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Rhonda Stoppe
mom, if you're listening and you have a shameful past, God's coming after you and Satan wants to keep us stuck in our shame so that we don't proclaim boldly the gospel. But you have the hope and you have the word of life to someone that God just might be wanting to send you to set free from that shame.
John Fuller
That's Ron Vestape offering insights from God's word about how you can step up and be a more effective godly mom. And what a great message for this Mother's Day weekend. Rhonda is back with us today on Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I'm John Fuller and we're so glad you've joined us, John.
Jim Daly
It was a great conversation last time. I'm so looking forward to this one. You know, you think about it especially as guys, we're going, okay, moms of the Bible. But there was great content in there. And you know, so often I mentioned it last time, we're looking at David and his courage and all the kind of masculine attributes of people in the scripture. It was actually really insightful to hear about a woman's heart in the Bible, how she was doing what she was doing for for the reason she was doing it, whether it was Rahab, whom we started with right on through to Esther, who wasn't a mom but she was a stepmom. And you know, the application of that was eye opening for me.
John Fuller
There was good application.
Jim Daly
If you didn't listen last time, get the download through our website or get the app for your phone and you can listen to every program and podcast that we do here at Focus on the Family. It was just really good and I'm looking forward to getting back into it today.
John Fuller
I am as well, Jim. And the title of the book that we're really covering here is written by Rhonda Stoppe, Moms of the Life changing Lessons from the Fearless, Flawed and Faithful. Give us a call. We'll tell you more. 800 the letter A in the Word Family.
Jim Daly
Let me just say, how many of you moms feel fearless, flawed and faithful? I mean, that's a great draw just to pull you into the program. Rhonda Good to have you back.
Rhonda Stoppe
Yes. And moms, on any given day, feel fearless, flawed and faithful. Depends on the hour of our hormones, of the hour of how much sleep we didn't get the night before.
Jim Daly
You know, I appreciate that. And again, I appreciate the fact that we're made in God's image and we really do concentrate on the masculine attributes of God. We don't concentrate on the feminine attributes of God. And he's all of it, right? He presents as the father, but we're made in his image. You're made in his image. So how you think as a woman is as much a part of God as how I think as a man. Right. I don't know. Maybe I'm the only one having this epiphany. But it just. To me, it seems like, Pop, you know, that it matters how your wife thinks, matters how your mom thinks matters. So explain that to us. How does a mom think?
Rhonda Stoppe
A thousand things going a thousand different directions all at once.
Jim Daly
That's the best part of Mom.
Rhonda Stoppe
And doing a thousand. It's funny, because now that I'm a grandmother of 15, mostly very small grandchildren, now you're bragging. And they'll say, nana, this, and Nana, can you that, and Nanya, can you this. Cause, like, Steve and I will watch all of them. And now that he's retired, he's really been amazing how much we've watched all the grandkids. But they'll say, nana, I need that. And I'm like, nana does one thing at a time. I know your mommy does a lot. Nana used to do a lot. But when you get to be this age and you're not in that frame of mind, you gotta wait in line. I'll do one thing at a time. But when you're in the thick of it, you are literally trying to keep all those things going. And you do sometimes just feel overwhelmed. I can remember being hormonal. I had postpartum depression after my third child. I did not know what it was. I didn't identify it because I'd never had it. The women in my family had dealt with hormonal imbalances, but I never had. In fact, I wrote an article for Focus on the Family. And I think it's called When Hormonal Imbalances Affect your Marriage. So look that up quick.
John Fuller
We'll link over to that article.
Rhonda Stoppe
No, it's good, but it's a very difficult season because especially when you're a believer and you're like, I need to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, I need to handle these emotions, and I'm having a really difficult time. And then trying to pretend like you're okay, Go to church on Sunday, everything's fine, Smile. The kids know you just yelled at everybody in the car before you got into church. So when we are hormonal, when we are, you know, we snap, we lose it going back to that child. Or if you, you know, undid yourself on dad in the car and the kids listened, going back and asking their forgiveness. You want forgiving people, raise forgiving people. So when you teach your children how to ask forgiveness and to forgive, that becomes a normal part of their life, too. You know, the world changers in history that God used, their first teachers were not theologians. They were moms in history for their time who got handpicked for those children. And that's who we are. And we are flawed and we are fearful, but God can make us fearless.
