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Interviewer
I feel like you've known each other for a while now.
Sam
30 years.
Nate
This.
Interviewer
This.
Sam
Later. Later this year.
Nate
Wait, you've keeping track of the official, like, amount of years.
Sam
I mean, it's December. If it was like.
Nate
If it was like, you got the month too.
Sam
Well, I know this because it was a. There was a show. It's a very, you know, prominent show in our life, or at least in mine. I mean, I met you there, and it's a great show.
Nate
Yeah, but. But I still don't remember when that was.
Sam
I know the day.
Interviewer
Like, wait, so what show?
Sam
There's a Weezer show on the Pinkerton tour, December of 1996. Wow.
Interviewer
And you sort of. Do you remember what were your first impressions of each other? You, obviously, it's a very memorable.
Sam
It was brief. I mean, it was brief because we just were both there and I went with, um, we have mutual friends.
Nate
We had mutual friend.
Sam
So he was there with. With one friend. I was there with a couple friends. And then at some point in time, there was just like a, oh, hey, what's up? You know, what's going on? Kind of a situation.
Nate
But, well, Sam. Sam ran the official Weezer fan club website.
Interviewer
Oh, okay.
Nate
And so he got to go backstage. So I was just like, I was
Sam
coding in 96, you know, so I was.
Nate
So I was just like, walking by, just being like, what the fuck? How did he get to do, like,
Interviewer
wait, I love this. So wait, how did that work? You're a kid, you're obviously good on the Internet.
Sam
Yeah, my dad had a computer, so I just.
Nate
You were homeschooled as well?
Sam
I was homeschooled, which helped, but.
Guest
How old are you in 96? 16. 16. Okay.
Interviewer
Did they. Did you reach out to them or do they find you?
Sam
I reached out to them. So I like, I. When the first Weezer album came out in 94, I just was, like, obsessed with it, as I think a lot of us were in that time. And I really started getting into computers and I started just trying to discover More music. So I started finding all these music sites, and then I realized you could just look at the source of it, and you could literally just take, like, a block of the code and put it in a text editor and then just like, change stuff from there, you know? It was, like, pretty basic at that point. So I just started making websites. So I made a Weezer website, and I was like, hey, you guys don't have a website for your. I was in the fan club. It was 10 bucks, which was awesome. They'd send you a zine every quarter and, like, a little merch item. And I love merch. So I was psyched, and I was like, hey, do you guys need, like, a. Like a fan site? Like an official fan site? And these two girls, Michael and Carly, ran it, and they're like, yes, that would be awesome. We don't know how to do this. We'll. We'll just send you stuff. We'll send you. My mom or my. Yeah, my mom had a fax machine for some reason, so they would, like, fax me tour dates from the management. And, like, they just sent. I was just, like, running a little Webster, like, little website guy.
Interviewer
As a. As a fan, I mean, Weezer's amazing, but as a fan at that age, what was that like? Were you. Was it just very normal and fine, or were you sort of going, oh, my God, this is crazy?
Sam
No, I just. I was just. I was more interested in being able to do it than I was in the fandom part. Like, I learned a lot, I think, at that time. Just sort of how that was my. My entry to sort of how accessible the music industry could be. Because you realized, like, oh, I'm just, like, communicating with the manager. And so then I started. Friend of mine. We started making these, like, fake press passes because I saw what they looked like, and I was like, we could just make these and, like, go to show. I started going to shows and, like, just walking in and being like, oh, we're with, you know, whatever. And they'd be like, okay, cool.
Guest
We had a very similar teenage. Yeah, I was making websites and T shirt design and doing, like, MySpace coding.
Sam
Yeah, there you go.
Guest
Bands.
Sam
Yeah, I was. I was always.
Interviewer
That was, like, a leveler, wasn't it? Between, like, the people and these, like, inaccessible bands.
Sam
You think that bands are some. You, you know, put them on, like, a huge pedestal, but then you realize they're just. I mean, some people, I guess, are probably living, like, crazy bougie lives, but most people are just like, we go to Punk shows. And we'd see these bands that we loved. And I. And in my mind, I would even at that time, would think, like, oh, they're probably, like, rich and whatever. And then they'd roll up in, like, the shittiest van imaginable. And you could just tell, like, oh, these guys are just scarfing down the Fazoli's because they haven't eaten all day because they're broke, so.
Interviewer
The Internet was so pure back then. My God, if only we could go back to that time.
Sam
I loved that version of the Internet. It's kind of where it died for me.
Interviewer
No, I love message boards. Like, late 90s, early 2000s message boards was like peak Internet for me.
Nate
That was our jam for sure. The local punk rock club had message board, and that's where we. Like, we lived on that message board. Yeah. You met your wife.
Sam
I met my wife on that message board through him.
Interviewer
Like, amazing.
Sam
Yeah. I was the moderator, of course, because I got a job.
Nate
You were absolutely mod. I didn't even remember that you got
Sam
a job at the venue. Because I knew how to make websites.
Nate
Yeah.
Sam
Big mod energy. I was modding hard, for sure.
Interviewer
So you guys end up meeting at the Weezer show. How soon was it till you were sort of making music together? How did that work?
Nate
Probably like a year.
Sam
Like, it was about a year. Yeah. I think the next time we, like, I went to your house and played basketball in your driveway with. And then I discovered that you had. You were just starting attempting to start a band.
Nate
Yeah, yeah. At that point. Guitar.
Sam
Yeah.
Guest
The format at that time.
Nate
No, this was. We had a couple of. We had, like a pop punk band. Then we had kind of like a emo type of band. And then we had the format. Yeah. Just different iterations, really. Just like the same people, too.
Sam
Yeah, really.
Nate
Really. Just like recycled and still even 20 years later.
Sam
Yeah. Marco in our band was in all three of those bands. As.
