Podcast
Get Your Marriage On! with Dan Purcell
Hosted by Dan Purcell | Sex & Intimacy Coach | Christian Husband · EN
It's a challenge to build a long term relationship full of love, desire, and sexy fun. It can be especially challenging for Christians in a world filled with mixed messages about sex, intimacy, and marriage that go contrary to traditional values.
Your host is Dan Purcell, a Life Coach and Couples Sex Expert that specializes in helping married couples take their sex life to the next level. You'll gain new ideas, perspectives, and practical tools to help you "get your marriage on"! This podcast discusses fun and spicy topics you've always wondered about, but from a Christian-friendly perspective. For more information, visit https://getyourmarriageon.com.
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312: Emotional Masculinity and Getting My Wife to Like Me Again, with Matt Salis
4d ago00:41:26Tap to summarizeWhat happens when you realize your spouse still loves you—but doesn't really like you? After 20 years of marriage, that's the realization Matt Sallas faced. In this episode, Matt shares how addiction, obligation-based sex, and emotional disconnection nearly destroyed his marriage—and the framework that helped rebuild trust, attraction, and intimacy. We discuss emotional safety, emotional masculinity, the difference between reluctant and enthusiastic consent, and Matt's simple "Sex Sequence" for creating a marriage both spouses genuinely enjoy. In this episode: • The difference between love and like in marriage • Why emotional safety matters more than most couples realize • The hidden cost of obligation-based sex • Matt's 3-step Sex Sequence framework • How emotional masculinity strengthens intimacy • The "Always Be Dating" mindset Resources: Matt's relationship survey: untoxicatedsurvey.org Matt's podcast: https://un-toxicated.com/ Get Your Marriage On events: https://getyourmarriageon.com/events Spark'd app: Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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311: How To Stop Having Boring Sex: 7 Principles for Connection and Fun
2w ago00:27:46Tap to summarizeHas your sex life become a little too predictable? In this episode, Dan shares 7 simple principles to help couples break out of routine, deepen connection, and bring more fun, playfulness, and excitement into their intimate relationship. From creating an intimacy menu to exploring new experiences together, you'll learn practical ways to stop having boring sex and start creating more meaningful connection. Resources from the episode: Awesome date night and intimacy apps Sexploration List International Lovemaking Day Bedroom Boxes Christian Couples Improving Sex & Intimacy Facebook Group Get Your Marriage On Coaching Program Intimacy Menu Products we love: Evree Massage Cream and podcast episode LavaLube COCONU EveryLove Intimates
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310: Stop Doing The Dishes To Get Her In The Mood: Masculine Leadership with Stu Murray
3w ago00:25:34Tap to summarizeMost people think being a good spouse means being selfless, accommodating, and easygoing. But what if those same habits are quietly creating resentment, frustration, and disconnection? In this episode, we're joined by Stu Murray, a men's leadership coach, to discuss the "Nice Guy Pattern"—the tendency to suppress your own needs, avoid conflict, and hope your partner will magically figure out what you want. Together we explore: • What covert contracts are and why they create resentment • Why people-pleasing often leads to less intimacy, not more • How unspoken expectations damage emotional safety • The connection between honesty, desire, and attraction • Why many men struggle to express what they really want • Practical steps to stop self-abandoning and start showing up authentically If you've ever thought, "After everything I do, why don't I feel appreciated?" this episode is for you. You'll learn how greater honesty, responsibility, and authenticity can create stronger connection—and often more intimacy—in your marriage. Episode Resources Come cruise with us this fall! Don't miss out on the International Lovemaking Day Challenge going on now in the Intimately Us app! Find Stu on Youtube (https://www.youtube.com/@iamstumurray) and Instagram: @iamstumurray Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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309: What To Do When Your Spouse Isn't Interested in Improving Your Sex Life
4w ago00:35:32Tap to summarizeDifferences in sexual desire can feel deeply personal. One spouse feels rejected. The other feels pressured. And both end up wondering if something is wrong with their marriage. In this episode, Dan shares three principles that can completely change the way you think about desire differences in marriage. He talks honestly about the hidden power dynamics couples fall into, why conflict around sex is actually an opportunity for growth, and how sometimes "low desire" is actually a wise response to unhealthy meanings attached to sex. You'll learn: Why every marriage has a higher and lower desire spouse The three unhealthy ways couples typically handle sexual conflict (and how to do it better) Why vulnerability is often more powerful than pressure How to stop using sex for validation and start creating truly good sex together This episode is honest, hopeful, and deeply practical for couples who feel stuck in painful intimacy patterns. If you've ever felt lonely, rejected, pressured, unseen, or exhausted by the pursuit-withdraw cycle in your marriage, this episode is for you. And if you'd like personal help implementing these principles, our program can help you take those first steps, even if your spouse isn't on board. After all, "personal responsibility and growth is the solution to most s*xual difficulties" and our program is designed to address just that. And if you'd like to bring more eroticism and play into your marriage, you can join us on our cruise this October! Get all the details on our website.
