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Song of Solomon, chapter three is where we're going to be today. We're in the Song of Solomon. We're seeing right in front of our eyes how romantic God is. And you can't open the Bible up without getting a glimpse of that. I mean, no sooner does God create the world, create people, than the first thing is he officiates at the first wedding in history. It's literally as the Bible starts. It starts with a wedding, and guess what? It's. It ends with a wedding, too. As Revelation describes history's last chapter, the first thing that kicks the party off in heaven is the marriage supper of the Lamb. God describes himself in the Old Testament as the husband to Israel. And then we understand, as the mystery of the Gospel is revealed in the New Testament, that if we're a part of the church, then God sees us as the. The bride of Christ. And when Jesus comes, after all the years waiting, waiting, waiting, the promised Messiah arrives. What's the first thing he does? He turns up at a wedding in John chapter two. And what's the first order of business? Make sure that the wedding doesn't run out of wine. It's symbolic of the party that's unleashed through Jesus is a party that never. And there's this little thing called the Song of Solomon that we have to reckon with too, because its real name is the Song of Songs written by Solomon. So the Bible identifies it as the song out of all songs, in the same way that God is the King of kings and the Lord of lords, and the holy place was called the Holy of holies. So that is to say that God wants us to think about this song as the best song of all the songs. Now, personally, I probably would have gone for Psalm 23, but who am I, right? God wants us to understand just how important this idea of relationships is to him, and it needs to be to us as well. And we have been watching this couple meet and be attracted and become, begin dating and go through this whole process. And today they're going to the chapel and they're gonna get married. This is literally the day, their big day, and we're gonna see an entire chapter pretty much just focusing in on the last couple days of their engagement and their actual wedding itself. That's how important it is to God that we understand there is a way to tie the knot, his way. What does it mean to have a wedding that blesses and honors God's heart? I know we're all, like, excited about our Pinterest boards and mood boards and right, all the things we need to. You know, that's great. That's fantastic. Have your. Have your mood board. But. But what does it mean to have your wedding honor him? Because God said, those who honor me, I will honor. And one of my favorite details about Jesus in John 2, turning water into wine at that wedding is this. It says Jesus was at the wedding because he was invited. Gasp. Is it that simple? What is he doing at this wedding? Why did they get to be the married couple that got to have Jesus show up at their wedding? Maybe it's literally as simple as they chose to put him on the guest. Listen, the Bible does talk about God drawing near to those who draw near to him. Someone put it this way. God, listen, this is crazy. Waits to be wanted. God hopes to be welcomed. And so that's our heartbeat. Our heartbeat would be that we would understand that not just the marriage. Yes, there's a lot about the marriage that needs to honor God, but we can actually honor God in how we approach the wedding itself. The title of the message is what marriage Means. And that should be what all of the symbolism and all of the reality behind how we approach our wedding day, it should all point to the meaning of marriage, to what marriage means. In our day, the wedding tends to be either over or underemphasized. Those are really the two choices, right? Either. What do I mean? Over emphasize. It's this big circus. It's this big show. It's a contest. Who can spend more money, you know, how can we impress? How can it all look so good on Instagram, right? This spectacle. Okay, that's not great. Just not okay. Why? Weddings come and go, right? The marriage stays. So you should be more focused on the marriage than just the wedding. The wedding's one great day, but the marriage should hopefully be what you've actually been preparing for. So culture will say, over emphasize. Overblow. Overspend. Over hype. Over impress. To one up and be better than the, you know, whatever. The last wedding you went to, that's a mistake. But the pendulum swings two different directions. And I honestly think the other direction that maybe we. We are more guilty of making, more prone towards these days is to under emphasize. So what's the big deal? It's just like sort of a formality, a box that you gotta check, right? That it's basically just a piece of paper. No, it's not. It's holy matrimony. It's not to be entered into lightly or flippantly. It is sacred. It is special. It's supernatural. And the reality is, just as we shouldn't approach communion haphazardly, right? The Book of Corinthians actually says that there are sometimes people in the church who get sick and even die because of their taking communion in an unworthy manner, handling these elements that are not, but that are representatives of the body and blood of Jesus. And to do it flippantly is to not recognize the sacredness of what you're holding. I don't think anybody here would, you know, sort of hopefully dismiss what happens in baptism. This is