What Kids Need to Know About God, Faith, and Fun!

Summary

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Podcast Summary: What Kids Need to Know About God, Faith, and Fun!

Podcast: Focus on the Family with Jim Daly
Date: March 23, 2026
Guest: Champ Thornton
Hosts: Jim Daly and John Fuller

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Episode Overview

This episode addresses one of today’s most relatable Christian family challenges: making spiritual truths come alive for children in fun, meaningful, and accessible ways. Featuring guest Champ Thornton, author of The Really Radical Book for Kids: More Truth, More Fun, the discussion explores practical strategies for engaging kids with faith, overcoming dry devotionals, the importance of parental influence, and honest conversations about struggles, failure, and hope in family discipleship. The tone is candid, supportive, and peppered with memorable stories, encouragement, and real-life application.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Challenge of Meaningful Family Devotions

• Dry Devotionals: The episode opens with playful banter about the difficulty of making passages like genealogies in Numbers exciting for kids ([00:31]-[01:25]).
  • “It doesn’t get much more boring than that.” — John Fuller [01:04]
  • “Some of those scriptures can be a little dry for kids.” — Jim Daly [01:25]
• Importance of Creativity: Parents are encouraged to get creative and flexible in their approach ([01:58]).
  • “You’ve got to work that and summarize and get creative.” — John Fuller [01:58]

2. Champ’s Story: On Names, Devotional Failures, and Family Jokes

• Origin of "Champ": Thornton shares the moving backstory of his name, symbolizing hope and God’s kindness ([03:00]-[03:45]).
  • “My mom just fasted and prayed... The doctor said, ‘Oh, he’s a champ, he’ll make it.’ And the name stuck.” — Champ Thornton [03:08]
• Honesty About Parenting Mishaps:
  • “I feel like I fail regularly… I kind of get carried away and it goes a little long… And the response from my wife was, ‘I think that about covers it, Champ.’ And that meant, like, I think we’re done.” — Champ Thornton [04:09]
  • This phrase has now become a lighthearted family catchphrase after devotions ([04:43]).

3. Structuring Devotions: Flexibility and Age Appropriateness

• Different Styles: The conversation highlights the challenges when spouses have differing approaches to spiritual leadership (biochemistry-nailed structure vs. spontaneous faith talks).
• Practical Family Method: Thornton recommends using memorization of short Psalms (like Psalm 1), repeating and varying the approach each day — making scripture portable and building fun rituals ([05:44]–[07:38]).
  • “Within a few weeks, our whole family knew Psalm one word for word… now it was portable.” — Champ Thornton [06:34]

4. Bridging Ancient Scriptures and Modern Life

• Scripture's Timeless Relevance: Thornton affirms that core human needs and struggles transcend culture ([07:38]–[10:00]).
  • “If God can write something 3,000 years ago and it still be relevant, then there’s so much more that unites us…” — Champ Thornton [08:13]
• Parental Influence Is Key: Research still indicates parents remain the strongest influence on children’s spiritual development, even into the teen years.
  • “…parents have that unique role. They are the number one influencer of their kids even through the teen years.” — Jim Daly [10:00]

5. The Real Goal of Parenting: Reality & Narrative

• Parent as Reality Interpreter: Families should foster a worldview rooted in what is most true: God is Creator, the world is broken, Jesus is Savior, and reality is God-centric ([11:52]–[13:17]).
  • “…we want them synced up with reality. We want them living in the reality of this world.” — Champ Thornton [11:52]
• Consumer culture and media constantly present “spinning fiction” that parents must gently filter and interpret ([12:57]).

