First Date with Lauren Compton Episode: Blame It On The Zodiac w/ Kerryn Feehan Date: September 23, 2025

Episode Overview

This episode features comedian, actress, and podcast host Kerryn Feehan as Lauren Compton’s “first date.” The conversation dives into the realities of dating as a comedian, the differences between dating younger and older men, red flags, life as a single woman in New York, and the sometimes irrational world of astrology and “relationship fate.” Both women openly share stories of exes, dealbreakers, and comedic war stories, all with Kerryn’s signature candor and Lauren’s warm curiosity.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Kerryn’s Current Life and Dating Landscape

• Kerryn’s Life in New York: Kerryn has been in NYC for 20 years but is originally from Massachusetts. She frequents Austin for comedy gigs, loving the city more with each visit. (00:49)
• Single & Happy: Kerryn affirms she’s been single for two months and is enjoying the independence:

  "I forget how happy I am single. I'm better single." – Kerryn (01:24)

• Healthier Post-Breakup: After dating someone who smoked heavily, being single has made her feel healthier, more active, and less reliant on her inhaler. (01:50)

Patterns in Dating & Red Flags

• Fan Dynamics: Kerryn recounts dating men who were initially fans; while flattering, it can backfire as “they like the idea of you,” not the real person. (02:16)
• Attraction Patterns: She’s dated a notably diverse group—emphasizing she doesn’t have a “type.” Fast physical attraction often doesn’t lead to long-term relationships, while slow-burn connections last longer. (02:50, 03:33)
• Platonic Friends-to-Lovers Doesn’t Work: Both agree they’ve never dated someone who started as a purely platonic friend:

  "I've never, like, dated a guy that I was actually platonically friends with." – Kerryn (03:41)

Boundaries, Space, and Living Together

• Value of Personal Space: Both recount moving in too quickly when younger, and now appreciate the importance of maintaining separate spaces and routines. (06:02)
• Dog Mom Priorities: Kerryn is devoted to her dog and has a “dog mom crew” for support. Her love of morning routines and active lifestyle shapes her dating expectations. (07:27 – 08:23)
• On Living Together: Kerryn shares challenges of moving in with partners where it never truly felt like her own home, especially if it was their space. (06:06 – 06:44)

  "It just sucks for your mental health and your identity if you don't feel like your home is your home." – Kerryn (06:39)

Views on Motherhood & Relationships

• Motherhood and its Challenges: Lauren voices awe for single moms, and both remark on the exhausting logistics of parenting and dog ownership. (10:05)
• Kerryn on Having Kids: She openly states she doesn’t want children, unless perhaps madly in love with a partner who wanted them. Spending time with nieces/nephews solidifies her decision. (10:41 – 11:01)

  "It reassures my decision not to have children." – Kerryn (11:01)

Relationship Preferences & Dealbreakers

• Ideal Relationship “Cadence”: Kerryn prefers a “once-a-week boyfriend” due to her busy, performance-heavy schedule, cherishing alone time with her dog in the morning. (12:51)
• Turn-Offs: She’s turned off by both extremes in fitness—men who can’t bench their own weight, but also those obsessed with macros and protein powders. Balance is key. (13:39 – 17:19)
• Red Flags: She steers clear of “clingy” guys, but if a man is “withholding” or emotionally distant, she finds herself more drawn in—acknowledging it’s tied to her upbringing. (37:19 – 37:47)

On Astrology & Zodiac Stereotypes

• Both share their zodiac signs (Kerryn is Taurus, Lauren married to a Taurus), and discuss their views on compatibility. (20:33 – 21:51)
• Kerryn likes other earth signs and finds Geminis, Pisces, and Aquariuses less compatible.