Interviewer
And did you have any idea at that moment you'd still be friends and still making music together 30 years on? I mean, obviously there's been all sorts of morphing and changing, but here you both are. I mean, most people don't have friendships that last that long.
Nate
Whatever we had in Phoenix, including, like, Marco, just that old group of friends have found a way to kind of stay together in one way. I mean, even one of our other friends had just sent us photos from our guitarist Marco's wedding, like, 10 years ago. So, yeah, I mean. And there was no talk of the format reuniting or anything like that at that time. So, yeah, we've all just found a way to stay in each other's lives for better or for worse.
Guest
What was that? Arizona music scene? Cause I grew up in Chicago around, like, the rise of Fall Out Boy and all those bands of that era.
Nate
The Metro was the place to be.
Guest
Metro, Knights of Columbus and Arlington Heights.
Nate
What was.
Guest
Because you guys had Pedro the Lion around.
Nate
We had Jimmy Eat World.
Guest
Jimmy Eat World.
Nate
Okay, we had Jimmy World, and before that, we had the Gin Blossoms. But we were. I think Jimmy World came for us just a little bit later.
Sam
We.
Nate
We. Right after Weezer, we really got into, like, punk and. And like, pop punk. And we had a friend who started. He dropped out of high school to start booking all the punk shows at, like, 16, like, all the major shows, like, you know, thousand 2000 seaters and stuff like that. And Sam being the homeschooled kid was a. Like, Just ended up getting a job and doing all the graphics and running the door and stuff like that.
Sam
Yeah, I was working, like, 80 hours a week. I'd get there at 10. I'd make every flyer, every poster, modding the web, like, doing the website, and then I would work the door and. And then sometimes work, like, goth night afterwards.
Interviewer
I was working.
Nate
I, like, begged for a job, and I got hired to pass out flyers, but I just kept them in the
Guest
trunk of my car and no one would show up.
Interviewer
Like Newman and Seinfeld, just never delivering.
Nate
That's exactly what I did.
Interviewer
Wait, so I just. I don't want to skip over this. The homeschooling thing, because I was homeschooled till I was about 12.
Sam
Oh, really?
Interviewer
It's a trip. You know, I think there's really amazing aspects to it and sort of quite weird aspects when you look back. Yeah, but how was it for you? And were you. Where did you go to school?
Nate
I was public school.
Interviewer
You were public school. Okay. So quite a separate kind of.
Sam
Yeah, I. My mom pulled me out of school in third grade.
Interviewer
What was racing for?
Sam
I actually don't remember. I think it was. She just had some issue with the school, like, some personal issue and, I
Guest
don't know, like, some beef with the principal.
Sam
Some. Yeah, some. Some sort of beef that I never even bothered because I don't even care. Didn't even bother to ask. But it was super weird at first. When I was really young, I did not like it at all. If you'd have to do the basic testing and they would. We'd all go to this school And I was just like, these are not. There's a lot of like very super religious, like post hippie kids and stuff. And it just didn't. Was not my scene. I did not like engage with. I couldn't. I couldn't figure out how to connect with anybody in that world. But then I had a. The kind of. The thing that made it great for me was a friend of ours, another Nate in our life, moved in across the street from me and became my best friend. And he. What do you like, play tennis with you or something? How did he know? How did he.
Nate
We just went to school.
Sam
Went to school together. But didn't you do something? Like, what was the. What was your connection?
Nate
He was into music. We. I think we. I think we like played tennis and stuff like that as like an aside.
Sam
Okay.
Nate
Like that was later on.
Sam
But so I just, I mean he was my best friend. So then all of his friends that he was meeting at school, I just started hanging out with.
Interviewer
He was like the conduit in.
Sam
He was definitely like.
Interviewer
Yeah. I had Sam Darling. He was my one friend, lived up the road and he was like my conduit into the rest of the world.
Nate
Right? Yeah. Because otherwise. Yeah.
Sam
You're like.
Interviewer
But if you. Goes to you and mommy.
Sam
Yeah, yeah.
Guest
Do you call your mom mommy? Like he does?
Interviewer
No, I don't.
Sam
But yeah. And also I was a little bit older, so I got the car first and just started driving everybody to all the shows. As soon as I had a car I was just like, I'm dry. We're like, we're going to shows. We weren't.
Nate
Yeah, we went, we went everywhere. We really went to Jack in the Box a lot.
Sam
Yeah. And Taco Bell and, and record stores.
Nate
Somehow my parents and your parents let us go to LA to go see shows.
Sam
Yeah, we started coming out here really early.
Interviewer
Amazing stuff.
Sam
It was. Yeah.
Nate
Yeah. We were still in high school, like going. Driving up to LA from Phoenix.
Sam
Yeah. I have a 16 year old daughter right now and the thought of just letting her get in a car and drive out to Anaheim is. Is not what I like to think about.
Interviewer
I guess different time. But also it is kind of outrageous. Anyway.
Sam
Yeah.
Guest
Yeah, my parents. Yeah. I was 16, driving into the city to the Metro and like Fireside bowl and. Yeah,
Sam
that was awesome. A lot of cool shows there.
Interviewer
I'm sure I wasn't allowed. I was like. I had like. I couldn't go anywhere. I had a pet goat called Frisky. I'd go hunting on the weekends with my dad. Very different existence.
Sam
You brought the goat.
Interviewer
Hunting the goat was actually my dad shot its mother, which was so sad and awful. Didn't realize there was a kid there. And we bought the goat home. And then I had a pet goat.
Sam
Wow.
Interviewer
So it was, like, quite a sad origin.
Nate
Yeah.
Guest
It was a revenge.
Interviewer
And then we ate Frisky. No, we didn't eat Frisky.
Nate
I had a goat growing up.
Interviewer
Get out. They're the best. They're so loyal and so fun hard.
Guest
Disagree.
Nate
Before we moved to Arizona, my family's from Iowa, and we had a farm. And my earliest memories was the goat would just not get off the fucking car so we could leave.
