Girls Gotta Eat: "THE WEDDING RECAP feat. Ashley's Husband"

Podcast: Girls Gotta Eat (Dear Media)
Air Date: November 17, 2025
Hosts: Ashley Hesseltine, Rayna Greenberg
Special Guest: Shashank Greenberg Hasseltine (Ashley’s Husband)

Overview

This special episode of Girls Gotta Eat is a hilarious, heartfelt, and deeply detailed recap of Ashley’s wedding, with co-host Rayna and, for the first time on camera, Ashley’s new husband, Shashank (“Chunky/Shonky”) Greenberg Hasseltine. Listeners are treated to the behind-the-scenes stories, planning insights, cultural moments, emotional highs (and post-wedding lows), and all the memorable mishaps from a truly unique four-day celebration. Whether you're planning a wedding, fantasizing about one, or just love good storytelling, this is a joyously candid journey with the Girls Gotta Eat crew.

Main Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Big News: “She’s a Wife!”

• Ashley and Rayna joke about Ashley’s new “wife” status and social media reactions.
• “Marriage looks good on you. Like, it’s just funny.” (Ashley, 00:42)
• Discussion of a Vogue article declaring “having a boyfriend is embarrassing”—the hosts riff on changing relationship labels.

2. Introducing Ashley’s Husband

• Shashank (“Chunky”/“Shonky”) joins the show on camera for the first time. The couple and Rayna settle on playful nicknames for him.
• Rayna: “I think people are gonna be really into his voice. He’s a great radio voice.” (Reyna, 02:11)

3. Wedding Planning: Vision & Key Players

• Shout-out to wedding planner Jacqueline, “She ran that four-event wedding like the Navy.” (Ashley, 06:51)
• Advice for listeners: “Sit down and think about your personality and what you do want. Because the formality and traditional wedding vibe was what I wanted to be so far from.” (Ashley, 10:43)
• The couple did most of the wedding their way, with minimal parental interference, and encouraged others to do the same.

4. The Four-Day Wedding Experience

Day 1: Courthouse & Family Meet-Up

• Marriage certificate obtained at L.A. courthouse with an LA-ballot & palm trees moment.
• Nail salon run-in: Ashley sits next to Sean William Scott (“Stifler” from American Pie) and his daughter—a delightfully surreal pre-wedding bonus. (12:14)
• Families meet at Ashley and Shashank’s house—gifts and emotional exchanges.

Day 2: Haldi Ceremony & Halloween Party

• Haldi: Pre-wedding Indian blessing ritual with turmeric paste and marigolds.
  “His mom gave me the bangles she wore on her wedding day.” (Ashley, 94:34)
• The cultural blending of Ashley and Shashank’s backgrounds is front and center.
• Rayna’s gig holding the tapestry over the couple’s head—she needed backup due to lack of height! (21:47)
• Halloween party at Gold Diggers, a boutique L.A. spot with recording studio roots.
  Costumes: “Corey and Ham…dressed up as Hulk Hogan and Macho Man!” (25:41)
  Everyone—from newlyweds to parents—dressed up and partied hard.

Day 3: Main Event – Wedding Day

• Prep: Room service, family and friends bonding, chaotic but loving glamour sessions.
• No first look: The couple wanted the aisle moment to be fresh.
• The venue (W Hollywood): Rooftop city views, stunning décor, and personalized touches. The significance of W Hotels (first night together was at W Boston).
• Ceremony: Rayna officiates; light roast, lots of heart, and some sex-toy jokes. (Cue much laughter and some “cuck” confusion among older relatives.) (69:56)
• The Haldi ceremony, family involvement, and emotional vows (many tears held back, or not!). “It was perfect from start to finish. I mean, you hit all the…marks.” (Shashank, 70:17)
• Reception:
  • Party energy: Drumline by BD Entertainment, non-stop dancing, champagne tower, churro bar, bottle service parade.
  • “The way people committed to the costumes…it just warmed my heart.” (Ashley, 89:41)
  • Tables arranged for maximum mingling, not tradition-bound seating.
  • Unscripted transitions—“the doors open and everybody just walked in and we just started dancing.” (Rayna, 38:31)
  • “The last song of the night, it was always gonna be We Found Love by Rihanna. It just…felt like the club.” (Ashley, 46:54)
  • Speech highlight: Ashley’s dad drops “the hottest line I’ve ever heard in any speech of all time. The entire room got up standing, screaming, crazy.” (Rayna, 47:37)
  • Iconic lounge seating for the couple: “I’ve never seen that at a wedding…we sat like right on the dance floor.” (Ashley, 48:46)

Day 4: Aftermath

• Informal Sunday hang with friends and family—grieving the end of such a loving, high-energy event.

5. The Egg Carton Saga

• A running gag: the couple’s engagement story features a humble egg carton, which ends up as the wedding ring box.
• “She had Jay bring up the egg carton. And it…everyone’s like, what the fuck is that?” (Ashley, 83:45)
• Egg carton even joins the couple on their mini-moon in Napa.

