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Summary

Give It To Me Straight - Episode 62 Summary

Introduction In Episode 62 of Give It To Me Straight, hosts Alex and John delve into the complexities of friendships, the challenges of drifting apart, and dealing with negative influences in one’s social circle. Through a blend of personal anecdotes, candid discussions, and listener Q&A, the duo offers unfiltered advice on navigating relationships and maintaining personal well-being.

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Personal Health and Pregnancy Updates The episode opens with Alex and John discussing their ongoing struggles with illness amidst Alex’s pregnancy. Alex shares her reliance on prenatal vitamins to bolster her immune system, stating, “I just have been taking prenatals and all the prenatals. You know, you should, honestly. Because it will help your immune system, maybe” ([02:02]).

John humorously laments his frequent bouts of sickness, despite his background as a therapist, remarking, “I got sick all the time when I was a therapist too. And you thought I would. Had, like, a strong immune system” ([02:15]). Their conversation underscores the importance of vitamins and supplements in maintaining health, with Alex emphasizing the efficacy of prenatal vitamins in preventing illness.

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Sleep Struggles During Pregnancy Pregnancy brings its own set of challenges, particularly with sleep. Alex describes her deteriorating sleep quality in the third trimester: “I just feel like I'm listening. And we were getting on the plane. I think we're not good” ([03:57]). She humorously notes her inability to stay awake without talking, adding, “If I wasn't talking, I'd be asleep” ([03:03]).

John discusses his own poor sleep patterns, attributing it to being uncomfortable, saying, “Light sleeper, bad sleeper, my back. I just, like, uncomfortable all the time” ([04:16]). The couple considers practical solutions, such as sleeping in separate rooms, with Alex suggesting, “I should probably sleep on the couch” ([05:14]).

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Travel Troubles: The LA Trip A significant portion of the episode recounts Alex and John’s recent trip to Los Angeles, which was fraught with travel mishaps. They share a detailed account of their flight delays, booking difficulties, and the frustration of missing their assigned seats. Alex explains, “We're not getting on either of these flights” ([15:17]), highlighting the chaos they faced at the airport.

Despite the setbacks, a silver lining emerges when a gate agent named Julia upgrades them to first class: “She hands us our boarding pass. She says, I don't know how I was able to pull this off, but you guys got upgraded to first class” ([16:12]). John remains skeptical, expressing lingering frustration despite the upgrade.

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Hollywood Glimpses: Happy Gilmore Premiere Alex and John attend the premiere of Happy Gilmore, offering their impressions of the event and interactions with celebrities. Alex reflects on meeting John Cena, noting, “Alex looks at me. She goes, he's not as big as I thought he was” ([23:32]). They discuss the relaxed dress code for the premiere, which emphasized comfort over traditional red carpet attire, and share their observations on the genuine and surprising appearances of various celebrities.

John adds, “The best. I love that” ([24:19]), appreciating the casual atmosphere of the event, and both hosts express their enjoyment despite the intense heat inside the venue.

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Pop Culture Commentary: Grey's Anatomy The conversation shifts to pop culture as Alex and John discuss Grey's Anatomy. John critiques the show's portrayal of medical procedures, doubting their authenticity: “John goes, that's fake” ([25:14]). They explore the camaraderie depicted among healthcare workers, contrasting it with their own small team dynamics. Alex passionately praises real healthcare workers, stating, “Shout out to health care workers like you guys, you doing your job is just so attractive” ([27:11]).

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Listener Q&A: Friendship and Relationships The heart of the episode features a robust Q&A session where Alex and John address listener questions about friendships and relationships. Key topics include:

1. Is it odd to not have friends and not want to have them?

   • Alex affirms that it’s okay to prefer the company of a spouse but emphasizes the importance of maintaining external friendships for mental well-being. She advises, “Maybe just try for one friend and that's it” ([34:42]).

2. How to tell a friend you’re pregnant when they’ve had miscarriages:

   • John suggests a sensitive, one-on-one approach, recommending, “I would have to say something” ([42:25]).

3. Difficulty making adult friends after moving to a new location:

   • They discuss strategies like joining clubs, being bold in reaching out, and utilizing social platforms to foster new friendships. Alex encourages, “you just gotta be bold, keep. Put yourself out there” ([38:58]).

4. Dealing with past relationships and honesty in marriage:

   • Emphasizing transparency, Alex and John advocate for honesty about past relationships to maintain trust, advising not to hide significant details.

5. Excluding a partner from friends' gatherings:

   • They assert that it’s not normal for a partner to never be invited to friends' events, suggesting potential underlying issues if such patterns emerge.

Throughout the Q&A, Alex and John provide pragmatic and often humorous advice, blending empathy with straightforwardness. For instance, addressing the challenge of maintaining friendships, John quips, “you have to be bold” ([38:58]), while Alex emphasizes the natural evolution of relationships, stating, “relationships grow apart and accept it for what it is” ([55:10]).

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Final Reflections and Closing Thoughts As the episode wraps up, Alex and John reflect on the nature of friendships and the importance of surrounding oneself with supportive and positive individuals. They stress the need to let go of relationships that no longer contribute to personal growth or happiness, encouraging listeners to focus on self-improvement and nurturing meaningful connections.

Notable Quotes:

• Alex on Prenatals: “I just have been taking prenatals and all the prenatals. You know, you should, honestly. Because it will help your immune system, maybe” ([02:02]).
• John on Frequent Sickness: “I got sick all the time when I was a therapist too” ([02:15]).
• Alex on Being a Good Sleeper: “I just feel like even if a pin drops, you're awake” ([04:20]).
• John on Alex Snoring: “sleeping non stop. And it's brutal” ([04:50]).
• Julia, the Gate Agent: “you guys got upgraded to first class” ([16:12]).
• Alex on the Premiere: “seeing celebs in real life is always so interesting” ([23:16]).
• Alex on Grey's Anatomy: “I was like, damn, these people are in it. And they're actors...” ([26:07]).

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Conclusion Episode 62 of Give It To Me Straight offers a comprehensive exploration of friendship dynamics, personal growth, and relationship management, all delivered with Alex and John’s signature blend of honesty and humor. Whether discussing their personal health struggles, recounting travel woes, mingling with celebrities, or providing advice on delicate friendship issues, the episode serves as a relatable guide for listeners navigating similar life challenges.

Transcript

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The following podcast is a dear media.

[B]

Production sports players where people get heat exhaustion, the max come on the field and like, pull their pants down and put like a fucking ice pop in their asshole to like, cool down their internal temperature. No.

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So an ice dildo.

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Yeah.

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No.

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And welcome back to Give it to me Straight.

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I'm Alex.

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And I'm John. And we're your gracious grand, gracious gracious host.

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Wow.

[B]

Wow.

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What's up?

[B]

I'm getting sick.

[A]

I know you are, and it's so annoying.

[B]

I know, but like, you look at me like, I can't. I can't help that I'm coughing. And you, like, we're at the OB today and you look at me and you're like. Like, why are you coughing?

[A]

Cuz you cough all the. Like, I feel like you're always coughing your whole life. You are.

[B]

That's so dramatic.

[A]

You are.

[B]

I'm not coughing all the time. Yes, I did just get over being sick.

[A]

But like, why are you.

[B]

You know why?

[A]

Because you like the floors.

[B]

I'm not even going to say. Kids, even these old men at the Y, they don't wash their fucking hands. Wash your fucking hands.

[A]

Okay, but you can only go shit.

[B]

And they don't wash their hands.

[A]

That's disgusting. But, like, then why do you go there? Or because I have to get out, Take vitamins every day.

[B]

No, why would I take. I take my statin.

[A]

Maybe that. Okay, so you're only focused on your cholesterol.

[B]

Multivitamins, you know that shit. Do you just piss 90% of that out?

[A]

Prenatals. I haven't been sick in like, literally two years because I've just been taking prenatals and all the prenatals. You know, you should, honestly. Because if it will help your immune system, maybe.

[B]

I used to take a fish oil pill, but I hated burping up the fish. And then if you. That's the one pill. If I don't eat on it, I get really nauseous.

[A]

Yeah, not the fish oil, but like, any type of vitamin to boost your immune system would be greatly appreciated just by me. Thank you.

[B]

Okay. I. I can't help it. I just get. No, it's so weird. I got sick all the time when I was a therapist too. And you thought I would. Had, like, a strong immune system. I'd get sick and then also get sties all the time.

[A]

It's just. It's not even that I don't want to care for you.

[B]

You don't. You wouldn't.

[A]

It's just because it's all the time.

[B]

You wouldn't care for me if. No, I'm sick.

[A]

In sickness and in health. Yes, but, like, where's the sickness?

[B]

You go the distance.

[A]

Where's the cut off? Because, like, for you, it's all the time.

[B]

When you say you take care of me, you mean you're patient with me for like three days tops.

[A]

That's a long time. When it's once a month.

[B]

What do you actually do for me when I'm sick? Just stay away from me. That's all you do.

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I pat you on the back, I tell you you're doing a good job, and then I say, no, it sucks.

[B]

I want to say I'm tired too, but I can't complain because you're the. You're the pregnant one. I know you're gonna be like, you're tired. I'm tired.

[A]

Who brought up being tired? This is about you being sick. And.

[B]

Well, you did say you're tired.

[A]

Vitamins.

[B]

I guess I didn't hit play yet when you said you're tired.

[A]

Yeah, of course. Like, again, I'm. In the last few weeks, sleep has not been.

[B]

Let's talk about that.