6. Connecting Fun and Faith: Learning Through Play

• Galileo’s Telescope Metaphor:

  • The Bible as a window (historical truth), stained glass (the big story), and mirror (application to us). ([13:43]–[15:45])

• Video Games and the Book of Proverbs:

  • Proverbs as God’s “walkthrough” or guide to life—just as a game’s designer knows the secrets, God’s wisdom reflects how life is designed to work. ([15:45]–[17:08])
  • “Someone said, if you go against the grain of the universe, you get splinters.” — Champ Thornton [16:11]

• Games at the Dinner Table: “Two Truths and a Lie”/“Three Things” is adapted as a family ritual to spark conversation and illustrate the half-truths prevalent in secular culture. ([17:10]–[18:59])

  • “It occurred to me, why does the world have all the good slogans? And it occurred to me, oh, it’s because they’re only telling half the truth.” — Champ Thornton [17:47]
  • “Follow your heart under God’s guidance—would be the fuller bumper sticker.” — Jim Daly [19:08]

7. The Pain of Regret and the Power of Repentance

• Personal Health Crisis: Thornton recounts receiving a life-altering diagnosis at age 29, which imbued him with urgency and perspective as a parent ([19:38]–[20:41]).

  • “I wanted to be able to leave something with them to say, this is what’s important to dad.” — Champ Thornton [20:41]

• Parental Regret:

  • To parents feeling guilt over missed opportunities (“my eye wasn’t on the ball”), Champ urges humility, repentance, and honesty with children.
    • “The right response is always repentance… gather them up and say, ‘God has shown me I could have been a much better dad or mom… Would you forgive me?’” — Champ Thornton [21:34]

• Prodigals and Hope:

  • Thornton and Daly reassure those whose children stray, reminding listeners there is no formula—parents aren’t wholly responsible for a child’s choices.
    • “Sometimes that happens in a broken world… He (God) wants those [psalms of complaint] in our mouths to him.” — Champ Thornton [24:28]
    • “He’s a God who understands exactly what you’re going through.” — Champ Thornton [25:47]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• [03:08] – “The doctor said, ‘Oh, he’s a champ, he’ll make it.’ And the Lord spared my life. And the name stuck.”

  • Champ Thornton, on his name’s origin

• [04:43] – “I think that about covers it, Champ.”

  • The family’s humorous devotional wrap-up phrase

• [06:34] – “Now it was portable… We’re driving on the way to the grocery store…‘Hey, guys, let’s say Psalm 1 together.’”

  • On family scripture memorization as a bonding tool

• [11:52] – “We want them synced up with reality. We want them living in the reality of this world.”

  • Champ Thornton, on the goal for children’s faith

• [16:11] – “If you go against the grain of the universe, you get splinters.”

  • Proverbs as a guide to wise living

• [17:47] – “It’s because they’re only telling half the truth… the Bible gives a more full orbed response.”

  • On slogans vs. biblical wisdom

• [25:47] – “He’s a God who understands exactly what you’re going through.”

  • Reassurance for hurting parents

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Important Timestamps

• [03:00] – Champ shares the touching story behind his name
• [04:09] – Admission of devotional “failures” and their family joke
• [05:44] – Practical advice: memorizing Psalms as a family devotional
• [10:00] – Importance of parental influence and Deuteronomy 6
• [11:52] – Thornton on the parenting goal: reality-based faith
• [13:43] – Galileo’s telescope as a metaphor for Bible study
• [15:45] – Video games, Proverbs, and life’s “walkthrough”
• [17:28] – Using “Two Truths and a Lie” to build discernment
• [19:38] – Personal health crisis as a call to urgent faith legacy
• [21:34] – Advice for parents with regret about faith transmission
• [24:28] – Lament and hope for parents of prodigals

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Closing Encouragement

• The episode closes with encouragement for parents to remain present, humble, and confident in their ongoing influence—however imperfect—on their children’s faith journeys. Both practical tools (like Champ’s book) and honest, openhearted parenting are celebrated as effective means of nurturing faith.
• “We can’t pass along to our children something that we don’t have ourselves.” — Champ Thornton [10:01]

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For further resources, faith tools, and counseling support, listeners are encouraged to visit Focus on the Family and check out The Really Radical Book for Kids.

