How to Have the Best Honeymoon (and Poop in Peace)

Summary

Girls Gotta Eat – Ep: How to Have the Best Honeymoon (and Poop in Peace)

Release Date: March 16, 2026
Hosts: Ashley Hesseltine (A), Special guest: Shashank (B, subbing for Rayna Greenberg)

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Episode Overview

This episode is a hilarious, candid, and detail-packed look at Ashley and Shashank’s honeymoon to Singapore, covering what made their trip amazing and how to navigate the often-awkward realities of traveling with a partner—including the all-important topic of how (and where) to poop in peace. Filled with their signature banter, practical travel tips, relationship dynamics, listener Q&A, and some wild and relatable honeymoon fails, the episode embraces the fun and the messy sides of couple travel.

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Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Podcast & Life Updates (00:25–04:43)

• Spotify Video Launch: The podcast is now available in video format on Spotify.
  • “You are the first person to be on Spotify Video... Not even Rayna Greenberg!” – Ashley (02:17)
• KitchenSink App: Shashank explains his popular kitchen recipe app and new features.
• Relationship Dynamic: Playful banter about being the “throuple,” and jokes about founding the app vs. podcast guests with PhDs.
  • “I don’t have a PhD like everybody else that comes on here, but I did make an app, so that’s pretty good.” – Shashank (01:14)

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2. Singapore Honeymoon Recap (05:23–22:22)

• Travel Mishap: Forgot their inside-joke “egg carton” prop for the honeymoon—issuing a community-wide apology.
  • “We saw it at the same time, I feel like. And we were like, oh, fuck. Why?... Maybe we’re just kind of done with it.” – Ashley (06:09)
• First Impressions:
  • Singapore Airlines business class “will ruin you for all other airlines—food, service, flight attendant fashion, all exceptional.”
  • “What a place. I would do anything to get back there.” – Shashank (07:41)
• Singapore’s Culture & Cleanliness:
  • In awe of Singapore’s safety, order, social programs, and futuristic-yet-diverse vibe.
  • “Cleanest and safest countries in the world... Feels really new and shiny, but also a lot of culture...” – Ashley (07:49)
• Favorite Activities:
  • Gardens by the Bay & Supertrees: Day and night experiences, must-do skywalk, missed the light show.
    • “If you do the Supertrees...make sure you do the skywalk between...the view is breathtaking.” – Shashank (13:24)
  • Food: Hawker centers, food tours, “Burnt Ends” as a top meal.
  • Shopping: Buying out a store’s stock of chopsticks as gifts in Kampong Glam.
  • Couple dynamics: They like similar activities and foods, complement each other’s vacation planning and preferences.

Notable Moments

• Lowlight: Shashank’s seasickness on a boat ride (“boot and rally, just not at a frat party.” – Shashank, 14:50).
• Funny Police Story: Pulled over on bikes at night—Singapore police kindly tell tourists to ride on the sidewalk and wear helmets (18:00).
  • “We got pulled over on bike by a cop for him to be like, be safe.” – Ashley (19:13)
• Relationship Roles While Traveling: Ashley plans, Shashank handles logistics (room keys, transportation), both annoyed by the same things—especially “men ruining flights.”

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3. Q&A: Navigating Honeymoons, Pooping, Packing, Sex & More (29:37–49:29)

Pooping in Peace with a Partner (29:37–37:45)

• Most Asked Topic: “The number two was the number one.” – Ashley (29:41)
• Rules:
  • Shashank: “Men always poop in the lobby. Do not blow out the bedroom that you’re all sleeping in.” (30:39)
  • Ashley: “I never want you to hear me pooping. That’s crazy.” (32:46)
• Tips:
  • Scope out lobby bathrooms immediately.
  • Run water, turn on podcasts to mask sounds.
  • With new relationships, it’s normal to be nervous, but over time you get more comfortable (and still keep some mystery!).

Cultural Bathroom Quirks

• Hawker center bathrooms lack napkins—bring your own wet wipes.
• Wildest bathroom: “The scariest place I have pooped is on a train in India. It’s just a hole and you can see the tracks.” – Shashank (37:00)

Snoring & Sleep Struggles

• “You snore more when you drink.” – Ashley (38:33)
• Solution: Quality earplugs, especially on flights and in hotels.

Packing & Outfit Advice

• Should women help men choose outfits?
  • “I do value your input for outfits.” – Shashank (39:12)
  • “The gold standard in relationships is guys asking their girls, ‘What am I wearing?’” – Ashley (39:19)
• Carrying Bags: “Dump his ass” if he doesn’t help with luggage! (41:29)
  • “That’s a perk of traveling with a dude... He literally lightens the load.” – Ashley (42:34)
• Logistics: Assigning responsibilities—keys and car stuff for him, planning/reservations for her.

Sexpectations on Honeymoon (44:39–47:08)

• Is it weird if you’re not having sex all trip? “You don’t have to have sex... your partner's gonna be like, yeah, me too. And then you can just fucking go to sleep.” – Shashank (44:57)
• Prioritizing sightseeing, food, rest vs. pressure for vacation sex—normalize doing what feels good for your relationship.

Getting Good Vacation Photos (47:13–50:29)

• Shashank’s Pro Tips: “Frame it this way. Higher, lower, wider. Never this. Never the long way. Always the tall way.” (47:22)
• Set expectations, communicate framing, and use positive reinforcement.

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Listener Honeymoon (and Travel) Fails (55:41–69:17)

Highlights

• Accidental Public Pooping: Husband sharts at a honeymoon dinner; underwear sacrificed to the trash (55:41).
• Hemorrhoids & Intimacy: “Every day I had my husband looking back at my asshole to make sure that thing didn’t pop out...” (57:40)
• Lost Wedding Rings: Multiple stories of losing wedding rings in the ocean or sand; desperate snorkeling attempts to retrieve.
• Ferry Fail: Missing a ferry stop in Greece after 24+ hours of travel, leading to travel chaos (61:00).
• Trash Bag Packer: Man brings all his clothes for a trip in labeled plastic bags, inside a trash bag, and doesn’t see the problem (64:50).
• ATV & Drag Show Swap: Compromising couple—one gets dragged through cow poop on ATVs, the other braves a drag show, and ends up being a hit with the queens (67:26).

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Notable Quotes

• “What bonds people together is hating the same stuff.” – Ashley (23:20)
• “If you’re new around here, Shash loves the hot dog.” – Ashley (21:20)
• “If he doesn't carry my bags, is this a red flag?” “Dump his ass.” – Listener question / Shashank (41:29)
• “Men always poop in the lobby. Do not blow out the bedroom that you're all sleeping in.” – Shashank (30:39)
• “We got pulled over on bike by a cop for him to be like, be safe.” – Ashley (19:13)
• “That started early on. Every time we were outside, there was a fucking jackhammer... Can we do anything in peace and quiet?” – Shashank (24:25)

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [00:25–04:43] – Podcast & App Updates, Spotify Video Launch
• [05:23–22:22] – Singapore Honeymoon Recap
• [29:37–37:45] – Pooping in Peace Q&A
• [38:27–44:39] – Snoring, Packing, Carrying Baggage & Relationship Roles
• [44:39–47:08] – Sexpectations on Honeymoon
• [47:13–50:29] – Photo-Taking with Partners
• [55:41–69:17] – Listener Storytime: Messiest, Wildest Honeymoon Moments

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Tone and Takeaways

• Candid, playful, and relatable: The episode balances absurd real-life mishaps with honest, experienced advice, consistently using humor and personal anecdotes.
• Relationship lessons: Celebrate couples who divide tasks by skill/preference, communicate openly (about everything, even pooping), and support each other.
• No shame in travel fails: From bodily mishaps to logistical nightmares, the co-hosts normalize and laugh about the chaos.
• Listener interaction: Their audience’s stories add community, empathy, and extra comic energy.

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Final Thoughts

Ashley and Shashank wrap up by reflecting on the trip and their teamwork as a couple, reminding listeners that good relationships (and great vacations) are about balance, planning, open communication (even about bodily functions), and a willingness to laugh together at the inevitable messes along the way.

“You really did it. You really made it all happen. And then I did what I needed to do to make sure it all went seamlessly. And we had a great honeymoon.” – Shashank (70:53)

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Related Episodes

• Travel Episodes: 2018, 2022, and upcoming for Summer 2026.

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Transcript

[A]

All right, fellas, we're all in this together. We're all learning how to do it. I'm not great at it by any means, but you just gotta listen.

[B]

This podcast is a dear media production.

[A]

Hi, guys.

[B]

Hi, guys.

[A]

Hi. Hi, guys.

[B]

You can't do it. You can't do, like, a long high. No, there's a little more.

[A]

Hi, guys.

[B]

Little more for the girlies.

[A]

Hi, guys.

[B]

Raina Greenberg's understudy, everybody.

[A]

Welcome back to another episode of Girls Got to Eat. Welcome back, Honeymoon Edition.

[B]

We are here with our special guest host. It's me, my current husband, founder of the kitchen sink app, Azul's dad.

[A]

Oh, my God.

[B]

And the third member of the Girls Gotta Eat throuple, Shashank. Chunky Shonky Chunk Shonk.

[A]

Thank you so much for having me. That was quite the intro.

[B]

How do you feel like you're doing so far?

[A]

I don't know. I don't have a PhD like everybody else that comes on here, but I did make an app, so that's pretty good.

[B]

Yeah, you have that going for. You are a tech founder. So Shashanka's filling in today while Reyna is on tour, and we're going to talk about our honeymoon and recap a few different things. But I wanted to make an announcement first that the podcast is now on video on Spotify.

[A]

That was good.

[B]

You nailed it. Yeah. So Spotify does video. I don't know if you guys have noticed, but a lot of podcasts have video, and then you can watch music videos. What were we watching last week? Smashing podcast.

[A]

Drake something especially.