Interviewer
Yeah. They love climbing. They want to be on things.
Nate
They're awful. They make crazy noises.
Interviewer
Yeah. They eat everything. They tear shit up.
Nate
My least favorite animal. If it weren't for their. If it weren't for their milk or their cheese.
Interviewer
That's so funny.
Nate
Yeah.
Interviewer
No, I love my little. It was just my best friend. Homeschooled. So, like, Frisky was my friend. It was friendship.
Nate
Applesauce was not. Was not full sauce. Applesauce was evil. And I'm talking, like, this is probably, like, weirdly. I remember being born.
Interviewer
Sorry, we're going back.
Guest
Like, the coming out. Yeah.
Nate
Yeah. I remember being born. I remember the lights turning on.
Interviewer
Are you serious? Yeah.
Nate
And being like, time to go.
Interviewer
This is blowing my mind because my memory's so bad.
Nate
My memory's awful, too.
Interviewer
The lights are on and then do you remember, like, people looking down at you and, like, whacking your ass, basically.
Nate
And I remember just, like, screaming. And then it kind of went dark again. And then the lights came back on when the fucking goat wouldn't get off the.
Sam
Those are your two.
Nate
Four.
Sam
Yes.
Nate
That is amazing.
Interviewer
That's amazing.
Nate
Yes. Like, if you were to see it from. As a scene, you'd like it blurry and you'd see, like, a doctor. I just remember it unconsolably. It was just, like, bawling. That's all I remember.
Interviewer
That's extraordinary because we obviously all have that in us, but we don't remember it, I assume because it's too traumatic. Because it's too right. You're in this beautiful womb, and then you're. Fuck, you're out. Awful.
Nate
I looked it up on the Internet and there are. Yeah, there are a few people who have very similar, like, stories.
Interviewer
Do you want me to find a message board and talk about.
Nate
That's how I met my wife, too. She also remembers being birthed. Yeah. But then the goat applesauce was my next big memory.
Interviewer
I don't know what to do with that. Were you joking before Your wife also remembers her birth or. Are you serious? She goes, okay, I'm just checking. Rob's always doing a deadpan, and I can't understand him.
Nate
No, no, I'm not. I'm not that good.
Interviewer
Wait, so wait, so what was the memory after the goat that just continued then? The memory was from goat onwards, or did you blink out again for a while?
Nate
I feel like it blinked out again and then it started. Then that's when it was like the
Guest
Weezer show where you meet.
Nate
No, then it was like, probably. It was probably like a year later. And then. And then it was like a month later, and then it was, you know. And then it just became whatever we have now.
Interviewer
I don't know where to go from there. Phoenix, maybe Back to Phoenix? Because I'm going to Phoenix for the first time to see a 9 inch now show this Friday. It's my first time in Phoenix. What is Phoenix?
Sam
It's time to go.
Nate
Oh, and what do I mean? My dad threw away our Nine Inch Nails ticket senior year of high school. I was like, it was Nine Inch Nails, Perfect Circle. Me and Mike Lentz. Shout out Mike Lentz. We're gonna go. Also still a friend. We're gonna go. And I was like, I had the tickets. I put them in my dad's drawer, thinking that that would be the safest place.
Interviewer
Safe. Yeah.
Nate
And my dad threw them out.
Interviewer
That's horrific.
Nate
No.
Guest
Okay.
Nate
I don't know how any of this happened. The story blows my mind. And he will. And Mike will not forgive me, like, to this day.
Sam
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Interviewer
And then you find out, like, the
Nate
day of, the day of. And. And. And I have a friend. One time we were talking. He's like, the best show I ever saw was Nine Inch Nails and Perfect Circle.
Sam
I was like, way to go, lj.
Nate
Yeah, way to go, lj. So, yeah, so congratulations on being the
Interviewer
youngest person to go to my dad's drawer. So I'm just gonna check those tickets.
Nate
Wait, you better be careful with those tickets in Phoenix.
Guest
No, I think growing up in, like, a desert town is maybe a little bit interesting for you, too, because. Yeah, New Zealand, right?
Interviewer
We don't really do deserts. No.
Nate
I didn't appreciate it until now.
Sam
I didn't appreciate the desert either, actually. Yeah.
Nate
I thought it was, like, when people talked about. I was like, what's so cool about having dirt and, like, having a yard that's Just dirt. Like, even growing up in it is like, this is so, like, disgusting.
Sam
Yeah. I didn't appreciate a lot about it until one time these kids I was working with these kids from Philadelphia, and they're just like, it's so awesome out here. And everything is just like.
Nate
What do you call.
Sam
They're like, touching my house and like. What do you call this? I'm, like, stuck. Like, all of our houses are like bricks and old and, like, everything here is just, like, new. And I was just like, okay.
Interviewer
Huh.
Guest
I do. My best friend in first grade moved to Scottsdale from Chicago, and I remember coming out to visit him, and Scottsdale's
Sam
a very different place.
Guest
What is that?
Sam
That's like another world from where we grew up, for sure.
Nate
We also have a lot of Chicago transplant. It's a big, like, I'm from. I. It's a weird midwestern hub.
Guest
Well, you got Portillo and Luminatis there, right?
Nate
We do.
Guest
I think. I pretty sure just clo.
Sam
The. The. The, like, bump in one.
Interviewer
Just.
Sam
The Luman Al is just closed. But there's a.
Nate
Is there a Portillo there?
Sam
I think so.
Guest
There is, yeah. Yeah. We went during COVID and got a bunch of Portillo.
Nate
I can't believe I moved.
Sam
I don't know how you're. I don't like a deep dish pizza. I don't not. It's not for me.
Guest
You're having the wrong kind.
Sam
Like a bread. It's a bread bowl.
Nate
It's not good.
Interviewer
It's a lot.
Sam
It's a bread bowl.
Interviewer
Yeah. Yeah.