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Transcript

[Champ Thornton]

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[Champ Thornton]

and finally, from Numbers, Chapter 3, Verses 17 through 20. These were the names of the sons of Levi, Gershon, Kohath and Merari. These were the names of the Gershonite clans, Libni and Shimei, the Kohathite clans, Amram, Hebron and Uzziel. Now kids, isn't that an exciting Bible lesson for today?

[Jim Daly]

Kids, kids,

[Champ Thornton]

that's about it. And it doesn't get much boring, much

[John Fuller]

more boring than that.

[Jim Daly]

Maybe Leviticus can take you there too.

[John Fuller]

I don't know. Sometimes the challenges of trying to be spiritual with your kids and have an effective devotional time, it gets hard. Maybe you didn't even want to start at some point because that was what you thought devotions could be. Well, we have some help for you and your kids today on FOCUS on the FAMILY with Jim Daly. Thanks for joining us. I'm John Fuller.

[Jim Daly]

John, I just need to defend a little bit Ray van der Lijn, who's done that. The world may know with us. He will always say when you're reading the word and you come across something that kind of sticks out, like numbers and genealogies, to stop and read that because there's importance to it. So we don't want to diminish. But eight year olds might struggle with that. That's the point of that clip. That's hard for an 8 year old, 9 year old, 10 year old to wrap their heads around that. So it's important to have that kind of reverence for the word of God. But at some point some of those scriptures can be a little dry for kids.

[John Fuller]

You've got to work that and summarize and get creative.

[Jim Daly]

You know, Today we want to talk about great way to make those scriptures come alive with our guest who is an expert in translating those things from kind of the church language into kids language so they can get it. And he's written a great book, the really radical book for kids, which at first you're going, what?

[Champ Thornton]

What?

[Jim Daly]

Radical, radical in Jesus. And I'm going to have fun today. I'm looking forward to it.

[John Fuller]

Yeah. And the research, of course, shows that moms and dads are the number one influence when it comes to Spiritual matters. So we're thrilled to have Champ Thornton in the studio with us. He works at Crossway Publishing, and he helps children and families to grow spiritually and understand theology. And Champ and his wife Robin, are the parents of three teens. And he's written a devotional book that will be the basis, as you said, Jim, for our conversation. The really radical book for kids. More truth, more fun. And we've got copies of that here at the ministry. The link is in the show notes.

[Jim Daly]

Champ, welcome to Focus on the Family.

[Champ Thornton]

Thanks, Jim. It's great to be here.

[Jim Daly]

What a great name. How did you come up with Champ?

[Champ Thornton]

I had nothing to do with it. I know you were thinking it's like my athletic ability.

[Jim Daly]

Yeah, exactly.

[Champ Thornton]

No. My mom and dad had a little girl who was born about a year before I was. She was premature and she lived about a day and passed away. And then about a year later, they're expecting again and I come along and I'm premature as well. And they didn't know if I was going to make it to the medical technology being what it was in the 70s. And so my mom just fasted and prayed and sought the Lord that he would spare my life. Wow. And the doctor said, oh, he's a champ. He'll make it. And the Lord spared my life. And the name stuck. So my real name is George.

[Jim Daly]

Wow.

[Champ Thornton]

But no one calls me that.

[Jim Daly]

What a story, though. That's amazing. And that wasn't in the book.

[Champ Thornton]

God's kindness.

[Jim Daly]

God's kindness is amazing. Well, let me ask you from the get go, we were kind of laughing there at that beginning in that intro we did, because that is kind of a typical evening devotional, especially when your kids are younger. So I just want to get right to it. When did you fail in your devotion with your kids? And what was the subject matter? And is that why you've written the book now?

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah. So I feel like I fail regularly because it'll be something I want to talk to my family about. And so I'm opening up God's Word and there's my wife and our three kids on the couch and we're talking. And it's something I'm passionate about and I want to communicate it. And I kind of get carried away and it goes a little long and then I kind of wrap it up. I land the plane. I think I did a great job. And then I say to my wife, anything you'd like to add or say to the kids? What else? What does that make you think? And the response one Time for my wife was, I think that about covers it, Champ. And that meant, like, I think we're done.

