Give It To Me Straight - Episode 63: Dry Spells, Threesomes, and Male Enhancements

Release Date: August 5, 2025

In Episode 63 of Give It To Me Straight, hosts Alex and Jon delve into a myriad of personal and relationship topics, providing unfiltered advice and sharing candid insights from their unique perspectives. This episode navigates through the challenges of post-pregnancy life, parenting philosophies, relationship dynamics, and listener-submitted questions on intimacy and personal issues.

Personal Health and Post-Pregnancy Challenges

The episode kicks off with Alex sharing her struggles with weight gain and snoring post-pregnancy. “John, I can't do that right now. I literally 25, 30 pounds,” Alex laments at [00:06]. Jon responds teasingly, prompting a light-hearted yet honest conversation about the physical changes and health issues accompanying pregnancy.

Alex also discusses falling ill soon after her pregnancy, expressing concerns about passing antibodies to her daughter. “I hope that whatever it was, I passed the antibodies down to her because I still... I just can do nothing today,” she shares at [01:17]. Jon emphasizes the importance of a strong immune system, highlighting their commitment to their daughter’s health.

Sleep Disturbances and Relationship Strain

Pregnancy-induced sleep issues become a focal point as Alex describes waking up frequently to use the bathroom and dealing with Jon’s snoring. “Our sleeping patterns are so fucked lately, and I'm a light sleeper,” she admits at [05:13]. This leads to a discussion about how sleep disturbances can strain their relationship, with Jon humorously recounting incidents of sleeping on the couch.

Jon remarks, “I have a deviated septum, so maybe that's why,” at [46:25], addressing Alex’s snoring and nasal congestion. The couple reflects on how their altered sleep patterns impact their daily lives and intimacy.

Parenting Styles and Balancing Responsibilities

A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to differing parenting philosophies. Jon voices his concerns about overly aggressive parenting tactics seen in other families. “I'm just like, what's your thoughts on that? Because I just feel like a kid just needs to be a kid,” he states at [07:11]. Alex concurs, emphasizing the importance of allowing children to pursue activities they are passionate about rather than forcing them into structured sports regimens.

The hosts highlight the potential negative effects of such pressure, including burnout and the loss of joy in activities. “They have the wrong mindset. Like, because I actually hear parents like, my kid, they're going to make money when they're older,” Jon critiques at [07:25].

Navigating Car Purchases and Miscommunications

Alex recounts their extended search for a new vehicle, contrasting their swift decision-making on home purchases with the months spent deliberating over cars. “Months looking at different vehicles. And we're like.” at [15:52]. This narrative segues into a humorous yet relatable story about a miscommunication at a dealership, where Alex gets inadvertently locked in the car, leading to comedic tension.

Jon quips, “Something's in the details,” at [17:17], as they reflect on the challenges of coordinating large purchases amidst busy schedules.

Listener Q&A: Relationships and Intimacy

The heart of the episode lies in their comprehensive Q&A segment, where Alex and Jon address various listener-submitted concerns about relationships and intimacy.

1. Sex Drive Linked to Mexican Food

   • Question: A listener notes that her wife only desires sex after having Mexican food. “My wife only wants to have sex when we have Mexican for dinner,” she asks at [33:00].
   • Response: Jon humorously suggests, “Maybe there's something in the red kidney beans or something that really gives her energy,” at [34:34], while Alex reassures that such associations can be normal and beneficial for their relationship.

2. Threesomes and Personal Comfort

   • Question: A listener is conflicted about her husband’s desire to introduce threesomes. “I want to back out, but I don't know what to do,” she confides at [37:09].
   • Response: Alex firmly advises, “If it's not something that you want to do or you're comfortable with, why do you have to just give in?” at [37:18], emphasizing the importance of mutual consent and emotional well-being.

3. Boring Routines in Marriage

   • Question: A married couple feels stuck in a monotonous routine, leading to a lack of intimacy. “Our intimate life is also lacking,” the wife expresses at [39:36].
   • Response: Alex suggests scheduling regular date nights and spontaneous activities to rekindle their connection. “Take a date night every two weeks, every two months, do a weekend away,” she recommends at [39:46].

