years old. For all intensive purposes, that means on a neuroscience level you have Traveled time. You are no longer in 2026. Adult you is not here. The 14 year old is. And the 14 year old is going to feel and experience everything she felt back then. And what's going to happen is adult going to say, let's drive towards this thing, let's do this thing. It's not that hard. What's wrong with you? All the while you don't realize there's a 14 year old body saying, I'm scared, I don't want to feel that again. It felt like annihilation. I had nowhere to hide, I had nowhere to go. You don't understand. This is so scary. I can't do it. And your nervous system says, my love, I know she's not listening. Adult parts, they have a very hard time knowing we're here. But I'm listening. And don't worry, I will not let her do that to you again. So I'll put the drawbridge up and she won't be able to do it. And the woman says thank you because that would be so scary and so painful. That's the protective parts, putting the drawbridge up. So yes, we have to befriend our nervous system. That's the first step. But number two, you have to get to know the parts that are afraid of the life that you're trying to step towards. And there are going to be parts that are afraid of it because something they experienced in the past seems similar to them and they are sure it's going to be the same. The protective parts work hand in hand with your nervous system.

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

They're friends.

[Sarah Baldwin]

So your nervous system is 500 million years old, pretty ancient. And your protective parts saved your life, meaning they're very strong and they're both stronger than you, stronger than your strong will. So what we have to do very importantly is we have to, number one, work the muscle of being in our adult self, which I'll help, I'll give a tool in just one second on

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

how to do that.

[Sarah Baldwin]

What does it feel like to be adult? Me. And then I have to get to know my love, my love, who is the part that is afraid of this life we're going to step into. We have to fall in love with them. And we have to, as we fall in love, we listen to them and we understand why it's so scary and we apologize. I'm sorry I was pushing you faster than you were ready. That's the vulnerable part. And then we get to know who's the part that's been keeping me stuck, that I'VE been an absolute asshole to. That's the part. Procrastinate and we beat ourselves up. What the fuck is wrong with me? I suck. Blah, blah, blah. No, that's a part. She's probably also 14 and she's lonely and tired and she's saved that other part's life and we have to bow to her and say, I'm sorry that I wasn't here to protect, but I am now. Show these parts that I am the lion of the lioness. And you better believe no people who are harmful or dangerous are ever going to get near you again over my dead body. And not only that, but this life we're going into, it's for the parts too. They get to have the freedom they never got. And if our parts think that we are trying to use them or manipulate them, you'll never get unstuck.

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

Which.

[Sarah Baldwin]

It's like, think about that. If you had a kid and they were upset and you were on vacation and you just wanted your teenager to stop being upset and you said all the right words, like you were nice, but they could feel you have an agenda. And it's not to make me feel better. It's for you to have a good time. And so really, this work is, number one, befriend your nervous system. Work with it, show it, not tell it that the life you want is safe. Befriend it. Number two, get to know the parts that are so afraid of the life that you're wanting to step in. They built a beautiful prison to live inside of. And our job as the warrior self, the lion or lioness self, is to say, we don't have to live in a prison anymore because I'm here now. You do those things. The life you want is right there on the other side.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

Oh, it's so beautiful. It gets me emotional. Like thinking about it, even as you were talking, I could feel my parts being like, yeah, okay, thank you. Like, they were like softening so much in the moment.

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

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[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

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[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

It's one of the things that a lot of people in our community like. We have three pillars to our manifestation method. One is the unblocking process, doing this inner work, this reparenting. One is the expansion. Like seeing other people live it, breathe it, getting those examples flooding the system, seeing them safe, doing the thing, knowing, teaching ourselves that, and then following through and taking that aligned action. And I think a lot of people take a ton of action and they find a lot of expanders and they may be aware of their blocks. They may consciously be like, yep, okay, it's my 14 year old self. Got it. But that felt experience in the body is one of the scariest things I think for people to open themselves up to that, especially if there's really traumatic situations that are coming up for people. It feels like Pandora's box. It's like, well how can I let this steam off or how can I attune to this part? But almost there's like a resistance that comes up, which is, I don't want to get swallowed by this, so I'm only going to titrate or pull out a tiny bit at a time. What would you say for someone who has a lot of resistance in going in and doing that inner work?

