Vinny G Reveals Jersey Shore Party Secrets | First Date with Lauren Compton

Summary

Podcast Summary: Vinny G Reveals Jersey Shore Party Secrets | First Date with Lauren Compton

Podcast: First Date with Lauren Compton
Episode Air Date: November 4, 2025
Guest: Vinny Guadagnino (Vinny G) – Jersey Shore star, stand-up comic
Host: Lauren Compton
Studio: YMH Studios

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Episode Overview

In this candid and lively episode, Lauren Compton welcomes Vinny Guadagnino – best known as Vinny G from "Jersey Shore" – for a humorous and revealing “first date.” Together, they dissect modern dating woes, Vinny’s infamous party past, personal growth, and what it actually takes for someone to get a “second date” with him. From sliding into DMs to the realities of club life and the importance of intentionality and authenticity in relationships, the conversation offers a mixture of genuine advice, raunchy party secrets, and plenty of laughs.

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Key Topics & Discussion Points

1. Vinny’s Approach to Dating: Dating Intentionally & Exclusivity

• Current Relationship Status: Vinny shares he’s single, not committed, but “intentionally dating” (01:40). He describes “round one” dating as seeing someone casually a few times before exclusivity is even on the table:
  • Quote: “If I like someone, I’m just focusing on them… It kind of just becomes naturally exclusive.” (02:28)
• Social Media as a Dating Platform: Both host and guest reflect on how Instagram and DM etiquette have become essential parts of modern dating.
  • Vinny’s Move: “Like three pictures, see if they like you back, then follow and reply to their story.” (03:55)

2. First Dates & Deal Breakers

• First Date Preference: Vinny advocates for “walking dates” to vibe check someone in a low-pressure setting before committing to a longer, traditional dinner (04:17).
  • Quote: “Walking dates are like, either women are like, you’re cheap, or low effort, or they’re like, ‘No, I want to see you’re not a psycho.’” (04:17)
• Food Compatibility: Being the “Keto Guido,” shared food preferences are nonnegotiable:
  • “Food is so important… what are we gonna do, have two different meals every night?” (05:44)

3. Vinny’s Dating History & Changing Priorities

• Limited Serious Relationships: Only 2-3, mostly long-distance, never fully satisfying.
  • “Relationship should be a precursor to marriage. Otherwise, what's the point?” (07:19)
• Marriage & Family: Vinny now sees marriage and fatherhood as goals, connecting it to personal growth and a sense of mortality.
  • “I’m in my late 30s now, starting to sense my mortality… I want to have a family and raise children.” (08:57)

4. Party Life & How Jersey Shore Changed Him

• Jersey Shore Days: Vinny shares wild stories of nightclub appearances at age 21—“getting paid to drink and party with hot girls every weekend.” (09:52)
• Life After the Party: He contrasts his former lifestyle with his current health-conscious, comedy-centered weekends:
  • “Father Time… I naturally phased out because it hurts. It's physically painful to drink.” (10:41)

5. Stereotypes, Fame Impact & Social Perceptions

• Public/Fan Perceptions: Fans sometimes expect him to be the same “party guy,” but women he actually dates often have little attachment to his reality TV persona (13:59, 31:42).
  • “99.9% of women I’ve dated barely know who I am.” (31:42)
• Dating Challenges in NYC: Vinny calls New York the hardest city to date intentionally, but he’s optimistic: “There has to be somebody. I just feel like it would be easier if I lived somewhere else.” (33:13)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Club Recruiting:
  Vinny: “There are promoters and bouncers that handle this whole thing… they shuffle them, they'll say they have to leave, bring new ones in. I don't usually handle that…” (27:36)
• On Clubbing Perspective Shift:
  Vinny: “Now as a 37 year old, I'm like, nah… I'd rather go on a date with a girl I vibe with.” (28:54)
• On ‘Atmosphere Models’:
  Vinny: “It’s a little human-traffick-y… there's houses where women live, and their job is to go out every night and sit around billionaires and smoke vapes.” (28:29)
• On Food Dealbreakers:
  Vinny: “I'm the Keto Guido too. I like meat.” (05:54)
• On Pet Peeves:
  Vinny: “Vaping. Oh, hate that. I think it goes hand in hand with the rockstar life… my 60 year old Italian mom vapes!” (16:08)
• On Romance:
  Vinny: “We rode city bikes to get ice cream in the West Village. She told me, ‘That was my favorite date.’” (34:51)
• On Saying ‘I Love You’:
  Vinny: “Now I put so much weight on that word… I have to be really intentional.” (20:28)