not a hop into a hot tub. You realize that this is. This is stepping into a moment where you are identifying publicly with the body of Jesus that was buried, buried with Christ in death, raised. When you come out of those waters of baptism, I always tell people, you pump your arms like you are Rocky Balboa on the top of those steps because you are raised with Christ. Functionally, you raised with Christ. It is holy, it is sacred, it is supernatural. And just as we would treat communion and baptism as important, just as we would supernaturally raise our faith towards the babies who are being honored in dedication when they're publicly standing before the church to say, hey, I want to commit, to raise this child, to know the Lord, I mean, it's a holy moment. Neither should we flippantly or lightly step into this moment of two. Listen to me. Becoming one flesh. That's what's happening. And that is only possible by the work of God. God brings these two together to become one flesh. Okay, so. So what I hope to happen today, and this is my prayer all week. And I know it's strange, but I'm. I keep praying, Lord, would you grab our Etch A Sketch and would you shake it so you could put your picture into our hearts that you had originally when you invented marriage, when you, as the father of the bride, brought Eve to be married to Adam, and then you, as the officiant, you know, supervised and conducted the first wedding in history. What you had in your mind, could that replace the cultural picture we have of marriage in our mind? Could we have your image? Because sin, it's been said, is a disordered, inflamed imagination. We all create pictures that we think will make us happy, and we chase after them. We're all trying to get the good life. The problem is sin disorders our imagination. And we love and chase after a picture that can never truly satisfy. So hopefully, what can happen today is, by God, shaking the Etch A Sketch clean. But from the cultural clutter and all the baggage that's Crowded in of what we think is gonna bring the good life to us, that God would give us a picture of a wedding. And then we could reverse engineer those of you who are teenagers and young adults that as you. As you move towards it with this picture in your mind, it'll answer all the questions you would have about how should I date? Will this get me to that? Will this move me towards the picture that God has for me? Is this the kind of person who I could step into that with? And then for those of us who are married today here, divorced or widowed, and whatever's going on today that you would go, dang, like, maybe some of you will say, I wish I had heard this message when I was 18, or, I wish I had heard this message when I was 14. I could have had that picture in my mind. Let me just tell you something. The way that we are approaching this conversation in the series, Love Is in the Air is this way from this day forward, because I can't do anything about my past, and you can't do anything about yours. But our God doesn't just create. He can recreate. He can bring something. He can take what's in your heart today, what's in your life today, and he can touch it. Okay? And so we're all gonna hopefully move towards what God has for each of us. But I really pray you would just see this image that caused God to give such real estate in his word. It's been called the most neglected book of the Bible, the Song of Solomon. And as chapter three begins, the engagement is almost over. And yet we see the fire has. Has not gone out. The first of five takeaway truths I want you to jot down for this couple. The fire has not gone out. You see, Levi, what fire? There's actually two. The fire of their love for him and the fire of their love for each other. They're both burning brightly. And that. Really. Haven't we seen that throughout the. The way they've approached their crush, their dating, their engagement, there's been a desire to honor God in what they do with the energy and the attraction they feel. And so really, that's what we're trying to say. We're trying to say in how I approach my love for you, I want it to honor him. And we see both of these flames burning bright for them. Song of Solomon 3, verse 1. By night on my bed, I sought the one I love. I sought him, but I did not find him. I will rise now, I said, and go about the city, in the streets and in the squares I will seek the one I love. I sought him, but I did not find him. The watchmen who go about the city found me. I said, have you seen the one I love? What's happening here? Shulamite is back at home in Shunam, where she was raised. She's in her mom and dad's house. Okay? And the wedding is coming soon. The wedding is about to happen. She would be waiting for him to show up. In our day, we all gather in the church and. Or in the event space or the outdoor meadow, and everyone waits. It's on kind of pins and needles a little bit. Will she come? Will she come? We're all waiting. Here comes the bride. Right? In that day, it was the opposite. The bride and the family would all be waiting for the arrival of the groom. And then there would be a parade as he would collect his bride and bring her to his home. Right? And so everyone's waiting. And in the period. I mean, you didn't know exactly when he was going to come. And in that whole kind of period, last couple days, she has this dream that's actually kind of like a nightmare. And in their nightmare, she's not with him. They're not