Build a Winning Game Plan for Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)

Summary

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Podcast Summary: "Build a Winning Game Plan for Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)"

Podcast: Focus on the Family with Jim Daly
Guests: George and Tondra Gregory
Date: October 1, 2025

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Episode Overview

This episode continues the conversation with George and Tondra Gregory, co-authors of The Marriage Game Plan. Drawing from their personal journey and work with NFL teams, they present practical, biblically grounded advice for building a resilient marriage strategy. The hosts and guests explore the realities of marriage—from struggles with intimacy and communication to staying committed through life’s seasons—offering hope and concrete steps for couples to develop their own “winning game plan.”

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Power of God’s Grace in Marriage

• George emphasizes viewing marriage as a canvas for God’s grace, not perfection:

  "We should see God's grace not because we're perfect, but because we're still in this ring together... We're trying to fight for our marriage."
  — George Gregory [00:56]

2. Early Challenges and "Rolling the Dice"

• The Gregorys recount their rocky start, becoming parents early and marrying without a solid plan:

  “We entered our marriage with no game plan... We were being reactive versus being proactive.”
  — George Gregory [05:05]

• Tondra reflects on entering marriage with limited role models:

  “Growing up with a single mom, I didn’t have that structural emphasis on partnership and family.”
  — Tondra Gregory [04:29]

3. The Importance of Being Proactive (Not Reactive)

• Marriage, like sports, requires proactive planning and continuous work.
• The Gregorys attended the same marriage conference for seven years to reinforce lessons and skills:

  "We could read the fill in the blank before the presenters even said what the blank was."
  — George Gregory [05:39]

4. Living Out Convictional Christian Faith

• Jim Daly discusses research showing that committed Christian couples have the lowest divorce rates:

  “People that are putting the word into play... have far better outcomes.”
  — Jim Daly [06:24]

• George connects spiritual practice to relational behavior:

  “How I love my wife is really my reflection of my relationship with who God is in my life.”
  — George Gregory [07:48]
  “We had to practice the fruit of the Holy Spirit... gentleness, kindness, long-suffering, self-control.”
  — George Gregory [09:05]

5. The Weight & Purpose of Wedding Vows

• Vows should be more than ritual; they’re foundational to enduring commitment.

  "It’s not just enough to say, ‘I do,’ but you have to say, ‘I still do.’"
  — Tondra Gregory [10:04]

6. Covenant Communication

• Communication must align with marital vows and the spirit of covenant.
• Even those with challenging backgrounds can learn these skills:

  “That’s where you have to roll up your sleeves... get help, go to these conferences, get counseling.”
  — Tondra Gregory [11:50]

7. The Five Elements of a “Marriage Game Plan”

George lays out five clear steps for couples:

1. Define the Win: What does marital "success" look like decades from now?

   “When it’s all said and done... what do you want your marriage to look like?”
   — George Gregory [12:53]

2. Set Goals: Break down your vision into actionable objectives.
3. Know Your Team: Recognize differences and strengths—“We’re on the same team.”
   — George Gregory & Tondra Gregory [13:52]
4. Know Your Opponents: Identify and prepare for challenges or threats (health, life events, in-laws).
5. Devise Your Strategy: Build practical routines to work through challenges together.

8. Finding Hope in Difficult Seasons

• Tondra speaks to the discouraged spouse:

  “There is hope... you get to decide where you are going as a couple.”
  — Tondra Gregory [15:43]

• Seeds of growth planted in one spouse often bear fruit and can influence the other.

9. Addressing Resentment and Needs

• Communication, vulnerability, and humility are central, especially for men.

  “Have you clearly articulated your needs? Have you addressed the things you’ve overlooked with her needs?”
  — George Gregory [18:11]

• Resentment often comes from focusing on past hurts:

  “Resentment, we stay stuck on the past, and we don’t see our way forward.”
  — George Gregory [18:57]

10. Prioritizing Your Home Game

• George encourages “winning the home game”—being as intentional in family life as in career or public roles.

