As humans, we’re designed for interdependence – we cannot go it alone. We’re designed to be part of networks and complement each other’s journeys. The title of this episode is one of the reasons I started this podcast – to help listeners know they’re not alone in their feelings and life journey.

But what happens when, due to your levels of sensitivity and empathy, you become so much in service to the feelings and needs of others that not only does it hold you back, but it holds others back?

Scott Hackman, growing up as a highly sensitive child before terms like “empath” entered the vernacular, thought everything was fine, all things considered, before his own value system hit him like a ton of bricks flying in out of nowhere.

Growing up, he learned the value of service toward others, more by having it modeled by his family and what he gleaned on the surface from religion than someone sitting down and explaining it to him.

This carried Scott through several iterations of his journey – his marriage, his time working in religious ministry, when he was involved in the family business selling coffee, and then to his work with entrepreneurs helping them design succession and saleability plans in their businesses.

Overall, he seemed to be on a journey of growth and everything seemed fine.

But Fine is a 4-Letter Word.

Along with having learned the value of service, Scott was also exposed to traumas as a result of unspoken and not consciously acknowledged generational patterns. All that service actually took the form of people-pleasing, and it became more of a survival skill. In his early 30s, Scott found himself admitted to inpatient psych due to suicidal ideation.

As I said… it seemed to come out of nowhere like a ton of bricks.

In a moment, when you meet Scott, you’ll discover his fascinating learning journey toward a new level of self-actualization that he didn’t know existed – that in fact, many don’t know exists.

Among other things, you’ll learn about the difference between a recovery mindset and a growth mindset, and how these things intertwine. You’ll also see that it’s possible to find good things in bad situations – to essentially go back and rewrite chapters of your life so the story serves you, now and in the future.

And, you’ll discover why Scott says that he and his wife, who he’s been with the whole time, have so far had at least four marriages.

This will amaze you.

Scott’s hype songs are listed on his Spotify playlist, “You’re Not Alone”.

Resources:

Scott Hackman’s website: https://scotthackman.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/scotthackman/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ScottHackmanVentures
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scott_hackman/

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So now, let’s meet Scott. As I see him from a distance, he looks very energetic and well-rested – what’s his secret?

165. You’re Not Alone with Scott Hackman