[Sarah Baldwin]

Well, and I'll say this to everyone listening is I have some of the worst complex trauma a human could possibly have for many reasons or in many ways a miracle that I'm here. It's not really a miracle. It's that I found this work, but evil things that lasted for, oh, decades, a decade and a half. So I say that because I have parts that have experienced some of the most overwhelming traumas that are possible. And the way that we do this work, I'm going to use it. I speak in a lot of metaphors, so I'm going to use another one. I hope that makes sense. Imagine for everyone listening, that all of a sudden, knock, knock, knock at your front door, and you open the door and there's this precious little kid, maybe a few. Couple different kids, different ages, and they all have little suitcases and they have nowhere else to go but inside of your house. And they look just strikingly like you did. And they come into your home and they all have a case file from the social worker. And you read it and, oh, my gosh, this is just like my history. And these little precious ones are the little ewes that live inside of your body and get triggered every time they're reminded of something from the past. So for some of that, you. That might be. You get this little kid in your house and they were parentified. That means that they never got to be a kid. They had to take care of the adults around them. So they're like a little adult and. And they're looking at you and they're just apologizing all the time to you. So. Oh, sorry. I. I didn't mean to do. Oh, sorry. I left the light on. I shouldn't have done it. Are you okay? They asked, you asked, what they want to eat. Well, what do you want? Whatever you want. It's all okay. Or we have parts that were neglected, so they don't know how to ask for help. So when you say, how was your day? They say, oh, it's fine. I'm gonna go. I'm just gonna go in my room. They don't know how to open up or other parts that have to get everything right. So they're just working so hard to do that. So anyway, those are all the different. We have many different other types. But just imagine some of those, you look at their case file and, you know, some of the really hard things they went through, like the memories that you have of being humiliated in school. Some of the worst ones. Yeah. And you're seeing this little precious girl who just. She thinks she's unlovable. She thinks she's, ugh. I'm just not as pretty as anybody else. I'm not as smart. I'm pathetic. I just can't get anything right. I wish I was invisible. And you're looking at this beautiful girl. She doesn't know she's beautiful. And so here's what we would never do. Would I ever sit down and say, hey, I read about this thing, about that thing that happened at school, and everyone was laughing at you, and then that guy was like, like, cheated on you with your best friend. And then they all laughed at you. And then no one was your friend. And you were just so humiliating. Remember how awful that was? How awful was that? Tell me how awful it was. I want to hear about that. Or, hey, to this other part. Do you remember when you were abused by your mother, your stepfather, your father? And how awful that was? Remember the terror? Tell me about the terror. I want to hear more about that. No one would ever do that. What would I do? I read that and I would say, oh, she doesn't know how beautiful she is and how lovable. I don't just mean physically how perfect she is. And I would say, I'm going to just slowly show her that as she is, is right. I'm not going to do it just with words. I'm going to feel it. So I feel, as I look at her, oh, she's so brilliant. I want to know what she's thinks because everything so, my God, the way she sees the world. So I might say, hey, what do you think about the way that the trees that are growing in the backyard, aren't they amazing? The way the branches are. Like, what do you think about that? We start talking about it and I'm so intrigued by what she thinks about nature and its ability to, you know, I'm like, what do you think about the fact that trees have 50% of our DNA? Isn't that crazy? And like, let's say she has an inquisitive mind, loves philosophy, and she starts talking about it and I'm just gonna get so interested in her and not in a put on way, everybody. That's what's really important. Not like, oh, this part needs to be loved. You're really lovable. That will not work. What needs to happen is true real feelings and empathy that I feel towards this part of me. So if I have a little part that's terrified of people scared, I wouldn't say, well, I'm giving you this beautiful home. Give me a hug. Come on, you're safe. That's what we do about manifesting.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

Come on.

[Sarah Baldwin]