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Grace in Marriage

  “We should see God's grace not because we're perfect, but because we're still in this ring together”
  — George Gregory [00:56; 18:57]

• On Covenant Communication

  “It’s not just enough to say, ‘I do,’ but you have to say, ‘I still do.’”
  — Tondra Gregory [10:04]

• On Teamwork

  “The teammate mentality is: no, like, one wins, we both win. One loses, we both lose.”
  — Tondra Gregory [21:49]

• On Pursuing Deeper Connection

  “Have margin built into your week where you’re going to go deep, where you’re going to ask the hard questions.”
  — George Gregory [24:14]

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Key Timestamps for Important Segments

• [00:46] — George: “We are pictures of God's grace.”
• [03:49] — The Gregorys' early relationship, unexpected pregnancy, and entering marriage.
• [05:05] — The pitfalls of starting marriage without a plan.
• [09:20] — Discussion of the importance of wedding vows.
• [12:53] — The five elements of a winning marriage game plan.
• [15:43] — Words of hope to discouraged wives (Tondra’s counsel).
• [18:11] — George on addressing resentment and unmet needs.
• [21:25] — Real-time example: applying grace and the teammate mentality after conflict.
• [23:54] — Jim and George discuss the challenge of meeting a spouse’s desire for deeper connection.

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Conclusion

The Gregorys portray marriage as a lifelong journey that demands intentional planning, mutual commitment, and ongoing practice of grace. Their analogy to sports—having a game plan, understanding your team and opponents, and setting a winning strategy—offers listeners a tangible blueprint to pursue growth and victory in marital relationships, grounded in faith and biblical principles.

Resource Links:

• Focus on the Family Marriage Resources
• The Marriage Game Plan (book by George and Tondra Gregory)
• Marriage Assessment and Mentor Program (details shared throughout the episode)

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Tone of the Episode:
Warm, hopeful, candid, and encouraging—filled with practical wisdom, personal stories, and actionable faith-based insights.

Transcript

[Jim Daly]

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[John Fuller]

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[George Gregory]

But I think in the word of God it just gives us the hope. In fact, we like to say for our marriage that we are pictures of God's grace.

[Jim Daly]

That's good.

[George Gregory]

God's grace in your marriage. We should see God's grace not because we're perfect, but because we're still in this ring together. We're still fighting. We're still not fighting each other, but we're trying to fight for our marriage. We want to fight for our love. We want to fight for our kids legacy. We want to fight for all those things.

[John Fuller]

Well, that's George Gregory and he's with us today on FOCUS on the Family with Jim Daly along with his wife Tondra. We'll be talking marriage. And thanks for joining us. I'm John Fuller.

[Jim Daly]

You know, John, if people, you need to download the app or go to the website and listen to the program, it was fun. You know, we're talking about their book, the Marriage Game Plan. But we talked about life, you know, what it was like to grow up in the 20s and fall away from the Lord or not even know the Lord at all. And then coming back, it's a good story, especially for parents who may have a prodigal child. And just the hope that George gave us, being raised as a pastor's son and then having his dark days in college, but then his dad praying for him for 365 straight days and then getting that phone call from George saying, dad, I've accepted Christ. That's what we all want to hear as parents when we have a son or daughter who isn't walking with the Lord. And then Tondra's story simply about being raised by a single parent mom, I could relate to that. And not having a real spiritual foundation and just trying to do life as best as we can without a lot of healthy biblical instruction. So we connected on that. And then today we're going to pick up Their marriage game plan book and talk about what you do to create a marriage game plan. And I'm sure with that application, it's not just for pre married or newly married, but I'm sure people that have been married 10 years, 20 years, if you're kind of looking for the compass, we've got it for you today. Yeah.

[John Fuller]

George and Tondra have really built this book around their life experiences and their work with football teams, notably the Los Angeles Chargers. They served previously as marriage ministry leaders at Saddleback Church. And if you'd like to learn more about this delightful couple and this great book, stop by our website and that's Focusonthefamily.com broadcast.

[Jim Daly]

George and Tondra, welcome back.