[Jim Daly]

We're done, right?

[Champ Thornton]

And so that phrase, now, my kids say that at the end, whenever we finish our Bible time together, I'm like, what do you guys think? And one of the kids will smirk and say, I think that about covers it, Champ.

[Jim Daly]

You know, structurally. And this is true. And I've talked about this before, you know, sometimes as we marry, typically opposites, not always, but extrovert, introvert, all those things. For my wife, she was a biochemistry major, and so she's very black and white. She wanted a very proper devotional time. Five minutes of a little music and song and 10 minutes of study, and then let's wrap up with Q and A and that kind of thing for the parents that struggle with that. And I was trying to convince her, hey, I'm on the move when I take them to school. We're talking about the Lord or what have you. But speak to that structural question of how is it to create an effective way to do devotionals with your kids, age appropriate, et cetera, and is there any perfect way or any better way, or is it. Yeah, do some of all of it.

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah. I feel like the best way forward is to just try something better, to do something and realize how you can make it better than not to lean in. One thing that we tried years ago, that was worked really great for our family, and it may not work for every family because you got to know your kids and their attention span and what they're thinking about in terms of their life issues. Issues at that point is we had advice from someone I read about online where he said, take a psalm, like a shorter psalm, like Psalm 1. That's where we started. Psalm 1 or then Psalm 23 or Psalm 100, and gather everybody around and say, we're going to learn this Psalm together. And then read the whole thing. Go back, read the first verse, have maybe your oldest kid try to say it. Everybody try to say it together, and then let's pray. So we did this when our kids were, I don't know, one to two years old.

[Jim Daly]

Wow.

[Champ Thornton]

So they're just kind of nodding along and, you know, maybe mouthing a few things. And then we prayed, and then we did it again the next day, and we read verse one again, and then we read it again, and we try to find ways to vary it up, or have my wife read, or my wife and my son read together or try to say it by memory. And then I was so surprised. Within a few weeks, our whole family knew Psalm one word for word, huh? I was shocked. Who knew? And so now, like you said about driving in the car, now it was portable. So now we're driving on the way to the grocery store, I got the kids in the back, and I'm like, hey, guys, let's say Psalm 1 together. Micah, our oldest, why don't you start it off for us? So he starts off verse one, and then, okay, Jack, that's our youngest, why don't you take the next one? And Kenzie, that's our middle child, why don't you say the next? And they would stumble, and it would be okay. But just a wonderful time of like. And then you can ask questions, right? Like, what do you think it means in Psalm 1 when it says, he's like a tree planted by rivers of water? What is it talking about? So it provides wonderful conversation, and it's something that is so easy to do as a family.

[Jim Daly]

It's so true. Let me ask you in terms of culture, because culture, modern culture, particularly feels really disconnected from words of antiquity. But you make the case, maybe not so much, that human beings are pretty much the same when it gets down to our behaviors, our sins, our virtues, et cetera. So how do we. And how did you help close that gap with your own children? And what are you hoping for with the book to help other parents make ancient culture more relatable to modern culture?

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah. So I feel like the Bible just sets the tone for this, because when you think about the phenomenon that we have Scripture and that it is profitable. Paul says to Timothy, for showing you what is right and what is wrong in life and how you can make things right and how you can keep things right. These truths, God says, are coming out of an ancient book. So if God can write something 3,000 years ago and it still be relevant, then that means that there's so much more that unites us as a human race than divides us, that I have a lot of cultural differences from people who lived in Abraham's day or David's King David's day. Tons of cultural differences, but I have so much in common. Why? Because it was God's word then and it's God's word now. And he knows what's going to resonate with people of any culture and any time frame. So God's word also gives us the clue when we go to Deuteronomy Chapter six. When you go to Deuteronomy Chapter six, you know, we have that very famous. And you kind of alluded to it, right? You're in the car and you're talking to your kids about the Lord. Deuteronomy 6:6 says, you know, while you're walking down the way or getting up in the morning or driving in the minivan, you're talking about the Lord. But how does it start? That's not where it starts. It starts a few verses before, right? The Shema, it says, hero, Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one, he's unique. He is only one like him, he's the only true God. And you should have a unique love for him. That you should love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And then this is what you teach your children. So before we get to Deuteronomy 6:6 and we're riding around in the car talking to our children, how are we loving the Lord with all our heart.