Sam
It's a soup. It's basically soup.
Nate
I used to. I used to think that it was my favorite until I tried it.
Sam
The idea of it was really phenomenal.
Guest
Well, where. What deep dish have you had in Chicago?
Nate
I want to say probably Luminardi's and we went to.
Sam
Was there like Grimaldi's or something?
Nate
Yeah, like, you know, I think.
Guest
Okay. Representations. You got to do, like, PE Quads.
Nate
I'm not doing any of them.
Sam
Yeah, sorry.
Nate
Those are the two strikes.
Interviewer
I like.
Sam
The thinnest of thin crust pizzas you can get. That's my jam.
Nate
Yeah. Well, Chicago food is. And I do love Chicago food. Rick Bayless is my favorite person of all time. So I'm really looking forward to going to Chicago and going to a bunch of Rick Bayless restaurants, which is funny because being from Phoenix, where the Mexican food is amazing, But I've just gone on an Internet trip of looking at Rick Bayless stuff.
Interviewer
Wait, so what did Phoenix give Us. Like, what are Phoenix's things? Because my brain is completely empty.
Guest
Desert, Jimmy, Desert.
Nate
But the fact that it's taking. It's taken.
Interviewer
That wasn't. That would sound like an aggressive question, like, what did it give us? But, like, what is Phoenix is a weird place.
Nate
We got the big Charlie Kirk funeral.
Sam
Yeah.
Interviewer
Oh, God. We got the Charlie Kirk freeway.
Sam
Yeah. We got Turning Point usa. That's our big win.
Interviewer
Oh, is.
Nate
Is TP usa.
Sam
It's in Phoenix.
Nate
Toilet paper usa.
Sam
Is Phoenix in Phoenix also?
Interviewer
It is Big Christian. Yeah.
Sam
It's a very rural suburban sprawl. Lots. We have. We have a lot of, like, mega churches in the, like, East Valley, West Valley.
Nate
It's turned. But it's also turned fairly progressive since
Sam
we've been in the center. Yeah, like the. We do have. We now have a pretty good sort of central, like, downtown core. When we were kids, the downtown area was just, like, abysmal. Everything would close at, you know, five. And there's one venue down there that we would go to. We actually saw someone get murdered at. Across the street.
Interviewer
You saw it happen?
Nate
Yes, yes.
Interviewer
Sorry. Horrible.
Sam
It was like a beating with a brick.
Nate
I watched someone get hit with a brick. But we're not going to describe this, are we?
Sam
We didn't know what was happening. It seemed like it was very strange. It seemed like they were friends.
Nate
They were.
Sam
It was strange. We didn't get it until, weirdly, Marco,
Nate
who we've mentioned a few times the other day, he explained. He told the whole story because I have, like, blocked it out of my mind.
Interviewer
Right? You've got your birth and the goat.
Nate
Yes.
Sam
Yeah. But we had that venue down there. But other than that, it was like, downtown was terrible. But it's recently, like, we moved down there. You like. You were the first one to move down there in like 2006 or something. That's when it started kind of becoming a place where you could escape the sprawl and all of that stuff, like the rural life of whatever. It's just like Phoenix is kind of depressing because it was like a stamp and repeat of like a. Like a mall, you know, a target. It's like the same, Right. Again repeated this. This a neighborhood. And then once the next one's built, no one wants to live in this one anymore. So people move into that one and then this one just gets kind of abandoned and they just keep doing that until you get to California, you know, at this point.
Nate
And really, like, it's crazy how much it stretches out. Even I hadn't Driven from. We used to make that drive when we were kids all the time. Or even early format days, living in Phoenix, driving to California to make a record or whatever it was. And yeah, the houses would just get closer and closer to California. Like, you'd be driving in from California and being like, wait a second, like, I was just here two months ago, and it seems like we're like three miles ahead. Three, like three extra miles of houses have just, like, has just sprawled out. Now it's in.
Sam
And California's doing the same thing. So they will eventually meet.
Nate
They'll kiss like the lady and the Tramp.
Sam
Yeah, exactly.
Interviewer
Yeah.
Sam
It's one giant spaghetti noodle.
Interviewer
There's no sane segue into this, but these coffees are sitting here. And in every episode, I encourage guests to bring in something sort of iconically American that I perhaps have not partaken in.
Nate
Is this iconically? It's about to be.
Sam
It's about to be.
Nate
There's some finger on the pulse type of stuff.
Interviewer
I have been staring at these for a while, and. And I'm curious what these are exactly.
Guest
I think it is a Japanese coffee shop, but in America.
Sam
Yeah, I'm.
Interviewer
I'm.
Sam
I mean, I heard.
Interviewer
And I thought that sounds fucking American.
Sam
Yeah. This is an iced latte with, like, peanut butter, like, actual peanut butter in it that has been kind of like liquefied and squirted into the coffee.
Interviewer
Okay.
Sam
And then stirred. It's very delicious.
Interviewer
Is this a recent discovery of yours?
Sam
This is in the last year. I discovered this. And I've been trying to turn everybody I know onto the peanut butter latte. It's my favorite treat.
Interviewer
Okay. I'm gonna have a. You guys have one. Yeah. Rob and I get to share this.
Nate
I think you tried to turn me onto this about a few months ago or something. Few months ago, yeah.
Sam
Give it a stir.
Interviewer
Oh, yeah, that's peanutty.
Guest
Peanut butter on the bottom, I think.
Nate
Oh, yeah. We need to get that peanut butter up.
Guest
Really settle down there.
Interviewer
Yeah. These have been sitting for about an hour now.
Sam
Yeah, I get a lot of these. So this is not. This is not new to me.
Interviewer
Oh, delicious.
Sam
It's great, right?
Interviewer
Yeah, I love peanut butter. Big fan.
Guest
In about 15 years.
Sam
15 years.
Nate
Oh, my God.
Interviewer
You've been up for a long time. Can you. It's probably.