And so I would say, oh, people haven't been safe. So she's sitting on one end of the couch as we're watching a movie. And I would say, would you mind if I sit on the other end? Okay, I guess. Okay, great. I'll just be over here. And I would purposely not look at her too much because I don't want to overwhelm her. Just slowly show her adults are safe and I don't want anything back, my dear. And you know, this, this work, every time I think about it, it makes me really emotional because what healing actually is is the most beautiful love story. There's one in my own journey where I remember as I was working with all, every last part, integrating them, I fell so in love that I said, and I have really big time striving parts that would show up in my truest self. I said to the parts that had worked so hard to protect me and the parts that were so vulnerable, I said, your freedom and your aliveness is more important to me than anything else in the world. It's more important than a husband. It's more important than having children of my own. It's more important than my purpose and money and anything else. Just to see you free and alive. And it takes everybody. What I'm talking about, that level of falling in love with these versions of you that have experienced pain. When you do that, you know what the irony is? You get every last thing you could ever want. Because now they know there is a parent here that chooses me above everything else here that not only chooses me, but sees me, said this to my parts. I said, you will always be my firstborn, no matter what. And this is also scientific. So if you think it's kind of. Well, it's actually also science, but it requires this level of felt sense that I'm showing you. You are the most beautiful gem. I am the luckiest to be your mom, to be your dad. I am the luckiest in the whole world. And because of that, I will protect you from anything that ever could come towards you again. People can say things to me, but they can never say it to you. Always have that in me. And do you know what happens? Our parts actually believe it when we feel it that much. And then they become like the little elephant, playful. They say, oh, I get to be a part of this thing that you're doing. And more and more the beautiful thing is about whatever we want to manifest in our lives, especially around particularly purpose, is that the people you're meant to serve, guess what? They're going to have parts that are just like yours. Maybe you want to start like art classes and you have parts that are so creative, but they got inhibited because they felt like at one point you're not an artist anymore because you're not getting it right. Or dance classes. At some point we're told we can't dance or something.

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

It's ridiculous.

[Sarah Baldwin]

And your parts get to say, show up and say, oh, my parents showed me my internal mom or dad that as I am is okay. And I see all these people in front of me who are inhibited and scared little parts of them. And I get to help them now. And this is so great. They're my people. And so when you're in your purpose, you're going to find that you're going to be with people who have internal parts that were just like yours. And this beautiful tapestry, this, the most complex thing, you know, the human psyche experience is so complex. And this is the work, the nervous system work and parts work together that unlocks the life you want. But it has to be from the level of felt sense that I hope everyone could feel. That truest love that I have for my parts. And this is coming from somebody who, like, I was so mean to myself. I was like, I am awful, disgusting. I don't deserve to be alive. Who would ever listen to me? I'm stupid. Because it was all things I was told and to. Oh, that's not true. In fact, if you look at nature, nothing in nature apologizes for its own becoming. Here I am, the peony, the sequoia tree, the fern. I should be here because I am. And so this, this work together. When we feel the knock at our, our soul, truest self that says, hey, it's time to manifest this thing. It's time. This is where you're headed. We can get there with ease, but it requires this work for sure.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

Oh, so beautiful. So beautiful and moving and touching and inspiring on so many levels. And I think as so many shifts are happening collectively in the world, things feel out of control. How we have functioned and witnessed ourselves in society and what our purpose is and why we're here. And all of these things is changing so rapidly. And I think our hypothesis at the brand is really that the way through is through that connection to self. It's not looking to the outside world to tell you who you are, who you need to be, what you need to fit into, how you need to create your social media, what company you need to start, what subjects you need to learn. Like to not let the outside programming infiltrate and to deepen that connection with self. And in unburdening all of these younger selves and in this reconnection to all these younger selves, like that's where your magic is, that 14 year old self, like that part of me had a light that I might be disconnected with and could bring something really magical to myself now in 2026. And so I really feel like this is everything, like this is the work to be done. If you want to move through life with ease, with purpose, with love, with compassion, without sourcing external validation, without sourcing external safety, it starts within. Like so many people say that, but I feel like the way that you explained just really makes so much sense of why we have to stop looking for the outside confirmation of who we are. And even seeing that our, our impulse to do that as our protector parts, as our nervous system scanning for the threat and say, oh, I see what you're doing. And like coming back to self again,

[Sarah Baldwin]