[B]

No Smashing Pumpkins tonight. Tonight.

[A]

Oh, right.

[B]

I was like, this video is so cool.

[A]

Man on the moon.

[B]

Yes, yes, yes, yes. So we will have full episodes on there too. So of course, they will still be on YouTube, but they will also be on Spotify. So that's how you want to watch the podcast. You can watch it there and leave a rating. Of course, a lot of you guys listen on Spotify, and we always want to see your comments and have your ratings. Of course. And so that is the big update today. You are the first person to be on Spotify Video.

[A]

Incredible. Not even Raina Greenberg.

[B]

Not even Raina Greenberg. And why don't you tell us what's going on with you and the app before we get into the honeymoon recap?

[A]

It's been great. The app is doing numbers, which is pretty sick. Yeah, it's been a lot of fun seeing what everybody's cooking. You guys are DMing us photos. We love it. Hoping everyone's enjoying their experience.

[B]

Okay, well, tell us a little bit about what it is for people who don't know.

[A]

Oh, it's recipes based on what you have at home, what's in your pantry, your skill level, how much time you have. Even if you're meal planning your. You can do dietary restrictions. It really does just about everything for making recipes.

[B]

Yeah. So when you put in the ingredients you already have at home or you are prepared to go shopping, it will create a shopping list for you. And you'll get three recipes. Basic, classic and creative.

[A]

Nice.

[B]

And you can choose from them. And you can also refresh, which I just learned as of late that you can re. If you don't like those recipes, you can refresh and get three more a hundred times. Yeah, you can do it as many times as you want and you can save them and you can share them. And then there is a social import feature that is part of the premium subscription where any recipe from Instagram, TikTok or a recipe website.

[A]

Yeah, those fucking terrible websites.

[B]

I mean, I respect people's craft, of course, but we've all seen the meme that's like, I just want to make a recipe and I have to read someone's whole life story. Correct. So you can import those in the app and then save them as well. Just make it super easy. And there are all these really cool features in the premium, but you can also use the app for free and make all the recipes as well.

[A]

So if you only want quick recipe output, you can do that with the free version. So.

[B]

So tell people where we can find the app.

[A]

Download it in the App Store. It's coming to Google Play Store soon. Yes, very soon.

[B]

Lots of requests.

[A]

And if you have Instagram, follow it at. KitchenSink app.

[B]

Yes. Kitchen Sync app app. What do you say?

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

KitchenSink app and tag your photos of any meals that you make and the social team will reshare me. It's just been really wonderful and you guys have been loving it and I really love hearing from everybody that's using it daily, nightly to make these meals.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And just changing, changing their lives. So. So it's amazing. Lots more features to come, but you guys check it out. Leave a review in the App Store if you're using it and loving it.

[A]

Yes, leave a review. That matters.

[B]

Okay. We're just going to thank our partners and then we will get into it. Thank you. To no CD, go to nocd.com to book a free 15 minute call with the world's leading OCD treatment provider nocd.com and Chime. You can bank fee free by signing [e-mail] Girls Got to Eat. And thank you to article. Go to article.com for a beautiful new sofa, dining table or bed. And thank you to Revolve. Get 15% off your first order at Revolve.com GGE with code GGE. So we are going to recap our honeymoon today, but I wanted to kick it off with a honeymoon misstep.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

And before we do that, I'd love for you to reach behind your cushion. Reach behind Raina's cushion.

[A]

What's going on back here?

[B]

You get a car and you get a car.

[A]

Keep getting this thing.

[B]

There it is.

[A]

What's in it? Oh, nothing.

[B]

Nothing's in it.

[A]

So I up and I forgot to bring it. I haven't really thought about it too much since my bachelor party, I think.

[B]

And the wedding.

[A]

Oh, right. And the wedding.

[B]

So the egg carton, if you're new around here, it's an inside joke. But actually, it was a joke in the GG community as well.

[A]

Now it is.

[B]

It's a lot of lore, so you need to go back and listen. But it's been around with us. We hide it for each other, whatever. And I have to admit, I was. We were on the flight and I just popped up out of a dead sleep. And I was like, kevin, I'm kidding. That did not happen. We didn't realize we forgot it till someone comment on Instagram, where's the egg carton? And I was like, we saw it at the same time, I feel like. And we were like, oh, fuck. Why? I don't know. I think we're just kind of done with it. Maybe. Or we're just.

[A]

I don't know.

[B]

Maybe.

[A]

Well, we spent a lot of time at home, so, like, it's kind of boring to hide it around the house. It's more fun to find it halfway across the world.

[B]

I regret not having it on the honeymoon. It came on the mini moon.

[A]

That's true.

[B]

And that was a funny moment. And so we're sorry.

[A]

It's here now.

[B]

So we're issuing an official apology.

[A]

Egg carton apology.

[B]

That it wasn't with us on the official honeymoon, but we went to Singapore.

[A]

17 long hours away, but worth it.

[B]

On Singapore Airlines felt like is the best airline. People say fly in. Singapore Airlines in business will ruin you from all of the airlines. And I can confirm it was incredible. The food, the meals that we had, the service. The service, the flight attendants outfits, the Fashion. They were these what, like floor length skirts? Yeah.

[A]

There's a name for them. I can't remember what it is. But they're like these like fitting like nice fits.

[B]

They're anyway prettiest flight attendants. They really are. Yeah. They're really beautiful women fashion models walking the literal Runway, the aisle and then

[A]

they're folding your bed sheets for you and taking weird dirty dishes, putting you to bed. It's crazy.

[B]

So we flew there and it was really wonderful and can't recommend Singapore Airlines enough. And what do you think about Singapore?

[A]

I mean, it's incredible. What a. What a place. I would do anything to get back there.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Immediately.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

And get out of the U.S. yes.

[B]

It was a real crash coming back to the US after being there. It's really such a special place. It's so beautiful. It's like one of the cleanest and safest countries in the world. And they really take care of their people. You don't see homeless people on the streets. People are housed, people are working. They have the system where the government gives you money in this app to put back into the economy and support local vendors, like a lot of the local food vendors. A lot of really cool stuff going on in Singapore and it's this futuristic vibe and stuff. Feels really new and shiny, but also a lot of culture with the little India, which we'll talk about and the Kampong Glam which is the Malay Muslim area, Chinatown cultural centers. And we just really had such a wonderful time there. The people were all really friendly. The people were great. We were treated well. It just felt really welcome everywhere we went. It's a great city to go to as like an entree to Asia even. I mean everyone speaks English really for the most part in Singapore. And we had been wanting to go to Japan and some other places and a lot of people actually start in Singapore and then they travel around. It's a great place to fly into. And the city is small. You can city, state, island, country. You can see it all in, you know, less than a week or even a few days. You can really get a lot done and then travel around. We of course only went to Singapore and that was my first time in Asia ever. You've of course been to India, but nowhere else in Asia. We can't wait to go back. I mean, we just had such an amazing experience and yeah, I've no notes. Singapore is interesting. It's an island country, city, state. Yes, all four.

[A]

A lot of hats. Yeah, a lot of hats.

[B]

So they wear a Lot of hats. So whatever we call it today, it's whatever we. What do you think you're going to go with? You're going to go island, country, city, or state?

[A]

I've always said country.

[B]

You said country. Yeah. I oscillate between country and city.

[A]

Oscillate.

[B]

Oscillate is. People were saying that was Raina Greenberg's word of the week last week.

[A]

Oh, okay.

[B]

It's a good one.

[A]

Oscillate between the few.

[B]

So we loved it. We felt like we could be out in the middle of the night, no shady characters on the streets and no crime, and really, like, a low risk of anything. It felt really great. No bugs.

[A]

Yeah. Next to no risk of bugs.

[B]

So I. At the end of the trip, I was thinking of how perfect of a place this was and how sad I was to leave, and I was like, wait, I have not seen a bug all week. I haven't felt a mosquito all week. And it's so hot and humid. My skin felt amazing. My hair was frizzy, but my skin felt amazing.

[A]

We're glowing.

[B]

No mosquitoes in that climate. And then we asked. Our driver fried us, Mr. Lee. And he was like, there's bugs. Basically, like, don't fuck with them. They didn't say this in so many words. Don't fuck with them. They won't fuck with you. I'm like, that's not how mosquitoes work. They. They're not bees. Like, it's not like, leave the bees alone. Like, mosquitoes are like, I have not seen a mosquito. I haven't seen a bug all week.

[A]

In Singapore.

[B]

In Singapore, yeah. Yeah.

[A]

Of course. We're in L. A. There's bugs everywhere.

[B]

Yeah. We killed, like, five spiders a day in our home.

[A]

Yeah. So there's one right there in the studio. Right there. Yo, that's huge.

[B]

There's a giant spider. Literally, that's one of the biggest spiders I've seen in the studio. Oh, my gosh. You can get that on the way out for sure.

[A]

Killing them?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

They bring rain.

[B]

What?

[A]

When you kill spiders, they bring rain.

[B]

Is that like, a cultural thing?

[A]

No, that's the thing. Is it? Yeah.

[B]

Okay. So we stayed at the Mandarin Oriental, which was just the most incredible hotel. Just so stunning, luxurious. We had breakfast every morning in their club lounge on the 21st floor overlooking the city. We were treated so well by them. We did this sidecar experience, which was through them. That was so much fun. But we did a lot of their stuff, too. We went out on a boat one day, and we Explored all these different neighborhoods and ate all this different food and had these incredible dinners. But I want to know what of your favorite, what your highlights were.

[A]

I mean, sidecar was really sick, if you don't know. F1 has a race in Singapore in the fall, and it's a city, city race. So you go through, like, the actual city, and these two guys will take you on the sidecar, and they'll take you to, like, a couple of famous turns on the track, and then you can take some pictures a little. When you're on the, you know, sidecar,

[B]

they were driving the Vespa or the scooter, and you're in the sidecar.