Jim Daly
You know, that's a good thing to emphasize. I think as parents, we tend to want to project perfection. We're people of faith. God expects or we expect that God expects. If I could say it that way, this ability to live a perfect life, you're never going to see that. What you're going to see is we're sinners, saved by grace. And to be able to get that into the hearts of our children is so important. But it comes with communication. You have to be able to express that I'm not a perfect father. I'm sorry I did this or that, or a perfect mom, and I'm sorry I responded. It feels like we're jumping hurdles to have to express all that, and we become a little lazy, I guess, in our communication. But, man, is it critical. So your kids have a context for who we are so they don't walk away and say, you're just a hypocrite, or, my mom and dad were hypocrites. Start with, yeah, that's why we need Jesus, because we're all hypocrites. We can't live a perfect life. I mean, but you gotta communicate. It is my point.
Rhonda Stoppe
And it's relational, and it knits their hearts to our hearts. So, like, I can remember growing up, my parents were both teenagers, and they just learned on the fly. I mean, and they weren't believers until later.
Jim Daly
They were teenagers. When they had you.
Rhonda Stoppe
When they had me and got married.
Jim Daly
Cause I'm sure they were both teenagers.
Rhonda Stoppe
Yes. There you go. Thank you. Yes, they were teen. They were. My mom was a teen mom and my parents were teenagers. But what I needed Was real examples from real people that were gonna help me in my journey of motherhood and marriage. And, you know, Steve was in youth ministry. I looked around at the teenagers in our youth department who had a good relationship with their parents.
Jim Daly
Oh, that's good.
Rhonda Stoppe
That invited friends over to their house for all the things. And I was like, I need to know what those ladies know. I want to be friends with those older women. And like I mentioned in the last episode, old ladies know stuff. They are the ones that God calls in Titus 2. The older women to teach the younger. That's the journey woman teaching the Apprentice.
Jim Daly
Yeah.
Rhonda Stoppe
So they invited me to a Bible study. I'm like, I don't need another Bible study. I just want to be a better mom. But what I realized when I went to that study and I was the only young mom in there, these women were real and they were genuine. And they talked about in Scripture what we were studying, what they were in that moment being convicted of, and they shared from their successes and their failures. I can write a letter to my younger self. It does no one any good. But if I write it and give it to the next generation, which is what I attempted to do with the book Moms of the Bible. Now, my stories, the stories of moms in the Bible, the stories of moms in history, can mentor the next generation. And it's relational and it's real. And when I watch these women have relationships with their kids and their kids wanted to follow the God of their mother because they had a relationship with her and they wanted the God she served, that impacted me more than a list of do's and don'ts as a mom.
Jim Daly
Yeah. You know when we're looking at the perfect mom and we're saying there isn't one, no one's going to be perfect. But actually, there was one until the fall Eve. And, you know, here she is, a beautiful home, I'm assuming, and a loving husband and would walk in the garden with the Lord. It doesn't get much better, right? There probably wasn't. Well, there wasn't sin in their lives at that point, but she and Adam gave that all up for some reason. What was your observation with the perfect wife and mother up until.