[Jim Daly]

That's really good.

[Champ Thornton]

That really is where it starts. Because we can't pass along to our children something that we don't have ourselves. And we're going to have it imperfectly, but that ought to be our aspiration and our goal. That I want to love the Lord. That is the main thing in my parenting. And then I want to pass it along to my kids.

[Jim Daly]

And Champ, one of the things that's so important is we tend to think that they'll get enough of that at church. You know, we can go about just being family and having dinner and talking about news, weather and sports. But really, as John said in the opening, parents have that unique role. They are the number one influencer of their kids even through the teen years. Which kind of shocks me, most of us parents today. But that survey information is still holding true that even teens will say their parents are the number one influence in their lives for the most part. So in that context, I want you to give that rah rah for the parent who may be underselling their influence with their children. And to take it more seriously, don't leave it to the church to do it. You're the primary faith giver and faith teacher to your children. The church will augment that. But if we designate it or relegate it just to Sunday and Sunday school with our kids and the pastor, the youth pastor will take care of that. I think we're missing our God given responsibility to do that.

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah, God has put that responsibility on us as parents. And there's also a responsibility the church has for our walk with Jesus. And that doesn't exclude our Children. But as we think about our relationship with our kids and the responsibility we have, I remember as a young parent having parenting books on my shelf and thinking, how does this even work? You know, this is a 230 page book and I'm supposed to remember at 3 in the morning something on page 116, like, that's my mind doesn't work like that.

[John Fuller]

Yeah.

[Champ Thornton]

And so I really had to work and think, okay, what is our goal? How do we parent what's going on? And the phrase that I came up with that my wife and I use is that we want our kids. Here's our goal. That when they leave the house at age 18, 19, whenever it is, we want them synced up with reality. We want them living in the reality of this world. So that means that God is creator. He made everything. He made everything good. That also means this is a broken world and that we're sinners. It also means that he's not just creator, but he's Savior. God sent his son Jesus to be our rescuer because we're sinners. He rescues us from ourselves and he invites us into that relationship with the Father. And I want them to live in that reality. But all of the rest of life is spinning this narrative. That's untrue. Right. So we kind of think as parents, we want to be the naughty filter. Right. So this show, we're not going to watch that. It has these elements in it or we're not going to talk about that because of the other thing. But the reality is we just go to the mall and every store is spinning fiction.

[Jim Daly]

Right.

[Champ Thornton]

That if you have this set of clothes, you'll feel this way, or if you have this toy, this is what it will do for you. They're not necessarily sinful, but they're not necessarily true. And so as parents, we're there to help interpret for our kids what reality is and to help our kids live in sync with that reality.

[Jim Daly]

I like that. Champ, one of the chapters you mentioned, Galileo's telescope, which we were just in Europe last summer and saw a number of Galileo's original telescopes. Amazing. And I always loved astronomy and so I connected with that section of the book, but you referred to it and compared it to a Bible telescope. So what point were you trying to make with Galileo's telescopes being like a Bible telescope?

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah. And just connecting it back with the fact that we want our kids to live synced up with reality of God as creator and God as Savior is that, you know, we go to church on Sunday and we Hear about Jesus, and he's our rescuer. Amen. Right. But he's also the one who made pizza. So great soccer.

[Jim Daly]

Are you sure about that?