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Segment Timestamps

• Introductions & Vinny’s Relationship Status – (01:06 – 02:43)
• How Social Media Fuels Modern Dating – (03:38 – 04:28)
• First Date Preferences & Food Compatibility – (04:17 – 05:58)
• History of Relationships & Attitudes toward Marriage – (07:01 – 09:35)
• Reformed Party Animal: From Jersey Shore to Fitness – (09:38 – 11:55)
• Drinking & Public Perception of Vinny – (13:39 – 15:18)
• Biggest Dating Pet Peeves (Vaping!) – (16:08 – 18:41)
• Vinny’s Self-admitted Flaws – (19:03 – 19:51)
• Sex & Love Timelines – (19:56 – 21:09)
• Life and Love after Reality TV; Fame and Dating Perceptions – (31:24 – 32:27)
• Romantic Gestures & Genuine Connection – (34:08 – 35:43)

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Style & Tone

The conversation is openly honest, playful, and disarmingly self-aware. Both Lauren and Vinny keep the mood upbeat while delving into real issues—dating burnout in big cities, growing out of party cultures, and the importance of finding authentic, compatible partners. Vinny brings a uniquely matter-of-fact, sometimes self-deprecating take on his own past and current desires.

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Summary: Takeaways for Listeners

• Be Intentional: Vinny champions the value of knowing what you want and steering away from the “party era” when ready for real connection.
• Social Media Rules Everything: The modern dating “DM dance” is crucial—master it or miss out!
• True Compatibility Often Means Shared Lifestyles: Food, habits, and priorities matter.
• You Can Outgrow (and Outlive) Stereotypes: Even a notorious party icon can—and wants to—change.
• Romance Is in the Thoughtfulness, Not the Price Tag: Sometimes, a city bike ride for ice cream is the most romantic gesture of all.

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Where to Find Vinny G

• Instagram: @vinnyguadagnino
• Podcast: “Something Went Wrong with Vinny”
• Live Comedy Dates: See Vinny’s Instagram
• Jersey Shore Family Vacation: Airing now

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For dating wisdom, party life nostalgia, and a look at what happens when MTV stars grow up, this episode delivers authentic laughs and refreshingly honest insights.

Transcript

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[B]

Every style, every home. I'm so excited to see you tonight.

[C]

First Date, baby. First date. I can't wait. First date.

[B]

What's up, you guys? Welcome to another episode of First Date. You know my guest today as the keto guido on Jersey Shore. And now he's making his way as a standup comic. He's performing all over the country. Give it up for.

[D]

I was gonna warn you.

[B]

Vinny Guadadino.

[D]

Vinny Guadagnino.

[B]

Guadagnino.

[D]

Yeah. I was gonna say. You could just say thanks.

[B]

Hey.

[D]

All right. That was so anticlimactic. We're not gonna do it over.

[B]

Well, you know, we're gonna run with it.

[D]

Vinnie G, baby. Vinnie G. Yeah, you can say that. Okay.

[B]

I. That at the top.

[D]

I know, but we were talking about other things.

[B]

So.

[D]

Great start.

[B]

As most. As all great dates start.

[D]

Yeah. Yeah, yeah. Awkward. Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

Do you have a girlfriend?

[D]

I don't have a girlfriend. I'm single. But I am intentionally dating. So, like, if I am dating someone, there might be someone that's, like, in the mix of, like, a couple repeats. It's like, round one before we get to, like, next round. So I got. I have, like, a round one er going on right now.

[B]

Wait, what do you mean? So, like, you've met a girl.

[D]

Yeah. And you do, like, a couple. Like, you're dating for, like, a month, but you're not. You're still single.

[B]

Okay, so you're Right. So, yeah, you're. So you're dating a girl, but you're not exclusive?

[D]

Yes, exactly. I guess that. I guess you can say that. Yeah.

[B]

So how long?

[D]

But also feels weird to say, like, I'm single, like, I'm single like that.

[B]

But no, you. You're totally single until you decide to be exclusive.

[D]

Right? Yeah.

[B]

Right.

[D]

Yeah. We haven't. Yeah. But at the same time, I think when you get older or whatever, when you're intentionally dating. I don't date really multiple people. If I like someone, I'm excited about them. I'm kind of just focusing on them.

[B]

One month in, you're still. You can still have your options open.

[D]

Yeah, but I. I'm too lazy for that now. I don't do that. Like I'm just dating the one person. It's like, it's like naturally exclusive.

[B]

Well, I'm trying to have your back here.

[D]

No, but I'm standing on business. I'm not. It is what it is, okay? I'm a very factual person. I'm just natural. And I think this is a good thing. I think that again, like, the whole, like, exclusive talk and everything, I feel like if you really like somebody, it just naturally happens where you're like, I don't want to see anyone else. I like you.