[A]

I just. I'm a great sleeper. I've truly never had a problem with. With sleep. All the videos of me when I was a kid, I'm asleep. I'm just a sleepy gal. When I'm awake, I'm awake. But if I'm sitting down, I'm usually asleep, which is shocking for this podcast. Because I'm sitting down. Maybe it's because I'm talking. If I wasn't talking, I'd be asleep. But being pregnant, oh, my God.

[B]

You would have thought we already had our kid because. So we're so fucked.

[A]

But I've heard we are fucked. But I've heard that newborn tired is still better than pregnancy tired. And I didn't understand that until getting into the third trimester, when my aura ring is literally like, your sleep score is at a negative zero and you've woken up 18,000 times last night. I've never been like that.

[B]

You're not sleeping well, Alex. So Alex always has snored, but when she really stopped drinking, she stopped snoring a lot. Your sleep was a lot better. I could tell that her sleep, sort of. Because I'm the one who doesn't sleep at all. So I can just free really monitor alcohol.

[A]

Have you always been a light sleeper?

[B]

Light sleeper, bad sleeper, my back. I just, like, uncomfortable all the time.

[A]

You are a light sleeper. Because I just Feel like even if a pin drops, you're awake.

[B]

Like REM sleep. What's that? I don't think I'm ever in that. I heard if you remember your dreams, you're not like in rem. You're not.

[A]

You should get an aura ring because I'd just be very interested.

[B]

Be like code red, go to the hospital.

[A]

Yeah, but I'd be interested to see you. Probably like imagine you are actually getting good sleep and you just are a big complainer.

[B]

There's no way. There's no way I'm getting good sleep.

[A]

I don't know. Yeah.

[B]

But going back to Alex snoring, so Alex, yeah, she always had this thing with snoring. Then she stopped drinking. And then you also like, we were getting healthier and Alex then was good. And then I was starting to sleep because she wasn't snoring. And now in this late third term we're in, she is snoring non stop. And it's brutal.

[A]

Sleeping.

[B]

I feel bad for you sleeping. I feel bad for me, but I feel bad for you.

[A]

Actually, I should probably sleep in another room because I will so much. I should probably just sleep on the couch.

[B]

No. Because the bathroom's right there.

[A]

No, no. You could feel bad for me.

[B]

I didn't tell you you had to go sleep. I'll go sleep on the couch. Don't try to make people be like, oh, look at Alex sacrificing. I never had.

[A]

Kicking me to the couch. It's okay. I'll make the sacrifice for you. So what did we do this week? We went to LA this week.

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A lot.

[A]

We did a lot.

[B]

This is the last ura.

[A]

I know we're now not traveling.

[B]

If anyone wants to take me anywhere, I'm still available.

[A]

You would be such a good husband if you left me. Oh my gosh. Yeah, you should go, John. You should.

[B]

Oh. Kind of going back. One thing that I need to talk about real quick. When I slept on the couch the other night. Cuz you're snoring so bad. I came in the next morning to check on her. She looked pale. Her mouth.

[A]

As opposed to when I'm always.

[B]

No, no, like blood loss. Your mouth was wide open and your eyes were partially open. I thought you were a fucking zombie because you were like. And you were doing this.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

And I was like, do I need to resuscitate you? I got scared for a second. But then you came to and like a slight laugh was weird.

[A]

You're like, I woke up to you walking in because now all Of a sudden I'm a light sleeper and you looked so scared and I'm like, what? I was like. She's like, I thought you were dead.

[B]

I almost stuck my finger underneath your nose to just make sure you were breathing.

[A]

You know how they have. We like just made our registry, thankfully. Shout out to babylist for all of your help. They have. What is it called? Like an owlette sock that you could put on sleeping babies. Socks.

[B]

We need a doll one for you for sure.

[A]

I'm gonna need one so. So you could tell if I'm breathing or not.

[B]

What's your thoughts on that? I feel like everyone's up and down about it. I think it's a good idea.

[A]

I actually love to hear from anyone in the comments if you guys have used the owlette sock because I feel like we've heard two different sides. Some friends who have used it. So basically it monitors your oxygen and.

[B]

Is very good for like to prevent sids.

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Right.

[A]

I think it. It monitors heart rate, breathing of baby. It's a little sock that you put on them that like monitors all those things while they're sleeping. So if something is wrong, you could go in and wake them up. But I've heard from two ends of the spectrum. Some people are like, oh my gosh, love it. It gave me peace of mind. And some other people have said if you're already anxiety ridden or like if you already have heightened anxiety about your kids sleeping, it can almost make it worse. Similar to how people who are like overly into.

[B]

I haven't. I have an on health analogy for what me with the ring door.

[A]

Oh yeah. I could see that. Or again, I've seen people who have the apple watch who are like so into their.

[B]

I'm always watching cameras. I'm going to be like that with. That's why I don't have an aura ring. Even the apple watch, I don't want to know. But I'll. I'll be watching this shit all day long and go crazy.

[A]

Right? Like, I check it once. I'm like, okay, I'm.

[B]

You're good or you're not.

[A]

I'm not good. Yeah. And then I go about my day.

[B]

Oh my God.

[A]

But I don't know. I don't know if it's worth it or not to get it, but I.

[B]

Feel like it is for peace of mind of. Because I don't want to have to be staring over her all night to make sure she's breathing. I do that with you. I can't do it for both of you.

[A]

True.

[B]

What am I going to do?

[A]

I know, I know. I mean, I'm just so tired at this point. Like, again, I've been pregnant for 487 million days. I made a TikTok about that. And while I think people thought it was maybe a joke about how I was exaggerating how many days I was pregnant for, like. No, no. I've literally been pregnant from 2024 to 2025 for over 400 days. I just hope it ends with a baby this time that's alive. I'm just like, fingers crossed.

[B]

I am so over Alex just being Debbie Downer every time one. I. I just know. Whatever, let's time. Her rebuttal is going to be depressing.

[A]

Anyway, so I want to talk about our travel home from la, because again, it doesn't go smooth.

[B]

I jinxed it because I'm like, wow, this is so smooth. And you're like, it's. We were on the flight there and you go, it's always the way back. That's the issue.

[A]

Exactly. I can't think of. Knock on wood. You know, we're not traveling for a while anyway, so it doesn't matter. But I can't think of a time that we've, like, gone to a destination and travel has really been annoying. Like we've shown up late or something. It's always on the way home.

[B]

Why is that?

[A]

Which I guess I would rather if. If one way is going to be annoying. I guess I'd rather it be on the way home. But it wasn't smooth from the beginning. We woke up to a text and it was like, your flight has been delayed by three hours from mechanical issues. But there were earlier flights.

[B]

Just so everyone knows. I didn't get the text. Alex did. And I probably guarantee you that text came in right before bed. But Alex never checked her.

[A]

Do you want to check? I will fudgeing show you. Do you think I'm just lying to you? Also, if it came in right before bed, do you think that I saw it and I was like, you know what? I'm not gonna tell you.

[B]

Why not? One of the 18 times you wake up at night, check your phone just to see if you got any messages.

[A]

I'm gonna fucking end your life. Why would you think that I would just waste time to try to not get us on another flight?

[B]

I don't know. I don't think you are. I'm just joking.

[A]

I'm just joshing.

[B]

I'm just riffing with you.

[A]

I'm just joshing. You don't.

[B]

How about don't fuck with me right now? How about that?

[A]

Cause I can't. I honestly can't tell. And it's just annoying.

[B]

Yeah, your threshold's really low now.

[A]

Again, understandable sentences again. And I'm just like, I can't follow along. Like, I just feel like I'm listening.

[B]

And it's like me, we've had a couple things. I'm like, you're not listening to me. And I'm right. I know I'm right.

[A]

I'm like, it's not about being right or wrong. I just.

[B]

Prime example. The front door, when we left for the trip, you were the last one out.

[A]

The front door always locks itself, John.

[B]

She goes, you didn't lock the door. I go, you were last out of the door.

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Okay? You always get.

[B]

And then somehow you just bring it back like it's not your fault. Just admit when you're wrong. It's not that hard, John.

[A]

Remember that time you threw away our pool cover?

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Okay, next question. So, okay, so I get the text in the morning, not that night.

[B]

Keep going.

[A]

I look at John and I go, do you want to sleep in? And he goes, no, we should head to the airport and, and see if we could get on an earlier flight. And I go, okay, that's a great idea, John. Let's start that process now. I'm like, we're not going to wait till we get to the airport. We're going to call American Airlines now. So we get in the Uber that was Pre scheduled at 4 in the morning and we get on the phone with them or John does and it's taking so long. You were on the phone with that lady for. I felt what, like the entire car ride?

[B]

It was a 45 minute car ride. I was on the phone with her for 45 minutes.

[A]

So he's on the phone and I'm on a chat. Like the chatbot thing, trying to like do that. Also like we're, we're tag teaming. We're both trying to get onto. There's like two earlier flights. They go, what was the issue? I don't even remember why they couldn't.

[B]

The first lady I talked to says, no seats available on the one beforehand. I'm like, okay, but we were looking.

[A]

At the seat map and we could purchase it.

[B]

So then I called another lady and she kept putting me on hold, kept putting me on hold. And then she, she was like, yeah, there's, there's no seats available. And I'm like, why did you wait so Long. And Alex still had the. The flight app up and it showed seats available. It's like, I think this is intentional so that people buy these fucking seats.

[A]

Last minute, Last minute. I don't know. I have no idea why. But we get to the airport and I was like, okay, let's just talk to an agent. So we're going to check in. And we were like, hi, our flight was delayed three hours. There's an earlier flight. Can we get in on it? And they were like, no, there's actually no seats. And I was like, why does it show up on the flight map? And they were like, it's delayed. And I was like, okay, that makes sense. Like, they have more of the updated flight map. And I'm sure because of the flight.