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308: Better Sex by Sharing the Mental Load, with Zach Watson
May 2200:42:25Tap to summarizeBetter sex isn't just about what happens in the bedroom. In this episode, Dan sits down with Zach Watson to unpack the hidden emotional and mental work happening inside many marriages — and why it has such a powerful impact on intimacy. They talk about invisible labor, mental load, emotional safety, and the loneliness that can build when one partner feels like they're carrying everything alone. Zach shares practical ways couples can better share responsibility, communicate more clearly, and create more trust and partnership at home. You'll also hear: Why "helping" can sometimes create more frustration The difference between doing a task and owning it How emotional labor affects desire and connection Why empathy matters so much in sexual intimacy Simple ways couples can work more like teammates This episode is honest, practical, and full of moments that will help you better understand your partner — and yourself. Episode Resources Thriving Together: How to Share the Mental Load in Marriage (GYMO Guide) Get ready for International Lovemaking Day with Intimately Us! Come cruise with us! Zach's Free Mental Load Basics Skool Community Find Zach on Socials: @zachmentalloadcoach (Instagram) and @zachthinkshare (Facebook) Disclaimer: The opinions and values expressed by guests on the Get Your Marriage On! podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect the opinions and values of the host. Appearance on the podcast does not imply an endorsement of the guest or their products by Get Your Marriage On or its host. While we work hard to bring you quality and valuable content, listeners are encouraged to use their own best judgment in applying the information or products discussed on this podcast.
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307: When You Finally Start Letting Go (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 5)
May 1500:35:14Tap to summarizeIn this final session with Peggy and Steve, things feel different. The wall Peggy used to feel during intimacy—the fear, tension, and resistance that would suddenly shut everything down—is starting to soften. And for the first time in a long time, both of them are beginning to relax. In this episode, you'll hear Peggy and Steve reflect on the progress they've made over the last few months, what still feels difficult, and what they're continuing to work through together. You'll also hear conversations about: learning to let go a little more why sex can start to feel overly serious the role playfulness has in intimacy stress, emotional overload, and connection and what it means to feel truly free with your spouse This episode is a hopeful ending to a deeply honest coaching journey—and a reminder that growth usually happens gradually, one small shift at a time. If you'd like some guidance to shift your marriage, check out our coaching options at getyourmarriageon.com/program or getyourmarriageon.com/work-with-me/
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306: When You're Fighting Your Own Pleasure (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 4)
May 1200:41:37Tap to summarizeATTN: Women's only coaching cohorts starts today, May 12! Don't waste another day wishing things were different in your marriage. Sign up here: Women's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/womens-small-group-coaching/ In this fourth session with Peggy and Steve, something important finally clicks. Peggy begins recognizing the exact moment her brain hits the "kill switch" during intimacy. Not consciously. Not intentionally. Just years of conditioning kicking in automatically. As the conversation unfolds, Peggy starts connecting the dots between anxiety, "good girl" conditioning, fear, pleasure, and the unconscious belief that enjoying too much might somehow be wrong. In this episode, you'll hear: Why some people unconsciously shut pleasure down What happens when your brain treats pleasure like danger How anxiety can quietly disconnect you from your body Why rewiring sexual patterns takes more than just "thinking differently" You'll also hear one of the biggest mindset shifts of the series so far. This episode is about learning how to stop fighting yourself in intimate moments, and starting to trust that pleasure, connection, and desire were never the enemy.