[A]

I was in the car.

[B]

You were really, like, neat. I wore shorts, skirt, and a thong. Like, those guys saw my whole ass.

[A]

Whoa.

[B]

Whatever.

[A]

Sick. Good for them.

[B]

So, yeah, that was a really fun experience.

[A]

That was great. I mean, all the hawker centers were really, really special. Tons of great food. Of course, you were coordinating with the board to, like, get all these reservations and things. And STB for short. Singapore Tourism.

[B]

Stb. It's a big deal.

[A]

And they, you know, they had their recommendations and you knew what you wanted. I knew what I wanted. So we sort of collaborated. You know, we had so much good food. This restaurant, Burnt Ends, was probably one of the best meals I've ever had.

[B]

Yeah, it's one of the best restaurants in Singapore. It was a beautiful restaurant. Such a vibe. So that was really fun. We went to Gardens by the Bay, saw the super trees.

[A]

Oh, my God, drink every time Ashley says, fucking super trees.

[B]

We saw the super trees by day and we went back by night.

[A]

Yeah, but we missed the light show. But that's okay.

[B]

It's okay. We'll go back, we'll go to the light show. Go for F1. We'll go to the light show. But really, you have to see these. I mean, they're such an attraction. But the gardens by the bay, the cloud forest, and the Flower Dome. Yeah, Were incredible. And we have photos. I posted some on Instagram and we're going to be posting more. But that was, like, such an attraction, too.

[A]

If you do the super trees, like, during the day or at night, it doesn't matter. Make sure you do the, like, skywalk between the two super trees. It's like the view is, like, breathtaking.

[B]

The gardens, by the way, is free all the time, day and night. But the skywalk you do have to pay for, and I think that's only right. But you should. It's, like, really worth it. It's so, so special. And then they have a light show every night at like 7:45 and 8:45. And we can tell you anything you need to know about this.

[A]

We're the STB now.

[B]

We're the stb. We shopped a lot in the kompom glam neighborhood.

[A]

Say kpg. Kpop, let's call it kpg.

[B]

Is that really what they call it? You're right. Shopped on this Arab street. We got a bunch of gifts for people. We were cleaning these stores out of gifts.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

We found these chopsticks we wanted to get for people and we bought every pair in the store.

[A]

All of them. I asked if there was more. She was like, get the fuck out of here, dude.

[B]

She was like, come on.

[A]

I was like, all right.

[B]

So we had fun doing that. But we had a few low lights, too. I don't know. Not the best.

[A]

Not really. I had one low light.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

I threw up on a boat multiple times.

[B]

Right.

[A]

Once I dry heaved a bunch.

[B]

Oh, no.

[A]

And then it finally all came out and it was a result of needing to drink a beer at 11am and then eat a bunch of sushi on a choppy, choppy ride to Lazarus Island, I think is what it's called.

[B]

Yeah. We left from Sentosa island and we went to Lazarus island and we jumped off the boat and swam a little bit and had a really good time. But. Yeah, then you got sick. I felt so bad.

[A]

I don't know. I don't know why I thought I needed to do all that, but I did. And then I threw up. And then I immediately felt better. It was like a boot and rally, just not at a frat party.

[B]

Yeah. And, oh, I forgot. We got a couple of massages.

[A]

Oh, right. That was a highlight that we.

[B]

That's our thing now, babe. That's our third couples massage.

[A]

Yeah. It all started in Watertown, Mass.

[B]

Really wanted to book us couples massages. What years? Probably 2024. Maybe 2023, I think. I think we were only dating, like, I don't know, six to eight months. Yeah.

[A]

You came to Boston. And I was like, I got us massages at Watertown, Mass.

[B]

And we've just only gone up. No offense to Watertown, Massachusetts, but that was our first couples massage. Our second one was on our mini moon in Napa.

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

And then this third one was the nicest spot we've been in. So this is our thing now.

[A]

I mean, they gave us these nice mesh underwears which were sick because we're.

[B]

We're driving there like I'm not wearing underwear. They gave it to us. And I don't know. I don't want to, like, disrespect the spa, but, like, I am always trying to be like, do you want to hook up in here? And you're like, no, we can't.

[A]

Oh, right. I thought you were, like, with the masseuse. Like, what are you talking about? We're both getting simultaneously insane for some happening in there.

[B]

Happy endings.

[A]

Crazy. No, it's just, like, too tight. And, like, they're kind of like they're waiting on you.

[B]

They are?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

They want you to. They're like, that's not what that room is for.

[A]

You're not going to do that. And then they have separate showering quarters. You can't even do that.

[B]

Right. Like. And I get it. Of course I don't want a man in the woman's locker room, but, like, I want, like, a couple. I go in a couple's sauna experience.

[A]

Right? Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

So I'll look into that for us.

[A]

We have a sauna in our house.

[B]

We have, like, a dry. We did hook up with that sauna.

[A]

We did. Yeah. It was sick. So we've done it. It's fine.

[B]

We have. We have. Well, let us know if you guys have ever hooked up in the couple's massage room. Actually, like, don't. I don't think we should be doing that. Okay. And then while Shashank was sick on the boat, I was worried about him, and I. I'm gonna use that as my excuse. Why? I forgot to reapply sunscreen, and I got a sunburn, and I hate getting sunburned. It's so embarrassing. I should be taking better care of myself like that. And I hate the way it looks. And I was wearing a bathing suit with straps, and I wanted to wear a tube dress that night, so I had the lines, and it's, like, bright pink. I hate it. I'm like. I get mad. I'm mad at myself. I'm mad at the world, and I won't shut the fuck up about it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And you just have to listen to it. You had to get me some aloe thing.

[A]

Yeah. Singapore has an Uber courier called Grab, which is really great.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

We had it in 10 minutes. And then you were lathered up in aloe.

[B]

And another thing that happened. This is just kind of a funny thing, but one night, we. This was. We went to dinner at Burnt Ends, and then we went around to a couple bars, and this was like, the. We weren't like, drunk by any means. But we'd had some drinks and this was like the latest. We probably stayed out on the trips, like 1 o', clock, 1:30 in the morning. And I was like, we should bike home. So we see the bikes in the street, like a city bike style where there's an app or whatever you guys have in your city. And I was like, we should bike home. Let's, like download the app and just get on these bikes. I had a dress, I hiked it up. We get on the bike and we are. We're cruising. You're trying to navigate us. That's your job when we're on these bikes.

[A]

Happy to do it. Happy to do it.

[B]

We're in the street. Cause you ride the bikes in the street.

[A]

In the street, everywhere. But you know what should have been a giveaway is that there was no bike lane. Like, no designated bike lane.

[B]

I know, but there just weren't cars on the street. And to me, I'm like, that's where you ride?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, that's my culture where I bike in New York, you know? So we're riding the bikes, we're having a grand old time, and we hear sirens behind us.

[A]

Surely. I was like, it's a car. Somebody did something. Somebody's jaywalking. I don't know what's happening. You can't jaywalk in Singapore.

[B]

I knew it was for us. And I think especially as someone who's, you know, had some transgressions in the past, I was like, I've had some alcohol and I'm getting pulled over. Like, it was an immediate trigger. And also, I'm like, we're foreign visitors.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You know, coming from the U.S. we're also traumatized. I'm like, we are breaking the law in a foreign country. We're going to a detainment center in this.

[A]

In the Gulag. We're going to. We're going to a gulag.

[B]

We're going to go to the Gulag. And so he pulls us over and he's just like, are you visiting?

[A]

As kind as could be.

[B]

Yeah, totally.

[A]

To top it off, I was like, dude, what the.

[B]

Yeah, it does feel like the police there are maybe to protect and serve. So he was like, you guys busy? And we're like, obviously. And he was like, well, you know, you should be wearing helmets, for one. And we're like, okay. And, yeah, you guys should wear helmets also and be safe whenever. But it's like, whatever. And he was like, and you aren't supposed to ride in the street. You're supposed to ride in the sidewalk. And we're like, what? And then that was it. Like, there was no warning. They're not trying to get our money with a ticket.

[A]

Genuinely, they just want you to be safe.

[B]

Genuinely, they just want you to be safe. We got pulled over on bike by a cop for him to be like, be safe.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And then we rode home on the sidewalk, which felt crazy.

[A]

It was tight. It was. We're weaving in and out of people. Other bikes.

[B]

Other bikes on the side. There weren't really.

[A]

There was, like, constructions. We were, like, going through scaffolding. Like, you see. It was like we were in New York or, like, Faneuil hall on the sidewalk. Sidewalk it was.

[B]

But, like, not a lot of people were out, and it was totally fine. But yet other bikers were on the sidewalk.

[A]

I mean, it was super fun. Thanks to you. We bike every time we go somewhere now.

[B]

You. You're new.

[A]

That's not my thing. It never has been my thing. It is now. So thank you for that. That's a different way to see the city. We went up and down the Hudson river in New York, and that was incredible.

[B]

I said, I want a city bike with you from Meatpacking to up to Central Park. And you were like, no chance.

[A]

And then we did it. What went Meatpacking.

[B]

Watch us drive. Okay. So that. Yeah, I think that was, like. That was a trip for the most part. I mean, we just had a great time. We travel really well together. I think we want to do the same things. I mean, a lot of people asked questions about differences in the level of activity and plans and what time you want to wake up. And we'll go over some of it today. But I think I want to do an episode with Raina for Down the Road, another travel episode where we, like, really answer all your guys's questions, because we have a lot. And giving dating advice is not your favorite thing.

[A]

I don't know how you really. Yeah, I don't know how.

[B]

But we'll talk about some other stuff today. But some of that stuff, if we don't get to it, just know that I saw all the questions that you guys submit on Instagram, and we want to get to them. So we'll do an episode maybe before, like, a summer travel episode. But yeah, I mean, we work really well together. I think we want to do similar things. We want to have similar type of food experiences. We want to have more casual meals and authentic to where we are. Country island, country city, state, Chicago.