[B]

Was delayed, you would. Hope you would.

[A]

Whatever. Yeah. Who knows if they were lying to us? So we were like, okay, whatever. We'll just hang in the airport for three hours. We'll get some breakfast, we'll do some work. So the time to board our flight comes. We go to get on our flight. I scan my thing and it goes. And I'm like, what the fuck? Like, here is my boarding pass.

[B]

I still committed. I was like, move. And then I scanned mine. And then it goes. And then I lost my fucking mind.

[A]

And she's like, let me see your boarding passes. And then she clicks on her seat. She goes, these seats are assigned to someone else. And we were like, how? How is that possible? And so she's like, please stand off to the side.

[B]

This is for our original flight, by the way.

[A]

Yeah, our original flight hadn't changed anything again. We just inquired about trying to get on another flight. So the entire plane boards. I'm like, someone's sitting in our seats. I'm looking up other flights now that are like an hour, two hours later to New York. The gate agent comes up to us and she's like, did you guys try to change your flight this morning to get on a different flight? And we were like, yeah, but not.

[B]

What first happened, by the way. There's a adjacent flight also going to JFK at the same time, and they're calling group numbers. And so I asked the lady. I'm like, she. I rightfully so I guess I don't care. Was still going through every group number one to get everyone on the flight first before helping us. And I'm like, ma', am, if I can't get on this flight because you're telling me I don't have seats, is there any way I can get on this other flight, she's like, you. You need to wait for me.

[A]

John is on planet Mars. And I'm like, come back down to Earth, my love. And I was like, we are not her priority. It is not her fault. She will deal with us when she's done. I thought, John, have you guys ever seen the movie? What is it? Inside out, John, is that little red creature, the little red angry anger?

[B]

I mean, I'm not. I. Dude, I get the. The staff. It's not their fault. I understand that and I understand that there's protocols, but I'm like, the only reason I was freaking out is because I. The flight was right there. And there's open on that flight, right? And so if I had to wait for her because she goes, last call and closing the fucking gate, I would have lost my mind. If I couldn't just.

[A]

Well, she did say last call for our flight. And then that other flight was also boarding, so whatever. We were like, we're not getting on either of these flights. But there was another flight like an hour and a half later. So I was like, it's fine. We'll just. We're already delayed three hours, four and a half. And so she comes over and she's like, did you guys try to change your flight this morning? And we were like, yeah, but they didn't rebook us. She goes, well, when you try to change your flight, sometimes they will bump your check in status and so it will drop it and open up your seats to someone else. And we were like, why the fuck is that the policy?

[B]

Like, why PSA to anyone out there. Don't even call unless you're committed to losing your fucking seat on your original flight.

[A]

Or double check that they don't bump you unless they rebook you. I'm. I don't know. It was like one of those things.

[B]

Where we never said, take me off this flight.

[A]

Correct.

[B]

Once. I was just like, oh, there's no seats available on the new flight. Okay, thank you. That was my conversation. So she was like, oh, you know what? Well, fuck you. You're not on the first one.

[A]

I have, like, other flights that are available. But Julia Queen Julia, she was such a saint, the gate agent. I remembered her name because I was like, she helped us out. So she's like typing things as fast as she can. And I'm thinking like, wow, she's moving really quickly for a flight that, like, we are already missing because they closed the doors. Ready? And then she goes. She hands us our boarding pass. She goes, I don't know how I was able to pull this off, but you guys got upgraded to first class. And I was like, oh, my God, this never happens to us. And it was lovely. And then it's up as I'm still.

[B]

Swallowing, I'm still stewing.

[A]

Oh, yeah. That didn't even fix your problem. You were like, I'm still gonna call and complain. And I'm like, julia, I'm not gonna.

[B]

No, I'm not. I'm just curious. Like, that's kind of. That. It's most principle. I would have taken my original seat. Just. Just in spite. Just because. Why was I kicked off. Yeah, why were we kicked off our flight without even telling us?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And we waited for three and a half, four hours without having a fucking seat.

[A]

Right.

[B]

Annoying.

[A]

Annoying.

[B]

And then on top of that, I fucking dropped my AirPod in underneath my seat and I couldn't get it. And then I had to wait an hour. And then I got the flight attendant to, like, shine her. Shine her cell phone down while I was like, wedging my hand under the seat. Like, what's that? Like the claw machine?

[A]

Oh, yeah.

[B]

And I'm like. She's like, go left because I ripped the whole cushion.

[A]

Oh, you couldn't see? So she was guiding you.

[B]

Yeah. So I ripped the whole cushion off the seat of the plane. And I'm like, am I hot or cold? Hot or cold? Hot or cold? I found it.

[A]

But, yeah, I saw you doing something over there and I was like, that's not my problem.

[B]

You're like in your own little pod. You're like, yeah, I don't give a about you.

[A]

I did not care. I was like, I'm going to take a nap.

[B]

But, yeah, so that was our flight.

[A]

But it. It ended up like, even though we still were delayed, it was a little stressful. Like, I feel like we ended up on top. And then the Uber home was even seamless. It was a seamless trip back.

[B]

So did it make you miss la? Being there?

[A]

I mean, again, just like, that's where.

[B]

Our flight was, by the way.

[A]

Yeah, we had said that. Yeah, that we went to la. I just love. I do love la. But again, I know there's pros and cons no matter where you go, but.

[B]

One of the cons is I watched a homeless man take a shit in the front of a store entrance.

[A]

You saw him preparing to take a shit. You didn't see.

[B]

I know. I know how as a man, I know how other men go to take a shit. Pants were coming down in a squat formation.

[A]

No, I know he was but you didn't see him, you saw him getting ready to take a shit.

[B]

It's like, you know, he's pump faking me. He's just gonna, he's pulling down. He's like psyching. He's gonna pull his pants back up.

[A]

He wasn't actively is what I'm saying. He was getting ready to take a.

[B]

LA is wild.

[A]

LA is wild anywhere you go, you know. No, no to in a city.

[B]

Good and bad though. Love the weather.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So anyways we, we, we went to la. We had worked there. We, we worked with Baby List. That was pretty fun. Got some, got some stuff Overwhelming. Oh my God.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I was like, what do you really need for, for a baby? You need one of those little mattresses.

[A]

Well, we spoke about it and we actually got some emails from moms and parents who were like these are the necessities which were super, super helpful. But like we made our registry and I feel confident about it. And it's, it's more just that looking.

[B]

At strollers, I thought it was in like a car show. She's like, well this is the Nimbus 5000 and so many options.

[A]

But it kind of was cool because when I see people using strollers, to me I'm like, that is overwhelming. Like breaking them down, setting them up. I'm just, just like the mechanics of it all. But I think having a one on one concierge explain it to us. I was like, okay, I'm not as stressed anymore. It was easier. Plus I'm like am I really going to be using it? Like no, you're going to be using it.

[B]

I don't like how I'm looking at stuff now like in the parents eyes. I never thought I was going to be like that. And now I'm like watching other people down the street. I'm like boom, that's a new boo. Boom, that's a upper baby boom. That's something. We saw that convertible looking thing at the airport.

[A]

We were like, had no clue. So we had had dinner with friends a few weeks ago and they were like, yeah, there's the nuna, there's a duna. And we were like is that a joke? Like is that for real? And then when we went to Baby list they, we learned what the difference between a nuna and a duna is. Not a fan of the duna, but we saw one in the airport and I was like, I could see where it would work, guys. Like I, I feel I don't even know who I am right now.

[B]

I know. And then my TikTok and Instagram's all like, baby stuff. It's so overwhelming. Just too much, too much.

[A]

And then like, there's us. Who. I'm like, we're stressed about one. People have like 10 kids out there.

[B]

It's crazy.

[A]

Some people have multiple children, whatever, you.

[B]

Know, but we'll figure it out.

[A]

How do they do it?

[B]

Keep it simple. You know, Keep it simple.

[A]

Do you have someone, like, how does your calendar work? How do you stay so organized, taking care of your life, your schedule and your children's? How do you do that?

[B]

I don't know. But I have a question to ask you. Random. Specifically, you specifically. Because I'm gonna just kind of judge you. Are you the type of person.

[A]

Here we go. What? John?

[B]

Like, you go to the grocery store, you get all your groceries, you go to your car, you know, unload, and then you're about to get in your car, like, wait a minute, what should I do with this grocery cart? Are you the type of person you bring it back? Are you?

[A]

Every time?

[B]

Are you.

[A]

Why are you asking me?

[B]

I'm just curious. Cuz I don't know if you are or not. Cuz I don't remember. Cuz I'm always the one with the.

[A]

Cart or I'm the type of person who's like, I'm going to get in my steps. Like, I'm also. It's also just etiquette.

[B]

She's a good person. Good for the most.

[A]

Really think that I was a leave your car in the parking place?

[B]

My dad did it and I was like, dad? Oh, he ramps it up on the. On the thing. Like, come on, you're better than that.

[A]

That's why I usually like to park near one of the cart, not next to it. Not next to it. Near. Because then. I know, but like, you always have to bring it back, even if there's not one. My. What is it called? Like, I just would feel too. My guilty conscience would just eat me up if I left it somewhere I.

[B]

Knew I picked the right one. Okay. That's all I had to ask. I was just curious.

[A]

I can't now.

[B]

I'm.

[A]

I'm a. A little bit annoyed that you think that I wouldn't bring it back.

[B]

I just wasn't sure.

[A]

With kids, though, what's your, like, what's your thought process on?

[B]

I put the kid in the car, roll all the windows up, shut the car off, and then I take my time bringing the car to them.