Sam
Are you recovering coffee junkie?
Interviewer
Are you? No,
Guest
I'm always a tea guy.
Interviewer
Yeah. So it's not the caffeine so much.
Guest
It's the matcha's got a lot of caffeine.
Interviewer
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's good.
Guest
You know, that has got a lot
Interviewer
of peanut flavor aspect is a great. Yeah, great flavor. I'm into this.
Nate
Yeah, I'm into it too. There's not enough peanut butter for me.
Interviewer
You want more?
Sam
It's a bit watered down.
Interviewer
Yeah. The ice has melted because it has been sitting here for a little bit,
Nate
but anything worth doing is worth overdoing, so. Yeah, but. But it is still absolutely delicious.
Interviewer
Do you guys think you'll. You'll still be friends in another 30 years?
Nate
Well, the hope is that we're still alive. That's really just.
Sam
Yeah, I think as long as we're still kicking it. What is that? Was that going to be 75 for me?
Nate
I think so. We're not dramatic people, so I guess something crazy would have to happen, like, let's knock on wood, but. But it'd have to be like, I don't know, we're just so low drama that, like, I don't know how it wouldn't happen. How the 20 years that we were not a band. It's not like we talked every day or even every year, but we were always still close. But it's been really cool doing this again because now we both have families and our families are now more so intertwined, and it's just a cool thing.
Interviewer
What was that conversation that brought you guys back to make some more music? Because you're gonna play some songs soon for us? But what was that conversation, or thought?
Sam
He learned how to play guitar. That was probably the biggest conduit back to it. We'd been talking for years to reunite, to play. Just to play some shows. And those materialized kind of at right before COVID started. We had them booked and then they just went away. Obviously there's like March and April of 2020, so.
Interviewer
All right, so Covid really. Yeah, fucked that up.
Sam
Yeah, Covid really fucked that up, which was. Ended up, I think, being, you know, sort of good because did feel a bit more like an obligation at that point. Maybe, like, we wanted to do it, but it just was sort of like maybe we felt like we. We needed to do it just because so much time had passed and we didn't really have a good reason to not do it. You know, people wanted to see us play. So I will just go play some shows, I guess. But, yeah, he learned how to play guitar. I went out to. To visit him and heard some songs that he was working on and saw like, his little setup that he built in his basement. It's like, what are you doing with all this stuff? And at that. At that time, he said nothing.
Nate
Yeah, I was never. I was. I was very comfortably retired for about like eight years. Just being like, I don't need. I don't need. I have no desire, like, and didn't fortunately, didn't need to have to do anything. And so my kids started going to school and I was like, I need something to do during the day. I've always liked guitar. I might as well just learn to play a couple songs. And then as I did that, then suddenly the floodgates opened again and I just started writing a whole bunch of music with no intention. I was just like, okay, well this will just be for me. And then I started to be like, I actually kind of like this stuff and I wouldn't mind if people heard it.
Guest
How easily did you guys click back into.
Sam
Very easy. Yeah, very easy for me. I mean, I. Yeah, it was. Feel like I understood exactly what he was going for with. With this kind of had just the. I mean there were. There were like a batch of seven songs maybe that were in pretty good shape. You know, I could definitely tell what was going on and I was just very excited to. I mean, I hadn't made any music in a long time either, so it's excited to do that. And actually in 2020, I was pitching. I was like, we should just do like a song. I really wanted to.
Nate
Yeah. And I was like, I'm never doing a song again.
Sam
It'd be more fun if we have something new to play. You know, like we'll close with a new song or something. But anyway, so it ended up just being, I think better in the end. And it 20 years has passed, but in a lot of ways it feels like no time has passed at all. Almost like a parallel universe situation.
Interviewer
But that's the best kind of friendship that you can just like tap back in. And if you can do that music as well, it's great.
Nate
Tap back in with like. And it's just like the whole being born thing just to circle back around. It's like it went. It went dark.
Sam
Yeah.
Nate
And then it just like open it. The eyes open back up and Sam is there. Yeah.
Sam
I am the goat with his fake.
Nate
And like. But 20 years as better people too, I think is the. Is like the kind of. The best part about it is. Yeah. We're just, I think better versions of ourselves too. Not that we were bad versions earlier, but it's just so much. So much more enjoyable when you've figured out a lot of things. Nobody ever figures anything out truly. But I think we've just figured out a lot in our lives and being comfortable in our own skin and I think being more aware of the world around us, I think those type of things, it makes this much more enjoyable.
Interviewer
And you feel like having kids and stuff probably helps as well, right? Like your perspective on things.
Nate
Oh yeah, for sure. Everything changed. Like even just writing from a writing perspective, for me, I've always just been like, boohoo me. I got broken up with. Oh no.
Guest
And yeah, 20s to 40s is a different experience.
Nate
And I did well with that. Very, very well with that. And that's how that's who I was. Like, I could not imagine being anyone else other than some heartbroken like person. And once I had kids, it just like suddenly you're like, wait a second, there's a whole world out there and it's fucked up.
Interviewer
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Interviewer
You're excited about making music again now. What put you in that headspace of being like, fuck this, I'm done with music for now. Like, was it a specific thing or just bored over it?
Nate
Over it? I'm not the type. I'm a type of person who's like, I'm into something and then I'm off of it. And I hate the idea of being defined by one thing I don't like. Like, because that's not who I am. I'm not just a guy who makes music. I don't know what else I know how to do. I just know that that's just not who I am. I don't spend every waking breathing second thinking about music. And I had to. Things were going really well. I had no choice but to spend every waking second thinking about it and seeing it. Like, seeing it as from having the biggest songs in the world and all that type of stuff. Those things that you just never really dream about and getting there and just being like, this is fucking big beat. Like, this sucks.
Interviewer
Yeah.
Nate
Like this sucks and I don't even love it.
Interviewer
That's not the be all end all.