[B]

Okay.

[D]

I'm so serious enough to be repeatedly dating you that I just want to have sex with you and I just want to talk to you all day. And that could be a month in.

[B]

How many dates have you guys gone on?

[D]

A lot.

[B]

So you've taken her out a lot?

[D]

Yeah, I've taken her out a lot. I've done, you know, like, just normal, like, around the house stuff.

[B]

How did you meet her?

[D]

Instagram, Social media.

[B]

Did you slide into her DMs?

[D]

I do the. Actually, no, she slid into mine. But I do the whole following. No, no, not following. Liking the pictures. That's like the modern day Facebook poking.

[B]

Right.

[D]

So you like that. You like three pictures and then you see if they like you back, and then if they like you back, you follow and then you go in for the story reply.

[B]

Oh, yes.

[D]

So. But she did it though. She did it to me. She did the story reply to me.

[B]

Okay. And then how did you ask her out?

[D]

It happened just really organically. It just happened. Like, I do. This is gonna sound horrible, but I do a lot of, like, walking dates. I live in New York. Well, walking dates are like, either women are like, you're cheap, you're low effort, or women are like, I feel like older women are like, no, I'm all about that. I want to see that you're not a psycho that we can vibe before we go do like a awkward sit down dinner date.

[B]

So you just go for a walk.

[D]

Like a walk in a coffee kind of thing or smoothie. I live in Manhattan, so it's like the whole place is like a date. You know what I mean?

[B]

Yeah. And then how did you move into like a real sit down date?

[D]

So once we get past the walking, we can sit down and then, you know, usually I say, like, let's go to dinner. Dinner actually means like a Lot to me, like to share food with somebody.

[B]

Okay.

[D]

And I want to make sure that we have like we can enjoy the food together. And if I can, I will. Especially if you live in the same city. I will like do a little warm up to that, A little fluffer to the, to the dinner date, which is the walking date. If we get along, we're like, oh yeah, let's go get dinner. What if, what if she's vegan? I don't want to go to dinner with her. Yeah.

[E]

It'd be terrible.

[B]

Do you.

[D]

I don't know.

[B]

I, I always, you know, I don't know how I would date a vegan.

[D]

No. Food is so important.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

You know, especially when you're again intentionally dating, like you're looking for a life partner and what do we have to have two different meals every single night?

[B]

That would just be crazy. So hard.

[D]

Yeah. And then I'm the keto guido too. I like meat.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

Pause.

[B]

And if you were just there and you were just getting stared down for eating your steak.

[D]

Oh yeah. Just judge the whole time.

[B]

Yeah. And they're like, you know, that was a living animal.

[D]

Yeah. But I, then I go into, I'm weird. So I go into like a crazy debate with them about how like veganism also kills animals and stuff like that.

[B]

The agriculture.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

I've, I've read about stuff like that.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

Just so I can combat the conversation.

[D]

Well then, then you're fighting with them.

[B]

And you know, then it's like not pleasant. I can see why you'd want to take a walk first.

[D]

Maybe vegetarians a little better because they can still do eggs and stuff like that.

[E]

Yeah.

[D]

But I've tried the vegan thing and it's like, it's, it's really tough. You know, they just stare at you the, like there's nothing for them to eat on the menu the whole time.

[E]

It's hard.

[D]

Yeah. LA has some good like this. I went on a vegan date in LA and it had a couple of vegan like options, like, you know.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

So she just ate lettuce.

[B]

Sounds like a lot of work to do to date someone.

[D]

I know. Imagine that every night.

[B]

How many long term relationships have you been in?

[D]

Not a lot. I've only been in, I've only been in like two or three. And I don't even consider those like full fledged relationships because they were long distance. There's always like some kind of caveat to it.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

And it's not, I mean it could be a red flag to, to women But. But it could be a green flag, and I'll tell you why. Because she, like, I didn't ask, but. No, I want to know because I, like, just knew. Always knew where I was in my life at that time. And I think that relationship should be a precursor to marriage. Otherwise, I'm like, what the fuck is the point of this? So I was like, I'm not ready to get married at that time. So I would, like, fall into these little things. But deep down, I. I just knew I was, like, wasting this girl's time. So I would always kind of like, either, you know, like, just break up, like, on and off, or. But eventually it wouldn't even last, like a year, you know?

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

But I did meet some special women that, looking back on it, if I was in this frame of mind, I might have married.

[B]

Really?

[D]

Yeah. Yet a couple in Bronx Tale, they said, he says you only get three great ones in your life.

[B]

Do you. Have you ever thought about going back to a great one?

