If This Was Your Last Single Summer feat. Tunde Oyeneyin

Summary

Girls Gotta Eat – “If This Was Your Last Single Summer”

Feat. Tunde Oyeneyin
Release Date: June 1, 2026
Hosts: Ashley Hesseltine & Raina Greenberg
Guest: Tunde Oyeneyin (Peloton instructor, SI swimsuit model, NYT bestselling author)

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Episode Overview

In this rich, laughter-filled episode, Ashley and Raina welcome back powerhouse Tunde Oyeneyin for an honest, energetic discussion about being single, stepping into your power at any age, confidence, intentional dating, and the joy—and sometimes aggravation—of living life loudly and unapologetically. The theme? If this was your last single summer, how would you live—and what would you manifest?

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Personal Catch-Ups & Self-Care (00:32 – 06:22)

• Ashley's and Raina’s post-tour decompress: The hosts talk about being back in LA, the relief after a whirlwind tour, and the reality of “maintenance” as summer hits.
  • Notable moment: Manicure-pedicure chat—“I kept my wedding pedicure on for three months.” (Ashley, 01:34)
• Tour Reflections: Raina shares gratitude for their audience and road crew, reflecting on career milestones and sharing live-show highlights.

2. Wild New York Tales: Massages & Street Encounters (06:22 – 19:42)

• Raina's Chinatown Massage “Adventure” (07:17 – 11:36):
  • Raina recounts a hilariously uncomfortable (possibly sexual) massage encounter, complete with dubious moans from neighboring rooms:
    • “I hear it from the other side of the wall. It’s a man moaning...and then…it just stops.” (Raina, 08:16)
    • “Her hands got to be covered in cum.” (Raina, 09:59)
• NYC Street Harassment & Rescue: (14:31 – 19:42)
  • Ashley describes being stalked by a persistent stranger, only escaping thanks to four tattooed “bouncers” (MTA workers) acting as impromptu bodyguards.
    • “The hottest of the four…‘You’re going to get that coffee somewhere else.’” (Ashley quoting rescuer, 17:43)

3. Welcoming Tunde: Milestones & Modeling (25:19 – 28:32)

• Peloton Fame & Sports Illustrated Debut:
  • Tunde walks the co-hosts through her moment at the SI Swimsuit event (“I felt like my 19-year-old self”) and shooting in Montauk.
  • On aging:

    “I really believe I am just getting started. I really believe I’m in my prime.” (Tunde, 27:14)

4. Confidence, Representation, and Owning Your Age (28:32 – 33:22)

• Body Love and Lessons with Age:
  • The trio discuss how confidence—and ease with one’s appearance—often comes later in life.
  • Quote:

    “Confidence is knowing that it all comes back… I don’t feel the best, but I’ll be on top again.” (Tunde, 29:07)

• Visibility of Women Over 40:
  “There are often times… maybe I shouldn’t have told everyone my age. Is that going to hold me back? … But the louder thought is… I’m doing this so women, girls younger than me know it continues to get better with age… If my story inspires anybody, then hey, thanks!” (Tunde, 31:27)

5. Tunde’s Peloton Origin Story: Persistence Pays (33:22 – 46:36)

• How Tunde Got Her Peloton Gig:
  • Discovered via Instagram by Cody Rigsby, flown out to audition, and initially rejected due to lack of unanimous team approval.
  • Eight months later, she’s called back and finally lands the job:

    “It’s not that you’re not ready for the opportunity. Sometimes the opportunity is not ready for you.” (Tunde, 43:54)

  • Both hosts relate the story to their own experiences of gatekeepers, rejection, and persistence in showbiz.

6. If This Was Your Last Single Summer… (51:20 – 56:33)

• Manifesting Love & Living Fully:
  • Tunde’s bold declaration: “This is my last single summer.” (Tunde, 51:27)
  • How would you live if it were your last season of independence?
• Intentional Experiences:

  “If you knew this was the last time you had fully to yourself… I would show up and live differently.” (Tunde, 52:42)

  • Importance of appreciating solo time: Movies alone, traveling, ordering sushi in PJ’s—do it now, because partnership changes daily freedoms.

7. Single Pride vs. Wanting Love—Both Can Exist (56:33 – 59:40)

• Enjoying Singlehood—But Wanting Partnership:

  “I want to normalize that too… I’m alone, and I’m okay being alone. I am alone because I choose not to be with a fool … But I would like to meet somebody I actually like.” (Tunde, 58:24)

• Ashley’s Manifestation Story:
  • Deciding clearly “I want a partner this year” and then meeting her now-husband just before 40.
  • Encouraging Raina (and listeners): “Don’t say you’re okay alone if that’s not what you want. You’ll show up in the world differently.” (Ashley paraphrasing her matchmaker, 60:38)

8. Dating Intentionally & the Realities as a Public Woman (61:01 – 64:40)

• Matchmaking Horror Stories:
  • Tunde shares her worst matchmaking rejection: “We don’t have anyone compatible to you.” Ouch.
• Is Being a Public Figure a Liability for Dating?
  • Raina and Tunde reflect on whether their job, boldness, and success narrows their dating pool:

    “Do I think that successful women in general intimidate men? The wrong man, yeah, it does.” (Tunde, 63:42)

9. Practical Advice for Dating—And the Value of Fun (69:13 – 84:59)

• Cody Rigsby’s “Bring Your Hustle” Advice:

  “If you brought that same hustle into your dating life…” (Cody quoted by Tunde, 69:41)

  • The necessity of “leaving the house,” actively seeking connection, and the exhaustion that comes with dating as a busy, public woman.
• Funny vs. Tall/Hot—The Great Debate:
  • All three agree: The funny, emotionally bonded guy wins over a purely physically attractive one every time:

    “You’re supposed to be with this person forever… they’re not going to make you laugh?” (Ashley, 81:50)

10. Dating as a “Known” Person—Challenges & Comic Mishaps (85:04 – 89:56)

• Fan Energy on Dates:
  • Tunde recounts a plane meet-cute with a fan-turned-date who got way too “podcast” with his questions.
  • The eternal problem of being interesting for a living—many men turn dates into interviews.
• Raina and Ashley commiserate: The challenge of balancing openness, honest desire for partnership, and the reality that their lives/careers won’t appeal to every man (nor should they).

11. Intentionality, Openness, and Experiments in Dating (88:07 – 89:56)

• “Nine Date Experiment”
  • The hosts pitch Tunde on Amy Chan’s “date nine very different people” experiment to shake up habits and expand her pool.
  • Plans are hatched for Tunde to return next year and share results from a truly intentional last single summer.

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Notable Quotes & Moments (w/ Timestamps)

• “This is my last single summer.” – Tunde (00:04, 51:27)
• “If you knew this was your last time fully to yourself… I would live differently.” – Tunde (52:42)
• On confidence:
  “For me, confidence is knowing it all comes back… I’ll be on top again.” – Tunde (29:07)
• On rejection:
  “Sometimes it’s not that you are not ready for the opportunity… sometimes the opportunity is not ready for you.” – Tunde (43:54)
• On being single/proud:
  “I am alone because I choose to not be with the fool because I enjoy my peace.” – Tunde (58:24)
• On dating as a public woman:
  “Do I think that successful women in general intimidate men? The wrong man, yeah, it does.” – Tunde (63:42)
• On partnership:
  “An unfulfilled man can never fulfill you. He can never make you feel fulfilled.” – Tunde (82:14)
• On Ashley’s relationship manifestation:
  “I am meeting my person this year… I said it out loud, and I did it.” – Ashley (59:29-59:47)
• NYC street heroism:
  “The hottest of the four… ‘You’re going to get that coffee somewhere else.’ They were like, we got you.” – Ashley (17:43)

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• 00:32 – 06:22: Self-care + tour wrap talk
• 06:22 – 14:28: Raina’s Chinatown massage disaster
• 14:31 – 19:42: Ashley’s NYC street harassment and rescue
• 25:19 – 28:32: Sports Illustrated and confidence at 40 w/ Tunde
• 33:22 – 46:36: Tunde’s audition, rejection, and eventual Peloton breakthrough
• 51:20 – 56:33: “Last single summer” discussion: living with intention
• 56:33 – 64:40: Embracing wanting love, dating realities for successful women
• 69:13 – 84:59: Bringing intention to dating, funny vs. hot debate
• 85:04 – 89:56: Tunde’s “fan” date, the nine-date experiment

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Tone & Takeaways

The episode is effortless, laugh-out-loud funny, and touchingly honest—combining the GGE signature blend of wise, wild, and warm. Ashley and Raina, along with Tunde, encourage listeners to own their truth, call in what they want in love without shame, enjoy their independence, and never settle for less than delight—whether sweating solo, traveling, or searching for “the one.”

Final thought: Take the summer by storm, whether single or partnered, live with intention, and remember: “It’s not that you’re not ready for the opportunity; sometimes the opportunity just isn’t ready for you.”

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For More:

• Tunde: @tune2tunde | Peloton | Sports Illustrated | "Speak" (book) | “Sistas” on BET
• Girls Gotta Eat: girls gotta eat.com | @girlsgottaeatpodcast
• Listen to the next “Snack” episode every Thursday!

Transcript

[Ashley]

Okay. So you said to us that this is your last single summer.

[Tunde]

This is my last single summer.

[Ashley]

This podcast is a Dear Media production.

[Raina]

Hi, guys.

[Tunde]

Hi, guys.

[Raina]

Welcome back to another episode of Girls Gotta eat.

[Ashley]

Welcome back. June 1st first.

[Raina]

We are back in LA after being gone for three weeks. I know I needed so much maintenance.

[Ashley]

I. I can. You can see we're still here. So if you guys are watching, we're still here. Recording from Dear Media in New York.

[Raina]

Yeah.

[Ashley]

One of the first podcasts to record out of here.

[Raina]

Yeah, they just opened.

[Ashley]

Yeah, they just opened. It's so gorgeous.

[Raina]

Really beautiful. So I'm excited about this spot and we have a great episode for you guys today. And we're just really excited. And I woke up this morning, I was like, here. All the maintenance I need is the list. So. So I. I gotta get Botox filler. I need a manicure. You need a pedicure. And listen, I was taking a walk and I went to Washington Square park on Saturday.

[Ashley]

I looked at you.

[Raina]

I looked down at my own feet and I was like, I am humiliated to be in these streets. I got a pedicure. Just. I was like, I can't be in the world like this. And.

[Ashley]

Okay, Raina, it's that foot.

[Raina]

It's that.

[Ashley]

Yeah, I peeled a little off. My nails grow so fast. Cause that neutrophil. And I will keep a gel pedi on for a year. Like I'll trim my own nails with the polish still on there. I think I kept my wedding pedicure on for three months.

[Raina]

I know you did.

[Ashley]

And I was just trimming my toenails. Yeah, this is bad. And it matters in the summer. Hot take.

[Raina]

I only needed it because. Yeah, it's 90 degrees here. My toes were so gross. And they're gross enough as is. Like, I have to do the maintenance that I can do.

[Ashley]

I was thinking that I would maybe dial back my manicures. Just kind of be natural nails for the summer or people. Well, I love Julieta. Like we spend time together every month, but It's a friend. 90 minutes, two hours. And you know, we like to chit chat and. But I feel really free right now. I feel like my special is out in the world. I feel like I've been so busy from for years.

[Raina]

This is the freed up, the emotional space to get your nails done.

[Ashley]

No, I'm saying I feel less busy. It feels really nice. I think it's going to be a great summer. I haven't felt like this in a really long time where like sometimes I'LL have these moments where I'm like, I have nothing to do. Really. My to do list. I don't have anything to do. It feels really nice. You can't relate.

[Raina]

No, actually I can. As of first of all, last year, I can relate because you did all.

[Ashley]

I'm living like you in 2025.

[Raina]

And this is officially the end of the first leg of my tour. So 28, bit of a break. I finished off Cleveland and Pittsburgh. It would have been last week at this point. And so I have like a break for the summer except for two tour stops. I have to make up Salt Lake and Nashville, but I'm done besides that till September. It feels nice.

[Ashley]

It does feel really nice. And I kept saying it was just last year, it was like, when the tour's over, when the wedding's over, and then when the special's out in the world. And that took so much longer. And it was just like, it was a lot of energy and agony and just all the things. I feel really good.

[Tunde]

I feel really happy.

[Ashley]

So I will be able to stick to my regular manicures is the bottom line. Okay. But it's your birthday month.

[Raina]

Well, I'm also. Now that I'm like, oh my God, I have all this free time, I gotta move.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Raina]

Now I gotta, like, figure out how to move. And I'll keep you guys updated. I'm not trying to gatekeep, like, when I have a place in New York. When we have a plan, we'll tell you.

[Ashley]

So for Raina's birthday, she's getting herself a move.

