Podcast Summary

Overview

Podcast: First Date with Lauren Compton
Episode: Ric Diez Admits Why He Dates Married Women | First Date with Lauren Compton
Release Date: September 2, 2025
Host: Lauren Compton
Guest: Ric Diez (comedian, aka Sadman Rick)

This episode dives deep into Ric Diez’s candid views on modern dating, relationships, attraction, divorce, and the sometimes messy reality of adult romance. The conversation is casual, unfiltered, and full of humor, revelations, and honest confessions—most notably Ric’s openness about dating married women and his complicated relationship with monogamy. Lauren and Ric volley about red flags, personal boundaries, codependency, pick-up lines, and what it means to really connect with someone.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

Guest Introduction and Background

• [00:00-01:16] Ric is introduced as a comedian seen on "Kill Tony," and known online as Sadman Rick. He splits his time between Austin and Brussels, and is originally from Madrid, Spain.
• Ric is 48 years old, recently divorced after a 12-year marriage, and currently single—not consistently dating anyone due to a busy touring schedule.

Dating, Relationships, and Attraction

Meeting People While Traveling

• [01:39-01:53] Ric explains how his nomadic lifestyle complicates dating:
  “I've been traveling nonstop for the last... four months. I meet people at comedy shows, after comedy shows… dating apps don't really work for me because it detects I'm in one city, but I'm already gone by the time they see it.” (Ric, 01:43)

Past Relationships and Divorce

• Ric was married for 12 years. The marriage ended due to the "slow decay" of unmet expectations and micro-annoyances piling up.
• [04:14-06:37] Ric admits to being a hopeless romantic but also addicted to women’s attention:
  “I’m definitely addicted to women, to their attention—not the sex part. I just love women’s attention.” (Ric, 05:48)

What Ric Looks for in a Relationship

• [07:11-07:21] “I'm looking for kindness, tenderness... Honestly, I'm not attached to big boobs. I only care about the shape... I've seen yours online.” (Ric, 07:19)
• Prefers natural features and is more attracted to mouths than boobs or butts.

Preferences and Flirting Styles

• Discusses attraction to both blondes and brunettes, but finds brunettes “kinkier” due to perceived effort.
• Admits to being very insecure and a “try hard”:
  “Oh, I work super hard. I'm very insecure.” (Ric, 10:00)
• Flirting can sometimes err toward “creepy” if not managed—Ric relies now on being “super honest” in expressing interest.

The Power of Comedy on the Dating Scene

• Comedy gave Ric social access and confidence; many romantic encounters have resulted from post-show interactions.

Getting Candid: Ric’s Affairs With Married Women

Why Date Married Women?

• [24:16-27:44] Ric is strikingly open about the ease of hooking up with married women at this stage of his life:
  “At 48, it's kind of easier for me to hook up with married women or women in relationships than with single women.... It’s not my problem. It's their problem.” (Ric, 24:16, 24:32)

• Best sex Ric’s had was with a married woman for two years—full of “open communication, no relationship. It's perfect.” (25:01)

• Says he has no emotional attachment in these affairs, and that for him, the desire to cheat signals an already decaying relationship.

• On boundaries and regret:
  “I'm not trying to destroy, ruin a marriage. ... The people that are more responsive to me are people that are in bad relationships.” (Ric, 26:34, 26:49)

Polyamory vs. Monogamy

• Ric is open-minded but skeptical of polyamory, preferring monogamy if it’s with the "right person." Experiences with polyamorous friends reveal it as “a hobby” for some, not a lifestyle Ric is drawn to:
  “For me, my romantic life is not a hobby—it’s something that warms my heart and brings me pleasure.” (Ric, 32:20)

• Discussion on polyamory gets into nuances of non-hierarchical vs. hierarchical setups, boundaries, and communication.

Red Flags, Toxicity, and Ghosting

Ric’s Experiences with Toxicity

• [47:42-48:37] Ric often finds himself attracting women who are drawn to drama: “I keep finding women who feel like arguing in a very aggressive way, ... if I don't engage in that, they're turned off by that.” (Ric, 47:58)

• Is honest about his own codependency and how it ruined past relationships:
  “It's what destroyed my marriage… I'm super codependent, and I feel like she was, too.” (Ric, 36:02)

Ghosting and Ending Relationships

• Both Lauren and Ric admit to ghosting and developing polite "let down easy" texts for when things don’t work out.
• Ric prefers clear rejection over being strung along:
  “Thank you for letting me know you’re not interested because I can move on.” (Ric, 38:26)

What They Want In Love and Sex

• Ric is most turned on by “intimacy... being accepted, just being loved turns me on a lot.” (Ric, 43:03)
• Lauren’s biggest turn-on is a man doing something she asks:
  “If he stops what he’s doing and he does something I ask him to do … he’s probably getting a blowjob.” (Lauren, 42:04)
• They share thoughts on love languages, needs, physical attraction, and post-baby sex life.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “I'm in and out, and I never pull out.” (Ric, 02:02)
• “Focus on the hopeless. A big emphasis on being hopeless.” (Ric, 03:42)
• “I would look terrible for 25.” (Ric, 04:42)
• “I want us to be, like, cokeheads together… Like, not ever be able to leave each other because we’re so into each other, grossly.” (Lauren, 36:32)
• “At 48, it's kind of easier for me to hook up with married women or women in relationships than with single women.” (Ric, 24:16)
• “I don't want to destroy couples ... I'm not trying to ruin a marriage. I'm just trying to have my fun.” (Ric, 26:34)
• “Codependency is so dangerous.” (Ric, 35:45)
• “Being desired, just being accepted, just being loved turns me on a lot.” (Ric, 43:09)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• [00:00-01:16]: Guest intro, Ric’s background & where he lives
• [04:14-06:37]: Ric’s divorce, what caused it, and addiction to attention
• [07:11-09:06]: Preferences in attraction and past relationships
• [10:00-11:54]: Insecurities, confidence, and honesty in flirting
• [17:47-19:38]: Ric's experience with athletic women, relationship goals, and horror stories
• [24:16-25:30]: Admitting to dating married women and rationale behind it
• [26:34-28:40]: On not wanting to ruin marriages, ideal relationship dynamics, generational differences in dating
• [32:20-33:37]: Polyamory discussion, boundaries, and why Ric still leans toward monogamy
• [35:06-36:55]: Lauren’s codependency and attachment style
• [38:26]: Ric on being grateful for direct rejections
• [42:04]: Lauren’s ultimate turn-on (acts of service)
• [43:03]: Ric on what turns him on
• [47:42-48:37]: Ric on attracting drama and toxicity

Tone & Overall Vibe

The tone is playful, open, and extremely candid. Both Lauren and Ric volley between humor and emotional honesty, mixing personal confessions with broader reflections about love, sex, and dating in adulthood. Ric’s confessions—particularly about dating married women—set a provocative, no-holds-barred tone that Lauren matches with her own vulnerability. The banter is flirtatious and self-deprecating, but always rooted in authentic introspection.

Final Thoughts

This episode is a revealing and entertaining take on modern dating—covering everything from codependency to polyamory, sexual preferences to healthy boundaries. The conversation is as much about learning to accept yourself as it is about navigating the wild ride of finding “the right person.”

Ric’s Socials:
Find him everywhere as @SadmanRick. New podcast: “Deez Nuts” on YouTube.

For those who haven’t listened:
You’ll walk away with a fresh view on dating outside the box, the messy reality of adult relationships, and a few big laughs at the candid, unfiltered honesty of Lauren and Ric.