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Hi podcast fans,

Today we've got some terrific Five Secrets questions that you have submitted.

Mike #1: I love your Five Secrets of Effective Communication. Why does secret #4, "I Feel" Statements, not include Thought Empathy?
Mike #2: I have seen communication models that include expressing and listening for needs. Aren't needs and wants important and important to express?
Al: How can I help my wife recognize her many cognitive distortions, like All-or-Nothing Thinking? It seems hopeless!
Guy: If a loved one says, "You never listen," how could I possibly find the truth in this statement? How could you genuinely agree with an All-or-Nothing statement such as, "You never …."?
Both Sonja and Eileen asked: How can you deal with someone who constantly wallows in self-pity and plays the role of victim. It's exhausting!

Thanks for tuning in, and keep the great questions coming!

David and Rhonda