[Raina]

Yes. I don't know what I'm doing, but I looked at a place today, so I'll let you guys know. And I do feel like the tour was so amazing. And thank you guys for coming out and to share this with Ashley, to share it with Brittany Schmidt, who's one of our other best friends. To do this and have you guys come out, it just. Nothing could ever mean more to me in the world. And I joke at the beginning of every show. You guys bought tickets to this without seeing a single standup clip of mine, but you really did. And so to have faith in me, I just. I'm very honored. So I will thank you guys for an amazing year. It is my dream come true. And thank you to Ashley for being on the road with me and Anna, our editor, who came to the very first show of the hour before you even saw the whole hour.

[Ashley]

Oh, in New York. Yeah.

[Raina]

Uh huh. And she saw it in New York this week. And so yeah, I'm just. I'm looking forward to the future. It's been great. Thank you guys so much. Yeah, let's thank our partner.

[Ashley]

A great summer.

[Raina]

Yeah. Need a vacation. All right. Thank you to Article. Get a beautiful new sofa, dining table or [e-mail] and Revolve. Get 15% off your first [e-mail] GGE with code GG.

[Ashley]

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[Raina]

Buffalo is one of my fastest selling cities. Was it? Yeah.

[Ashley]

Girl, I love this. Are you gonna eat some wings? I never asked you this before.

[Raina]

I don't wanna insult the people of Buffalo, but I really don't like Buffalo wings.

[Ashley]

But Buffalo boneless tenders.

[Raina]

Yeah.

[Ashley]

Why?

[Raina]

Can I ask you a question? Why do people say boneless wings and not chicken fingers?

[Ashley]

I just think a boneless wing is smaller. It's more wing shaped. A tender is long.

[Raina]

It's the size.

[Ashley]

I think it's the size. Something that's a little squatty and just 2 inches long is not a tender.

[Raina]

It's a squatty tender.

[Ashley]

It's. It's just a chunk. It's like a chunk.

[Raina]

I've just never wondered like, why don't people call them. Are those nuggets?

[Ashley]

No, not nuggets. It's in between. I feel like a boneless wing is the size between a nugget and a tender. It's like small, medium, large nugget, boneless wing tender.

[Raina]

So we're talking like one inch, two and a half inches, four inches.

[Ashley]

What are we talking about here?

[Raina]

I need Buffalo to weigh in because when people say boneless wings, I'm like, you're so. You're so lame. Because that's a chicken figure. And it's not a nuggie either.

[Ashley]

Yes, it's between a nugget and a tender. No buffalo way. And we need to know.

[Raina]

But thank you, Buffalo. Really more tickets than that any other city.

[Ashley]

Well, we just haven't been there.

[Raina]

That's true.

[Ashley]

So I'm glad you'll be there. I don't want to commit just yet, but I'll go there for the boneless wings.

[Raina]

If you are living here, I might make you come with me.

[Ashley]

We'll figure it out. Yeah. Well, here we have time.

[Raina]

Okay. So, Ashley, I've been, like, boiling over to tell you the story of so crazy and Anna and just everybody in the world. So I. This has never happened to me in my entire life. This is insane. Just to explain to you how tired I was. On Monday, I walked the length of Manhattan four times, all the way west and east twice. I was so tired.

[Ashley]

What were your steps? 20.

[Raina]

25,000 steps.

[Ashley]

I don't understand. Like, when I'm at 18, I'm like, there could be no more. Like, people walk 30,000 steps for Coachella. Like, they were posting that, and I don't understand it. Like, 20 is like, my legs are falling off.

[Raina]

I was. Thank you. That's okay. So just so you know, the head, the mind, you know, whole day flip flops.

[Ashley]

No, you didn't.

[Raina]

Full day flip flops. Because Melanie and I walked home after that plan, and the rats were the size of cats. And she was like, you shouldn't be in those fucking teaks on these streets. The biggest rats I've ever seen just

[Ashley]

running across your feet.

[Raina]

Yep.

[Ashley]

Okay.

[Raina]

25,000 steps. That day was insane. So by the time I got to Emily's, around 22,000, I was exhausted. So I was going over to Emily's and I was in Chinatown. And she was like, I need a little more time. Can you give me like an hour? And I was like, I need to go somewhere. I need to, like, sit down. I am so tired. And I'm in Chinatown. And in front of me, I see this sign for massages. And I'm like, I'll get a Chinatown, like, foot massage. And yeah, I was like, that will eat 30 minutes. And then I'm going to go over to Emily's. And so I go into this basement. I don't read any reviews. I don't know what this thing is going to. I don't know. I'm just like, There's a sign out front says, we get massages.

[Ashley]

I'm horny.

[Raina]

Yeah.

[Ashley]

So where's.

[Raina]

I go to this basement, and there's all these little rooms lined up. There's like eight rooms. They each have, like, a massage bed. Each room is the size of the bed.

[Ashley]

Yeah, I've been to, like, one place like this. Yeah.

[Raina]

Okay. So I walk into the room. There's like, paper towels on the bed. Basically, to just like, line it instead of it. So I lay down. There's just like a hole in the thing. I put my face in the hole. They put this sheet over me even though I'm fully clothed and it's 95 degrees outside, I'm sweating to death. This man comes in the room. He proceeds to give me a massage. He's pressing on areas so hard until they go numb. And then at other points, he's going so fast around my body. He's using one hand the whole time.

[Ashley]

Like a karate chop.

[Raina]

Yes. I'm like, has this guy ever touched a body before? It's insane to me. At one point, he took a phone call while he was giving me a massage, and I'm like, whatever, it's $30. Like, you get what you pay for. I started thinking about the other things I spent $30 on this week, and, like, this was a steal. So he is just sort of gyrating on my body, and I'm like, this is so. I just. I should just leave. And then I hear it from the other side of the wall. It's a man moaning. And this goes on for like two and a half minutes, the moaning. And then the moaning just stops. And I'm like, okay, I. It's fine. I can get through the rest of this massage. I pop up at one point and I go, how much longer? And he goes. He was like. He pointed. It was 22. I was 22 minutes. And I was like, I could get through eight more minutes of this for the story. Actually, from the other side of the wall, the other room, I hear. And then shut up. I did not think these places were real. I had no idea this was fucking real. And so I come out of the room and I pop up and I go, I think we're. I think we could just be done here. Thank you so much. You know, he's like, you still have a few minutes left. I was like, we don't though. So I hop up out of the bed and I go into the main room. And I'm like, can I just pay? He knocks on the door of one of the jerk off rooms, and some woman comes out. She just like, slides out the door

[Ashley]

and she has to ring me up hand sanitizer.

[Raina]

I know she. Her. Her hands got to be covered in gum. She's like, you can use your phone here. I'm like, please don't touch anything that is touching me. This is insane. So I paid and I ran out of there. I was a jerk off parlor.

[Ashley]

You were? Yeah. You were like at a brothel.

[Raina]

Yes. I did not know these really existed.

[Ashley]

I mean, are you sure what was happening?

[Raina]

Yes. It couldn't have been anything else, Right. I've gotten a lot of massages in my life. Never heard noises like this.

[Ashley]

Well, it's just like, I guess there's plausible deniability that got. That guy was really just enjoying it.

[Raina]

Totally. But the second person also on the other side of the room.

[Ashley]

So it was like a slap. Slap. Like it was like slap and tickle. Like it was like a hand job, hand job sound.

[Raina]

That's not what they did. Moan and then that was it. Yeah, some people like that. Listen, I'll give hand jobs like that. I don't really give hand jobs.

[Ashley]

I would have laughed at the moaning. I can't hear a man, like.

[Raina]

But I thought maybe it is just somebody who's enjoying the massage a little too much. One time I was getting massage and I asked this guy and I just talked the whole time. This guy in Santa Barbara, I remember years ago. And I was like, what's the weirdest stuff that's happened to you during massages? And he's like, people moan. People moan kind of a lot. And I was like, that's crazy. I would never think to like out loud moan. That's like inappropriate to the person. Like, it's really like. It's like verbal assault to the masseuse. Yeah.

[Ashley]

Like every once in a while I sigh a little too loud. I'm like, oh, reel it in.

[Raina]

I don't even lick my lips unless their hands are fully off of me.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Raina]

Because like, sometimes my lips get dry. Yeah. I don't want them to touch my thigh. And I'm like,

[Ashley]

that's crazy.

[Raina]

It was insane. And I was like this. I walked in there and they were like, just get some guy off the street to massage this girl. She wants a real massage.

[Ashley]

What?

[Raina]

This guy, he just was like, just going really fast. Gyro doing whatever.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Raina]

He pressed on my arms until he lost feeling repeatedly.

[Ashley]

The one hand karate chop is crazy. When you actually get karate chopped in a massage, you're like, I thought this. You guys weren't doing this anymore. We got this couple's massage when we were in Mexico for Alyssa's wedding. And the best I've ever had because it was overlooking the water. I can't remember if we talked about this, but Shashank and I love a couple's massage. And we've this. That was like our fourth one. Like, we really love them, so. But this was overlooking the water. It was amazing. She was amazing. I had a great massage. But I had told her as we were walking down onto the beach, don't touch my head for the couple. And I don't want the oil in my hair. It feels nice. Of course, who doesn't love a head massage? But if they don't use oil, then it's just like, dry hair. It's like.

[Raina]

It feels like it's not hear it

[Ashley]

kind of in your head. I just don't like the dry hater even more. So I just say, don't touch my head. Like, that's my one thing. I. Even when we do the little diagram, I put an X on my head because, you know, they say, like, where does. Where do you want to sign a diagram?

[Raina]

Life.

[Ashley]

Oh, really? I feel like the nicest spas I've been to, they give you a little thing. They're like, what do you want us to focus on? I cross an X through my head.

[Raina]

Maybe it's because I say, touch everything. She doesn't need the diagram. No one's ever handed me that.

[Ashley]

So we have this, like, great, great massage. Also, by the way, the last time they touched my head, I didn't say stop, and I regret it. Just like, dry rubbing your hair back and forth. I feel like it's causing breakage, whatever. I was like, regretful. I was like, I feel like my hair is all up from that. So I'm just super sensitive to it. And we'd already discussed it. She was giving me a great massage, and she goes for the head, and I yell out, no head shock. Like, I hear him, like, laugh. He was like, to have you getting massage. Y' all know head.

[Raina]

That's what he asked me when he walked in the room. He was like, no head.

[Ashley]

No head.

[Raina]

Oh, you just want to. And I kind of forgot about.

[Ashley]

She was like, oh, I'm so sorry. Like, we already discussed that. I didn't yell it. I just, like, go ahead, you know?

[Raina]

And no, it's a jump scare. When I go to get a massage and my hair is not on, like, wash day, and they go to touch my head.

[Ashley]

I know.

[Raina]

Jump out of that.

[Ashley]

I know. So after I kind of forgot about it, as we wrap up the massage, like, when you yelled out no. He was like, we'll see about relax mode. Well, that's crazy. And now you got to read the reviews on that place.

[Raina]

That's what Emily said. I said, you not check the reviews before you walk downstairs. I was like, I. I cannot tell you how tired I Was I was like, whatever happens in there happens in there.

[Ashley]

Yeah. And I mean sometimes you just want your feet rubbed. You've been walking, you're 22k steps. So last night we went to dinner at a place called La Dong, which I chose it based on the name alone. But I had been craving Vietnamese food. It was incredible. It's in Union Square ish area. Ladang check it out.

[Raina]

I was walking by because I went to Tompkins Square Bagel the other day and the line was like down the block.

[Ashley]

Yeah, I feel of myself, found this place, was able to get a rest.

[Raina]

Yeah, it was awesome.

[Ashley]

I chased Sapphire card. Did some like special reservations for chase people, you know, you link your card. I loved it. So you, Brittany came and met us. You walked home with her and I walked west with Megan and this guy came up to us on the street. It's like a tall, non threatening guy dressed pretty feminine, but it was a dude. And he was like not an unhoused person. Just to kind of tweak it out person. Okay. Weird energy. And came up and was like, do you have $5? And we were like no. And we didn't. And he was like, well you got to buy me a coffee. Like kind of demanded it. It was a weird energy. For the record, I have bought plenty of people food. I have given people money. I'm not a like pretend these people don't exist type of person.

[Raina]

When it's dark and late and I'm

[Ashley]

walking home and we were on like side. We weren't on an avenue, we were on a street and it was dark portion of the street. Again, a non threatening person. He had a purse, you know, it felt like there wasn't a weapon on him. But you don't know and wouldn't let up Raina. So the energy was really off. And he was like, you're going to buy me a coffee basically. And then proceeds to follow us to the point where we, when we tried to veer off, he blocked us.

[Raina]

Oh my God.