[D]

I have, but again, they were usually long distance. And, like, that kind of doesn't fall into my. What you're trying to do, preference plan at this time.

[B]

Do you want to get married?

[D]

Yeah, I think so. I want to have a family and raise children.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

And I think that the. The backbone and the foundation to that is marriage.

[B]

Yep.

[D]

I think that's what the studies say, apparently.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

I sound really Republican. We're in Texas. Let's go.

[B]

Well, you also sound family oriented. And, I mean, I think it's a good way to go. You don't have to be married to have a kid, but it's a nice way to start.

[D]

You don't have to be. But I think, again, like, at a certain point, once you, like, reach. You know, I'm in my late 30s now, starting to sense my mortality. I'm starting to become less selfish about my life and everything being about me and having fun.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

And I think that, like, you know, I'm, like, very objective and pragmatic, and I think that, like, I'm like, fuck, like, we're biologically here to, like, continue the human race and raise good human beings. And, like, that's what I. I'm doing now. And hopefully I can find, like, a life partner with. To do that and still kind of have fun and be a little selfish here and there.

[B]

How are you different now from how you used to be?

[D]

Oh, I was. I was definitely a big slut. Was sleeping around a lot. So when I was on Jersey Shore, I used to, like, just do, like, Nightclub appearances, like, every single weekend.

[B]

Who was that?

[D]

It's crazy. They just pay you to show up and drink.

[B]

Was it fun?

[D]

Fuck, yeah. It was so fun. Now would be my fucking nightmare to show up and have to drink somewhere. I do it sometimes. They still, like, think I'm, like, a party guy and. But back then, I mean, oh, my God, I was 21 years old when I got on the show. Yeah. So just imagine being 21, like, you're just entering that age of your life, and you're getting paid to fly around the country, go to the best nightclubs in the world and just drink. And just like, every table would just have, like, 20 hot girls at the table. And I'm drunk, and I'm in that scenario, and I'm, you know, gonna exercise my options there. You know what I mean? And it was. It was a good time, but I, you know, I racked up some mileage doing it.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

And I'm not like that anymore.

[B]

What do you do now? What's a typical weekend look like for you?

[D]

Well, I. I'm healthier now, for sure. I became like a. I really. To health and fitness. I became a runner. You know, I run marathons and stuff. So you just can't be hungover and kind of have that life at this. So father time, just like. Or for me, not other, like, older people. I see my. I have uncles and shit that are, like 70 years old, drinking every night. Like, they don't feel the effects of alcohol, but for me, I do. So, like, I naturally just phased out of that life because it hurts so much. Like, it hurts physically painful to, like, drink. For me, like, in the moment, it's amazing, but the next day, I'm like, I can't go for a run. I can't, you know.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

So now my typical weekend is just like, I do comedy. Became my new baby to fill that social void inside of me. So now, like, I go out, I, like, hang out with comedians. I do stand up. Maybe once in a while, I'll get, like, fire dinners, but that's, like, a lot of calories, so I can't even do that. But, yeah, it's not really. It's not partying. It's not going to clubs. Yeah.

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[G]

Ready.

[F]

Set.

[B]

Ford, is it a red flag to you if a girl that you're trying to go out with kind of has a little bit of like a. Like, she wants to go out, she wants to party.

[D]

Do you ever get 22 year olds? Yeah.

[B]

Do you ever get kind of taken for the kind of guy that you used to be? Like, a girl's like, oh, this guy's gonna want to go out and party.

[D]

And not by women, but by fans for sure. You know what I mean? Like, every time I'm out, I could be in, like, season cvs, someone's gonna offer me a shot because I was on a little. Probably because I was on a party show, you know, and, you know, they get it. I think our fans kind of grew up with us. They're a little older now, but the women, the. The girls on my show, the moms, they. They still drink. They just drink wine now. Yeah, like it's any different.

[B]

Shifted their alcohol preference.

[D]

Literally, alcohol. You're drinking alcohol every night. But yeah, so we have that standard a little bit. It's. I got it more from my friends. I get it from them. I get it from the, the girls on the show because, like, they're still. They're like, why don't you drink anymore? Why aren't you fun? Because I'm pretty Fun. When I'm drunk, I'm like, like everyone hates me. Sober, I'm just like quiet and like, I don't, you know, you're more normal. More normal. And I'm just really fun when I'm drunk. I'm down for anything. Like the anxiety switch just goes off.

[B]

How often do you drink?

[D]

So now, I mean, I might drink like once a month if, if I have the right up. If I'm on a date with a girl and I want to like loosen up a little bit, I'll drink. But it's like a, it serves a purpose for me. It doesn't serve a purpose for me if I'm just doing nothing, you know?