[A]

Perfect. It's the logistics of it. But yeah, I still don't think, like, there. There's ways to work it out. You don't leave your cart in the parking lot. Another update. We went to the Happy Gilmore premiere last night.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

Forgot about that.

[B]

That was awesome.

[A]

Oh, my gosh. It was so hot, though. And this is like, where I'm just like my preg. I truly. During the day, I'm just like. I forget that I'm pregnant, and then things like this happen. I'm like, oh, yeah, I'm for sure pregnant. I could not stop sweating.

[B]

Yeah, it was. It was brutally hot in there. But it was fun. It was cool. Tons of. Tons of celebrities there.

[A]

It was, I feel like one of the most celeb.

[B]

I gotta say something, Alex. We're waiting. We go after our photos and we're like, hanging on the little, like, pre party or whatever, and John Cena rolls in and Alex looks at me. She goes, he's not as big as I thought he was.

[A]

He's not.

[B]

I'm like, alex, that guy would snap me in ninth.

[A]

Well, yeah, you. But like, oh, you. He's. I feel like he's a big dude. Well, that's. What I was just gonna say is like, that was probably one of the more celebrity packed, like, premieres that we have gone to. And seeing people in real life, like, seeing celebs in real life is always so interesting because they're either taller than you thought, they're smaller than you thought, or like, someone saw you the other day. And then she was like, you are so tall. And I was like, that is the.

[B]

First felt on top of the world.

[A]

And usually she was also.

[B]

She said what? She goes, I'm also 47.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, something like that. But usually at premieres, like, you know, you dress up, it's red carpet, whatever. But because this was an Adam Sandler movie, the dress code was specifically to wear sneakers, tracksuits, like, wear comfy clothes.

[B]

The best. I love that.

[A]

Yeah. So, like, thankfully, I feel like we were comfortable the whole time, but running into people, I was just like, oh, did not anticipate them to look like that. And John Cena was one of them. I thought he was just gonna be massive, and he was not.

[B]

But it was awesome movie. And it comes out, I think, the 25th.

[A]

Well, by the time this episode comes out for like a few days. So you. Some of you guys, if you're a.

[B]

Happy Gilmore fan, you'll love it over the weekend.

[A]

Yeah. Oh, another show I wanted to talk about, not movie show. Whatever. The pit finished that. And now I feel like I learned so much from it. Like, I never. Don't. Don't hurt me fans when you hear this. But I never really got into Grey's Anatomy. I feel like it was just like, so many seasons.

[B]

I think Grey's Anatomy was more like relationship drama, where this is like, it's in your face. Health care, like, which I like.

[A]

The pace of it was because it was all set in this house.

[B]

Watch this birth. She's crowning. Come check out this lady crowning.

[A]

I'm like, John goes, that's fake. Obviously. Like, any of the procedures going in.

[B]

And out, I'm like, come on.

[A]

But I just.

[B]

I felt you think there was somebody, like, moving the fake baby, like a puppet going in and out of the vagina.

[A]

That would be your job on set, John.

[B]

Pump.

[A]

Pump it, John. Slower. John's a little bit slower. You need to relax. But I do feel like it was such a good show.

[B]

It was. Yeah. I'm not a huge fan of any of those shows either, but this was really good. More so. It made me feel super incompetent, like I would never be able to act that.

[A]

There's something. I think you could.

[B]

No way. Those big.

[A]

A lot of lines and a lot of jargon.

[B]

Medical jargon.

[A]

Yeah. But there's something that is so hot about people just doing their jobs, you know? Like, if I saw you working in.

[B]

The medical field, I'd be like, and you never care.

[A]

No, no, no, I did. Like, if I saw you talk. When you talk medical terms, I'm like, say. Say that again. I don't know what you just said.

[B]

Colostomy bag.

[A]

Sure. Wet, moist. But I just think watching the show, I was like, damn, these people are in it. And they're actors, but they're amazing actors.

[B]

Yeah. I give them all so much respect. What I. When watching that, what I miss, though, and I think other, like, people in healthcare can see the camaraderie that they had, like, as the group. I'm like, I kind of miss that because you guys are, like, in the together, and then you feel like a.

[A]

Team, where it's like, it's just me and you here.

[B]

We're a team, though. Let's go, let's go.

[A]

Maybe that's why we need to hire person people. Like, we have teams, but they're in la. They're away. No, it's just on the day to day, it's me and you and Kobe.

[B]

No, I probably hate them. I like. I like just the two of Us.

[A]

Also, I guess it's kind of like they're saving lives. We're not.

[B]

Where are you going with that?

[A]

Like there's just.

[B]

We're not doing anything.

[A]

Adrenaline that you get and like, you know, a team feeling when you're actually doing something that's really important in life anyway. Shout out to health care workers like you guys, you doing your job is just so attractive.

[B]

Respect. Respect for sure. Can we just, can we move on? Questions also, I really like your shirt by the way.

[A]

Thank you.

[B]

I see. Mark.

[A]

I can't currently drink spicy margs, but. But I'm excited for the day that I can when I won't have heartburn and all these pregnancy symptoms. Which leads us into our sponsor today, which is Ritual. Being pregnant for the second time now. It's actually wild how little information there is on pregnant women and I feel like we learned that the first time. We're often excluded from clinical studies and that includes studies around prenatal multivitamins. Many aren't even clinically tested yet. They're intended to support one of the most critical times in human development. Ritual is the number one best selling prenatal and there's a reason for that. What I love about ritual is their transparency around ingredients. Before getting pregnant, you might feel more nonchalant about putting random things in your body. I know I did. I was like licking floors. But as soon as you see a positive pregnancy test, you're like, wait, this is not just about me now. I actually care about the products that I'm consuming and what's going into my body. Ritual is clear closing the gap and aiming to set a new standard in the supplement industry with a 24 week clinical trial for their essential prenatal multivitamin. They're also pushing for more inclusive studies that prioritize women, especially during pregnancy. Essential prenatal multivitamins helps deliver key nutrients needed during pregnancy, including folate, biotin and vitamin D. And moms taking ritual actually had a lower overall cortisol level during pregnancy than those taking a leading Prenatal pregnancy is just stressful enough and the last thing you need to worry about is what is in your prenatals. So do not settle for less than evidence based support. Get 25% off your first month at ritual.com straight start ritual or add essential prenatal to your subscription today. That's ritual.coms t r a I g h t for 25% off. Oh, wait. But before we dive into questions, I wanted to ask you because there's one thing I Mean, I learned a lot from the pit medical things, but I want to know, was there anything that you learned? Like, what's like one fun fact that you pulled from the pit, from either the show or just like that you have in your medical.

[B]

From what knowledge that I learned from the pit that I. No, none of that stuff I did even remotely close.

[A]

No, no, but like, what's. Or what's something that you either got from that show that you were like, oh, that's an interesting fact. Or from your own experience.

[B]

You're the one who watched the show. I watched.

[A]

Like, I'll give you an example. So mine, what I learned was if you're overheated, when you're like trying to bring a body temperature back down to like a normal body, you shove the.

[B]

Ice up their asshole.

[A]

I don't know, up your ass. But you put them in an ice bath, but you don't want them to get below 102 degrees because you can overcorrect and then they could become hypothesis hypothermic.

[B]

Good to know.

[A]

Yeah. So if like, you know, one of your friends is at like 107 degrees and you're putting them in an ice bath, don't let them get to 100 or 99.

[B]

I don't know if this is true or not or if people have just told me this, but like sports players where people get heat exhaustion, the max come on the field and like pull their pants down and put like a ice pop in their. To like cool down their internal temperature. No fun fact.

[A]

So I still dough.

[B]

Yeah, no, I'm gonna look it up.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

I. I'm.

[A]

You think that on the field they're just out there popping popsicles of people's butts? When have you ever seen that?

[B]

This is on Reddit. Keep a freezer full of ice dildos in every ambulance. When someone has heat stroke exhaustion, shoveling up their ass to rapidly bring down their core temp, one of the comments goes, sounds like someone watched Blue Mountain State. I swear that's a good show.

[A]

We were just talking about an oil change for Blue Mountain State. No, someone fact check that.

[B]

I could see it, but I could probably be dangerous. Like maybe you cool him too.

[A]

Quick fun fact. John is back. Everyone okay.

[B]

Oh, somebody corrected me on the Travis Kelsey thing. Oh, he's just shy. Peeing because of paparazzi. Like peeing woods or something.

[A]

Out in his. Yeah, like out in the woods. That makes sense. So we're going to jump into questions, but something that inspired this week's episode Was. I love that Adam Sandler, going back to Happy Gilmore, created a production company so that he could have move his friends in all of his movies. I love that.

[B]

That's awesome.

[A]

Because I feel like yesterday at the premiere, looking around, I was seeing like all these OG comedians.

[B]

Rob Schneider. That's his fucking name. I was trying to talk to somebody about it and I was like, the guy who was like, you can do it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I couldn't remember the actors.

[A]

But there was. There was more than him. Just like you could. You could pinpoint the people who have been in his movies over the years. And I just love the dynamic that he has with his friend group and, like, how he created all of them but one. Okay, well, we don't need to get it into the friend drama because we have enough friend drama in these questions. And so this episode is about friends. Let me tell you about my best friend.

[B]

His name is John Robin Big. That's what. That's from Rip Big.

[A]

But that's because he passed away. That song wasn't from the show originally.

[B]

Well, that's how I remember.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

The song. Okay.

[A]

All right, first question. Is it odd to not have friends and not want to have them? I'm completely happy having my spouse as my best friend. I'm in my mid-30s now and moved to another country to be with my spouse, and I don't have the energy or interest to make friends here. I keep wondering if something's wrong with me for feeling like this.