Rhonda Stoppe
So you know how when people say, what do you think? You're God's gift? She was. She was God's gift to Adam. She was perfect. She was beautiful. She didn't worry about her image. She was made in the image of her God. She knew who she was, and yet one day she wanted a little Bit more, man. That brings tears to my eyes. That lie from Satan. Just a little bit more. You're missing something. This is something God's withholding from you. He caused her to question God's goodness. And there are seasons in our lives, especially when we're not content. Because the Bible says godliness with contentment is great gain. Satan knows that. So if he can steal away our contentment, he can wedge in where we start questioning God's goodness. This marriage isn't what I had hoped it would be. I deserve better. This child that I have isn't measuring up to my expectations. I need to press them harder because I'm a people pleaser and I want people to think I'm a good mom. So I'm going to make my kids measure up to my expectations so people will think well of me. Right? People pleasing is not pleasing. And yet it's so easy. Especially in this social media world where everybody posts the most beautiful picture of their family. Look what I made for dinner last night. And we're all eating keto now. And I have an Etsy store and I'm making little dresses out of pillowcases on my side. Hustle. And look how perfectly dressed my kids are at church. And you're like, my kids had Cheerios for dinner last night. I'm hanging on by a thread. And we feel like they have something we don't have. We don't see the whole picture, but we get discontented. And that's what Satan did with Eve. Just a little bit more. See this fruit? Just a little bit more. Just a, just a touch it, just a nibble at it, just a taste of it. And she bought Satan's lie. And in it the world just came crashing all around her. And then she offered it to her husband who partook of it. Also, the Bible says Eve was deceived. Adam knew what he was doing and willingly ate of the fruit. But as wives we can be so easily deceived by a little bit more that we press our husband work, put in more hours. I want a nicer car. Do this or do that. We can push our husbands toward something that maybe they wouldn't pursue. In the book, I tell a story. After my first daughter was born, I left corporate America. We lived in San Francisco Bay area. I was working, got dressed up for work every day, hair, makeup, the whole thing. And I became a stay at home mom. It was boring and lonely. I didn't have social media back then so we weren't like on, you know, in contact with each Other. And I was frumpy and I felt unattractive. Had some weight from the baby. Just didn't, you know, my. Oh, my goodness. My first daughter was a puker. She would puke on what, down your back, on your clothes. My laundry load was incredible. And I smelled like ode puke all day long.
Jim Daly
Ode puke.
Rhonda Stoppe
But Sunday morning I got dressed up for church and it was like, I'm gonna wear my clothes and I'm gonna do my hair and I'm gonna do my makeup and I would go to church. Like that was social. Like I felt like my old self. Right. Cause like motherhood, you kind of forget who you are. You lose yourself in that.
Jim Daly
But that could be a good thing. Can it.
Rhonda Stoppe
Once you figure out where you're headed. But in the middle of it, you're trying to wrestle, Especially first time moms you're trying to wrestle with. How does this merge? So I went to church and I was pretty well dressed, and I felt like I was myself. And a man at church complimented my, you know, you look pretty today. And I'm like, oh, thank you. And then the next Sunday, the man said, oh, you look so pretty today. I'm like, well, thank you. The third Sunday, I was getting ready for church, putting on my hair and makeup. And this was in the 80s, so I'm talking about putting on your hair.
Jim Daly
I remember the big hair.
Rhonda Stoppe
And I thought to myself, I wonder if so and so will tell me I look pretty today. And it scared. Scared me. And I went out and I found Steve and I said, babe, I gotta tell you what I just thought. And he's like, are you telling me you have feelings for so and so? I'm like, not at all. But I'm telling you I liked the compliment. And so I was making myself vulnerable to my husband and saying, I need you to tell me when I've made the effort. I always think you look pretty, babe. I'm like, maybe you do. I don't feel pretty. I need you to tell me. But that's.
Jim Daly
That's good coaching, right? No, that's good.
Rhonda Stoppe
It is. But that's where Satan gets a feeling foothold in so many of our lives. It's just a nibble. I just enjoy the attention from that man at work who is complimenting me.
Jim Daly
What's good coaching in that? If we're not doing what is needed, that helps. And don't discount it. The fact that I had to say it kind of erases it. Don't do that. Just say, I need a compliment here and there. Because it's. You know, when others compliment me, it's distracting.
Rhonda Stoppe
And then when they forget, don't give them the silent treatment. And they're going, what's wrong? And you're like, if you don't know, I'm not gonna tell you. That doesn't work. They are gonna forget. So then you say, I got a new dress. Do you like it?
Jim Daly
Yeah.
Rhonda Stoppe
How do I look today? You coach them because the Bible says that men are to live with their wives according to knowledge. And you're the coach. We don't even know who we are every 28 days. How are they supposed to keep up? We tell them what we need as we need it.
