Girls Gotta Eat: "Getting Engaged, Getting Off, and Getting Into Fights" feat. Matthew Broussard

Release Date: March 17, 2025
Hosts: Ashley Hesseltine & Raina Greenberg
Guest: Matthew Broussard
Podcast Network: Dear Media

Episode Overview

This episode of Girls Gotta Eat centers on dating, engagement, sex, and relationship dynamics, with a comedic twist. Special guest comedian Matthew Broussard joins hosts Ashley and Raina for an engaging discussion covering wedding proposals (including his own surprise engagement story), sex and sexual compatibility, the evolution of fights in long-term relationships, and advice-driven audience Q&As. The candid, often hilarious conversation also touches on embracing therapy and self-reflection in dating, breaking sexual taboos, and how couples grow (and quarrel) over time.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. St. Patrick's Day Nostalgia & Life Changes (00:28–04:00)

• Hosts reminisce about wild St. Patrick's Day celebrations in their youth—parades, drinking binges, and “aging out” of that sort of partying.
• “It's just funny when you look back, you're like, God, it used to be the biggest deal.” – Ashley (02:36)

2. Travel Mishaps & Festival Life (03:35–07:56)

• Stories from their trip to Austin for South by Southwest (SXSW): travel woes, recognizing the changing pace of life, and running into many podcasting friends.
• Commentary on airplane seating struggles and the recurring sight of extremely tall men on their flights.

3. Wedding Planning Updates (07:56–12:54)

• Ashley shares personal wedding planning news: set date (Nov 1), plans for a Halloween party, and upcoming wedding dress shopping with her mom.
• Emotional reflections on what these milestone moments will mean for her and her family.
• Raina jokes about needing a step stool for wedding photos—a nod to her own petite size and their humor about “memorable moments.”
• “How do you feel the things without, like, crying all your makeup off?” – Ashley (11:35)

4. Feeling Like an Adult (13:19–15:50)

• Both hosts discuss the surreal feeling of making big ‘grown-up’ decisions—weddings, house renovations—without anyone’s approval or parental financial help.
• The weirdness of finally footing the bills for major life events: “I found—what a weird decision to not make my parents pay for this.” – Raina (14:41)

5. Philosophy on Dating with Intention (21:29–34:06)

• Raina describes her new goal to date with genuine intention, aiming to find a real partner.
• Both hosts share the importance of therapy, self-examination, and coaching as part of the dating journey.
• Raina’s therapist’s advice: make room for vulnerability, let people feel needed, and manifest the relationship you want instead of “protecting yourself with Plan B thinking.”
• “Stop protecting your future self. It’ll be fine. It’ll be fine. Yeah, of course you’ll be fine… Why not just think, like, failure’s not an option.” – Ashley (31:50)
• Discussion of confidence and non-exclusivity when dating, and the value in not lowering standards or preemptively settling.

6. Setting the Tone for the Interview (34:07–39:00)

• Introduction for guest Matthew Broussard, highlighting his comedy accolades and recent special, Hyperbolic.

7. Matthew Broussard’s Engagement Story (39:00–44:20)

• Matthew’s fiancée Laura proposed to him—a reversal of typical gender norms.
• The proposal involved a beach in Thailand, a tripod, and Laura buying herself a ring.
• The couple’s dynamic features Laura’s “alpha” personality and competitive drive, rooted in her background as a professional athlete.
• Both Matthew and Laura “proposed” to each other, leading to a double-ring situation.
• Memorable quote:
  • “She put the tripod down…and then just big googly eyes and stares at me and I go, hurry the fuck up. It’s a 10-second timer.” – Matthew (42:19)

8. Gender Norms & Relationship Dynamics (44:20–46:11)

• Matthew reflects on their reversed emotional roles and open communication—he’s the chatty, emotional one, while Laura is more reserved.
• Emphasizes the value in men embodying traditionally feminine traits like vulnerability.
• “I don’t want to sound like Justin Baldoni or something, but I think there are feminine traits that men should aim to possess.” – Matthew (45:26)