Nate
Yeah. And I've. And I've. I've made more money than I could ever possibly be comfortable. Like, I never thought that it would do this. So like, why am I sticking around? This is Just stupid. And so. And so I was just like, all right, I'm out. Like, I'm done. And so it was cool that coming back to this, I feel like we've both been blessed in our lives, in the. In the 20 years apart, where we're not approaching this with any thought other than for us. We sell our tickets as low as possible. We sell our merchandise as low as possible.
Interviewer
Amazing. Great. Accessible.
Nate
Yeah, Like.
Sam
And, you know, like, we're enjoying this. We want people to be able to come and experience this with us now. We don't want to gouge those people. We want this.
Nate
We live, to break even. Like, that's all. Like, that's all we can ask for in this situation, doing this. And because you just watch how much people just get ripped off by, like, musicians and by, like, rich musicians. That's the other thing. Like, I understand, like, if you're a band and you're just trying, like, this is your living, because it's become harder and harder because the music industry has taken everything away from everybody. So it's hard for a band to make money. So I understand, you know, in some ways, but if you are privileged enough, like, hardworking people are paying money like these, like, and you're taking everything they have so that they can come watch you live. Like, when we were kids, it was an outlet. Going to concerts was an outlet. Now people have to take out a fucking mortgage just to go see a show that would not be enjoyable. For me to also have this feeling like, I just paid 80 bucks for a T shirt after a hard day's work. It's just awful the way that people treat how the music industry works, specifically from the top, which is like anything in life, but. But I just look at how much these artists just charge an arm and a leg for everything, and it's just so disappointing. So for us to. For us doing this, it's like, okay, we just. If we make anything extra, that's nice, but I can't imagine. Because we really just want to be able to pay the people that we work with.
Interviewer
Are you running the website?
Sam
Sort of. Sort of.
Interviewer
Of course you are.
Sam
In many ways, I am.
Nate
Yes.
Sam
It's gotten. It's gotten much easier. No, we actually did get a little help. They asked me if I was running the website, and then it had to be kind of revamped for the new album, and I was like, I'll let somebody else do it.
Guest
What are you. What are you using for it?
Sam
We're using. Are you guys sponsored by Squarespace?
Guest
Sometimes.
Sam
Well, you are now.
Nate
Wait, we have a website?
Sam
Yeah. I mean, it's just. What is a. What even is a website?
Interviewer
What is a website?
Sam
Yeah, it's like. It's all. It's just like a. It's all like modular stuff.
Guest
It's.
Nate
It's just like a link me page.
Sam
I mean, most people's websites are just that now. It's like. It's just a place to. You have to have so many different. Yeah, that's.
Interviewer
So my friend's band just got a website and it's very funny. They made it, like, almost. You remember that game Myst? We like, dragging the mouse around in a room. The whole website. Like, you're in a room and you're sort of like dragging the mouse around to, like, find tour dates and stuff. The least user friendly website imaginable, but very fucking funny.
Sam
We had a video game.
Nate
We had a video game. Back in 2010, we had a video game website.
Interviewer
Oh, really?
Nate
Yeah.
Interviewer
Incredible.
Sam
Yeah, yeah.
Nate
2006.
Sam
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Nate
We already.
Sam
It was. It was a full video game website that you would just. You'd play the video game and then there would just be these little stops where you could get, like, tour dates and whatever. We all had little characters. It was really cool.
Interviewer
Oh, I love that. I feel like it's when, like. Was it like Flash became a big thing?
Sam
Yeah.
Interviewer
Suddenly, like, using that as much as
Guest
they possibly could, then mobile became a thing and then you couldn't use Flash on mobile.
Sam
I couldn't. I was not a flash. I could not. So I just kind of, like, peaked at HTML. I was not. Once Flash came into play, I was like, I am out. I'm out.
Interviewer
The songs you're about to play us in the studio, is there anything you want to say about them before you play them or just let them speak for themselves?
Sam
Well, I mean, one of them bar sets. Hello. We have that up on Bandcamp.
Nate
Oh, duh. Yeah.
Sam
And that's. That's a really important song for us. I mean, it was intended to be on Boycott Heaven. Actually, we recorded a version of it that just didn't. The way. The way it was recorded just didn't really. It didn't really work. But, yeah, we started playing it when our. The week our album came out. You know, things got pretty. Pretty hairy in Minneapolis. And we found out the morning that we were doing our show, like an in store in Phoenix, Alex Preddy got shot. And so Nate was like, hey, we should maybe, you know, break this song out and play it today.
Interviewer
Holy shit.
Nate
It was the day after, like, our album release, and we were in Phoenix. And I don't know, Phoenix people have just always been particularly amazing for us. And so we had this big, huge CD release for, like, a record store, a local record store, Stinkweeds, that people had to get tickets to. And. Yeah. And so we were gonna just play all new songs and that awful thing happened. And the whole song is about just immigration and the way that we treat our immigrant population. Legal or illegal. Illegal in this country. And so it just seemed very fitting to play it that day. And then I think people really appreciated it when you write a song like that. And having listened to a lot of Rage against the Machine too, lately, where you just realize that nothing changes. I'm listening to Rage nowadays, just being like, well, this could have been written. This was written 30 years ago. It's. It applies so perfectly today, and it probably applied so perfectly 30 years prior to when it was written. And so I feel like this is just one of those songs where we were like, okay, like, one day it's going to have to be released because it's just. I know nothing's going to change here. And so we decided to re record just an acoustic version that we put
Sam
up on on Bandcamp. Yeah. And then we're, you know, we released it. It was on. They do that Band Camp Friday thing where they take no fees. So we released it on the first one this year, and we had a, you know, great first day. Then we're donating all that money to a basket of organizations that we think are pretty cool. And. Yeah. So it's up there right now. And. And we've been. We've been. We play. We continue to play it. That. That whole run, the whole little string of shows that we did for the album release.