Jim Daly
That's a good point, Rhonda. One of the things that I found with Gene is the need for community. You know, somet people will describe, and I'm talking about people that know social scientists. Men are kind of loners. You know, we certainly go out and hang out with guys, but usually we're doing something. We're going to play golf. We don't sit around and have just a cup of tea and talk about what's going on in your life. It's just not what we do. We got to be doing something so we can isolate very easily. Women need community. They thrive in community. I love the fact that my wife has two girlfriends from kindergarten and they still get together, and that's amazing. I have one friendship from college that I stay in touch with, but, you know, it's just. That's the epitome of what I'm talking about. Speak to the importance and, you know, Bible moms, but the importance of women in community and what you need, not just what you maybe want to do, but the need for women to be connected.
Rhonda Stoppe
Well, let's talk about Naomi. Naomi's husband was like, babe, I got a great idea. We're gonna leave our home among our people, among our community. And there's a famine here. So we're gonna go to Moab. Cause it's better there, and I can make a living there. And we're gonna stay there for a while. We'll come back, but we're gonna go there for now. And Naomi trusted her husband's dream. Okay, we'll do it. And pulled her away from her people and put her in a community of idol worshipers who literally sacrificed babies on the altar and burned their babies to the God of Shamash. How lonely for her.
Jim Daly
Yeah.
Rhonda Stoppe
And she had her two sons, and then her husband dies once they're there, so she doesn't even have her companion, her best friend. And then her sons marry Moabite women, not Israelite women, which is what was the command for the Jews. And then she doesn't even have that community with her Moabite daughters in law, but she's there for them. And then her boys die. And in between that time, the daughters in law can't conceive, so she deals with infertility. I understand infertility. I have eight grandchildren in heaven. And then finally Naomi's like, that's it. I'm going home. I got to go back to my God. I got to go back to my people. And she says, time to go back to my community, right? And she goes back and she stops and she says to Ruth and Orpah, go back to your people. I have nothing for you where I'm going. And Orpah's like, peace out. I'm going back, going back to my gods, going back to my family. But Ruth says, your God will be my God, your people will be my people. Think about what triggered Ruth to make such a covenant to God. She watched Naomi go through the most destitute, lonely, heart wrenching experiences that a woman will ever walk through. And in those trials, she wanted to go back to her God and her people. And sometimes your trial's not about you. Sometimes your children are watching you go through something that you never, ever dreamed you would have to endure. But that trial validates your testimony to them. And that trial is what brought Ruth to want to follow Naomi's God.
Jim Daly
It didn't end there, though, because of course, Ruth is being courted by Boaz. And Naomi becomes kind of a very specific mentor to Ruth during that time. Describe that relationship and reaction, what was happening.
Rhonda Stoppe
Well, she brought a Moabite woman first into a people of Israel who did not like the Moabite people. So she has to coach her how to live in that community without offending and, you know, go here, glean in this field. And the Lord so providentially puts Ruth right in the field where Boaz is and Boaz Caesar, and he's an older guy, and he's like, you know, protecting her. And he's her kinsman, Redeemer. And Naomi's like, oh, my word, he's the one who can marry you and get all this. Buy us back all the things. I don't have time to tell the whole story, but Naomi walked her through all of that. Older women who have walked through the deepest sorrows of life, their value of their advice, because they've Lived through those trials we suffer. Sometimes it's not for our own story, but it's to help someone walk through their story instead of just shaking your fist at God and saying, if you love me, you would not have let this happen. Sometimes our trial's not about us. It validates our testimony to a watching world and especially to our children and our grandchildren.
Jim Daly
Yeah, in Moms of the Bible, you recognize unnamed moms. Every young man in the Bible has a mom. Right. So you talk about the mother of David, and we don't know her name, but you believe she was a great mom. What gives you that conclusion? He was a crazy man. He's out there fighting lions and bears at what, 11, 12? You sure she was a crazy mom?
Rhonda Stoppe
She doesn't get a shout out in Scripture. I'm like, wait a minute, you're David's mama and we don't know your name? That to me, blows me away. I can't wait to meet her in heaven one day and introduce myself, the man after God's own heart. Not long ago, Steve and I had gone to Hawaii, where my son was still in. He was a fighter pilot in the Air Force. And we went on the base, and we were in the truck. I was sitting in the back, and Steve was in the front next to Tony. And he pulls into the military base and he shows his id. And as soon as he shows his id, he's a lieutenant colonel. The young man, he wasn't in uniform. The young man started saluting and all the things that they do, you know? And I was in the back seat like I'm his mom, you know? No, nobody cares. Nobody cares.