4. Personal Hygiene and Relationship Strain

   • Question: A woman struggles with her boyfriend’s lack of personal hygiene, leading to diminished attraction. “I have a love-hate relationship with my marriage,” she shares at [47:01].
   • Response: Jon bluntly advises, “Tell him to cut his pubes. Tell him to trim his armpits,” at [48:32], while Alex emphasizes the need for open communication and self-respect in relationships.

5. Low Sex Drive During Pregnancy

   • Question: A pregnant woman reports a complete loss of sex drive despite a strong emotional bond with her husband. “I have lost my sex drive completely,” she confesses at [42:46].
   • Response: Alex addresses the hormonal fluctuations during pregnancy and suggests consulting a doctor if the issue persists. “Talk to your doctor because it's most likely a hormone imbalance,” she advises at [54:38].

6. Traumatized Partner Postpartum

   • Question: A listener’s husband is traumatized by witnessing the childbirth, leading to a lack of intimacy. “He never initiates sex, and if I do, he is scared to get near me,” she explains at [56:51].
   • Response: Alex and Jon discuss the importance of empathy, professional counseling, and creating a supportive environment to help heal emotional wounds. “Maybe instead of date nights, go away therapy nights,” Jon suggests at [60:07].

7. Attraction Fading Over Time

   • Question: A woman feels less physically attracted to her husband as she grows more fitness-conscious. “I have found myself with a wandering eye,” she admits at [63:11].
   • Response: Alex emphasizes exploring the emotional connection and addressing underlying relationship issues before attributing the loss of attraction solely to physical changes. “When you start losing attraction to your partner, I think it's because of an emotional connection that's lacking,” she explains at [65:12].

8. Dry Spells in Sexual Relationships

   • Question: A couple is experiencing a sexual dry spell, with sex frequency dropping from daily to once or twice a week. “How do you spark that flame again?” the listener asks at [68:28].
   • Response: Alex and Jon discuss normalizing fluctuations in sexual desire, the importance of addressing emotional intimacy, and the necessity of mutual understanding and effort to reignite passion. “Seasons of life change your energy, your emotion, your libido,” Alex states at [70:07].

Product Recommendations and Personal Anecdotes

While the episode prominently features listener questions and personal discussions, Alex and Jon also share their weekly "wrecks"—personal mishaps and humorous anecdotes. Alex talks about encountering undesirable bugs in their home, reflecting her heightened stress levels during late pregnancy. Jon humorously critiques the trend of thin glassware, advocating for sturdier alternatives to prevent breakages.

In a light-hearted segment, Jon mentions their experience with Buffin Muffins, praising their high protein content and delicious flavors. “There are like 26 grams of protein per muffin,” Alex enthuses at [75:36], highlighting their commitment to maintaining a healthy diet amidst busy schedules.

Closing Thoughts

The episode wraps up with Alex and Jon reiterating their commitment to providing honest and helpful advice to their listeners. They encourage feedback and engagement, emphasizing the importance of open communication and mutual respect in maintaining healthy relationships.

“We really enjoy the show. I think that you would probably be good on it,” Jon jokes at [21:48], underscoring the hosts' supportive dynamic.

Notable Quotes:

• “If it's not something that you want to do or you're comfortable with, why do you have to just give in?” — Alex [37:18]

• “Take a date night every two weeks, every two months, do a weekend away.” — Alex [39:46]

• “Tell him to cut his pubes. Tell him to trim his armpits.” — Jon [48:32]

• “When you start losing attraction to your partner, I think it's because of an emotional connection that's lacking.” — Alex [65:12]

• “Seasons of life change your energy, your emotion, your libido.” — Alex [70:07]

Conclusion

Episode 63 of Give It To Me Straight offers a blend of personal anecdotes, honest discussions, and thoughtful advice on navigating the complexities of relationships, health, and parenthood. Alex and Jon's unfiltered approach provides listeners with relatable content and practical solutions, reinforcing the podcast's commitment to delivering straight-talk advice from varied perspectives.