[Ashley]

We tried to cross the street and he like blocked us and stood there and like hands crossed and like kind of started to mock us. It was really weird. Again, I didn't feel like scared for my life.

[Raina]

You don't know what somebody's going to do.

[Ashley]

Like a big scary looking dude. I would have been panicked. Like we're something really bad is about to happen. But again this is like a non threatening type of person and but we still the way that he was acting was scary. Blocking us physically and then getting in our Face and like, you're going to buy me that coffee. I was like, oh, my God. And so I just like, linked arms with Megan. I like, we'll keep walking till we get to the avenue and we'll duck into someplace or whatever. So we were like almost all the way down the street to the avenue and we see these four dudes. And they were. Two were sitting, like on the street side, and two were sitting kind of like on the opposite sides of the sidewalk. These, like, four dudes. And like every single one of them your type, like, bald, bearded, tattooed, like, look like four bouncers, I swear. And so we clocked them immediately.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Ashley]

So we like, kind of like, we're like, we're gonna stop and hang out with these dudes. These dudes are gonna protect us. And we're fine right now, boyfriend. So the three of us, because this. This guy was walking with us, got up to these dudes who again, four of them kind of like on four corners across from each other on the sidewalk, if you can picture it. And the person who was kind of harassing us kind of walked ahead and then we stopped. So we're. Then it's like, there he's on the other side of the dudes and we're behind. So he turns around and he's like, oh, no. Now I've like, these people involved.

[Raina]

Yes.

[Ashley]

We're just standing there and like, everyone feels what's happening. The bouncers are like, yeah. And they. The one guy goes, he bothering you? And we were like, yeah. And he was like, we got you. It was hot.

[Raina]

And you would like. I would like you to bother my friend after this.

[Ashley]

So then the guy realizes what's happening. He goes, they were gonna buy me a coffee. And like really starts like a really unwell person. Yeah, no, it was. It was just really unsettling.

[Raina]

It would really scare me, Ashley, to be at night walking around by myself like that. It was really scary. And like the.

[Ashley]

Again, the physical blocking, the mocking, it was really unsettling. And so the hottest of the four, which is like, you're going to get that coffee somewhere else. Like, we're just like, we got you.

[Raina]

It was just like a porn Ashley. And then we all went home and fudged.

[Ashley]

So. So then the biggest one was like, Let me walk you to that. What are you girls doing? You get in a cab, you get. What are you. What are you. How are you getting home? I'm going to walk you at least up to the avenue. So he walks us up to the.

[Raina]

Sounds like the Coffee guy's a paid actor.

[Tunde]

I know.

[Ashley]

So he walks us up the avenue, and we just are chatting with him. They were MTA workers on their break, getting ready to, like, go back to work or something. But just like, the guy we like.

[Raina]

Where are you from?

[Ashley]

I was like, I'm from the Bronx. And again, he was the least hot of the four. But the two of them, I was like, God damn, I hate that. Rain is not here.

[Tunde]

Okay.

[Raina]

Melanie has always told me that I should end up with an outer borough guy. She says it continuously. You should be with an outer borough guy. Like, this sounds like my guy.

[Ashley]

Yeah. So anyway, it just was like, a weird situation. Meghan even said, like, that's the most persistent anyone's ever been. Usually, again, like, I'm happy to help people here and there if I feel like someone's harassing me. Absolutely not. And you got to get out of that situation because you don't know what people are going to do. And so we were both like, that was super weird. But we were rescued.

[Tunde]

Really?

[Ashley]

The chivalry is not dead.

[Raina]

That is so nice to hear.

[Ashley]

They loved it. You know, those guys ate that up.

[Raina]

Like, that made their night.

[Ashley]

We got to, like, save these women, protect these.

[Raina]

Yeah. They're talking about you guys today, so

[Ashley]

I just thought that was, like, a nice story. Kind of like also. It's just so New York. Like New Yorkers to help each other.

[Raina]

Where did you meet them?

[Ashley]

On the street, waiting to get. I guess they had to go back at 11 or something. They were on their break.

[Raina]

Okay. If there was, like, a bar you could recommend.

[Ashley]

Hey, where are you guys going to be tomorrow? And what train line do you work? Is there. Where could we find you if we wanted to find. If we had a friend that wanted to find you guys again, like, where would we send her?

[Raina]

Just ride the mta. Just ride the subway until you find us.

[Tunde]

God, I can't wait to move back

[Raina]

here, date men here.

[Ashley]

So that was our little story.

[Raina]

Glad you're safe.

[Ashley]

Yeah, we made it. Okay, well, two. Two New York stories for you guys. And we have Tune Day today, which we are so excited. And we had her in. I remember where I was when her episode aired because Dewey had just passed. And I believe 2021. January 2020. I believe it was. Believe it was MLK day and inauguration Day for. Oh, my Joe Biden. Oh, no, that's a Tuesday, right? Whatever.

[Raina]

It was MLK Day.

[Ashley]

Yeah. When her episode came out. And then the next day was the Inauguration Day. Whatever.

[Tunde]

I just.

[Ashley]

I just Remember this kind of specifically. So it's been over five years and we ran into her while we were here last week at the Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition brunch. She's one of the models this year and we were just gotta get you back on. So she's really fun stuff to to say and talk about.

[Raina]

Really excited to have her. And she's written a book since we last saw her. So lots to talk to her about.

[Ashley]

Yes.

[Raina]

So without further ado, we'll just thank our partners and we'll get into it with her.

[Ashley]

Okay. I am so excited to tell you guys about every year after. So this is a bestselling novel from Carly Fortune and it is going to be an original series on prime based on the novel. I read this two or three summers ago. I absolutely love it. And it follows Sam and Percy across six summers as they take a second chance at love that never really let go. So if you love like a slow burn, friends to lovers, romance, this is the one. If you like something, I'm not gonna name another show as while we're here but if you like something set at the beach, like a lake house, beach house vibe, you might know what I'm talking about. You're gonna love this. So you get this like lakeside summer aesthetic, childhood best friends. There's that tension that we love and like a one that got away element. It is nostalgic, emotional, so romantic and it really captures that very specific ache of wondering what if and finally getting an answer. I loved this book so, so, so much. And I really love this author. I think I've dmed with her a couple times and she's really great. So we've all been there and just had that like summer crush friend friends that we've had crushes on. You know, we've all, we've all ruined your life, experienced it and just all that nostalgia and I just love something that takes place at like a lake or a beach. So you guys are gonna absolutely love it. I am so happy they made it into a show. And again you are gonn prime video watch every year after streaming June 10th only on Prime.

[Raina]

Okay. And as we're talking about moving, what better time to talk about furniture? Article makes it effortless to create a stylish, long lasting home with unbeatable prices. So Ashley and I are longtime fans of this brand and everything they do. There's tons of styles to choose from when you go to their website. So my house is more like coastal boho but they have mid century modern and scandi Inspired pieces and they have things for every room, so bedrooms, living room, of course. And since it is getting hot out, we can focus on like the outdoor stuff. I find it so hard to find high quality outdoor pieces that don't just like really weather with the season. So I love what they have. This one in particular, Daphne D A P H NE they have all of these like outdoor couches that are so beautiful. There's like a nice mix of fabric and wood. There's so much to choose from. There's really high quality, like I said, so it just ages really well. The packaging is meticulous. When it gets sent to you, the weight and feel of the product and the fact that it comes mostly assembled, they offer fast and affordable shipping across the US and Canada. There's options for professional assembly, which I've always chosen to do and their delivery is great. You can follow the driver on the way to you. Ashley and I love their customer service and on top of that they have a 30 day satisfaction guarantee. So with the 30 day guarantee you can shop with confidence and if you're not completely in love with furniture, you can easily return it. I think you will love it though. And there's so much to choose from. If you don't know how to style anything, check out their Instagram, check out their website, they have tons of inspo photos. And if you're in the market for a beautiful new sofa, dining table or bed, head over to article.com okay, and

[Ashley]

Father's Day is coming up this month and we are telling you about Story Worth. You know I always get so excited to tell you about Story Worth. So this is the absolute best gift. Rain and I have both done it for our dads and it's so fun. So we've told you about it but just in case you are not familiar, you're new around here. Story Worth is this beautiful book that is going to be a story about your father. And the way that they do it is each week Storyworth sends him a question about his life and then he responds however he wants. He can write back over email or a voice recording or even a guided phone call. So I think when we did this it was they just wrote it out and we would like look in our dads would be at their computers like tip tapping away but now they could do these voice recordings or a guided phone call. So whatever they prefer. And then Storyworth is just going to meet him where he is at so he can just focus on the joy of remembering and reflecting. You can pick the questions I don't think I did this for my dad. I think I did it for my mom. I think my dad was just like whatever they have pre written is fine. He'll figure it out. Those questions they have are great but you can just choose which ones if some don't feel relevant or ones that you really want to do. And then he'll tell the story and then story Worth going to compile everything, his words, his photos, his life into a beautiful hardcover book. The book is really stunning and it's not some like picture book you may be picturing. Like this is a really special keepsake book. Families have used Storyworth to create over 1 million books. More than 50,000 five star reviews. It's a treasure your family will love. You can get multiple copies. So my brother and I obviously have the copies that our parents have done. And new this year, Story worth unlimited plan. You guys, I can't recommend this enough. You buy this plan once and then you can give Story Worth Memoirs to friends and family all year. Plus it comes with their newest features and multiple full color book copies. So that is truly the way to go. But whatever you choose, we just think this is the absolute perfect gift. Dads are hard to buy stuff for. So this is like truly the best. And then you're gonna have this amazing keepsake book. So this year give dad a gift that captures who he really is before the stories get harder to remember. Father's day is Sunday, June 21st. Order right now and save up to $20 at storyworth.com GGE Save up to [e-mail] GGE storyworth.com GGE and let's get it.

[Raina]

Okay guys, we are very excited to welcome back a guest today. She is a world class peloton instructor where she also just launched her first ever apparel collection. She is a 2026 Sports Illustrated rookie, a New York Times best selling author of Speak. Find your voice, trust your gut and get from where you are to where you want to be. Please welcome back to the show Tunde. Oh, you name.

[Tunde]

Hey, hey.

[Ashley]

And Fetty Wap backup dancer.

[Tunde]

Listen, just send to the list. Yes, yes.

[Ashley]

So we were so excited to run into you last week at this Sports Illustrated event. Congrats on being one of the models.

[Tunde]

Thank you so much.

[Ashley]

How does it feel?

[Tunde]

I mean I'm a Sports Illustrated swim model. Like how do you think it feels? It feels exactly like what you think.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

Well, congrats. Yeah, it feels pretty surreal, pretty crazy.

[Ashley]

Tell us about Fetty Wap and tell us what happened that is.

[Tunde]

I love that. This is where we are starting. So basically they were like, you know, it's the Sports Illustrated event, like kickoff and Fetty Wap is our surprise performer. And so basically they're like, hey, go out on the stage, you're gonna announce something.

[Ashley]

You specifically. No, all the girls. All the girls.

[Tunde]

Okay, so we all line up, or many of us line up. Maybe some knew better, but many of us line up and we're going out there on stage. And then I realized you're not announcing anything. Like the plan has shifted. You guys are just gonna dance on stage. And so I.

[Ashley]

That's a bait and switch. If I ever heard of one, I

[Raina]

would be so scared. Ashley would love it because she can like really bust down. I can't.

[Tunde]

I can.

[Raina]

I don't know how to do this.

[Tunde]

I needed more drinks before hitting this stage.

[Ashley]

Yes.

[Tunde]

I felt like my 19 year old self was coming out in real time. And he's looking at me singing his song, wanting me to like, because I'm right next to him and he's singing instructor dance vibe with me. Enjoy my song with me. And I don't know the words to songs. I like, don't know words. And then once I know the word, I sing that part loud. And then I ship. Hello. You know, just hit 1738. And so it was just, it was the most embarrassing but also very surreal, cool moment of my life.

[Raina]

Where did you shoot for Sports Illustrated?

[Tunde]

I shot in Montauk.

[Raina]

Oh, you did okay with Hannah Burner and all the girls.

[Tunde]

With Hannah Burner and all the girlies.

[Raina]

The shoot looks amazing. It looked incredible.

[Tunde]

Wild. Ben Watts was the photographer. It was just incredible, you know, like little 12 year old, 19 year old, 29 year old, 38, 39 year old. Tunde wouldn't have believed this moment. And so to do this at 40 years old is just, it's like a testimony to myself. Like if, like I really believe I am just getting started. I really believe I'm in my prime. I'm in this space right now where, you know, you kind of like sometimes like look at old pictures of yourself and you're like, God, why didn't I enjoy that body? Why didn't I enjoy that tight skin? Like all the things I'm in this space in my life where I'm like, no girl, like right now is the best. Right now is as best as it has been. And so I'm old enough now to appreciate it. I think like in my twenties I wasn't able to appreciate tight Skin. And now in my 40, I'm not even saying 40s, just in my 40 year, my 40th year. I'm just, like, really excited and grateful because I know that this part doesn't last forever.