[B]

No, that's fine. I feel you. But at the same time, you. What happens if something happens here, partner? Then you're like, I'm alone.

[A]

That's where I think it's important to still have friends outside of just your spouse. I mean, like, maybe you have friends in the country that you're from that you can maintain relationships with. But I. I don't know, I just think that there's. It's. I do think it's important for your mental well being to have separation from your spouse for some me time.

[B]

I agree. Let's sing that song. I got friends in the lonely places.

[A]

Where is it lonely or low? Okay, well, I got friends know the lyrics clearly. So. Yeah, I mean, I just.

[B]

In lonely places.

[A]

If you're feeling more like an introvert these days, that's okay. But I do think that you could still make some friends.

[B]

I don't think it really isn't good mental health wise. Like, you gotta have external, you know, relationships besides your husband or your partner. Just. Just. It's good for Your mental health. But I understand, like the older you get. I don't have any energy. I get it. It just like seems exhausting to make new friendships.

[A]

Right. But you need one. At least. I would.

[B]

You didn't make any like down the road getting to this point in life?

[A]

Well, no, like, I think it's because they're in a new country. That's why.

[B]

But I would hope you speak the language.

[A]

Yeah, I just think again. Just say you're in a bind or something to something happens to your husband and you're in this country alone. You don't have anyone. I don't know. I just. Maybe just one. Just maybe try for one friend and that's it.

[B]

Yeah, I agree. For safety reason, for a health reason.

[A]

For just to get out.

[B]

Learn more about the culture through a local.

[A]

Next question. My best friend has tried for six years to get pregnant. She's had five miscarriages, been to countless doctors, and spent a lot of money on ivf. I just found out that I'm pregnant without even trying to. I'm feeling really grateful, but I'm unsure how to tell her. I know she will be happy for me and sad for herself at the same time, and that's okay. As someone who has experienced loss, how would you want to be told?

[B]

Spritz the band aid. Don't say in a group fucking setting. But you can. How I would like it. I don't know how you would. If one of my friends was just like, hey, look, I don't want you to hear from somebody else. We're pregnant, you know, and I don't know how else to tell you, but I want to do like one on one. Just kind of give you the info before you hear from somebody else.

[A]

I think it's great that you're already aware and thinking about your friend's feelings. I think that's really kind of you and smart and just like, you know, self aware of you. I My personal experience, I liked when people told me not in a group setting. But I also really appreciated when it wasn't in person because I think it gave me time to process my emotions alone. And it also depended on my relationship with the person. Because if it was like more of an acquaintance, I'm like, oh my gosh, congratulations, I don't care. But if it was like a close family member or a close friend, I definitely. It stung a little bit more. And so having that time to process on my own without actually like that.

[B]

Better to over the phone.

[A]

Yeah. Without having to put on a face for that person because again, it's like you're. Like you are happy for them, you really are. But two things can be true at once. And so just my opinion, I do think that you send a message or call, but not necessarily in person, but.

[B]

Do it sooner than later before she hears it through somebody else. Especially if you're like a really close.

[A]

Friend and just know that at this season in your life, she might have to distance herself from you. And it's not personal. It's more about protecting herself in this season. Congratulations. Next question. Nobody talks about how hard it is to make adult friends. I moved to California a year ago and it'll sound very sad, but I don't have any friends here. I work remotely and I don't have kids. So I spend most of my time working at the gym or scrolling on social media and then go into hibernation mode on the weekends as I don't have anyone to go out with. Any tips.

[B]

I'm the last person to ask. I didn't make a single friend, but I feel you. I understand where you're coming from. LA is tough. LA is tough to make friends because I'm. I think a lot of LA is very superficial. I'm gonna.

[A]

I'm gonna say that it definitely is, I think sometimes. But you can find very genuine people also. But you learn that over time. Like, you can't.

[B]

How long has she been there?

[A]

A year ago.

[B]

It's been a year.

[A]

I think you need to put yourself in situations where you're going to meet people and you unfortunately have to. If you want to make friends, you have to be bold. And I think we talked about this about, like a parent, like making friends with other parents in a past episode. Reach out to someone, like, even if you're afraid. Because I feel like sometimes making friends as an adult feels like dating and I have like this TikTok idea to do about it, but it does. Like where you have a little bit of anxiety texting a new person or texting just to meet up as friends, because you really don't. It's not a romantic partnership. You just like, are looking for a friend. You say you spend most of your time working. You work remote. Is there anyone who lives in LA that you. Or California? I guess. I don't know. Not that you live in LA that you can meet up with in person to like work together.

[B]

No. She's in la, isn't she?

[A]

No, she just said California.

[B]

I can't speak on California as a whole, but in LA in general, I Think it's tough to meet people because LA is also not set up to make it easily accessible to like me people. Bar scene, for example, everything spread out. Unless you're in like we ho and there's back to back bars there. If drinking is one thing. Intramural sports, where the fuck is that? There's no fucking parking. Where do you hang out with people?

[A]

I'm just hearing a lot of excuses. I do think that you could make friends wherever you are. You just have to put the effort in and be brave. It's again, I feel like finding friends as an adult can feel like dating a little bit, but like you just gotta be bold, keep. Put yourself out there.

[B]

I think in other places, I think LA is tough.

[A]

I. I mean you could. But like she didn't say specifically LA or anywhere. I just feel like any making friends as an adult is going to be a challenge anywhere you are. Unless you're putting yourself out there. Because again, it's not like you have organized sports, organized classes in school. School.

[B]

I mean there are, there's intramurals. I'm on a volleyball team.

[A]

Right, but then join something and you've made some friends.

[B]

That's what I was saying though. In la, it's tough. I don't know if she's in la.

[A]

I know intramural sports in LA too, so.

[B]

You were not listening to me. I know that. But the problem with intramural sports is there's no parking. It's a nightmare to do anything. Cam and I playing tennis, for example. I don't even play tennis. I couldn't get a court two weeks out, even three weeks out. Everything's booked. All the public courts are booked if you want to. And if you want to play tennis or anything, you have to join a country club. You know how expensive country clubs are? It's not like $300 a month. They are like 50 grand on the lower end to even join a club to play tennis.

[A]

There's like free things. You could join run clubs. I'm not talking about run club specifically.

[B]

Put a stick a fork in my eye.

[A]

You're different because you just complain like you're going to make an excuse to not do something because of parking, you know, Whereas like someone might be able to walk if it's in their neighborhood or find something that's free in their neighborhood. Like join bumble bff.

[B]

Like when we were in Sherman Oaks, went in our walkable neighborhood.

[A]

How many. John, when people came to our housewarming party, how many people were there and how Many were, because they were all my friends that I made.

[B]

They were mostly acquaintances, first off.

[A]

Okay. But again, because we were only there for a year and a half. But they were all people I met.

[B]

We also were like, it's free alcohol and food. We're sponsored if you want to come over.

[A]

So our housewarming was not sponsored. Are you insane?

[B]

Also, it wasn't a housewarming party.

[A]

Oh, you're talking about.

[B]

It was a house cooling party.

[A]

Yeah, it was. You're talking about our friends giving. That was a sponsored. Yeah. Where we gave away a lot of tequila. Tequila, yeah. No, but our house cooling party. I don't know, I just think that, like, if you meet someone at a bar, ask, like, ask them for their number. Go to a restaurant. Like, I don't know. I just think it boils down to being bold.

[B]

Honestly. Just stay home alone and just be comfortable in the dark.

[A]

Okay, then don't make friends. Be like John and don't make friends. Next question. I've got a dilemma. I never told my husband that I slept with my best friend when I first met him, back during my wild years. This was way before my husband came into the picture. My friend and I have been close for about eight years, and my husband and I have been together for five and married for six months. Sometimes I feel guilty because this friend isn't just any friend. We've supported each other through a lot over the years. I even considered asking him to be my best man at the wedding. So should I tell my husband? Would it just stir up old ghosts? In a healthy marriage, I'd love to hear John's perspective. And yes, the friend is still pretty involved in our lives.

[B]

Oh, God. The only reason I think you should say something is because it's obviously on your mind. Obviously. Obviously. I'm having a hard time saying that word. Obviously.

[A]

Obviously.

[B]

Obviously.

[A]

You got it.

[B]

If it wasn't bothering you, I'd be like, God, is it worth bringing it up? But I could tell if it's on your mind. Me, personally, I would have to say something.

[A]

How would you feel if I told you about someone?

[B]

I mean, I would be pissed, but what am I gonna do?

[A]

What would make you mad about it if I. If it was because if it was someone who, again, was in my life before. Is it.

[B]

Anybody is gonna be mad about it, I think. I mean, maybe they just need to process it, but in the beginning, everyone's gonna be like, why wouldn't you tell me?

[A]

Because it's a vital piece of information lying by omission. Really? And so it's one of those things that, like, you up front just want to get ahead of before, like, hey, by the way, this is someone who I had a relationship with. And especially that they're still involved in your life. But do you think that she should tell him now after it's been. They've been together for six years, five years.

[B]

The only reason I'm saying yeah is because it's, it's. If it's eating at you for your own mental health, say something.

[A]

But do you think that would be more. Doing more damage?

[B]

I will say for him, like, very, very. Not bleak. What's the word I'm looking for? Non specific. Vague on your details of the relationship with this person. Don't tell him that you're thinking about having this person in your bridal party or whatever the fuck you were talking about.

[A]

No, but do you think her telling him is more for, like, selfish reasons? Because it's eating at her. Okay, so do you, like, do you actually think it would be beneficial for their relationship then for her to tell him?

[B]

No. Okay, lying's lying, I guess.

[A]

What?

[B]

You're living a lie, right? Are you not?