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305: When You Don't Know How to Like Yourself (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series #3)
May 800:49:48Tap to summarizeATTN: Men's and Women's only coaching cohorts start this week, May 12! Don't waste another day wishing things were different in your marriage. Sign up here: Women's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/womens-small-group-coaching/ Men's coaching: https://getyourmarriageon.com/mens-coaching/ *** In this third session with Peggy and Steve, the conversation shifts in a deeper direction. What starts as a discussion about intimacy and confidence quickly turns into something much bigger: 👉 learning how to actually like yourself. As Peggy opens up about body image, control, "good girl" conditioning, and the stories she's believed about herself for years, it becomes clear that these patterns don't just affect how she feels about her body. They affect how she shows up in her marriage, in intimacy, and in her relationship with herself. In this episode, you'll hear: Why self-acceptance matters so much in intimacy How negative self-talk quietly affects connection The hidden cost of "clamping down" your sexuality The difference between confidence and self-acceptance Why good sex requires trust, courage, honesty, and faith You'll also hear a personal story from Dan about a moment that completely changed the way he saw himself—and why learning to like yourself is some of the most important work a person can do. This episode isn't just about sex. It's about what happens when you stop fighting yourself and finally begin stepping more fully into who you already are.
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304: When You're Both Trying, But Your Sex Life is Just Stuck (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 2)
May 600:56:50Tap to summarizeWhy do so many couples feel stuck, even when they're both trying their best? In Part 2 of this real coaching series, Peggy and Steve come back after working on making intimacy more fun and less performative. And for a while, it works. But underneath the progress, a deeper pattern starts to surface—one that keeps pulling them right back into the same frustrating gridlock. Inside this episode, you'll hear: How "needy" energy shows up in subtle, unintentional ways Why looking to your spouse to fix how you feel creates disconnection The difference between wanting connection and depending on it How both partners can feel powerless—even in a loving marriage This episode gets to the core of a pattern many couples don't realize they're in: 👉 When you rely on your partner to regulate your emotions, intimacy starts to feel like pressure—not connection. And when that happens, both people lose. The goal isn't to stop wanting each other. It's to stop needing your partner to feel okay. Because that's where real connection—and real desire—can actually grow. This is Part 2 of a 5-part coaching series where you'll hear what it takes to break out of that cycle and create something better. Make sure you've listened to Part 1 first! Resources from the episode: Our Men's and Women's Cohorts are starting May 12! Seats are limited, so grab your spot today!
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303: When Sex Feels Like Work (Peggy & Steve Coaching Series, Part 1)
May 101:02:57Tap to summarizeWhat if the problem in your sex life isn't a lack of effort…but too much effort? In this episode, we're trying something completely new. You'll get a behind-the-scenes look at a real coaching session with a couple (names and details changed for privacy) who are doing everything "right"—but still feel stuck. They love each other. They're committed. They're trying hard. But sex has started to feel… mechanical. A little pressured. More like something to get through than something to enjoy. Inside this session, something important comes to light: 👉 The more sex feels like work, the harder it is to actually feel desire. In this episode, you'll hear: Why "trying harder" can actually make intimacy worse The hidden pressure to perform (even in good marriages) What it really means to let go—and why that's so difficult A simple but powerful shift that can change everything This is Part 1 of a 5-part coaching series where you'll hear real progress unfold over time. As you listen, see if you can spot parts of your own relationship in their story. Because no matter where you are right now—there's a path forward. Resources from the episode: Our Men's and Women's Cohorts are starting May 12! Seats are limited, so grab your spot today!
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