[Champ Thornton]

Absolutely. Everything that we love about this world that he made, it comes out of his creative mind. And so when we look to life in this world, we see so many lessons we can learn, whether it's about a telescope and how that relates to the Bible. This book, we want it in this book to relate things that are fun but also true. And so when we think about this telescope, we've got those three lenses like you put in a telescope, and we look at the Bible the same way. So those lenses are that we look like through the Bible, as if it's a window. Okay. So when we think about, like, the stories of Jesus, like in Mark, chapter four and five, we see him stilling the storm really happened. True story. We look through the Bible to a true event that happened. But then what's interesting is we also look at the lens like it's stained glass. In other words, the gospel writers and other writers of history in the Bible don't just tell stories that actually happened. They relate and arrange those stories in a way that tell more of a mosaic, like a stained glass window. So notice the story about Jesus and stilling the storm. He also heals the demoniac, which no one else could heal. And then he heals the woman who had the bleeding issue that no one could heal for 12 years. And then he heals a daughter who's not just sick, but now she's dead. No one can fix that. Jesus does the impossible. So Mark is writing these stories together to show that something else is true about Jesus, that he can do the impossible. But then the third lens is that when we look at the Bible, we look at it not just like through a window to actual events or stained glass telling a larger story, but also like a mirror. Because we learn that God has things to say to us, and he wants us to change and become more like Jesus. And so when we read the Bible, it's not just about something out there, and then it's about right here and now.

[Jim Daly]

Yeah. Which is a great application for it. You also, in teaching your son how to play video games, you said it really lined up with the book of Proverbs. So I'm dying to hear this answer. So how does video game playing line up with the book of Proverbs?

[Champ Thornton]

So the very short answer is, I'm terrible at video games.

[Jim Daly]

Me too.

[Champ Thornton]

And when my son was first starting out, I was still Better than him. And that lasted, like, about two weeks.

[Jim Daly]

Yeah.

[Champ Thornton]

And so I went online and there are these things called, like, walkthroughs and cheats. And the Internet is amazing. And you know what's really amazing is like, could you imagine if the designer of the video game, not just someone who had lots of time on their hand to figure it out, but what if the creator of the video game created the walkthroughs? That'd be brilliant. Well, the book of Proverbs, God is giving us a walkthrough on life. We think about, like, living in wisdom. It's not just that the book of Proverbs gives a bunch of nuggets of wisdom. Proverbs is coming from the perspective that first God is wise and that he made the world wisely and he made it to operate in wise ways. And so Proverbs is helping us understand how God made the world to work, and we are living in harmony with that. Someone said, if you go against the grain of the universe, you get splinters. Right. So Proverbs is showing us this is how God made the universe to work. Now live that way.

[Jim Daly]

Wow, that's a good way to look at it. That's good.

[John Fuller]

That's really, really an interesting approach. Now, one of the things you talked about in the book, Champ, is using the game Two truths and a lie to help your kids. So some people might think, oh, don't lie. But it's a game, and it's a fun game. A lot of folks have probably done it, but what was your lesson out of that?

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah, so we found this game was a lot of fun at the dinner table, especially when the kids were younger, because you know how it is. You ask your kid, how was your day? And what's the answer? Fine. What did you do? Stuff. It's like, okay, this is not good.

[Jim Daly]

One word answer.

[Champ Thornton]

Oh, it's awful. So we came up with this game, and of course, when the kids were little, I thought, do we call it two truths and a lie? So I said, we call it three things.

[John Fuller]

All right?

[Champ Thornton]

That's what we call it. Just so I didn't tell them tell a lie. But we said, okay, tell us two things that actually happened and one thing that didn't. And so then they would. And I got to tell you, I'm the world's worst at this game because I have no poker face. So I have to cover my face with my hands when I play because they all know exactly which one's like, the false one. But the reality is, is it occurred to me one day, have you ever noticed that, like, all the slogans out there in the world, like, be true to yourself and follow your heart and your body, your choice, or you only live once, all those things, you can put them on a bumper sticker. They're so meme worthy. Right. And I thought, why does the world have all the good slogans? And it occurred to me, oh, it's because they're only telling half the truth. Right? It's a truth and it's leaving something out. And the Bible gives a more full orbed response. But those don't fit on bumper stickers nearly so easily. Right. So you could say, follow your heart. Well, sure, God wants us to live authentically. Right. But my heart is not always reliable. Right. Our heart is deceitful often. And so there's more to the story. And that doesn't make a very catchy slogan.