Nate
So. Yeah. So funny doing an album release and then closing it out with the song that did not make the album.
Interviewer
Yeah. For a very good reason.
Sam
Yeah.
Interviewer
Yeah, for sure.
Nate
But, like, you're like, I'm here to promote this album.
Guest
Everything's digital now. You just throw it at the end of the album.
Nate
You know, I thought about that, too. You just put in the bonus track. I've done that before, where you just put bonus track at the end of it. Just put in parentheses. But. But no, we just. We wanted to just give all the proceeds to. To causes that will benefit.
Interviewer
Gotta try. Right in the middle of all of this, you have to try. Things might never change, but you've got to try.
Nate
Yeah, that's the hard thing. Things might Change or you gotta just keep trying to find ways to energize people. I think we're hopefully coming to a point where direct action is just much more. You even just saw the amount of people that just went out in Minneapolis somehow the day before.
Interviewer
I was there the day before for the march to cover it. And then obviously that happened the next day. But that was a combination of a fucking horrific murder that happened. But the positive thing about that city is everyone is so down to help each other and for direct action and mutual aid is all across that city. That response was amazing to see.
Nate
That response was phenomenal to see. And I think unfortunately what happened to Alex Preddy was probably a big byproduct of that. These losers just have. Their egos were damaged. These are the biggest babies in the entire world. They hired the dumbest people just to do this shit. And their poor fragile egos didn't like being pushed back and yelled at 60,000 plus people. And you know, it's something that most of the country is in favor of. They didn't like that. Nobody likes them. And so they had to take it out on somebody as if what they're doing isn't enough 100%. So yeah, I did appreciate what happened the day before. And you just knew something bad was going to happen because they, that's what happens when you have just like crazy bootlickers who just don't, you know, they can't think for themselves. And so it was great to see that direct action. And I really just hope that there can be more direct action that people can see that. You know, I just feel like the time of charity based type of stuff, like not looking and just saying, okay, just take my money is not, it's just not enough.
Interviewer
Not enough. Completely have to actually like step up and do something.
Nate
It's like you can, I appreciate it obviously, like trying to do, trying to do good. But I think we're at a point now where, yeah, it's just, it's unavoidable.
Sam
I mean even I think people that. Yeah, I mean it's, it's horrible that seeing things like this happen. Like, things like this have to happen in order to like wake up people that, you know, maybe, maybe this is what it takes. You know, it's just. I don't know, it's. But I do feel like even some people, I won't name names, but people in my family who I would maybe not expect to be kind of outraged by what's happening are even starting to kind of wake up and Be like, okay, this is actually very fucked up, you know?
Interviewer
Yeah, it's like, smack them in the face.
Sam
Yeah. It's like. It's just getting too apparent. It's like, you can't. You just cannot ignore this. Like, you absolutely cannot ignore it at all. So, yeah, it's like. I mean, hoping something beautiful can come out of this total nightmare that we're living in. If history repeats itself, I think it will.
Interviewer
Well, fuck. Thanks for coming in and playing these songs. I don't know. I don't want to go back to this again, but maybe we can cut this in earlier. This birth situation, I don't want to skip over that. I just.
Nate
It's good to circle back to it.
Interviewer
Just.
Nate
Okay.
Interviewer
Yeah. I just want to know the memory, you know, that memory.
Nate
Like, do you want the whole scene?
Interviewer
I want the scene.
Nate
I want the smell. I'm giving you this scene. The smells, they were not there. The. The. It honestly was like, the light is on there. The thought in my brain was, here we go. I swear on, like, everything. Like, I don't think I've ever literally told people this story, and people. I've never heard this, and people don't believe it. And that's what I find so strange. I'm like, wait, that didn't happen to you as well.
Interviewer
Like, it happened to all of us, didn't it? That's the thing. We don't remember. You do.
Nate
It's like stock footage of like a. Like a wait. Like in a waiting room. You know what I'm saying? Like, I'm just seeing.
Interviewer
I don't know what you're saying.
Nate
I'm just crying. All I know as I'm crying, I feel like it's all foggy. It's probably the placenta.
Guest
The eyes aren't working for a little while.
Nate
I just remembered. It's like, it's go time.
Interviewer
Okay.
Nate
And then it was like.
Sam
Like, just as you see your dad light up a cigarette.
Nate
Yeah, sure.
Interviewer
My dad.
Nate
I'm sure my dad was in that. It was in the delivery room just smoking up a storm.
Interviewer
Do you remember shapes or noises or is just too. Too much placenta over your little. It was just like, light.
Nate
It was just like, light. Like, suddenly there was light and it was time.
Guest
Time.
Interviewer
Let's go.
Nate
Action.
Interviewer
Thank you for expanding. I'm just. I've never. It's blowing my mind.
Sam
What's your earliest memory? What's your mind?
Interviewer
Taps and I feel like age. I'm late. I'm like five or six.
Sam
Okay.
Interviewer
And that's why I'm blown away by this. Like, what a remarkable thing. And I know we all experience it, so we all have that in us, but for whatever reason, we don't remember. You do. That's incredible.
Nate
It's really weird. I'm not a religious person or spir. Spiritual, for that matter.
Sam
These.
Nate
The feeling of it's go time.
Interviewer
I can't deal with that. Seriously.
Nate
The feeling of it's go time suddenly was just like, all right, it's on.
Sam
Let's roll.
Nate
Like, here's life again. Maybe it's my second time. Maybe it's my third time, you know, I don't know.
Interviewer
But that. It wasn't words. You weren't thinking. It's go time. That was the emotion. Or was it, like, if you spoke. What did you say? Like, it's go time.
Nate
No, no, it was. Was a feeling.
Interviewer
Okay, Just checking. The fuck is good. Something very motivational about that. Like, it's such a great impetus to have. It's go time. I'm gonna take that with me.
Nate
I love that you're. That you have latched onto this so much because.