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

If I'm at like a cool meeting or something where I have to loosen up, like I might drink a little bit. But yeah, on my own, I have no reason like to just drink by myself. Like a psychopath. I don't do that. I'm like offending everybody right now. No, but women don't do that. But to answer your first question about. Do I run it? Yeah. I mean I just. And I don't blame them or judge them for that. I just feel that I'm like, that's not my life partner. We're just on two different frequencies right now. And I'm not going to. I was that guy that was like, I just told you. I was drinking every weekend, traveling around and they're in that era of their life and if they, you know, I don't want to change them.

[B]

Yeah. What is one of your biggest pet peeves when you're dating someone?

[D]

Pet peeves? Vaping. Oh, hate that. I hate that. I don't care. I'll say it. I think that. Do you vape?

[B]

No.

[D]

Okay, good, good. I'm like my fucking. Yeah. I just don't, I don't like that. I feel like that goes hand in hand with like the rock star life.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

You know what I mean? I don't meet like a lot of like girls in run clubs that are vaping.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

So I just feel like again that just shows that they're in this other part of their Life. Although my 60 year old Italian mom vapes. So I don't know.

[B]

Really?

[D]

Yeah. It's kind of weird.

[B]

The vaping thing to me was weird because it was this big switch from people smoking cigarettes and people were like, oh, it's better for you. But I don't believe that it's not.

[D]

Better for you because you do it.

[B]

All the time, all day.

[D]

And I think it's the equivalent of smoking, like, a carton of cigarettes in, like, two days of, like, it really. I. I think I've saw some, like, world leader say that, and I think I saw some world leader say that sounds crazy, but, like, just sucking on the thing all day and then, like, and marketing it to children like that. Just think that it's, like, cool. I'm like, this is. Fuck. It's worse than cigarettes. At least a cigarette, you got to go outside.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

You had to, like, one. You had one. Yeah.

[B]

And then you go back, and you.

[D]

Can'T see a little kid do it. Smoking a cigarette.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

Now you see a little kid hitting a vape, you're like, oh, he's cool. Yeah, he's busing, fam. You know?

[B]

Yeah. The vaping thing. And then. I've never seen anyone. Well, I mean, I have, but the. The level of free freak out when it dies.

[D]

Oh, my God. It's.

[B]

Or when someone loses behavior. Yeah. It's like, where's my vape? People are, like, pulling up seat cushions trying to, like, find their vape. I've had. I've seen. I've been on. I've been out with people that have left it in, like, an Uber.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

And instead of just, like, running to a 711 and getting a new one, they're like, gotta get my Uber back to get my. And I'm just like, no, you're not okay without this thing.

[D]

Yeah. No, it's creating little. This, like, other addiction that's really bad. And, like, I see, like, these beautiful women, like, just carrying around these, like, giant. Giant hard drives with them. There's all, like. And they use it like it's an accessory. Like, it's like. Like it's cool.

[B]

And if you ever see two people with the same vape, it's like all of a sudden, they're like besties. They're like, oh, my God, I love that vape. The strawberry kush is where it's at.

[D]

They're just doing it in between doing cocaine.

[B]

Vaping is a good one. That's a. That's.

[D]

Yeah. I don't really have many pet peeves because I just feel like if someone is, like, again, in that other age of their life or they have different preferences than me. They're just not for me. I'm not gonna let it, like, affect my. My day, you know?

[B]

What do you think you do that is pet peeve to someone else?

[D]

I don't know. I'm pretty perfect. No, I like a pet peeve or what? I definitely have imperfections and flaws. Like I have. Because I have pretty bad anxiety. So like that can manifest at different times. And like I could be in like a social place and be like, I gotta get out of here or and stuff. So I don't know if that's a pet peeve, you know what I mean? It's definitely something that. It's not for everybody, but I'm pretty. Like, I'm very neat. I'm clean, I'm ocd. I have OCD too, so that could.

[B]

Be a pet peeve. Are you too neat and too clean?

[D]

Not like too neat and too clean. It depends on who you ask. If you're like a filthy animal, then I'm too neat and too clean. But really a normal person, I'm just like a normal 37 year old guy, you know? But it could be a pet peeve. Yeah.

[B]

How long do you date a girl before you take her home?

[D]

Take her home meaning like sleep with.

[B]

Her or to my mother, let's do sleeping with her.

[D]

I'm not, I think that the sleeping thing is like, it can happen whenever. If I really like somebody, I'm not not like so gung ho on having sex right away because I just like their company or like I like the, you know, just the vibe or whatever. So I don't think I control that.

[B]

It just happens.

[D]

Yeah, they control it.