[Tondra Gregory]

Thank you.

[George Gregory]

Always welcome.

[Jim Daly]

Another good day. Hey, let's pick up, you know, if folks are just tuning in to hear this part of it, hopefully they'll go hear the other part. Like I said, but we talked about your college years. You kind of knew each other. You ended up in the same classes. You talked about you physical intimacy and aiming that direction before you really had any desire to marry each other. Let's pick it up there where you now are saying, hey, maybe we should get married. What did that look like? And then we'll move it from there.

[George Gregory]

Well, we're human and there's a scripture that says that the spirit is willing, but the flesh gets weak. So Tondra and I, after we gave our life to Christ, we still had some things to work out and we ended up finally connecting, if you understand what I mean. And a baby was formed.

[Jim Daly]

Yes.

[George Gregory]

And so my dad always taught me that when you, when you do certain things, that you're going to handle your responsibility. And so immediately when she told me she was pregnant, I told her, I said, I love you, I'm not in love with you, but I want to marry you. I want to do right by my kid. I want to make sure that I am there to parent my own kid.

[Tondra Gregory]

Yeah. And I would just even add, like growing up with a single mom, I didn't have that structural emphasis on partnership and family. So I was like, no, George, no, we don't have to get married. I can take care of this baby by myself. She totally, you know, I just had a total, just total worldview. Not even think about what would be best for the child with having being raised by two parents. So we made that decision to just go ahead and get married. Rolling the dice is what we say. We roll the dice.

[George Gregory]

Yeah. We don't suggest anybody do that. But we found Ourselves, really, after looking back over it, like, hindsight is 20 20. We entered our marriage with no game plan, right? We were being reactive versus being proactive. And this is what we tell our professional athletes. Like, if you don't want in that divorce rate of 70% after retirement, you gotta be proactive in your marriage. You can't be reactive. And we found ourselves behind the eight ball, if you will, and not being on the same team, having no game plan. And there was a lot of frustration. You know, she thought I looked like Denzel Washington, you know, so for her, I was easy on the eyes, but, man, I was a piece of work. You know, I was a critical. You know, I brought a hammer to kill a fly in most cases. And it was a tough thing for me to let things go. And so I just wasn't really ready to be married. But what. What we did was we rebounded from that and we. We went to the same marriage conference for seven years straight. The same content. We could read the fill in the blank before the presenters even said what the blank was. And we knew it back and forth. But the reason why we had to is because we knew that if we didn't have a plan, if we didn't, due to the work that we needed to do to invest in our marriage, we were not going to make it.

[Jim Daly]

You know, George and Tondra as well. That's really interesting that you say that, because we've done some research that's out now. And when we look at strong marriages, particularly what I'll call convictional Christian marriage, these are. It's us, it's people that really believe in a commitment to Christ. They read the Word regularly, they pray together regularly. They go to church regularly. That group has the lowest divorce rate of any group, and it should be so that shouldn't surprise us. But other nominal Christian divorce rates are actually quite a bit higher. And the world's higher, too. And that's fruit of what it means to live a convictional Christian life. It doesn't mean you're perfect. It doesn't mean you won't argue from time to time. It doesn't mean you don't have rough edges that the Lord's working out. But it does indicate that people that are putting the word into play, putting it into action, first with each other, then with the world around them, including their kids, have far better outcomes. Now, it's not the reason we're doing it, but it's the benefit of trusting the Lord and walking with the Lord. I just want to go back to those moments where it was rough for you having to go, you know, a number of years in your marriage, even though you made a commitment to Christ, it was that I would assume that difference between really knowing the Word and applying the Word in your relationship. Is that accurate?