you know, if we look at everything in nature, it's not like, how should I be? I don't know, what's the trends right now. It's just I am what I am. For me, I've never looked at any of that. And about when I was a kid, the only safety I had, I had an aunt complex, but I didn't live with them. And grandma. But the only safety in my house was Mr. Rogers and Bob Ross. And I turned them on. And when I watched Mr. Rogers, I felt like there was somebody there who loved me and he understood me somehow and he was always there. And when I was feeling complex things, he knew how to help me process them. And at the time, Mr. Rogers, I've watched the documentary about him. People are like, who the hell's gonna want to watch this? It's so slow. You're gonna feed fish for a minute and then you're gonna like put your feet in a kiddie pool, whatever, and saved my life. And so years ago I got this knock at my own door and it was like, you're Gonna do that for adults. That's what you're here to do. It's part of what you're here to do. And so I was like, okay. And I feel into it. I feel into. When you're anchored in truth, you hear the still small voice. Intuition's not loud, everybody. If you have a voice that's. You better do that thing now. If you don't do it now, it's gonna be okay. That's a protective part. Intuition is so unbothered. It's just quiet, slow. You could do it now, you could do it never. You'll always learn something. It's all okay. But it was saying that to me. And so I started my own podcast and working on transitioning that to a TV show. The way that Mr. Rogers did this for me and I've pitched this to, I had spoken an event and I've been pitching it this way for a long time. And people, some people are like, what? You're going to pitch it that way? And then a big agent at an agency, ca, the biggest agency in the world, she said, what do you want to do? And I said, you know, feel really called to do this? And pitched it to her. I said, it's like Mr. Rogers for adults. And she was like, amazing. And my point in what I'm sharing is that could be as far from where culture is right now as possible. Me as a 40 year old woman. But I'm gonna like be like, I'm a 60 year old, like with a sweater zip up, you know, like, what the hell is that? The concept of that doesn't seem like it would ever work. Well, that's the way I approach everything I've ever done and I approach my podcast and in one year we have a million downloads in less than a year. And how did that happen? Because I listened to that still small voice that said, hey, this is the flavor of how we need you to make the world brighter. And this is the flavor that some people need. And you know the truth here, When I'm in my adult self, some people could say, her voice is so freaking annoying, I hate listening to her. And from adult me, I could say, that's okay. Good, good news. Because there's so many others out there too, because I'm not in a little part that doesn't feel good enough. You see, if I thought I have to do it this way, I have to follow this trend, I have to wear these things, I have to point at objects on a reel or whatever, well, I wouldn't have the Success I have, I have it because I listen to that. I, my collaborator is my truest self in my soul and the universe. Those are my collaborators. And I share that story only because like, if you're like Mr. Rogers for adults, like that sounds who, what does that even mean? And who would ever purchase that or

[Sarah Baldwin (continuation or another expert voice)]

be a part of that?

[Sarah Baldwin]

And you know what started to happen, people would say, you know, you're kind of like Mr. Rogers, except like a woman. For adults, it's really weird. You make me feel so calm. I listen to you before bed. You make me feel like I'm seen for the first time. So if I tried to be somebody else that I'm not, I would never be able to give the gifts that I'm supposed to give. And so the more everyone listening that, you know, trust that you feel into adult you, you know, this is who I am and the world. That's how we are. This beautiful tapestry. That's, that's how it all works. If I can trust that. And then you start to get glimmers of like how there are people that are saying, you're the one that I need. They're the place that I want to come to. And they come to your restaurant and there's like a trillion other restaurants. And you know, one of the reasons they come is because you cook with the love that's inside of you. So I'm so glad you said that because I think right now are for a long time. But the online world is so over inundated with like join this mastermind that's going to teach you how to create an eight figure business. Like there's some benefit to some of those things, but what they usually do is strip you of your selfhood. And don't lose the. You think of every person that did amazing things in the world. Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela, Steve Jobs, visionaries. What are these people doing? They saw things that seemed crazy, impossible, but what they were really doing was listening to that still small voice, fueling it and fueling it and step by step leaning into it. And that's really the magic sauce that we all have to do. And the good news is it's already inside of you. You don't have to become anything.

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

Yes.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

That part I think is so inspiring for people to hear that they don't need to learn to be more interesting, how to do that better. You just need to feel more comfortable trusting the parts and the gifts and the unique sauce that you already have. And sure, there's, there's nothing wrong with mastery. Or learning something to get better at it, like a skill or a craft. But it will be coming from a place of love and curiosity and not punishment and fixing.

[Sarah Baldwin]

That's exactly right. And the same goes for people too, and wanting community or like romantic partnership. The most magnetic thing is somebody that says, I am me, I am me and I love me. And you know, there's a quietness to that.

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

If there was one practice that I could recommend to you that has transformed my life more than anything else, it has been the to be magnetic work. Obviously, I may be biased because I am the Chief Content Officer, I'm the host of the podcast, I develop all the workshops with the brand.

