Podcast Summary: Give It To Me Straight - Episode 81

“Giving you postpartum sex, high school bullies, and fetishes”
Date: December 9, 2025
Hosts: Alex & John
Podcast Network: Dear Media

Episode Overview

In this candid and comedic episode, married co-hosts Alex and John tackle a variety of relationship and life topics, from the realities of postpartum sex and parenting mishaps to high school bullying, social awkwardness, and sexual fetishes. With their signature unfiltered honesty, the duo fields listener questions—ranging from foot fetishes and swinging mishaps to threesomes and mismatched sex drives—while weaving in stories from their own relationship and recent parenting adventures.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. High School Bullies & Fashion Nostalgia (00:02–04:00; 22:31–26:16)

• Both hosts recall being bullied:
  • John: "Yeah, I remember that. Got bullied. Got bullied by popped collared polo dudes." (00:02)
  • Alex: "I got bullied by a girl who had like, really big boobs. But I. I want really big boobs." (00:08)
• They riff on 2000s fashion making a comeback, from “duck boots” to double-layered polos.
• John expresses trauma associated with past bullies and certain fashion trends.

2. Parenting Mishaps & Social Life Post-Baby (05:00–12:40)

• Alex and John recount an outing with baby Lucy and the chaos of forgetting essentials in cold weather, emphasizing the unpredictability and finger-pointing that happens when parenting in public.
• Alex: "The most difficult part of being a parent is when you communicate... and then you’re in the field, pointing fingers at each other." (05:38)
• On the importance of proactive socializing even when tired:
  • John: "If you don't make a point to go do something, you'll have nothing to talk about." (05:02)
• Discuss their favorite baby carriers, noting the value of practicality over trends.

3. Navigating Social Awkwardness Sober & Postpartum (10:17–12:32)

• Alex admits to new social anxieties since becoming a parent and being sober at gatherings.
• Humorous anecdote about accidental flirty gestures across a room, resulting in awkward miscommunication with a stranger.

4. Sleep Deprivation, College Nostalgia, and Friendships (17:50–21:41)

• John reflects on missing the camaraderie of his college years while observing groups of energetic college kids at the gym.
  • John: "Don’t take for granted your college years because that is the one time in your life you are going to be around so many people your age all doing the same thing." (19:11)
• Both acknowledge being happier in their current stage of life despite fleeting nostalgia.

5. Clashing Approaches to Communication & Therapy (26:21–31:48)

• Alex calls out John for morning crankiness and venting about everyone, prompting a discussion on self-awareness and the value of being called out by a partner:
  • Alex: "After an hour and a half… I was just like, are you done? You've literally, nobody is safe this morning." (27:07)
• Debate over who benefits most from therapy versus spousal venting.

Listener Questions & Advice

6. Postpartum Sex & Body Image (38:08–39:15)

• Listener asks how to revive intimacy post-birth:
  • Alex: "The first sex back after having a baby is less sexy and it's more like we are going to try this, and we're just going to see how it goes." (38:36)
  • John: "It's not gonna be comfortable ever the first time... communication really needs to be there." (39:15)

7. Foot Fetishes—Normal or Not? (39:30–40:41)

• Addressed with humor and acceptance:
  • John: "I can think of way worse fetishes than a foot fetish." (40:33)
  • Alex: "I'm not here to, like, yuck anyone's yum..." (39:45)

8. Voyeurism, Family Boundaries, and Being Caught (46:31–49:55)

• Listener shares discomfort with husband’s sex-in-semi-public kink, especially around her family.
  • John: "I could see it being a turn on...like potentially getting caught." (47:25)
  • Both agree that it’s valid to draw boundaries and have direct conversations outside the bedroom.

9. Mismatched Sex Drives and Nakedness (51:41–54:39)

• Pregnant listener struggles with partner’s suggestion to be less naked to rekindle attraction.
  • Alex: "Your feelings are valid. But I would maybe try to incorporate something new into the bedroom..." (53:56)
  • John: "There is something to, like some mystery..." (52:05)
  • Both stress honest conversation and understanding life stages.

10. Swinging and Swinger Anxiety (57:41–61:39)

• Listener recounts an awkward swinging experience with performance anxiety and subsequent blame.
  • John: "You're the problem here, right? The common denominator is your flaccid penis. Let's fix that. I'm game." (58:50)
  • Alex: "I just...would never yuck someone's yum. But I personally...think just opening up your marriage can start problems." (57:58)
  • Advice: Be honest; don’t lie to avoid hard truths.

11. Threesomes, Secrets, and Jealousy (62:30–65:31)

• Listener admits secret threesome with friend’s cousin and cousin’s husband, no regrets but keeps secret.
• Alex and John discuss theoretical boundaries if they were ever in a similar scenario.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Postpartum Sex:

  • Alex: “Don’t overthink it. It’s not gonna be fun, but I don’t think that you have to let it go longer. My advice would be to just, like, get it out of the way.” (39:04)

• On Social & Parenting Mishaps:

  • Alex: “We’re, like, feeding her on the go. Our coffee's dumping all over our stroller. I think we lasted four minutes, five minutes.” (06:36)

• On Relationship Growth:

  • John: “If you do it enough, you get in sync with each other, you learn each other’s like what you like, what you don’t like.” (45:30)

Secrets Segment Highlights (62:30–69:57)

• Marital pettiness: Listener purposely paying joint mortgage late to impact ex's credit (66:01).
• Restaurant love triangle: Listener has affairs with both boss & boss’s nephew, keeps it secret (66:34–68:11).
• Petty grandma: Sends anonymous postcards to brother for decades after potato salad insult (68:11).
• Compulsive ex-checking: Married listener still checks up on cheating ex (69:21).

Product Recommendations (Recs/Rex) (70:29–73:23)

• Alex: Fisher Price piano play pad for babies.
• John: Padrón cigars.
• Both recommend the De’Longhi coffee machine as their go-to for high-quality coffee at home.

Overall Tone & Style

• Conversational, humorous, self-deprecating, and highly relatable.
• Alex and John’s banter keeps the episode lively and honest—even on topics that are uncomfortable or taboo.

Timestamps for Key Segments

• High School/Bullying & Fashion Nostalgia: 00:02–04:00; 22:31–26:16
• Parenting Chaos / Fireman Parade: 05:00–09:00
• Social Awkwardness: 10:17–12:32
• Sleep Deprivation and College Memories: 17:50–21:41
• Therapy Talk / Venting: 26:21–31:48
• Advice Q&A - Postpartum Sex: 38:08–39:15
• Advice Q&A - Fetishes & Voyeurism: 39:30–49:55
• Advice Q&A - Mismatched Sex Drives: 51:41–54:39
• Advice Q&A - Swinger Drama: 57:41–61:39
• Secrets Segment: 62:30–69:57
• Recommendations ("Rex"): 70:29–73:23

Summary for Listeners:
This episode is a candid, playful exploration of intimacy and partnership post-parenthood, sprinkled with nostalgia, awkward confessions, and open-minded advice on fetishes and sex questions many are too shy to ask. Alex and John deliver practical insight and comic relief with authenticity—perfect for listeners looking for a mix of unfiltered relationship talk and relatable laughs.