together. So, you know, it's dreaming. So just give everybody some grace here. Taco Bell could be a part of the problem, but she has this dream, and in her dream, she expects him to be with her, but he's not. So maybe in her dream they end up not married together. And time's gone on, life's gone on, but they end up not together. Okay? And she's distraught by this. This idea of not ending up as Mrs. Solomon is very devastating to her. So she starts looking for him all around Jerusalem, asking the watchman, asking, where's he at? Where's he at? How did we not end up doing it? She's panicking. She's freaking out. The idea. Listen to me. Of her not being with him causes her to panic. And believe it or not, this is a good sign. This is a good sign because I think you'll agree it's about as far as you can get from cold feet. There have been some brides a couple days before a wedding thinking, oh, my gosh, what have I got myself into? Am I making a mistake? Her frame of mind as she takes her temperature. Hot still for Solomon. Hot still. She's hot for Solomon. That's what she feels. The thought of not being with him as she wakes up fills her with dread, not relief. And that's something to Think about. Okay? So hear me. Those of you who are dating. Is he the one? Is she the one? Right? Listen, if you can, especially as you get closer to it. If you can live without them, you should. If you can live without them, you probably should. You should not go into your wedding with a shrug. Well, you know. Well. Well, no, no. It should be like this. The thought, man. I asked the hard question. The thought of down the road, I wake up in my bed, he's there or she's there, he's there, she's not there, Right? This is important. It's something to think about, right? It's like the wisdom. Like they say when you're trying something on in the dressing room, you can end up talking yourself into a purchase that's the most you're ever gonna love it, right? You should not bring it home. Cause the lighting's not gonna be as good, right? No, no. You should not get into a marriage as an impulse buy. You should not have to, like, talk yourself up for it, right? The fire for her, she says, has not gone out. And that's all the more telling because of the sexual restraint that they've been showing. Do you hear me? When you climax in sex, your brain gets flooded with oxytocin. Interestingly enough, it's the same chemical that pumps through your brain. Moms. When you breastfeed a child and it's called, they nickname it the cuddle chemical, okay? It's meant to aid in attachment. So when you take your child to your breast and you hold it, the reason you feel so much love, and I would do anything for this baby is. Cause your birth is being flooded with this thing that says, bond, bond, bond, bond, bond. Okay? So when you have sex with your boyfriend or your girlfriend or your fiance, your brain gets flooded with the thing that says, they're the best. They're amazing. They're fantastic. They're wonderful. Okay? Now, the problem is you're in the due diligence phase. This is when you're supposed to be checking the foundation. This is when you're trying to check if there's mold. This is when you need to be going, is there a problem here? Right? But instead you're going, bond, right? And the old advice is keep your eyes half closed once you're married and wide open before you're married, right? Okay? And the problem is when you pump your brain full of the cuddle chemical, it causes your eyes to dim a little bit during a period of time that you need to, as we've heard, have your Wits about you. Okay, so I have a friend who always posts fire photos on Instagram. It's what men do, you know, he's always like built this fire and his big flex, his big challenge is no accelerants. That's his rules, self imposed rules. No paper, nothing store bought. It can only be things he finds in the woods. And one match, that's his rule. And if he posts this raging inferno, everybody does this big flex, right? And every man in the room is like, I like the challenge. I like where this is heading, right? So his thing is, you know, anybody can have a big thing burn up if you squirt a bunch of lighter fluid on it. That's premarital sex. It's this big. It feels so hot. But that's not the real raging fire that you've built the real careful way. That's a roaring fire that has what it needs. So during this period of time, she's showing the restraint. And here's we're gonna now see the need for the restraint. Okay, Verse four. Scarcely had I passed by them, she's still dreaming. I found the one I love. I held him and would not let him go until I brought him to the house of my mother and into the chamber of her who conceived me. It's very clear, every commentary agrees in the Hebrew. The way she phrases this is. She goes, I want that man. I want that man. I want him in my bed. I want him now. We have business in bed. That's what when I in her dream, she gets some shoes. You're coming to bed with me right now. Remember, they've not that we've read, really engaged in what we would call foreplay. They've been very careful every time it's kind of flared up to curb that. And they've repeated the same line every time that's happened. And it's this. Do not awaken. It's not time yet. Do not awaken. It's not time yet. Don't awake. Why would we wake all that up if it's not time to go all the way? Let's save it till we can get crazy. Let's just do that, right? Okay. So she says, I want this man un