[A]

We got to get a hot dog, of course.

[B]

Yeah, exactly.

[A]

You're on board with that, which is. Imagine you're. Imagine your girl wasn't on board with getting hot dogs. Dump her.

[B]

If you.

[A]

Dating advice.

[B]

You're new around here. Shock loves the hot dog.

[A]

Best hot dog is in Napa. Best.

[B]

Oh, yes.

[A]

Die on that hill.

[B]

We had the best hot dog at this gas station. It's very fancy.

[A]

It's like a nice gas station.

[B]

It's a Michelin star. Yeah, that was the best one we've had. Someone DM'd. You have to go get this. We. We went immediately. I was like, let's go. So, yeah, we always.

[A]

But to drive it home. We like the same things. And that works when we travel.

[B]

Yeah. And then we like to have nice, more upscale experiences too. Like the dinner at Brent ends, for example. And I think we have a similar level activity. We like to wake up the same time. You wake up earlier during the week and. But when we travel together, I feel like we usually want to get up around the same time and experience the day.

[A]

And you don't want to waste the whole day sleeping.

[B]

That's crazy. And I think I want to make more plans than you, but you're pretty easy going. You're down to do whatever. Mostly.

[A]

Yeah. I mean, I get it. I didn't fly across the country to lay around. You know what I mean?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And you really, like I said earlier, you kind of ironed it all out, like to a T. And it was perfect.

[B]

Yeah, it was. Thanks. I mean, I feel like in our relationship I definitely plan more, but you manage me and my stuff and you hold the room key and you get to call the cars. You're in charge of the transportation and just like making my life easier. Making our lives. Like, I think we each have our roles when it comes to traveling together. And I really want to take the reins more on like booking a hotel or making plans. And we obviously, if there's specific stuff you want to do, we always do it. Sometimes you want to go to like a streetwear shop. Even if it's out of the way, we'll make it work. You want to get a tattoo. You did that in Canada. You did that in Singapore. Like, we always do the stuff you want to do, but for the most part, I'm like, here's what I want to do. Are you down? And I kind of make the itinerary or loose itinerary and make reservations. And then you really keep us tight on the trip.

[A]

We're both kind of this Glue, if you will.

[B]

We have a nice balance and we are annoyed by the same stuff.

[A]

So important.

[B]

And we hate the same stuff.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

And you let me be a hater and you indulge me and you don't invalidate me and you're annoyed by the same stuff. Like, this really is what bonds people together is hating the same stuff. I mean, the same with Reyna, like, talking. I mean, I couldn't be with somebody who wasn't annoyed the way I am annoyed at people on planes talking at a level 12. A man on the flight out to Singapore. Two men across the aisle from each other talking full volume. We heard about his prostate. Crazy, like insane. And then on the way back, a guy next to me coughing the entire time. Always a man ruining the flight. Sorry.

[A]

It's true.

[B]

Try to be a folks.

[A]

What is the number one thing you don't do when you're taxiing or waiting to get to your gate? That's right. Stand up. What did this fucking guy need to do? Stand up.

[B]

Stay and talk to the guy in front of him.

[A]

Buddy, have you ever looked around your seat? Fucking do that. Sit down.

[B]

Men need friends so bad. They are having therapy sessions and business meetings on airplanes. You would never.

[A]

Loser.

[B]

Right? So we like to hate on the same stuff.

[A]

Yeah, fuck that guy.

[B]

You and I can hear a noise and we immediately look at each other and we're fucking annoyed.

[A]

I mean, that started early on. Every time we were outside, there was a fucking jackhammer or a fucking backhoe doing something and we were like, can we do anything in peace and quiet?

[B]

And now and you, like, get annoyed at people on the street walking slow or driving. Like, we just. Again, we are happy people. We're moving through life. We're not just like constant curmudgeoning. I guess we kind of are. I mean, my inner monologue is Larry David and same as you, but I really feel like that a couple that were one person is more annoyed and they're like us, and they have that hate in their heart. And then the other person's like, come on, just relax. They're not doing anything wrong. It's just like, oh, my God, if you can't hate this person ruining our flight, I can't be with you.

[A]

Go back to the other seats somewhere else.

[B]

Yeah. Okay, so we are just gonna take a quick break and Sean's gonna probably watch baseball on his iPad.

[A]

Yeah, the us is out.

[B]

Is there baseball on right now? Yeah, guys, just. This is my life now. Now that we're in baseball season.

[A]

Baseball season.

[B]

I realize that you're so excited because of gambling.

[A]

I love sports betting.

[B]

My vows.

[A]

Yeah, gambling. I know. Yeah, go Birds. Whatever. No, seriously, Go Birds.

[B]

That was also my bad.

[A]

Yeah, I do love baseball because I can gamble on it and I've made a good amount of money gambling on baseball. There, I said it. It's out in the open.

[B]

Everybody knows that's where all my jewelry comes from.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

It's just like sports gambling money. That's what you told me.

[A]

It's true. Okay, thank you, Billy Bruni.

[B]

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[A]

Pillows, an ottoman, outside, a lot of outdoor furniture.

[B]

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[A]

I guess the number. Yes, number two was actually the number one.

[B]

The number two was the number one.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So many questions about pooping and not wanting your partner to hear you poop or know you're pooping or hotel bathrooms with no door. No doors are kind of crazy. But sliding door, barn door, how to handle those situations. So let's talk about it.

[A]

Easy. Scope it out. When you get to the hotel that's it right when you walk in, find the lobby bathroom. If there isn't one, get a different hotel.

[B]

Can you imagine a hotel without a lobby bathroom? Yeah, there was always a lobby bathroom.

[A]

Even when we say the Bay Resort and Dewey.

[B]

Bay Resort and Dewey, there still was

[A]

one Sketchy, which I didn't know.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Which is why I had to pee in a bush.

[B]

Yeah, okay.

[A]

Sorry.

[B]

But you wouldn't shit in a bush. You might have.

[A]

You gotta do what you gotta do sometimes.

[B]

Okay, so say. I want you to say your rule with your whole chest, which is Men poop in the lobby.

[A]

Men always poop in the lobby. Do not blow out the bedroom that you're all sleeping in.

[B]

You can, but like that's when you need to go do your thing.

[A]

Well, when we were in Catalina, we were checking out and I was like, just go to the lobby for a minute and I'll be down. And then you can do it then. Yes, if you have a minute alone.

[B]

Unless we have like a two bedroom suite, which we did have in Singapore at the Mandarin, but that's pretty rare. You and I are usually in a standard hotel room.

[A]

Well, my hotel room at the Standard is just the lobby bathroom.

[B]

Okay. Speaking of the standard, actually different bathroom setups. I mean, these barn doors, these sliding doors are an abomination. What are we doing? And with the standard, which is where the hotel we probably stayed in the most, We. And we. Obviously, if you guys are new around here, we did long distance for a year and a half and we spent a lot of time in New York and we stayed the Standard in the East Village and mostly in me packing. But the whole room is set up to be very sexy. And you can see the shower from the bedroom and all this stuff. And there's really a lack of privacy. That's how they designed it. But the bathroom, they have like a poop closet basically, and it is the toilet. And like a real heavy door. Yeah, like a non sliding door. A traditional door.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So it's. It works. And if you turn the faucet on that water pressure, I mean, you really can drown it out.

[A]

Yeah, but then say I came out and then you had to like brush your teeth. How are you gonna do that?

[B]

Just give it time.

[A]

It's kind of a nightmare. And like they don't have a fan in that little Harry Potter bedroom.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. I mean, this is where you just have to like feel it out. Like if you know someone just was in there for a while, just give it a minute before you go in and brush Your teeth.

[A]

You know, if you did damage, you

[B]

go to the lobby. And that's kind of how we roll.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But if you don't want to do that, run the shower, run the faucet, put a podcast on. Put on Girls Got to Eat. We would love for you guys to be playing Girls Got to Eat when

[A]

you try to drown this specific convo.

[B]

Yes, exactly. So I think now, you and I. I never want you to hear me pooping. That's crazy.

[A]

No, no.

[B]

You only just heard me fart once. And that will be the one and only time.

[A]

Incredible. It's on my calendar.

[B]

You guys know about it.

[A]

What a day.

[B]

So you can commemorate it every year.

[A]

Every year.

[B]

Celebrate the anniversary. So you and I, at about three years in, are really open about going to the bathroom. We'll talk about if we, like, are constipated. Like, we know what we're doing. Doing. You know, we'll be like, I feel so much lighter when you come out of the bathroom. Like, we're not gross. But we'll talk about it. But I still never wanted you to hear me. And early days. Six months, even three months. Six months. A year in. I wasn't talking about it with you like this. And I was thinking more about what to do when we were traveling. So I want to validate that this is a real thing that's on people's mind, especially if it's. You're about to be your first trip with someone. You're like, when am I going to poop? And where.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, of course. I mean, that was. I went through many a stomachache because I didn't know how to handle it either. And then I was finally like, okay, the lobby is my safe space. And that was. That started at the Seaport Hotel in Boston, which is not a close lobby bathroom. That hotel is huge.

[B]

You were gone for hours.

[A]

Literally 30 minutes to get there. 30 minutes.

[B]

I'm checking your location.

[A]

Truly. I'm in Somerville.

[B]

I'm in Watertown. I'm at this massage parlor. I just feel really comfortable.

[A]

But that's where it started. You know, you'll suffer a little bit at the beginning.

[B]

Suffer why?

[A]

With stomach aches.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

And stuff.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And then, like, I'm not gonna fart in front of you either. That's crazy. That makes your stomach hurt. You can't hold a fart for that long.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But it's important to scope that out once you start going to hotels.

[B]

Totally.