[George Gregory]

Sure. Yeah. Listen, it's not easy to be a Christian. Meaning that when you read the Word, then it says, do what it says, you know, so how I love my wife is really my reflection of my relationship with who God is in my life. Right. And that's what we had to have these hard conversations, right. Like, are we reflecting Christ image in our marriage? And when we got real and we said, no, we're not, and we talked about, you know, instances of being on the same team. But the thing that I realized is that I couldn't throw in the towel because marriage is a. So our marriage ministry is called Journey for Life. We believe marriage is a journey, and it should be for life. And in sports, they always talk about that the season is a long season, and you might not be winning in the first quarter or the first half, but that doesn't mean you give up. Or you might not be winning the first half of the season, but you keep grinding, you keep doing what you can, and you keep having what we call discipline and practice. That's what it is. So elite athletes know this, and that's what we had to do. We had to get into a rhythm of, really, if you want to go to Scripture, we had to practice the fruit of the Holy Spirit. Right.

[Jim Daly]

We love with each other.

[George Gregory]

That's right.

[Jim Daly]

Of course.

[George Gregory]

Gentleness, kindness. Two of those. It says long suffering. We like to throw those out most of the time. Right. Because we don't want to suffer long. And then it talks about self control. But all of those are fruits of the spirit in which we have to practice and have discipline.

[Jim Daly]

You know, one of the things I loved about the book, the marriage game plan, is the highlighting of the vows. You know, we do go through that very fast. We're kind of young and intoxicated with love. And you're standing up there on that day saying, did I get this done? Did I get this done? I don't know how.

[George Gregory]

Checklist.

[Jim Daly]

My brother married us, so I was actually whispering the. The process to him. The rings. Get the rings now. The candle. Do the candle. You know, he was so. He was like, just be quiet.

[George Gregory]

I got it.

[Jim Daly]

I'm a pastor. This is Mike, my brother. But that's how, you know, that's where my mind was, was keep the thing Organized.

[George Gregory]

Let's go.

[Jim Daly]

But you really emphasize the vows and going back to the vows and remembering what it is you said. Why was that important to you?

[George Gregory]

Yes.

[Tondra Gregory]

Because I feel like after the dust settles, you know, and the romantic fairy tale is over, sometimes when that happens, a lot of couples lose sight of that bigger picture. Right. And so it's not just enough to say, I do, but you have to say, I still do. And covenant communication is one of the ways we do that, how we work on our communication that aligns with those vows and the commitment that you made. So it's that covenant communication is keeping those vows before you and reminding you and not losing sight of what you have just committed your life to about that.

[John Fuller]

When you do find yourself realizing, oh, I have lost sight of what's really valuable here. What are some good things to do.

[George Gregory]

Yeah, yeah. Well, you got to go back sometimes. Pull those wedding vowels back out. Right. And those are promises, solemn promises, or what we call covenants. Right. God is a covenant of God. And so. So we can't just break away from those covenants when we get mad. And so we like to pull those covenants out. And just remember, you know, Tondra talked about that covenant language. It's not just saying I do. It's about how you continue to talk to each other, how you honor one another, how you prioritize one another. Those are the biblical principles that in contemporary marriages, sometimes they get lost because we want everything to be our way. We like to tell people that if you want it your way, you got to go to Burger King. You can't always have it your way in marriage. But when you, how can I honor my wife or my husband? Or how can I prioritize them or show them? And those are the things that I think helps reflect God image in our marriage.

[Tondra Gregory]

Yeah. And I would just add, if there are listeners out there who didn't grow up with a good representation or don't have a framework for that type of covenant communication, that's where you have to roll up your sleeves. And you have to get help, go to these conferences, get counseling. You can learn how to communic and resolve conflict in a way that does honor and align with your values and the vows that you made.

[Jim Daly]

That's good.

[John Fuller]

And we've got a marriage mentor program that Greg Smalley started. Dr. Greg Smalley runs our marriage department, and we'll have a link for that as well as the book by George and Tondra, the Marriage game plan, @focusonthefamily.com broadcast or give us a call. 800. The letter A in the word family.

[Jim Daly]

Well, let's crack it open. What is, what exactly is a marriage game plan and what does it do for our relationship? We've been hinting at it, but let's just hit it right between the eyes.