Jim Daly
Oh, you meant that back. I was thinking they put you in the back of the truck in the back seat.
Rhonda Stoppe
It was for. No, that would have been. That would have been not good.
Jim Daly
Okay, good. They put mom in the backseat. That's good.
Rhonda Stoppe
But the point of that is we raise our kids to send them out into the world. We launch them into the world. And for most of us, our names will never be known, and that's okay. God calls us to live in the anonymity of motherhood and letting God be glorified in the lives of our child. I think of in the Bible. I also talk about moms of the Bible. Daniel, Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego. These boys were young, teenage boys. And they get taken into captivity along with all of Israel into the Babylonian captivity. And they're chosen out to be special, attractive, smart. We're gonna make you some advisors to the king change your name, and we want you to eat the king's food. And those four boys say, mm, mm. That's not food that God allows us to eat. I'm just thinking they're piling on the bacon and all the things. They're like, no, we're not allowed to eat all that. Everybody else ate it. But those four boys told the person in charge of them, we're not going to eat that. And he said, no, you have to, because you're not going to put on weight. And if you don't look good, I'm going to look bad and I'm going to suffer the king's wrath. So you got to eat this food. And they were like, give us an opportunity to just eat what we're asking you to let us eat. And if we don't look better at the end of that season, then we'll talk about it, I guess. And they were great. So what gave those boys that courage to stand up when all of the people in their generation that had been taken into captivity were going, God doesn't care about us. Why do we even want to hold those standards? He let us come into Babylonian captivity. Those four men stood up and said, nope, I would love to know who their moms were, because there was a foundation there, and I'm sure their dads poured into them also. But this is a book about moms of the Bible. I am not discounting the influence that dads have. My husband was an amazing father and grandfather, and I know the impact that fathers have. But those people were so strong that when Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego later were like, we will not bow, even if you put us in the furnace. And even if we die, the Lord could rescue us, but even if he doesn't, we will not bow. Wow. What an influence someone had on their youthful years and on Daniel, too, who became an advisor to so many of those. You know, the Babylonian king and the Persian king. And just who was their mom? I don't know. But one day we're going to meet them in heaven and we're going to celebrate the influence that they had, not only in their generation, but in my generation, because of the influence that their sons had in history.
Jim Daly
It's funny to humanize them that way. I'm thinking of what you said about meeting David's mother. And she goes, he gave me so many ulcers out there in the wilderness. It was terrible.
Rhonda Stoppe
Oy vey. Well. And he fought a lion and he fought a bear, and I'M thinking if my son came home and said, hey, dad, so cool. Today I was taking care of the sheep, fought a lion, fought a bear, I'd be like, awesome. And then I'd tell my husband, he don't work for you no more. Get somebody else.
Jim Daly
It's funny to think outside of the
Rhonda Stoppe
box, as we say, because she wasn't a helicopter mom and didn't rescue him
Jim Daly
from those battles, he learned the skills.
Rhonda Stoppe
God was using those to give him the courage to one day say to Saul, and I don't need all your armor. God gave me victory over a lion and a bear and I know he will give me victory over this giant. Don't rescue our kids. When God sends the trial, we get mad at God, we shake our fist. If you love my kid, trust. The Lord has a process and he is refining them and us for a purpose that we don't know anything about.
Jim Daly
Rhonda, you have landed the helicopter, as we say right there, because that's the best modern day advice is encourage, teach and then let your kids experience life so that they can honor the Lord. And that's a good parenting job when you can do all of that. So thank you for being with us. This has been great. I've really enjoyed this. I wasn't so sure coming in going, okay, mom's of the Bible. John and I have to connect somewhere. But again, I just have loved the insights and it's just really good. So thank you for doing the mom thing.
Rhonda Stoppe
I'm excited. This is the last of the book. My heart is so fun, filled with hope for the next generation when I consider the influence that you moms will have as you raise your children and nurture them in the Lord. The influence of unnamed mothers have shaped nations, inspired leaders, nurtured artists, motivated ordinary children to accomplish extraordinary things. Let's go forth arm in arm moms in our ministry of motherhood. For his kingdom and for his glory.