foggy brain, unclouded. She's seeing his faults and she's gone through enough of seasons of life to not just be in puppy love. Okay, let me help you. One of the kindest things this woman did to help me know she was the one for me was she dumped me. Yeah. Can you believe it? She did she sent me to the curb, okay, here's what happened. We were friends. I was obsessed. She wouldn't date for six months. And so we start dating, and there. I mean, it was. I was Mr. Casanova, okay? But then I think six months or so of dating goes by, and I started to panic because she was getting close and it was getting clear. We are moving some. This is. We're going towards something, right? And I freaked out. Now, I, at that point, didn't really understand how my childhood had affected me and my parents marriage ending and some of these things going on inside that I hadn't worked out yet. So I didn't know yet that I had this thing when someone got close, that I would trigger a panicked reaction of, you're gonna hurt me. At some point, someone close to me is gonna hurt me. And so I began to wallop. I began to pump the brakes. I began to kind of distance myself from her, but not articulating any of that to her. So she has no idea what's going on. It's just this guy who was obsessed with me is now there present in body, but I'm not getting much more emotionally okay. And so she called me on it and said, what's the deal? And I was like, nothing. What do you mean, everything's fine? What do you want to watch tonight at the movie theater? You know? And so after this went on for a while, and I continued to not have the language to articulate what I was actually feeling and going through, she finally dumped me and said, hey, if you don't want me, you're not gonna have me, but you're not gonna be with me, but not pursue me. She respected herself enough to say, I'm not just gonna stay with you to waste my time. And so you know what I did? I said, biggest mistake of her life, you know, that's what I said. Funny, I actually remember driving home thinking, there's plenty of fish out there in the sea. The stupidest, you know, I said, all these girls are gonna be so lucky that I'm on the market again. You know, that's what I was thinking. And then I went to a family function like, a week later. I hadn't told anybody what had happened. And I showed up at this thing, and my family was like, where's Jenny? I was like, well, you know, we broke up. What do you mean you broke up? You love Jenny. They're like. I was like, well, she broke up with me and my big sister. She sat me down, okay? And she spoke truth to Me, like only a big sister can. And here's what she said. She said, I'm gonna speak slowly so you'll understand the words. She said, you're a moron. Jenny's the best thing that ever happened to you. We like Jenny better than we like you. If we could, we would choose her right now to be here and you not be here. And then she said, and we like you better when Jenny's around you. Both Jenny and I got to pick one thing that was like a quote about our relationship to tell our wedding guests. And the quote I chose was, pick someone who makes you a better version of yourself. That's what I felt like I did. And my sister told me that that day. She said, we love you when Jenny's around. And she said, I know you, like, you know, whatever you need to work out. But just know this. Jenny's not gonna end up single for long. Someone's gonna snap her up and see the treasure that she is, and you are gonna regret it for the rest of your life. So you need to figure this out. And I was like, you don't know what you're talking about. No one wants me to have any fun. You know? I was like, whatever. And. But I drove home that night distinctly thinking, she's right. But I didn't call Jenny that day. I committed to not jerk her around anymore until I had really figured stuff out. And so I took a couple weeks and really prayed about it and got some good counsel. And when I asked Jenny to go on a hike with me, I intended to ask her to once again enter into a dating relationship with me. But I would be honest with her about what I was feeling and that I was scared, and it made me nervous that she was so close, and it freaked me out. I didn't know how to talk about that. And so it was going to be that we would pick it back up, though, with the mentality of pursuing marriage. And it was not too long after that that I proposed and made the best decision of my life and made Jenny my bride. And thank God she said yes. And yet I see that in this dynamic where they're kind of tested by multiple seasons, and yet still, even without the artificial accelerant of sex, they still want each other. They still desire each other. And she says, I wish she would take me to bed. But notice verse five, what happens again, this familiar phrase. I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles or by the does of the field, do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases because what she just say? I want him and I want him now. And it's actually hilarious to me. It's more from her side than from his side. All throughout the psalms or the song, he's like, your eyes are amazing, your neck's fantastic, I love your personality. He's just being kind, he's just listening. And she's like, take off your gloves, right? Like that's her. Because he's actually seeing her and using her sex greatest sexual organ, which is her mind and being kind and being courteous. And so she's finding