Girls Gotta Eat – "BJ Tips, Anal, and Uncircumcised Guys" feat. Shaun Galanos

Release Date: February 17, 2025
Hosts: Ashley Hesseltine (A) & Rayna Greenberg (C)
Guest: Shaun Galanos (B), "The Love Drive"
Theme: A candid and comedic dive into the realities of dating, sex, and relationships, with a strong focus this episode on sexual taboos, communication, and sexual variety.

Episode Overview

This episode is a lively, candid, and often hilarious exploration of the kinds of sex, relationship, and body questions listeners might hesitate to ask elsewhere. Ashley and Rayna are joined by Shaun Galanos, a love coach and host of the "We Can Do Better" podcast. Topics range from food debates and wedding planning to an in-depth, honest Q&A about common sexual "taboos"—including anal sex, blow job tips, communication, and what to do when your partner is uncircumcised. The discussion is refreshingly non-judgmental and practical, centering on open conversation and pleasure for all.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Life Chats and Banter [02:11–15:21]

• Room Temperature vs. Fridge Butter: The hosts debate whether butter and other foods belong in the fridge or at room temp. Rayna’s a fan of room temp butter for easy spreading:

  “Nothing is better than room temp butter.” – Rayna [09:08]

• Vanity Plates in Delaware: Rayna explains the quirky culture of low-numbered plates as family heirlooms.
• Clothing Rant:

  “Who looked at a pair of jeans and was like, ‘You know what we should do? Make this harder to put on and get off’?” – Ashley [13:42]

2. Wedding Planning Update [22:15–27:15]

• Rayna shares her genuine excitement with her wedding planner, Jacqueline (The Wedding Plan and Company), and plugs their honest, transparent approach to event planning.

  “She really got my vibe, and she’s been on it, and I just loved working with her.” – Rayna [24:03]

• Discussion on the logistics and emotional experience of planning a wedding as a couple, including the business-like energy of a Zoom meeting with her fiancé.

3. Introducing Shaun Galanos – His Journey to Love Coach [31:01, 48:23]

• Shaun recounts his origin story: from driving a San Francisco taxi (recording a loveline-style podcast in-cab called "The Love Drive") to becoming a certified love and sex coach.

  “It was like Taxi Cab Confessions meets Loveline.” – Shaun [49:24]

• Notable detour: Shaun’s experience as a rape crisis counselor, emphasizing the power of supportive, non-judgmental conversation [51:22].

4. Sex Taboo Q&A with Shaun [35:35–End]

a. Uncircumcised Dicks: Myths, Handling, and Preferences [36:02–41:06]

• Shaun demystifies working with foreskin, clarifying there’s a range (the “C scale”), and explains it's not scary:

  “You’re going to be fine. Nothing to be scared of. You got a little more dick to work with. It’s like a fun little party trick.” – Shaun [38:54]

• On cleanliness:

  “It does require extra cleaning, yeah, for sure.” – Shaun [39:23]

• The group jokes about National Foreskin Day (April 4th) and shares that outside the U.S., circumcision is much less common.

b. Lip Flip, Lip Filler, and Oral Skills [15:23–19:25]

• Rayna discusses whether a ‘lip flip’ (subtle Botox over upper lip) affects oral sex:

  “Really shouldn’t affect your dick sucking too much…you shouldn’t be doing so much with that top lip. And it’s—you know, a dick is bigger than a straw.” – Rayna [17:33]

• Short answer: Both lip flips and fillers may briefly tweak sensation/motion but don’t hinder technique after settling in.

c. Communication: Asking for What You Want [44:09–56:56]

• The recurring message:

  “It turns out asking for what you want is the best way to get what you want.” – Shaun [44:18]

• Hosts recommend flipping questions—ask partners about their desires, prime the conversation by indicating openness.
• “If you can, build it into the early stages of your relationship. Like, we’re used to talking about sex. We’re used to, like, doing a debrief after sex.” – Shaun [56:56]

d. Oral Sex: Techniques and Gender Norms [100:06–101:03]

• Shaun:

  “I’ve never not eaten [pussy]. I can think of one or two interactions where I have not, and it’s only because she wasn’t comfortable with it. Like, it felt too intimate.” [100:53]

• Takeaway: Refusing to perform oral sex often signals misogyny or lack of generosity; most women prefer partners excited about mutual pleasure.

e. Anal Sex: Preparation, Communication, and Enjoyment [89:16–94:44]

• Anal is a top listener question—hosts emphasize that few enjoy it right out of the gate; enjoyment is possible with prep and ongoing consent.
• Shaun:

  “You have to want to want it.” [90:11]
  “Butt plugs are a really good place to start—training kit with different size butt plugs, start small, medium, and large.” [90:25]

• Key advice: Use lube, go slow, communicate, and if you don’t like it, you don’t have to do it.