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

But it is also the tool that

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

has helped my life the most. When I am in a season of doubt, when I'm in a season of fear or tests or triggers, when I am trying to get clarity on my next chapter, when I'm trying to design a life for my future, that I want to be really deeply connected to my soul, to my potential, to my purpose, to my ambition. TBM houses all the tools and workshops that you need to connect deeper to your self and not let your past patterning, your past programming, your limiting beliefs run the show anymore. Because every time I get tripped up on one of those things, it is

[Host 2 (likely a TBM team member)]

always younger versions of myself coming in,

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taking the driver's seat and running rampant. And until I can connect with them through the TBM work and really learn to process it in a new way and recontextualize the things, that is when my life actually shifts and I reprogram my neural pathways to be in alignment with my what I truly want, which is how you manifest. If you are interested in joining the pathway, we have a special offer for our podcast guests where you can get the first month for $20 and then join our annual membership. You can use this work through our various workshops that we teach you how to manifest. We go through an inner child program. There's a shadow program, one for rut, rock bottom, money, love, you name it. Or you can use it as a daily tool to reprogram in the moment issues come up to reset your nervous system, give you high self worth, reconnect with your magnetic self, or talk to your inner child part that may be in the way and running the show and self sabotaging. So if you're getting the ping to join tbm, now's the time and you can use code expanded all caps ex P A n D e D for $20 off your first month to join the pathway.

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I mean, it's so interesting. I'm curious if you feel into this as, like, I feel like you're a very intuitive person. I'm just gonna name that. I'm like, she definitely is so intuitive. Everyone is. But I could just see, like, the heightened sense of it. And I think the deeper you connect yourself, the deeper your intuition gets, the stronger it gets, that trust muscle. But I feel like now more than ever, we can read energy easier on social media in person. Like, we don't really even understand why, but we feel like something feels off with that person, or I feel scared, or I feel uncomfortable, or that doesn't feel genuine, or something doesn't feel sincere there. We're able to very acutely be aware of the signals that it's sending out. And I remember when I was first learning about energy and all of that kind of stuff, it almost scared me as being someone who creates, you know, things online because I was like, oh, no, what are people reading about me? Blah, blah, blah. But then it's like, okay, the reason that people's energy that feels good is because they aren't looking for anything from you. They aren't hiding anything from you. It's like purity coming through. They are content and safe in themselves. Exactly what you're saying. Like, it's kind of a twofold because you also don't want to be trying to cultivate that, so you are seen as good by other people. Either you do it for the sake of yourself. And that felt sense of like, I am just here for myself. I'm not doing this so other people like me. I'm not doing this so I'm comfortable or magnetic or any of the things. I'm doing it because I really care and value about my parts of me,

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then it becomes a natural byproduct.

[Sarah Baldwin]

Exactly. So that's why when we talked about parts, My parts are the most important thing in the entire world to me. I didn't ever think that that could be possible my whole life, but they are. I am the luckiest mother, and I'm a good mom. And so I'm saying that out loud because those are things we want to be able to say. That's not being, wow, I'm so great. It's, wow, this is the thing I'll be the proudest of in my whole life. And so when. When they come first, that's the healthy thing, then it's okay. My purpose, because what a lot of people do is their parts are being sacrificed for their purpose. When your parts come first and then it's, okay, universe, what is it that you have me here to do, to serve? I get a lot of visions, and when I'm in water and I got this really strong. I said it probably a thousand times in the bathtub years ago, this mantra that came through, and it just kept hearing, let me be the light that helps them come home to themselves and to you, and let me be a service of that light. And so when I think about creating anything I create, what is the principle of what I do in creating something? I sit and say, let me be the light that helps them come home to themselves and to you. So if I go to do an Instagram live, you know what I do? I'm walking my dog. I think to myself, who today? What do they need? And so I go on and say, hey, you're not alone, and I'll share something with them. Or if it's a program I have, I make sure that I'm in integrity. Why did I create this? And for me, things I created, I am so passionate about because I've created them from a place of. I know what it's like to have to go do multiple modalities in different places and get confused. I know what it's like to not have a roadmap in the healing process and how confusing that is. Oh, my gosh. I want people to have this. Could you imagine if people had this? They would go so much faster. They don't have to spend 20 years like me. This is so exciting. I need to talk about it.

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Oh, my gosh.

[Sarah Baldwin]

I felt so much shame. I felt like I was broken. That's why all my. My podcast is called you Make Sense.

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My.