this all want to wake up, but choosing to not allow it because she says in her words, it's not time yet. Now they're days away from marriage and you could kind of go, dude, what's the problem? You're going to be married in three days. So she's technically your spouse. No, she's not. No, she's not. Until she's your spouse, until he's your spouse, he's someone else's. Even if that someone else is a future version of you. I remember Jenny and I, we just had such a conviction about this and we couldn't like towards the last couple weeks of our engagement, we were engaged for maybe six months. I wanna say the last couple weeks, like, we could not even be like, we would just stand across the room. It was like, we will have sex if we even like get within the. So we would call her roommate and we would say. I would call her, are you home? And she would go, no. I'm like, okay, we're going to Panera Bread. Jenny. You know, it's like, we are not gonna be in public together because we wanted each other so bad. And we would find ourselves kissing and we'd just be like, ah, not yet, not yet. And we would say this. This was like our repeated refrain throughout our engagement. Not know, just not yet. Not know, just not yet. And even if it's a couple days that let's get to the finish line. Building on a foundation of honoring God in how we approach this season that will never get back of our lives. And listen, you might say, well, I'm already sleeping with my girlfriend. I'm already, I've already made those mistakes. It's never too late to do the right. Never too late to draw a line in the sand. Say, hey, we wanna honor God in how we approach it now. So for them, the dual flames of their love for God and love for each other have not flickered. And so we see them moving into the next phase, which is where they're able to say, so now I covenant before God. The fire throughout engagement and dating has not gone out. So now I covenant before God. Where do I see this in the text? Verse 6. Who is this coming out of the wilderness like pillars of smoke, perfumed with myrrh and frankincense, with all the merchant's fragrant powders? I will never in my life be able to forget the glimpse that I got of Jenny at the back of the church. We got married outside the church in an amphitheater. And when I saw her show up for the first time holding her dad's arm, it blew me out of the water. And what hit me was a wave of the presence and the majesty of God and his grace and kindness in giving me this woman. The pastor had welcomed everybody in the name of Jesus. You see what I'm saying? The entire thing. Bathed in prayer. We were aware of the fact we were coming together to witness a work of God as he brought us together. Two lives ending so one new one together could begin. And I am. I don't want to say I'm not an emotional person, but I usually can kind of hold it together. And I was a mess, ugly, crying, snotting down my tuxedo, barely holding it together. And just the thought that hit me was just how great and glorious God is. And to stand and to walk into what he was doing, to step into a miracle in motion in that moment and to covenant with this woman before God in the presence of God, to enter into a holy cup. Listen to me when you are baptized. We were told by Jesus as pastors to baptize the name of the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit. And you will say those same names, the name of God. He's one God, but he's given us three persons that we can understand him as the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. It is not a light thing to stand before an officiant and to speak and invoke the name of God. As you say vows, right? Like, we ought to be real careful what vows we take in the name of above every name. This is a holy covenant. And that's why verse six references the smoke show that is Solomon as he shows up, right? That's what she says. She says, dang. She's like, wow, here comes the groom, right? It's like a pillar in the wilderness. Where have I heard that before? Oh, how about the Book of Exodus, when God guided his people, fire by night, pillar of smoke by day. What is she saying? Frankincense and Myrrh. Both involved in the temple worship. She's saying this is a holy moment. God's here. She's saying what you should hopefully be able to say. God guided us. God led us. God was with us. He was with us in our dating. He was with us in our wandering. He was with us in our fears. Am I gonna be single forever? Am I ever gonna find her? Am I ever gonna find Him? It's so difficult to get married after I've been divorced. It's so difficult to focus on the thought of getting married again after I lost a spouse. God was with me, though. Do you see it? They're saying, God's here. God's present. We honor him. This is not some piece of paper at the justice of the peace or something. You want to escape by eloping. This is a holy moment where the people of God get to celebrate and participate, right? You're. You're there to pray. You're there to bear witness to the work and the majesty of God in giving us the first thing he ever gave to us after he gave. This is something that hopefully, till death do you part, you will honor that. You're going to continue to walk out in good times and in bad times. This is a holy covenant. God present in the midst. And what are they covenanting to do? They're covenanting to live as one in every way. Huge that you see this. The text tells us that Solomon built a device to