[A]

I mean, yeah, lying by omission, but it's not like she's doing anything wrong. Like, if you're looking at this scenario as a whole, I think the time, the window to tell him has closed. I think it would have been in the beginning of your relationship. I don't know.

[B]

I mean, how much more involved is this person in your. How involved is this person in your life? And is it getting more involved?

[A]

She said said, yes. This friend is still pretty involved in our lives.

[B]

Oh, my God. How long ago were you hooking up you and she was hooking up with this guy before. I know, I know. So like, again, it's not like you cheated on your husband exactly.

[A]

I'm just thinking scenario, like, were you.

[B]

Hooking up with this guy? Like a lot.

[A]

It's just said slept with my best friend when I first met him, back during my wild years. If you, if there was a friend in your life who you had slept with and you hadn't told me up to this point, I don't need to know. I don't think I would care to.

[B]

Know that I'm hanging out with all the time, that I'm hanging out with.

[A]

All the time, maybe that's the difference too, is you. I would be like, don't have friends of the opposite sex.

[B]

Think about it.

[A]

Part of. Yeah. That we were hanging out with.

[B]

Think about My friend from college. What if I told you I hooked up with her?

[A]

If you told me now, I would pro. I would probably be annoyed that you didn't. I would be like, why didn't you tell me this sooner? But I'd also have to question. Like, I know that our relationship is so solid right now. I can't imagine that getting in between us unless it was like, again, you had a reason for not telling me. But, yeah, if you were consistently hanging out with them all the time. But I don't know, I think it's just like, what is your relationship like?

[B]

She's hanging out with them all the time. You just said if you were hanging out.

[A]

But if she was hanging out with us as a group and this was something that happened before we met and it never happened again, like, you didn't date. I don't know. I feel like I'd be annoyed for a minute and be like, why don't you?

[B]

Are you hanging out with this guy one on one? We don't know.

[A]

Well, if it's one on one, like, absolutely. Not that. That's where I would just.

[B]

I think you're leaning towards tell him. We don't know the specifics.

[A]

Yeah, again. Yeah. I guess it's what you said.

[B]

Weird that you haven't told him.

[A]

The truth will set you free, even if it's more selfish for you, or not even selfish, but, like, will make you feel better. You just have to know it will hurt your partner, probably, and the dust.

[B]

Will settle, and then you'll feel better, and then your partner will make you never hang out with that person ever again. Next question.

[A]

You think it might impact. Yeah, okay, sure, I guess. You know, there's consequences to everything.

[B]

To be honest, though, that's the other thing. If your husband told you you can never hang out with that person again, I'd be like, what kind of confidence does he have in himself? Because I wonder how I would act. I'd be like, I. I know. I'd be pissed at you, right? But then when I be, because I'm sure they're friends too, like him and the guy. It's like, are you insecure? Are you that. Are you insecure enough that you're gonna be like, I banish you from hanging out with this guy again?

[A]

It's more, I think, along the lines that they lying by omission made him out of the loop of this friend dynamic. So it's like, there's not really full honesty there. Like, he doesn't know the full history of their Friendship. And so he might feel slighted because he'd feel like, why the. I feel stupid. You left me out of this. You know what I mean? Information. Like, if it wasn't that big of a deal, why didn't you tell me?

[B]

I'd be pissed at the guy too. I'd be pissed at both of them.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

But I wouldn't be, like, a little bitch about it. I'd be like, whatever.

[A]

So did we give any helpful advice?

[B]

Not really. Good luck. I mean, you don't want to put yourself in this situation.

[A]

We're not here to give helpful advice, just mediocre advice. Next question.

[B]

What do we. We're just doing the best we can. We're doing the best we can.

[A]

Everybody who you ask and bring their own bias into play, and I'm just like, you know, I don't know what I would do. Next question. My husband and I are newly married. We have known each other for over six years. And during this time, I have met a lot of his friends and their wives, and we often hang out with them and do couple activities. There is one friend who invites my husband over for parties with where the wives are sometimes invited as well, but I am no longer included. They'll pass it off as a guy's thing when he's first invited, but the other wives will be there as well. They used to invite me, and maybe because I'm not 100% their cup of tea anymore and I don't intend to be, is why I don't get invited now. Am I the asshole for creating an issue? I often get upset for not being included, and it causes arguments between my husband and I. It hurts as I try to get along with everyone. And I'm not a confrontational person, and neither is my husband. I don't want him and his friend to drift apart. But we are married now. Will I just have to compromise and never be invited again? I'm not sure how to approach this. Is it normal for the partner to never be invited to a friend's place? Especially when the other wives are there.

[B]

Someone saying they're not confrontational is like somebody saying they're funny. I'm gonna. I'm gonna die on that hill. When people. When someone says that about the last episode or something. I know. I don't think you're funny, Alex.

[A]

Not that I said. Oh, you know what? You called me non confrontational. I didn't call myself non confront. Confrontational.

[B]

Did I say you were conf. Wait. Yeah, I said you were conf. Confrontational.

[A]

No, you said you're non conf. Because you said you wish that you could support me in fights and be like, go.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

And you were like, but you don't. But I didn't.

[B]

Confrontational with me. No.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

With no one else.

[A]

I pick and choose.

[B]

Do you notice that in this question, she just breezed over. I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Like, And I. She did something. Didn't say what she did. So you. You consciously know you did something that, like, annoyed everyone in the group.

[A]

I know that you want to be a detective right now, but again, like, we can't just assume things.

[B]

I'm not assuming she said it. Read that part.

[A]

No, no, she said it. But what I'm saying is you can't assume that she did something.

[B]

She says.

[A]

What did she say that she did?

[B]

They used to invite me, and maybe because I'm not 100% their cup of tea anymore and I don't intend to be is why I don't get invited.

[A]

So what does that have to do with.

[B]

And I don't intend to be. It's like, what does that have to do? Like, whatever. I'm just like.

[A]

That doesn't mean that something necessarily happened. But I just think regardless of your relationship with this group, there's obviously some tension involved.

[B]

You're reading this question. You don't see. You don't.

[A]

I don't read into things. You have to just. And whatever things.

[B]

She's like, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Which means she definitely pissed this group off.

[A]

You're not everyone's cup of tea.

[B]

Cool. I. I know I'm not. I agree.

[A]

Does that mean that there was a situation that went down?

[B]

I'll tell you this. If I read. If I wrote the question, I'd be like, well, I did say something up or whatever or pissed someone off, but maybe she didn't.

[A]

That's why she didn't write that. No, she.

[B]

Why. Why even add that in there? What does it have to. What does it have to do with anything?

[A]

Maybe I'm not everyone's cup of tea. Just how, like, I might not be everyone's cup of tea. You know, like, not everyone is everyone's cup of tea.

[B]

You're fine.

[A]

I'm just like.

[B]

I'll just pretend.

[A]

Read it. Service level.

[B]

Jury, just remove that from your thoughts. It's not. Witness. Guilty.

[A]

Okay. I think at the end of the day, your husband continuing to go to things where you are being excluded from, I would be annoyed with, like, unless it's truly a guy's thing. Like, if you're going to a boys night and it is just a boys night, I'm like, go, have fun. But if they're like, it's a boys night, and every time the wives are included and I'm the only one not being included, I'd be like, why the fuck are you still going, like, without me? Where's.

[B]

Or you're. Or you are invited and your husband's like, I just need a break from you and just go by himself.

[A]

The husband is the one. That's true. Maybe you are invited and your husband is just like, oh, it's just a guy.

[B]

Like, you saw. You saw photos. Like, oh, last minute they showed up.

[A]

But if he was doing that, why would he say that the wives were there? How would she find that out?

[B]

If not, maybe on Instagram, maybe there's photos. Maybe the girls texted, you know, you don't know.

[A]

Okay, but the. Let's look at the last question. Is it normal for a partner to never be invited to a friend's place, especially when other wives are there?

[B]

No, it's not normal. Yes, you did something to piss everyone off.

[A]

Sean thinks you're the problem. I don't think you're the problem. Maybe you are. Like, why wouldn't you get invited?

[B]

You're what everyone else is invited but you. And you're not the problem. There is something going on, but let's.

[A]

Just say we can't speculate.

[B]

Let's just say I'm not speculating. I guess I am.

[A]

Let's just say it was me and you. I'm obviously more of a joy to hang out with than you are, but you continue to get invited to places. Let's say that. And I'm not.

[B]

I'm a fun time.

[A]

And I'm like, john, why are you going to Billy Bob's house without me? Like, why am I never including?

[B]

Because I need a breather.

[A]

But what would you say if all the whys were there? My best friend John.

[B]

I wouldn't. I wouldn't do that to you. I wouldn't go without you. That'd be fudged up.

[A]

Okay, so I think that answered the question there. That, yeah, you're in the right here. We're not going to make assumptions about something that you did or didn't not do.

[B]

You're not going to make assumptions. I am. Next question.

[A]

Next question. I have a friend who I've been close with since high school. I'm 29 and she's 31. It feels like we are still really only connected because we've been friends for so long and live close to each other and are both nurses at the same company. Other than those connections, which feels like a lot, I don't feel particularly excited around her. I'm ambitious, like, to make plans, try new things, and always have new ideas and goals. I have big plans for my future. On the other hand, my friend is fine staying in her one bedroom apartment all weekend with her significant other who is 20 years her senior and lives with his parents. I love my friend and I value some aspects of our friendship, but for the past few years I've been growing and I feel like she's okay staying stagnant. I and I can't connect with that. Is there something I should do? I've had a friend slowly distance herself from me in the past and that hurts. So I don't want to do that to someone. I also don't feel like I need to make an announcement to my friend.

[B]

Oh my God.

[A]

On how I feel.