[George Gregory]

Yeah. Well, we believe a game plan like no couple signs up for marriage to lose, right? So we all want to win, right? But a game plan is a strategy where you, number one, is you define the win, define how you want to win. That means when it's all said and done, 50, 60 years later, what do you want your marriage to look like and then start working back from there.

[Jim Daly]

Can you give me an example of that statement, what that might sound like?

[George Gregory]

So for us, we want to always honor each other. We want people to say they honored one another. We want people to say, oh, they stayed faithful to each other. Right. No infidelity. We want people to say, like our kids, we want to leave a legacy. Right? And so if we just go over those three things, if that's what you want, then, then you set goals. Number two is that you would set goals and how you're going to accomplish those things. I mean, business people, we know these things, right? You, you have strategies and things of that nature. You say, here's what we want to do. We set goals, and then somehow in marriage, we throw that all window. Right? And so, so a part of that also is, is knowing your team.

[Tondra Gregory]

Yeah.

[George Gregory]

Right. In marriage, this is number three, is that, is that we've got to know our team. You know, we like to say that we're, we're on the same team because sometimes in arguments, you just don't really feel like. Or intense fellowship, you don't feel like you're on the same team. But to keep that before each other, that we're on the same team, we know our differences, but yet we know how we're in common, what we want to do together. And then four fourth is you got to know your enemies or your opponents, right? Know what's going to know what opposition could come against your marriage, whether it's health issues, whether it's, we just had to take my mother into our home a few years ago, who has dementia. You never know when things that you have no control of will impact your marriage. But having a game plan, talking about those things early can help. And then lastly, we like to say the fifth one is you just devise your strategy, which our book helps couples to devise their strategy that they're working on together. And There's a lot that goes into that, but we feel like those five things will help couples win in their marriage. Yeah.

[Jim Daly]

Tondra, let me ask you this. As the woman, you're the woman at the table. You represent all wives right now for all humanity. You know, I'm sure some wives that are feeling like there's no hope here. My husband doesn't have the capability of throwing the touchdown pass, and we all know what that means. It's whatever that wife is looking for, and he just stumbles and can't deliver, maybe chooses not to. It's just too much work. And I don't know that I want to put the work into that. I mean, speak to that heartbroken woman, I guess, is what I'm describing, that doesn't have the hope that this can turn around. What does she do? To nudge, to not gripe, but to pray and to say, lord, can you change our relationship?

[Tondra Gregory]

Yeah. Yeah. What I would say is that there is hope. It doesn't matter where you're at or where you started, but you get to decide where you are going as a couple. Now, you do need a willing teammate, you know, because I'm sure there are situations out there where you don't feel like you have a winning teammate. But the more you grow, the more you pray, the more you are putting in the principles. That is a seed. We like to say we have gardens. You know, our hearts are gardens. And the more of God seeds you put in there, it just transforms your heart and it transforms your mind. And if you are focusing on growing and letting God flourish in your life is so powerful, the overflow that can also draw your husband in. Now, hopefully you have a husband that maybe he does want to work on this and be a teammate. He just doesn't know how well.

[Jim Daly]

And I like the concept. And of course, we had focus on the family, believe in counseling. We have hope restored for couples that are really in trouble. And the biggest thing there is how to reconnect, how to commit to trusting each other, loving each other, creating an environment of safety for one another, kind of basic concepts, which I think is what we all struggle with when we're struggling in our marriage. These things are kind of basic to your point. This is what we got to do, and then we struggle to do them. And that, I think, George, to follow up on that question, that deep resentment that has festered for five years, 10 years, whatever it might be now on the husband's side, you know, it's just not working the way I wanted it to and it's typically through the lens of selfishness. You know, she's not meeting some need or she's not filling in the gaps. Rocky Balboa. Right. We got gaps. She's got gaps. I got gaps. We got gaps. And she's not meeting the needs of my gaps. And then you start to think about, okay, maybe I missed it. I need a different reset, a different wife. How do you say, wait a minute, Lord, especially. Especially for Christians. That's not it. That's a reflection on me and my selfishness. So what do you do with that, as the husband that doesn't feel like your needs are getting met?