  “Weeks in advance—eat my ass weekly through Q1, and we’ll address this in Q2 in April.” – Ashley [94:07]

f. Frequency of Sex and Libido Differences [76:04–79:20]

• Issue of mismatched sex drive is common, and often more women want more sex than male partners as couples age.
• Strategies: Open, positive communication ("I love our sex life, and I’d love it even more if..."), scheduling sex, and—if the gap is large—exploring non-monogamy.

g. Silent Partners in Bed: Getting Your Partner to Emote [68:25–75:51]

• A listener’s fiancé is “dead silent” during sex. Shaun and the hosts recommend explicit encouragement and creating comfort around vocalization.

  “Hey honey, I would love to hear you make some noises when we’re having sex. It could be a moan, it could be a grunt, anything.” – Shaun [72:36]

• Note on shame: Oftentimes, men are silenced early via shame about masturbation, so unlearning silence can take time.

h. Sex Worker Experience: Shaun’s Erotic Massage Practice [57:45–67:15]

• Shaun discusses his year as an “erotic masseur,” offering safe, intimate experiences for women who sought loving touch, pleasure, or companionship outside conventional dating.

  “Most of my clients were just looking for love. Looking for like some loving touch, like a little companionship, something—some, a sweetness with a man.” – Shaun [61:07]

i. Dirty Talk: What to Call Your Partner [85:50–89:03]

• Not everyone likes “daddy”—other options discussed include using a partner’s name, “papi,” “babe,” or nothing at all. Make sure the language fits both people’s comfort zone.

5. Humor, Embarrassment, and the Spirit of “Girls Gotta Eat”

• Notable for frank, funny descriptions:

  “They were on my cheeks, Raina. At which point my eyes are free to open up and look directly into the butthole.” – Ashley, on face-fucking gone awry [46:11]

• Hosts regularly break to reconnect about past sexual mishaps or surprising anatomical details, keeping tone playful and shame-free.

6. Shaun’s Reflections on Aging, Confidence, and Baldness [96:21–103:46]

• Shaun explains why bald guys "try harder" sexually (including oral):

  “It’s like being short. You have to try harder if you’re bald.” – Shaun [96:54]

• Rogaine and hair-loss drugs are discussed in the context of libido impact—he chose libido/hard cocks over a full head of hair.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On sexual communication:

  “It turns out asking for what you want is the best way to get what you want.” – Shaun [44:18]

• On anal sex prep:

  “You gotta want to want it. You have to be willing to do the work... You're gonna need a couple hours to feel comfortable enough to take a penis, if not a couple sessions.” – Shaun [93:03]

• On oral sex refusal:

  “It’s giving misogyny or something... I feel like people who don’t go down kind of hate women.” – Shaun [100:56]

• On uncircumcised dicks:

  “You’re going to be fine. Nothing to be scared of. You got a little more dick to work with. It’s like a fun little party trick.” – Shaun [38:54]

• On silent lovers:

  “Talk about it before or when you’re not having sex. ‘Hey, honey, I would love to hear you make some noises when we’re having sex. It could be a moan, it could be a grunt, anything.’” – Shaun [72:36]

• On married life and wedding planning:

  “She really got my vibe, and she’s been on it, and I just loved working with her.” – Rayna [24:03]

• On male liberation and body acceptance:

  “Do I want a hard cock or a bald head?... I was like, I’m gonna pick.” – Shaun [98:21]

• On butt stuff boundaries:

  "If you want this, so bad, project with me... eat my ass weekly through Q1, and we'll address this in Q2 in April." – Ashley [94:07]

Useful Timestamps

• Room temp butter debate: [07:00–09:00]
• Wedding planning update: [22:15–27:15]
• Shaun’s origin story: [48:23–49:53]
• Taboo sex Q&A begins: [35:35]
• Uncircumcised guy tips: [36:02–41:06]
• Lip flip/BJ question: [15:23–19:25]
• Communication & asking for what you want: [44:09–56:56]
• Anal sex advice: [89:16–94:44]
• Silent sex partners: [68:25–75:51]
• Shaun’s erotic massage stories: [57:45–67:15]
• Dirty talk during sex: [85:50–89:03]
• Baldness and sexual confidence: [96:21–103:46]

Takeaways & Tone

• Openness: The hosts and guest model embarrassment-free, affirming, and humorous ways to talk about all things sex—even the “weird” or “taboo”.
• Communication is Key: Whether it’s about frequency of sex, sexual preferences, or trying anal, honest and gentle communication unlocks better sex and stronger relationships.
• Practical Tips: The episode offers actionable advice on everything from how to prep for anal to dealing with silence in bed.
• Empowering Women’s Pleasure: Strong, repeated messages that it’s not just okay—but vital—for women to ask for what they want and not settle for less.

For further information and content:

• @theLoveDrive on Instagram
• Hosts: @ashhess, @raina.greenberg
• Check out “We Can Do Better” podcast and The Love Drive Substack

If you're looking for both laughs and genuinely useful (and non-judgmental) adult sex advice, this episode is a must-listen.