[B]

How long until you say you love someone?

[D]

Man, that hasn't happened in so long. Because when you're younger you're like stupider and you say it's like just in a month or something like that. Now I put so much like weight on that word that I'm like, it kind of it me up a little bit because I should probably say it sometimes, but I'm like, I don't want to do that to them because I feel like I, I now put this like high standard on the relationship. And if they're not the one I'm gonna marry, I told them I love them and I have to kind of like break backpedal or break up with someone that I told them I love, you know? So I just think I'm being really intentional right now. And that comes with like different set sets of rules.

[B]

What made you want to be intentional getting older?

[D]

And again, like just realizing what makes me happy, you know, like going to nightclubs and partying and sleeping with different women used to make me happy. And now I don't want to go to nightclubs. I don't want to drink. If you take out alcohol out of the equation, like, you don't want to go to a club.

[B]

No.

[D]

You know, and if you don't want to go to a club, you're not in that environment to just sleep with random people.

[B]

I think it would take so much alcohol for me to go to a club.

[D]

Right. Yeah. It's horrible to be in there sober.

[B]

If you're just in there.

[D]

Who.

[B]

That's a psychopath.

[D]

Yeah. Oh, my God. I know those people that are like, I don't even need alcohol, and they're just like, happy as get the.

[B]

Away from me.

[D]

Unless the club was at, like, I read somewhere that they were doing like, early clubs now. I don't know. Like, it's like a. It's like a 30s thing. You like a bar? No, like. Like an actual club, but, like, at 9pm I would try it because you're. You're up. You don't have to. You know what I mean?

[B]

I don't know. There's. There's a. I used to live in this apartment where I could oversee this nightclub that had a rooftop bar. And this rooftop bar was doing this thing on the weekends, and I think they're still doing it. And it was like, in the morning, okay, you could go get coffee and cold plunge. And it was. And they. And. And yeah, and it had like, music that was like, blaring. Yeah, it was like a dj and it was like a morning party. And I'm sure there was like Bailey's in the Coffee or something. But like, that to me sounds like this daytime club.

[D]

Well, no, no, the, like, it's not a day party. Like, I'm down for a day party too. I can get away with not drinking at a day party. I used to be a stripper in Vegas. I don't know if you knew that.

[B]

No, I didn't know that.

[D]

I wasn't really a stripper. I was like the Z list celebrity guest host of Chippendales for like. Okay, you don't have to laugh that hard, but I don't know what that means. Do you know what Chippendales is? Like a magic mic type of thing? Yes. So they hire, like, they like to have a residency, like, for six weeks. Come see, like, Tyson Beckford.

[B]

Okay.

[D]

And you just go out there and like, you're not like an actual stripper, but you do. They want sexy guys to, like, take their shirts off and stuff. I took a shower.

[B]

Like the thunder from down under, like the tropical.

[D]

They're a little more. They're Australian and they're like a little More aggressive, would you? Like you're getting thrown around at Thunder from Down Under. Like. Like. Like Chippendale's is kind of classier.

[B]

So would you take your shirt off?

[D]

I would, yeah. I took a shower, too. I took a shower. You can see my butt on stage. Yeah. Yeah. Not. Not your. Not the pee, but the butt. Yeah.

[B]

Okay.

[D]

I don't know, but I, you know, never met you, but.

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[D]

So we could talk about that, but also, we were talking about day parties. So, like, Vegas has a lot of day parties, right? And I can go there, like, just chill, drink the club soda, be outside some music. Music. I'm not, like, unfortunately, on that same wavelength as everyone, like, having such a good time, but I could stay there for, like, an hour. You can't do that in a club because club starts at 2am so if you can make the club earlier, I can go right after dinner.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

Go there for an hour, maybe get some Instagrams, you know, and then leave.

[B]

Like, get some girls.

[D]

Yeah. Yeah. Why else do we go to the club to dance?

[E]

I'm learning.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

No, well, girls do that. Guys don't do that.

[B]

I would go. I would always think that it would be so fun to go and have, like, bottle service.

[D]

You never did that.

[B]

No, I did.

[D]

Oh.

[B]

And that's the only. That was the only way to, like, get me. And they're like, oh, you have a Table. We have a bottle come by, and then I go. And then. It wasn't that fun.

[D]

Yeah. But for a guy, like, we used to. When I was going out, like, we used to, like, do the bottle service or whatever, but then you got to do a lap.

[B]

How do you do a lap in a club that is, like, so tight together? I could never make my way through the crowd.