[A]

And traveling together.

[B]

Yes. And now, I mean, if we are in a hotel room and I Have to poop. I go into the bathroom and I poop. I run the water. I make it loud as hell in there.

[A]

Yep.

[B]

But if I felt like it was going to be explosive for some reason, I wouldn't, I would probably. I don't want you to hear that. I never want you to hear that. You'll never look at me the same. So I would go to lobby or I'd be like, babe, can you go lobby? Can you go get me a coffee? Or like, I go, there's a gym bathroom. I mean, there's so many options in a hotel.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I think if you're in like a one bedroom Airbnb. I don't know again, just like make it loud. Try to get your space. Do it when they're away. But sometimes when you gotta go, you gotta go. And then I don't know again, bring in the podcast and poop with girls. Gotta eat, girls gotta poop.

[A]

Ggp, ggp, ggp. The other move could be if you're like going somewhere, you know, I mean, if you're like going out to dinner or something, you can just like wait until you get there or you're going out to breakfast or lunch or something.

[B]

Yeah. It's just like, you never know. Like some people wanted to stay in the toilet a long time.

[A]

What, till your legs fall asleep?

[B]

No. Or just like you don't know how quick it's going to be.

[A]

That's true. Oh, you know what I wanted to ask you?

[B]

Okay.

[A]

What was the situation at the hawker center bathroom.

[B]

Oh, my gosh. So like we said before, everywhere in Singapore is so clean. I think there is like a fine for not flushing a public toilet. But the thing in Singapore that we found to be so interesting, I'm glad you brought this up. Is that there are no like, napkin dispensers. Yeah, I'm getting to answer your question. Like on the tables in the hawker centers where you're eating all this saucy, messy food, you need to kind of bring your own napkins. This is something. This is one of the biggest cultural things I learned. In the restaurants, of course they're giving you napkins, whatever. But at the hawker centers, we had a tour guide one day and she brought her own wet naps. Wet naps for us. And so I say that just to be like, that's something to remember. If you go and you go to these hawker centers, bring wet naps and regular napkins too. And when we were in the Chinatown complex, this is just a really big, very casual hawker.

[A]

I mean, Clean enough.

[B]

Not, like, dirty by any means, but I don't know. On the lower scale, end of the hawker centers, I don't know. And it was amazing at these dumplings. They're, like, out of this world. But we went to the bathroom, and she handed me tissue, was like, you're gonna need this. And so there weren't, like, toilet paper paper towels in that specific bathroom? There were toilet paper in other bathrooms. It's not like a toilet paper desert, but for that specific scenario in, like, a mall food court, essentially. That was the vibe she handed me. And I just had a pee.

[A]

Oh, okay.

[B]

Oh, did you think I like.

[A]

I thought you might have blown it out like, the starboard terrible.

[B]

With a square of toilet paper she'd give me in the starboard.

[A]

I will tell you really quickly. The scariest place I have pooped is on a train in India. Because it's just a hole and you can see the tracks. It's pretty terrifying. And you just have to squat.

[B]

You did not poop on train tracks.

[A]

Yeah, but also, in India, people are, like, outside the train shitting on the tracks.

[B]

I know.

[A]

We've all seen Slumdog Millionaire and the Namesake.

[B]

It's all you could look through.

[A]

Correct. If you looked down, you were squatting tracks above, like, a hole, I think. What's a commode? A commode is, like, the word. Right?

[B]

Word for a toilet.

[A]

Oh. I thought it was, like, specific to hole in the ground or something. But anyway, that's the scariest place to poop.

[B]

I can't believe you did that. You must. Had to really go. Yeah, because you get a little.

[A]

I was, like, nine. I get a little tight.

[B]

You were a kid. Oh, my God. This is so traumatizing.

[A]

It's terrifying. You can ask Hazel about it. I was like, mom, what do I do? She was like, what do you mean? What do you fucking do?

[B]

Text your mom right now. Tell me about the time Shashank, she. On the train tracks when it was nine. Would she, like, recall?

[A]

Don't say it like that. I was. We were, like, traveling somewhere and the train was moving.

[B]

What should I ask her?

[A]

Just don't text my wife.

[B]

Okay, So I think we covered pooping. Snoring. Someone wrote, he snores and it's extra loud. On vacation, I swear. And it keeps me up. How do I deal?

[A]

This is about the guy on the flight.

[B]

Yeah, yeah. The coffee guy also snored.

[A]

Brutal.

[B]

You just got to bring your earplugs. Like, I understand the being louder on vacation, you snore. More when you drink.

[A]

So that has yet to be proven.

[B]

I feel like, what else do you need? I've showed you videos. Okay. So I do bring earplugs for these moments. I mean, I had earplugs on on the plane. Even the loud sound of the plane couldn't drown out that guy's coughs and his snores. So I just think the simplest thing is just always bring them. I'd never travel without them. The standard earplugs are, like, the best ones. So I order these ones, like, from Amazon or whatever that are fine, but the standard ones are better. So I take them when I like. I always take the room set when I go and hold on to them, and I can use them a couple different times. Okay. Is helping your man pack slash pick out outfits. Cringe.

[A]

I don't need your help packing, but I do value your input for outfits.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

And that's all I got to say about that.

[B]

I think that's the gold standard in relationships is guys asking their girls, what am I wearing?

[A]

I mean, most guys don't know how to dress.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I sometimes feel like that.

[B]

You have great style, but you also let me give input.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I think I've introduced you to some things you weren't wearing before, like a cardigan. We do this little cashmere short sleeve sweater that you have.

[A]

Raina palooza. You were like, these polos. And I was like, fuck, yeah. These are sick.

[B]

Oh, yeah, The Abercrombie.

[A]

Yeah. And I look great.

[B]

I think there's, like, a spectrum. There's like the. The worst guy that's like, you can't tell me what to wear, and I'm gonna wear my Hawaiian shirt and khaki shorts and flip. Yeah. Which is fine. You want to work Hawaiian shirt, that's your business. But, like. But they won't listen to your input. And you're like, hey, we're going to, like, a nice dinner. And they're like, I don't. You can't tell me what to wear.

[A]

I'm wearing this Marvel tea.

[B]

Right. Dude, Raina's axe wearing a Marvel tea to meet her dad.

[A]

Sorry, man.

[B]

Yeah, so you don't want that. And I guess the other end of the spectrum is the guy that's like, high fashion.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Like a Kanye vibe. You know, where he's like, I'm the fashion one in the relationship, and you can't tell them nothing. Can't tell me nothing. See what I do? But you're the perfect partner in that. You're like, hey, I Wanna know what we're doing and what the dress code is? And I want to look nice, and I'm the same way. I'm like, what kind of outfits do you like? Me. And I'm not gonna wear anything that I don't like, but I want to look nice for you, and you want to look nice for me. And so I think we've gone on trips where I've told you everything to bring, like, where I know your whole wardrobe, but I'm like, this, this, and this for these days, and this, this, and this for these nights, and I love to do it. And you listen and then you pack your own bag. I don't think you want to be packing your man's bag like you're his mom.

[A]

No, no, no, no. But I mean, I think it's important to take the input, because what's worse than being underdressed or dressed incorrectly?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know what I mean? If I didn't have those polos for Reina Palooza, was he gonna wear, like, one of 40 kith T shirts I have? That would have been terrible. But they're great. I have a lot of T shirts. But you got those polos. I looked great. Everyone said I looked great.

[B]

Thank you, fellas.

[A]

Just listen. They know what they're doing.

[B]

Okay? And so speaking of bags, if he doesn't carry my bags, is this a red flag?

[A]

Dump his ass.

[B]

Like, literally.

[A]

Like, literally. Get that guy out of here.

[B]

Yes. So I can't imagine it. You shouldn't have to carry all my bags. I mean, if. If it's too much. I do. But you.

[A]

You do. I'm just kidding.

[B]

You tend to grab everything. Like, you don't want me to carry bags. I am rolling free laissez faire through the airport with a crossbody purse on.

[A]

Incredible. Drinking a hot coffee.

[B]

Yeah, my hands are full. But you naturally do that. And I was talking with a friend recently. They were traveling with two girls and a guy. Nobody was dating. It was friends, but she was like. He never once even, like, offered to get losers or anything. I'm like, shashanka's out here. We recently were traveling. Raina was driving me and our friend Leah Lamar to the San Diego show. And Leah pulled up in front of Raina's house, and you went and got her bags. You had just met her, like, a minute before that, and you naturally were like, I'm gonna go help her with her bags. It's just a gentlemanly, chivalrous thing to do. That's how you are. And, yeah, like, that's a perk of traveling with a dude. Traveling with your male partner is he carries most of the stuff. He literally lightens the load.

[A]

Yeah. As you should.

[B]

So he gets a red flag.

[A]

I would be concerned if my man was not carrying my shit or putting it in the overhead bin or getting it from the overhead bin.

[B]

It also depends. Like, okay, let's say we both have a carry on roller. You're not carrying like, I'm dragging.

[A]

You're going to push your own roller.

[B]

You're not going to have two hands with both of our rollers.

[A]

I mean, I have done that well,

[B]

because I had a coffee.

[A]

Two coffees.

[B]

No, but you know what I'm saying, Like, yeah, I don't expect it to be ridiculous.

[A]

Right.

[B]

But that if it's like, you can carry my stuff and I don't have to. Like, you do. Sure. Naturally do that.

[A]

Yeah. As you should.