[Raina]

Do you feel like. I mean, our audience is always like, how do you get confidence? And I feel the same. I feel like at 40, I'm finally not, like, looking at every flaw on my body, every wrinkle. I mean, listen, I do plenty of work, but I don't let it ruin my day. I don't put on an outfit and think, like, I don't want to go out to dinner because of the way I look today. And. And it's taken me a lifetime to get there. So do you think it just comes with age or do you do, like, self talk?

[Tunde]

Yeah, that's real shit. I don't want to go out to dinner because I hate the way I look tonight.

[Raina]

That's how I. My whole teens and twenties, I was just like, this outfit looks bad. I'm in a bad mood now. I'm upset.

[Tunde]

Like.

[Raina]

But I think, do you feel like with age it just comes naturally?

[Tunde]

I think that for me, confidence is knowing that it all comes back. Like, put it this way, like, if I feel uncomfortable in my body or if I feel uncomfortable about something that I said in a meeting, the way I responded, to me, confidence is knowing that you are going to feel good in your body again. Confidence is knowing. I meant I have said the right thing in the meeting today, but I know in the next one I'm gonna speak up and speak my mind, and it's gonna come out perfectly, and I'm gonna execute it in the way that I intend. And so to me, confidence is knowing,

[Ashley]

like, it's all okay and I can trust myself.

[Tunde]

I can trust myself. It's all fine. Everything is fine. Everything is fine. Listen, I didn't Slate. It wasn't the best outfit of my life. I don't feel the best. But, like, I'll be on top again. Yes, I'll win again. No one's thinking about, you know. Right, right.

[Ashley]

I also just think finding the right role models. I mean, I love this issue of Sports Illustrated Swimsuit. I mean, you and Ilana Mar and Molly Sims, and she posted a thing about her age as well. And. And even people like Hannah Burner. I mean, these are beautiful women with real bodies and strong women and all kinds of different ways and confident women and women that are confident in their age. And I just love to see it. I think we are really pushing up against some body stuff these days that, like, I haven't seen since, like, we grew up with the thinness. And so it's just like, we've gotta combat that with, like, real women, real confident women. And I just love all these role models. And I think it's, like, super important to. For young girls, too, to follow the right people and look up to the right people.

[Tunde]

Right, Right. I was reading and there was an article that came out, and it was like, the six celebrities over 40 who slayed it at the Sports Illustrated launch. And I was on the list, and I just thought to myself, I was like, oh, my God, I'm on the over 40 list. One, I was incredible company. I mean, are you kidding me? Molly Sims Tiffany Haddish Nicole English like, hello. But yet also, there are often times where I feel I'm often like, gosh, maybe I shouldn't have told everyone my age. Like, is that going to hold me back? Because for so long, I mean, as women, you were taught, like, once people know how old you are in this

[Raina]

business, put her out to pasture.

[Tunde]

Put her out to pasture. So some, every once in a while, that thought comes up, but the louder thought is, I'm doing this so that women, girls that are younger than me, know that it continues to get better with age. I'm single, I have no kids. And I can't tell you every time that I'm on Instagram or online and I see a celebrity who is pregnant for the first time at 42 or 45 or 52, like, that builds me up, that makes me feel seen. It makes me feel like I am not alone. And so if my story, stepping into who I am at the age of 35, if that inspires anybody, then, hey, thanks, I'm happy to be on that list.

[Ashley]

Totally. And that those headlines, I'm like, part of me is like, yeah, let's highlight this. And then part of me is like, what's the tone here? Like, women over 40 in swimsuits.

[Raina]

She's so brave.

[Ashley]

Or people were talking about Hillary Duff and she's like, 38 or something there. Can you believe it? It's like, what are we doing here?

[Tunde]

Yes, but we can believe it. Yeah.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

What?

[Raina]

Well, it's funny that we're all perpetuating this, that, like, we will all face. You will all be 40.

[Ashley]

I think it's crazy.

[Raina]

And I think very much like our audience, mine and Ashley Mai's audience, like, has grown up with us. Yours has, too, because you've been an instructor for so long. And there's. How many people are like, I've taken her classes for six, seven years. And they're growing up with you, so to see you continue to be confident about who you are is, like, very important, I think.

[Tunde]

Yeah, that's the wild thing.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

The people that follow me, we are. We're growing up together, I think when I started Peloton, I was, what, 32?

[Raina]

I'm bad at math, so it's been eight years.

[Tunde]

Yeah, well, I don't know. Put the math away. I was 32 or 33. And, yeah, I think about that all the time. Like, people have literally seen me. They've been with me stepping into this season that I'm in, this era that I'm in. So it's super cool because it feels like you're doing it with friends. Yeah, yeah.

[Ashley]

They've been on the journey. Like, we feel like that with this podcast. We probably had it about as long as you've been an instructor, and so people, like, been on the ride. So we wanted to talk to you. We had Cody on at the beginning of the year, and I didn't totally know the whole story of that. He really helped you get in there. And I don't know, I just kind of want to hear it from your side, too. Of just initially, they didn't choose you, and he rode for you, no pun intended. And now look at you.

[Tunde]

Now Cody's my fairy godmother. Yeah. If it wasn't for Cody, I wouldn't be here.

[Raina]

Wow.

[Tunde]

Like, literally. We argued a little bit on how the story went down, but I proved. I've proven it's in my DMs. I still have it. He found me on Instagram doing fitness stuff.

[Raina]

You were a makeup artist, right?

[Tunde]

I was a makeup artist, but I was so. I was a makeup artist for 16 years. I was kind of like, at the. It was my passion. I loved it until I. Until I didn't. I loved it until I hated it. And so I was trying to, like, step into whatever was next for me. I knew that I really loved fitness.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

I had this blue light vision, this divine download of information where I saw myself as a fitness instructor.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Tunde]

Took a cycling class that changed my life. After that cycling class, I had this, again, like, blue light vision. This wave of blue energy moved from my fingertips into my toes. And within a matter of five seconds, I knew that I'd be cycling for the rest of my life. I knew that I'd be teaching. And without even knowing what Peloton Was at the time I knew that I'd be able to impact the lives of millions of people by virtue of a bike. I saw it that clear. I was certain. I was sure.

[Ashley]

Oh my God.

[Raina]

Have you always had like visions like this?

[Tunde]

It's very interesting that you ask that. Sure. That was the first time I really trusted it. In hindsight, yes. I've had visions both since and then after. Nothing came in as loud as that one did. Wow. Wow. I was sure. I started crying and laughing. And I was laughing because it was almost as though I felt like somebody pulled me and said, look inside this portal. You get to see. And I laughed and cried in that moment because I knew what I saw was certain and I knew that it was like, divine that I got to see.

[Ashley]

Oh my God. Who I got to see. I love this.

[Raina]

We love.

[Ashley]

Woo woo. Shit.

[Tunde]

We love. It was every time I say it, I have chills. Cause it was just so real. And clearly it was real. Cause here I am. But I leave New York. I was in New York when this vision happened. I say, okay, I'm gonna go start cycling. And then imposter syndrome set in. I was like a former overweight kid, picked on, made fun of, teased. I thought to myself, nobody's going to find me motivating. Like, nobody's gonna to want, want to see me on the bike. My voice is annoying. I'm not gonna. Nobody's gonna find me inspiring. And so I kind of like pushed the idea aside. I told two friends, my best friends, Christy and Max. I told him about this divine download. And so Max continued to like, push me. They both, Christy, they both pushing me fast forward. I start teaching at this mom and pop shop. The owner of the shop, I used to take classes at her studio. And she looks at me and she's says, I'm gonna make you a star like you are. You're gonna be my star instructor here. And so, bless her heart, her name is Mimi Benz. She invested a lot in me, put me on billboards, put made me the face of the website. And so Cody is looking to find an instructor at the same time. And he's specifically looking to find somebody outside of New York. He is on just like a black hole, I guess on Instagram.

[Raina]

Black hole. Also, we're talking about Cody Rigsby. We haven't said his last name. If you guys don't know Cody Rigsby,

[Ashley]

he needs no last name. Tune in, Cody.

[Tunde]

Cody's down this rabbit hole of just like fitness studios, not in New York. And he comes across my Picture on the website in la, stalks my Instagram and then asks if he can fly me out to New York to audition. I had only been with the mom and Pop studio a very short time, like two or three months at this time. I go out, I audition. He looks at me after the audition, like, smiling. Cheek to cheek. Some of the production techs come out, and they're looking at me, and they're like, girl, you killed that.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

Cody says, that was the best audition I've ever seen. I cannot wait to train you. I cannot wait for you to work here. So, baby, I go home. I. On the way back to the airport, I call two of my best friends, Christy and Kim, and I said their mom was on the phone. It was all four of us.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

On connected call. My mother passed away, so I didn't have my mom to share in that moment, but I'm on the phone with their mom, and they're like, oh, my God, we are so mad because now you're moving to New York, but we are so happy for you. We all cried. Yeah. And then, you know, Cody says, we are opening London right now. The powers that be that make the final decision, they're away. But once they get back to review you, review your tape, can't wait for you to come a couple of weeks later. Every single day for a few weeks, every time my phone rang, every time

[Ashley]

I email, I mean, I feel this.

[Tunde]

I am waiting for Cody. Like, it is Cody Rigsby calling to tell me, no, I would be like,

[Raina]

this is like a man that's ghosting me. Like, I did. Please text me. I look at my phone every second,

[Tunde]

but it's not even, like, ghosting, because I'm. I'm sure there's a second date. Right? You told me to buy the clothes.

[Raina]

We had a great time.

[Tunde]

Told me what restaurant to meet you at. We had a great time.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

You had more fun than me.

[Raina]

Yeah.

[Ashley]

Right?

[Raina]

Were we on the same date? Because this was the best date.

[Tunde]

Right. So, you know, a couple weeks go by, I wake up, get the ding. Email goes off. I open my email from Cody Rigsby, we regret to.

[Ashley]

No, no. And I. The fact that I know that you got the job, and I'm still so upset.

[Raina]

Wait, I just. I did not see this coming.

[Ashley]

We were back in California, but. Oh, my God.

[Tunde]

I know. So I don't remember what was in the middle of the email. Top of the email. We regret to inform you. And then just before his signature, he writes, I want you to know this was not a unanimous Decision. He wanted me to know.

[Ashley]

Of course, you already knew his decision.

[Tunde]

And it's so funny because now knowing Cody, I know how difficult that was for him to write. But even at that time, without knowing him in the way that I do now, I could hear the hurt in the email.

[Ashley]

Uh huh.

[Raina]

It's just to tell somebody like, I root for you, I believe. And you now this is outside of your hands is like heartbreaking.

[Tunde]

Right.

[Ashley]

So then what happened?

[Tunde]

So at the time it was. I can't remember how many people weigh in on the vote, but it had to be unanimous.

[Raina]

Oh, okay.

[Tunde]

And so there were two votes that didn't go my way. And it was the two. Two of the.

[Raina]

Let's say their whole names, if you will.

[Tunde]

We need not speak their names here.

[Ashley]

Addresses like Baltimore.

[Tunde]

I've never met these people, by the way.

[Ashley]

Right.

[Tunde]

And so I get an email eight months later and I'm working on set at this time shooting this reality show that never got picked up.

[Ashley]

Oh my gosh, God.

[Tunde]

Also, if that reality show picked up, I probably wouldn't be here either. It was a show like you traveled around the world drinking wine. I don't need any of that footage to ever be released.

[Raina]

That's how I feel about when I'm drinking on camera. Nobody needs to see that.

[Tunde]

Nobody needs to see that.

[Ashley]

That's so funny. It sounds like a setup though.

[Tunde]

I gained 10 pounds in a week shooting that show. Drinking win. So all that to say there were things happening at that time, but nothing was peloton. And I remember after I got that no from Cody, I'd only told maybe four people that I was even auditioning. I like to keep things real close until it dates.

[Raina]

Yeah, us too.

[Tunde]

And so I will never forget, I was on a hike with my friend Jade and the four people that I told, every time that peloton commercial came on, they'd be like, f you and they like change the channel. And you know, I supported their hate because you love when your friends are mad at somebody for you. But also, I couldn't give the F you to peloton because I just didn't believe that. I didn't believe that it was over. Yeah, I seen it, I was sure. And so then I start going through this like really depressed state because not because I didn't get a job, I'm down because I believed myself, I was sure. And I'm down in this moment because I'm doubting what I believe with certainty to be true. So then I'm questioning myself.

[Ashley]

Right.