Jim Daly
Great place to end. Thank you for being with us, Rhonda. This has been great.
Rhonda Stoppe
Thank you.
John Fuller
And if you're a mom or you're married to a mom, we hope you'll contact us to get a copy of Rhonda's wonderful book Moms of the Life Changing Lessons from the Fearless, Flawed and Faithful. And Jim, I tend to think that we can all learn from this content that Rhonda has shared on the show and also in her book. And so we all have room to be better parents. Make a monthly pledge or a one time gift. Today we'll send Rhonda's book to you as our way of saying thanks for joining the support team and to equip you to be stronger as a parent.
Jim Daly
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John Fuller
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Jim Daly
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John Fuller
Donate today and get Rhonda's book. The links are in the show notes or call 800, the letter A in the word family 800-232-6459. By the way, on our website we're going to link over to our new Mother's Day podcast series called Mom's Legacy of Love. Please share that with the moms in your life today. And if you're traveling this summer anywhere near Colorado Springs, stop on by. We have a wonderful welcome center where you can learn about the ministry and God's work here through Focus on the Family and a great play place based on Adventures in Odyssey for kids and of course our Wit's End Soda Shop and a world class bookstore. It's all here waiting for you, so please come on by. And on Monday we'll hear some heartfelt encouragement for husbands and wives.
Jim Daly
So tension and conflict is not a sign, friends. It's not a sign that your marriage is broken. It's a sign your marriage is real.
John Fuller
Thanks for listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I'm John Fuller inviting you back as we once more help you and your family thrive in Christ.
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Episode: Parenting Wisdom from the Bible's Most Influential Mothers (Part 2 of 2)
Guest: Rhonda Stoppe
Date: May 8, 2026
Part two of the special Mother’s Day series brings back author and speaker Rhonda Stoppe to explore authentic, biblically rooted parenting wisdom through the stories of mothers—both named and unnamed—in the Bible. Hosts Jim Daly and John Fuller guide a candid, heartfelt conversation with Rhonda, equipping moms (and dads) with practical insights and encouragement. Together, they discuss how God’s grace works through the imperfect, the importance of transparency, community, contentment, and letting children face challenges for growth.
Shame and God’s Redemption:
Rhonda encourages moms with a difficult past not to stay stuck in shame but to share hope with others:
"God's coming after you and Satan wants to keep us stuck in our shame... but you have the hope and you have the word of life to someone that God just might be wanting to send you to set free from that shame."
—Rhonda Stoppe (00:32)
No Perfect Parents:
Jim Daly shares the need for parents to be honest about failure:
“We tend to want to project perfection... What you're going to see is we’re sinners, saved by grace. And to be able to get that into the hearts of our children is so important.”
—Jim Daly (05:27)
Rhonda adds:
“You want forgiving people, raise forgiving people. So when you teach your children how to ask forgiveness and to forgive, that becomes a normal part of their life, too.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (04:20)
Thinking Like a Mom:
“A thousand things going a thousand different directions all at once.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (03:19)
Rhonda humorously notes navigating her own grandparenting after raising her kids:
“Nana does one thing at a time. I know your mommy does a lot. Nana used to do a lot. But when you get to be this age...you gotta wait in line.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (03:23)
Hormonal Challenges & Authenticity:
Rhonda shares her battle with postpartum depression and the difficulty for Christian women to reconcile faith with unsteady emotions:
“Especially when you’re a believer and you’re like, I need to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ ... and I’m having a really difficult time.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (04:20)
She recommends modeling real reconciliation:
“If you ... undid yourself on dad in the car and the kids listened, going back and asking their forgiveness.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (04:20)
Mentorship from Older Women (Titus 2):
Rhonda recounts seeking wisdom from mothers whose teens had a good relationship with them:
“…I need to know what those ladies know… Old ladies know stuff. They are the ones that God calls in Titus 2. The older women to teach the younger.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (07:11)
Genuine, vulnerable community was more impactful than a list of dos and don’ts:
“When I watched these women have relationships with their kids... they wanted the God she served, that impacted me more than a list of do's and don'ts.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (07:32)
Satan’s Tactic: Stealing Contentment:
Drawing from Eve’s story, Rhonda discusses the root of much modern anxiety and comparison:
“That lie from Satan. Just a little bit more. You’re missing something... [Satan] caused her to question God’s goodness.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (09:02)
Social Media and Comparison:
“Especially in this social media world where everyone posts the most beautiful pictures... and you're like, my kids had Cheerios for dinner last night. I'm hanging on by a thread.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (11:12)
Personal Story:
Rhonda vulnerably describes how attention from someone outside her marriage was a warning sign to seek affirmation from her husband:
“I wonder if so-and-so will tell me I look pretty today. And it scared me... I was making myself vulnerable to my husband and saying, I need you to tell me when I've made the effort.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (12:45)
Naomi's Loneliness and Loss:
Rhonda tells Naomi’s story to highlight both the hardship of losing one’s support system and the blessing of returning to godly community (15:16-17:25).