[B]

Okay, that's our answer. This is just a statement, but I just really appreciate it and I feel like this is how you and I operate. I want my man responsible for the car and the hotel keys. That's boy stuff I cannot keep track of on a holiday. And this is what we do. I really. When we will talk about this at a later date. And we've talked about on previous episodes too, by the way. We have a travel episode from 2022 and from 2018 we do one every four years. So we're due for our travel episode in 2026. But if you want to go back and just search travel wherever you're listening to your podcast, those two should come up. So we address some of this, like, who does what kind of thing and even when it comes to expenses. And cars is just your world. I mean, you're also a car guy, but, like, I don't want to deal with the Ubers. Like, that's just something that you do. I deal with a lot of other stuff. I plan a lot of other stuff. I'll pay for other stuff. But, like, that's the thing that you tend to handle and it's like, really appreciated. And you always have the hotel key. Like, babe. Okay, you forgot at one time, where were we? In Singapore. You.

[A]

Oh, no.

[B]

But here's what. You forgot it walking out and you realized it immediately. And then you saw the housekeeper and you were able to get it in.

[A]

So you have to go to quick on my feet.

[B]

It's just like, just make sure you have the room key. Like whichever partner in the relationship. Just like, you're the room key person.

[A]

This is your thing.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah, this is your thing. So, anyway, I just agree with that. Okay, this question. Is it weird if we're not having sex the whole time?

[A]

I don't really know. I think there's, like, circumstances if you guys are, like, running around all day and. You know what? I mean, you're all exhausted. You don't have to just. You don't have to have sex. You can just be like, I'm exhausted. That was a long day. Chances are your partner's gonna be like, yeah, me too. And then you can just fucking go to sleep, and it's totally fine.

[B]

Guys, how sexy is this? No, I was actually going to echo that same sentiment. I think there are vacations for sex and vacations for more sightseeing, exploring. Obviously, you do both, right?

[A]

I mean, Cabo was crazy for your birthday. You couldn't pry me off of you.

[B]

We were a new couple. We had sex three times a day, morning and night. Raina would say, my face was red the whole time. And, like, Canada. I think we had sex most days.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Maybe we were maybe twice a day. One time, like. But Singapore is really hot, and we walked a ton, and we were really exhausted.

[A]

The heat makes you tired and you're sweating a ton. And we were eating so, so much.

[B]

Yeah. And so we've had to kind of figure out our sex schedule because Shashank is like a nighttime. Like, after we get home, back from dinner. Drinks. Dinner and drinks.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I'm an afternoon girly. But. So, like, one night, you were, like, trying to get in. I was like, babe, I just can't. I just ate too much.

[A]

Right?

[B]

And I was like, you better put it down tomorrow afternoon.

[A]

And then I did. And that kid was like, what grade are you in?

[B]

That Vibe's only Bond band buy that. We do not take a vacation without. The Vibe should be legal. So in terms of sex, don't feel this pressure of, like, oh, my gosh, like, we're on a vacation, especially. I mean, I feel for people who have kids, and they're like, we gotta get away. This is our only chance. Or especially on a honeymoon, you might have these preconceived notions in your head, like, we're supposed to be fucking the whole time. Don't get caught up in that. I think that you can have sex anytime. Most. I mean, I guess if you have a bunch of kids, but, like, you can't do the other stuff anytime. So if you really want to maximize your whole day and you get home and you just fall into Bed, and you couldn't possibly get it up. Don't worry about it. We did a sex episode recently about how often couples are really having sex. And so that's a good one to listen to. And I think it just made a lot of people feel better and validated about their own relationship. And how much are people actually having sex and are people out here lying? And I think that just don't feel that pressure if you skip a day or a couple of days or whatever you have going on. I think it depends on the nature of the vacation.

[A]

Exactly.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And lastly, how do I get him to take good pics of me?

[A]

All right, fellas, we're all in this together. We're all learning how to do it. I'm not great at it by any means, but you just gotta listen. Frame it this way. Higher, lower, wider. Never this. Never the long way. Always the tall way.

[B]

Yeah, by request, if you want to. Like, landscape.

[A]

Weirdo.

[B]

But we're doing this for Instagram.

[A]

It's always the long way.

[B]

You're a photographer. You have a camera. You are a great photographer.

[A]

Not a photographer. It's a hobby.

[B]

Okay, You're. Okay, you have a hobby. You have a photography hobby.

[A]

Yes. And I do think I take good pics.

[B]

You take great pics. I feel really lucky. But sometimes I just do want it framed differently. And I come over and literally show you in the phone or viewfinder or whatever. Like, can you please just frame it like this? Like, hold it exactly and let me go get into position. And. And I think just showing somebody one or two times, like, this is the type of framing I like. This is a style I like. I want you to be lower. I want you to be higher, and they'll pick up on it. And I think it's worth saying to your partner, I mean, we're speaking to the women here. Like, hey, I'm just. I want to get some photos on this vacation. Especially if it's for any sort of work that you do, any sort of influencer thing or just regardless, you want these photos being like, if you don't mind. Like, I know it's kind of annoying, but, like, would you mind helping me out here and there? And I think it's just a matter of also setting a time limit, setting a boundary, making sure you're not treating your partner like your personal photographer. And they feel like they're on set. You know, Serena Kerrigan talks about how when she travels with her boyfriend, they set aside. I don't know what it is. Five or ten minutes when they go to the photo location to get the shot. And if they. Hopefully they get it, and if not, they move on with their trip. Like, you just. No one wants to feel like they're following their partner around taking photos, and they never know when they're gonna have

[A]

to drop everything and take a photo.

[B]

Yeah. So I think figuring out what works best for you and they should be open to it. And if you have someone that always makes you feel silly and really just doesn't want to help you out in any way, I mean, I don't know if that's the right type of partner, especially if you're someone that needs those photos for what you do. I think there's, like, a healthy balance, but it's important.

[A]

You never want to look back at your trip photos or, you know, travel photos, and they're like, bogus photos. You know what I mean? You want, like, a nice, like, look how good this was. You know what I mean? And I'm happy to do that.

[B]

Can I say, like, you never. I take photos. You obviously. I have great photos of you. You do, but you have never asked me.

[A]

Yeah. That's a crazy thing. Babe, can you take a photo of me?

[B]

There are guys that, like, do those influencer pics.

[A]

No, no, no, no, no.

[B]

You would never do it. Shashank. Like, you.

[A]

No.

[B]

There's no, like, pose solo photos, but I guess that's.

[A]

That's because of, like, who you are. Like, you're always trying to take photos. You're always doing a good job. Like, nobody loves a memory or, like, scrol at old photos more than you.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Truly.

[B]

No. We get home from every day and we have to lay in bed and talk about our day.

[A]

It's great.

[B]

What's your feet? What's your pit? Do you want to look at photos?

[A]

Rosenthorne.

[B]

What's. Rosenthorn.

[A]

Rosenthorne.

[B]

Rosenthorn. So, yeah, I think giving them some instruction and, oh, praise when they do a good job.

[A]

What are we, dogs?

[B]

Yes. Okay. Positive reinforcement. I should praise.

[A]

Yeah. No, it's true. When you, like, do something good and some. It doesn't matter if it's your partner or not. Someone's like, you did a really good job. You're like, yeah, I did.

[B]

Yes. So anything. Like, that's the way to really show someone a you appreciate them, but get them to do it more.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And get them to take pride in it. Like, what you don't want to do is just have your partner taking photos, and you're like, ugh, I hate this. So those are some answers to your questions. I'm just gonna talk about our remaining partners and then we are gonna wrap this up with. With some honeymoon stories, some honeymoon fails, some really hilarious stuff from you guys. So I'm telling you about Revolve. Whole outfit is Revolve today. So these pants are lpa. Babe, can you tell me this? What does that say?

[A]

Small Lna clothing.

[B]

Okay. Lna, whatever this tank is, is LNA is also Revolve a size small, if you guys were curious. And everything I wore on the honeymoon was Revolve, I think with the exception of the one red dress which I got at a local boutique here in la. But every other thing was Revolve.

[A]

That green thing, the like the top and the skirt.

[B]

Every single thing.

[A]

Guys, you saw those photos. Make some noise for those photos. That outfit was.

[B]

Thanks, babe. The green set, the brown set from Little India Day. The dress was Alice and Olivia. I don't think it's on Revolve any longer. It's a little older. The set I wore in the boat was Elspace. I love their beach stuff.

[A]

I don't know. I'm telling you that I'm paying attention.

[B]

Oh, and the. My favorite outfit was the like silky tube top with the skirt.

[A]

And I, when we were cycling.

[B]