[Tunde]

So eight Months later, I get the call from Cody, and he says, essentially, we were fools. If you are not busy, like, would you come out and audition again? So I flew back out to New York.

[Raina]

Did you think, like, I can't handle the heartbreak if you say no again, or were you like, I'm this sure

[Tunde]

I'm not that girl. I will try something a hundred times

[Raina]

until I get it. Okay, good.

[Tunde]

There is nothing that will ever keep me from something that is. There's nothing. No heartbreak, no embarrassment, a no that could ever keep me from something that is mine.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

So it was mine. So I went to claim it. I will say this. When I showed up to the first audition, my boyfriend at the time said, it is yours. It is up to you. If you are going to allow someone else to go in there and take it from you, it's already yours. You're gonna decide if you want somebody else to take it from you. So go up and claim it. And so that's kind of the mindset that I went in with the second time. I thought to myself, this can be taken. It was taken before.

[Raina]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

So I didn't go in with the same sureness. Everybody always says, like, what did you do so right in your second audition that you didn't do in the first? Full disclosure, my first audition was better than my second.

[Raina]

Oh, okay.

[Tunde]

My second. I messed up. I stuttered on my words a little bit. I wasn't as confident with, like, even the playlist that I chose, like, the first time was more me. The second time, I didn't know. I know now why there was the no, you know, and Cody kind of alluded to it a little bit. He said, there's been some shift in our alignment. I think that the person that is, you know, in power, if you will now, I think that they will go more in your favor.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Tunde]

And so. So with that being said, it was almost what he was saying was it was not you. And I remember Cody and I had met at a coffee shop. He was walking me through everything you need to do. And I kept saying, what did I do wrong? Like, what should I not do? He said, do everything the same. And in my head, I can't do everything the same because what I did before wasn't enough. And so I'm thinking to myself, maybe I'm too muscular. Cause I'm comparing myself to my body and everybody else's body. Maybe I'm too black. I don't see anybody doing dark skin. Maybe it was because my hair was in braids. So I take my hair out of braids. I lost weight, mind you. I had, like, a week. I did. I. I tried to change so many things about me. I changed my playlist. I want to make my playlist more Middle America. And so here's what I say to it. Sometimes it's not that you are not ready for the opportunity of a lifetime. Sometimes the opportunity of a lifetime just isn't ready for you. Sometimes it's not that you are not ready for the opportunity. Sometimes the opportunity is not ready for you. Essentially, I didn't get the job because they never had anybody like me. I didn't get the job because they couldn't see me there, because there was nobody there that looked like me. I can't change that. The opportunity, y', all, you were not ready for me. And when the shift happened and someone who made the final decision was ready for me, when that person was there, I was ready for the opportunity.

[Raina]

And to see you teach a peloton class, I mean, it's just. They should have. They're. They were so wrong.

[Tunde]

They were fools.

[Raina]

I mean, Ashley and I just. We love your classes. We could go through a list of them. I mean, truly, I. I was telling you that I put the Beyonce class you did with Alex Toussaint. I just put it on to listen to it.

[Ashley]

I mean, you're just.

[Raina]

You're so inspirational. We both, like, cry to that ride and. And to watch you do it, I'm like, how wrong were these people? It had nothing to do with your weight or how you looked or your hair or your skin. Like, they were. They were just wrong. Yeah.

[Ashley]

And I think about this lot. I've dealt with a lot with comedy and with my comedy special and different things, and it's like, sometimes there are gatekeepers that don't get it, and they don't like you, and that's subjective. And I had a friend just sent me this message, and it was so beautifully written about kind of like people that are in charge of decisions that are don't get it or don't see it. And it sucks sometimes that they don't, and they're wrong, and people make poor decisions. And you're. To your point, it's different. You're like, they hadn't seen anyone like me before, and it felt unfamiliar, and so it's a no. So it was just. It's tough sometimes they didn't see it.

[Tunde]

But also, it wasn't for them to see. If I'd gotten that job, Ashley, if I'd gotten that job, the first time around. So the position was vacant for eight months because, again, it had to be a unanimous decision. So both Robin and Cody, who were from the instructor side of it, both continued to advocate and push for me. And so as people were coming in and auditioning, they kept saying no to the people coming in because they kept saying, Tunde was better than her, Toonday was better than her, Tunde was better than her. And so the people that said no, it wasn't for. It wasn't for them to get. If they had turned around and said, okay, bring her back, and I'd gotten the job under them, I don't think that they would have wanted me to flourish. I think that they would have almost buried me. You know, I always say that peloton is almost like, it's casting. It's casting.

[Raina]

Yes.

[Tunde]

So you want somebody who's that energy and another person who's that energy, and you don't need two people to be exactly the same. And so if I'm cast and you're the casting director, you're gonna put me in a role that's smaller if you didn't really want me here. And so I do think that when the shift happened and when I got hired, I was hired by a team of that really wanted me there, wanted me to thrive and put me in a position to be seen 100%.

[Ashley]

Oh. I mean, the whole time you're telling the story, I'm like, it worked out exactly how it was supposed to. Eight months later, it's like, I can't even imagine it working out the first time that, you know, it's just, like, it all played out.

[Tunde]

It's all happening for you.

[Raina]

And I just think all the time, some people just have bad taste. Like, more than 50% of the population voted for Donald Trump. That's insane to me.

[Ashley]

Allegedly.

[Raina]

That's crazy. Yeah, allegedly. But, like, I don't understand the taste. Taste 50% or more of people. And, like, that's. That's what happened here. Like, I. We don't understand the taste of somebody that didn't cast. That's insane.

[Tunde]

Yeah.

[Ashley]

I think of this quote all the time. It was from the Von Dutch documentary, and it says, never underestimate the poor taste of the American people.

[Raina]

I think about all the time.

[Ashley]

And meanwhile, that's what led Don Von Dutch to get so popular. But I've even heard, I think Paige desorbo says, like, I don't want everyone to like me. People have bad taste. Taste.

[Tunde]

So I just think these things help

[Ashley]

me all the time, you know, so when you're like, I'm doing this thing, I'm proud of it. This is the best. This is all I got. Yeah, this is me. And you might not like that. That's okay.

[Raina]

I'm not gonna be for everybody. That's fine. Everybody's not for me. When I think of like the amount of content out in the world that I don't care for, that it goes both ways and there's plenty to go around.

[Tunde]

Right?

[Raina]

You know.

[Ashley]

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[Raina]

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[Ashley]

So I'm head to toe today. The little older but the top is free people. The jeans are Citizen from Revolve and the flip flops are teak. So everything I'm wearing, probably even my

[Raina]

underwear, I have those Citizen jeans. We both have teaks. Sandals on. I have super down short jean shorts and my watch is. I think it's cedra is how you say it's.

[Ashley]

Yeah, yeah. Send Dre shoes, accessories, all the things, I mean, so good for summer.

[Raina]

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[Ashley]

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[Raina]

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[Ashley]

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[Raina]

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[Ashley]

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[Raina]

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[Ashley]

Okay. So you said to us the other day at this brunch that this is your last single summer. Talk to us.

[Tunde]

No, this is my last single summer.

[Raina]

Okay. And I believe you because you are kind of witchy.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Raina]

I feel like you have a premonition, and I believe you. Hey, so do you feel like you want to approach this from, like, I'm about to go crazy this summer, or are you, like, it's time to manifest what I really want and, like, be intentional? Like, what are we. What are we manifesting for the next couple months? What are we doing?

[Tunde]

I believe in the power of the both. And. Okay, like, I can go crazy and live. Like, you know, when you hear my last single summary, I can live crazy and wild and free with the intention that you may think. And it can be absolutely. What you said. Like, I think that I can sit with self and meditate and manifest and call in, like, when I say it's my last single summer. Like, everybody's like, what does that mean? If you knew that this was the last time that you had fully to yourself, without the commitment that you need to make to a partner, without what it takes to give to be a mother. If you knew that this was your. Like, let's take relationships out of it. If you knew this was your last summer living in your home state or in your country. Like, if you knew this was the last summer before you. You left New York.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

Like, I would show up and I would live in New York differently. I would go to restaurants that I've never been to. I'd go see shows that I'd never seen. If I knew it was my last trip to Italy, I'd. I'd experience Italy in a different way.

[Raina]

Vacation energy.

[Tunde]

I'd vacation, like, different, like, vacation energy. And so when I say it's my last single summer, I think about the. I know that one day, one day, whenever that day makes come that I find my person. I know that I will mourn this life, this life that I am so. This part of my chapter that I'm so eager to leave, turn the page on, move away from. I know that there are days that I will look back and not be able to turn back to this page. I'll just think about it. And so I want to do everything that I know that I may give up. And so it's like just, like, time to myself, experiencing different people, maybe going on dates with people and I've already started, but, like, going on dates with people that Maybe they're not my type. Like, my type hasn't worked. So I'm trying. Your type. You know what I'm saying?

[Ashley]

You should. Yes.

[Tunde]

And so I'm just like. I'm trying to experience life in a new way, in a different way and in a way that I may. I know that I may not be able to. And everybody's like, well, God, what if you. What if you're still single next summer? Baby, if I'm still single next summer, then I'm still single next summer. It doesn't. It doesn't hurt.

[Ashley]

I'm not embarrassed.

[Tunde]

It doesn't hurt to live as though this were my last. Yes.

[Raina]

I love what you said. I feel so much to respond to, but I love acknowledging that, like, there's a lot of really nice things about being single and being untethered and not being responsible to another person and their schedule and their feelings and what matters to them. And you give up a lot to be in a relationship. You have to consider another person's time and energy and what they need from you. And there are a lot of really nice things about being single. So to enjoy it temporarily, I think, is really important.

[Tunde]

I've been single for seven years. So you just said, like, you know, you give up things, right? I think about something as simple as going to the movies. When I go to the movies, I go to the movies by myself. I don't have to, like, negotiate about what we're seeing. Because, you know, last time, the last two times, it was my choice. I don't negotiate about where we. Where I sit. I get to eat all my popcorn by myself. I go on solo vacations all the time. I go where I want to go. I stay in the hotel that I want to stay in. I make a plan. And then guess what? If I decide that I want to stay at the beach for the next two hours instead of moving on to the next thing on the to do list, then I stay at the beach for the next two hours. So it's like. It's just the subtle, like, the little micro things that I get to do because I am single. I'm going to live up those micro things this year.

[Ashley]

They're not like, I think about this all the time. So I'm married now. I'm with my husband all the time. I mean, I've been traveling, whatever, but the other night, I was staying at a girlfriend's house here in New York, and by myself. She was out of town. She let me have her place, and I ordered sushi. From a place I used to order from when I lived here. Soho Sushi, if you guys care. And watched Running Point on Netflix, which is a show my husband doesn't care to watch. And I was like, this is so wonderful. I don't get to do this anymore. Like, we watch TV together. Like, I can do whatever I want, whatever. And I love my life with him. But, you know, you think of some. A single woman who really wants to find somebody, and they have these moments. They're eating dinner alone or they're ordering sushi, watching TV alone. And, like, I wish I had someone. It's like, yeah, but you will find someone that you won't get to do this as much. So literally, think about that when you're doing it, that you will miss this.

[Tunde]

Yeah.

[Ashley]

And it's not sad.

[Raina]

No. And I. I love romantic love. It's the most important thing, the best feeling. It's. I want that so badly. Of course. But in the meantime. In the meantime, I really enjoy those nights where I get to just be alone. Look so fucking ugly, and turn on anything I want.

[Tunde]

Fart anything.

[Raina]

Fart anywhere I want.

[Tunde]

Right?

[Ashley]

I just fart audibly.

[Raina]

Yeah.

[Ashley]

Just let her rip on the ground.

[Raina]

Get up to pee, like, four times.

[Tunde]

Whatever.

[Raina]

I just want to check in with somebody, and that's really nice.

[Tunde]

I remember during COVID my best friend and manager. Her name's Kim, and she. She has two kids and a husband and a front yard and a backyard.

[Ashley]

Not the front yard.

[Tunde]

Listen, I live in New York, and I love my home. I'm very grateful.

[Ashley]

The front yard is a flat, but,

[Tunde]

like, a front yard.

[Raina]

Babe, no, that's crazy.

[Tunde]

Come on. You get to walk outside, and you still own land. That's awesome. They had, like, they were living up during COVID Like, they were having the best time. Every day I'd call her, and she'd be on FaceTime. And they're outside with their picnic, and they're having a picnic. A social. Socially distanced. I forgot what we called it. A socially distanced party with the neighbors. The neighbors are on their. In their front yard.

[Raina]

I miss cover sometimes.