[D]

Some, you know, like, some clubs are better than others like that. Like, there's a club in New York like, we used to go to called 1Oak, and that was, like, the best club. And you could definitely do a little lap. It wasn't too big, wasn't too small. But then there's another club called Marquee that's, like, humongous. It's different tiers. Like, you're not doing a lap through different tiers. You're not going up.

[B]

You just, like, point at people and you're like, you come up here.

[D]

No, you don't want to do that. That's what I mean. You actually have to go out in the field, and you have to recruit.

[B]

Okay. And so how do you. So you. You go, like, strictly based on how.

[D]

People look in the club. Yeah. You're not, like, basing it off their education. I wonder what degree she has. Don't want the big tits over there.

[B]

Yeah. So you go out to a girl, you recruit. Could you only recruit one?

[E]

No.

[D]

They usually have to come with their friends, too. So you want to get, like, a solid group, you know?

[B]

So you're not just recruiting the one. You got to make sure that her pack is.

[D]

But they're probably like. They're at, like. There might be, like, a two girls just, like, at the bar or something like that. We have a table. We have a table. You want to drink?

[B]

What if they.

[D]

What if they suck at the club at the thing?

[B]

You recruit them, you go back, you have a drink, and then you're like, oh, God.

[D]

There are, like, promoters and bouncers that, like, handle this whole thing. They shuffle them, they. They'll say they have to leave. They' bring new ones in. I don't usually handle that because, like, I've been lucky to, like, just be the guy.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

But there's definitely, like, oh, my God. Especially in Vegas and, like, these party, like, Miami, these women, they just. There's like a thousand women that are just like wallpaper in the club. Like, literally, that's what is part of the whole wallpaper experience is, like, the promoters are just, like, millions of girls around. It's crazy.

[B]

So has this you up in dating?

[D]

No, it made it better because like I like, I went to a club recently and I saw that and I was like, this is kind of creeping me out a little bit. It's like a little like. And take this as you like lightly, but it's like, like it's a little like human traffick.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

You know what I mean? Like this like guy that like just has this like busload of young women. Just like, they're literally called like atmosphere models where they get paid, not get paid, but they get free shit or they get free housing. There's like houses where like women live and their job is to go out every night and like sit around billionaires and like smoke vapes. But that's not part of the job. But they smoke. Yeah. That's how you gonna cope.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

So I see, I used to see that I'd be like, look at all these hot girls around me. But now as a 37 year old I'm like, nah, like I have to get out of here. Like this is not for me type of thing. I'd rather like go on a date with like one really like girl that like I vibe with. And now I'm just focusing on her.

[B]

Right. So I'm going to get into something. I'm just, I'm curious without any like.

[D]

Context.

[B]

Yeah. Well, I feel like these girls that are like plastic in the club, they're just atmosphere. Like, you know, there's. I would say that girls are starting to kind of look the same. Right? Like, like Instagram face, sort of like Instagram face. Like the same filter on every single girl.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

Is there, does that turn you off now? Are you going for like natural, more natural girls?

[D]

Oh, absolutely. I've always loved that though. I've never really liked the like the Instagram face type of thing. I'm, I've always loved natural women. And you know, if a girl has something, if she has like enhancements somewhere or whatever, then that's fine. But yeah, it's getting a little out of hand now and that's like my personal preference. I live in Manhattan and Manhattan says some of like there's literally like just the most beautiful women on earth there like that.

[B]

There are some gorgeous women in New York.

[D]

Well, that's their job. Like they've been recruited from all over the world because their facial structure is like, so. Yeah.

[B]

And they're tall and thin.

[D]

Yeah, exactly.

[B]

It's just unfortunate to compete with people like that.

[D]

Well, I mean, I, I don't know, like the models are really tall. It's like a different thing. I kind of just like a normal gal that, like, you know, like, sometimes I go out in, like, now they do comedy. Sometimes, like, I'll, like, pop out somewhere and, like, I'll just see, like. Like, oh, like normal women. Like, this is awesome. Wow. Yeah. Like. Like only 3,000 Instagram followers. This is cool.

[B]

Is it more fun to meet girls doing comedy, or was it more fun meeting them in the club?

[D]

I don't meet as much doing comedy. It's a lot of couples. It's a lot of couples. And, you know, the club. The club wasn't great either, though, again, because most of the time they were still partying. And I'm not like, a partier, you know.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

So that's why Instagram and social media is, like, really the only place I can meet women, because I'm not really meeting them in the club. Not really meet them in the comedy clubs.

[B]

Yeah. You still live in New York?

[D]

Yeah, I live. I live in Manhattan.

[B]

So now that you have this, like, crazy fun past, is it hard to get away from when you're dating?

[D]

What do you mean?

[B]

Do girls try to get you to, like. Do they have a perception of you where they're like, oh, you're just a party guy. You're not that serious?