have her carried to the wedding ceremony. In. In fact, we're given a description of it in verse nine of the Wood of Lebanon. Solomon the king made himself a palanquin. New vocab words for 500 bob. A palanquin is a couch that you carry, okay? So when someone sits on a couch and then everybody picks the couch up, right? Think Aladdin, right? The couch that gets carried is a palanquin. Its pillars were of silver, its supports of gold, its seat of purple. The rarest, most expensive color you could buy in the world was purple. Interior paved with love by the daughters of Jerusalem. What do we see here? Solomon plundered everything precious in his kingdom, and he gave it to her as a representative of. I'm giving all of me to you. All of me to you. Everything I am, everything I have, I'm giving myself fully to you. It's a beautiful. It's a powerful. It's a poignant gesture to say, I'm not just bringing you in my bed to be physical puzzle pieces that, by the way, the human body fits together to make one out of two. That's how God designed it. But that is meant to be the promise your body makes that you live out with every other area of your life. So for Jenny and I, there's not Jenny's life and Jenny's friends and Levi's life and Levi's friends. Those lives ended as we came together. Hey, it's the Luskos. This is it, guys. This is what we got. This is who we are. We're. We're going to do it together, and we're going to live as one. We don't have separate bedrooms, separate beds, separate bank accounts, separate secret lives. There's not this and that we have to hide from each other. We're living together in covenant before God as one flesh. In the name of the Father, in the name of the Son, and in the name of the Holy Spirit. And so many of the rituals that have often ended up in wedding ceremonies. Try and articulate this. Sand. Two different colors of sand poured together, right? Now, that's the problem, because you could pick those out if you got really. You know, there's the unity candle, right? The mother of the groom, the father of the bride or mother of the bride would light the two individual candles, but then they would light the one candle, then blow out theirs, right? But those could get relit. I like how the Jews do it, quite frankly. They would take a glass, wrap it in a napkin, put it on the ground, and the groom would crush that thing. Mazel tov. Right? Good luck making that goblet again, because it's inseparably smashed, right? It's this idea of two eggs. They've been scrambled together. That's the sexual union. That's the marriage bed. You can't unwind those two. You can't pick out the shells and rebuild those eggs. So it's a sense in which we've entered into what we're going to have to seek to live out every day in all the different ways as two broken, sinful people are trying to live together as one. And the moment your pride gets touched, you bow up and you pull away from the unity. And you. My rights. My what? You got this. You did that. You bought this. You went there. I should deserve so. So humility always says, I'll lose myself. Why? Why at the Last Supper, did none of the disciples want to wash feet? They were all wanting. I'm. I'm better than you. I shouldn't have to be the one. And Jesus said, humility lowers. Humility says, I'll be absorbed. I'll Lose my rights, I'll lose myself. I'm here to serve. So it is in marriage. The goal is to every day, in all the difficult ways, continue to live as one. Genesis 2:24 says, Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother, be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. My pastor said that that verse has three phases. Leaving, cleaving and weaving. You leave father and mother, you're gonna always honor them. But now you're forming a new family and you're gonna have to prayerfully decide how do we have holidays, how do we approach money, how do we make decisions when it comes to school, right? You wanna flush out all those bugs you can during engagement, so they're not landmines ready to blow up in marriage. And then cleaving, that's when you actually enter into holy matrimony and then go into the marriage bed and consummate the relationship. But then the weaving is the one that lasts till death do you part. And there are constantly aspects to continue to weave together and learn to live together with this person. And it is not to be done in isolation. It needs to be done with the help of community. With the help of community. This is why it is important to notice that this man, this woman, they're not just getting married at the justice of the peace, are they? No. Verse 7. Behold, it's Solomon's couch. Because he gets carried on one too. Maybe his ride isn't pimped as hard as hers is, but he's still on a couch and his is being carried. Look, with 60 valiant men around it of the valiant of Israel. Bro, that's a big bridal party. I don't want to have to sit there at that reception if they all get introduced. All 60 of them. Good gracious. Verse 11. Go forth, O daughters of Zion, and see King Solomon with the crown with which his daughters, his mother, crowned him on the day of his wedding, the day of the gladness of his heart. So what do we got? We got his valiant men, and we got her daughters of Zion. And then we know he picked her up at her parents house and they joined the parade. And then it's Bathsheba putting a crown on Solomon's head, her speaking blessing and gladness over this relationship. So they're being married in