[Tunde]

Right, right. And they're all, like, hanging out, drinking wine. Meanwhile, at the time, I think I was in a studio apartment, like, in a box, like, going downstairs to talk to the doorman, just to feel like I had, you know, interacted with human. Interacted with human for the day. And so I remember in that moment just, like, thinking like, God, you know, is this. Is this my life? Is this the life that I've Chosen for myself, like, putting my career in this, ahead in this moment, versus family. And she, you know, talked to me at that time, and she was like, tunde, do you know what I would do? She goes, I go to the toilet. I go to the toilet, and these people follow me. They ask me questions.

[Ashley]

She goes, not just the kids.

[Tunde]

It's not just the kids. It's the husband. Yeah, everybody follows me to the restroom. She. She goes, do you know what I would do to trade spaces with you and pee in that box? And so it's just like, you know, everything is through the lens to which you view it, like, as much as I, you know, I've been single for seven years, and I love just like, wait, what's the saying? Like, you listen to the tune of your own. Whatever. Like, every day is just my plan. I don't have to march into the beat of my own drum. There it is.

[Raina]

That's a tattoo on my. Tattooed on the body.

[Tunde]

Oh, it's on your body? Yes. So when I wake up every day and I'm just kind of like, marching to the beat of my own drum and not having to, like, compromise. I enjoy. I'm also not the girl who's like, oh, I. Cause I think there's also a movement right now where it's, I don't want a man and da, da, da. No, I want one, baby. I absolutely do. I want to normalize that, too. Because it's also so normal now for women to be alone and be happily alone and want to be alone. I'm alone, and I'm okay being alone. But I'm not happily alone. I am alone because I choose to not be with the fool because I enjoy my peace. And I don't want to be in a relationship to just be in a relationship. That being said, I would like to meet somebody that I actually like.

[Raina]

People, actually. I mean, I get those messages a lot where people say, like, thank you for being both. Like, thank you for acknowledging that, like, that you love being single. But it would be really nice to have what Ashley has it. Like, both things can exist in a person. I'm proudly single. My life is great. I would love romantic love. I like to get fucked every day by somebody I love. But you would be great.

[Ashley]

You have to say it out loud.

[Tunde]

Like, I.

[Ashley]

What. I really strongly believe in the manifesting. And I decided the beginning of 2023, I was turning 40 that year, that. That was year I was going to find my partner. And I did it. And I, like, talk about all this Whatever. I don't need to rehash it.

[Tunde]

But I remember seeing this, though, online and feeling so inspired through your story was like, oh, my God, Ashley, I met somebody. I'm gonna meet somebody. It's gonna happen.

[Ashley]

It. It happened, and I just, like, I stopped. I said it out loud. I said it on the podcast. I said to everyone who listens, like, I'm finding someone this year. And there was part of me that, like, I always felt like I was going to meet him right at the buzzer. And, like, really, we. It really happened like that right before I turned 40, and I started to feel a little panicked. Like, I said, this is gonna happen. I told everybody, like, I want it to happen so badly. And I'm not gonna say this like, I don't need a man. I'm a baddie. Yeah, all that stuff's true. Whatever. But, like, I'm gonna say the thing. I want to find somebody I'm dating intentionally. And, like, this is important to me. I'm making space for it in my life where I didn't feel like I had that before. I'm really trying to make it happen. Instead of. I think we do this defense mechanism of, like, I don't need anybody. I don't want anybody. And I've even told Raina that, too. I'm like, don't even say that stuff if you don't really believe it, because then you will speak it into existence.

[Raina]

Well, I had a matchmaker say that to me. They. So I signed up for this matchmaking service, and they put. They give you a therapist to talk to beforehand. And I said, I'm okay if I don't find somebody. And she said, I'm gonna encourage you to stop saying that because you'll show up in the world differently. Say to yourself, I will find somebody. I want to find somebody. Not. I'm just okay if I don't. Yes, that's the truth.

[Ashley]

Yeah, you'll survive.

[Raina]

I'll be fine. But again, the goal is fucked every day by somebody who loves me.

[Tunde]

I had the worst matchmaker experience.

[Ashley]

You did.

[Tunde]

A friend of mine, Olivia Amato. Oh, yeah. Also a colleague instructor. She was like, I have this matchmaking service for high earner, something, something, something. Do you want me to put you in touch with this woman? I said, absolutely. And so I do the whole thing with this woman. We have a conversation. We do all the things just for her to tell me. I'm so sorry, but I don't believe we have anybody that's compatible for you. I got off the phone with that woman. And I cried.

[Raina]

I'm so sorry.

[Tunde]

What the fuck? And that was like, a moment where I felt just, damn, you have a whole service and still nothing. Also, she handled it poorly.

[Raina]

How dare you say that to me?

[Tunde]

She said, you know what? Like, let me, like, really sit and noodle. I want to bring somebody great to you. Somebody that's on your caliber.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

It's not going to be overnight because I think that you're wonderful. But. But it was just. It's a no for us.

[Raina]

Okay? So.

[Ashley]

That's so wild.

[Raina]

I'm so sorry you went through that. That's crazy. And listen, not everybody's going to be right for me or for you. You are, like, a powerful person. You are really successful. You're on this streaming service. I mean, people watch you. You're like a. I see you. I'm like, this is a powerful, confident woman that's not going to be for every man. It's their job to find somebody.

[Tunde]

Right. It was interesting.

[Raina]

That's crazy. Yeah.

[Ashley]

Oh, I'm sorry. I'm too beautiful.

[Raina]

We were very confident.

[Tunde]

And here's the thing is, like, I was very open. Like, she's like, height requirement. No. Does he have to make more money than, you know? Like, I did all of the, like, very open things, but she was like, we have a lot of women right now on our. On our roster.

[Ashley]

I fucking hate this.

[Tunde]

We have an affiliate. You know, I can reach out to the affiliate to see if they have anybody. But, you know, being that you're, like, in the public eye, a lot of men don't like that. And so I just think it's gonna be a no.

[Raina]

Yeah, that's your job. Also. Let's say her whole name, too.

[Tunde]

We just call it out, everybody.

[Raina]

Well, I actually. I'm curious what your feeling is on that, because people have asked, I mean, prior to Ashley getting married, but both of us, like, do you think your job is gonna get in the way of people wanting to date you? And we're on stage, we're talking about our dating lives and sex lives and things like that. People have always said, do you think it's gonna get in the way of meeting a partner? And I'm just curious what you think.

[Tunde]

It's not even. Is it gonna get in the way? It has gotten in the way. I do think that that is, you know, part of the reason that I'm not with person. But also, then it's not supposed to work, babe.

[Ashley]

Right?

[Tunde]

Yeah. Like, this is what I do. This is My job, this is what I. This is my love.

[Raina]

Am I gonna quit?

[Tunde]

This is my passion. Like, at the same note, the person that I'm going to choose, I'm going to choose him and be well with what he does. And the person who chooses me back, he's gonna choose me. And choose what? What I, you know, what I do.

[Raina]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

Yeah. Do I think that it's intimidating for most men? Absolutely. Do I think that successful women in general intimidate men? The wrong man. Yeah, it does. It does intimidate the wrong man. And so the guy that my job is an issue, he wasn't the guy. So it's 100%.

[Ashley]

It's a great way to filter them. Quite honestly.

[Tunde]

It was always going to be a problem.

[Ashley]

And you can't love me in spite of my job. You have to love all of me and what I actually do and be supportive of it. Like, I always think about that, like, yeah, maybe a guy we've dated throughout the years, like, was okay with what we did. I don't want.

[Tunde]

Okay.

[Ashley]

I want that you love it and you're like on board with all of it. Look at her go.

[Raina]

Biggest cheerleader I've dated somebody that said, like, I'm learning to deal with it. I was like, I don't want you to learn the deal. I want you to sit in the audience and be like, look at my girl go. And that's. I'm not going to be for everybody. Not everybody wants me to talk about them on stage.

[Tunde]

Yeah. And on the flip side, it's like, you want a cheerleader, I want a cheerleader. But I also want to be my man's biggest cheerleader. I'm the one screaming the loudest.

[Ashley]

Yes.

[Tunde]

Yeah. When you were in this, like, I am turning 40. I am meeting my person this year. Did you date a lot that year?

[Ashley]

Yeah. And I had just moved to la, so that was like a fresh energy I needed. And towards the end of 2022, we. I was like, right. I was like, I'm not really going to date much in New York. I. We're moving. It was supposed to be temporary, but then it turned out to be obviously longer. Been there three plus years. But yeah. So I was like, I'm dating in a new city, so I'm kind of coming into it with fresh energy. And I did all the things I. And I talk about all this in my special. But I went on the apps, I dated the task rabbit and which I can't recommend they come to your house

[Tunde]

date with my Uber Driver, see you're there. Hey, how are you?

[Ashley]

And I did a matchmaker. I actually had a pretty good experience with two guys with the matchmaker. And then we went out on the road and I was like, maybe I'll meet somebody on the road. And I love your point of like, I don't know if this is what you're trying to say, but I'll say it like, you can be slutty and still want to find a husband. And that's how I felt. And so first tour stop out of the gate, I like hooked up with this dude, this young guy, and then two weeks later, that's when I connected with my now husband. But I was like, I'll have the hour long conversation with the matchmaker and get set up with like a man that's age appropriate and successful and all this stuff. And I'll also go the 23 year old and like, we'll see what happens. And like all of it, you're figuring out moving in the right direction. And then I, I stay met, but like, I'd met my husband once before, but I connected with him. And of course that first night I wasn't like, he's the one. But I kind of knew pretty, pretty soon thereafter. But like, it did all work out. But I. Every move I was making in that five months was with intention. And this is like an aside. I don't know. I got off the pill and that changed my life too. Like, I'm in support of birth control, but I have an IUD now. But like that shifted kind of who I was. That's like, it's just an important part, like hormonally. Yeah.

[Tunde]

Interesting.

[Raina]

I had a different person.

[Ashley]

I had been on the pill.

[Tunde]

You hated her before?

[Raina]

No, no.

[Tunde]

Raging.

[Raina]

This is our, this is our big reveal. No, she just, she was lighter.

[Ashley]

Yeah. Changed my life.

[Raina]

She was just a different person.

[Ashley]

Like 20 years on the pill, give or take, and decided to get off it one day and felt my true self. Like, I mean, I wouldn't say it was so extreme. A lot of women say, like, I felt like I was seeing the world in color for the first time. I am a huge proponent of birth control. I obviously have an iud, but for me, the pill was not the best for, for me and that changed too. So that's kind of the story. But I really, I see women and I'm like, you say it, but you gotta live it. Like, this was a little thing, but a friend told me, you should have a king bed because I had a queen In New York. And I was like, obviously I'm have a king bed. We're moving to la. We've all this space. And I actually moved into a really gorgeous house that had a tiny bedroom. And the king. I stuffed a fucking king in that bedroom. It barely fit. You could barely walk around it. But I was like, if I'm going to get a man, he's not going to be in this queen bed. And so there's little things of like making the literal space in your life.

[Tunde]

My friends keep telling me to do that. They're like, where is a man supposed to put? So I have like. I don't know, I have like four or five closets. I have a lot of closets.

[Raina]

Oh yeah. New York.

[Tunde]

In New York, girl, talk about it like, because. But the thing is, the more closet space you have, the more things. Things you buy to fill the closets.

[Ashley]

But.

[Tunde]

So I have a problem. A little bit of an addiction. Anyway, me too.

[Raina]

I have a suggestion for that later.

[Tunde]

Let's talk about it. So my friends are like, get rid of some of this so that you can energetically pull. Yeah, I mean, I can't. I did the. I did the bed. I have the king bed.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Ashley]

That's what I need.

[Tunde]

Let go of my things for an imaginary.

[Ashley]

He comes in.

[Tunde]

I know if he comes in, we'll adjust. We'll get a different place.

[Ashley]

As long as you got the bed,

[Tunde]

we have time for that regardless. Let me meet him and then I'll start like donating the clothes.

[Ashley]

Is there an inch of counter space for his toothbrush and the bed?

[Raina]

That's all.

[Ashley]

We can do that 100.

[Raina]

Don't worry about getting rid of T shirts.

[Tunde]

Yeah, it's fine.

[Raina]

So I want to say something to you guys. So we put this. We really liked your idea of like last single summer. We put a slide up on our Instagram and said, if this was your last single summer, how would you show up? How would you act? What would you let go of? And something that I actually haven't seen before because we've always seen people say it. Say yes to everything. You know, just do new hobbies, new friends, new things. But I think people are just drinking less today and going out less. And so many people said, you gotta leave the house. Like, I've never seen people before. Be like. Cause we've really glorified like, be in the bed. Bedrock. I love not leaving the house for days. I'll do it. I love it. But if you really wanna meet somebody, like, you do have to like go out and do stuff. You could do the apps and meet people. But I've actually never overwhelmingly seen so many women be like, I gotta get outside.

[Ashley]

Yeah, okay.