[D]

I think, you know what's funny most. Like, 99.9% of the women that I've, like, dated actually went on dates with, like, barely know who I am. They've heard of the show Jersey Shore, but they don't, like, know the specific cast members and stuff. Not that I like, specifically want that to happen. It just. It is what it is. And sometimes, like, their friends will tell them, like, oh, like, maybe. I don't know, like, the friends will laugh, like, I'll be careful about him, or he was on that show. The show was, like a party, silly show. So it definitely gave me some kind of stigma. But most of the girls I date, they're just like, I don't know who you are. I'm gonna give you the chance to, like, show me who you are. And that's that, you know, they're pretty chill about it.

[B]

So what? So how do you see this going in your love life? Are you gonna date a girl for a year, two years, Feel it out? If.

[G]

Yeah.

[D]

You know, the problem is. And again, I think of everything, like, very systematically. Like, living in Manhattan, it's like the worst dating city. Like, it was literally just voted that.

[E]

Really?

[D]

Yeah. Because I just don't think, like, anybody A lot of women there are being intentional about, like, starting families and stuff. I feel like they're really focused on their career or they're focused on, like, those younger party years, you know, and, you know, I don't know. I meet. I meet a lot of women that are. Are on my same page, like on Instagram, but they live in different places as me. They live in, like, Florida or they live in Georgia or Texas or something like that.

[B]

So what are you gonna do?

[D]

I'm not gonna move.

[B]

Would you be interested in one of them moving closer to you?

[D]

I would, but that's tough. Like, I've. I've kind of explored that in the past. And that's too much pressure. Making somebody relocate for you to a different city and not having a fallback plan or something like that. I try to look on, like, the outskirts of Manhattan a little bit more. Like the suburb girls and stuff.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

Which kind of could be like, feel like a long, maybe a little Connecticut, you know.

[B]

Yeah.

[D]

Something like that I would vibe with. But yeah, I. It's a huge city. It's a huge area. There has to be somebody. I'm just saying I feel like it would happen easier if I lived in, like, you know, a different place. That was a little bit more intentional.

[E]

Yeah.

[B]

Well, what is the most romantic thing you've ever done for someone?

[D]

The most romantic thing I've ever done for someone. You know, I feel like romance is objective, Lauren. I mean, subjective. I. It's weird, you know, like, sometimes, like, I went on a date with that girl that I told you about recently, and we. You're probably gonna hate this, but we. What did we do? We went to go eat somewhere. It was like, really cool. And then we. We rode city bikes to get ice cream. And then we walked home with our ice cream. And she told me, she was like, that was my favorite date that we did. New York City fall vibes, riding the city bike to get ice cream in the West Village. What?

[B]

That is cute.

[D]

Oh, my God, it was great. And I was just like, organic. I'm like, this is just my life, you know, I ride city bikes and get ice cream. But I feel that. Yeah. Because what am I going to do? Be like, oh, I took someone to like a five star restaurant that's like, kind of basic. Yeah, anybody could do that.

[B]

That is true. That's cute.

[D]

But I'm very thoughtful. Like, I'm always like, gift giving and, you know, buying flowers. Like one time there was a girl that I dated that she really liked hot Cheetos. So I sent her, like, a bulk Amazon hot Cheeto box just so, like, she would have it, you know? Yeah, I like, listen to things and, you know, I don't know, maybe I should just buy jewelry or something.

[B]

No, I think that's fun.

[E]

Yeah.

[B]

I think the box of hot Cheetos and taking a city bike to ice cream is great.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

It sounds genuine.

[D]

It is very genuine. Yeah.

[B]

And I also think it's romantic when a guy listens.

[D]

Right. Imagine that.

[B]

Yeah. So you're crushing it there.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

Well, where can people find you?

[D]

So I am on Instagram, Vinny Guadagnino. I have a podcast called Something went wrong with Vinnie. You can find that everywhere. And I have comedy dates just on my Instagram page on my it. You'll see it there in my link and. Yeah, and then Jersey Shore is still on the air. It actually, we do it. It's called Jersey Shore family vacation. And we do it as adults.

[B]

That's cool.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

Well, thank you for coming on my show.

[D]

Thanks for having me.

[B]

This was so fun.

[D]

Yes.

[B]

Thank you guys for watching another episode. We'll see you next time.

[C]

First date.

[B]

Baby, are you really drinking a glass of milk with dinner?

[C]

First date. I can't wait.

[B]

You told your mom about me?

[C]

Just say you're ready.

[B]

Delete my number.

[C]

First date.

[B]

Your parents are your roommates.

[C]

First date.

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