6. Honest Talk: The Post-Wedding Crash

• Both hosts and Shashank detail the overwhelming sense of sadness and emptiness following the conclusion of the wedding.
• “The post wedding crash is like childbirth. No one is talking about it and everyone is experiencing it.” (Ashley, 108:08)
• “It’s such a void. I have not felt a void like this in a while…all the people you love the most, and then it just ends.” (Ashley, 110:16)
• Multiple friends report similar depression and lethargy.

7. Family & Cultural Reflections

• Ashley and Shashank share heartfelt reflections on family values, cultural blending, and the acceptance and support felt from both sides.
• “Your mom has four sisters…you hear this like the aunties are going to be judging you…and they just weren't. They were gifts.” (Ashley, 93:58)
• Emotional exchange between their dads, both stoic, non-mushy types, touched the whole family.

8. Practical Wedding Advice

• Be intentional: Don’t lose your own vision to others’ expectations.
• Details matter: Write a shot list for your photographer; you won’t remember everything in the moment.
• Being present is a challenge—find ways not to get “pulled in 100 different directions.”
• Give yourself more time than you think you’ll need; the day moves fast.
• New traditions: Ashley skipped cake for a champagne tower and a churro bar, focused on the dance floor, and made every element reflect their personality as a couple.
• Let guests mix and mingle: Non-traditional seating, no forced transitions, and maximum fun over rigid formality.

9. Relationship Q&A (with Shashank)

• On planning: “Probably less than 20%. Being totally upfront. Like, in terms of vision…” (Shashank, 61:37)
• The two “collaborated” on essentials (guest lists, invitations), but Ashley led the aesthetic.
• “Every time we conquered something…a seating chart, we felt like we did this together.” (Ashley, 62:43)
• Music preferences did spark some lighthearted conflict: “You just wanted everything to be Beyonce from start to finish, and I wanted everything to be Drake…” (Shashank, 63:13)
• First time having sex used a condom—prompted eye-rolling from Ashley, and playful retelling.
• New post-marriage habits, including Shashank peeing in front of Ashley: “It’s not for me…but, you know…” (Ashley, 115:53)

10. All the People That Make a Wedding

• Emphasis on including longtime friends as emcee, videographer, etc., for deeper meaning.
• “It means more to have him there. And, like, you could have hired any emcee, but it means more to have Bobby there. Like, it was just nice to have these additional touches…” (Rayna, 37:32)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Marriage Looks Good On You:
  “She’s a wife. Can you believe it? How chewy is that?” (Ashley, 00:33)

• Best Wedding Advice:
  “This is your dream…there’s no other time in your life that I know of where you truly will have all these people…Closest to you…all there to support you and celebrate your love…Sit down and think about your personality and what you do want.” (Ashley, 09:54)

• Cultural Blending (Haldi):
  “Our florist…got all the marigolds in LA. I guess they’re kind of out of season. He found a farm. He was like, give me all of them. He went all the way off.” (Ashley, 20:39)

• Unscripted Joy:
  “No one got their seating assignments. Like, the doors opened and everybody just walked in and we just started dancing.” (Rayna, 38:31)

• Dad Speech Drop:
  “Your dad dropped the hottest line I’ve ever heard in any speech of all time. The entire room got up standing, screaming, crazy.” (Rayna, 47:37)

• On the Post-Wedding Crash:
  “It is such a real thing...no one has mentioned this…It feels really different. And I really feel for people who the planning has taken over their life, and then you have this wonderful experience, and then it is abrupt.” (Ashley, 108:38, 112:32)

• Advice for Grooms:
  “Be mindful… when it’s your wedding, you’re getting pulled in 100 different directions and by the time you finally…find yourself on the dance floor…you’re nearing the end of it.” (Shashank, 97:19)

Important Segment Timestamps

• Ashley and Rayna Joke About “Wife” Status: 00:32–01:16
• Introducing Shashank (Ashley’s Husband): 03:35–03:59 / 57:14
• Shout-out to Wedding Planner Jacqueline: 05:35–06:51
• Nail Salon with Sean William Scott “Stifler”: 12:14
• Haldi Ceremony, Indian Cultural Ritual Explained: 20:39–21:43
• Grand Entrance at Welcome Drinks: 19:52–20:16
• Halloween Party at Gold Diggers: 23:05–26:10
• Drumline & Reception Dance Floor Debut: 32:15–38:58
• Dad’s Epic Speech Moment: 47:37–48:44
• Photo Booth and Churro Bar Fun: 43:12–44:18
• Everyone Gets Horny at the Wedding: 44:33–45:33
• Iconic Egg Carton Moment: 82:37–84:17
• Family Meetings—East meets West: 92:24–95:05
• Post-Wedding Crash: 108:08–112:32
• Shashank on Collaborating & Music Fight: 63:13–63:34
• Ashley’s Sneaker (Sambas) Wedding Tip: 56:29

Closing Thoughts

This Girls Gotta Eat wedding special is more than a recap—it’s an insider’s, comedic masterclass in how to make your wedding personal, communal, and unforgettable, while keeping it real about the tough emotional fallout on the other side. The episode blends practical advice, relatable chaos, and hard-won wisdom, all delivered in the hilarious, open, and supportive tone listeners know and love.

For future brides, grooms, and wedding obsessives, this is essential listening—plus, where else will you get egg carton lore, Beyoncé vs. Drake wars, and a sneak peek into the actual Girls Gotta Eat family?