[Sarah Baldwin]

I have a program called you Make Sense. Why? Because I know what it's like to feel broken. I just want to tell people that they're loved and they make sense. And the thing is, I don't need them to join. You don't need to. You don't. But you do need someone to help you, and I could be that person, or it could be someone else. But just know you're loved and it's possible for this to change. I could care less about what is money. It's US Dollars, just paper. I just want to love you, and I want to show you as possible. And I've devoted my whole life to it. And if one person can get free so that they can have heaven where it's supposed to be, here on Earth, that is all that matters to me. It's all that matters. And I've built a multi million dollar business from doing it this way. I'm not thinking about, ironically about the money. I think about people coming alive. So whatever it is that your purpose is, is it a florist, you love flowers and they make you so excited. Stop thinking about, well, if I don't sell seven bouquets this week, it's just not going to work out. Everything's going to be not going to work. That's you protecting with your nervous system and it won't come towards you. Why am I being called to this? To make the world filled with more beauty and love for people. Oh my gosh. This person that's buying this for their loved one, this person that's buying this and bringing it to the graveyard of their, their precious companion. I am so honored that I get to be the steward of that. That makes. I'm gonna cry again. That's not even my purpose, everybody. So what I'm showing you, this is what you gotta feel from adult you and when you do magic, I mean

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everything you're talking about too. This is the new paradigm of business. You know when people talk about mixing ambition, but from a grounded felt sense, like, this is what it's about. Lack is I have to control the experience. Lack is I have to figure out exactly how I'm gonna get this thing up this scale in this way. It's like, no, there is room for everyone. There is abundance in so many ways, in so many seasons. As a team, like before we launch a challenge or a site, like, it's the exact same concept. What are we so beaming from our hearts to share with everyone? What is the journey we want to take them on? Because we've been there, we've been stuck. What are we feeling? What's our community feeling? Having that at the forefront of everything you do? I just feel like if every business could operate from this sense, what could

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happen in this world?

[Sarah Baldwin]

Oh my gosh, the whole world would heal and everyone will come alive. And we do it one by one by one. And it's such a beautiful thing to see the world get brighter, by everybody listening, by you getting bigger. I want to say this because I feel like there are people that really need to hear this. This won't hurt anybody. There's a lot of people who feel like if I'm really big, I'll hurt other people or they won't. They'll feel bad if I'm really big. You know, sometimes I find loving people the most. The people we need to actually shine the biggest can feel that way, I don't want to make anyone else feel small because they're not in their purpose or if I hurt somebody. And the truth is, how dare you not shine big because it's through your bigness and your light that people find inside of themselves. And so it's radical act, actually of activism to say, I am going to shine big so that people can find the light inside of them. And so I ask you here to bravely find the hands of all of your young parts that are scared inside of you and love them with everything you've got. And when you do that, watch them come alive and together. The light of your integration of who you are shines so big that the whole universe can use you to emulate and emanate love through it, through your experience, through your purpose. And when that happens, our whole world heals. And so you have to be big. It means you're gonna have to receive a lot. It means you're gonna have to take up space. And we need people like you to do it.

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Mic drop. Thank you so much, Sarah. This was. I knew this combo was going to be powerful, but I feel like it's exceeded my expectations in every way possible. And I will be listening on repeat as my therapy for the rest of this week. Where can people find you, connect with you, work with you, all of the things?

[Sarah Baldwin]

Well, thank you for having me. This was such a fun conversation and for being who you are and who the whole Team Magnetic is. Find me on Instagram. My handle is Sarah Bcoaching. You can find me on my website, sarahbaldoncoaching.com I have lots of programs happening all of the time. I have one coming up actually next month. I only offer it twice a year and it's called you'd make sense. So you can check that out on my Instagram or website. And I also have a podcast. It's called you make sense.

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Thank you so much and thank you for sharing your light and being brave enough to connect with and heal and integrate all of your parts so you could be the light that you are in the world, too.

[Sarah Baldwin]

Thanks so much.

[Host 1 (likely a TBM team member)]

I hope you guys really enjoyed that episode today. And I wanted to give you a couple of tools to start this process of working with your nervous system. So all of our deep imaginings at the beginning start with a little nervous system practice. Something that has you drop into your body, drop into a felt sense of safety in the body. But a couple are really, really heavy hitting. We have a regulate di set that's for fight or flight or freeze or fawn, which are really good to do before taking action or after a test or trigger. We also the Reset di and then if you're wanting to have that conversation with those parts of you or your nervous system, the inner child DI is perfect for this. This is exactly what it was designed for, so you can converse in a very gentle way with those younger parts of self and be that higher parent to other aspects of you. Plus, we have a really fun launch coming at the end of the month that will also help with nervous system regulation as well. So stay tuned for that. See you next week.