Podcast
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
Hosted by Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband · EN
It's a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values.
Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You'll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you've always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.
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318: I No Longer Ask My Wife to Initiate Sex (Here's Why)
2w ago00:17:09Tap to summarizeFor years, I asked my wife to initiate sex more often because I wanted to feel chosen and desired. Instead, my requests created pressure, scorekeeping, and a cycle that made genuine desire even harder. In this episode, I explain why I stopped asking, what I misunderstood about responsive desire, and how shifting from initiating sex to initiating connection transformed our intimate relationship. We'll talk about desire discrepancies, obligation sex, sexual entitlement, emotional connection, and how to express what you want without treating your spouse's body—or desire—as something you're owed. Resources: Couples Retreat Waitlist Men's and Women's Only Coaching Spark'd App Intimately Us App
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317: The Spicy Little Habit That Reignited This Mom's Marriage
3w ago00:31:47Tap to summarizeWhen work, kids, meals, schedules, and the never-ending mental checklist take everything you have, intimacy can start to feel like one more task. Amy Nesbit knows that tension firsthand. After nearly 20 years as a working professional—including time at Apple—she has learned how making the invisible load visible, asking for help before resentment builds, and protecting the parts of herself that bring her joy have strengthened her marriage. Amy also shares the unexpectedly spicy habit that gave her and her husband something new to talk about, why support can be one of the sexiest gifts in a marriage, and how she approaches age-appropriate, values-based conversations about sex with her children. If you're tired, touched out, and carrying too much, this conversation will help you make room for connection without adding more guilt to your plate. Learn more about Amy: Whole Wellness Mama. Resources Next Level Couples Coaching Program Men's Only and Women's Only coaching programs Our apps: Intimately Us, Just Between Us, and Spark'd Get on the waitlist for our spring retreat! Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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316: The Marriage Problem You Can't See (And the Grace That Changes Everything)
4w ago00:21:54Tap to summarizeMost couples think they know what's hurting their marriage. Poor communication. Different sex drives. Parenting disagreements. Financial stress. Growing apart. That's exactly what one couple thought, too. After 18 years of marriage, they came to Dan convinced they knew what needed fixing. But as they peeled back the layers, they uncovered a deeper problem—one neither of them had recognized—and that discovery changed everything. In this episode, Dan shares the surprising reframe that brought new hope to their marriage. Along the way, you'll discover why some conflicts keep repeating, how hidden struggles can quietly shape your relationship, and why God's grace is far more powerful than many of us realize. If your marriage feels stuck or you're tired of having the same arguments over and over, this episode offers a hopeful perspective that just might change the way you see your relationship—and yourself. And if you'd like further help, you can check out the resources on our website, including our Next Level Couples Coaching Program, Men's Only and Women's Only coaching programs, and our apps: Intimately Us, Just Between Us, and Spark'd.
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315: Rethinking Porn Addiction: A Better Path to Healing with Craig Perra
Jul 1000:40:38Tap to summarizeShame thrives in secrecy—but healing doesn't. In this deeply honest conversation, Dan sits down with Craig Perra, a former attorney whose secret life of pornography, strip clubs, prostitution, and compulsive sexual behavior nearly destroyed everything he cared about. After years of trying therapy, recovery groups, and identifying himself as a "sex addict," Craig reached a breaking point. What happened next completely changed how he viewed healing. Together, Dan and Craig explore why destructive behaviors often serve as coping strategies, how shame can keep us trapped, and why true healing begins with self-leadership instead of self-hatred. They discuss: • Why all behavior is need-seeking behavior • The hidden role shame plays in compulsive sexual behavior • Why some experts are moving away from the "sex addiction" label • How Parts Work helps people understand—not fight—themselves • The difference between suppressing urges and building real integrity • Practical hope for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of secrecy Whether you're personally struggling, supporting a spouse, or simply trying to understand how lasting change happens, this episode offers a compassionate and thought-provoking perspective on healing. And if you'd like futher help creating lasting change, check out how you can work with Dan and his team to reach your goals. Resources: Free offer from Craig: Text "Dan sent me" to 877-356-5573 for a free pdf of Craig's 175 page workbook on breaking bad habits and addictions. You can also find Craig Perra at these other locations: Patterns of Power Podcast The Mindful Habit System Instagram YouTube Facebook Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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314: "A More Perfect Union": What America's 250th Can Teach Us About Marriage and Intimacy
Jul 300:24:07Tap to summarizeWhat does the Constitutional Convention have to do with your marriage? More than you might think. As we celebrate Independence Day, Dan explores one of the greatest acts of collaboration in history—the creation of the U.S. Constitution—and uncovers surprising lessons for couples navigating differences in intimacy, communication, and connection. The delegates in Philadelphia didn't create unity by forcing everyone to agree. They built structures that honored competing needs. Your marriage can too. In this episode you'll learn: Why trying to "win" intimate disagreements keeps couples stuck How to create conversations where both spouses feel represented The difference between compromise and true collaboration Practical ideas for building your own "marriage convention" Why a more perfect union—not a perfect marriage—is the goal This Independence Day, celebrate more than freedom. Celebrate building a marriage where both of you can flourish.