[George Gregory]

Yeah. Well, one is, I would ask, have you clearly articulated your needs? Right. And have you also addressed the things that you've overlooked with her needs? Right. And we call that vulnerability and authenticity. Right. There's this thing about men. Sometimes we don't want to be vulnerable. We don't want to say this hurts or to go without sometimes is very hurtful. And yet, in our marriage of over 30 years, there's been some times where I've had to go to tundra and say, hey, this season is just not fun. You know, it could have been right after a baby. It could have been, you know, when we were busy in New York planting churches, and then even coming out here has been extremely busy. But yet, if I can find a way to articulate, it's not just what you say, it's how you say it.

[Jim Daly]

Yeah.

[George Gregory]

Right. And I learned that if I can articulate things to my wife, she has shown me, at least over the years, that she will at least go back and ponder that. Yeah. And that's what, you know, in football language, there's always teams that you're down. You start resenting. You start looking at your teammates saying, are you giving your all? Or, you know, are you running the plays that you're supposed to run? And it's the coach's job to get you to say, if you messed up in that past season or it hasn't been the best in that past season, you can't focus on that if you want to win. If you mess a play up, you got to say, look, let's turn the page. You turn the page. You know, in sports, they watch film on Mondays from the Sunday loss or Sunday win. And once they watch the film, guess what they do? They learn the things they're supposed to learn, but then they flush it because it's gone. And I think sometimes resentment, we stay stuck on the past, and we don't See our way forward. But I think in the word of God, it just gives us the hope. In fact, we like to say for our marriage that we are pictures of God's grace. That's good. In your marriage, we should see God's grace. Not because we're perfect, but because we're still in this ring together. We're still fighting. We're still not fighting each other, but we're trying to fight for our marriage. We want to fight for our love. We want to fight for our kids, legacy. We want to fight for all those.

[Jim Daly]

Things which raises that question where we tend to be more graceless for those closest to us, our family, our spouses, maybe our kids. And then with friends, that's why people go, wow, he was so nice at church. That's crazy that they divorced. But it is like this thing where we can't extend the kindness that we would extend a friend to our own spouse. Sure, that's backward.

[George Gregory]

That's why we talk about in the home. We call it winning the home game. It's not enough to win just the away game or in your career or in your hobbies or in. You've got to say, I want to win in my home game. And that's one thing that when we're traveling, we constantly talk about, how can you win your home game? And doing those things of reflecting Christ image, even when it hurts, helps. Right? And so there have been plenty of times where I've had to go back to time. In fact, this week.

[Tondra Gregory]

Yes.

[George Gregory]

You know, anytime we do something good for God, we already know that the enemy of our soul wants to throw a wrench in our game. So we found ourselves, you know, giving each other a little hard time. And we had to come back to each other and say. I asked her this morning, I said, do you feel like that was a true representation of our reflection of who Christ is in our marriage?

[Jim Daly]

Now, was that more about you or more about her?

[George Gregory]

That was about us.

[Tondra Gregory]

That was about both of us had to listen. The teammate mentality is. No, like, one wins, we both win. One loses, we both lose. So if there is conflict or intense fellowship going on, each one of you have to reflect on your contribution to that because it's. It can't continue to go on if two people aren't helping sustain that intense fellowship.

[Jim Daly]

No, that's really good. You mentioned those core five steps. Define your wins, set your goals, know your team, obviously your spouse, know the opponents to your team's success, and then design your plan of action. Again, the book covers that I'm thinking of kind of the big victories, the bolder victories that seem pretty obvious, but for Gene and I, you know, one of the things that she is. I feel like we don't talk deeply about things, and she's yearning for that. And, I mean, you confess, you're weekly this week's problem. So just last night, I'm thinking to myself, and this is so. I don't know why. You know, we had a great discussion, partly about family, extended family, but pretty deep. And, you know, I was like, whew, finally scored that touchdown. Sure. And she even said, this has been a great conversation. Thank you for going deep with me. I don't know why. I mean, it's just like newsweather and sports is fine with me, but it doesn't make it happen for her. She wants a deeper intimacy, and it's not like I'm trying to fumble the ball, but you've got to even know what those boulders are or even those little pebbles of victory. When you're looking at that game plan, what does your mate need? Not what you need. What does she need? To feel close and to feel intimate. Discuss identifying that and then executing the game plan to get there. Like, in this case, I feel inadequate about that. And men, when we feel inadequate, man, we run. We don't want to hang out there. Learn to be adequate, speak to that dynamic.