community. Let me ask you a question. What should be the criteria for picking your groomsmen, for picking your bridesmaids? Should it be simply just, well, I've known them the longest? No, no, I submit to you. It should be who is going to do the best job in the coming days of helping fight for the unity of your marriage. Who is going to remind you of your vows? Who is going to remind you of your oath? Who. When you go to them and go, I'm angry and I can't believe he did. This is not going to go well. I never thought he was good enough for you, right? Who's going to say, hey, hey, hey, Go back, go, go back. Go say you're sorry. Go back and ask forgiveness. Remember that oath. Remember better or worse. Remember sickness and health. Remember till death do you part. You seem alive to me, so get back in there, right? Let's get counseling. Let's get prayer. Let's go meet with the pastor. Who's going to be a valiant man or woman. These are the people you want in your corner, in your marriage. I was so grateful as I prayed about who my best friend was. As I stepped up to marry my wife, I realized that my closest counselor and confidant was my father. And I had never seen anyone do it, but I didn't think there was any reason why you couldn't. And so I asked my dad to be my best man, and he said yes. And it was such an honor to get to stand there as I stepped into this marriage and to see my dad right beside me. And it. I was thinking this week about one of the moments when Jenny and I were having a hard time early on in our marriage. And I called him. We talked every day on the phone. And he said, levi, Jenny's a delicate flower. You're a wrecking ball. God made you a wrecking ball. It's the best thing about you. But you have to restrain your strength and intensity with her or you will steamroll over her. And that's the kind of advice I got from my best man every day of the 20 years of our marriage that he was here. And it's the kind of advice I know from heaven he still would be giving me today as he cheers me on continuing to want to be a wrecking ball against darkness, but not against my bride. That's what you want. Young people in your corner, it's not just like, oh, my cousin. It's like, your cousin's gonna be fine. Have him read a poem at the reception. You know, if your cousin ain't a man of God, you want Valiant. You see what I'm saying? You want people who are gonna fight for the. And not for. You know, don't get me started on bachelor and bachelorette parties, okay? You don't Get a pass on unholy living the night before your wedding. And you don't also want to be so hung over your wedding, you don't remember any of it. You want people who are going to pray for you right before you walk. You want people the night before. Let's recognize what's going on. Let's speak life over this situation. Let's have fun. For sure. But you want to be aware. You want to have your wits about you at your wedding. Because, listen, this is special. This mixture of people that will come together for your wedding will probably never assemble the rest of your life, ever. Ever. And what a beautiful thing that these people from past, present and future in your life are all going to come together and kind of mingle. And it's a really unique thing. And unless you die young, they might not ever be together in that configuration on earth. And so drink it in, take it in. And. And take mental snapshots, man. I told you I'm not emotional. And then started crying in front of my friends. So hopefully you see where we're going. You're going to communicate to your bride, to your husband, I will protect this house. I will protect this house. This is where what we've been trying to build, the fire is not gone out during dating and engagement. So I covenant before God to live as one in every way. And with the help of my community, I will protect this house. We said last week that the foxes want to come and eat the grapes before they get the chance to grow. And so you have to deal with the foxes. Okay. And what they're communicating in the weapons here. And you're like, where's the weapons? I didn't see anything about weapons. You didn't see it. Verse 8. All the groomsmen, they all hold swords. This is a Montana wedding. Everybody strapped, baby. They all got swords. They're expert in war. Every man has his sword on his thigh because of fear in the night. I was running last week and a fox ran across my path. And it made me think about how I'm married 22 years, but there's still foxes. And what should the fox say? Nothing. Because you put a cap in that sucker. That's what the. That's what the fox. You see what I'm saying? So, so, so Jenny, through our. Throughout our engagement, when I wanted her so bad and she wanted me so bad, we said, look, I'm going to be faithful to God with you now. So that down the road, then you will know God matters to me and I will be faithful to you with other women. Because foxes always are going to have a part to play. The devil's going to always try and tempt you. He tries to tempt you with the forbidden fruit of premarital sex so that you will continue to be tempted by extramarital sex. Your if you're dating or engaged, the forbidden fruit. Now what makes you think the forbidden fruit's gonna go away? What's the first thing God does after creation? A wedding. What's the first thing the devil does after creation? The devil tries to get between them. Get the man saying it was a woman. The woman's saying it was the man. You see what I'm saying? And so he always tries to divide what God's trying to bring together with God's help. Like the president, who, when he gets sworn. I love stuff like that. I love Pomp and Circumstance. I love 21 gun salutes. I love that the president, when he says his vow, his oath, he says, oath of office. He says, I swear to defend the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic. And I'm like, whoa, I love that. Enemies foreign and domestic. That's so exciting. It's like a spy movie. Foreign and domestic. That's your wedding vow. I will fight against all enemies of this house, foreign and domestic. Verse 8. Every man has a sword on his thigh because of fear in the night. How many groomsmen? 