[Tunde]

Let me tell you what Cody Rigsby said to me. Speaking of Cody, we were talking about me being single. That's like we have these like little meetups and we talk about love lives or what's. What's happening or what's not happening. And every time we'd get to me, he's like, tunde, you are so lazy in dating. He's like, you are like a boss ass woman in everything you do. The way that you take business seriously, the way that you will not sleep, the way that you show up to work.

[Ashley]

Oh yeah.

[Tunde]

He was like, if you brought that same hustle into your dating life, he's like, you don't wanna get out of the house, you don't wanna do anything because I'm so tired.

[Raina]

Busy brushing. I work out for work.

[Tunde]

Right.

[Raina]

Exhausted.

[Tunde]

God. But all that to say. It's like I also, I don't like most of my friends are in relationships. I will say, like some of my girlfriends are really, really good at still going out with me. Cause they understand that I'm single and I need to like get out. And so they will do the wing woman thing. But so much of that also involves like drinking and getting. I don't want to go eat a six course meal today. I have to teach at 8am you drink?

[Raina]

Yes.

[Tunde]

I love drinking.

[Raina]

Okay. We live in la, everybody.

[Tunde]

Yes. But it's just like I dine. But me and my girlfriends, when we go out, we don't just like have one drink. I wish that we were those girls.

[Ashley]

I remembering Cody on that show, he was like, he was like, I feel like people don't know just how fun tune day is. Like, he was like, would you get her going that like people, obviously your energy is so wonderful. But he was like party wise. Like, she gets down.

[Tunde]

People don't know how fun I am. People don't know funny I am. So this is also part of my single. So people have read my book or they've listened to me on a podcast or maybe a guy who's been like motivated by something that I say in class. So people think I'm very serious. And so when I'm on a date, I think that he. And he said he is trying to impress me. Me. So there was, I will never forget, there was a guy I went on a date with and I met this guy. I thought this was my husband. I meet on him on a plane. He's a vascular surgeon, so I don't know what that is, but it sounds really wealthy.

[Ashley]

Like 100 something.

[Raina]

Like.

[Ashley]

Sure, yeah.

[Tunde]

Owns his own practice. Actually lives in New York. That's where that I go on a date with somebody that lives in my state. Yeah, we met on a plane. That's. Hello. Immediately watched the movie together. No, you didn't. Let me rewind. Let me tell the story, girls.

[Ashley]

Yes.

[Tunde]

So this is, is like just after, like, right after Covid took and so I'm very sanitary, I think. We had taken the masks off. Okay, two things can be true. So we had just taken the masks off, but, like, I was still like, yeah, I just realized that, okay, one day you'll put your mouth on another mouth again. Like, I just become okay with that. So I'm using my two, three sanitizers, getting the seatbelt, getting the remote, getting the TV screen. So he looks over at me and he says, did you get everything? And I look at him and I said, honestly, no. Like, I really would like to get yours too, because we're in close proximity. So I start cleaning where his armrest is. We have a little laugh, and I sit down, I put my bags away. He says, I just text my friend group, I'm doing everything in my power to not ask Toonday to marry me.

[Raina]

And I look, oh, he knew who you are.

[Tunde]

He knows who I am.

[Raina]

I'm so riveted. Like, what, you should have a podcast.

[Tunde]

Let's Can I be the first? And I don't say that to anybody. Can I be the third?

[Raina]

Yes. And going to hang out in the back here. We're going to drink.

[Tunde]

Oh, my God. We're going to drink. Oh, yeah, we're going to drink. We're going to dates together.

[Raina]

We're going to be horny. We're going our way through this city.

[Ashley]

I'm obsessed with this.

[Tunde]

Let me keep my Soho House membership. I was just about to cancel it. I have.

[Raina]

I have one.

[Tunde]

Okay, great. We only need one. We'll need one. We'll split the cost, everyone. So I, I. He says, I'm do. I've just text my friend group. I'm doing everything in my power not to ask to your marry me. I say, no, you didn't. He says, yes, I did. I said, let me see. He hands me his phone. I read the message. He said, I'm done. My power not to ask him to marry me. Okay, one thing to know about me is if I like, if I don't like a guy. I can talk, baby. I can talk to anybody. Adele is sitting right here. Ask this girl how many men I've hooked her up with. Because if I say something for you, I am not shy. I say, hey, go talk to her. Yeah, I can do it for everybody myself. When I like a guy, I forget how to speak. I get nervous. You know how they say to hold eye contact for three seconds? This is what. Just. This is what I think that I'm doing. I count to seven, right? Here's what I actually do. And, like, look, I can't breathe.

[Raina]

I get crazy. One of my friends watched me right after Covid. It was the summer of 2021, be in Domino park, and this guy approached me and, like, he talked to me for, like, five minutes, and he walked away. And she goes, have you. You ever spoken to a man before? It's such a witness.

[Ashley]

You have to get inflammated.

[Tunde]

Okay, so this is going to be good for us when we start hanging out when we're friends, because then I'm going to. I'm going to take care of you and you're going to take care of me, because we can't do it on our own.

[Raina]

I can wing women for you, absolutely, but the stakes are lower when it's for somebody else. That's why your married friends are great to go out.

[Tunde]

Some of my girlfriends are either married in relationships. I remember them single, and they were so full forward. Like these girls. I have friends who I've been single for seven years. I have friends that were single for six months and dated more in six months than I did in seven years because they were just forward girls. I'm not forward. I wish I was, but do you feel.

[Raina]

I mean, Ashley had this year where she dated a lot, and last year, I wasn't on tour. Ashley was on tour. I was bored out of my mind. Ashley was working so hard. I was like, I got nothing going on. I dated. I dated like crazy. But you really need the time. It's a full time.

[Ashley]

You need the job.

[Tunde]

I need another job.

[Ashley]

Okay, we gotta get back to this story. Yeah, I'm on my apps.

[Tunde]

It's like I have to, like, clock in. I'm like, all right, yeah, one hour.

[Raina]

Here we go.

[Ashley]

Okay. So you see the text, you get a little, like, we.

[Tunde]

I get kind of like, after I see that text, I kind of got, like, get weird. Even though clearly he's like, said, I'm into you. But now I'm, like, acting a little shy, but, like, Also, I'm being open. My body language is open. Yeah, okay. So I'm looking for a movie, and he's like, you know, what are you going to watch? And I said, do you have any recommendations? So he recommends this movie, which I will not name because it was horrible. So he recommends the movie. He says, I'll watch it too, even though he's seen it. So we say, 3, 2, 1. So we watch our movie. Our dinner comes at the same time. We're eating our little meal on the plane. And I'm kind of judging him a little bit because this movie's so bad. The movie finishes, our dinner finishes. He looks at me. He says, I don't remember it being that bad. I'm so sorry. Actually, now I'm attracted to him again because I'm like, oh, great, we can do it together. So we are walking a baggage claim. He didn't check a bag. Of course I checked. 20. Oh, rewind on the date. So he lives in Jersey. I live actually in the city.

[Raina]

Right.

[Tunde]

So he says, what are your favorite restaurants in the city? I named three restaurants. Told him ice cream is my favorite food, dessert, whatever on the planet. Told him three ice cream places I like. That's important to remember. So anyways, he gets my information. We make plans for the date. Okay. I don't know where we're going. I just know the time and the date.

[Ashley]

Date.

[Tunde]

He calls me or he texts me. Maybe like two hours, two or three hours with a date with the address. He said I made reservations at. Made reservations at all three of my favorite places. He said, I didn't know which one you'd be in the mood for. And then for dessert, I figured we could go to Da da da Da. Named all the dessert places. Basically, the.

[Ashley]

He.

[Tunde]

He built the dates.

[Ashley]

Yeah. Yes.

[Tunde]

That I asked for.

[Ashley]

He did all the effort.

[Tunde]

Great. So we go to the one that I choose, Ms. Ada in Fort Greene. It's so delicious.

[Raina]

It's so good. I'm obsessed with you. Oh, my God, it's amazing.

[Tunde]

Okay, we're to Going, going. So we go to Ms. AA. Okay. So you. Okay. You know how good Maceda is? Maceda is Mediterranean.

[Raina]

I think it's Masada. Like, It's.

[Tunde]

No, it's Ms. Ada.

[Raina]

Ms. You're right.

[Tunde]

It's Ms. Ada. But I feel Ms. Ada's so bougie. It's Ms. Ada. It's Ms. Ada.

[Ashley]

I hear you. Masada.

[Raina]

No, but Masada is.

[Tunde]

Because then there's Theodora that they also own, but like Theodora is how you say it. But that's so bougie. Okay, so we went to Masada. I can't believe you corrected me on national television.

[Raina]

Well, I think it's.

[Tunde]

We are friends.

[Raina]

I think it's an Israeli name.

[Tunde]

No, you're right. It's Masada. I apologize to everyone. Listening, listening. It's Masada.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Ashley]

I was hearing Ms. Ada, like, Ms. Ada's.

[Raina]

I was a food blogger. I went to culinary school in the food.

[Tunde]

Okay. So you're gonna appreciate this even more. So should I rewind? We go to Missouri.

[Ashley]

You go there?

[Tunde]

Yeah, we go there.

[Ashley]

Masada.

[Tunde]

We go to Miss Anna, and we sit. Well, one of the thrills is going to miss Ada is sitting inside because the smells are just so rich and beautiful. We sit outside, which is also still great. It's romantic, but you don't get that smell. Whatever. Nobody cares about that part. So we're sitting down. It's the best food you've ever had in your life. It's so fantastic. It's the best food you've ever had. It's one of the best restaurants.

[Raina]

Phenomenal.

[Tunde]

Phenomenal. So we're sitting there and we're eating. I'm a foodie. I need a man to, like, go there with me for a second so we can talk about how great the food is. So I'm enjoying this meal, and I say, oh, my God, this is so good.

[Raina]

I'm talking about it.

[Tunde]

So he starts asking me all these questions. Okay. And I appreciate the questions, but I must. It felt like I was a little bit on a podcast.

[Ashley]

An interview. Okay. Yeah.

[Tunde]

I'm loving being here with you all. This is wonderful. But it felt like. And my book had just come out maybe a year or two, and I had just, like, done the book tour thing. We were always talking about the book. I was excited to just be clucked out.

[Raina]

Okay, yeah, yeah.

[Ashley]

Be on a date. Not interview.

[Tunde]

Be on a date. Like, flirt with me a little bit.

[Raina]

Let's talk.

[Tunde]

So we're on the date. He's interviewing me. I look at him and I say, these are all really great questions to which you will get to know the answer to as we get to know each other. Meaning, like, it was just too much on the first date. Yeah.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Tunde]

So then we continue to talk. He goes, oh, my God. He goes, I'm so sorry. He apologizes. And I think to myself, oh, my God, I'm so proud that I spoke up to this man that, I don't know, spoke my mind, because I was gonna just Write him out and never wanna talk to him again. Cause it was just, like, too much. But instead I corrected it. Then we're moving on, and now I can get to know him. This is great.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Raina]

Maybe he was nervous.

[Tunde]

45 seconds later, he says, so in chapter three of your book.

[Raina]

No.

[Tunde]

You talk about. And I just think it's a really interesting dichotomy because.

[Ashley]

Oh, no. Oh, no.

[Tunde]

I go, oh, my God, this beef is so good. And he says, I'm not interested in the food food. I'm interested in getting to know you.

[Ashley]

We're at the restaurant, so.

[Tunde]

Okay.

[Raina]

Somebody excited a podcast episode on a first date.

[Tunde]

It was just.

[Ashley]

And keep it in the.

[Tunde]

I will say, like, you know, this man has reached out to me several times since. There was once he was like, I'm looking up at the sky and I'm thinking of you.

[Raina]

And it's too fan energy. It's too much.

[Tunde]

It was. It was.

[Ashley]

I married a fan, but I don't even remax.

[Raina]

Like a normal person.

[Ashley]

There's a spectrum. It's too much like, yeah, you're like. It's. You're obsessed. We aren't equals right now.

[Tunde]

So then that's the tough place, because we're saying, like, oh, my God, I want this guy to, like, love what I do. I want this guy to be my cheerleader, my biggest fan. Yes. And because Cody said that people don't have fun. I am so. People don't know I'm fun. And this happens often on dates where guys just go in super serious.

[Ashley]

Serious.

[Tunde]

The guy that I fall for, and this is actually, like, my greatest problem, I always fall for the funny guy. All I ever want to do is laugh. I fall for the funny guy so much that he's funny and he doesn't have a job.

[Raina]

They're so manipulative.

[Tunde]

I love that guy. Because those guys can.

[Raina]

Those guys can cut the daylights out of you and they will ruin your life. You will have a great time while it's happening.

[Tunde]

The more.

[Raina]

The more mental illness, the less of a job, and the funnier they are.