[George Gregory]

Well, again, sometimes we just. We don't have a clue, right? And so I think to your example, when your wife says, hey, I like to go deep here, that's the moment for you now to sort of say, oh, I wasn't planning to go deep, but if that's what you need, dear, then I'm ready to go deep.

[Jim Daly]

Or can you help me do that? Because I don't really know what that means exactly.

[George Gregory]

Like, we tell wives. Well, I tell wives. I say, you think wives say they should just get me. He should just know. And I say, wives, we don't know. We don't get you guys all the time. Right? So to understand your heart in every season, Right? So there's some seasons that tundra's cool and. And in another season, I might need to ask her, hey, how are you doing in this season? Yeah, what do we need to talk about? Where. Where's your greatest fears at during this season? And it's really in our. In our marriage over. For over 30 years, we've been creating certain zones, like work zones and free zones. So free zone is. Don't ask me big questions when I'm, you know, might be watching TV or if I want to go cycling or something. But then there are work zones where we schedule time during the week where we know we're going to get deep. And you can't flake out on those moments where it's time to go deep. And so have margin built into your week. That's what I love to tell people is have margin built into your week where you're going to go deep, where you're going to ask the hard questions, and you're going to set a strategy for, hey, if we need to do something as a result of this conversation and that's what we're going to do, that's really good.

[Jim Daly]

And this has been a great discussion and we've really just scratched the surface, but we can't cover it all. And I love the idea of the marriage game plan. It's the first time I've really thought about that. Let me turn to our listener. Focus on the Family is here for you. We understand the challenges you're facing day to day, and if you have questions, I think over 48 years now, I think we've got, if not all, most of those answers. That's why we're here.

[John Fuller]

Yeah. We have an entire library of resources designed to help you. And a good starting point is our marriage Assessment. It's a quick online quiz. When you and your spouse take it, it's going to give you personalized results highlighting your strengths and maybe give you an area or two that you can grow in and talk about in the coming days.

[Jim Daly]

We also have George and Tondra's outstanding book, the Marriage Game Developing a Winning Strategy for Marital Success. And it's full of helpful practical information to get you and your spouse on the same page and moving forward in your marriage together. Everybody who's married needs a copy of this book, and we need your help. Your financial support allows us to provide resources to hurting families, broadcasts, podcasts, books, online articles and assessments, counseling help, and so much more. We hear from people every day who tell us the impact God has made through the ministry that we do together. In fact, here's a note from Rebecca. She writes, my husband and I had been married for 25 years when I became very dissatisfied with our marriage. I contemplated leaving. I opened my mailbox and found the Focus on the Family magazine and read it from COVID to cover. Then I spent the next three days listening to your podcasts. God has performed a great work in my marriage, and he chose to use Focus on the Family as my main source of help. Thank you so much for the work that you do there. You have no idea the impact that you're making on the world. Wow. Don't you want to be part of that kind of ministry? I hope so. When you give a gift of any amount to Focus on the Family today, we'll send you a copy of the Marriage Game plan as our way of saying thank you joining us in ministry. Yeah.

[John Fuller]

Donate today and request your copy of the marriage Game plan. And then we can tell you more about that free marriage assessment. When you call 800, the letter A and the word family. That's 800-232-6459 or online, stop by focusonthefamily.com broadcast on behalf of the entire team, thanks for listening to FOCUS on the FAMILY with Jim Daly. I'm John Fuller inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

[Jim Daly]

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[George Gregory]

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[Jim Daly]

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