Trial as Testimony:
“Sometimes your trial's not about you. Sometimes your children are watching you go through something... but that trial validates your testimony to them.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (17:11)
Mentoring the Next Generation:
Naomi mentors Ruth, helping her navigate Israelite society and see God's faithfulness after deep loss (17:41).
David's Mother and Others:
Rhonda laments the anonymity of David’s mother, while stressing the impact of mothers whose names aren’t recorded:
“We raise our kids to send them out into the world. We launch them... and for most of us, our names will never be known, and that's okay. God calls us to live in the anonymity of motherhood and letting God be glorified in the lives of our child.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (20:00)
Shadrach, Meshach, Abednego, and Daniel’s Moms:
Exploring the courageous choices of these biblical figures, Rhonda speculates on the deep roots of faith instilled by their families, especially their mothers (20:00-22:32).
Not Rescuing from Every Hardship:
“She wasn’t a helicopter mom and didn’t rescue him [David] from those battles, he learned the skills... God was using those to give him the courage to... face the giant.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (23:00)
Jim Daly encapsulates this wisdom:
“Encourage, teach, and then let your kids experience life so that they can honor the Lord. And that’s a good parenting job when you can do all of that.”
—Jim Daly (23:31)
On Forgiveness:
“You want forgiving people, raise forgiving people.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (04:20)
On Vulnerability in Marriage:
“I need you to tell me when I've made the effort. ...Maybe you do. I don’t feel pretty. I need you to tell me.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (12:45)
On Motherhood’s Anonymity:
“For most of us, our names will never be known, and that’s okay. God calls us to live in the anonymity of motherhood.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (20:00)
On Trials and Testimony:
“Sometimes your trial's not about you. ...That trial validates your testimony to them.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (17:11)
Rhonda closes with a rallying call for all mothers:
“The influence of unnamed mothers have shaped nations, inspired leaders, nurtured artists, motivated ordinary children to accomplish extraordinary things. Let’s go forth arm in arm moms in our ministry of motherhood. For his kingdom and for his glory.”
—Rhonda Stoppe (24:05)
| Topic | Key Takeaway | Timestamp | |----------------------------------|---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------|-------------------| | Dealing with shame | Moms with past mistakes can be used by God; vulnerability leads to healing and ministry | 00:32 | | Modeling authenticity | Forgiveness and honesty about imperfection build strong, gospel-centered families | 04:20, 05:27 | | Wisdom from community | Older women (Titus 2) provide vital mentorship; community prevents isolation | 07:11, 15:16 | | Dangers of comparison | Discontent and comparison (like Eve’s story and social media) erode thankfulness and joy | 09:02-11:54 | | Importance of support in marriage| Vulnerability, affirmation, and clear communication strengthen relationships | 12:13-13:56 | | Children and challenge | Letting kids face difficulties grows resilience and faith | 22:45-23:07 | | Unnamed mothers’ legacy | Most mothers may never be publicly celebrated, but their influence echoes through generations | 20:00, 24:05 |
The episode is marked by warmth, honesty, humor, and grace—reminding mothers (and fathers) that God works profoundly through their everyday acts of nurturing, even (and especially) in weakness.
Listeners are encouraged to seek community, be honest with their families, and trust that God will use even unnamed efforts for His glory and the good of the next generation.