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313: How Pelvic Floor Health Impacts Pleasure, Pain, and Orgasm with Kristen Damery
Jun 2600:45:10Tap to summarizeWhat if the key to better orgasms, less pain during sex, and greater confidence in intimacy isn't in your head—it's in your pelvic floor? In this episode, Dan sits down with pelvic floor physical therapist Kristin Damery to discuss the often-overlooked foundation of sexual wellness. Kristin explains how pelvic floor health affects arousal, orgasm, pain during intercourse, blood flow, muscle function, and overall sexual satisfaction. You'll learn: • Why painful sex is common—but not normal • The difference between a weak pelvic floor and an overly tight one • Why Kegels can sometimes make problems worse • How pelvic floor health impacts orgasm intensity and reliability • What causes pain during intercourse and what you can do about it • The role of breathing, stretching, and relaxation in sexual pleasure • How vibrators can be used as a helpful therapeutic tool • Practical steps women can take to improve pelvic health and intimacy Kristin also shares her favorite advice for couples who want to deepen intimacy and keep exploring together in marriage. Whether you've experienced pain, difficulty reaching orgasm, changes after childbirth, or you're simply curious about optimizing your sexual health, this episode offers practical, hopeful guidance. Resources mentioned: • LavaLube (Use code GYMO20 for 20% off your first order): https://mylavalube.com/ • Get Your Marriage On Events & Coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/ Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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312: Emotional Masculinity and Getting My Wife to Like Me Again, with Matt Salis
Jun 1900:41:26Tap to summarizeWhat happens when you realize your spouse still loves you—but doesn't really like you? After 20 years of marriage, that's the realization Matt Sallas faced. In this episode, Matt shares how addiction, obligation-based sex, and emotional disconnection nearly destroyed his marriage—and the framework that helped rebuild trust, attraction, and intimacy. We discuss emotional safety, emotional masculinity, the difference between reluctant and enthusiastic consent, and Matt's simple "Sex Sequence" for creating a marriage both spouses genuinely enjoy. In this episode: • The difference between love and like in marriage • Why emotional safety matters more than most couples realize • The hidden cost of obligation-based sex • Matt's 3-step Sex Sequence framework • How emotional masculinity strengthens intimacy • The "Always Be Dating" mindset Resources: Matt's relationship survey: untoxicatedsurvey.org Matt's podcast: https://un-toxicated.com/ Get Your Marriage On events: https://getyourmarriageon.com/events Spark'd app: Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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311: How To Stop Having Boring Sex: 7 Principles for Connection and Fun
Jun 1200:27:46Tap to summarizeHas your sex life become a little too predictable? In this episode, Dan shares 7 simple principles to help couples break out of routine, deepen connection, and bring more fun, playfulness, and excitement into their intimate relationship. From creating an intimacy menu to exploring new experiences together, you'll learn practical ways to stop having boring sex and start creating more meaningful connection. Resources from the episode: Awesome date night and intimacy apps Sexploration List International Lovemaking Day Bedroom Boxes Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy Facebook Group Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program Intimacy Menu Products we love: Evree Massage Cream and podcast episode LavaLube COCONU EveryLove Intimates
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310: Stop Doing The Dishes To Get Her In The Mood: Masculine Leadership with Stu Murray
Jun 500:25:34Tap to summarizeMost people think being a good spouse means being selfless, accommodating, and easygoing. But what if those same habits are quietly creating resentment, frustration, and disconnection? In this episode, we're joined by Stu Murray, a men's leadership coach, to discuss the "Nice Guy Pattern"—the tendency to suppress your own needs, avoid conflict, and hope your partner will magically figure out what you want. Together we explore: • What covert contracts are and why they create resentment • Why people-pleasing often leads to less intimacy, not more • How unspoken expectations damage emotional safety • The connection between honesty, desire, and attraction • Why many men struggle to express what they really want • Practical steps to stop self-abandoning and start showing up authentically If you've ever thought, "After everything I do, why don't I feel appreciated?" this episode is for you. You'll learn how greater honesty, responsibility, and authenticity can create stronger connection—and often more intimacy—in your marriage. Episode Resources Come cruise with us this fall! Don't miss out on the International Lovemaking Day Challenge going on now in the Intimately Us app! Find Stu on Youtube (https://www.youtube.com/@iamstumurray) and Instagram: @iamstumurray Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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309: What To Do When Your Spouse Isn't Interested in Improving Your Sex Life
May 2900:35:32Tap to summarizeDifferences in sexual desire can feel deeply personal. One spouse feels rejected. The other feels pressured. And both end up wondering if something is wrong with their marriage. In this episode, Dan shares three principles that can completely change the way you think about desire differences in marriage. He talks honestly about the hidden power dynamics couples fall into, why conflict around sex is actually an opportunity for growth, and how sometimes "low desire" is actually a wise response to unhealthy meanings attached to sex. You'll learn: Why every marriage has a higher and lower desire spouse The three unhealthy ways couples typically handle sexual conflict (and how to do it better) Why vulnerability is often more powerful than pressure How to stop using sex for validation and start creating truly good sex together This episode is honest, hopeful, and deeply practical for couples who feel stuck in painful intimacy patterns. If you've ever felt lonely, rejected, pressured, unseen, or exhausted by the pursuit-withdraw cycle in your marriage, this episode is for you. And if you'd like personal help implementing these principles, our program can help you take those first steps, even if your spouse isn't on board. After all, "personal responsibility and growth is the solution to most s*xual difficulties" and our program is designed to address just that. And if you'd like to bring more eroticism and play into your marriage, you can join us on our cruise this October! Get all the details on our website.
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