[B]

Just make a difference.

[A]

You're just different people. I think it hurts because whatever. What's your take on this situation?

[B]

You can have different friends for different things. It seems like you got a lot with this person. You got work with them, you got crocheting with them, you're playing sports, whatever the they're doing. You have multiple things. I play cod with these two guys that I've never met before in my life. And that's our relationship.

[A]

Right.

[B]

You know what I'm saying? It's just like you can make new friends. You don't have to do everything together.

[A]

But that also doesn't mean you have to completely cut her out of your life.

[B]

No.

[A]

You could just again, keep.

[B]

Don't you feel like you're seeing her enough and you work with her?

[A]

That's what it is too, about like four friends growing apart. Like you. It doesn't have to be this big thing. It just naturally happens. And you can like, you don't have to make an announcement, but you also don't have to go to the lengths of cutting someone out.

[B]

What is cutting them out gonna do anyways? So you cut her out and then what? You still work with her Unless she's.

[A]

A toxic person to you, it doesn't seem like that.

[B]

It's just like she's doing her own thing. You do your own thing. I'll see you on Monday at work. I'll be with you Monday through Friday. Or at work.

[A]

High school reunion or whatever that.

[B]

Yeah, you're Fine. Your relationship's fine. You just make a new friend, make new friends. Yeah, but you're growing. Good for you. You keep doing you.

[A]

I think that's the underlying lesson of friendships. Just do you, you know, and then the right friends will find you and you'll understand, like you'll shed the other ones.

[B]

But it was interesting how you have like this thought in your shoulder, like, I'm just gonna cut ties completely. Like why though?

[A]

Why?

[B]

Why for what?

[A]

Again, I could see why there are situations in which you would cut out a friend.

[B]

Obviously I'm relating to just this question right now.

[A]

I saw you having to think about.

[B]

Obviously, obviously there's, you know, it's the.

[A]

B in there that gets a little tricky.

[B]

Put me in a home.

[A]

Next question. Would you tell your friend that you don't think her boyfriend is the one? My friend, 29 female, has been with her boyfriend, 29 male, for a year and a half. John, if you're going to keep doing that with your head, I'm not going to read these questions. Like I can't read them any faster. If you wanted to read them, we would be here for 30 years. So you need to sit there, put your thinking cap on and just pay attention. Would you tell your friend that you do not think her boyfriend is the one? My friend has been with her boyfriend for a year and a half. They live together and are publicly telling people they will be engaged within a year. He is nice and smart and I like him. My friend doesn't seem excited to marry him though. She talks about how she is jealous that her sister has a husband who is more of a leader and provider and how her sister does not have to to work and is able to be a stay at home mom. My friend is the sweetest person on earth and I think she's too nice to admit to herself that she would prefer a partner who is more responsible, organized and makes more money. We recently went on a group camping trip where he was the least helpful boyfriend of the group. This is a very close term friend and I feel like I'm betraying her by asking other friends their thoughts and discussing our shared feelings behind her back. I also do not want to push her away by giving unsolicited opinions. How would you start a conversation with this friend to confirm they are fully excited to marry this person rather than going through the motions? Summary for John. See, they were nice enough to even put a summary in for you. John, close old friend, disorganized boyfriend does not seem like the kind of partner she wants. Did that help?

[B]

I wish you just gave me the summary.

[A]

You would need all the context and it's in here and I'm ready to give it to you.

[B]

You said not drama. Like, talking is what she feels bad. No, no, no, not about her. You say this all the time about people talking. Like judgment, like judging people, or like almost trying to, like, suss out when you're speaking to other people.

[A]

You get a feel like gossip isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's how, like, people learn information to, like, it's historical for, you know, that's how you get the news. That's how you move forward in life. That's how you, like, figure out. And like, again, there's obviously toxic gossip, but, like, when you're just sharing information.

[B]

I. I don't know, don't feel bad about that. I honestly.

[A]

Well, because you're concerned for your friend as well.

[B]

I'm just literally going off of the very first sentence of this question. The rest just seemed like fluff to me. If you don't think your closest friend is with the right person and she's about to make a mistake. Yeah, say something. I've said this before. My dad did it with his best friend growing up and he was like, thank God you got me out of that. And then he got married again. And I think it was like the same thing.

[A]

I think, yeah, but he got married to someone else, not the other girl that your dad said to not marry. I think you get one pass, maybe two. Like, I think that you can address to your friend in the beginning of their relationship, and I think a year and a half is still fairly early on that potentially this person isn't right for them. Especially if maybe they're like, how do you like, so and so. But once they've been with them for a while and if they're talking about getting engaged, like, you gotta let people make their own mistakes and do what they want to do. Because I do think that there's a line that you can cross with where your friend is then going to be resentful of you overstepping and giving your opinion too much.

[B]

Like, and then, yeah, I wouldn't keep saying it. Say your piece once and then leave it there.

[A]

Would you say it even if they didn't ask for it?

[B]

Yeah. Who the fuck's asking? I'm definitely going to say it. At least they know, like, if you don't like that person, you don't have to feel like you have to go hang out with them.

[A]

Then I feel like, you don't. You're just not that immediate with it.

[B]

No, not that immediate, but like, after a while. And I also have people coming to me being like, hey, Alex is the worst. No, I actually now I'm thinking about it. Like, when I say when I've done it to multiple people, it's because I have other people telling me, like, hey, are you going to my. But the guy recently just did it to me, like, texting me about my friend's girlfriend concern. I'm like, why are you asking me? Because they know I'm going to fucking. I'll say something.

[A]

You're the one who's going to say something.

[B]

But then it's the thoughts about. I'm like, oh, maybe. Maybe it's not the best choice. I should mind my own fucking business. But everyone else is asking me to do it. I'm like, I guess I'm not wrong. Or maybe I need to think about that and saying your piece to hopefully help them. But no, I wouldn't say more than once. Be done with it. Like, all right, so my piece, whatever, you're saying it out of love for this person and hopefully your friend, it is receptive and understanding. Like, you're just looking out for them whether you agree with them or not.

[A]

Right? But I think you do have to sometimes let relationships run their course on their own.

[B]

Let them. That's how people learn on their own.

[A]

That's really how people learn. Next question. I recently deleted my best friend from all socials and her number because I found out she flew across the country to go to someone else's wedding, but said she couldn't take time off of work to attend mine. I've been friends with this girl for nearly 10 years, and we've been through many highs and lows together. Within the last three years, I've been seeing a shift in our friendship where she makes a bigger effort with her other friends and doesn't hesitate to post them on her social media stories, but can't make the same effort with me. She's told me for six years that she believed our friendship was effortless. The kind where you don't speak for six months and can pick right up where you left off like nothing happened. However, I've always wanted more from our friendship. One where I could text and call her whenever and where she would feel the same in return. I brought up my feelings about how she treats me differently from her other friends and that I didn't understand what I was doing to feel so left out. She gave me A BS excuse that these other friendships weren't as genuine and true as ours. I shook it off and convinced myself that I was just jealous and kept the peace. Now, a year after my wedding, I found out that she flew across the country to attend her other friend's wedding, but couldn't take the time off of work to show up for mine. She told my husband three days before our wedding that she wouldn't be able to make it, even though my wedding was a four hour drive from her. Side note, for my first wedding to my first husband, she was supposed to be my maid of honor and texted me the week before saying she couldn't afford to fly out to my wedding. Am I the asshole for removing her from my life?

[B]

No. I actually feel bad for you. I guess it's just like you reading in your tone. I was like, I would hate for this to happen to Alex. Oh yeah, no, I know. That sucks. Yeah. It seems like you're not a priority anymore. Unfortunately.

[A]

That's what I was gonna say. I think this is less about you and more to do with that this quote unquote friend, she just has closer relationships with other people at this point. And like, you're no longer a priority anymore. And I think again, you said within the last three years you've seen a shift in your relationship and your friendship. I, I, I just think that happens. And if you're not living in the same area, that can happen. Not necessarily. Like, again, I still have best girlfriends who live across the country from me, but I just think that if you're seeing this discrepancy in your friendship, I think you're just no longer a priority in her life anymore at this point.

[B]

Yeah, I mean, you don't have to like cut her out or anything, but I would not invest so much time and effort into reaching out to her. Like, if it happens, it happens. Like she said, if it's so effortless, again, it's kind of shitty because like now your friendship's on her terms, not yours.

[A]

But yeah, if I were you, I would just start investing into other friendships of people who give you that energy where you can go on girls trips with them or do dinners with them. You know, I think it's, it's hard. I just think that different relationships change over time. Yeah, over time. Like, I can't say that I'm as close with some girlfriends that I was. Like, things just change over time. But I think if you were the priority to her, if you guys were meant to be like true best friends, you wouldn't feel this type of disconnect. And I don't know, I just think you just gotta let her do her thing and she's going to. And you have to focus on yourself and do your thing too, you know?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I wouldn't take it as personal though.

[B]

I mean, no, it's hard not to. I would take it personal because like in her eyes, like, this is my best friend. We were, did everything together now.

[A]

But it sounds like she's your best friend to you and you're not her best friend.

[B]

That's so fucked.

[A]

I mean, that happens, I think.

[B]

Yeah, yeah.

[A]

And so I think she has other best friends. And also, were you putting in the same amount of effort that you know, she's getting from these other best friends? Like, are you waiting for her? Like, it is a two way street. And so I think like looking inwards and being like, yeah, you could be maybe jealous that she's going on these trips with other friends and doing these things. But it's like, what effort have you.

[B]

Put in if you didn't go to my wedding, but you went to your other friend's wedding that you flew across the country for?

[A]

Yeah, I mean, I don't think that this other friend went about it the right way by. But like you also, you have to really let these people live their lives.

