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Welcome to follow him. Favorites this is where John and I are sharing a single story to go with each week's lesson. John we're in sections 85, 86 and 87, and I saw a verse in section 85 that reminded me of a story. I'm going to read the verse to you and then tell you the story. This is actually verses one and two where the Lord says, I want a record kept of all the consecrated people. All the consecrated people. I want you to write down all those things that transpire for them. Verse two, their manner of life, their faith and their works. Well, it made me think of this story. It's from Elder Quentin L. Cook. He talks about being 25 years old and going to two funerals back to back. I want you to hear this, he said, I was 25 years old. I had just graduated from Stanford Law School. John, that's huge. He said, I just started employment with a law firm. I spent my work day with highly educated people who had amassed significant material possessions. I don't know if I fall into that category, John of amassed significant material.
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I have a private jet, but it's this long and it says Mattel on the bottom right.
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Flies my office every day. He says they were kind on the whole, gracious and attractive people. He said the church members I associated with were much more diverse. Very few of them had material wealth. They were also wonderful people and had meaning in their lives. He says it was this point where he had two funerals back to back. One was a man he calls in this story. This is the March 2017 enzyme, I believe he calls the first man rich and the other man Faithful. He says these two funerals are cemented in my mind because they clarified, I think, to him as a young man the significance of the choices people have in front of them. Elder Cook, that we know and love is at a crossroads in his life. These two funerals, they make the difference, apparently. He said both Rich and Faithful served missions as young men. By all accounts, they were both dedicated missionaries. After they attended college, their lives began to diverge. Rich married a beautiful woman who over time became less active in the church. Faithful married an equally beautiful woman who was completely active in the church. More than any other factor, this decision framed the remaining decisions of their lives. I will now share more about Rich. He had wonderful people skills. He cared a great deal about people. He began employment with a major US Corporation and ultimately became the president of the company. He had a large income and lived in a very large, beautiful home set on spacious grounds that is why I decided to call him Rich. It would be fair to say that his career choices were not just good or better, but were the best. His family and church choices, however, were not so good. He was a good man and did not engage in personal choices that were in or of themselves evil. But his family choices and the influence on his children focused almost exclusively on education and employment, essentially the resume virtues that are so valued in the marketplace. His sons embarked on excellent careers. They did not, however, remain active in the church. They all married young women who were not members. I am not aware of all the facts about his sons, but in each case these marriages ended in divorce. Rich and his wife became less active. They were primarily involved in high profile social and community activities. He always considered himself a member of the church and was proud of his mission. But he didn't attend church. He would from time to time contribute to building projects and assist members in their careers. He was an influence for honesty, integrity and goodwill in all the positions he held. His funeral was at a non denominational chapel at a cemetery. Top executives, dignitaries attended the funeral, including the governor of the state where he lived. Except for his children and grandchildren and me, everyone attending the funeral was over the age of 50. It was a somber funeral. Basic principles of the Plan of Happiness were not taught. Little was said of Jesus Christ. Rich's life was based almost exclusively on resume virtues. Okay, now listen to this, John. How many of these next type of funerals have you been to? Faithful's employment decisions were far less successful. He made an effort to start a small business, but the business burned and he lost everything. He subsequently created a small business but could barely make his required payments. He had a very small but adequate home. He enjoyed his work and his interaction with people. His career was good and certainly satisfactory, but not distinguished. It was not a resume virtue career. His family and church choices on the other hand, were the best. He and his wife were completely active in the church and he served as called often as a teacher, attended the temple frequently and was a faithful priesthood holder. He had wonderful relationships, especially with his large family and his many grandchildren. They were all well educated, but his main emphasis to them was on living a Christlike life. In his retirement, he and his wife served a mission together. Though he faced trials including the death of a son In World War II, he achieved satisfaction and joy throughout his life because of the purpose and meaning provided by his family and the gospel of Jesus Christ. Now listen to this, John. His funeral in the ward meeting house was large and joyful. People of all ages attended, including large numbers of grandchildren and young people he had served. The plan of happiness was taught, and the Savior was at the center of the service. It was an exemplary Latter Day Saint funeral. The talks were about his character, kindness, concern for others, faith in and love of the Lord Jesus Christ. Now listen to what Elder Cook said. I have indicated that these two funerals came at a defining time for me. I had served a mission. I loved the church. I was just starting my career and was becoming impressed with those having material and occupational success. I realized that the choices I was making would define my happiness in this life and determine the legacy I would leave. I also realized the eternal significance of the choices that were before me. It was clear to me that choices have eternal significance. What was most important to me about the lives I just described is that I realized that the most significant choices can be made by everyone, regardless of their talents, abilities, opportunities, or economic circumstances. I realized that for me, my future children and everyone I would have the opportunity to influence. Putting the Savior, my family, and the church first was essential. Doing so would result in the good life. And we can see what route Elder Cook chose. Yeah, can't we?