Yeah, we were recycling. We went to burn ends. This is on my Instagram too. So literally my whole trip I was like all Revolve everything. It is really the answer for anything. You guys have nights out events, travel, weddings, bridal, last minute plans. They had that two day shipping and guy stuff. They do have guy stuff too. You have some great shackets from Revolve, but we're mostly talking for the girls today. So they're where you go when you don't want to overthink your outfit. They have all these collections. You can shop by your vacation again, like your nights out or if you have spring plans, summer plans, work, whatever you guys need. And everything is styled in a way that actually makes sense. You can see how they style it. And then my favorite thing is really when you find a piece, you get shown all these similar options. So. So this is especially great if you find something that maybe is out of stock or they don't have your size. All the similar pieces is where I find a lot of stuff too in there. Everything is just really curated for you, but it doesn't feel chaotic at all. It just feels very curated. Even they have tons and tons of brands. It just feels really intentional when you are shopping. And they also Just launched their own label called Revolve La. And it is so chic. The silhouettes are strong and modern, very polished, very confident. It's the kind of stuff you put on when you want to look look expensive. Especially for a dinner or event where, you know, photos are happening. So check out Revolve la. That is their new launch and we have a deal for you guys. They don't do this a lot. We are so honored to partner with them and be able to give you guys this discount on your first order. Whether it's a big night out, a wedding, a trip, or you just need something last minute that actually works, Revolve always has it. Go to Revolve.com GGE to shop our faves and use code GGE for 15 off your first order. And definitely check out the new Revolvel label while you're there. Fast shipping, easy returns, the easiest returns. It just makes everything easier. That's Revolve.com GGE. You can shop our faves and get 15% off your first order. And this offer ends April 16th. So don't miss out. Be mindful of that date and use that code before you can't use it anymore. And I'm telling you guys about Chime. So if you were dealing with anything that's stressing you out with your personal banking or overdraft fees or you really need your paycheck early, whatever you have going on, stuff you're saving up for, this is what it's finally like to have a bank that's on your side with Chime. Chime is changing the way people bank. Fee free, smarter banking built for you. It is not like an old school bank that charges you overdraft and monthly fees. I mean those fees really add up. Chime really is different. They have a banking app. They unlock smarter banking for everyday people with products like MyPay giving you access to up to 500 of your paycheck anytime. And get paid up to 2 days early with direct deposit. Some old banks still don't do this. You can help build your credit history stress free. Get paid. When you say like we mentioned, earn up to 3% APY on savings seven times higher than a traditional bank. They are rated five stars by USA Today for customer service. Real humans 24 7. So you guys check them out and this is just something my younger self would have benefited from so much. Like I really look back at all the overdraft fees I just wasted money on and all the times I could have used money for my paycheck. A little early and I just wish I would've had Chime. So Chime is not just smarter banking. It is the most rewarding way to bank. Join the millions who are already banking fee free today. It just takes a few minutes to sign up. Head to chime.comgirls gotta eat. That is chime.com girls gotta eat. Chime is a financial technology company, not a bank. Banking services, a secured Chime Visa credit card and MyPay line of credit provided by the Bancor Bank NA or Stride Bank NA. MyPay eligibility requirements apply and credit limit ranges $20 to $500. Optional services and products may have fees or charges. See chime.com feesinfo advertised annual percentage yield with Chime plus status only. Otherwise, 1.00% AP. No imbalance required. Time card on time. Payment history may have a positive impact on your credit score. Results may vary. See chime.com for details and applicable terms. Okay, so honeymoon stories coming in hot. You guys did not disappoint. I mean, every single one of these were. I was laughing out loud. I was gasping. I was just like, oh, my God, I can't believe this. And thank you guys for sharing as always.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay, I am going to kick it off with a honeymoon fail. Short and sweet. My husband farted at dinner and literally pooped. He had to throw those undies out. Lol. Nothing says romance like a shard, brother. Shitting your pants at dinner? Babe, what would you do?

[A]

I wouldn't shit my pants at dinner, I can tell you that.

[B]

You don't know. I do know you have tummy trouble sometimes.

[A]

Okay, well, one, yes. Two, don't say tummy. Yeah, I get a little gurgly here and there.

[B]

I've never said tummy in my life. I said that.

[A]

Okay, I do get a little gurgly here and there, but I certainly would not trust a fart. You never know.

[B]

I just can't believe this happened. Like, I'm trying to picture the scene. Like, for whatever reason, when I picture people on a honeymoon dinner, I picture a White Lotus Resort. I don't know what it is. Like, that's what I'm picturing. And I'm picturing, like, a tropical vibe and a nicer dining experience. And this man shits himself at dinner and has to, like, go throw out his underwear.

[A]

Ruined it for everybody. Imagine you're the table behind and you get a whiff. You're like, somebody shit their pants. Oh, it's the fucking tourist classic.

[B]

Oh, my God. Right? Like, people are eating.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And the smell starts to come.

[A]

Terrible.

[B]

No.

[A]

Oh, no. God.

[B]

Okay, you got the next one.

[A]

All right, the next one is called Embarrassing Honeymoon, and I just want to remind you guys, I don't know any of these, so here we go. Hello. Love you, too. And the podcast. I'll keep my Embarrassing Honeymoon story short and sweet. I had my first ever hemorrhoid experience leading up to the wedding slash honeymoon. Oh, my fucking God. Every day I had my husband looking back at my asshole to make sure that thing didn't pop out to say hello. So embarrassing. But he loves me so much. Hopefully Ashley's asshole was okay in Singapore.

[B]

She knows I'd be having butt problems.

[A]

Listener. It was okay. I did check, but not for that reason. What the.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Marry that man. Oh, you are married. Nice.

[B]

I may or may not have had one hemorrhoid experience one time. You can feel it on your own. Sorry, babe. Like, I don't understand why he had to look into her brown eye to find this hemorrhoid God. I mean, good for them. I love this comfort level.

[A]

He was spreading them for the wrong reason.

[B]

I really. I really feel for her, but it's just, like, why. I need more information of why he had to look back there. Can't you feel it? At least in my experience?

[A]

I don't know. I've never had one. I don't know shit about hemorrhoids.

[B]

Oh. No pun intended.

[A]

Nice.

[B]

Well, you get them when you strain too much.

[A]

I don't have any problem with that.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

But if you asked me to look, I guess I would.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, sometimes it just be like that. Like, you're like, I need your help with this thing with my body, and a good partner will help you. You okay? The next one is titled Unexpected Snorkeling. My husband and I got married in November of 2024 and went to Hawaii for a honeymoon. On day two of our trip, we were in the water and my husband says to me, oh, my God, my ring just fell off. And of course, I thought he was kidding, but lo and behold, he was not. I broke into tears, thoroughly convinced that this is a bad sign from the universe, and we had to fix it immediately. We cut our beach day short and made a quick trip to Walmart and got him a new silicone ring to wear in the meantime. A newlywed has to wear a ring on the honeymoon, right? Yes.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

We thought you forgot yours for a minute. I was like, we would have to go to get you a new one, or we were joking about it. Whatever. Like you not. Oh, yeah, we would have to go buy you a new one. So they go get the new one at Walmart as well as two sets of snorkeling gear because my delusional ass was convinced we were gonna find this damn ring. We spent the rest of our day snorkeling in shallow water like idiots trying to find the ring, but it was long gone. Looking back, I can only laugh at how silly we probably looked. And luckily it was just a ring from Macy's, not a family heirloom. I'm such a big fan of the podcast and just wanted to say that without you ladies, I wouldn't have had the courage to leave my crappy past relationship, which led me to meeting my husband. You're truly one of the best parts of my week. Love you. I love that.

[A]

Nice favor.

[B]

You know, I would be getting that snorkeling gear.

[A]

I mean, look, I'll do it, but I'm not going to be happy about it. It for two reasons. We're not gonna find it. Two, I'm not a strong swimmer. Me personally.

[B]

You have strong swimmers. I will say that.

[A]

Oh, my God. Yes.

[B]

You left yourself wide open for that.

[A]

I did. Yeah. Lay up.

[B]

I'm left leave myself wide open for them.

[A]

Oh, my God, our families. Listen to this. This is crazy.

[B]

Oh, okay. No, they don't know what we're saying.

[A]

Oh, okay.

[B]

Yeah, it's all like silly puns. Like how when Reyna said cuck at the wedding, they were like, what is that?

[A]

My aunts were like, what is a cuck?

[B]

So I'm glad that this happened, but that's. We got a few more. One email was, the guy lost his ring on the sand and they were able to find it. I think they had like a metal detector.

[A]

Surely somebody was out there fucking beeping, ruining somebody else's time.

[B]

But this is a nightmare. And I just think it's so funny that they were like, let's get snorkeling gear. I mean, that's a funny couple. That's. And creative that they're like, let's try to find this. And of course, you know, you're never going to. Okay, babe, you got the next one.

[A]

Fairy scaries.

[B]

Okay, so I changed the subject lines on some of these. Okay. So do you think I came up with that one or do you think that was.

[A]

You probably came up with that.

[B]

I did. Okay.

[A]

You did, yeah. All right, let's see. Here we go. My husband and I got married in June. We fly out the next day for Greece where we're spending our honeymoon. For two weeks, we were flying from Atlanta to Athens, then flying to Milos, then taking a ferry to Sifnos. Fake places. After the longest journey, our ferry pulled up to our island. Being stupid Americans, we thought they would announce we were here and to come down. They didn't. We couldn't figure out why we were just sitting there. I asked my husband to go check and he did the most half ass check job. Next thing we know, the ferry is pulling away and we were leaving. I'm normally a pretty quiet and calm person, but I think everyone on that ferry saw the worst side of me. I was yelling and crying and couldn't figure out what happened. I think my husband thought I was going to divorce him right there. Mind you, this is after 24 hours of travel and after I pulled my back out on my wedding day. I had a lot of drugs in me and I wanted to get to our resort. Needless to say, we ended up in Paros for our first night and got to our resort the next day after a three hour ferry where I yacked from motion sickness. Oh my God, Greece is beautiful. Just be sure to get off the ferries.

[B]

To not get off the ferry. To miss your ferry and then have

[A]

to stay on it.

[B]

Yes, like either way, to miss it and see it just floating off, driving off, sailing off, sailing away. Sailing away or to be on it and you've missed your stop and you're like, how many more hours? I'm going. You're going to another island now, by the way. Like this changed their whole itinerary and it sounds like they made the best of it. This I can't start. And I would have told him to go check.

[A]

I would have been so mean to that man for the rest of the trip.

[B]

I have a sort of relatable story that I was leaving New York. I was about to move to New York, I'd already left Atlanta and I was apartment hunting in New York. This is like early 2017. And I had been there all week. I'd been just trudging around in the snow trying to find an apartment and I thought I pretty much found one. And Rob was like, you need to stay and like sign the lease. I was like, I have to go. I think it's locked in and I'm just gonna go and I want to watch the Clemson championship football game with my family and I'm gonna go back to Delaware. I'm gonna get on Amtrak. And the game was at night and we had plans to get grotto Pizza and do all this stuff. And I was on Amtrak and I don't know, I wasn't paying attention. I was reading my book. Maybe I had my AirPods in and I missed the stop to get off of Wilmington, Delaware. It's a quicker stop. It's not like Philly. Like, I don't, I don't know. I think that it's just quicker and I just missed it. I did see people get up and get off the train. I wasn't paying attention and I stayed on that train. And I was like, oh my God. And I looked at my watch, I'm like, wait, we're not just late. I've missed the stop. I was like, wait, wait, did people get off at Wilmington? They were like, yeah. And I just. People were starting to pick up around me. Like, this girl missed her stop and I was like, I don't know what to do. And then they were like, the next stop for you to get off is like gonna be kind of scary. I don't know where it was, was like somewhere close to Baltimore. I can't remember exactly, but people were like, if you get off of the next stop alone, you need to go find a place to like sit in. Like find a McDonald's or call an Uber, like something, whatever. My dad was coming to pick me up at the Wilmington Joe Biden Amtrak station and he had to drive another 45 minutes to wherever the. To pick me up. He was so pissed when he got there. The pizza was cold, you know, like it was a whole.