[B]

And just let them shows you anything. Yeah, I think you said it right. I think maybe it's time to invest in new relationships. You still keep that one. Don't cut her out. But like if when you meet up, you meet up.

[A]

I think you just have to understand that like relationships grow apart and accept it for what it is. Next question. So my best friend and I have been pretty inseparable for about 11 years. We are now both in the married and wanting children phase of life. Well, I happen to get pregnant pretty quickly. While I'm really excited, I think there are a lot of nerves that come with this pregnancy. It feels like a time of life where I should really be able to lean on my best friend for support. The day I found out I was pregnant, I asked her and her husband to go to dinner with my husband and I. I wanted to share the news in person as I figured she'd be really excited. Her reaction was nothing of the sort. She didn't jump up to give me a hug, congratulate us, or shed any happy tears. She just kind of sat where she was and said, I knew it. Her tone was filled with bitterness and disbelief. This isn't the only scenario where I feel like her support as a friend has really lacked. I started my own business a year ago, which has done really well. Not once has there been words of encouragement or support support on any of the platforms I've shared my business on. In addition, recently someone in her family was looking to hire someone for specifically what my business does. Instead of considering me, she thought to reach out to a random person about getting the job. It's odd to feel like you could be, quote, best friends with someone for so long, but in these big life moments, they lack so much support. Is this one of those friends I should probably not take with me in this new phase of life?

[B]

Oh my God. This, She's. This is a toxic person only negative energy. She's just going to bring you down. It's not a good thing. We know plenty of people like this. And if they're not family, then cut them out. Because if you. Because you can't cut family out.

[A]

No, you've said this before. Even if they are family, you absolutely can cut them out. You can create those boundaries and cut.

[B]

Out family if they're in a different state.

[A]

Maybe like, it's a little bit more challenging. I just think that there are people who. It's interesting when you look at friendship dynamics, because we're family dynamics, just relationships in general, because you think like, oh, it's during the bad times that you really know who your true friends are. No, I would argue it's during the good times. It's when you're crushing it. And those people who don't stand up and support you and clap for you, that's when you can really tell the envy, the jealousy, the people who are making about themselves. I just think that, like, it's something that we've experienced over the years over.

[B]

And over and over again, but keep going.

[A]

I just think she's showing her true colors. This has more to do with her and less about you. And so I think at this point, like, you just have to continue shining, focus on the positivity of yourself. Don't let the negativity of this person bring you down. And again, because she's dealing with her own inner demons, that's what you really have to learn is like, this has so much less, it says so much less about you and so much more about your friend.

[B]

This is the person that I would cut out versus the other one. But also this is the person where. Do not put any more time or energy into this person because I'm telling you, it's just going to bring you down. My, my God, this hits home. Seriously, like, you got to just do your. Just what Alex said, just do your own thing. Just keep going and leave this person so far, far behind.

[A]

People project their insecurities on confident people or when things are going well in their lives. But again, if things were going bad for you, I could guarantee you this girl would show up for you and be like, oh, no, I'm so sorry.

[B]

So involved. Now, please tell me how horrible the.

[A]

Amount of people who just, like, showed up during our loss. And I'm like, you didn't give a fuck about me when things were going.

[B]

Well, but I think you made fun of us for everything we've been doing the past couple years. But now you're here, open arms. Fuck you.

[A]

Yeah, so I just think, like, you could spot these people from a mile away, but you have to know that, like, they're coming from a place of insecurity. They feel like, you know, they just.

[B]

Need to do not be friends with this person.

[A]

Bring you down to make themselves feel.

[B]

This person's never. This type of person will never change.

[A]

No, I was gonna say. I wouldn't say that they would never change, but I just think, like, that's not. Who cares if they change or not? Like, you just have to focus on.

[B]

That's the thing. They're never going to change. So don't put time and energy in, like, telling them what exciting stuff is going on in your life or whatever you're doing. Like, you're not going to get the response that you want from that person. And it's just going to be, what's the point?

[A]

Yeah, again, you'd want to surround yourself with people who are your biggest cheerleaders, but vice versa, that you're cheering for them as well. I feel very.

[B]

That's a key point, too. Vice versa.

[A]

Yes, exactly. Because it just can't be one way. That's like, where I. Again, I just feel.

[B]

Rising tides raise. All ships.

[A]

All ships. Yeah. I just feel very.

[B]

But in this case, burn the ship.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

What goes.

[A]

No, I'm done. I'm not even gonna say what I'm grateful for, because I've said that sentence 18 times. Okay, well, that's it. That's all. That's all she wrote for today.

[B]

I hate that you always. The last question is always the worst question. Like. Like. Or depress.

[A]

Or the most Triggering.

[B]

Triggering. Triggering or.

[A]

That wasn't depressing. I think that that was triggering. More relatable. And a lot of people experience this. It's like you get a raise at work. And then you're, you're excited to tell someone and then they don't really give you the response. That's why it's like you can't look at other people to fill your cup. Like you have to truly be so secure and confident in yourself.

[B]

But that negative energy is brutal.

[A]

Yeah. And it could eat also.

[B]

Unless, like give them a pass if something's fudging going on. Like, I get that you can give someone a pass, but like she's talking about the business she opened, potentially getting pregnant or whatever, getting married. And it seems like it's been a lot of things, not just like one instance where something might be going on.

[A]

Right. Like if she was struggling, getting pregnant or if she lost her job, all these things. But I still, we've still been down in the dump since, like not even talking about our loss, but just business wise. And you can still clap for people who are doing great things in their life. Just because someone else is succeeding does not mean that there's not enough space for you to exceed as well. At the end of the day, you keep doing your girl. Congratulations.

[B]

We support you get to get it.

[A]

Get it, get it, get it, get it, get it. Any Rex shit.

[B]

Any wrecks? Any recommendations I can recommend you to make sure you still have seats on your flight after you call to change your flight. I definitely recommend and highly recommend calling back.

[A]

Mine's also related to travel, which.

[B]

Or it could also. Besides a wreck.

[A]

You know what, guys? John cuts me off a lot. You know, like I know that everyone's like, alex, shut the fuck up.

[B]

Like this, this episode of definitely.

[A]

No, you're.

[B]

Yeah, because I just had an epiphany.

[A]

Go ahead.

[B]

Because instead of just wrecks, it can also be like tools and tricks and stuff. Because I do have one. While you're still thinking.

[A]

No, just I was only thinking about the comment where it was a reel or whatever, a short or an Instagram reel, literally where this girl wrote God, like Jesus Christ. Like, can you just let him speak? You keep cutting him off. And I'm like, oh my God, here I go again. I'm the worst. I watched the episode. Or no, I watched the reel. I don't cut you off. Once you cut me off, I have.

[B]

To get a word in.

[A]

But the fact that like it's just ingrained in some people's heads that I cut you off all the time.

[B]

I know that. I won't say all the time.

[A]

I know that I do. It's a problem that I have.

[B]

But like you do too and she's working on it. Oh, yeah. I have so much to say. This episode. I definitely cut you off.

[A]

What's your tip?

[B]

Because I was just thinking, I didn't know this. My dad told me this as an electrician. The fucking pool. The electrical box. I didn't know. Ants are attracted to low voltage electricity and they have. They build their, like, little colonies over there. So that whole electrical box was filled with ants, and I sprayed it and I killed all of them with the ant spray, which I was scared I was gonna, like, electrocute myself. But I.

[A]

So what's your recommendation?

[B]

That use your lot. You can use ant spray on low voltage and not get shocked.

[A]

All right, there you have it.

[B]

I mean, it's important. Any of the guys listening?

[A]

Huh?

[B]

You know a fact now, do you have any tips and tricks?

[A]

Yeah, well, tricks, if anything. I was going to say this episode.

[B]

So long. Let's go.

[A]

You have. If you can look up to see if there are first class seats available on your flight. Maybe you should call and get bumped from your flight and then you could get up.

[B]

How do they choose who gets bumped?

[A]

I don't know. But we did know my actual traveling rack, which probably people do already. It's just pack a carry on. It really is so much more simple. If it's less than a week, try to make it work. If it's in the winter, you're like, I cannot travel in a carry on in the winter. It's impossible. One sweater takes up the whole thing. But it really just does make for such a more seamless travel experience.

[B]

People pack too much.

[A]

I know.

[B]

I do their backpack. I'm seeing them at the airport, like, dumping all this stuff out. Like, how unorganized.

[A]

I know that we don't do icks anymore, but my ick is when people take their personal item and put it in the overhead. You do that and it takes up space where the rollers are supposed to go. Move your fucking purse.

[B]

I think it's okay if I do it by your purpose, but if other people. If other people do it, I'm annoyed.

[A]

No, you can do it at the end when it's all full. That fucking pisses me off.

[B]

I got a bad knee, so I need, like, the space under my seat.

[A]

It's not meant for that. That's what annoys me because I'm like, whose jacket is this? Whose basketball is this? Like, this is stupid shit taking up. And now I have to go to the back of the plane to load my. Yeah, that's annoying me.

[B]

I know. I'm the problem that makes me think of the. The grocery cart.

[A]

Oh, yeah, yeah.

[B]

I'm that guy.

[A]

You're shitty.

[B]

I'm a shitty person.

[A]

How do you feel about that?

[B]

I don't know.

[A]

Anyway, we knew that's a shitty person.

[B]

Anyways, it's the end of the episode. That's it. Like, subscribe Email Comment if you want.

[A]

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[B]

Do it. Do it better.

[A]

Hello, give it tome straight podcast dot com. Don't tell me what to do.

[B]

And we'll see you next week. Ciao. Ciao.

[A]

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