Interviewer
Oh, it's the most remarkable thing I've heard.
Nate
I sound like. Now you're making me feel like I'm a crazy person.
Interviewer
No, the thing is, I believe you. I don't think you're crazy. I believe you've got that feeling in memory, and I'm just in awe of that.
Nate
No, I. I. And I also. I do. I appreciate. I appreciate that. Thank you.
Sam
You.
Interviewer
And then Buttercup, Whatever you fucking go.
Nate
No, it was applesauce. Applesauce.
Sam
Buttercup.
Nate
Oh, God. Yeah.
Sam
Buttercup was your horse.
Nate
I did not have a horse named Buttercup.
Interviewer
You guys are amazing. We covered so much Americana in there, and you were fucking wonderful. So thank you. What a place. Yeah. Well, it is a weird country. It's a really weird country.
Sam
It definitely is. Bar said solo
Band Member / Singer
I was taken from my mother's arms? And caught it off carted blocks? What would I do for a slave wage? And some hard problems? Out of pocket, out of context?
Interviewer
Clue.
Band Member / Singer
Get away, get away, get away?
Nate
Cause the fear has gotten whole?
Band Member / Singer
And I'm struggling? It's a shame, it's a shame, it's a shame that the bar is set so low? I'm caught on. They're awake before the rising sun? So card them up, Card them up? What will that do? Save a space to make zeros and wands? A bigger briefcase for our boys in blue? Get away, get away, get away? Cause the fear has gotten Home and I'm struggling It's a shame, it's a shame It's a shame that the bar is set so low I'm caught under it I'm long lost I was born in this cage I wash colors, swap but still nothing changes on lead the light God it's getting harder to pray hey God once heard a wise friend say in life there is one goal. For all of our brothers. We must light him the lo. Now I'm on my way to Mexico. We pardon the criminals put them in suzoyo Ambastara de la nacion podrida. May you do to me what we done to you. Get away, get away, get away. Cause the fear has gotten home and I'm struggling It's a shame, it's a shame, it's a shame that the forest says so low I'm caught under it.
Sam
The song's called Back to Life.
Band Member / Singer
Been gone for way too long Got lost inside the storm I never meant to say goodbye I I didn't mean to make you cry I'm only here to steal your love tonight
Nate
so get
Band Member / Singer
dressed and try you right I'm coming back to life I. I'm here to reclaim what is mine I. I'm here to wrestle these demons down to die I'm only here to feel your love tonight I'm back to life. I'm back to life I'm back to life.
Interviewer
You.
Band Member / Singer
We may need another tourniquet. I can't fight all these demons alone. Once was buried in the back Started rumbling and now it's burning down the desert Lighting up the sky Swear to
Nate
God it's always something with the the
Interviewer
sky
Band Member / Singer
I'm back to life I said I Back to life well I Back to life. Hey. Well I back to life I said I back to life. I back to life hey I said I.
Nate
This song's called Depressed
Band Member / Singer
did you wait for blood? Did you throw away the bottle cap? Did you clean up the mess by the stairs? There's a place that I love But I swallow all my cigarettes It's a shame what we lost in the flood Sometimes I get a little bit depressed Sometimes I get whoa. Sometimes I get a little bit depress. I was caught up in a craze Shedding fabric Holding doors open for demons just to make it to the stage Till I got knocked straight in the head Singing hallelujah this was never the bed I intended to make. Every handshake's worth the play
Nate
if I
Band Member / Singer
want I could just walk away All I gotta do is pay every handshake's worth the play All I gotta do is pay Every handshake's worth the play Sometimes I get a little bit depressed Sometimes I get Whoa. Sometimes I get a little bit depressed. Sometimes I get a little bit depressed Sometimes I get wow. Sometimes I get a little bit depressed.
Sam
Sam.
Date: March 5, 2026
Host: David Farrier (with Rob, regular cohost)
Guests: Nate Ruess and Sam Means (The Format), Interviewer, and additional guest
In this introspective and entertaining episode, David Farrier welcomes Nate Ruess and Sam Means of The Format for a wide-ranging conversation spanning fan club culture, the early days of the internet, friendship, the American desert, homeschooling, bizarre childhood animal companions, memorable (and surprising) early memories—including literal birth—and the realities of reuniting as a band after decades apart. The recurring theme: how shared roots and quirks forge enduring friendships, and how formative experiences shape creative identities.
[00:43–06:06]
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[44:31–53:30] Three songs played live:
On fan club access:
"We started making these like fake press passes… started going to shows and just walking in."
—Sam [03:28]
On the internet’s early spirit:
"Message boards… was like peak internet for me."
—Interviewer [04:55]
"I met my wife on that message board through him."
—Sam [05:11]
On lasting friendship:
“…Just different iterations really. Just like the same people, too.”
—Nate [05:52]
On desert adolescence:
"We were still in high school, like, going, driving up to LA from Phoenix."
—Nate [10:25]
On extraordinary memory:
"I remember being born. I remember the lights turning on."
—Nate [12:11]
"That is amazing."
—Interviewer [12:38]
On musical ethics:
"We live to break even. Like, that's all we can ask for in this situation doing this… because you just watch how much people just get ripped off by musicians… when we were kids, it was an outlet. Going to concerts was an outlet. Now people have to take out a fucking mortgage just to go see a show.”
—Nate [31:36]
On coming back together:
"Twenty years has passed, but in a lot of ways it feels like no time has passed at all. Almost like a parallel universe situation."
—Sam [25:23]
This “Nest Session” of Flightless Bird is both whimsical and honest—a testament to long friendships, creative partnership, and the strangeness and wonder of American life, from message board fandom to peanut butter lattes, from birth memories to band reunions. Through banter and musical performances, the episode fuses personal nostalgia with present-day reflection and social consciousness, ultimately inviting listeners to appreciate the beauty (and absurdity) of real connection.