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What a great thing to encounter at 25, at such a crossroad type age of your life.
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Can you imagine if Elder Cook had decided he's in it for the money and the career?
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What did he call it? Resume.
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Resume. Virtues.
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Yeah. That the world wants on a resume.
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It wasn't like the man he called Rich. It wasn't like he was a bad guy. He wasn't a bad guy.
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Yeah.
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Had priorities. Different priorities. I think, John, that goes back that the Lord wants us to know those who are consecrated, their manner of life, their faith and their works. It's important that those are recorded because of those moments like Elder Cook had.
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Yeah, we could call those heavenly. Resume.
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Virtues. Resume. Right. From 2009 to 2011, I was primary teacher. Let me in.
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Oh, you're in.
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Podcast Summary: followHIM Favorites – "Choose the Right...Funeral" (August 4-10)
Podcast Information:
In this episode of followHIM Favorites, hosts Hank Smith and John Bytheway delve into a profound story shared by Elder Quentin L. Cook, emphasizing the eternal significance of life choices. The discussion is centered around two contrasting funerals that left a lasting impact on Elder Cook, highlighting the differing legacies based on the individuals' priorities and values.
Hank Smith introduces the episode by referencing a verse from sections 85, 86, and 87 of the Come, Follow Me curriculum:
"I want a record kept of all the consecrated people. All the consecrated people. I want you to write down all those things that transpire for them. Verse two, their manner of life, their faith and their works." (00:03)
This verse sets the stage for the story shared by Elder Cook about two men—Rich and Faithful—whose lives and funerals provided Elder Cook with pivotal insights.
Hank Smith narrates the life of Rich, a highly successful individual:
Career Success: Rich graduated from Stanford Law School, rapidly ascending to become the president of a major U.S. corporation. His career was marked by significant material wealth and professional achievements.
Family and Church Involvement: Despite his professional success, Rich's family and church involvement were lacking. He emphasized "resume virtues" over "character virtues," focusing on education and employment for his children. As a result, his sons pursued excellent careers but struggled with personal lives, leading to divorces due to marriages with non-members.
Community Presence: Rich was involved in high-profile social and community activities but became less active in the church over time. His funeral reflected his career-centered life, with attendance primarily from professionals and dignitaries, and minimal emphasis on spiritual teachings.
"His life was based almost exclusively on resume virtues." (04:30)
In contrast, Faithful led a life enriched by spiritual and familial commitments:
Career: Faithful's career was modest, with small businesses that faced financial struggles. However, he found satisfaction and joy through meaningful work and personal interactions.
Family and Church Involvement: Faithful and his wife were deeply active in the church. They prioritized living a Christlike life, which fostered strong relationships within their family and community. His emphasis on spiritual virtues provided a sense of purpose and eternal satisfaction.
Legacy: Faithful’s funeral was a large, joyful gathering that prominently featured teachings on the Plan of Happiness and the centrality of Jesus Christ. The service highlighted his character, kindness, and faith, serving as an exemplary Latter Day Saint funeral.
"The Savior was at the center of the service." (06:10)
Elder Quentin L. Cook shared how witnessing these two funerals at the age of 25 was a defining moment in his life:
"Choices have eternal significance. What was most important to me about the lives I just described is that I realized that the most significant choices can be made by everyone, regardless of their talents, abilities, opportunities, or economic circumstances." (06:45)
Elder Cook recognized that prioritizing the Savior, family, and church would lead to a fulfilling life. This realization guided his future decisions, emphasizing the importance of spiritual and personal virtues over material success.
John Bytheway and Hank Smith reflect on the contrasting lives of Rich and Faithful, drawing key lessons:
Resume Virtues vs. Character Virtues: The term "resume virtues" refers to societal metrics of success, such as career and wealth, while "character virtues" pertain to spiritual and personal integrity. The hosts highlight the importance of prioritizing character virtues to ensure lasting happiness and a meaningful legacy.
Eternal Significance of Choices: Decisions made in life have lasting spiritual implications. Prioritizing spiritual commitments can lead to eternal rewards and a fulfilling legacy, regardless of worldly success or failures.
"Putting the Savior, my family, and the church first was essential. Doing so would result in the good life." (06:30)
The episode concludes with a reflection on the stories of Rich and Faithful, underscoring the profound impact that prioritizing spiritual and familial commitments can have on one's life and legacy. Hank and John encourage listeners to evaluate their own life choices, emphasizing that true happiness and fulfillment come from aligning one's life with eternal principles.
"It's important that those are recorded because of those moments like Elder Cook had." (08:01)
The hosts invite listeners to continue exploring these themes in future episodes, promising more insightful stories and discussions to enhance their Come, Follow Me study.
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