9. Sex and Sexual Compatibility: Orgasms and Vibrators (46:12–66:50)

• Open discussion on sexual fulfillment—Matthew can’t make Laura orgasm through penetration or oral sex, and this is normalized through humor and honesty.
• The trio discuss vibrators entering bedrooms, de-stigmatizing sex toys, and differences in women’s bodies and sexual needs.
• Raina and Ashley detail their own sexual learning curves, masturbation (“acoustic” vs vibrator), and generational differences in sexual openness.
• Notable moment: Matthew’s fiancée’s mother sends him an Amazon vibrator link after his special airs, revealing the family’s openness (68:44).
• “The clitoris is the only organ designed specifically for pleasure.” – Matthew (54:35)

10. Sex Q&A: Faking Orgasms, Blowjobs, and Variations in Preferences (58:58–66:53)

• The group compares experiences of men and women faking orgasms—men less so, but it happens, often due to alcohol or condoms.
• Insights into how “doggy style” and dirty talk are often used as “wrap this up!” signals.
• Raina: “The prescription for that is doggy and come talk. Doggy will make a man come fastest.” (61:21)
• Discussion around edging, orgasm difficulty, and fragility—particularly for women.

11. Audience Advice: Blowjobs, Social Media, and Relationship Boundaries (79:39–93:29)

• Q1: How often should a woman give a full blowjob to completion? The consensus: it’s an appreciated but rare “tips appreciated, never expected” event, not a requirement, especially in long-term relationships.
  • “Tips appreciated but never expected.” – Matthew (80:41)
  • “I think blowjobs are for girls in college who don’t want to have sex with a guy yet or when you’re on your period.” – Matthew (82:50)
• Q2: Social media boundaries—A listener’s boyfriend of 5 years refuses to allow his face to be posted until they’re engaged. The team suggests having an honest conversation to determine if this is about privacy, career, or red flag secrecy.

12. Fighting in Relationships: Who Starts Fights & How Couples Resolve Them (69:56–79:22)

• Matthew’s joke and deeper thought: Most men never think they start fights; women often say “you made me start the fight.”
• Discussion about the real root of fights and the challenge of not addressing things immediately:
  • “Can fights evaporate and just resolve by cooling down?” – Matthew (72:44)
• Matthew reflects that fighting gets easier with time, as couples learn to recognize and resolve conflicts.
• The importance of not competing with your partner, even when both are in the same field (in their case, standup comedy).

Notable & Memorable Quotes

• “Stop protecting your future self. It’ll be fine. It’ll be fine. Yeah, of course you’ll be fine. We will all survive it. Why not just think, like, failure’s not an option?” – Ashley (31:50)
• “Tips appreciated but never expected.” [on blowjobs] – Matthew (80:41)
• “Blowjobs are for girls in college who don’t want to have sex with a guy yet or when you’re on your period.” – Matthew (82:50)
• “The clitoris is the only organ designed specifically for pleasure.” – Matthew (54:35)
• “You have different controllers. One of you is a Nintendo Switch, the other one’s a PS3. Women will never experience...how different their bodies are from each other in terms of sexual needs.” – Matthew (66:12)
• “We switched. So the joke was dated. We did switch to a new [vibrator]...We are on a better one now, but very open to explore and bring.” – Matthew (69:26)
• “If you want to wrap this up, you first get into doggy style, you bust out your dirtiest dirty talk, and then you just fake an orgasm. That’s the final line of defense.” – Raina (60:50)
• “I got one text from her mom that just had an Amazon link to a very nice product.” [about vibrator talk in his special] – Matthew (68:39)

Timestamps for Important Segments

• 00:28–04:00 – St. Patrick’s Day memories
• 07:56–12:54 – Wedding planning: Date, dress shopping, emotions
• 21:29–34:06 – Raina’s new approach to dating with intention, therapy
• 39:00–44:20 – Matthew’s fiancée proposes to him: The story
• 46:12–66:50 – Sex and sex toys: Orgasms, vibrators, shame, learning curves
• 69:56–79:22 – Who really starts fights? Resolving conflict in long relationships
• 79:39–84:47 – Audience Q&A: Blowjob frequency and reciprocation in relationships
• 88:19–93:29 – Audience Q&A: Social media boundaries and privacy

Final Thoughts

This candid, humorous episode blends personal storytelling—like Matthew’s non-traditional engagement and the hosts’ own relationship journey—with real-talk advice about sex, vulnerability, and the evolution of modern partnership norms. Listeners will find both laughs and insights, whether single, in a relationship, or navigating wedding planning. The authenticity, comedic wisdom, and shared vulnerability between the hosts and their guest make for a must-listen episode.