[Jim Daly]

You know what's interesting with that is so often how we want to detach those pithy good sayings from accountability. So follow your heart under God's guidance.

[Champ Thornton]

Yes.

[Jim Daly]

Would be the fuller bumper sticker.

[Champ Thornton]

Right.

[Jim Daly]

You know, but we want to cut that off all the time. I just want to follow my own heart.

[Champ Thornton]

That's right. It's totally independent of God.

[Jim Daly]

Totally independent. And that, that is the problem of culture and everybody, every household, because we are sinners, like you said. Let me ask you, part of your passion to disciple children comes from a health crisis that you encountered in your 20s. Describe what happened and how did that motivate you to help children better understand spiritual truth?

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah, I was 29 years old and I developed a blood clot in my leg which turned into a pulmonary embolism. And, you know, I didn't know what it was, but, you know, people die for those.

[Jim Daly]

I found out.

[Champ Thornton]

And then I found out that I had the clot because I have a blood condition, a genetic disorder that inclines me to clot. And so I'm 29 years old and, you know, you're not thinking about dying. You're thinking about, like, let's go, life is in front of us. And all the things that I want to do and that hopefully God has planned for us. And then it all of a sudden makes you think about things you weren't thinking about thinking about. And so I would say maybe for the next decade of my life, probably not a day went by that I didn't think about dying. And maybe sometimes in a morbid way, but also I think in a healthy way that I'm mortal and that I'm not going to be here forever. And so when kids came along, I wanted to be able to leave something with them to say, this is what's important to dad. And so that really is a lot of the genesis of this book and its predecessor, the radical book for kids is I wanted to leave something for my kids, like almost like a starter kit for the Christian life to help guide them in their faith.

[Jim Daly]

Yeah, champ, your children are. Now you have twins that are 15, and then you have a slightly older young adult, I believe. So for parents that are in that similar position where maybe now they have the teens and maybe a 20, something like you, but they feel like my eye wasn't on the ball and they're hearing this with a heavy heart, like, I didn't concentrate on this. I did think the church would pick up the slack. I wasn't as good as I could have been in doing this transfer of my faith. What do you say to them now that they have a 15, a 16, 17 year old? What can you do to make up some ground and not be too obvious in that desire to help your children better understand kind of the core principles of faith as they launch into adulthood?

[Champ Thornton]

It's a great question. I feel like with parenting, a lot of it is a wisdom issue, right? So you know your family, you know your children, you know what's best in a certain situation. I think you need to lean into that. And, you know, if you have a spouse who's also a Christian, then conferring on, okay, what are best steps here with our kids, I feel like that's important, but I feel what's always applicable and always the right thing and the wise thing to do when we realize that something in our past is not what it could have been and should have been, the right response is always repentance. Right? Is we say, I was wrong or I was foolish, God forgive me. And then where appropriate, we share that with the people that we've sinned against. So, you know, in this case, if your children are teenagers and you realize you could have been a better parent in particular ways when they were younger, gather them up and say, can I just share with you? God has shown me I could have been a much better dad or mom when you were younger. Can I tell you in what ways and would you forgive me? And I'd like to try to do better. And I feel like, just like you said earlier, like, being that example for them and being honest about not just here are the expectations in life, but like, here's where I've not lived up to those expectations.

[Jim Daly]

You know the irony too, champ? I want to play the other side of that coin, because some parents that have been very diligent, you know, the difficulty with humanity, and the Lord knows this better than anyone, is that we have free will, and he has given that to us. And you might have done an excellent job, an A in your parenting and did all the right things. You did devotionals. And that child has become a prodigal. And the weight and the guilt of some of that that parents have. For what could I have done better? It almost takes it out of the hands of their free will and the Lord's design for their journey. You know, some kids are going to have to hit a valley, and we wear that very hard as a parent.

[Champ Thornton]

That's right.