60. Some of you were very unsure. You're reading comprehension very, very low. I've been reading it all week. Settle down. Okay. First Chronicles 11 says that David had 30 mighty men. And they were so legendary they got nicknamed the 30. It was like it put fear in the hearts of the Philistines. The 30 are here. Solomon says I got 60. David said, I got a sword. Solomon's basically saying, I got a two edged sword. I got double as many as I need. Come on. We need to hold up God's word against fear in the night that will come. Devil, you can't have my marriage. You can't have my marriage bed. You can't have the sanctity of my relationship with my bride, my wife. You can't have my kids. You can't have my church. We're holding up God's word over our homes, over our hearts, over our callings. I got a sharp two edged sword. I will protect this house. We can speak God's word, believe God's word, love God's word and live God's word in Jesus name. Come on, stand up to your feet. Stand up to your feet. God, we thank you. We thank you for your presence. We thank you for your word. We thank you that where your spirit is there, there's freedom. And even in this moment, God, we can believe that we can step into something new. Thank you for the teenagers today hearing this word who don't ever have to go down dark roads of doubt and promiscuity. They can follow you and walk with you. God. I thank you Jesus, that you're saving us from heartache and regret down the road. I thank you God for the married people today who would say, man, I've let some of the fire of my relationship flicker out. I've let in some foxes through pornography or entertaining a little flirtation here. A little. We need to nip those things in the bud so they cannot keep our relationships from becoming all that you intend for them to be. I thank you God for those who are living in sin today, God, that in Jesus name we can, by the blood of Jesus and the power of the cross, we can walk in sanctification and righteousness and holiness from this day forward. Whatever the case, if there's a response that you have to this message, could I ask that you would just raise up a hand to the Lord? If you would say I'm young and I'm dedicating my life to you, got my relationship to you. If you would say there's regret but I want to change today in Jesus name you can raise a hand. Thank you God. Thank you Lord, for the love of our marriages. That can grow bright. You can put your hands down. I want to close telling you that all the love in my heart that soars when I see my bride, that's how God feels about you. That he calls the church his bride just shows you he can't pick a higher metaphor of love. And just like I give myself to Jenny, he's giving himself for you. He did it at the cross. He's doing it right now. He's offering all of him for you. That you could have all the blessing in every spiritual place in Christ, all of God in you. But you have to choose to accept him. Just as the Shunammite was waiting for Solomon to come and collect her from her parents house, so we wait for Jesus to come back, for his bride to come back for his church. But that marriage supper in the Lamb, you will not get to be a part of it and participate in it unless you accept his royal invitation. He stands at the door of your heart and knocks. And if you invite him in, he will come in. But he waits to be wanted. He will not force you to be saved. He will not force you to go to heaven. You have to choose. And that choice is set before you now. So with every head bowed, every eye closed, I'm gonna pray a prayer. I'm gonna ask the church to pray with me. And if you're ready to give your life to Jesus, pray this to God. Mean it in your heart, and he will hear you say this. Say, dear God, I know that I'm a sinner and I can't fix myself, but I believe you can. Please come into my heart. Make it your home. Thank you for the cross. Thank you for rising from the dead in Jesus name.
Host: Pastor Levi Lusko
Date: May 11, 2026
This episode centers on the true meaning of marriage from a biblical perspective, focusing on Song of Solomon, chapter three. Pastor Levi Lusko unpacks the significance of weddings and marriage, challenging cultural narratives and inviting listeners to view marriage as a sacred, God-designed institution. The episode explores themes of romantic love, sacred commitment, sexual restraint, community involvement, and spiritual symbolism, prompting listeners to reimagine marriage through God's original intent.
Pastor Levi employs candid storytelling, biblical exposition, personal anecdotes, humor, and heartfelt appeals. His tone is passionate, sometimes playful, deeply earnest, and pastoral throughout—always inviting listeners to respond to God’s design for life and marriage.