[A]

Ruined it. Did Clemson win?

[B]

Yes, Clemson. Yeah, Clemson beat Bama. But I. That feeling is so terrible. And all it was, I had to get off the next stop. They had to go to another island. And you're just so mad. Like, I hate that feeling of being trapped.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Where you're like, oh my God, we're trapped in this boat.

[A]

Yeah. You literally can't go anywhere.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You can't even get out and walk.

[B]

Like, like, literally. I hate that feeling. I got like a panic attack thinking about it. And she's so mad at her man who she told to go check.

[A]

Earned it.

[B]

Yeah. The next one is titled Trash Bags. This is not my fiance, nor was it a honeymoon, but it was the first time traveling with my long term boyfriend. We were going on a trip to Houston with a group of friends. He picks me up so we can leave. And as I put my stuff in the hatchback, there is this massive trash bag. I said, what's that? He goes, my stuff.

[A]

It's not trash.

[B]

Is it going to Goodwill. Where? What? Your stuff for the trip.

[A]

I thought it was literal trash, right?

[B]

He said my stuff like nothing was wrong. I didn't get a picture of the massive trash bag, but I included one of what he unpacked when we got to the hotel. It was a bunch of smaller plastic bags with labels of the day. He could wear the outfit that was inside the bag, along with an amenities plastic bag for shaving, shampoo, toothbrush, etc. How is this man organizing outfits by day and doesn't have a suitcase or a bag to put his bags? Like, I know, but people that pack like this with packing cubes, I don't even do. I don't even do that level of organization.

[A]

No, no, no. But this is pretty, pretty elite.

[B]

So at some point on the trip, the weather got hot and he was like, man, I wish I would have packed my shorts for Saturday instead of Sunday. And I asked, why couldn't he just open Sunday's bag? And he goes, oh, yeah, you're right. He's like, rigid too. Okay. He still does this. Oh, they're still together. Oh, my God. I would assume this was like, heard, like X with the trash bags. Okay. He still does this when we do road trips, but without the labels so that he's not tied down to an outfit he doesn't want to wear. But he did finally buy a duffel bag for flights. Love your podcast. Thanks for reading. I hope I'm not alone in this.

[A]

No, you might be alone.

[B]

She's not. I've heard of this, but I've. I hear of it more in college. Like, young, like, having all your stuff in a. In a trash bag. Also, he might not have money. He might have, like, not grown up with luggage. I don't know. I don't want to, like, speculate about his life, but she needs to get this man a roller.

[A]

Truly.

[B]

Because it sounds like he doesn't even have a suitcase now. He only has a duffel bag, like a roller bag. Get him a base. Where I got you a base.

[A]

Yeah, with the backpack that goes on top of it. This guy will be cruising.

[B]

Yeah, cruising. I mean, he's already doing so much right with his packing.

[A]

Yeah, I don't organize by day. That's crazy. I would never think of that.

[B]

I can't believe he was organizing his outfits by day and throwing them in a hefty.

[A]

Fucking hefty bag. Yeah, it was a scented hefty bag. And all his clothes come out smelling like lavender.

[B]

That's not a bad idea.

[A]

That's Not a bad idea. Yeah, I mean at least your bot. You're like underwear one. Your.

[B]

Your underwear bag.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Should be a set of trash.

[A]

Should be a center trash bag.

[B]

That's a life hack, babe. Okay, the last one is titled. I titled this one myself. Drag king. Hi ladies. Big fan. My husband and I went to Philippines for a honeymoon. Number one, this is a two parter. We went on an ATV off roading tour. They took us through the farmland and rice fields. The first day. My husband really wanted to do this. I hate getting dirty and wet. We drove go full tilt in a puddle of cow. I died a little. But the view I guess was worth it. Number two, because we did what he wanted to do with the ATVs. He came with me to a drag show. This is great by the way.

[A]

Also that's how you do it.

[B]

It sounds like they want to do different things, but they compromise. And he'll do her stuff and she'll do his stuff. He got pulled up on stage and got grinded on by one of the queens and a whole table of gay men proceeded to hit on him.

[A]

No, my personal hell. I would leave, babe.

[B]

Okay. She writes, this reminds me of you. She writes, he is not by any means homophobic. But to be hit on so aggressively afterwards did make him feel a little uncomfortable. But also thought it was hilarious. When they found out he was straight, they said, what a waste. We need more men like you. And we ended up hanging out with these amazing men for the night. Haha. Babe, this would be you.

[A]

Yeah. No, no, I'm being dramatic. I don't think I'd like stomp my feet and get out, but I'd be like, oh God.

[B]

Because you love the queens.

[A]

Yeah, they're fun. They like to have a good time and they.

[B]

You're so like straight faced. You don't give people a lot. So I feel like that would make them.

[A]

They always want, like to get the laugh. They want to be like, I made that fucking straight face curmudgeon laugh.

[B]

Yeah, exactly.

[A]

You're actually funny.

[B]

Or I made him hard. I don't know.

[A]

What. No, it could happen. Some of them, Some of them, those are pretty men.

[B]

I have a little bit of an attraction to drag queens. Did you know this? I said it before in the podcast.

[A]

What?

[B]

I don't know. I just. Because it's like the masculine with the feminine. I don't know what it is.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I was. I'm not like seeking them out. Well, I'm also married to you, but.

[A]

Whoa.

[B]

I was never like, seeking them out.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Name one of your. Name one of your kinks.

[A]

The Dua. Lipa Kinks.

[B]

Who says Lipa Dua Lipa. Isn't that Dua, Lipa, Dua.

[A]

Lipa. Dua. Lipa. Dua Lipa. Whatever.

[B]

Oh, she really? Or hall pass. Okay. All right. Well, thank you guys for your stories and for your questions. And like I said before, we do have travel episodes out there that we answered a lot of the stuff that you guys want to know. But Rain and I are also going to do a 2026 summer travel episode.

[A]

I do just want to say you guys really be going through it with some of the shit guys put you through. This trash bag, this fucking guy who couldn't check properly for the ferry time.

[B]

I know. Fellas, get your shit together.

[A]

Just try even a little harder, right? Crazy.

[B]

Yeah, crazy. Get your TSA PreCheck.

[A]

Honestly?

[B]

Yeah. I mean, the second we started dating, you got that tsa.

[A]

I got it.

[B]

Pre check.

[A]

You were like, this bitch, I'm not gonna be fucking.

[B]

She's gonna leave my ass.

[A]

Correct.

[B]

And just get it together. And I don't know. I mean, you really always have it together, and I feel like that comes naturally to you. I'm sure you have to make an effort and think about this stuff consciously sometimes.

[A]

Yeah, of course. I mean, like, the heavy stuff, like passports and, you know.

[B]

Yeah. You have to make a mental checklist or a spreadsheet. You love a spreadsheet.

[A]

I do love a spreadsheet.

[B]

So whatever you have to do, you know, a lot of stuff came up, like, my man can't keep track of his shit, and he doesn't plan anything and stuff. And it's just like, these are not skills we're born with. You can acquire them. You can always get better at this stuff. So don't fall for the weaponized incompetence.

[A]

Weaponized incompetence.

[B]

We did a whole episode on that, too. I thought you were a listener. Anyway, guys, kitchen sink app. Check that out on the app. Yeah. Anything else did you want to. Final thoughts on? Just in general. Our honeymoon, our relationship.

[A]

Yeah, I do have some final thoughts. Firstly, thank you for planning that and really going to bat for me. It's hard to get time off. And you really went to bat with the STB. So it would line up with PTO that I had available, and then you really.

[B]

The STB and the PTO.

[A]

We love TLA's. That's three letter acronyms. And you really. You really did it. You really made it all happen. You kind of took the reins. And then I did what I needed to do to make sure it all went seamlessly. And we had a great honeymoon.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And I wouldn't trade it for the world.

[B]

Aw. Yeah, it was. It was such a perfect trip.

[A]

And again, shout out women. Just make it easier for them. That's the moral of the story.

[B]

No notes on the final thoughts. Okay, well, that is it. Shashank is going to kill this spider, and then we are going to have sex in the studio. Oh, no, Sorry. Kidding right now. We're not doing it. That's a rule. And girls got to eat snow. Sex in the studio.

[A]

Oh, okay. That's fine.

[B]

Were you looking for.

[A]

Yeah, like she would like. She'll know. Whatever, man.

[B]

Okay, well, kitchen sink, apparently. Get it on the App store. Kitchen sink recipe builder if you need to find it. And kitchensync app on Instagram and then girlsgotaeat.com of course. We have a show here in LA for the Netflix is a joke festival on May 7th. We absolutely cannot wait. It's gonna be wild. You're gonna be there, obviously, and just a bunch of fun special guests entertainment. It's gonna be really great. So get [e-mail] and Girls Gotta Eat podcast on Instagram and TikTok. I am Ash Hess on Instagram and TikTok. You can find raina.com Greenberg subscribe on YouTube. You can now watch video on Spotify. Share this episode with a friend if you enjoyed it and we will see you Thursday.

[A]

Have a good week, guys.

[B]

Bye. Nailed it. You,

[A]

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[B]

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