[Jim Daly]

Like we beat ourselves up saying, where did I miss it, Lord? Where did I let you down, Lord, that this child you gave me responsibility for is not acting in a way that honors you? What do you say to that parent?

[Champ Thornton]

Well, I feel like probably the first thing is not even something you say, but if I'm having a conversation with someone like that, maybe the first thing is listening. I want to hear. Tell me more about your story. Tell me more about your situation. How's it affecting you? I want to hear some of the pain that they're carrying. And not just that I hear it, but the Lord hears it. He knows. He knows the pain. I do think when we talk about parenting, we're talking about a wisdom issue. And we go to Proverbs, for example. We see Proverbs is like a city map with streets. And, you know, if you go down two blocks and turn left, you'll be at your destination. And it's very mapped out with causes and destinations. And. And we feel like, yeah, that's how parenting works. You do A, you do B, you do C, and it leads to D. Right? But what if it doesn't?

[Jim Daly]

Right?

[Champ Thornton]

Well, God is honest about that, and he's given us Ecclesiastes and the Book of Job to show that A and B and C sometimes don't lead to D, it leads to Z. And if nothing else, the Lord is telling us, I know that sometimes that happens in a broken world. But he's done more than that. He's done two things is. And you go to the Book of Psalms, you see lots of psalms of praise. So when A and B and C leads to D, praise the Lord. And then when it leads to Z, there's Psalms of Lament, psalms of complaint, Lord, Hear us, Lord, you've done stuff in the past for our fathers. Would you do it for us now? Lord, where are you? And these songs of complaint come from God. He wants those in our mouths to him. And so I would say to a parent who's struggling with this, learn and inhabit those psalms of lament because God gave them for that purpose. And then the last thing I would say is, God doesn't just speak to us from a far from heaven about these things. He came down on the person of his son and he walked this road of pain and disappointment. And he knew what it was like to have people close to him who rejected him, who turned on him. And he's not God far away for you. He's a God who understands exactly what you're going through.

[Jim Daly]

Yeah, and that's so good. And listen, if you're that parent, get in touch with us. Focus has spent almost 50 years now compiling help for you. It's one of the things that we do even like finding this great book by Champ Thornton, the really radical book for kids. More truth, more fun. This is what we're doing to help you to identify those wonderful resources that can get into your hands and you can apply them. I mean, that's part of what we're doing here. So help us, help us to continue to do that. If you can make a gift of any amount, a one time gift, a monthly gift to be part of the ministry, send that along and just ask for a copy of the book and we'll send it as our way of saying thank you for being part of this wonderful outreach that the Lord has provided.

[Champ Thornton]

Yeah.

[John Fuller]

Get in touch and donate. The link is in the show notes or call 800, the letter A in the word family. And of course, when you get in touch, Jim alluded to our counseling team and help that we can give you. If you're in a spot where you're hurting about some of the things going on in your parenting journey, call that number and ask for one of our counselors to give you a call back. It'd be a privilege for us to, as Champ said, to listen to your story and to help as we can.

[Jim Daly]

Champ, thanks again for being with us. It's been great.

[Champ Thornton]

Thanks, Jim. I've enjoyed it.

[John Fuller]

And thank you for joining us as well. By the way, if you happen to be traveling this summer to or near Colorado, we'd love to have you drop by and see us. We've got a wonderful bookstore here and a terrific play place for kids featuring exhibits from Adventures in Odyssey and our very own Wit's End Ice Cream Soda Shop. It's fun for the whole family and we'll have a link in the show notes for you to check it out. Thanks for listening to Focus on the Family with Jim Daly. I'm John Fuller inviting you back as we once again help you and your family thrive in Christ.

[Jim Daly]

Live your truth. A lot of people say that, don't they? But truth isn't something we decide. God has decided it for us, and it's our job as believers to share his truth. And with a world in need, I'll encourage you to do that through my podcast, Refocus with Jim Daly. I visit with fascinating guests about important topics like gender confusion, cancel culture, and more, while helping you share God's love with others. Listen at Refocus with jimdaily. Com.