[Tunde]

Okay? So I would like to say now that I am 40, now that I'm 40, I have moved on. And the guy needs to, like, work. And not only do you set the

[Raina]

bar high, not only set it high.

[Tunde]

Not only does the guy need to work, but he needs to be successful and fulfilled. And so not just like. To me, I saw this thing that Tony Robbins did, and Tony Robbins defines success as having everything you want fulfilled, is when you are Able to offer and give what you bring to the table to the people that you love around you. So I also want him to be fulfilled. Fulfilled in his life, fulfilled in the work that he does. And I'm sorry, but funny humor is on my top three. It's in my top three.

[Ashley]

You're supposed to be with this person forever. Okay, I better be entertained. Hey, like, I. I mean, people feel like. Don't really know. He is so funny. All. I laugh around the house all the time. Like, if I wouldn't have it any other way. We have to spend all our time together. We don't have time. But you're supposed to be with this person for forever, and they're not going to make you laugh. What are we doing?

[Raina]

Also, like, I think you can request at this age that somebody be a more. More formed person. I want somebody that's fulfilled in their life. I want somebody to come home and be like, I want to be excited to hear about their day and hear their thoughts about my day. It's really important to me, like, how you feel about yourself. Do you feel fulfilled? Because I can't be the person to

[Ashley]

fulfill, you know, an unfulfilled man who it mean, I don't know. That's gonna turn into your problem.

[Tunde]

An unfulfilled man can never fulfill you. He can never make you feel fulfilled. I mean, you've got to make yourself feel full. But a man that doesn't feel full has nothing to pour into you. Y.

[Raina]

Also, I do see the side of that guy where, like, this happens to me a lot on dates, too, because what you and I and Ashley do for work is interesting and people want to talk about it. And Ashley and I own a sex toy company. We have a podcast, and we are touring comedians and entertainment entertainers. You're part of the most famous fitness company in the world. Of course, what you do is fascinating, but they're just. There has to be a balance, and you're allowed to have a preference. Also, you're allowed to say, I just don't want to. I don't want to date. To be like this.

[Tunde]

Yeah, I was tired. I was on the date and I was tired. Yeah. Because I was in an interview. Yes, I was in an interview.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

It wasn't fun.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

Yeah. And I love. That's.

[Ashley]

That's it.

[Tunde]

Like, a lot of the dates I go on are just. They're just not fun. There was one that I went on recently. I want to tell you, but I don't want to tell you because he's so sweet. And he's going to know I'm talking about him. And I liked him as a person. But like. Yeah. Again, it just. It's not. And I really wanted that one to work. It's just not fun.

[Raina]

I need to have fun with somebody. I said that Ashley was dating this guy who had a great job. He worked for a national football team. He had a great job, a great life. I was just like I'm so bored. I'm like not laughing with this guy. I want this to be work so bad. I can't do it.

[Ashley]

You have to enhance our life. We have full lives. We are happy women, friends, family, great careers. Like you have to add something. It's not just that you're a man in the home that I want to knock me up like it used to be. I don't know. It can't just be good on paper.

[Tunde]

Okay, let's play this game. Okay. He's tall.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Tunde]

Absolutely gorgeous to look at. At incredible in bed.

[Ashley]

Okay.

[Tunde]

And he's not funny.

[Raina]

No.

[Tunde]

Or that's short lived.

[Ashley]

Or do that for a little while.

[Tunde]

He's not the height that you prefer. He. You're not attracted to him. Like it grows on you. You see it but you don't look at him. He's fine. It's okay.

[Raina]

But he's so funny.

[Tunde]

You cry, laughing.

[Raina]

Is that guy. I mean my last serious boyfriend. I would not objectively like a good enough looking guy. But no one's like stopping on the street to look at him. Maybe 5, 10.

[Tunde]

A good enough looking guy.

[Raina]

The best sex I've ever had in my life. And so funny. Like that's what I want. You think about the things that will longevity in a relationship. I mean you will get tired of somebody. So you gotta have somebody you like hanging out with.

[Ashley]

And you guys had a great emotional bond. Yeah. It's one with like enough emotional depth to connect.

[Raina]

Just super good looking. I mean I've tried that. I've tried to go on dates with guys that were objectively gorgeous and I didn't like their personalities. I can't get through like two dates with those people.

[Tunde]

Right.

[Raina]

What about you?

[Tunde]

I choose the same guy. I would choose them too.

[Raina]

Yeah?

[Tunde]

Yeah.

[Raina]

Okay.

[Ashley]

Do you get DM slides and guys coming after you? I mean the guy in the plane obviously was a fan. But like you're. You're out there in the world.

[Tunde]

Not really. I mean. Yeah.

[Ashley]

I can't believe that.

[Tunde]

Sure.

[Ashley]

But it's not the right guy.

[Tunde]

The guy I. It's always the Guy who has maybe no business slipping into my DMs. Okay? It's that or ever since the Sports Illustrated swim. And it's so funny because a couple of my male teammates, they said to me, they're like, tunday, whatever you do, do not get in a relationship before Sports Illustrated drops. Like, this is like after I'd shot it, they were like, whatever you do, do not get in a relationship before this issue drops. Meaning, like just the men, the caliber of men that you are going to be introduced to, be in rooms with, see who now see you, it's going to increase. And so just like stay open, stay single.

[Ashley]

Okay. I love that advice.

[Tunde]

So listen, I haven't actively been trying to keep myself open. I'm just still open. Okay, so it's not like I've been like these great, all these men are trying to date me and no, it's just like there's, I haven't met anybody, somebody that.

[Ashley]

Do you have physical type at all?

[Tunde]

Absolutely.

[Ashley]

Okay, what's he look like?

[Raina]

Let's manifest him.

[Ashley]

Who is it? Compare him to an instructor.

[Tunde]

You're cute.

[Ashley]

You tried it.

[Raina]

You tried it.

[Tunde]

Cody.

[Raina]

I see more Cody, more Alex.

[Tunde]

I have been shipped with almost every instructor on the team. People thought that me and Cody were together. I shit you not. He's a beautiful man. He's happily gay presenting.

[Ashley]

Also.

[Tunde]

He's and gay presenting.

[Ashley]

So beautiful. Beautiful.

[Tunde]

So. And even more beautiful in person.

[Ashley]

No, he walks in a room, he like takes your breath away.

[Raina]

I would ask you one more. Would you rather like, is he?

[Tunde]

Well, let me give you my type just in case he's listening. Let me like also sit up. My type is I'm very open. Like, listen, I, I, I said earlier, like, the funny guy is always going to win my heart. Funny, charismatic, a great smile. Beautiful teeth are like.

[Ashley]

Yeah, yeah.

[Tunde]

When I'm, when I'm holding a man, when I'm being held by a man, like, I like to, you know, feel like, you know, you want to feel like a bear is wrapped around you. Right. That being said, sure. I would love him to be taller than me. I think, you know, that's what most people say. Is that a deal breaker for me? Absolutely not.

[Raina]

Okay. Money.

[Tunde]

I would love to be attracted to him. No, here's the thing is like when you say money, what is money? Does he, is he, do, Are you asking, do I need a man to make more than money? Me? Do you have a preference of. Sure, I would love for a man to make more than me, but he doesn't have to, but good luck. He does. Well, but good fucking luck. No, but he doesn't have to. It's not a deal breaker for me. At the same time, like, if I say, hey, let's get up and let's go on this trip, I want you to financially be able to go. To be able to go not just monetarily, but also have the space within your career to be able to do that.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Tunde]

And so. So I. Yeah, I work really, really, really, really hard. And I am so fortunate to be able to enjoy my life. I would love to find a partner that is able to enjoy life with me.

[Ashley]

Totally.

[Tunde]

And I also would love for a man to not feel intimidated by my success. And nine times out of 10, and when he has his own, he doesn't so enough money.

[Ashley]

I mean, I. I watched Keke Palmer in this interview and I just haven't stopped thinking about it. And she's like, I don't need money. I got money.

[Tunde]

Right.

[Ashley]

You know, like, of course you all a man with a job who is again, fulfilled. You're not paying for him. That's not.

[Tunde]

But I don't need you to pay my bills. But.

[Ashley]

Exactly. And I just love that she said that. She was like, I have the money. I want the support and all the other things that a partner could provide. And I just love that she said that. So we had a guest on recently. Her name is Amy Chan and she's a dating coach. She's moving to New York so you guys could connect. She does this dating experiment and you go on dates with nine people and you can't get in a relationship with any of them. And they all need to be very different.

[Tunde]

Her this on your podcast.

[Ashley]

It's great. Yeah. And you can't because then the stakes are low and they're. They need to be different than your quote unquote type. But it sounds like you're pretty open in the first place. But it's just. I like to recommend it and keep it in mind because it's just a good way to like, get outside of yourself.

[Tunde]

Okay. I have an idea. This is my idea. Amy Chan. I listened to this episode. Amy Chan and I. This is what we need to do for my last single scene. Summer, you have me back. You have Amy back. She sits down, she therapies me. She makes me do the nine thing. And then this time next year, we are back and I implemented Amy's rules and I tell you how the hell that single summer went.

[Ashley]

I love this. And what this will episode will come out on June 1st. So like June 1st, 2027.

[Raina]

Getting a single summer.

[Ashley]

Yeah.

[Raina]

I mean, it couldn't be more perfect.

[Ashley]

Yeah, we need to connect you with her.

[Tunde]

I mean, I need to be connected with Amy.

[Raina]

She's moving here. She's phenomenal.

[Ashley]

And she's brain has had sessions with her before and she'll like kind of draw stuff out of you. And she says everyone she meets with for the most part is like one to two tweaks away from like meeting their person, getting into a healthy relationship.

[Tunde]

What did she say your tweak was? What do you need?

[Raina]

I was still in love with the person that was ruining my life. So I was allowing to ruin my life. And then I wrote an hour of comedy about it and I've been touring it. I turned my pain into money.

[Ashley]

Take your broken heart, turn it into art.

[Tunde]

That's what they say, that's art. You're helping others heal.

[Raina]

Thank you. Well, let's. Let's end with you. Anything you want to tell people where to find you other than Sports Illustrated and Peloton. Anything else you have coming up.

[Tunde]

I am also on Tyler Perry's hit show Sistas.

[Ashley]

Hell yeah.

[Tunde]

I'm a series regular on the show, so check that out on bet. That's been very fulfilling. We keep using this word today, but just like fulfilling, energy, role, no pun intended, for me to just step into again in this chapter of my life. And then of course, yeah, find me on the peloton, babe. Oh yeah, pick up my book speak.

[Ashley]

We didn't mention this, you guys, but if you haven't taken the Magic Mike ride, Tundaisi instructor. It's the best thing I've ever seen, aside from her Beyonce class with Alex and all of her classes, honestly. But this ride is wild. And we talked to you a little bit about the behind the scenes and you didn't quite know how they were going to incorporate the guys. I don't want to give any spoilers, but find this Magic Mike ride and take it.

[Tunde]

There are married women across the country free. Just have been waking up at 4am before their husbands or partners to take that class for the last several months. And so.

[Ashley]

It's hot.

[Tunde]

Enjoy it.

[Ashley]

I came up from the basement. I felt down to the basement. Shashank was on the couch. I was like, I'm so horny. I. I gotta be honest, I'm stretching, just. He was like, yeah.

[Raina]

Can tell.

[Tunde]

We've visited so many emotions together. You've cried during the Beyonce ride and now I've like sparked new feelings in you.

[Ashley]

It's like my therapy. I don't work out for my weight or anything. I mean, I genuinely, like, I'm just perfect.

[Tunde]

No, no, no.

[Ashley]

But, like, I don't get on the bike with that intention. Yeah, whatever. I want to look a certain type of way, but I. It's my mental health. So it's just, you know, you guys really change lives.

[Tunde]

We aim to please. Yeah. Thank you.

[Ashley]

Okay, well, your Instagram.

[Tunde]

I love to try to be serious now, so, yes, my Instagram is tuned to tune.

[Ashley]

To Tune day.

[Tunde]

Yeah. This was so much fun. Thank you so much for having me. I'm sad it's over.

[Ashley]

When you come back to New York, they'll be back.

[Raina]

I'm hopefully signing at least today for July 1st.

[Tunde]

Great. Let's hang. All right, you guys, follow Tune day.

[Ashley]

All the things Peloton, Sports illustrated, assistas on BET. And you can find us at girls got eat.com girls got e podcasts on Instagram and Tik Tok. I am Ash has Instagram and Tik tok. Raina is raina.greenberg raina greenberg.com for her tour tickets in the fall and the Winter. Subscribe on YouTube. Watchful video on Spotify and YouTube and we will see you Thursday.

[Raina]

Have a good week, guys.

[Ashley]

Sam.