  "No one likes a Gemini because they don't know who they are." – Kerryn (22:39)

• They poke fun at the arbitrary nature of astrology, admitting it doesn’t affect their dating decisions but provides fun talking points. (23:04 – 23:41)

Relationship Power Dynamics & Success

• Career and Finances: Kerryn details dating men from various backgrounds—sometimes being the breadwinner, sometimes dating a trust-fund kid. She dislikes being “sugar mama,” as it can be emasculating and kill attraction. (25:54 – 26:59)
• Showbiz Relationships: She discusses an ex who never helped her make industry connections, noting some men withhold support to protect their own egos or careers. (31:53 – 32:14)
• Dominance Reversal: Over time, Kerryn has surpassed her ex's success:

  "Slowly but surely, I completely overtook him, and he's still bartending and, like, doing coke." – Kerryn (32:32)

Memorable Quotes & Moments

• On fans as partners:

  "You think it's great in the beginning, but then it's like ... they like the idea of you." – Kerryn (02:26)

• On moving in together:

  "Why am I paying rent here when I'm just, like, at your place?" – Kerryn (07:01)

• On dog priorities:

  "I'm just, like, also not the type to, like, leave my dog for long periods of time." (07:49)

• On red flags:

  "If you saw the guys I've dated, you'd think I was psycho ... they're just all over the place." (02:50)

• On dating extremes:

  "If you're not good at the gym, my vagina is going to dry up ... If you're too into macros, shove them up your ass." – Kerryn (13:39, 17:02)

Exit Strategies & Boundaries in Dating

• Blunt Honesty: Kerryn doesn’t hesitate to end a bad date directly—"I've said to guys like mid meal, 'I don't like you. This isn't fun. We're not getting along.'" (41:13)
• Sobriety and Dating: Kerryn has been sober almost 8 years, making her dating and breakup processes more direct and self-aware. "You actually feel all the feelings...I used to black out. I would fall up the stairs, I would pee beds." (41:59 – 42:39)

Love Languages & What Matters Most

• Words of Affirmation: Kerryn loves compliments and is generous with them; acts of service come second, especially related to help with her dog. (39:42 – 40:03)
• What She Gives in Return: She strives to make others' lives easier, prioritizing thoughtful acts and flexibility. (40:17)

Notable Quotes & Moments (with Timestamps)

• "I forget how happy I am single. I'm better single." — Kerryn (01:24)
• "I've never, like, dated a guy that I was actually platonically friends with." — Kerryn (03:41)
• "It just sucks for your mental health and your identity if you don't feel like your home is your home." — Kerryn (06:39)
• "I don't have that natural, nurturing instinct ... it reassures my decision not to have children." — Kerryn (10:49, 11:01)
• "Fan dynamics ... it's like they like the idea of you ... then it's like, I fart. I'm gross." — Kerryn (02:26)
• "No one likes a Gemini because they don't know who they are." — Kerryn (22:39)
• "I want a 'six-hour boyfriend.'" — Kerryn (12:51)
• "If you're not good at the gym, my vagina is going to dry up ... If you're too into macros, shove them up your ass." — Kerryn (13:39, 17:02)
• "I've said to guys like mid meal, 'I don't like you. This isn't fun.'" — Kerryn (41:13)
• "You actually feel all the feelings [in sobriety]." — Kerryn (41:59)

Key Timestamps

• [00:49] – Kerryn on comedy in Austin and New York
• [01:24] – Being newly single, feeling healthier
• [02:26] – Downsides of dating fans
• [03:41] – Platonic friends as non-starters
• [06:02] – Moving in together and space priorities
• [10:49] – On having kids (or not)
• [12:51] – “Six-hour boyfriend” and ideal relationship cadence
• [13:39, 17:02] – Fitness extremes as turn-offs
• [20:33 – 22:51] – Astrology, compatibility, and Gemini bashing
• [25:54 – 26:59] – Power imbalances and “sugar mama” issues
• [31:53 – 32:14] – Withholding help in showbiz relationships
• [39:42 – 40:03] – Love languages
• [41:13] – Exit strategies for bad dates
• [41:59] – Sobriety and real feelings

Conclusion

Kerryn Feehan brings sharp humor and real talk to this conversation about dating as an independent, career-driven woman. Major themes include the importance of personal space, healthy boundaries, and emotional honesty, as well as a mutual skepticism toward astrology, conventional “red flag” thinking, and the unrealistic expectations often placed on relationships. The episode ends on a note of self-acceptance—as both guests affirm the joys and pitfalls of their own romantic journeys.